Facing the Mirror — Fearfully Avoidant, Fiercely Human
In this episode, Christina Stuller, counselor, coach, and transpersonal PhD student, unpacks the raw truth behind the *Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style*—the tug-of-war between craving closeness and fearing it.
From chaotic childhoods to adult relationships filled with push-pull dynamics, Christina reveals how this attachment style shapes friendships, dating, marriage, and even our sense of self. Through real-world examples, vulnerable storytelling, and powerful group reflections, she helps you see how self-protection often disguises itself as independence—and how to finally feel safe in love without losing yourself.
Whether you’re the one who runs, the one who chases, or the one learning to stay—this episode will help you understand your patterns, own your healing, and start building the secure connection you’ve always deserved.
💜 *You’re not broken—you’re just reprogramming what love feels like.*
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Bonus Trailer for Upcoming Episode
Stop thinking you can't do it.
Stop making it harder than what it is.
Stop playing the victim.
You are the only force stopping you.
You were never weak. You were just over-giving to people who were under-invested.
In this raw, unfiltered drop from Christina, creator of Tranquil Balance and host of Facing the Mirror, she exposes the truth behind being used, overlooked, and discarded—not because you're broken, but because you were offering pieces of yourself to people who never earned access.
💬 This video covers:
Why being “too much” was just code for “too aware”
How to stop giving out of desperation to not be alone
The truth about emotional hunger and sabotage cycles
What it really means to take your power back without becoming bitter
This is for the woman who over-explains, over-loves, and under-asks—and is finally done doing so.
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You spoke up. You reacted. You had enough.
And somehow you became the abuser?
In this continuation of Facing the Mirror, Christina dives even deeper into the complex and often silenced experience of reactive abuse—when victims are pushed, provoked, and then punished for responding like a human being in pain.
⚠️ In this raw and unfiltered follow-up, we explore:
How reactive abuse gets mistaken for "equal toxicity"
Why survivors often stay silent out of shame
The role of gaslighting and trauma bonding
How emotional manipulation distorts accountability
The dangerous myth of “mutual abuse”
This isn’t about denial—it’s about discernment.
If you’ve ever been blamed for the storm you didn’t create but got caught in, this episode is for you.
🧠 New here?
Be sure to listen to Part One: Reactive Abuse — The Lie They Use to Silence You for the full breakdown and origin of this manipulative cycle.
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🔹 Weekly Shadow Work Zoom Room: healingmyfeelings.com
Let this episode be the clarity you needed. You're not too much. You're just waking up.
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What if the very thing used against you as proof of your instability… was actually a trauma response?
In this episode of Facing the Mirror, Christina unpacks the misunderstood and often weaponized concept of reactive abuse. From personal experience to professional insight, she exposes how abusers flip the script—provoking emotional explosions and then pointing the finger, labeling you the "crazy one."
💥 We’ll explore:
What reactive abuse actually is (and what it’s NOT)
The psychology behind why you "snapped"
How trauma survivors are groomed into shame
The difference between responsibility and blame
Real-world examples of how victims are manipulated and mislabeled
Christina doesn’t just break down the cycle—she shows you how to break out of it. If you've ever been called "too much" or questioned your sanity after standing up for yourself, this episode is your mirror.
🔎 This isn’t about excusing bad behavior—it’s about exposing patterns.
Let’s talk truth, trauma, and taking your power back.
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Join Christina’s healing community Anchored Connections on WhatsApp or attend the weekly Shadow Work Zoom Room at healingmyfeelings.com
Follow, share, and review if this episode hit home. You’re not alone—and you're not crazy.
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You weren't chosen. You were available.
YOU weren't destroyed. You were already unraveling before they ever touched you.
You weren't blindsided. You ignored the warnings because chaos felt familiar and silence felt like abandonment.
In this unfiltered episode of Facing the Mirror, Christina invites you to step out of the story you've been telling and into the truth you've been avoiding. This isn't about blame. It's about radical accountability. It's about owning the part you played in your own heartbreak, your own silence, and your own self-betrayal.
You didn't attract a narcissist because of your soft heart. You attracted them because of your unhealed wounds. You weren't manipulated into love. You clung to fantasy because reality was too painful.
You weren't the victim- you were the match.
This episode breaks open:
You'll walk away with clarity.
You'll sit with discomfort.
And hopefully, you'll stop pointing fingers outward and start asking: "Where did I stop choosing me?"
This isn't about shame-it's about freedom. You can't break free from a story you're still trying to rewrite in your favor.
This episode is for the ones who:
Keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners
Say they’re “healing,” but still avoid accountability
Have read all the books and followed all the trauma pages but are still stuck in blame
Are finally ready to stop calling it growth when it’s just avoidance in disguise
If you’ve been screaming “Why does this keep happening to me?”—this episode is your answer.
Because the truth is:
You don’t attract what you deserve. You attract what you believe you’re worthy of.
And what’s familiar will always feel more seductive than what’s safe—until you finally choose different.
🪞Reflection Prompt from Christina:
“What truth about myself have I been hiding behind the story I tell about them?”
Ready to stop being the match for your own pain?
Then this episode is your wake-up call.
🎙 Hosted by Christina—trauma-informed counselor, life coach, cancer warrior, and founder of Tranquil Balance—Facing the Mirror delivers bold, human, spiritual truth-telling without the fluff. Christina doesn’t just help you heal—she helps you wake the hell up.
📥 Want to go deeper?
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Let this episode be the one that breaks the cycle.
Because you're not crazy. You're not broken. You're just repeating.
And it ends the moment you finally choose you.
You say they were the problem.
You say they lied, betrayed, ghosted, manipulated, cheated.
And maybe they did.
But in this episode, I’m not asking what they did to you.
I’m asking: What part of you let it happen… and called it love?
This episode is about the truth.
The kind that doesn’t trend on Instagram.
The kind that doesn’t care about “your side of the story.”
The kind that makes you flinch when you hear it—but changes your life when you own it.
The truth is: it was you.
You stayed when they begged you to leave with their actions.
You justified their silence because it mirrored how you silence your own needs.
You took the blame for being “too much,” when in reality—you were too little for yourself.
In this episode of Facing the Mirror, I’m cutting through your excuses and calling out the emotional self-sabotage you’ve been dressing up as healing. This is the wake-up call your inner child, your future self, and your soul have all been waiting for.
🎯 In this episode, I uncover:
How we weaponize empathy and call it love
Why we attract emotionally unavailable people and blame them for leaving
The lies we tell ourselves that are more dangerous than any betrayal
Why people don’t lie to us—they lie from their own wounds
The difference between being manipulated and allowing manipulation because it feels familiar
Why “healing” without accountability is just spiritual bypassing
The harsh reality of romanticizing pain and calling it depth
This episode will confront you with the patterns you've been defending.
It will ask you to stop looking at the wreckage and start looking in the mirror.
And it will push you toward the most painful—and powerful—question:
“What part of my pain do I keep feeding so I don’t have to grow?”
You weren’t naïve.
You weren’t innocent.
You were participating in a pattern you didn’t want to end.
Why?
Because chaos felt like connection.
Because neglect felt like home.
Because you thought suffering meant you mattered.
But here’s the good news:
You were the problem—so now, you get to be the solution.
🪞This episode is for:
The woman who keeps calling it a “situationship” but it’s actually emotional addiction
The man who feels emotionally numb but keeps blaming every ex
The soul who claims to be healing but refuses to be honest
The person who’s tired of pretending they didn’t see the red flags waving
The survivor who’s finally ready to stop telling the same story and start changing the outcome
💬 Listener Reflection Prompt:
“What lie have I been telling myself to protect my pain?”
Write it down.
Sit with it.
And let it burn away everything that’s no longer true.
👥 Want real support as you face the truth?
🔒 Join Anchored Connections—a private, judgment-free community where healing isn’t filtered, and honesty is sacred.
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🎙️ About the Host:
I’m Christina —trauma-informed life coach, Stage 4 cancer warrior, and a woman who’s survived abuse, betrayal, loss, and the brutal honesty of healing. I’m not here to sugarcoat your growth. I’m here to help you take your power back.
With a background in psychology, divinity, and metaphysical healing, my work cuts deep—because shallow healing doesn’t work.
📌 Connect with Me:
Website: HealingMyFeelings.com
If this episode made you uncomfortable
That’s exactly the point.
Because clarity doesn’t come from coddling.
It comes from finally being brave enough to admit:
It wasn’t them.
It was you.
And now?
It’s time to heal that part.
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When chaos feels like home, peace can feel like abandonment.
In this soul-shaking video, Christina—Board Certified Life Coach, Trauma Counselor, and host of Facing the Mirror—exposes the subconscious patterns we cling to when we mistake survival tactics for love. Whether you’re caught in overthinking, oversharing, or overexplaining to feel seen… it’s time to stop.
💡 You’ll learn how to:
Stop chasing validation through conflict
Reclaim your energy from people who feed on your self-doubt
Replace “fixing” with embodying worth
Identify the hidden self-sabotage keeping you stuck in toxic loops
This isn’t just empowerment—it’s an invitation to stop apologizing for needing healing.
🧘♀️ Join Christina’s Movement:
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🔹 Join the weekly Shadow Work Zoom Room
🔹 Connect inside the Anchored Connections WhatsApp community
🔹 Follow Christina’s podcast: Facing the Mirror
You don’t need to be louder to be heard. You need to be rooted in your truth.
Watch this and reclaim your identity, not your trauma.
#ReclaimControl #ChristinaFacingTheMirror #TranquilBalance #ShadowWork #StopSelfSabotage #HealingJourney #CodependencyRecovery #SelfWorth #BoundariesAreLove
Christina is a Board-Certified Life Coach, Counselor, and PhD candidate in Transpersonal Counseling. As the founder of Tranquil Balance Life Coaching, she specializes in trauma recovery, narcissistic abuse, codependency, and attachment re-patterning. Christina leads transformational spaces like the Shadow Work Zoom Room, Anchored Connections, and the Facing the Mirror podcast. Her work blends radical accountability with compassionate guidance—empowering people to stop self-sabotage, set boundaries without guilt, and finally reclaim control of their lives.
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What if the mess you’re ashamed of… is the very material you’re meant to build your healing with?
In this raw and unfiltered episode, Christina—trauma-informed life coach, survivor, and founder of Tranquil Balance—takes you into the heart of the wreckage we often try to bury. This isn’t just about reliving the past—it’s about reclaiming it. Because you don’t need to erase your story—you need to reframe it.
🖤 Inside this episode: – How your pain becomes your mirror
– Why avoiding the wreckage keeps you stuck in it
– Shadow work truths no one told you
– A new way to look at shame, setbacks, and your “mistakes”
– Empowering questions to shift your story, not suppress it
This is not just a podcast—it’s an invitation to stop pretending you’re over it and finally face it with compassion and accountability.
✨ “The wreckage is not the end—it’s the evidence you survived the storm.”
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👇 COMMENT: 💬 What’s one belief you’re ready to reframe today?
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This is meant to feel like a one -on-one session with some peer group vibes.
if youre interested in shadow work but too afraid to dive right in, try this one out.
if shadow work is for you: email me :
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What if your mess wasn’t a mistake… but a mirror?
In this soul-stirring episode of Facing the Mirror, Christina dives deep into the emotional wreckage we often avoid, deny, or downplay. Whether it's shame, past decisions, broken relationships, or moments you’d rather forget—this episode teaches you how to reframe the wreckage, not run from it.
You’ll learn:
This isn’t a surface-level self-help talk. It’s radical, raw, and rooted in truth. Christina challenges you to face your reflection, own your story, and reframe the parts you thought disqualified you.
Because the wreckage?
That’s where your wisdom is waiting.
🔗 Book your 1:1 shadow work session at: www.healingmyfeelings.com
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🕯️ Attend our live Shadow Work Zoom Room each week
🎧 Subscribe + share if this hit home
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In this raw and revealing episode, Christina invites you into the heart of the healing journey—where pain meets power and trauma meets transformation. Drawing from her own lived experience and years of trauma-informed coaching, she explores how survivors of narcissistic abuse can begin to reframe the wreckage left behind.
This isn’t toxic positivity—this is truth with grit. Christina walks you through the courageous process of shifting the way you speak to yourself, how to rewire subconscious narratives of shame and self-blame, and how to own your story without letting it define you.
Expect reflective exercises, empowering reframes, and a gut-check on the stories we tell ourselves that keep us stuck. This episode is your permission slip to stop surviving and start choosing yourself—out loud, unapologetically.
💡 Key Takeaways:
Why the way you speak to yourself shapes your reality
How to reframe painful experiences without minimizing them
The role of shadow work in moving forward
Daily affirmations and grounded tools to rebuild your inner voice
📖 Ready to face the mirror? This one’s not just an episode—it’s a breakthrough.
🔗 Learn more at www.healingmyfeelings.com
📲 Join our support community Anchored Connections and Christina’s live weekly Zoom room for shadow work integration.
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The Way you Speak to Yourself is the Way you Heal. Let's start something good.
Thrive Note asking "Who is Running the Show?"
Time to examine our REALITY FILTER
In this powerful episode of Facing the Mirror, trauma survivor and shadow work expert Christina dismantles the myths about love addiction, codependency, and people-pleasing—and reveals the one relationship that shapes them all: the one you have with yourself.
This isn’t about bubble baths and crystals—it’s about dismantling trauma conditioning, rewriting your core beliefs, and breaking free from the cycles of self-abandonment that keep you chasing love that hurts. Christina shares raw truths, reflective questions, and five practical steps to start healing, from nervous system regulation to mirror work.
If you’ve ever found yourself attracting emotionally unavailable partners, staying in relationships that drain you, or feeling addicted to validation, this episode is your wake-up call. It’s time to stop chasing, start re-parenting, and finally choose you.
In this eye-opening episode, Christina breaks down the gritty connection between shadow work and addictive behaviors — and why we can’t fully heal our addictions until we meet the parts of ourselves we’ve buried.
Addictions don’t just “happen.”
They are created and fueled by the unmet needs, unprocessed grief, and disowned parts of us that live in the shadow. Whether it’s love addiction, substance use, emotional over-dependence, or coping mechanisms that slowly destroy us — at the core is a part of us begging to be seen.
Inside this episode, you’ll learn:
Why we become addicted to the feeling rather than the person or substance
How suppressed emotions and unmet childhood needs form the root of addictive behavior
What shadow work actually looks like in the context of addiction
The difference between symptom management and soul-level healing
Self-reflection prompts to uncover the part of you that’s driving the addictive cycle
Real examples, mic-drop truths, and Christina’s signature “loving but no-BS” guidance
✨ If you’re ready to stop judging yourself for your addictions — and start understanding the truth behind them — this episode will shift everything.
Listen now and begin meeting the parts of you that are asking for love (not punishment).