Ever feel like you're only showing a fraction of who you really are?

Cam and Elle dive deep into the performance we all do without realizing it.

From the "wind up" people do in grocery stores to the masks we wear on camera, this episode exposes the ways we hide our authentic selves. They share Cam’s breakthrough moment about unconsciously going into “militant mode” and why playing more might be the answer.

Things get real when they discuss how even fart shame reveals our deepest fears about being truly seen. 😂

Sometimes the most authentic moments happen when we stop trying to be perfect.

If you want to stop performing and become fully expressed (farts and all), this episode is for you!

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Who are these people? 👀

⁠⁠Cameron Hogan⁠⁠ is an intuitive healer who’s coached dozens of high-performers to shed their limiting beliefs and awaken. Cameron also writes (he published 100 ⁠⁠newsletters⁠⁠ in 100 days!), hosts men’s circles and retreats for men, plays NBA2K, speaks at conferences, and hosts a monthly gratitude call alongside Elle called ⁠⁠Great Morning⁠⁠.

⁠⁠Elle Beecher⁠⁠ helps people build confidence, attract love, and find soul-nourishing community. Elle ⁠⁠writes⁠⁠ every day, hosts a ⁠⁠weekly walk⁠⁠ for meaningful conversations in Austin (131 so far), hosts a monthly ⁠gratitude call⁠⁠ alongside Cam (120 so far), and consults companies on culture and community building. Elle leads 4 communities – for women in love, deep talk lovers, and spiritual seekers. Elle worked at Meta for 7 years and was named Forbes 30 Under 30 for her work with ⁠The Board Walks⁠⁠.

💌 CHAPTERS

0:00 When Your Team Calls You Out on What's Really Going On 👀

5:12 What Happens When You Show Only Your "Militant Side"

12:20 Why It's Important To Allow ALL Of Who You Are To Be Fully Expressed

19:57 Breaking Free From What You Think People Want to See

28:13 Why Authenticity Is The Ultimate Cancel-Proof Strategy

36:55 What Happens When People Go Into Performance Mode

49:43 The Fart Conversation: Breaking Down Our Last Walls of Shame

1:01:20 Your Farts Are Enough (THIS Is What True Embodiment Means) 😂

1:05:46 How Can YOU Become More Of Who You Truly Are?