"If you wouldn't let them through your front door, they're not getting in the community."
In the final part of this raw 2.5 hour conversation, we completely redefine what friendship means in 2025, and why the old rules are making everyone miserable.
Elle and Cam break down why feeling obligated to respond to every text, show up to every event, or maintain weekly check-ins is actually preventing real connection. They share why the best friendships operate on spontaneity and flow rather than rigid expectations.
What we explore:
• Why "I haven't posted since 2011" people don't understand the attention differential
• The evolution of friendship from obligation-based to flow-based connection
• Why real friends can disappear for 6 months and pick up where they left off
• How we're building a community where healthy attachment is the default
• The passive-aggressive friendship texts that signal unhealthy attachment ("Did you fall off the Earth?")
• Why you don't owe anyone your time, energy, or immediate response
• How redefining "friend" makes room for actual depth and presence
This isn't about being a bad friend. It's about building friendships that don't drain you, where you show up because you genuinely want to, not because you're obligated to.
If you've ever felt exhausted by friendship expectations, guilty for not texting back, or suffocated by people who need constant validation... this conversation will set you free.
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Cameron Hogan is an intuitive healer who helps high-performers shed their limiting beliefs and awaken. He is CEO of High Vibe Ventures, where he’s evolving work and business practices to match the planet’s rising consciousness. Cameron loves to write, speak at conferences, solve major life problems via courses, and build communities for meaningful connection like The Board.
Elle Beecher helps people find community and fall in love with their lives. Elle is founder and leader of The Board Walks, a global movement of weekly walks in multiple cities with over 16,000 attendees, and its premium extension called The Board. She writes openly about her experiences and 2 AM revelations in The Elle Diaries newsletter. She was awarded Forbes 30 Under 30 for her expertise in community building.
Have you ever left a conversation feeling completely drained... even though the other person thought it was amazing?
Or walked into a room full of people and felt utterly alone?
In Part 2 of this raw 2.5 hour conversation, Elle and Cam unpack why that happens, and what we're building to solve it.
We dive deep into the energetic differential (why you end up coaching people without realizing it), the consciousness gap (why most relationships feel misaligned), and the philosophy behind The Board: a curated community for people who are tired of settling for surface-level connections.
What we explore:
• Why the person with more space always ends up giving in conversations
• The "full cup" vs "empty cup" dynamic and how it affects all your relationships
• Why over-inclusivity has made most communities mediocre (and how ruthless curation creates magic)
• The consciousness differential: why conversations always center around the least free person
• How we're building The Board for high-consciousness, high-competence people ready to rise together
• Why feeling lonely in a crowd is actually a sign you're ready for the next level
• The real reason you can't answer DMs (it's not what you think)
This is about finding your frequency. Your people. Your home.
If you've ever felt like you're walking through a dark hallway waiting to find the light, or if you're tired of being the one who always holds space while no one pours into you... this one's for you.
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Cameron Hogan is an intuitive healer who helps high-performers shed their limiting beliefs and awaken. He is CEO of High Vibe Ventures, where he’s evolving work and business practices to match the planet’s rising consciousness. Cameron loves to write, speak at conferences, solve major life problems via courses, and build communities for meaningful connection like The Board.
Elle Beecher helps people find community and fall in love with their lives. Elle is founder and leader of The Board Walks, a global movement of weekly walks in multiple cities with over 16,000 attendees, and its premium extension called The Board. She writes openly about her experiences and 2 AM revelations in The Elle Diaries newsletter. She was awarded Forbes 30 Under 30 for her expertise in community building.
In episode 3 of Hot Seat, Akaash explores his lifelong struggle with authority figures, and discovers his higher self has become the latest one he's rebelling against.
Growing up with a commanding mother who dictated every decision and an absent father who prioritized career over family, Akaash learned early that complying meant survival. He never knew he could choose. Teachers, coaches, even white males in general, he felt himself shrink around anyone he perceived as having power over him. For years, alcohol was the only thing that let him feel "normal" around people.
Fast forward to today: Akaash has transformed nearly every area of his life. He left toxic relationships, quit his corporate career, moved cities, built a spiritual practice. But there's still one domain where he feels paralyzed, approaching women when his heart tells him to. And in this conversation, the pattern becomes crystal clear.
His higher self is giving him directions (intuitive hits to talk to someone), and he's treating those nudges like orders from an authority figure he doesn't want to obey. The same rebellion that protected him as a child is now the thing keeping him from his deepest desires. Cam breaks down how the final 5% of reclaiming your power isn't about healing wounds from external authority, it's about trusting yourself enough to follow your own inner knowing without resistance.
This episode goes deep into compliance vs. choice, masculine devotion, leading with compassion, and why the same wound that made you empathetic might be the thing blocking you from stepping fully into your power.
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Cameron Hogan is an intuitive healer who helps high-performers shed their limiting beliefs and awaken. He is CEO of High Vibe Ventures, where he’s evolving work and business practices to match the planet’s rising consciousness. Cameron loves to write, speak at conferences, solve major life problems via courses, and build communities for meaningful connection like The Board.
Elle Beecher helps people find community and fall in love with their lives. Elle is founder and leader of The Board Walks, a global movement of weekly walks in multiple cities with over 16,000 attendees, and its premium extension called The Board. She writes openly about her experiences and 2 AM revelations in The Elle Diaries newsletter. She was awarded Forbes 30 Under 30 for her expertise in community building.
What happens when you try to force something that isn't ready yet?
In Part 1 of this raw 2.5 hour conversation, Cam "cooks" on Elle about the block that's been keeping her from creating the final piece of our biggest project yet: The Board, a premium community for renaissance people who crave meaningful conversations and everyday magic.
Everything is ready. The systems are built. The team is waiting. Dozens of people are signing up. But Elle can't seem to complete the one crucial piece that only she can create.
And despite knowing logically that this will make her life easier, something in her body won't let her move forward.
This isn't about procrastination. It's about what happens when your nervous system perceives the next level as a threat, even when your mind knows it's aligned.
What we explore:
• Why emotional readiness matters more than logical deadlines
• The baby/pregnancy metaphor for creative projects (you can't force labor)
• How past experiences of being "at capacity" create invisible blocks
• Why "it's all downhill from here" is the best possible thing (momentum, not decline)
• The difference between force and flow in creation
• How the energy you create from gets imprinted into what you build
Cam breaks down why Elle's been hesitant despite this being everything she's ever wanted, and what it means to build a business from pure alignment instead of deadlines and pressure.
If you've ever felt stuck waiting for the "right time" or struggled to force yourself to do something you know is aligned, this conversation will give you permission to trust your own timing.
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Cameron Hogan is an intuitive healer who helps high-performers shed their limiting beliefs and awaken. He is CEO of High Vibe Ventures, where he’s evolving work and business practices to match the planet’s rising consciousness. Cameron loves to write, speak at conferences, solve major life problems via courses, and build communities for meaningful connection like The Board.
Elle Beecher helps people find community and fall in love with their lives. Elle is founder and leader of The Board Walks, a global movement of weekly walks in multiple cities with over 16,000 attendees, and its premium extension called The Board. She writes openly about her experiences and 2 AM revelations in The Elle Diaries newsletter. She was awarded Forbes 30 Under 30 for her expertise in community building.
💌 CHAPTERS
0:00 - Introduction & Setup
0:53 - The Download: "It's All Downhill From Here"
10:37 - The Board: What We're Building
27:52 - Cam's Surrender & Waiting
28:31 - Elle Asks: What Has This Taught You?
36:47 - Balancing Creative & Logical
41:59 - The Pregnancy Metaphor
57:23 - What Cam's Most Excited About
In episode 2 of Hot Seat, our guest Akaash Prasad gets vulnerable about the one area of his life where he still feels completely stuck: approaching women.
After years of self-improvement, meditation, and massive life changes, Akaash has transformed everything – except this. He's left toxic relationships, quit his corporate job, moved cities, and found his power in nearly every domain. But when it comes to talking to someone he's attracted to? Total paralysis.
What makes this conversation different is that Akaash isn't avoiding it out of fear of rejection. He can literally feel his future partner's energy – recognizes shards of her in people he meets. The universe keeps sending him signs. So why can't he move? We explore the gap between logical knowing and emotional readiness, why "just getting reps" isn't always the answer, and how sometimes the resistance isn't about the action itself, it's about what comes after.
By the end, Akaash walks away with permission to trust what he already knows.
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Cameron Hogan is an intuitive healer who helps high-performers shed their limiting beliefs and awaken. He is CEO of High Vibe Ventures, where he’s evolving work and business practices to match the planet’s rising consciousness. Cameron loves to write, speak at conferences, solve major life problems via courses, and build communities for meaningful connection like The Board.
Elle Beecher helps people find community and fall in love with their lives. Elle is founder and leader of The Board Walks, a global movement of weekly walks in multiple cities with over 16,000 attendees, and its premium extension called The Board. She writes openly about her experiences and 2 AM revelations in The Elle Diaries newsletter. She was awarded Forbes 30 Under 30 for her expertise in community building.
After a year of hosting Listen Before Love, we realized we'd put ourselves in a box.
We were only talking about dating and relationships when 70% of our conversations were about everything else: consciousness, community building, business, Human Design, truth-seeking on a wide range of topics, and just being human on this floating rock.
That’s why we’re thrilled to share: Listen Before Love is evolving into Whimsy World, a playground for curiosity, deep conversations, and exploring what lights us up.
We're breaking all the rules we created for ourselves, consolidating our scattered energy into one giant container, and finally unleashing the 70% that didn’t quite “fit” into Listen Before Love.
In this conversation, we dive into: what led to this evolution, the lesson of half-heartedness, and why we're choosing to follow our excitement and record all the REAL conversations we’re having offline.
If you've ever felt stuck in a container you created, struggling with too many projects, or wondering when to pivot… this conversation is your permission slip.
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About Your Hosts:
Cameron Hogan is an intuitive healer who helps high-performers shed their limiting beliefs and awaken. He is CEO of High Vibe Ventures, where he’s evolving work and business practices to match the planet’s rising consciousness. Cameron loves to write, speak at conferences, solve major life problems via courses, and build communities for meaningful connection like The Board.
Elle Beecher helps people find community and fall in love with their lives. Elle is founder and leader of The Board Walks, a global movement of weekly walks in multiple cities with over 16,000 attendees, and its premium extension called The Board. She writes openly about her experiences and 2 AM revelations in The Elle Diaries newsletter. She was awarded Forbes 30 Under 30 for her expertise in community building.
💌 CHAPTERS
0:00 Welcome to Whimsy World: Our New Era Begins
1:45 Why We Felt Blocked Talking Only About Relationships
4:14 The Pile of Conversations That Didn't Fit the Box
7:12 The Lesson of Half-Heartedness and Pivoting
8:20 Breaking All the Rules We Created for Ourselves
11:50 Elle: The Next Generation's Oprah, Fully Unleashed
13:54 Sharing from the Present Moment, Not Past Tense
15:54 The Energy Equation: One Mile vs One Inch
18:56 16,000 People at the Walks Without Marketing
21:13 Following Sparks Within One Giant Container
23:18 What Series Are We Most Excited About?
27:14 Human Design as a Living Experiment
31:36 Creating Tools for Our Younger Selves
37:42 Hot Seat: A New Model for Public Coaching
42:19 Hot Seat Topics: From Twitter Triggers to Approaching Women
44:44 Why Authenticity is Magnetic (The Akaash Wife Theory)
50:47 The Quality of People Who Listen to This Show
54:32 Cam's Superpower: Radical Honesty Without People-Pleasing
1:01:38 It's Gonna Feel Whimsical
1:06:58 Gratitude for the Listen Before Love Chapter
Welcome to Hot Seat – a new series where we invite friends, community members, and internet strangers to have honest conversations about what they’re dealing with right now.
In this episode, Cam and our first series regular Akaash Prasad explore the gap between knowing how you “should” respond versus how you actually feel.
Akaash posted something heartfelt on Twitter. Five minutes later, someone logically dismantled it. What followed was a spiral through anger, shame, and self-judgment that led to this honest conversation about seeking validation online.
By the end, Akaash goes from "I want to deactivate everything" to "I feel like I'm gonna float away."
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About Your Hosts:
Cameron Hogan is an intuitive healer who helps high-performers shed their limiting beliefs and awaken. He is CEO of High Vibe Ventures, where he’s evolving work and business practices to match the planet’s rising consciousness. Cameron loves to write, speak at conferences, solve major life problems via courses, and build communities for meaningful connection like The Board.
Elle Beecher helps people find community and fall in love with their lives. Elle is founder and leader of The Board Walks, a global movement of weekly walks in multiple cities with over 16,000 attendees, and its premium extension called The Board. She writes openly about her experiences and 2 AM revelations in The Elle Diaries newsletter. She was awarded Forbes 30 Under 30 for her expertise in community building.
Ever notice how exhausting it is to do things out of obligation? We spent the last few months systematically removing every "should" from our lives, and it completely transformed everything.
This conversation covers: why Elle got off social media and what happened to her anxiety, Cam's journey from OCD-level routines to intuitive living, how we handle relationships without obligation, the surprising reason most friendships fall apart, why being "selfish" is actually the most selfless thing you can do, and what happened when we started honoring only what feels genuinely exciting.
We're not coaches telling you what to do, we're just two people experimenting with what it means to be completely free. Join us for this unscripted exploration of modern life, relationships, and finding your own path.
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Who are these people?
👀Cameron Hogan is an intuitive healer who’s coached dozens of high-performers to shed their limiting beliefs and awaken. Cameron also writes (he published 100 newsletters in 100 days!), hosts men’s circles and retreats for men, plays NBA2K, speaks at conferences, and hosts a monthly gratitude call alongside Elle called Great Morning.
Elle Beecher helps people build confidence, attract love, and find soul-nourishing community. Elle writes every day, hosts a monthly gratitude call alongside Cam (230+ so far), and consults companies on culture and community building. Elle leads multiple communities – for women in love, deep talk lovers, and spiritual seekers. Elle worked at Meta for 7 years and was named Forbes 30 Under 30 for her work with The Board Walks
.💌 CHAPTERS
0:00 Introduction: Packers Blanket and Setting the Vibe
1:17 Meeting With Psychic Susie and Following Intuition
7:06 Living in Our Own World Without External Noise
11:52 Elle Gets Off Social Media - The Immediate Difference Cam Noticed
17:11 Social Media as "Clocking In" and Consuming Consciousness Soup
27:29 Screen Time as the New Secret Life
32:24 When Actions Come From Coping Mechanisms vs Pure Joy
38:30 Where Does Your Energy Go? ChatGPT vs Creating for Others
43:33 Our Next Level: Allowing Ourselves to Fully Express the Journey
49:31 When You Literally Can't Find Energy for Anything Misaligned
54:37 Cam's Lifelong Search for the Right Way to Live
1:00:04 Rejecting All the Templates - "All You Motherfuckers Are Wrong"
1:07:52 Creating a New Template for Modern Life and Relationships
1:13:11 Being Proud of Yourself and Celebrating What You've Accomplished
1:20:26 Letting Go of Lying and Exaggerating Completely
1:29:42 Honoring Your Highest Preference in All Relationships
1:45:00 The Honesty of "When It Feels Right" in Relationships
1:52:56 Using This Space for Pride Infusion and Celebration
1:55:00 Pause Here: What Are YOU Proud of Yourself For?
1:57:21 New Style of Recording - Just Riffing and Talking
What happens when two people drop ALL the masks and talk for 2.5 hours straight, uncut? Elle starts crying, Cam gets called out for "performing," and we explore why we've been terrified to show up exactly as we are - no makeup, straight out of bed, pajamas and all.
This isn't polished content. It's us finally breaking through our biggest barrier: the need to look perfect before we share our truth. We dive deep into sharing from "the wound" versus "the scar" and why most people (including us) wait until everything is pretty before getting vulnerable.
If you've ever struggled with authenticity - whether on camera or in life - this marathon conversation might change how you show up in the world.
Reminder: We lead monthly meetings about all these topics, useful tools and resources to integrate, and MORE in our communities for men and women. If you could use a lifeline to hope and good relationship advice in your life, join us below or tell a friend!
Drop a comment below with your biggest takeaway, and don't forget to rate the show! We're picking questions from our 5-star reviewers for future episodes.
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Who are these people? 👀
Cameron Hogan is an intuitive healer who’s coached dozens of high-performers to shed their limiting beliefs and awaken. Cameron also writes (he published 100 newsletters in 100 days!), hosts men’s circles and retreats for men, plays NBA2K, speaks at conferences, and hosts a monthly gratitude call alongside Elle called Great Morning.
Elle Beecher helps people build confidence, attract love, and find soul-nourishing community. Elle writes every day, hosts a monthly gratitude call alongside Cam (230+ so far), and consults companies on culture and community building. Elle leads multiple communities – for women in love, deep talk lovers, and spiritual seekers. Elle worked at Meta for 7 years and was named Forbes 30 Under 30 for her work with The Board Walks.
💌 CHAPTERS
0:00 Introduction: "This is probably the biggest video we've ever recorded"
3:15 Why We've Been Afraid to Show Up Authentically on Camera
8:45 Elle's Emotional Breakdown - Starting Vulnerable and Exposed
12:20 The "Prison" Misunderstanding - Clarifying Our Dynamic
18:30 Society's Conditioning Around Appearance and Performance
25:40 Sharing From the Wound vs. From the Scar
32:15 Why Most People Can't Handle Seeing Raw Emotions
38:50 Our Rapid Evolution and Shedding Limiting Beliefs Every Week
45:20 The Sauna Story - Processing Emotions in Real Time
52:30 How Movies Program Our Relationship Patterns and Desires
1:02:45 Why We Can't Fathom People Being This Vulnerable Online
1:10:20 The Reality of Helping People vs. Being Drained by It
1:18:35 We're Not Coaches - Understanding Our True Role
1:25:40 Why People Are Magnetically Drawn to Our Energy
1:32:15 Cam Gets Called Out for "Performance Mode"
1:35:50 Dropping Into Completely Authentic Conversation
1:42:20 The Food Obsession Discussion and Neurodivergent Patterns
1:48:30 Why We Don't Need Traditional Friendships Anymore
1:56:45 Creating Reciprocal Energy Exchanges vs. Free Advice
2:05:20 Why People Don't Understand Our Lifestyle Choices
2:12:40 Elle's Reflection on This Being Her "Worst Case Scenario
"2:18:15 Cam's Vision for Their Massive Future Impact
2:23:45 The Emotional Weight of Their Life Purpose
Have you noticed how "Are you okay?" after a fight makes everything ten times worse?
Most people handle relationship conflict completely backward, turning small moments into relationship-ending blowouts.
Cam and Elle get vulnerable about their real fight over email automations (yes, really) and break down exactly what happens when you upset your partner. From the physical fight-or-flight response to why women disappear to bathrooms, they reveal the hidden dynamics destroying relationships.
Learn the exact words that heal instead of harm, why taking responsibility beats playing detective, and the breathing technique that stops emotional flooding in its tracks. Plus, discover how to avoid the "HR Rep" response that kills intimacy.
This episode transforms conflict into connection—because the couples who handle fights well are the ones who last. ✨
We're picking questions from our 5-star reviewers for future episodes; DM us a screenshot of your review to @listenbeforelove on IG along with your question or situation. ❤️🌟
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✨ Our free monthly workshop to kick off your month with intention
✨ Weekly walks for meaningful conversations (and newsletter sign up)
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Who are these people? 👀
Cameron Hogan is an intuitive healer who’s coached dozens of high-performers to shed their limiting beliefs and awaken. Cameron also writes (he published 100 newsletters in 100 days!), hosts men’s circles and retreats for men, plays NBA2K, speaks at conferences, and hosts a monthly gratitude call alongside Elle called Great Morning.
Elle Beecher helps people build confidence, attract love, and find soul-nourishing community. Elle writes every day, hosts a monthly gratitude call alongside Cam (230+ so far), and consults companies on culture and community building. Elle leads 4 communities – for women in love, deep talk lovers, and spiritual seekers. Elle worked at Meta for 7 years and was named Forbes 30 Under 30 for her work with The Board Walks.
💌 CHAPTERS
0:00 Reading The Signs: How To Tell When Your Loved One Is Upset
5:11 A Real Example: When Cam Upset Elle
14:17 What NOT To Do: "Are You Okay?" vs Taking Responsibility
23:43 The Woman's Side: Self-Regulation and Avoiding The "HR Rep"
29:46 How To Get Your OWN Dedicated Listen Before Love Episode!
Ever notice when someone says "I'm fine" but their energy screams otherwise? You're picking up on real signals—and it's time to actually do something about it.
Cam is an absolute MASTER at reading the room and voicing what everyone sees but no one brings up. Not only that, he navigates uncomfortable conversations that ensue with incredible skill too.
In this episode, Elle and Cam break down exactly how he does it through real-time roleplay scenarios.
From handling a partner's sudden energy shift to creating space for difficult emotions, they reveal the magic phrase that changes everything: "How can I help you feel that more?" They also explore why presence truly is spelled L-O-V-E and how emotions are just energy that can never truly be hidden.
If you're ready to close the gap between noticing and speaking up—and transform your relationships in the process—this episode is your roadmap! ✨
We're picking questions from our 5-star reviewers for future episodes; DM us a screenshot of your review to @listenbeforelove on IG along with your question or situation. ❤️🌟
Our communities:
✨ Our free quarterly workshop to reflect and reset your intentions alongside growth-oriented humans
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✨ Elle’s socials and links HERE & Cam’s socials and links HERE
Support our work:
✨ Send us a tip if you receive valuable insights from our episodes
✨ Donate to The Board Walks to bring weekly connection around the world
✨ Buy us a spring water to keep us hydrated in Texas heat
Who are these people? 👀
Cameron Hogan is an intuitive healer who’s coached dozens of high-performers to shed their limiting beliefs and awaken. Cameron also writes (he published 100 newsletters in 100 days!), hosts men’s circles and retreats for men, plays NBA2K, and speaks at conferences.
Elle Beecher helps people build confidence, attract love, and find soul-nourishing community. Elle writes every day, created a weekly walk for meaningful conversations that’s in 10 cities (more soon!), and consults companies on culture and community building. Elle worked at Meta for 7 years and was named Forbes 30 Under 30 for her work with The Board Walks.
💌 CHAPTERS
0:00 The Art Of Reading The Room (And Voicing The Truth Masterfully)
5:59 Closing the Gap Between Seeing and Speaking
8:38 The Myth Of Hiding Emotions—Energy Never Lies
14:40 "How Can I Help You Feel That More?”
21:31 How to Hold Space Without Adding Drama
29:26 Presence is Spelled L-O-V-E
Ever feel exhausted from constantly "showing up" no matter how you actually feel?
Elle and Cam get vulnerable about the hidden cost of extreme consistency and why our productivity-obsessed culture is burning everyone out.
After hosting 156 weekly walks with less than 10 missed sessions, Elle discovers through human design that her true gift isn't consistency—it's teaching people to follow their natural rhythms. 🌙
They dive into the difference between feminine "being" energy and masculine "doing" energy. From showering in silence to breathing from your belly instead of your chest, they share real ways to reconnect with your intuition.
Plus, they announce their radical 14-day tech detox where they're literally putting all devices in a closet. 📱
Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is absolutely nothing.
If you're tired of feeling like a human doing instead of a human being, this episode will give you permission to finally rest!
We're picking questions from our 5-star reviewers for future episodes; DM us a screenshot of your review to @listenbeforelove on IG along with your question or situation. ❤️🌟
Our communities:
✨ Our free monthly workshop to kick off your month with intention
✨ Elle’s dating community for high-achieving women ready to shift from exhaustion to excitement
✨ Cam’s community for men with big visions who want to keep up momentum
✨ Weekly walks for meaningful conversations (and newsletter sign up)
More from us:
✨ Listen on Spotify, Apple, & all platforms HERE
✨ Listen Before Love youtube
✨ Elle’s socials and links HERE & Cam’s socials and links HERE
Support our work:
✨ Send us a tip if you receive valuable insights from our episodes
✨ Donate to The Board Walks to bring weekly connection around the world
✨ Buy us a spring water to keep us hydrated in Texas heat
Who are these people? 👀
Cameron Hogan is an intuitive healer who’s coached dozens of high-performers to shed their limiting beliefs and awaken. Cameron also writes (he published 100 newsletters in 100 days!), hosts men’s circles and retreats for men, plays NBA2K, speaks at conferences, and hosts a monthly gratitude call alongside Elle called Great Morning.
Elle Beecher helps people build confidence, attract love, and find soul-nourishing community. Elle writes every day, hosts a weekly walk for meaningful conversations in Austin (131 so far), hosts a monthly gratitude call alongside Cam (120 so far), and consults companies on culture and community building. Elle leads 4 communities – for women in love, deep talk lovers, and spiritual seekers. Elle worked at Meta for 7 years and was named Forbes 30 Under 30 for her work with The Board Walks.
💌 CHAPTERS
0:00 Balancing The Feminine And Masculine Energies
4:55 Why We Need To Balance Doing And Being
13:49 Why And How To Reconnect With Your Feminine Energy
22:44 What Elle's Exploration Of Human Design Revealed About Her Gifts
29:43 Elle's Consistency Docket (And What She Realized About Burnout)
38:23 Permission To Rest (Yes, Really—It's Okay)
43:03 Moving Cyclically Between Rest And Action Cycles For Greatest Impact
45:03 Our 14 Day Technology Detox Experiment (And Why We Decided To Do It)
Ever feel like you're only showing a fraction of who you really are?
Cam and Elle dive deep into the performance we all do without realizing it.
From the "wind up" people do in grocery stores to the masks we wear on camera, this episode exposes the ways we hide our authentic selves. They share Cam’s breakthrough moment about unconsciously going into “militant mode” and why playing more might be the answer.
Things get real when they discuss how even fart shame reveals our deepest fears about being truly seen. 😂
Sometimes the most authentic moments happen when we stop trying to be perfect.
If you want to stop performing and become fully expressed (farts and all), this episode is for you!
We're picking questions from our 5-star reviewers for future episodes; DM us a screenshot of your review to @listenbeforelove on IG along with your question or situation. ❤️🌟
Our communities:
✨ Our free monthly workshop to kick off your month with intention
✨ Elle’s dating community for high-achieving women ready to shift from exhaustion to excitement
✨ Cam’s community for men with big visions who want to keep up momentum
✨ Weekly walks for meaningful conversations (and newsletter sign up)
More from us:
✨ Listen on Spotify, Apple, & all platforms HERE
✨ Listen Before Love youtube
✨ Elle’s socials and links HERE & Cam’s socials and links HERE
Support our work:
✨ Send us a tip if you receive valuable insights from our episodes
✨ Donate to The Board Walks to bring weekly connection around the world
✨ Buy us a spring water to keep us hydrated in Texas heat
Who are these people? 👀
Cameron Hogan is an intuitive healer who’s coached dozens of high-performers to shed their limiting beliefs and awaken. Cameron also writes (he published 100 newsletters in 100 days!), hosts men’s circles and retreats for men, plays NBA2K, speaks at conferences, and hosts a monthly gratitude call alongside Elle called Great Morning.
Elle Beecher helps people build confidence, attract love, and find soul-nourishing community. Elle writes every day, hosts a weekly walk for meaningful conversations in Austin (131 so far), hosts a monthly gratitude call alongside Cam (120 so far), and consults companies on culture and community building. Elle leads 4 communities – for women in love, deep talk lovers, and spiritual seekers. Elle worked at Meta for 7 years and was named Forbes 30 Under 30 for her work with The Board Walks.
💌 CHAPTERS
0:00 When Your Team Calls You Out on What's Really Going On 👀
5:12 What Happens When You Show Only Your "Militant Side"
12:20 Why It's Important To Allow ALL Of Who You Are To Be Fully Expressed
19:57 Breaking Free From What You Think People Want to See
28:13 Why Authenticity Is The Ultimate Cancel-Proof Strategy
36:55 What Happens When People Go Into Performance Mode
49:43 The Fart Conversation: Breaking Down Our Last Walls of Shame
1:01:20 Your Farts Are Enough (THIS Is What True Embodiment Means) 😂
1:05:46 How Can YOU Become More Of Who You Truly Are?
We’re pulling back the curtain on how our relationship actually works day-to-day, sharing the specific practices that make love feel effortless, joyful, and deeply fulfilling. 👀
From Cam's vulnerable story about his aunt's life-changing advice on mutual service to Elle's insights on building genuine compatibility, this episode delivers the blueprint for relationships that feel like heaven on earth.
If you've ever wondered what it takes to create a love without drama, scorekeeping, or constant friction — this is your roadmap.
Ready to stop settling and start creating your version of heaven on earth? Perfect. Let's show you how to do exactly that. ✨
We're picking questions from our 5-star reviewers for future episodes; DM us a screenshot of your review to @listenbeforelove on IG along with your question or situation. ❤️🌟
Our communities:
✨ Our free monthly workshop to kick off your month with intention
✨ Elle’s dating community for high-achieving women ready to shift from exhaustion to excitement
✨ Cam’s community for men with big visions who want to keep up momentum
✨ Weekly walks for meaningful conversations (and newsletter sign up)
More from us:
✨ Listen on Spotify, Apple, & all platforms HERE
✨ Listen Before Love youtube
✨ Elle’s socials and links HERE & Cam’s socials and links HERE
Support our work:
✨ Send us a tip if you receive valuable insights from our episodes
✨ Donate to The Board Walks to bring weekly connection around the world
✨ Buy us a spring water to keep us hydrated in Texas heat
Who are these people? 👀
Cameron Hogan is an intuitive healer who’s coached dozens of high-performers to shed their limiting beliefs and awaken. Cameron also writes (he published 100 newsletters in 100 days!), hosts men’s circles and retreats for men, plays NBA2K, speaks at conferences, and hosts a monthly gratitude call alongside Elle called Great Morning.
Elle Beecher helps people build confidence, attract love, and find soul-nourishing community. Elle writes every day, hosts a weekly walk for meaningful conversations in Austin (131 so far), hosts a monthly gratitude call alongside Cam (120 so far), and consults companies on culture and community building. Elle leads 4 communities – for women in love, deep talk lovers, and spiritual seekers. Elle worked at Meta for 7 years and was named Forbes 30 Under 30 for her work with The Board Walks.
💌 CHAPTERS
0:00 Why Our Relationship Feels SO GOOD
7:27 Prioritizing Each Other's Needs
13:14 Is Your Partner Capable Of Reciprocity?
19:14 Committing To Telling The Truth In The Moment
26:04 The Freedom To Be Yourself In A Relationship
34:17 Why Compatibility Requires That You Don’t Settle
46:05 Your Inner Worth Attracts Your Outer Relationships
57:02 Separating Yourself From The Negative Voice In Your Head
1:01:37 Creating Heaven On Earth In Your Relationships Is Possible (We Are Proof)
We respond to a juicy DM about a topic many struggle with: how to keep faith that the love you long for is out there.
In this deeply personal conversation, we share the ONE thing that changed everything in our love lives — and it's not what you think.
If you've ever had those 2 AM moments wondering "will it ever happen for me?" this episode is your permission slip to feel it all and transform it into MAGNETIC energy.
Ready to go from dating despair to dream love? Your person is out there. Let's help you call them in. ✨
We're picking questions from our 5-star reviewers for future episodes; DM us a screenshot of your review to @listenbeforelove on IG along with your question or situation. ❤️🌟
Our communities:
✨ Our free monthly workshop to kick off your month with intention
✨ Elle’s dating community for high-achieving women ready to shift from exhaustion to excitement
✨ Cam’s community for men with big visions who want to keep up momentum
✨ Weekly walks for meaningful conversations (and newsletter sign up)
More from us:
✨ Listen on Spotify, Apple, & all platforms HERE
✨ Listen Before Love youtube
✨ Elle’s socials and links HERE & Cam’s socials and links HERE
Support our work:
✨ Send us a tip if you receive valuable insights from our episodes
✨ Donate to The Board Walks to bring weekly connection around the world
✨ Buy us a spring water to keep us hydrated in Texas heat
Who are these people? 👀
Cameron Hogan is an intuitive healer who’s coached dozens of high-performers to shed their limiting beliefs and awaken. Cameron also writes (he published 100 newsletters in 100 days!), hosts men’s circles and retreats for men, plays NBA2K, speaks at conferences, and hosts a monthly gratitude call alongside Elle called Great Morning.
Elle Beecher helps people build confidence, attract love, and find soul-nourishing community. Elle writes every day, hosts a weekly walk for meaningful conversations in Austin (153 so far), hosts a monthly workshop alongside Cam, and consults companies on culture and community building. Elle leads 4 communities – for women in love, deep talk lovers, and spiritual seekers. Elle worked at Meta for 7 years and was named Forbes 30 Under 30 for her work with The Board Walks.
CHAPTERS
0:00 “I Want To Believe That I Will Find Love But Will It Ever Happen For Me?”
8:34 How To Go From Toxic Positivity To True Belief (Hint: Feel Your Feelings Fully)
13:51 Breaking “The Woman of Steel” Mask
19:27 You Don’t Need To Logically Understand Your Emotions
25:23 How Moving Through Your Feelings Initiates Breakthroughs
27:55 How To Help A Loved One Feel Their Emotions Fully
33:11 THIS Is What Will Magnetize Your Dream Person To You
41:45 How To Be The Permission Slip For Others To Be Authentic
47:46 Prioritize Your Feelings To Unlock A New Reality
53:35 Practical Tools for Feeling Your Emotions
58:40 Life After Emotional Freedom
We're diving deep into one of the most controversial topics in relationships: what to do when you're out of alignment with your partner.
I know what most relationship coaches tell you: "work through it," "compromise," "relationships take work." But here's our honest take: if you're truly out of alignment with someone, they're not your person. Period.
In this episode, Cam and Elle break down:
If you're tired of settling, tired of the "dating is hard" narrative, and ready to attract someone who's actually aligned with the highest version of yourself - this episode is for you.
Drop a comment below with your biggest takeaway, and don't forget to rate the show!
We're picking questions from our 5-star reviewers for future episodes; DM us a screenshot of your review along with your question or situation.
Our communities:
✨ Elle’s dating community for high-achieving women ready to shift from exhaustion to excitement
✨ Cam’s community for men with big visions who want to keep up momentum
✨ Our free gratitude community to embrace “feel good” emotions
✨ Weekly walks for meaningful conversations (and newsletter sign up)
More from us:
✨ Listen on Spotify, Apple, & all platforms HERE
✨ Listen Before Love youtube
✨ Elle’s socials and links HERE & Cam’s socials and links HERE
Support our work:
✨ Send us a tip if you receive valuable insights from our episodes
✨ Donate to The Board Walks to bring weekly connection around the world
✨ Buy us a spring water to keep us hydrated in Texas heat
Who are these people? 👀
Cameron Hogan is an intuitive healer who’s coached dozens of high-performers to shed their limiting beliefs and awaken. Cameron also writes (he published 100 newsletters in 100 days!), hosts men’s circles and retreats for men, plays NBA2K, speaks at conferences, and hosts a daily gratitude call alongside Elle called Great Morning.
Elle Beecher helps people build confidence, attract love, and find soul-nourishing community. Elle writes every day, hosts a weekly walk for meaningful conversations in Austin (151 so far), hosts a daily gratitude call alongside Cam (220 so far), and consults companies on culture and community building. Elle leads 4 communities – for women in love, deep talk lovers, and spiritual seekers. Elle worked at Meta for 7 years and was named Forbes 30 Under 30 for her work with The Board Walks.
CHAPTERS
0:00 Welcome Back & Some Toxic Relationship Advice
2:38 You Don't Need To Be Perfect To Find Love (But You Need To Be On The Path)
5:38 The Two Types Of Alignment That Actually Matter In Relationships
10:26 Why We're Being Bombarded With Negative Dating Stories (And It's Not An Accident)
12:54 The Voice Note Exercise That Will Expose All Your Limiting Beliefs
19:33 The "Good Men/Women Moments" Assignment
24:23 Why Extremely Attractive People Can Still Be Repulsive
30:38 How Choosing Differently Creates A Completely New Reality
35:38 The Secret: You Can't Misalign With Someone Who Shares Your Core Values
Friend breakups are so painful and awkward… but no one talks about them. 👀
Let’s dive into 4 different kinds of friend breakups and how to approach each one with love and kindness.
We got dozens of messages after our last episode asking how to handle friend breakups, so we hope this gives you an easy road map AND a permission slip to let go.
We have no obligation to keep people in our lives who make us feel drained, exhausted, or too afraid to play bigger. It’s on US to have these conversations and unlock a new friendship destiny. You got this. ❤️
If you received wisdom gems from this episode and want to send us a tip, make our day here.
Reminder: We lead monthly live meetings about all these topics, useful tools and resources to integrate, and MORE in our communities for men and women. Join us below or tell a friend!
Thank you for listening. Feel free to DM us, we may even feature your question or situation in an upcoming episode. 👀
Our communities:
✨ Elle’s dating community for high-achieving women ready to shift from exhaustion to excitement
✨ Cam’s community for men with big visions who want to keep up momentum
✨ Our free gratitude community to embrace “feel good” emotions
✨ Weekly walks for meaningful conversations (and newsletter sign up)
More from us:
✨ Listen on Spotify, Apple, & all platforms HERE
✨ Listen Before Love youtube
✨ Elle’s socials and links HERE & Cam’s socials and links HERE
Support our work:
✨ Send us a tip if you receive valuable insights from our episodes
✨ Donate to The Board Walks to bring weekly connection around the world
✨ Buy us a spring water to keep us hydrated in Texas heat
Who are these people? 👀
Cameron Hogan is an intuitive healer who’s coached dozens of high-performers to shed their limiting beliefs and awaken. Cameron also writes (he published 100 newsletters in 100 days!), hosts men’s circles and retreats for men, plays NBA2K, speaks at conferences, and hosts a daily gratitude call alongside Elle called Great Morning.
Elle Beecher helps people build confidence, attract love, and find soul-nourishing community. Elle writes every day, hosts a weekly walk for meaningful conversations in Austin (151 so far), hosts a daily gratitude call alongside Cam (220 so far), and consults companies on culture and community building. Elle leads 4 communities – for women in love, deep talk lovers, and spiritual seekers. Elle worked at Meta for 7 years and was named Forbes 30 Under 30 for her work with The Board Walks.
CHAPTERS
0:00 Welcome Back & Why Do We Forget Friend Breakups?
3:48 Friend Breakup #1: The Mutual Slow Fade
10:53 It’s Okay To Not Send The Birthday Text
14:18 Change Your Circle
21:43 You Have No Obligation
28:13 Friend Breakup #2: The One-Sided Drift
32:20 Women and Men Accept Proactive Truth Differently
39:33 Friend Breakup #3: The Formal Ending
47:03 We Don’t Need to Say Why
50:23 Breakups Are a Gift of Self-Reflection
55:55 Friend Breakup #4: The Ghost
1:00:18 It’s Time to Have Fun
Break ups are in the air… romantic, platonic, professional. Oh my! 👀
Let’s dive into all the nitty gritty about why, when, and HOW to end a relationship the right way.
Cam is a jedi master at break ups and leads these conversations better than anyone Elle has met… so much so, that she sits in the room and absorbs his approach when he breaks up with people. And you’re in for a treat today… we’re bringing you into 3 LIVE breakup examples!
This conversation will give you a dose of clarity to realize why you’re drained, and the courage to change things up. Happy shifting. ❤️
Reminder: We lead monthly live meetings about all these topics, useful tools and resources to integrate, and MORE in our communities for men and women. Join us below or tell a friend!
Thank you for listening. Feel free to DM us, we may even feature your question or situation in an upcoming episode. 👀
Our communities:
✨ Elle’s dating community for high-achieving women ready to shift from exhaustion to excitement
✨ Cam’s community for men with big visions who want to keep up momentum
✨ Our free gratitude community to embrace “feel good” emotions
✨ Weekly walks for meaningful conversations (and newsletter sign up)
More from us:
✨ Listen on Spotify, Apple, & all platforms HERE
✨ Listen Before Love youtube
✨ Elle’s socials and links HERE & Cam’s socials and links HERE
Support our work:
✨ Buy us a spring water if you received valuable insights
✨ Donate to The Board Walks to bring weekly connection around the world
Who are these people? 👀
Cameron Hogan is an intuitive healer who’s coached dozens of high-performers to shed their limiting beliefs and awaken. Cameron also writes (he published 100 newsletters in 100 days!), hosts men’s circles and retreats for men, plays NBA2K, speaks at conferences, and hosts a daily gratitude call alongside Elle called Great Morning.
Elle Beecher helps people build confidence, attract love, and find soul-nourishing community. Elle writes every day, hosts a weekly walk for meaningful conversations in Austin (131 so far), hosts a daily gratitude call alongside Cam (120 so far), and consults companies on culture and community building. Elle leads 4 communities – for women in love, deep talk lovers, and spiritual seekers. Elle worked at Meta for 7 years and was named Forbes 30 Under 30 for her work with The Board Walks.
💌 CHAPTERS
0:00 Welcome Back & Breakups Are In The Air
3:00 Elle Ended A Relationship This Week
9:25 Givers Vs Takers
14:55 What Creates A Taker?
21:00 This Is Why Some People Drain You
26:30 “It’s Not You, It’s Me” = Living In A Different Reality
38:54 Why Do We Feel Resentment After A Relationship?
47:00 Example #1: Employee Not Performing Well
59:20 Example #2: Ending Relationships Off Vibe Alone
1:08:53 Example #3: Break Up After 4-Year Relationship
1:25:35 Don’t Ask Why & Focus On The Feeling
Let's talk about the *heavy* dating app fatigue that our single friends are feeling right now.
This episode is inspired by one of my favorite creators, Danielle Walter aka The Carrie Bradshaw of SF!
Danielle said in a recent reel that "dating apps are like a full-time job" and "the pace of online dating is too fast for me right now."
This sparked today's conversation: why are people feeling so worn out by dating apps?!
We dive into how the apps can create rushed intimacy, exploit scarcity mindsets into settling for people we aren't jazzed about, and how our own upfront energy investment (aka stalking them on socials) might be contributing to the dread.
This is one of my favorite conversations to date and will cause some lightbulb moments for people who don't get why they delete and re-download Hinge every few months. 👀
Reminder: We lead monthly meetings about all these topics, useful tools and resources to integrate, and MORE in our communities for men and women. Join us below or tell a friend!
Thank you for listening. Feel free to DM us, we may even feature your question or situation in an upcoming episode. 👀
Our communities:
✨ Elle’s dating community for women: https://highvibe.mn.co/landing/plans/1507076
✨ Cam’s dating community for men: https://highvibe.mn.co/landing/plans/1507080
✨ Our free daily gratitude community to embrace “feel good” emotions: https://highvibe.mn.co/landing/plans/1505242
✨ Weekly walks for meaningful conversations (and newsletter sign up): www.theboardwalks.com
More from us:
✨ Listen on Spotify, Apple, & all platforms: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/listenbeforelove
✨ Listen Before Love youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@ListenBeforeLove ✨ Elle’s socials and links: https://stan.store/ellebeecher✨ Cam’s socials and links: https://stan.store/thecameronhogan
Support our work:
✨ Buy us a spring water: https://buymeacoffee.com/ellebeecher
✨ Donate to The Board Walks: https://donate.stripe.com/3cs7vi5GdcUT6goaEG
Who are these people? 👀
Cameron Hogan is an intuitive healer who’s coached dozens of high-performers to shed their limiting beliefs and awaken. Cameron also writes (he published 100 newsletters in 100 days!), hosts men’s circles and retreats for men, plays NBA2K, speaks at conferences, and hosts a daily gratitude call alongside Elle called Great Morning.
Elle Beecher helps people build confidence, attract love, and find soul-nourishing community. Elle writes every day, hosts a weekly walk for meaningful conversations in Austin (15K people have joined), hosts a daily gratitude call alongside Cam (205 hosted so far), and consults companies on culture and community building. Elle leads 4 communities – for high-achieving women and deep talk lovers. Elle worked at Meta for 7 years and was named Forbes 30 Under 30 for her work with The Board Walks.
💌 CHAPTERS
0:00 Welcome Back & Shoutout to Danielle Walter For Inspiring This Episode
2:07 Context on Danielle Walter, The Carrie Bradshaw of SF
7:06 Why Dating Apps Make Things Too Fast and Intense
11:41 Scarcity Mindsets & Elle’s Unhealthy Relationship
21:41 If It Feels Rushed, It’s Not Right
26:41 How We Create Our Own Pressure In Dating
30:41 Don’t Stalk Them Beforehand (Law of Reciprocity In Dating)
36:23 Reject People Sooner
44:31 Don’t Settle
48:01 Commitment Timelines For Men vs Women
55:41 How Cam Got Specific About His Person
1:02:41 We’re Frustrated With Misalignment… But We Can Change It
We are BACK after a two month hiatus, baby! ❤️
So, where did we go and what did we learn in our time away?! Let's talk about it.
This episode is a behind the scenes look into an entrepreneurial couple's day to day. Juicy insights and stories, galore! 👀
Reminder: We host monthly meetings about all these topics, useful tools and resources to integrate, and MORE in our communities for men and women. Join us below or tell a friend!
Thank you for listening. Feel free to DM us, we may even feature your question or situation in an upcoming episode. 👀
Our communities:
✨ Elle’s dating community for women: https://highvibe.mn.co/landing/plans/1507076
✨ Cam’s dating community for men: https://highvibe.mn.co/landing/plans/1507080
✨ Our free gratitude community to embrace “feel good” emotions: https://highvibe.mn.co/landing/plans/1505242
✨ Weekly walks for meaningful conversations (and newsletter sign up): www.theboardwalks.com
More from us:
✨ Listen on Spotify, Apple, & all platforms: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/listenbeforelove
✨ Listen Before Love youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@ListenBeforeLove
✨ Elle’s socials and links: https://stan.store/ellebeecher
✨ Cam’s socials and links: https://stan.store/thecameronhogan
Support our work:
✨ Buy us a spring water: https://buymeacoffee.com/ellebeecher
✨ Donate to The Board Walks: https://donate.stripe.com/3cs7vi5GdcUT6goaEG
Who are these people? 👀
Cameron Hogan is an intuitive healer who’s coached dozens of high-performers to shed their limiting beliefs and awaken. Cameron also writes (he published 100 newsletters in 100 days!), hosts men’s circles and retreats for men, plays NBA2K, speaks at conferences, and hosts a daily gratitude call alongside Elle called Great Morning.
Elle Beecher helps people build confidence, attract love, and find soul-nourishing community. Elle writes every day, hosts a weekly walk for meaningful conversations in Austin (148 so far), hosts a daily gratitude call alongside Cam (205 so far), and consults companies on culture and community building. Elle leads 4 communities – for women in love, deep talk lovers, and spiritual seekers. Elle worked at Meta for 7 years and was named Forbes 30 Under 30 for her work with The Board Walks.
💌 CHAPTERS
0:00 Welcome Back & Where We’ve Been
4:20 Behind The Scenes of A Conscious Entrepreneurial Couple
14:32 Permission to Pivot
21:02 Letting Your Creations Change (A Story From The Board Walks)
28:42 Owning Your Value & The Law of Reciprocity
38:32 Takers vs Givers
47:32 How The Founder’s Consciousness Blocks Growth
1:02:50 It’s Okay To Uphold Boundaries Passionately
