Let's talk about the *heavy* dating app fatigue that our single friends are feeling right now.

This episode is inspired by one of my favorite creators, Danielle Walter aka The Carrie Bradshaw of SF!

Danielle said in a recent reel that "dating apps are like a full-time job" and "the pace of online dating is too fast for me right now."

This sparked today's conversation: why are people feeling so worn out by dating apps?!

We dive into how the apps can create rushed intimacy, exploit scarcity mindsets into settling for people we aren't jazzed about, and how our own upfront energy investment (aka stalking them on socials) might be contributing to the dread.

This is one of my favorite conversations to date and will cause some lightbulb moments for people who don't get why they delete and re-download Hinge every few months. 👀

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⁠⁠Cameron Hogan⁠⁠ is an intuitive healer who’s coached dozens of high-performers to shed their limiting beliefs and awaken. Cameron also writes (he published 100⁠ ⁠newsletters⁠⁠ in 100 days!), hosts men’s circles and retreats for men, plays NBA2K, speaks at conferences, and hosts a daily gratitude call alongside Elle called⁠ ⁠Great Morning⁠⁠.

⁠⁠Elle Beecher⁠⁠ helps people build confidence, attract love, and find soul-nourishing community. Elle ⁠⁠writes⁠⁠ every day, hosts a⁠ ⁠weekly walk⁠⁠ for meaningful conversations in Austin (15K people have joined), hosts a daily⁠ gratitude call⁠⁠ alongside Cam (205 hosted so far), and consults companies on culture and community building. Elle leads 4 communities – for high-achieving women and deep talk lovers. Elle worked at Meta for 7 years and was named Forbes 30 Under 30 for her work with⁠ ⁠The Board Walks⁠⁠.

💌 CHAPTERS

0:00 Welcome Back & Shoutout to Danielle Walter For Inspiring This Episode

 2:07 Context on Danielle Walter, The Carrie Bradshaw of SF

 7:06 Why Dating Apps Make Things Too Fast and Intense

 11:41 Scarcity Mindsets & Elle’s Unhealthy Relationship

 21:41 If It Feels Rushed, It’s Not Right

 26:41 How We Create Our Own Pressure In Dating

 30:41 Don’t Stalk Them Beforehand (Law of Reciprocity In Dating)

 36:23 Reject People Sooner

 44:31 Don’t Settle

 48:01 Commitment Timelines For Men vs Women

 55:41 How Cam Got Specific About His Person

 1:02:41 We’re Frustrated With Misalignment… But We Can Change It