You say they were the problem.
You say they lied, betrayed, ghosted, manipulated, cheated.
And maybe they did.
But in this episode, I’m not asking what they did to you.
I’m asking: What part of you let it happen… and called it love?

This episode is about the truth.
The kind that doesn’t trend on Instagram.
The kind that doesn’t care about “your side of the story.”
The kind that makes you flinch when you hear it—but changes your life when you own it.

The truth is: it was you.

You stayed when they begged you to leave with their actions.
You justified their silence because it mirrored how you silence your own needs.
You took the blame for being “too much,” when in reality—you were too little for yourself.

In this episode of Facing the Mirror, I’m cutting through your excuses and calling out the emotional self-sabotage you’ve been dressing up as healing. This is the wake-up call your inner child, your future self, and your soul have all been waiting for.

🎯 In this episode, I uncover:

• How we weaponize empathy and call it love

• Why we attract emotionally unavailable people and blame them for leaving

• The lies we tell ourselves that are more dangerous than any betrayal

• Why people don’t lie to us—they lie from their own wounds

• The difference between being manipulated and allowing manipulation because it feels familiar

• Why “healing” without accountability is just spiritual bypassing

• The harsh reality of romanticizing pain and calling it depth

This episode will confront you with the patterns you've been defending.
It will ask you to stop looking at the wreckage and start looking in the mirror.
And it will push you toward the most painful—and powerful—question:

“What part of my pain do I keep feeding so I don’t have to grow?”

You weren’t naïve.
You weren’t innocent.
You were participating in a pattern you didn’t want to end.
Why?
Because chaos felt like connection.
Because neglect felt like home.
Because you thought suffering meant you mattered.

But here’s the good news:
You were the problem—so now, you get to be the solution.

🪞This episode is for:

• The woman who keeps calling it a “situationship” but it’s actually emotional addiction

• The man who feels emotionally numb but keeps blaming every ex

• The soul who claims to be healing but refuses to be honest

• The person who’s tired of pretending they didn’t see the red flags waving

• The survivor who’s finally ready to stop telling the same story and start changing the outcome

💬 Listener Reflection Prompt:
“What lie have I been telling myself to protect my pain?”
Write it down.
Sit with it.
And let it burn away everything that’s no longer true.

👥 Want real support as you face the truth?

🔒 Join Anchored Connections—a private, judgment-free community where healing isn’t filtered, and honesty is sacred.

🧠 Come to The Parts We Bury—my weekly shadow work Zoom room where we don’t perform healing—we practice it.

🎯 Book a 1:1 coaching session with me if you’re finally ready to stop explaining your pain and start transforming it. www.HealingMyFeelings.com

🎙️ About the Host:

I’m Christina —trauma-informed life coach, Stage 4 cancer warrior, and a woman who’s survived abuse, betrayal, loss, and the brutal honesty of healing. I’m not here to sugarcoat your growth. I’m here to help you take your power back.

With a background in psychology, divinity, and metaphysical healing, my work cuts deep—because shallow healing doesn’t work.

📌 Connect with Me:
Website: HealingMyFeelings.com
If this episode made you uncomfortable
That’s exactly the point.
Because clarity doesn’t come from coddling.
It comes from finally being brave enough to admit:

It wasn’t them.
It was you.
And now?
It’s time to heal that part.