Have you noticed how "Are you okay?" after a fight makes everything ten times worse?
Most people handle relationship conflict completely backward, turning small moments into relationship-ending blowouts.
Cam and Elle get vulnerable about their real fight over email automations (yes, really) and break down exactly what happens when you upset your partner. From the physical fight-or-flight response to why women disappear to bathrooms, they reveal the hidden dynamics destroying relationships.
Learn the exact words that heal instead of harm, why taking responsibility beats playing detective, and the breathing technique that stops emotional flooding in its tracks. Plus, discover how to avoid the "HR Rep" response that kills intimacy.
This episode transforms conflict into connection—because the couples who handle fights well are the ones who last. ✨
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Cameron Hogan is an intuitive healer who’s coached dozens of high-performers to shed their limiting beliefs and awaken. Cameron also writes (he published 100 newsletters in 100 days!), hosts men’s circles and retreats for men, plays NBA2K, speaks at conferences, and hosts a monthly gratitude call alongside Elle called Great Morning.
Elle Beecher helps people build confidence, attract love, and find soul-nourishing community. Elle writes every day, hosts a monthly gratitude call alongside Cam (230+ so far), and consults companies on culture and community building. Elle leads 4 communities – for women in love, deep talk lovers, and spiritual seekers. Elle worked at Meta for 7 years and was named Forbes 30 Under 30 for her work with The Board Walks.
💌 CHAPTERS
0:00 Reading The Signs: How To Tell When Your Loved One Is Upset
5:11 A Real Example: When Cam Upset Elle
14:17 What NOT To Do: "Are You Okay?" vs Taking Responsibility
23:43 The Woman's Side: Self-Regulation and Avoiding The "HR Rep"
29:46 How To Get Your OWN Dedicated Listen Before Love Episode!
