E281 - I Overcame My Commitment Issues (Here's How)

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UNDERSTANDABLE

Robert Siegers

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► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about Childhood Trauma & attachment theory. My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, & self-confidence. :) ► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions. I am not a health professional. My content is based on research & my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for 3 years.

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E281 - I Overcame My Commitment Issues (Here's How)

UNDERSTANDABLE

25 minutes 59 seconds

3 months ago

E281 - I Overcame My Commitment Issues (Here's How)

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In the past 10 years, I sabotaged five long-term relationships.

At first I thought it was my intuition - my gut feeling - telling me I hadn’t met the right person yet.

But through therapy, I discovered something deeper:

It wasn’t my partners. It was me.

Specifically, my avoidant attachment style… and a deep, hidden fear of commitment I didn’t even know I had.

In this video, I’m sharing the full story of how I went from running away from intimacy… to finally being able to stay—emotionally, mentally, and physically—in a real, loving relationship.

You’ll learn why closeness can feel terrifying when you’re avoidantly attached, how we self-sabotage without knowing it, and most importantly:

The breakthrough that finally helped me stop fearing love.

► Links and Resources:

Physical Pain Symptoms Episode: https://youtu.be/lwhrWvjcOq0?si=FZvH__BWNZtkemOV

Anxious Attachment Style Episode: https://youtu.be/rXscvYntSpY?si=dZ46bDFhdfgWBCQx

Ego Defense Mechanisms:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK559106/

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:06 Signs You’re Having Fear Of Commitment/Avoidant Attachment

05:10 What Is Fear Of Commitment/Avoidant Attachment?

07:16 Ego Defenses And Protection Mechanisms

12:05 Deep Beliefs & Identity Illusion

14:50 Wrong Partner Or Avoidant Attachment?

16:25 Overcoming Avoidant Attachment & Stopping Commitment Fears

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E-Mail: info@understandable.net

► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.

My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)

► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.