You know that “getting ready” drink? Music on, messages pinging, maybe a quick glass of wine before heading out. In this episode, we talk about why pre-gaming happens and why it’s one of the easiest habits to change.
For some people, it’s about wanting to feel the celebration before the celebration. For others, it’s about calming the nerves before walking into a social event. Either way, it’s emotional prep. But what if you didn’t need it? What if the excitement or calm you want is already there?
Learn how to keep the fun, lose the dependency, and walk out the door feeling great before the night even begins. Ready to feel confident without the pre-game?
Book your free discovery call and let’s make that your new normal: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
As Sober October wraps up, don’t just tick it off and move on. Pause and ask: What did I learn? What worked? What do I want to carry forward? In this episode, we celebrate the wins (even the tiny ones), reflect without judgment, and look at how to keep your momentum going into November.
Most people who complete Sober October know exactly when they’ll drink again - November 1st. Right!? But what if you bucked the trend? What if this time felt different? You’ve gathered a month’s worth of awareness and proof that you can do hard things. Now it’s time to decide how you’ll use it.
If you’ve had even a glimpse of what freedom could feel like this month, this episode will help you build on it - not lose it. Ready to make that freedom your new normal? Book your free discovery call today and let’s make the holidays the moment it all starts to feel easy. 👉 Book your call here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
Halfway through Sober October and feeling... mixed? Maybe proud, maybe tired, maybe counting down the days till November 1st. That’s normal. But if you’re white-knuckling your way through, fighting urges, or beating yourself up because you slipped — this episode is for you.
We’re talking about what to do if the streak’s been broken, how to stop powering through and start learning through, and why the goal isn’t a perfect month — it’s progress that lasts long after October ends.
If evenings still feel hard or you’re ready for personalised support, book a free discovery call with me. Together we’ll figure out what’s keeping you stuck and start building the calm, confident relationship with alcohol you actually want.
Book your call here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
If you’re taking part in Sober October, here’s the truth: it’s not all glow and clarity. Expect it to be hard. Expect it to feel strange when the routine shifts. And if you’re not going fully alcohol-free, expect to feel a bit underwhelmed — like you’re not exactly “crushing it.” That’s okay. You’re not performing, you’re experimenting. Every small choice not to drink on autopilot teaches your brain something valuable.
In this episode, I share what to really expect during Sober October — the messy, normal, and surprisingly powerful parts. From the urges to the boredom to the people already planning their November 1st drink, I’ll show you how to approach this month with curiosity instead of pressure.
If you’re ready to turn this experiment into lasting freedom, book your free discovery call using this link: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
You have cut back your drinking. Now what? At first it takes a lot of focus: tracking, planning, paying close attention to your triggers. But once you get some results, things start to feel easier and maybe even a little boring. That is when the brain whispers, “Great, we are done. Can we stop all this effort and just go back?” If you have ever felt wobbly in this stage, or wondered what comes next once the nightly glass is not such a battle, this episode is for you.
I will show you why that wobble is normal, how to move beyond drink counts into identity and long-term confidence, and what it really takes to turn progress into lasting freedom.
Book a free discovery call and let’s explore what reward could look like without the wine: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
You’ve taken wine off the table, but now what? In this episode, we dig into what really happens when alcohol used to be your go-to reward and nothing else seems to scratch the itch. You’ll learn why the “I deserve it” mindset feels so powerful, how your brain responds to alcohol in ways that build habit fast, and why you might feel flat or deprived without it, even if you don’t want to drink.
If you’ve stopped drinking but still feel like something’s missing, this conversation will help you understand why. And more importantly, what to do next. Book a free discovery call and let’s explore what reward could look like without the wine.
Book a free discovery call and let’s explore what reward could look like without the wine: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
And don’t forget to sign up to The Freedom Lab. A new and more inspired way to spend Sober October - whether you want to abstain completely or just learn to drink less. Sign up here: https://kickstart.90dayslater.co/tfl-eb
When life feels overwhelming, do you find yourself reaching for a drink just to switch off? In this episode I explore the difference between craving the alcohol itself and craving the escape it promises. From late nights when your mind will not stop racing, to heavy responsibilities at work or home, to moments of grief or stress that feel too big to bear, drinking to escape can feel like the only option. But it quietly chips away at your resilience and keeps you stuck.
You will learn why willpower alone is not enough, how to normalise emotions without numbing them, and practical ways to create real comfort in your body when everything feels too much. If you have ever told yourself, “I will cut back once life calms down,” this episode will show you how to stop waiting and start building resilience right now, no matter what is happening in your life.
Book a free discovery call and let’s explore what reward could look like without the wine: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
👉 Want to know the one experiment that makes escaping with wine unnecessary? Join my free Experiment Your Way to Alcohol Freedom this Sober October webinar this Friday 19 September at 12:30pm ET / 5:30pm UK. If you’ve got friends doing Sober October too, invite them along! Register here: https://kickstart.90dayslater.co/fl-webinar
When you crave a drink, are you really craving the wine, or the comfort you believe it will bring? In this episode I explore the difference, because so often it is not the alcohol you actually want. It is the relief from stress, sleeplessness, pain, or just the endless chatter in your head. Once you can see that distinction, everything begins to change.
I will share real-life examples, practical tools, and a playful reframe that helps you meet your body’s need for comfort without pouring a glass. You will learn how to pause, how to experiment with new ways of caring for yourself, and how to start breaking the cycle of chasing relief that never lasts.
Book a free discovery call and let’s explore what reward could look like without the wine: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
We tell ourselves the glass in our hand is what makes a night fun. That the drink is the sparkle, the release, the reason an evening feels special. But if that were true, then people who don’t drink would never have fun — and no event could ever be enjoyable without alcohol. In this episode, I unpack why our brains confuse permission with pleasure, how alcohol piggybacks on moments we’ve already decided are “fun time,” and why those nights often come with consequences that don’t feel so fun the next day.
You’ll hear real-world examples of how fun actually gets created, plus simple tools you can use to reclaim joy without needing a glass in your hand. If you’ve ever wondered whether it’s really the drink that makes the night, this conversation will give you the proof it isn’t — and show you how to create the kind of fun that doesn’t leave you with regret.
Ready to build real freedom around alcohol? Book a free discovery call with me today here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
By the way, I’ve got something exciting coming for Sober October—a 30-day break to reset your relationship with alcohol. If you’re curious, join my email list to be the first to hear all the details. Head to https://90dayslater.co/list/
“ Holding it all together” isn’t just about your to-do list. There’s the action of doing it, the belief you should be able to do it all, and the crushing pressure of being the one everyone relies on. In this episode, I unpack those three layers and show why wine feels like the shortcut release, but never actually lightens the load.
You’ll hear real-life examples from work, home, and relationships, plus practical ways to ease the weight without needing a glass in your hand. If you’ve ever felt like drinking is the only way to exhale, this conversation will help you find new options for relief and remind you that your worth has never depended on holding it all together. Ready to create real freedom around alcohol?
Book a free discovery call with me today: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
Last week we explored the regret that comes from not starting sooner. This week I am diving into the other kind of regret, the one that shows up the morning after when you wake up frustrated and think, “Why do I do this to myself?” On the surface, it sounds like a reasonable question. But the truth is, it is not curiosity at all, it is criticism dressed up as reflection. And that keeps you stuck.
In this episode, I will show you why that question is really a roadblock, the three common responses people fall into after a night that did not go as planned, and the one that actually leads to lasting change. If you have ever found yourself replaying the night and beating yourself up, this is the conversation that will help you step out of shame and into supportive curiosity instead.
Listen now and then book your free discovery call with me to put this into practice in your own life: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
Ever decided to change your drinking and then been hit with the thought, “Why didn’t I do this years ago?” You are not alone. That “regret for not starting sooner” can keep you stuck before you have even built momentum. In this episode, I share why regret is one of the most pointless feelings out there and give you a simple 3-step process to drop it fast.
We will talk real-life situations like trying to make your holiday more alcohol-free but finding yourself drinking on autopilot, and how to shift from beating yourself up to actually using the lesson.
If you have been listening to this podcast for months and waiting for the right time, this is it. Book your free call today and if you decide to start coaching with me in August, you will receive a free copy of my book The Off Switch as my summer gift so you can start making changes before our first session.
Book your call here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
You’ve taken wine off the table, but now what? In this episode, we dig into what really happens when alcohol used to be your go-to reward and nothing else seems to scratch the itch. You’ll learn why the “I deserve it” mindset feels so powerful, how your brain responds to alcohol in ways that build habit fast, and why you might feel flat or deprived without it, even if you don’t want to drink.
If you’ve stopped drinking but still feel like something’s missing, this conversation will help you understand why. And more importantly, what to do next. Book a free discovery call and let’s explore what reward could look like without the wine.
Book your call here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
You’ve stopped drinking, but the thoughts are still there. Why? In this episode, we explore what it really means to find mental freedom, not just behavioural change. You’ll learn why thinking about alcohol all the time isn’t a sign something’s wrong with you, but a sign your brain is still working from an old script.
If you’re feeling stuck, afraid you’ll slip, or like you’re wearing someone else’s life that doesn’t quite fit, this conversation will help you understand what’s really going on. Ready to stop managing alcohol and start moving on from it?
Book a free discovery call and let’s get to work: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
Why do we still reach for a glass of wine, even when life feels good? In this episode, we unpack the science and psychology behind the dopamine default - the pattern where wine becomes your easy button, not because you're stressed, but because your brain has learned to expect it. You'll hear why craving isn't a flaw, why dopamine isn't the problem, and what’s really going on when simple pleasures stop feeling satisfying.
If wine still feels magnetic even on the best days, this episode will change the way you see desire and help you understand what your brain is really asking for. Ready to build a different kind of default? Book a free discovery call and let’s explore what that could look like for you: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
Ever find yourself saying “I’m just a rebel” after doing something you didn’t actually want to do? This episode explores what’s really behind that pattern, why certain rules backfire, and what might be hiding underneath the urge to break them. If you’re caught between being good and letting go, this is your sign to listen in.
Ready to stop rebelling against yourself? Book a free discovery call and let’s talk about what freedom could really look like for you: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
What if the highlight of your day wasn’t a glass of wine? In this episode, we’re unpacking what happens when wine becomes the entertainment, when it’s not just part of the fun, but the main event. From laundry to emails to nights out, I’m sharing why so many high-achieving women quietly rely on alcohol to add excitement, and how you can gently shift that pattern without feeling deprived or dull. Plus, a personal story about going to the theatre without wine and loving every second of it.
Book a free discovery call and let’s talk about what entertainment could really look like for you without the automatic glass (or two) of wine: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
Feeling like you should be further along by now? You’re not alone—and you’re not behind.
In this episode, we’re unpacking the sneaky pressure of timelines and progress guilt, especially when it comes to drinking less. Whether you’re moderating, cutting back, or navigating tricky social moments, this is your reminder that it’s not about being perfect—it’s about building a process you can trust. I’ll walk you through real-life examples, reframes that actually help, and a powerful shift that will change how you think about “slip-ups” forever.
Book a free call and I’ll help you build a version of drinking that works for you. Access my calendar here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
Why is it that drinking in the morning feels unthinkable… but by late afternoon, the same glass feels totally justified? In this episode of 90 Days Later, we’re unpacking the quiet power of permission—how your brain starts negotiating against your own goals as the day wears on, and why seemingly kind encouragement from others (like a partner saying “It’s okay if you have one”) can actually make you feel more conflicted, not supported. If you’ve ever made a plan to go wine-free only to rewrite it by 5pm, this conversation is for you.
We’ll explore how seeking—and giving—yourself permission plays out in subtle, surprising ways, and how to flip the script so your choices actually reflect what you really want. If you’re tired of outsourcing your peace to the mood, the moment, or someone else’s opinion, let’s talk. Book a free call and I’ll help you build a version of drinking that works for you. Access my calendar here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
Sign up for the 10 Summer Drinking Mistakes free training (available from 24 - 27 June) here: https://kickstart.90dayslater.co/10-summer-mistakes
Is moderation even possible—or are you just setting yourself up for disappointment? In this week’s episode of 90 Days Later, I’m breaking down the truth about moderation, why it works for some and not others, and how to know if it’s the right path for you. Spoiler: it’s not about being “good enough” to control your drinking—it’s about understanding why you want to, and building self-trust from the inside out. We’ll talk about what moderation really takes, the mindset shifts that make it easier, and why some clients eventually choose to leave alcohol behind altogether—on their own terms.
Whether you’re cutting back, taking a break, or somewhere in the messy middle, this episode will remind you that your journey doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s. You don’t need a crisis to make a change. You just need a willingness to listen to that quiet voice that says, “This isn’t working anymore.”
👉 If that voice is getting louder—and you’re ready for real support—book a free call and let’s talk about what’s possible for you here: https://tidycal.com/90dayslater/consult
Sign up for the 10 Summer Drinking Mistakes free training (available from 24 - 27 June) here: https://kickstart.90dayslater.co/10-summer-mistakes