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UNDERSTANDABLE
Robert Siegers
315 episodes
1 day ago
► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about Childhood Trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, & self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions. I am not a health professional. My content is based on research & my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for 3 years.
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► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about Childhood Trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, & self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions. I am not a health professional. My content is based on research & my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for 3 years.
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UNDERSTANDABLE
E299 - Calm Chaos & Overwhelm: DECLUTTER These 8 Areas of Your Life

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Ladies & Gentlemen, welcome to today’s episode, where we talk about 8 life areas to declutter to calm chaos & overwhelm and release emotional baggage

In the beginning we discuss the controversial if trauma is responsible for a lot of the clutter in our life

And we explore in depth all of the 8 areas and come up with solutions to declutter


► Links and Resources:

Traumatic and stressful life events in hoarding article: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8312593/

Hoarding and Trauma article: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S2211364917301793


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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

00:46 Clutter And Trauma

10:32 Household Clutter

13:58 Time/Capacity Clutter

16:23 Career Clutter

19:04 Financial Clutter

21:56 Physical Health Clutter

25:16 Relationship Clutter

28:24 Emotional Clutter

36:05 Mental Clutter


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► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.

My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)


► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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2 days ago
41 minutes 4 seconds

UNDERSTANDABLE
E298 - 7 Habits That Quiet the Voice Saying You’re Not Enough

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While working with 4 different therapists in the past years, I’ve learned a ton of powerful self-care habits.

Here are my top 7, ranked from least to most impact, to reclaim self-worth.

But surprisingly, habits 6 and 7 are the simplest effective at the same time.


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Toxic Shame Episode:

https://youtu.be/qqDURsvDZmM?si=iQdhxHnDYiQ_o4GS


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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

00:33 Habit 1: Wordless Mirror-Work

2:53 Habit 2: Re-Regulation Tools & Resources

06:01 Habit 3: Express Needs

08:31 Habit 4: Wear Clothes That Feel Like You

09:59 Habit 5: Daily Boundary Check-In

11:43 Habit 6: Use A Grounding Reminder App

13:31 Habit 7: Set A Reminder For Your Sense Of Self


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► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.

My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)


► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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1 week ago
16 minutes 14 seconds

UNDERSTANDABLE
E297 - Trauma-Bonded? How To Master Relationships After a Chaotic Childhood

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If your relationships look like this: One moment you're deeply connected — the next, you're pulling away and don't want any contact with that person.

Or you have the feeling that you are somehow addicted and dependent on another person.

This isn’t just drama.

But it’s the emotional rollercoaster of trauma bonding — a pattern that’s especially common if you grew up with chaos, neglect, or emotional unpredictability.

In this video, we’ll explore why love can feel like a roller coaster

How all this is linked to an anxious, avoidant or disorganized attachment style

Which role narcissistic abuse plays in all of that

and how to finally break free from the chaos… to master real, secure connection — even if you never saw that growing up.


► Links and Resources:

10 Signs of a Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Style: https://youtu.be/V5Nn_XOHFX8?si=Hakj_BVayQasc134

Intermittent Reinforcement Article: https://www.catharticspacecounseling.com/blog/stuck-in-a-toxic-cycle-this-psychological-pattern-might-be-why

Trauma Bonding Video By Tim Fletcher: https://www.youtube.com/live/xIf4uJ94r3o?si=4C1KYflrBZs_dxtM


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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:02 What is Trauma Bonding?

04:33 How Childhood Trauma Creates This Pattern

07:06 The Role of The Narcissist

09:47 Challenges in Breaking Free

11:48 How To Rebuild Healthy Relationships After a Chaotic Childhood

12:00 Step 1: Clarity For The Trauma-Bond

13:05 Step 2: Get Away From Any Toxic Relationship

13:53 Step 3: Understand What A "Healthy" Partner Is

15:07 Step 4: Find The Right People For You Healing

16:00 Step 5: Dance The Connection/Autonomy Dance


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► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.

My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)


► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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2 weeks ago
19 minutes 46 seconds

UNDERSTANDABLE
E296 - Gut Feeling or Trauma? 7 Signs It's NOT Your Intuition

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If you're on social media these days, everyone tells you the same thing: 'Just listen to your gut feeling.'

But I want to say the opposite is true.

Because what if your strongest intuition — your so-called gut feeling — is actually coming out of a past wound?

This is true for everyone who experienced childhood trauma.

In this video, I’ll reveal to you 7 clear signs that it’s trauma — not your intuition — speaking.

My goal is that after this video you can tell for sure if it's your gut instinct speaking, or a past trauma reaction.

Plus, I’ll share some of the best tools, techniques, and strategies I’ve learned over four years of therapy to help you reconnect with your true gut instinct.


► Links and Resources:

Commitment Issues Video:

https://youtu.be/SUECZtfGkEM?si=0NIn5fjYfkHL1SAN

Somatic Symptoms Video:

https://youtu.be/lwhrWvjcOq0?si=gEKaF2NUR899j1mL

Hypervigilance Video:

https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI?si=B07c4KL8NprA8B-S

Neuroception Article: https://khironclinics.com/blog/polyvagal-theory-neuroception-the-fundament-of-feeling/


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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:00 Personal Story

02:47 Real Gut Feeling: Location & Sensation Breakdown

05:28 Why You Can’t Trust Your Gut Feeling

08:14 Sign 1: You Overthink And Expect The Worst, Even When Things Are Calm

09:16 Sign 2: You Struggle To Trust People, Even If They've Never Hurt You

10:52 Sign 3: You're Afraid They Might Leave, Even If Nothing's Wrong

11:55 Sign 4: You Overreact To Small Things, And It Feels Huge In The Moment

12:46 Sign 5: You're Always On Alert, Even When There's No Visible Threat

13:55 Sign 6: You Avoid People Or Places, And You're Not Sure Why

15:44 Sign 7: You Feel Uneasy When Things Are Actually Calm

17:16 How To Reconnect With Your Real Intuition

19:32 Tools, Skills & Resources For Regulating Trauma Responses


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► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.

My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)


► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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3 weeks ago
25 minutes 17 seconds

UNDERSTANDABLE
E295 - You Can't Change Them.. (and You Shouldn't)

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Are you in this situation right now, where you desperately wish nothing more, than that a specific person in your life would change?Maybe your partner who keeps shutting down emotionally?Your dad who’s slowly destroying himself with unhealthy habits?Or Your daughter making decisions that feel absolutely impossible to watch?If you’re feeling the urge right now that’s it’s your job to fix them, to somehow save them — then this episode is for you.Because here’s the honest truth upfront:You can’t change them. And you shouldn’t try.I know that might feel like giving up.But you can do something instead - and this is what we’re talking about in this video.

► Links and Resources:

Between Stimulus and Response Lies Our Freedom Episode: https://youtu.be/XGJFXLEfdpc?si=zBO77fGiQViBEmTW

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

00:52 3 Saver Roles You Play, When Trying To Fix Someone You Love

05:20 Why It Was Never Your Job To “Fix” Them

06:47 Trying To Fix Someone? Try These 3 Steps!

13:19 Final Thoughts


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► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)

► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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1 month ago
14 minutes 1 second

UNDERSTANDABLE
E294 - CPTSD & Sensory Overload: Why You Shut Down (& How To Cope)

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Sometimes our emotional world, feels like a battlefield.

So do you often feel like you’re fighting an invisible war inside your own body?

Like sounds, lights, and emotions are too much?

No one might see it, BUT you’re not alone.

This is sensory overload caused by complex trauma which causes you to be easily triggered, feeling overwhelm ed and burned out.

In this video, we’ll break down why your nervous system feels like a battlefield,

what the causes behind your overwhelm and shutdown are

and a ton of resources I collected during years of therapy that can help you surviving and calm you down.


► Links and Resources:

Hypervigilance Episode:

https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI

HSP vs. ASD Episode:

https://youtu.be/sib1ok3a6-w?si=E2gIexDhZedOh9VN

Sensory Overload and PTSD Paper: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC9720153


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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00

00:52 Personal Story

02:09 Understanding CPTSD And Sensory Overload

04:50 CPTSD Vs. Neurodivergence Vs. Sensory Sensitivity

08:25 Identifying Your Unique Triggers

10:32 Re-Regulation & Grounding Techniques

10:53 Technique 1: The 5-4-3-2-1 Technique

11:17 Technique 2: Movement Skills

11:58 Technique 3: Shower Technique

12:55 Technique 4: Emergency Exit Technique

13:33 Sensory Overwhelm Self-Care Routines

14:05 Routine 1: Create A Low-Stimulation Environment

15:23 Routine 2: Nervous System Hygiene = Daily Self-Care

16:58 Routine 3: Communicate Your Sensory Needs & Set Boundaries

18:24 Long Term Healing


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► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.

My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)


► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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1 month ago
22 minutes 6 seconds

UNDERSTANDABLE
E293 - The #1 Reason You Never "Feel Good Enough"

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There is one reason, why so many of us are feeling not good enough.

No matter how much you achieve or how many people tell you otherwise, you still sometimes just want to disappear, because you're feeling so degraded and thinskinned.

But the thing is: That voice inside you that keeps saying, ‘You’re not enough’… it didn’t start with you.

You weren’t born believing that. It was planted there — and it’s been shaping the way you see yourself ever since.

And in today's video, we’re going to look at where that belief really comes from, what toxic shame actually is, how it can quietly control every area of your life without you even realizing it… and most importantly, what you can do to finally break free from it.


► Links and Resources:

Toxic Shame Episode:

https://youtu.be/9XpiOkHSpjI?si=Ndp7XgXXWlqMazoN


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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:05 Where “I’m Not Good Enough” Comes From

03:48 Toxic Shame: The Root Of It All

10:04 Why You Keep Ending Up In The Same Pain

11:33 How To Stop Feeling “Not Good Enough”

12:17 Step 1: Realize: It Was Never Your Fault!

13:01 Step 2: Replace Self-Criticism With Compassion

14:33 Step 3: Train Yourself To Interrupt The Cycle As Often As Possible

15:25 Step 4 : Create New Relationship Experiences

16:30 Step 5: Use Re-Regulation-Tools And Resources


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► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.

My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)


► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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1 month ago
18 minutes 39 seconds

UNDERSTANDABLE
E292 - The Trauma Truth: How Childhood Wounds Sabotage Your Adult Life (ACE Study)

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What if your constant battle with shame, burnout, or the feeling that something’s wrong with you… isn’t actually about you? But what if it’s about your childhood?

In this video, we’re unmasking one of the most important studies on trauma ever conducted (interestingly enough I’ve never talked about it here on the channel before) — the famous ACE Study — Adverse Childhood Experiences.

We’ll uncover what it reveals about how your childhood silently rewired your brain, your body, and your entire sense of self.

How this is affecting nearly every area of your adult life

And most importantly: what you can do to break free from the patterns from your past and stop passing the trauma to the next young generation.


► Links and Resources:

Physical Symptoms Episode:

https://youtu.be/lwhrWvjcOq0?si=jIcStaNgfG5zNu2-

Hypervigilance Episode:

https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI?si=EFEcJAmUOYVA1Mj-

ACE Study Full Paper: https://www.ajpmonline.org/article/s0749-3797(98)00017-8/pdf

Dr. Vincent J. Felitti:

https://drvincentfelitti.com/

ACE Study CDC: https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/aces/about.html

ACE Study Results CDC: https://www.cdc.gov/aces/about/index.html

Canadian ACE:

https://www150.statcan.gc.ca/n1/pub/85-002-x/2022001/article/00016-eng.htm

ACE and Cancer:

https://www.nature.com/articles/s44184-025-00138-6

ACE and Depression: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0165032724001484

ACE and Suicidality: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6220625/

ACE and Life Outcomes:

https://therapyinanutshell.com/ace-study/

Trauma and Brain Change: https://bmcpsychiatry.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12888-024-06306-w

ACE Quiz:

https://americanspcc.org/take-the-aces-quiz/


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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

00:55 Why The ACE Study Mattered So Much

02:38 The 10 ACE’s

04:21 ACE Study Findings: Trauma is way more common than we think

05:44 How ACE’s Drastically Sabotage Your Adult Life

08:44 What Trauma Does To The Brain And Body

10:42 Not All Adversity Is Bad

11:58 Healing From The Consequences Of ACEs

12:06 Step 1: Awareness & Re-Connection With Yourself

13:42 Step 2: Relearning Safety Through Relationships

14:43 Step 3: Rebuild The Skills You Were Never Taught


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1 month ago
16 minutes 57 seconds

UNDERSTANDABLE
E291 - 10 Things People with Trauma Do Without Realizing

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Today we’re talking about: 10 Things People with Trauma Do Without Realizing.


► Links and Resources:

Attachment Style Episode: https://youtu.be/1S-YK065XLA?si=cnxWk5WsT8GveNk8

Social Anxiety Episode: https://youtu.be/h17cBx7b5UQ?si=wASNhO_rR6nXNsRP

High Tension Episode: https://youtu.be/J5Ys0iYRitg?si=zVsAWD08GAbHssfq

Somatic Symptoms Episode: https://youtu.be/lwhrWvjcOq0?si=Bc-e28H4xMfai2Dd

Trauma vs. ADHD Episode: https://youtu.be/limKlx4h_F4?si=lOol2BfEfFZhXyUd


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00:00 What You Will Learn

02:10 1) To Them Closeness Feels Like A Threat

04:16 2) They Need A Lot Of Alone Time

07:07 3) They Are Highly Successful

10:46 4) They Travel A Lot

13:21 5) They Don’t Ask For Help

17:32 6) They’re Always Tensioned / On High Alert

21:00 7) They Feel Guilty For Everything At Any Time

25:05 8) They Have Unexplainable Physical Symptoms

28:06 9) They Appear To Have It All Together

30:55 10) They Appear Off / Inattentive

33:30 The Link With The Nervous System (Poly Vagal Theory)

37:00 Healing Trauma Symptoms

42:50 Outro


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► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.


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1 month ago
43 minutes 32 seconds

UNDERSTANDABLE
E290 - 4 Therapists Couldn't Fix Me - Until I Learned This

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In the past 5 years, I’ve worked with 4 therapists on my childhood trauma, which was hijacking my relationships and causing constant anxiety.

But while therapy helped me making a lot of progress and becoming a more confident and self-aware person, it didn’t completely fixed my trauma symptoms.

I always felt like there is some puzzle piece missing.

But after spending nearly 4.000 $ on therapy, I had to try something new.

And surprisingly, while doing that, I finally found it.

The missing piece!

What I finally learned, what my 4 therapists couldn’t teach me, I will share with you in today’s video.



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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

00:58 My Healing Journey So Far

04:09 Lesson 1: Re-Connecting With Yourself

06:06 Lesson 2: Stop Masking, Express Your Emotions

07:45 Lesson 3: Communicating Needs

08:36 Lesson 4: Setting Boundaries Without Feeling Guilty

09:42 The Missing Puzzle Piece That “Fixed” Me

13:35 Final Thoughts


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► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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1 month ago
14 minutes 4 seconds

UNDERSTANDABLE
E289 - Overthinking: How I Stopped after 10 Years (4 Steps)

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Do you ever find yourself replaying that one conversation from three weeks ago… again?

You know, the one where you said that “wrong” thing and now your brain won’t let it go?

You’re lying in bed, exhausted but your mind is still running a marathon of “what ifs” and “why did I say thats?”

You obsess over a tiny mistake… and suddenly it feels like your whole character is on trial.

What if I told you… that relentless mental noise isn’t just overthinking.

But it might be trauma - for example from childhood.

In this video, we’re unpacking the hidden link between complex trauma and overthinking — and how to finally break free from the cycle that’s been hijacking your peace for so long.


► Links and Resources:

Hypervigilance Episode:

https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI?si=pcSnqYXr4b93QDN_

Shaolin Master Shi Heng Yi on Overthinking: https://youtu.be/kgF_GqyfSMI?si=Vo1b2AdN4R9Tvoac

Overthinking Article:

https://www.talkiatry.com/blog/why-do-i-overthink-everything ⁠


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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:04 Overthinking

02:30 How Overthinking Feels Like

03:42 The Hidden Root: Trauma

05:57 The Cycle Of Overthinking

08:30 How To Break The Cycle Of Overthinking

10:18 Step 1: Name It, To Tame It

10:57 Step 2: Re-Regulation Resources

12:30 Step 3: Boundaries With Your Thoughts

13:34 Step 4: Self-Containment


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► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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2 months ago
17 minutes 48 seconds

UNDERSTANDABLE
E288 - Why Intimate Relationships Overwhelm You (& How to Feel Safer)

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Do you associate intimate relationships with panic, overwhelm, chronic gut pain or the feeling of being trapped?

Well, then you’re not alone. I had this for years and my biggest wish was to just “feel normal” and relaxed with my partner.

But the good news is, there is a way to make relationships not feeling so painful and anxiety driven anymore.

After a handful of exhausting breakups and through years of therapy I figured out 5 game changing lessons, that completely transformed my relationship life.

Therefore in this video today, I will reveal to you why intimate relationships might overwhelm you in the first place and what exactly you can do to finally feel safer.


► Links and Resources:

Physical Symptoms Episode:

https://youtu.be/lwhrWvjcOq0?si=0JBQbqOVUHVI_vQLHypervigilance Episode:

https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI?si=tHy3yB4DUlBO12EF

4 Attachment Styles Episode:

https://youtu.be/1S-YK065XLA?si=8L1AFSK39AvABNoX

Sensory Processing Sensitivity Article: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sensory_processing_sensitivity


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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

00:56 The Uneasy Gut Feeling

02:55 What’s Behind The Overwhelm

07:55 Lesson 1: Understanding My Sensitive Nervous System

10:18 Lesson 2: Understanding & Expressing My Needs

12:37 Lesson 3: Learning To Name My Emotions

14:22 Lesson 4: Understanding My Lack Of Boundaries

16:24 Lesson 5: Building Inner Holding (Self-Containment)


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► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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2 months ago
21 minutes 47 seconds

UNDERSTANDABLE
E287 - How To Beat Social Anxiety (Without Faking Confidence)

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Do you know that painful feeling when you have to cross a busy city center and it feels like all eyes are on you?

Or that intense discomfort walking into a room full of people at a party that is already in full swing, like you're exposed, like you don’t belong there?

That’s the quiet torment of social anxiety. And if you’ve felt it, you’re not alone.

But… what if it didn’t have to be this way?

What if you could feel calm, grounded — even confident — in those same situations… without having to fake it?

In today’s episode, I’ll break down the hidden trauma cycle behind social anxiety.

And by the end, I’ll show you two powerful ways to begin breaking free from it — for real.


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Joseph Campbell Quote: https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/11602-the-privilege-of-a-lifetime-is-being-who-you-are


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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

00:52 Why Social Anxiety Is Often About Trauma, Not Shyness

02:45 The Cycle Of Social Anxiety

04:40 Beating The Cycle Of Social Anxiety

14:57 Final Thoughts


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► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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2 months ago
15 minutes 19 seconds

UNDERSTANDABLE
E286 - Introversion vs. Social Anxiety: 5 Signs, You're Not Just "Shy"

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Have you always thought of yourself as “a shy person”?

Do you prefer quiet spaces? Social events exhaust you? And do you need a lot of alone time to recharge?

What if… that’s not just introversion?

What if something deeper — something fear-driven — is hiding behind your so-called introvert personality?

Today, we’ll uncover five signs that you might not just be introverted…

But you’re actually dealing with social anxiety.

We will clarify common misconceptions about these two and you will also learn, where your social anxiety actually has its roots.


► Links and Resources:

Trauma and Social Anxiety Article: https://psychcentral.com/ptsd/childhood-trauma-social-anxiety

Physical Symptoms Episode:

https://youtu.be/lwhrWvjcOq0?si=ub35EEp2hZDyTDbK

Inner Tension Episode:

https://youtu.be/J5Ys0iYRitg?si=TeSWbbBGtA3vEspW

Hypervigilance Episode:

https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI?si=732jl86Z8oVoDq65


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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

00:52 Why We Mix Up Introversion & Anxiety

02:19 Introversion

03:28 Social Anxiety

04:30 5 Signs You’re Not Just “Shy”

04:84 Sign 1: You Feel Physically Tense In Social Settings

06:11 Sign 2: You Cancel Plans Out Of Panic, Not Peace

07:52 Sign 3: You Crave Connection But Fear Being Seen

09:34 Sign 4: You're Hyper-Aware Of How You're Being Perceived

11:16 Sign 5: You Shape-Shift To Avoid Judgement

12:55 Misconception 1: Introverts Are Antisocial

13:09 Misconception 2: Social Anxiety Is A Weakness

13:38 Misconception 3: You Just Need To "Get Out Of Your Shell"

17:14 Final Thoughts


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► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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2 months ago
17 minutes 54 seconds

UNDERSTANDABLE
E285 - How Trauma Silently Sabotages Relationships (& How to Break the Cycle)

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Over the past decade, I ended five long-term relationships.

And each time, I convinced myself I was better off alone.

But what I didn’t realize back then was this:

That my relationships didn’t work wasn’t about my partners.

It wasn’t even really about me.

It was unresolved childhood trauma, quietly hijacking my gut feelings, sabotaging my relationships, and shaping how I showed up in love.

In today’s video, I want to uncover how early emotional wounds act like a hidden puppet master in our relationships…

What’s truly behind your attachment style…

And how you can finally break the cycle of painful patterns and partners that never feel safe.

Ready for some real “aha” moments?


► Links and Resources:

Emotional Dysregulation Episode: https://youtu.be/Q0iGqa7y6BA?si=dkhPhvMPJxzTZj14

I Overcame My Avoidant Attachment Style Episode:

https://youtu.be/6jyaHgwGYbk


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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:01 How Trauma Sabotaged My Relationships

04:11 How Trauma Shapes Love

05:44 How Trauma Hijacks Your Emotions

05:51 Hijacked By Traum: Your Emotions

08:42 Hijacked By Trauma: Your Behaviour

09:53 Hijacked By Trauma: Your Attachment Style

11:09 Hijacked By Trauma: Your Value Compass

12:48 Hijacked By Trauma: Your Identity

13:26 The Cycle

17:13 How To Break The Cycle

17:38 Step 1: Create Awareness For What's Going On

19:53 Step 2: Understand Your Attachment Style

21:41 Step 3: Stop Chasing Only What Feels Familiar

23:58 Step 4: Learn The Skills For Healthy Love

26:09 Final Thoughts


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My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)


► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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2 months ago
26 minutes 54 seconds

UNDERSTANDABLE
E284 - Overcoming Emotional Neglect (The Trauma of What Didn’t Happen)

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Maybe you're like me — you grew up thinking your childhood was “good.”

There was no big trauma. Not much screaming and fights, no chaos.

Your parents were around. You had everything you needed… on paper.

But what if I told you that a childhood that looked good can still leave deep emotional wounds?

In my case, it wasn’t just the “bad” things that happened — It was the good things that didn’t.

The safety, the attunement, the emotional presence I never knew I was missing sometimes.

If you feel emotionally numb, unworthy, or like you never quite belong —this might be yours too.

In this video, I’ll share how I discovered the hidden impact of emotional neglect, the surprising ways it showed up in my life and ruined my relationships, and the 5 steps I actually needed to go to heal and finally build real, connected relationships.

And let me tell you: It wasn’t just therapy!


► Links and Resources:

How I Overcame My Commitment Issues: https://youtu.be/6jyaHgwGYbk

Love vs Limerence:

https://youtu.be/mmNjDwdPwOA?si=_gPstbGBPxkpIPwb

I Replaced My Therapist With ChatGPT:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JRo6PgSiB3w&t=229s


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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

00:01:12 What Emotional Neglect Is

03:45 How Emotional Neglect Showed Up In Me

09:58 The Moment I Understood Emotional Neglect

11:43 How I Overcame Emotional Neglect

23:51 Final Thoughts


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► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.

My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)


► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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2 months ago
24 minutes 57 seconds

UNDERSTANDABLE
E283 - How To Stop Exploding Over Small Things (The Reason For Your Anger)

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Have you ever snapped over something small — especially with someone you love — and then felt terrible about it afterwards? You're not a bad person. But there is a reason for that anger.

In today’s episode, we’re going to uncover the real reason why you keep exploding over the tiniest things — especially in your closest relationships. And here’s the truth: it’s almost never about the other person or what triggered you in the moment.

Sounds confusing? We’ll break down what’s really going on inside you — and what it actually takes to stop these reactions for good.

Not by suppressing your emotions or forcing yourself to 'stay calm'... but by understanding and healing the root cause.⁠


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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

00:59 Anger In Close Relationships

03:21 The Real Reason For Your Anger

05:34 Identifying Your Triggers

09:07 How To Break The Cycle


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I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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3 months ago
17 minutes 26 seconds

UNDERSTANDABLE
E282 - EVERY CPTSD Symptom Explained in 15 Minutes

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Do you feel like something’s always a little off —

like your emotions hit too hard, or not at all…

and no one sees the battle you're fighting inside?

That might not be anxiety. Or burnout.

It could be Complex PTSD —

the result of prolonged emotional trauma that never had space to heal.

In this video, I’ll walk you through every core CPTSD symptom from the most common to the least known — clearly, quickly, and in real human language. But trust me, the last one is sometimes even missed by professionals!


► Links and Resources:

Hypervigilance Episode:

https://youtu.be/Mhoa6_53StI?si=Hyy6p_4o1cLYmrx-

How I Overcame Avoidant Attachment Episode:

Dissociation Episode:

https://youtu.be/UZsTUS_jlYg?si=kE0UyssKllrskiCH

Disorganized Attachment Style:

https://youtu.be/V5Nn_XOHFX8?si=NJM8ebzQmpYZfU0t

Somatic Symptoms:

https://youtu.be/lwhrWvjcOq0?si=YXJUFNCV3YpiCurF


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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

00:53 CPTSD Simply Explained

01:54 Symptom 1: Big Emotional Swings

02:19 Symptom 2: Always On Edge

03:09 Symptom 3: Overreacting To “Small” Things

04:53 Symptom 4: Trouble Sleeping

05:26 Symptom 5: Reliving and Experiencing The Past

06:02 Symptom 6: Avoiding Anything That Feels Unsafe

06:46 Symptom 7: Zoning Out Or Numbing

07:43 Symptom 8: Push-Pull Relationships

08:36 Symptom 9: Toxic And Abusive Relationship Drama

09:28 Symptom 10: Body Pain, But No Doctor Knows Why

10:22 Symptom 11: Harsh Inner Critic

11:15 Symptom 12: Substance Abuse

12:00 Symptom 13: Bullying

12:56 Symptom 14: Space Out Or Losing Focus

13:34 Symptom 15: Missing Memories And Forgetfulness

14:35 Solutions


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► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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3 months ago
16 minutes 29 seconds

UNDERSTANDABLE
E281 - I Overcame My Commitment Issues (Here's How)

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In the past 10 years, I sabotaged five long-term relationships.

At first I thought it was my intuition - my gut feeling - telling me I hadn’t met the right person yet.

But through therapy, I discovered something deeper:

It wasn’t my partners. It was me.

Specifically, my avoidant attachment style… and a deep, hidden fear of commitment I didn’t even know I had.

In this video, I’m sharing the full story of how I went from running away from intimacy… to finally being able to stay—emotionally, mentally, and physically—in a real, loving relationship.

You’ll learn why closeness can feel terrifying when you’re avoidantly attached, how we self-sabotage without knowing it, and most importantly:

The breakthrough that finally helped me stop fearing love.


► Links and Resources:

Physical Pain Symptoms Episode: https://youtu.be/lwhrWvjcOq0?si=FZvH__BWNZtkemOV

Anxious Attachment Style Episode: https://youtu.be/rXscvYntSpY?si=dZ46bDFhdfgWBCQx

Ego Defense Mechanisms:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK559106/

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:06 Signs You’re Having Fear Of Commitment/Avoidant Attachment

05:10 What Is Fear Of Commitment/Avoidant Attachment?

07:16 Ego Defenses And Protection Mechanisms

12:05 Deep Beliefs & Identity Illusion

14:50 Wrong Partner Or Avoidant Attachment?

16:25 Overcoming Avoidant Attachment & Stopping Commitment Fears


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► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.

My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)


► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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3 months ago
25 minutes 59 seconds

UNDERSTANDABLE
E280 - Trauma vs. ASD/ADHD vs. Depression: Neurodivergent or Burnt Out?

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I’ve been digging into these topics for years now:

Trauma, specifically Complex PTSD,

Neurodivergence, aka Autism and ADHD

and also Depression, the number one mental health struggle of our sick society.

And here’s what hit me:

Even though these conditions seem totally different…

they all have one surprising thing in common.

There’s a hidden overlap — and most people, including professionals, miss it.

But here’s the twist that is interesting for YOU and me:

That overlap doesn’t just explain why so many of us are misdiagnosed…

…it also reveals a whole new way to actually manage and heal what you’re going through.

And I’ll show you exactly how at the end of this episode, after we dived into each of these three.


► Links and Resources:

Avoidance Episode:

https://youtu.be/PP9dvNWZ8p4?si=eNtPPfjQnaMJcNdw

Hyposensitivity Episode:

https://youtu.be/A6USY9ECbkM?si=N2iJqqzuf8QGtKVt

Borderline vs Bipolar Episode:

https://youtu.be/KuYopjLnGLs

Adult Survivors of Childhood Trauma: https://www1.racgp.org.au/getattachment/79710ca4-e98e-46aa-8f8f-d5f763ea8ef4/Adult-survivors-of-childhood-trauma.aspx

Depression Paper: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/15953797/

Nature vs Nurture in PTSD: https://news.yale.edu/2020/10/01/nurture-trumps-nature-determining-severity-ptsd-symptoms

Nature vs Nurture in Autism/ADHD: https://www.sequoiabehavioralhealth.org/blogs/nature-vs-nurture

History of Depression:

https://www.verywellmind.com/who-discovered-depression-1066770

ADHD & Depression:

https://en.wikipedia.org/w/index.php?title=Attention_deficit_hyperactivity_disorder


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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:01 Overview: Trauma, Autism/ADHD, Depression

02:35 Trauma

08:40 Neurodivergence

14:03 Depression

18:22 The Overlap

22:11 Managing And Healing

24:46 Solutions Storytelling

29:11 Final Thoughts


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► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.

My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)


► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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3 months ago
30 minutes 22 seconds

UNDERSTANDABLE
► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about Childhood Trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, & self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions. I am not a health professional. My content is based on research & my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for 3 years.