If you’ve ever found yourself thinking, “I should be further along by now” or “I just need this pain to go away,” this episode is for you.
Rachel dives into one of the most common emotional hurdles in mind-body healing: the urgency to heal. That deep, desperate feeling that you need to be better now.
You’ll explore where that urgency really comes from—the fear that this might never go away, the grief for time and experiences lost, and the belief that your life can’t move forward until the pain is gone.
Through compassion, honesty, and practical tools, Rachel helps you:
Understand why your urgency is valid and where it stems from
See how urgency actually keeps your nervous system stuck in protection mode
Learn how to relate differently to the “urgent” part of you with compassion instead of pressure
Shift into safety, trust, and patience so your body can finally do what it’s designed to do—heal
You’ll also hear how adopting the mindset “it takes as long as it takes” can calm your nervous system and speed up the healing process by releasing pressure and fear.
If you’ve been feeling behind, pressured, or afraid you’re running out of time, take a deep breath before you listen. You’re not behind. You’re not out of time. It’s safe for this to take as long as it takes.
💜 Resources & Links:
Rachel’s self-paced course, Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain, which walks you step-by-step through her mind-body framework for healing. This course will only be available for independent purchase until December 3rd. After that date, it will only be offered through group or 1:1 coaching.
Use code BEYOND50 for $50 off before December 3rd: thepelvicpaincoach.com/course
Follow me on Instagram: @thepelvicpaincoach
Get Your Free Pain Flare Plan (download):
https://thepelvicpaincoach/painflareplan
Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.
Have you ever felt that sudden spike of fear — what if this time it’s a real infection?
If you’ve been on a mind-body healing journey and experienced this worry, this episode is for you.
Rachel shares her personal experience navigating infection fears (especially around UTIs) and the framework she now teaches clients for handling those moments with clarity and self-trust instead of panic.
You’ll learn how to tell when to seek medical care, how to support your nervous system (no matter what’s going on), and how to stay grounded in a mind-body approach — even when there’s a possibility of a true infection.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
Why the fear of a true infection can feel so traumatic — especially if your symptoms started after one
How to tell the difference between a neuroplastic flare-up and a possible infection
Why infections and mind-body healing are not mutually exclusive
The 4-step process for navigating infection fears
Why nervous system regulation supports your immune system and can reduce true infections over time
Key Takeaway:
A true infection doesn’t mean you’re going backward. It doesn’t invalidate your progress or your mind-body approach. You can handle it, care for your body, and continue healing — with calm, clarity, and self-trust.
Resources & Links:
Follow me on Instagram: @thepelvicpaincoach
Get Your Free Pain Flare Plan (download):
https://thepelvicpaincoach/painflareplan
Learn more about my self-paced course Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain: https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/course
Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.
What if belief itself feels like the barrier?
In this part two of the belief mini series, Rachel shares how to move forward even when you’re filled with doubt.
You’ll learn how to take action without certainty, work through fears that something was missed medically, and make peace with not being “100% certain” — while still healing.
In this episode:
The two layers of belief: symptoms vs. self
Why waiting for 100% certainty keeps you stuck
How to move forward with doubt (and still make progress)
Listen if you’ve ever thought:
“I want to believe I can heal... but I’m just not sure.”
Resources & Links:
Follow me on Instagram: @thepelvicpaincoach
Get Your Free Pain Flare Plan (download):
https://thepelvicpaincoach/painflareplan
Learn more about my self-paced course Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain: https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/course
Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.
If you’ve ever struggled to believe that healing is possible for you, this episode is for you.
In Part 1 of this two-part series, we’re talking about why belief matters in the process of healing chronic pelvic pain — and how to start building it, even when you don’t feel anywhere close to believing right now.
We’ll explore the neuroscience behind belief (and how your brain literally filters your world through what you already believe), how doubt and skepticism are actually signs of protection — not failure — and why belief isn’t something you have to “just have.” It’s something you build.
If you’ve ever felt like belief was another thing you were “not doing right,” or that you needed perfect belief to heal, this episode will help you reframe what belief really means — and how to begin cultivating it in a way that feels possible for you.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
⭐ Why belief plays such a powerful role in neuroplastic pain and healing
⭐ How the Reticular Activating System (RAS) filters your reality based on what you believe
⭐ What “belief perfectionism” is and why it keeps so many people stuck
⭐ How to begin building belief even while scared, skeptical, or uncertain
Belief isn’t all or nothing — and it’s not pass/fail. It’s a practice. And you don’t have to do it perfectly to heal.
Resources & Links:
Follow me on Instagram: @thepelvicpaincoach
Get Your Free Pain Flare Plan (download):
https://thepelvicpaincoach/painflareplan
Learn more about my self-paced course Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain: https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/course
Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.
If you’ve ever found yourself in the middle of a pain flare—overwhelmed, distressed, and just wishing someone could remind you that you’re okay—this episode is for you.
In today’s episode of The Heal Your Chronic Pelvic Pain Podcast,
I’m offering you a short pep talk you can come back to again and again. These are the reminders I wish I’d had in my own hardest moments
This pep talk is designed to support you when you need it most:
✨ During high-sensation, high-distress moments
✨ When fear and frustration feel overwhelming
✨ When you need a reminder that your healing journey is still unfolding
Remember, flares are a normal part of healing.
How you move through them can shift how your brain and body respond in the future.
This episode will help you practice meeting flares with self-compassion, validation, and safety — because you don’t have to navigate them alone.
Resources & Links:
Follow me on Instagram: @thepelvicpaincoach
Get Your Free Pain Flare Plan (download):
https://thepelvicpaincoach/painflareplan
Learn more about my self-paced course Beyond Chronic Pelvic
Pain: https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/course
Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.
If you’ve ever been in the middle of a pain flare, you know how fast the fear, urgency, and “I need to fix this right now” thoughts can take over.
But here’s the truth:
Flares don’t mean you’re failing, and they don’t mean you’re going backwards. They’re actually a normal part of the healing process.
In this episode, I’ll invite you to consider a new way to approach flares — one that doesn’t rely on scrambling to urgently fix your symptoms (which never worked in the first place), but instead helps you soothe your nervous system and move through flares with more safety and ease.
Here’s what you’ll learn:
✨ Why flares happen (and why you don’t need to figure out the “why” in the moment)
✨ The difference between “fixing” your pain vs. “soothing” your nervous system
✨ How to create your own individualized plan to navigate future flares with less fear and more ease
✨ A powerful reframe that helps you see flares as opportunities, not setbacks
Resources & Links:
Follow me on Instagram: @thepelvicpaincoach
Get Your Free Pain Flare Plan (download):
https://thepelvicpaincoach/painflareplan
Learn more about my self-paced course Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain: https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/course
Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.
One of the most requested topics I get when it comes to healing chronic pelvic pain is outcome independence.
In this episode, I share:
What outcome independence is and why it matters for healing
Why it feels so hard to practice (and why that’s completely normal)
How radical acceptance and self-compassion are the essential tools that make outcome independence possible
You’ll hear me share my own story of resisting self-compassion, why it felt so uncomfortable at first, and how it ultimately became the key to creating safety with myself and teaching my nervous system that pain was no longer needed.
Listen in and learn how to:
Stop measuring your progress only by whether symptoms change
Practice radical acceptance
Practice self-compassion
Build a safe and secure relationship with yourself, no matter what your symptoms are doing.
Because the point of this work isn’t to get better at enduring pain — it’s to teach your nervous system that you no longer need it.
✨ Tune in now and start practicing outcome independence with more compassion and ease.
Resources & Links:
Follow me on Instagram: @thepelvicpaincoach
Get Your Free Pain Flare Plan (download):
https://thepelvicpaincoach/painflareplan
Learn more about my self-paced course Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain: https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/course
Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.
What exactly is a mind-body approach to healing chronic pain
In this episode, I break down:
Why separating “mind” and “body” in Western medicine has left so many people stuck
How pain becomes chronic, and why fear of pain fuels the cycle
The role of chronic stress, trauma, and self-abandonment in keeping your nervous system on high alert
Why pain is a form of protection (not proof of damage)
The four steps of my Pelvic Pain Freedom Formula—a practical framework to help you partner with your nervous system and heal
Here’s the key takeaway I want you to leave with:
If pain is danger, the solution is safety.
This episode will help you understand what a mind-body approach really means—and why it’s the missing link in healing chronic pelvic pain.
Resources & Links:
Follow me on Instagram: @thepelvicpaincoach
Get Your Free Pain Flare Plan (download):
https://thepelvicpaincoach/painflareplan
Learn more about my self-paced course Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain: https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/course
Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.
How do you know if your pain might be neuroplastic?
That’s the focus of today’s episode, because understanding this difference is one of the most important steps in healing. If your pain is nervous system-generated rather than structural, that means there is so much more hope for your healing.
You don’t have to be 100% certain right now. Think of this episode as helping you gather clues, like symptoms detective, so you can start to build your case.
In this episode, you’ll hear:
The most common times neuroplastic symptoms begin (stress, trauma, after procedures, or following infections)
Dr. Howard Schubiner’s FIT Criteria—Functional, Inconsistent, Triggered—and how they help identify nervous system-driven pain
Why physical findings like tight muscles or trigger points are real, but most often NOT the root cause
How to reframe common pelvic pain diagnoses through a neuroplastic lens
Why pain is always real, and determining the type of pain you have helps to guide your approach to healing
If you recognize yourself in even a piece of what I shared today, I want you to know: there is real hope for change. You and your body are always on the same team.
Resources & Links:
Follow me on Instagram: @thepelvicpaincoach
Get Your Free Pain Flare Plan (download):
https://thepelvicpaincoach/painflareplan
Learn more about my self-paced course Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain: https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/course
Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.
In this episode of The Heal Your Chronic Pelvic Pain Podcast, I explain how pain becomes chronic, and why neuroplastic pain is the most common cause of ongoing symptoms.
You’ll hear:
The 3 types of pain, and why neuroplastic pain is different
The two main pathways into chronic pelvic pain — (with real-life examples)
How the pain–fear cycle wires pain into the nervous system
Why the brain can learn pain (and also unlearn it)
By the end, you’ll understand:
Chronic pain does not always mean tissue damage
Fear is fuel for pain — but safety is fuel for healing
If the brain can learn pain, it can unlearn it
Resources & Links:
Follow me on Instagram: @thepelvicpaincoach
Get Your Free Pain Flare Plan (download):
https://thepelvicpaincoach/painflareplan
Learn more about my self-paced course Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain:
https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/course
Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.
In this episode of The Heal Your Chronic Pelvic Pain Podcast, I explain how pain works when we do have tissue damage, and how we can also have pain without any tissue damage. You’ll learn why pain is always about protection, not just injury, and how this changes the way we must approach healing.
You’ll hear:
How the brain decides whether to create pain (and why context matters more than you think)
How tissues heal reliably within predictable timelines
Examples of pain without damage
By the end, you’ll understand:
Your pain is always real, even if it isn’t coming from damaged tissues
Fear and belief play a powerful role in how pain is created and felt
If you’ve ever wondered how you can still hurt after “everything looks normal,” this episode will give you a new, science-backed lens — and more hope than you’ve likely been given before.
Resources & Links:
Follow me on Instagram: @thepelvicpaincoach
Get Your Free Pain Flare Plan (download): https://thepelvicpaincoach.myflodesk.com/painflareplan
Learn more about my self-paced course Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain: https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/course
Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.
Most of us were taught the old model of pain: that it always starts in the body and reflects tissue damage. But science has moved far beyond that — and the old model is outdated, incomplete, and often misleading.
In this episode of The Heal Your Chronic Pelvic Pain Podcast, I break down why the old model leaves so many people stuck, scared, and without real answers. Then I introduce the new model of pain: one that recognizes pain as a protective response generated by the brain, not just a signal from the body.
My hope is that this episode gives you a fresh framework for understanding pain — and reassurance that healing is possible, even if past treatments haven’t worked.
Resources & Links:
Follow me on Instagram: @thepelvicpaincoach
Get Your Free Pain Flare Plan (download): https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/painflareplan
Learn more about my self-paced course Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain: https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/course
Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.
Chronic pelvic pain can take over every part of your life — physically, emotionally, mentally, and socially. For years, I lived in constant fear, chasing answers that never seemed to fit, and wondering if I’d ever get my life back.
In this first episode of The Heal Your Chronic Pelvic Pain Podcast, I share my personal healing story — from the first confusing symptoms and endless rounds of tests, to the treatments and approaches that didn’t work, and the turning point when I finally discovered the mind-body approach that changed everything.
Whether you’re brand new to the mind-body approach or have been piecing it together on your own, my hope is that this story offers clarity, validation, and hope that healing is possible for you too.
Resources & Links:
Follow me on Instagram: @thepelvicpaincoach
Get Your Free Pain Flare Plan (download): https://thepelvicpaincoach.myflodesk.com/painflareplan
Learn more about my self-paced course Beyond Chronic Pelvic Pain: https://thepelvicpaincoach.com/course
Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.
You’re not broken — and you can heal from chronic pelvic pain.
I’m Rachel Gofman, pelvic pain coach and physical therapist who’s been where you are. After years of searching for relief and navigating misdiagnoses, I found lasting healing through a mind-body approach, and now I help others do the same.
In this podcast, you’ll learn how to partner with your nervous system, understand the science behind your symptoms, and use practical tools to move from fear and frustration to safety and confidence.
Whether you’re brand new to a mind-body approach or have been exploring it for a while, this show will give you the clarity, tools, and hope you need to get unstuck and return to living a full and empowered life while you heal.
Your next step toward healing starts now — subscribe and join me each week.
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Please Remember: This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only. It is not a substitute for medical or mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment.