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Choose Better Thoughts
Amanda Doyle
28 episodes
1 week ago
Join Amanda Doyle, Certified Life and Leadership Coach, as she helps high-achieving moms break free from stress, overthinking, and perfectionism so they can finally experience more confidence, ease, and control at work, at home, and with themselves. Each episode blends brain science, real-life coaching, and practical mindset shifts to help you feel more in control of your time, be more present in your relationships, experience more peace in your mind. Because when you change the way you think, everything else follows. Hit “Follow” or “Subscribe” so you never miss an episode!
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Join Amanda Doyle, Certified Life and Leadership Coach, as she helps high-achieving moms break free from stress, overthinking, and perfectionism so they can finally experience more confidence, ease, and control at work, at home, and with themselves. Each episode blends brain science, real-life coaching, and practical mindset shifts to help you feel more in control of your time, be more present in your relationships, experience more peace in your mind. Because when you change the way you think, everything else follows. Hit “Follow” or “Subscribe” so you never miss an episode!
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Choose Better Thoughts
The Second Sentence Is the Suffering

Pain is part of life; extra suffering is often a story we add. The first sentence is the fact—boring, security-camera neutral. The second sentence is our swift conclusion: “This means I’m behind…they don’t respect me…I always mess this up.” That add-on thought spikes emotion and narrows options. In this episode, you’ll learn to separate fact from story in the moment, try on gentler alternatives, and choose actions that create relief instead of residue. Five minutes of “second-sentence” awareness can return hours of energy to your day.


You’ll Learn:

  • Why the “letdown effect” happens (and how to stop making it mean you’re failing)
  • A two-minute body check-in that reduces spirals without fixing or numbing
  • A 3-step “Name → Normalize → Nurture” script for fast, kind self-regulation
  • How to design micro-rest that actually restores (presence over productivity)
  • One practical swap this week to land softer after your next push


Want help with your real life? Join the 90‑Day Mastermind: six live coaching workshops, audio mini‑lessons to your phone, and a private community of high‑achieving women. We’ll run your exact scenario through the model and stack weekly 10% wins until you feel 100% more you. I’m inviting five to ten women.


Here’s the link: https://www.choosebetterthoughts.com/coachingprogram


Follow me on:

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⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/amandahuffmandoyle/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


And if you like this episode, don’t forget to follow, subscribe, leave a review or send it to a friend who might need this! I am so grateful to you!


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1 week ago
20 minutes 40 seconds

Choose Better Thoughts
When Your Body Says “No More Bulldozing”

You push through the launch, the big meeting, the recital—and then comes the strange, heavy quiet. Instead of relief, your body serves up flatness, irritability, or a fog you can’t shake. Nothing’s wrong with you; that’s your nervous system landing.

This episode names the “post-push crash,” explains why stillness can feel unsafe after a sprint, and gives you short, compassionate practices to help your system downshift without turning recovery into another performance metric. You’ll leave with a 3-minute re-entry plan you can use after any big effort.


You’ll Learn:

Why the “letdown effect” happens (and how to stop making it mean you’re failing)

A two-minute body check-in that reduces spirals without fixing or numbing

A 3-step “Name → Normalize → Nurture” script for fast, kind self-regulation

How to design micro-rest that actually restores (presence over productivity)

One practical swap this week to land softer after your next push


Want help with your real life? Join the 90‑Day Mastermind: six live coaching workshops, audio mini‑lessons to your phone, and a private community of high‑achieving women. We’ll run your exact scenario through the model and stack weekly 10% wins until you feel 100% more you. I’m inviting five to ten women. Here’s the link: https://www.choosebetterthoughts.com/coachingprogram


Follow me on:

Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/choosebetterthoughts/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn:

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/amandahuffmandoyle/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


And if you like this episode, don’t forget to follow, subscribe, leave a review or send it to a friend who might need this! I am so grateful to you!


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2 weeks ago
16 minutes 17 seconds

Choose Better Thoughts
Releasing Control Without Becoming a Doormat

If you’ve ever caught yourself silently grading a partner, colleague, or co-parent on how well they follow your unwritten rules, you’re not alone. We call it “the manual”—that invisible rulebook that promises safety but delivers resentment and exhaustion. In this episode, we unpack why high-achievers default to managing other people’s behavior, how that erodes trust (and your energy), and what it looks like to lead with clean boundaries instead. You’ll practice shifting from policing to self-ownership, so you can say less, do less, and mean more—without abandoning your standards or your self-respect.


You’ll learn:

How to spot your hidden “manual” and the telltale signs it’s running the show

A simple boundary formula that centers your behavior, not their compliance

The difference between care, control, and coercion—and why it matters for intimacy and leadershipA quick self-coaching loop to interrupt people-pleasing and over-explaining in real time

One tiny experiment to trade perfection for consistency this week


Want help with your real life? Join the 90‑Day Mastermind: six live coaching workshops, audio mini‑lessons to your phone, and a private community of high‑achieving women. We’ll run your exact scenario through the model and stack weekly 10% wins until you feel 100% more you. I’m inviting five to ten women.

Here’s the link: https://www.choosebetterthoughts.com/coachingprogram


Follow me on:

Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/choosebetterthoughts/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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https://www.linkedin.com/in/amandahuffmandoyle/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


And if you like this episode, don’t forget to follow, subscribe, leave a review or send it to a friend who might need this! I am so grateful to you!


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3 weeks ago
17 minutes 15 seconds

Choose Better Thoughts
Bounce House Balls & Better Thoughts

In this episode, Amanda turns a big idea into an easy mental game: your thought creates your result. We walk through three everyday moments, hosting with bounce‑house balls and mysterious house piles, over‑prepping for a client, and late‑night wheat thins, and practice flipping the default story to its literal opposite (with three pieces of evidence for your brain) for a quick 10% shift in mindset and results that add up over time


You’ll learn:

How to separate facts from your brain’s story in under 10 seconds

Why your brain thinks the fact causes your feelings (threat scan, gold stars, identity)

The powerful self-coaching model in real life—no jargon

The literal‑opposite trick (not affirmations) + how to gather three pieces of evidence to rewire your brain

An easy action step so you that you can use it this week and make your life feel easier


Want help with your real life?


Join the 90‑Day Mastermind: six live coaching workshops, audio mini‑lessons to your phone, and a private community of high‑achieving women. We’ll run your exact scenario through the model and stack weekly 10% wins until you feel 100% more you. I’m inviting five to ten women. Here’s the link: https://www.choosebetterthoughts.com/coachingprogram


Follow me on:

Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/choosebetterthoughts/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/amandahuffmandoyle/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


And if you like this episode, don’t forget to follow, subscribe, leave a review or send it to a friend who might need this! I am so grateful to you!


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1 month ago
20 minutes 41 seconds

Choose Better Thoughts
Too Fast, Too Slow: Making Peace with Time

Today’s episode is about that strange paradox we all feel at some point: wanting time to slow down and speed up all at once. This morning, as I dropped off my youngest for her very first day of kindergarten, I felt both: the grief of how quickly she’s growing and the longing for six months from now when life in California feels more settled. If you’ve ever wanted to savor the moment and rush to the next chapter at the same time, this episode is for you.

What You Will Learn

Why it makes perfect sense to want time to both slow down and speed up.

How grief and impatience are signals, not problems, and what they’re really telling you.

What neuroscience and cognitive dissonance reveal about our relationship with time.

How to shift from arguing with time to partnering with it, using small, believable mindset shifts.

Two practical ways to honor what matters: by savoring what’s here and taking one step toward what’s next.


Want to Go Deeper Into Your Mindset?

Watch "How to Exit Survival Mode" Free Training

⁠⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/cbtsurvivalmode⁠⁠⁠⁠


Download the Study Guide:

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Follow Me On:

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2 months ago
15 minutes 39 seconds

Choose Better Thoughts
Leadership Without Urgency and Grace Without Guilt

Most women are trying to move through their mornings and evenings with the same expectations, the same mindset, and the same energy, and it’s exhausting. Your body, brain, and emotional capacity are different at the start and end of the day. And you already know how to respond to that difference—for your kids.


In this episode, we look at how your natural parenting instincts, structure and focus in the morning, softness and presence at night, can become a mirror for how to care for yourself. You’ll learn why your nervous system shifts the way it does, how your thoughts follow the same pattern each day, and what it might mean to bring yourself into rhythm with your real life. Not the perfect routine. The one you’re already living.


What You Will Learn

Why your brain and body shift so dramatically from morning to night

What cortisol, decision fatigue, and emotional processing have to do with it

How your parenting instincts can mirror what you need for yourself

Why your morning thoughts feel urgent and your evening thoughts feel heavy

A few simple practices to match the rhythm you’re already living


Want to Go Deeper Into Your Mindset?

Watch "How to Exit Survival Mode" Free Training

⁠⁠⁠https://bit.ly/cbtsurvivalmode⁠⁠⁠


Download the Study Guide:

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.choosebetterthoughts.com/podcast-study-guide-download⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


Check My Coach Coaching Program:

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Follow Me On:

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2 months ago
15 minutes 43 seconds

Choose Better Thoughts
Escaping the Trap You Didn’t Know You Built

When you were deep in people-pleasing and perfectionism, the urge was to control. You controlled your tone, your timing, your calendar, your image. You got good at managing how others experienced you. And for a while, it worked. But once you stop performing and start telling the truth, a new urge can show up, the urge to escape. Not because your life is falling apart, but because it was built around a version of you who no longer exists.


This episode is about what happens after the unlearning. When you’re no longer shape-shifting to stay safe, but you still feel trapped inside the choices you made from that old version of you. It’s the part no one talks about: when freedom doesn’t feel freeing yet. We’ll talk about how to recognize the trap, how to understand the urge to escape, and how to stay with yourself long enough to let something new emerge. Not through fixing or burning it all down, but through honesty, presence, and slow return.


What You Will Learn

Why the urge to escape often shows up after you stop controlling everything.

How people-pleasing and perfectionism can shape your entire life, not just your behavior.

What makes this phase feel disorienting, even when nothing is “wrong.”

How to stay with the urge to escape without burning it all down.

Why naming what no longer fits is more powerful than fixing it.


Want to Go Deeper Into Your Mindset?

Watch "How to Exit Survival Mode" Free Training

⁠⁠https://bit.ly/cbtsurvivalmode⁠⁠


Download the Study Guide:

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.choosebetterthoughts.com/podcast-study-guide-download⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


Check My Coach Coaching Program:

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Follow Me On:

Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/choosebetterthoughts/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


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2 months ago
14 minutes 36 seconds

Choose Better Thoughts
Your Brain Is a Puppy: Give It a Chew Toy

You cleared the calendar. You created white space on purpose, but now your brain is filling that space with worry, busywork, or impulse clicks, and you’re wondering why rest feels so weird.

In this episode, I share what’s really going on when we feel restless in the quiet, why your brain instinctively reaches for drama, perfectionism, or dopamine and what you can offer it instead. We’ll talk about the neuroscience behind this “vacuum effect,” the kinds of low-pressure focus that actually help, and one of my favorite mindset tools for building direction without sliding back into hustle.


What You Will Learn

Why your brain doesn’t always interpret white space as peace and what it does instead

The science behind your brain’s default behavior when there’s nothing to solve

How to spot the difference between real presence and reactivity disguised as productivity

What a “gentle chew toy” is and how it can help you refocus without forcing structure

Why direction (not discipline) is often the most effective form of support


Want to Go Deeper Into Your Mindset?

Watch "How to Exit Survival Mode" Free Training

⁠⁠https://bit.ly/cbtsurvivalmode⁠⁠


Download the Study Guide:

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.choosebetterthoughts.com/podcast-study-guide-download⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


Check My Coach Coaching Program:

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.choosebetterthoughts.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


Follow Me On:

Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/choosebetterthoughts/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


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3 months ago
12 minutes 8 seconds

Choose Better Thoughts
When "I Should" Stops Working

If you're tired of using pressure and guilt to drive your goals, this episode is for you. I'm sharing a simple mindset shift, one that helped me go from “I should” to “what if I already was,” and how it completely changed the way I relate to my goals. We’ll talk about why “should” goals feel heavy, how “what if” identities create momentum, and how you can use this tool today to feel more aligned, playful, and in motion.


What You Will Learn

Why “I should” goals create pressure and what to try instead.

How to use “what if” questions to reframe your goals with ease.

The brain science behind why imagined identity creates real change.

How to shift your mindset without forcing belief or motivation.

A simple way to move toward the version of you you actually want to become.


Want to Go Deeper Into Your Mindset?

Watch "How to Exit Survival Mode" Free Training

⁠https://bit.ly/cbtsurvivalmode⁠


Download the Study Guide:

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.choosebetterthoughts.com/podcast-study-guide-download⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


Check My Coach Coaching Program:

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.choosebetterthoughts.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


Follow Me On:

Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/choosebetterthoughts/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


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3 months ago
11 minutes 17 seconds

Choose Better Thoughts
Amazon Returns and Emotional Avoidance

This episode starts with a return you’ve been avoiding and ends with a different way of seeing yourself. We’re exploring why small tasks feel emotionally loaded, what your brain is really doing when you procrastinate, and how the patterns you reinforce in the little moments shape how you show up in the big ones. No hacks. No pressure. Just a different way to respond to the part of you that wants to avoid.


What You Will Learn

Why tasks like returns trigger unexpected emotional resistance (it’s not about the task)

How shame, guilt, or dread quietly fuel procrastination—even on things that “should be simple”

The connection between small avoidance and your bigger identity patterns

How to name the emotion under the delay—and relate to it differently

A way to move forward that doesn’t require a breakthrough, just a different kind of self-leadership


Want to Go Deeper Into Your Mindset?

Watch "How to Exit Survival Mode" Free Training

https://bit.ly/cbtsurvivalmode


Download the Study Guide:

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.choosebetterthoughts.com/podcast-study-guide-download⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


Check My Coach Coaching Program:

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.choosebetterthoughts.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


Follow Me On:

Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/choosebetterthoughts/⁠⁠⁠⁠


⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/amandahuffmandoyle/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


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3 months ago
17 minutes 37 seconds

Choose Better Thoughts
The Power of Naming Your Mom Modes

You are not one version of yourself. You’re a whole cast of characters, each one with her own wisdom, energy, and role to play.

In this episode, we explore the power of naming your mom archetypes and choosing, on purpose, who leads throughout your day. From Efficient Household Manager to Netflix Scrunchie Mom, from Emotionally Patient Mom to Dancing Mom, every part of you matters. And when you let them take turns instead of fighting for control, everything softens.


What You Will Learn

How naming your everyday “mom modes” can help reduce mental overwhelm

Why switching roles isn’t the problem, it’s doing it unconsciously that drains us

The difference between choosing who leads vs. trying to be everything at once

A simple three-step practice for shifting into the energy you actually need

Why honoring your full cast of selves brings more presence, creativity, and ease


Want to Go Deeper Into Your Mindset?

Download the Study Guide:

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.choosebetterthoughts.com/podcast-study-guide-download⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


Check My Coach Coaching Program:

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.choosebetterthoughts.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


Follow Me On:

Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/choosebetterthoughts/⁠⁠⁠


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3 months ago
12 minutes 58 seconds

Choose Better Thoughts
The Pressure Triangle

You can’t prioritize everything at once, and that’s not a failure, it’s life.

In this episode, I share a practical tool for letting go of guilt when life feels stretched too thin. Inspired by a simple triangle framework, high-quality, efficient, and affordable, we explore how choosing two priorities often means letting the third take a backseat for now.

Whether you’re feeling stuck around meals, marriage, movement, or just trying to do it all, this reframe can help you make peace with your tradeoffs and move forward with more clarity and grace.


What You Will Learn

A simple but powerful framework to help you release guilt around subconsciously trying to do everything well, fast, and affordably

Why high-achieving women often feel like they’re failing, even when they’re doing everything right

How to identify your two current priorities and name what’s taking a backseat

Real-life examples of how this triangle shows up in meals, marriage, and movement

How to use this lens to make fast, grace-filled decisions without shame


Want to Go Deeper Into Your Mindset?

Download the Study Guide:

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.choosebetterthoughts.com/podcast-study-guide-download⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


Check My Coach Coaching Program:

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Follow Me On:

Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/choosebetterthoughts/⁠⁠⁠


⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠LinkedIn: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/amandahuffmandoyle/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


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4 months ago
17 minutes 17 seconds

Choose Better Thoughts
Same Fight, Different Night: A Self-Coaching Journey

This episode is about one of those nights. The kind where something small, like a missing safe food at dinner, turns into something big. The kind where you and your partner have the same argument you’ve had a dozen times, and afterward, you don’t like how you showed up.

I take you inside a real-life moment where my thoughts led me into anxiety, anger, and shame and how I’m working through it now using the self-coaching tools I teach. Not to shame myself. Not to pretend it didn’t happen. But to understand it, learn from it, and soften my return to connection.

This isn’t an episode about being right. It’s about what happens when we’re human and how we come back to ourselves and our people after that.


What You Will Learn

How one unspoken thought can quietly drive anxiety, reactivity, and shutdown

The specific difference between showing up as a partner vs. prosecuting your partner

What the self-coaching Model looks like in real life, not just in theory

How to shift from shame to self-compassion—without bypassing accountability

Why "repair" is more powerful than perfection, and how to start practicing it


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4 months ago
21 minutes 26 seconds

Choose Better Thoughts
When Adrenaline Wears Off: The Letdown Effect

Have you ever reached the end of something big—hosting, moving, launching, caregiving—and instead of feeling relief or joy, you feel... foggy? Flat? Off?

That’s not failure. It’s not brokenness. It’s called the letdown effect, and it’s a real, biologically-rooted phase where your nervous system finally catches up after being in go-mode.

In this episode, I share two very personal moments where this hit me hard, once after a simple playdate, and once after six months of robotically getting my family settled post-move. We’ll talk about why rest can feel so unfamiliar, what’s really happening underneath that resistance to joy, and how to meet it all with more self-trust and less judgment.



What the “letdown effect” is and why it feels so uncomfortable

Why joy or rest can feel unsafe after high-stress seasons

How to recognize the crash in yourself and in your kids

The thought patterns that keep us stuck in momentum

Practical ways to support your nervous system during recovery


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4 months ago
16 minutes 28 seconds

Choose Better Thoughts
How to Care Less

Caring is beautiful...until it becomes a unsustainable. When you tie your worth to outcomes, over-function to prove your value, or spin in fear of being misunderstood, you end up exhausted.

In this episode, you’ll learn how to care differently. Not less because you’re disengaged, but less because you’re done outsourcing your peace to things you can’t control.

We’ll explore the identity shift that happens when you stop managing perceptions and start leading from clarity, not fear. You’ll walk away with practical ways to take back your emotional power, one imperfect, intentional action at a time.




The subtle line between care and control and how to know when you’ve crossed it

  • Why loosening your emotional grip on outcomes doesn’t mean you’re disengaged

  • How high-achieving women often confuse over-caring with effectiveness (and what to do instead)

  • Four strategies to protect your energy while still showing up with heart and integrity

  • Four simple ways to practice aligned care without over-functioning or over-apologizing


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4 months ago
22 minutes 55 seconds

Choose Better Thoughts
How To Want When You Never Learned How

You’ve done everything right. The career. The family. The checked boxes. But you still feel… unfulfilled. A little numb. Like something’s missing, and you can’t name what.

In this episode, we explore what happens when high-achieving women realize they never really learned how to want, they only learned how to please.

We’ll unpack why this happens, how it shows up, and what it looks like to gently reconnect with your desire, without guilt, without proof, and without needing to justify it.


What You Will Learn:

  • Why high-achieving women often feel unfulfilled, even when life looks “good” on paper

  • How early conditioning around approval and performance disconnects us from authentic desire

  • The subtle ways perfectionism and people-pleasing show up in everyday decisions

  • Four practical strategies to gently rebuild your relationship with wanting, without guilt or justification

  • How to begin honoring your preferences in low-stakes moments to restore self-trust


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5 months ago
14 minutes 45 seconds

Choose Better Thoughts
"I Shouldn't Be Bored"

Feeling bored? Whether it’s during a long meeting, another round of pretend play, or a whole season of life that feels a little flat—this episode is for you.

We’re unpacking the belief that “I shouldn’t be bored” and exploring why it feels so hard to just be still. You’ll learn how boredom is often not the problem, but what we make it mean—and how allowing it (instead of fixing it) can actually be one of the most useful emotional skills you can build.

We’ll also talk about why our fast-paced lives make boredom feel like a crisis, and what it really means when you’re craving constant stimulation.


  • Why we’re conditioned to believe boredom is a problem and how to spot that conditioning in yourself

  • What buffering is, why we do it, and how it sneaks into your day without you realizing it

  • How to allow boredom without guilt or urgency, and why that’s an emotional strength

  • How to notice the thoughts that add shame and pressure to an otherwise neutral moment

  • What to do when you’re craving action or change—but might actually need rest and stillness


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5 months ago
18 minutes 14 seconds

Choose Better Thoughts
"I'm Losing Myself"

Do you ever look in the mirror and wonder, “Where did the old me go?” In this episode we unpack the brain-and-hormone remodel that’s quietly reshaping ambitious moms—and prove it means you’re upgrading, not unraveling.

You’ll learn a neuroscience-backed pause-and-label trick, craft a bridge thought that melts “I’m losing myself,” and run a one-sticky-note experiment that turns everyday moments into solid evidence of your evolving strengths.

By the end you’ll walk away with a calmer mind, concrete proof you’re still every bit as capable (just calibrated for a new season), and a clear micro-action plan you can start today.


What You Will Learn:

  • How to spot the “identity-shift” fog and understand the hormone-plus-brain science behind it (nothing’s wrong with you!).

    Pause and label sneaky thoughts like “I’m losing myself” so they lose their power.

    Channel each body-breadcrumb—tight chest, snack-bin obsession, spreadsheet boredom—as data for building your new identity, rather than treating them like emergencies.

    Run the C-T-F-A-R + bridge-thought combo to rewire unhelpful stories into kinder, truer ones.

  • Test one tiny action a day to gather real-world proof that the new you is already emerging.


    Want to Go Deeper Into Your Mindset?

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    5 months ago
    19 minutes 50 seconds

    Choose Better Thoughts
    "I Have To Do It Myself"

    In this episode, we aim at the belief “I have to do it myself.” You’ll see why a brain that can juggle only four things starts to melt down when you add “just one more,” learn a simple thought-to-result model that shows exactly where the stress begins and what it creates, and test a small delegation challenge that frees up real time…without lowering your standards.


    If you’ve ever signed school forms at midnight and still woken up to chaos, this episode offers a new way forward, one shared task…and one calmer morning…at a time.


    What You Will Learn:

    • Identify the “I-have-to-do-it-myself” loop using the self-coaching model, and then watch the same pattern pop up at work, at home, and everywhere in between.

    • Understand why working memory tops out at four items and how delegating protects your mental bandwidth.

    • Practice letting “lived-in” mess stay visible so your nervous system learns that not every untidy moment is an emergency.

    • Swap an unintentional self-coaching model for an intentional one with a single bridge thought, then track real-world proof in an evidence log.

    • Run a 24-hour delegation experiment that can win back almost two hours a week and teach your brain that collaboration really works.


    Want to Go Deeper Into Your Mindset?

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    https://www.choosebetterthoughts.com/...


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    5 months ago
    21 minutes 29 seconds

    Choose Better Thoughts
    "I'm Behind"

    If a friend’s promotion post has ever sent you down a doom-scroll rabbit hole of job tabs and self-doubt, this episode is your antidote. In just half an hour we’ll catch the “I’m behind” thought at the source, drain the panic in ninety seconds, and reframe every twist in your résumé as intentional training for what’s next.


    You’ll leave with a fresh belief that actually feels true, a delight-driven vision for the year ahead, and a micro-action you can take before the school-pick-up alarm goes off. Let’s turn comparison into clarity—one practical move at a time.


    What You Will Learn

    • How to spot the exact millisecond comparison hijacks your brain and install a quick “pop-up blocker” before it spirals.

    • A 90-second, science-backed reset you can run while the microwave hums, turning urgency into usable information.

    • A simple test that separates the photograph of your career (hard data) from the anxious caption “I’m behind.”

    • A step-by-step way to translate zig-zag experience into a clear value story so that your résumé reads adaptable, not late.

      One five-minute action ritual that builds daily momentum (and proof) without adding another thing to your to-do list.


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    6 months ago
    23 minutes 41 seconds

    Choose Better Thoughts
    Join Amanda Doyle, Certified Life and Leadership Coach, as she helps high-achieving moms break free from stress, overthinking, and perfectionism so they can finally experience more confidence, ease, and control at work, at home, and with themselves. Each episode blends brain science, real-life coaching, and practical mindset shifts to help you feel more in control of your time, be more present in your relationships, experience more peace in your mind. Because when you change the way you think, everything else follows. Hit “Follow” or “Subscribe” so you never miss an episode!