Affirmations are powerful, yet, if our core beliefs are incongruent, or not in alignment with our affirming, mayhem is likely. This episode explores the problem with affirmations, without doing the deeper healing work that drives our vibe, and therefore what we project into the world.
Unexplored, healed and transformed limiting beliefs create mayhem and pain in our life. How can they not? They are by design limiting to keep us safe, and protected. They are there because sometime in our early life we decided to be adventurous, curious, playful, connected with others wasn't a good thing. Or we figured is our parents, bugger brothers and sisters, teachers or society said "We can't, shouldn't, mustn't, or not for us" Then they must be right. "After all, they are older, meant to be wiser and can certainly cause harm if we don't comply."
Affirmations are simply statements of belief. Even our negative I am statements are affirmations. I can't, I am not ..... I am ..... in the negative, conservative etc are affirming a belief of what we believe is not for us. Therefore, to create and make the most of affirmations is to address the limiting, fear-based ones that are holding us back and uncreate the story and emotional entanglement/attachment we have given to the ideas.
Previous episodes referenced during this one include:
If this episode triggers you, reach out to your local mental health service. The information provided in this podcast is not intended as therapy but offers ideas to explore your beliefs and why you do what you do. Working with a trained therapist is highly recommended to help you address the deeply rooted issues.
Fears, those feelings, and thoughts triggered that remind us of unpleasant and painful experiences. The times when we felt embarrassed, scared, ashamed, guilty, not enough or not belonging etc. These feelings, memories and thoughts show up so we don't feel or experience the same or familiar. After all, who wants to feel less than, scared, inadequate etc.? Yet, when we employ curiosity and are open to hearing the messages behind the feelings. The story was given as a way to protect ourselves. When we learn
Being curious, and emotionally detached as possible, we can see things in a different light. We can make different choices and test newer ways of living based on the character we choose to become.
Previous episodes mentioned and encouraged you to relisten to include:
If this episode triggers you, reach out to your local mental health service. The information provided in this podcast is not intended as therapy but offers ideas to explore your beliefs and why you do what you do. Working with a trained therapist is highly recommended to help you address the deeply rooted issues.
In this episode, the concept of self-care is considered. Self, is how you treat, regard and interpret your experiences in line with your truth.
Using life as a mirror, and engaging a curious mind to explore how you do or do not self-care in uplifting ways.
Self-care includes, but not limited to:
Other episodes to revisit to support your self-reflection include
Ideas of how to self-care and celebrate yourself can be downloaded here
If this episode triggers you, reach out to your local mental health service. The information provided in this podcast is not intended as therapy but offers ideas to explore your beliefs and why you do what you do. Working with a trained therapist is highly recommended to help you address the deeply rooted issues.
I love doing this activity, even though at times it also feels a bit tongue in cheek. I love that it opens up possibilities, can stretch the boundaries, expose limiting beliefs and enables permission. Re-wiring of the brain can start as the seed is planted in a different direction of
What if xyz does happen, what if I succeed, and if I can evolve and become what I chose!
The challenge in this activity is to give yourself permission to daydream and even consider, ever so slightly, something else is possible for you.
It is a great activity to combine with the Wheel of Life, and the information gathered in this activity is used in future episodes. An excellent activity to create a dream /vision board or even brainstorm your upgrades and changes you would like to create in the future.
If this episode triggers you, reach out to your local mental health service. The information provided in this podcast is not intended as therapy but offers ideas to explore your beliefs and why you do what you do. Working with a trained therapist is highly recommended to help you address the deeply rooted issues.
This episode is to create a baseline awareness of how you see your life at the moment. As you label the roles or parts you have in your life, you also start to evaluate the meaning these have in your life and why.
Common segments include: health and wellbeing, adventure, friendships, family relationships, finances and investments, relaxation and self-care. You can label the segments as you choose, as this is your life.
Exploring the segments, exploring if you are living them from your conscious choices, they are of value according to your or others' values, or life scripts enables you to make empowered choices from here on. Ultimately the questions raised filter if you are living your life on your or other's terms, explore whose expectations are you striving to meet and why. With this information, you may choose to make changes subtle or profound to align your choices with your values and the character you want to become during your life.
If this episode triggers you, reach out to your local mental health service. The information provided in this podcast is not intended as therapy but offers ideas to explore your beliefs and why you do what you do. Working with a trained therapist is highly recommended to help you address the deeply rooted issues.
In this episode, I walk through an activity that engages both the left and right brains, exploring the thought/memory and feeling parts of memory. Your dominant/writing hand asks the question, and the less dominant/non-writing hand gives the answers. In essence, you access the folders in the subconscious, and with the adult, mind make sense of what happened of the hurtful experience from all those years ago.
Combining the technique with powerful questions, forgiveness, and insight into why people do what they do, this episode is an excellent refresher of ways to reclaim your power and create beliefs that work for you.
If this episode triggers you, reach out to your local mental health service. The information provided in this podcast is not intended as therapy but offers ideas for ways to reduce the impact at the moment. Working with a trained therapist is highly recommended to help you address the deeply rooted issues.
This is one of my favourite strategies to use to help make sense of situations that are triggering me. In essence, I ask my observer and director characters (Episode 6) to come in and shine.
Reflecting on situations without emotional entanglement or judgement a lot of data can be collected, and interpreted for more accurate interpretation. The upside -
Sound good?
It takes time and practice. I will also encourage you to seek professional help to navigate through and objectively reflect in this manner.
If big emotions come up and you are triggered, tap it out, journal, or yell into a pillow. Get into nature, forgive yourself and hold space for yourself to feel and heal. Ask your judgmental voice to talk with you, but not to judge, explain their take on what and why you are feeling the way you do. Encourage yourself from a loving space, if you can, what you might say to your best friend.
This episode is not therapeutic advice, and listening to this episode you are taking the responsibility for the process, outcome and reactions you may experience
Continuing with the value of asking quality questions, this episode explores the type of daily questions one can ask to explore the wins, challenges and how to live closer from chosen value and character than from historic habits.
Many of these questions are included in both the book What the Mind Sees, the Body Creates, Feels and Attracts, and the Awareness and Accountability Journal. They are the regular questions I ask myself and clients as we move with curiosity through the why, what and how of both historic and future roles.
Greater clarity creates structure and a life of purpose.
There is a guided meditation asking questions for your Life Mission, to explore the type of person you want to be known for by a future date.
If you wish to work with Leah, you can choose the type of support and book online at www.stepstochange.com.au
Caveat - do not listen to the meditation while driving, or when required to be fully present in an activity, care of another or operating machinery.
If you are triggered by this information, then be sure to reach out to your local mental health organisation or support person.
The information in these podcasts are generic in nature, and the listener takes on the responsibility for the outcomes. The information shared is not intended to be medical or psychological advice.
Questions, in my opinion are the key to life.
Asking questions provides so much valuable data, about who we think we are, and the world we interact with. Questions literally give us the answers we are looking for, if you know how to use them wisely. Focused questions provide detailed answers, curious questions are expansive, some can be double-sided drawing positive of negative data into our thought awareness.
One of the biggest secret when asking questions about ourselves is to be curious, welcoming of all data and non-judgemental. Ask your critique, judge and juror and shamer to leave the room or go on holidays for a bit while you take time out to receive data of how to create your life on your Terms
For instance
These questions are not in this episode, but a teaser of what to come.
Join me in this episode as we explore these concepts, more and ask some potent questions to kick start your self awareness.
Download your free 20+ Pivotal question ebook that has even more great questions, and explore more of how I can support your self-awareness journey, check in with my website www.leahmarshall-marmulla.com
Also, one of my books is an Awareness and Accountability Journal. If you are looking for powerful, clarifying and defining questions, this is one book to purchase. Available Internationally through Amazon.
Character roles, in this episode are the parts of us that step in and support us. Unexplored, they control and act from our beliefs, which as you can imagine can empower, neutralise or disempower our experiences.
In this episode, we explore journaling as a form of exploration, in particular 6 primary and common roles present in our behaviour
The ones discussed include:
You may identify with others, and that is ok. The principle is the same for the each character role that presents themselves. With a curious, non-judgemental approach, each can provide you with invaluable insight into their role, function and purpose, and how to maximise their expertise for your growth and towards the life you choose to create, on Your Terms.
Trust you enjoy this self-exploring exercise, and answer the questions provided for each character role to answer.
What comes to mind for you with the word "Declutter"?
Do you consider the emotional declutter and release that comes as you remove material things and dirt from your environment?
Have you reflected how liberating it can feel to create a space you love to see, and live in? Or the idea of creating space is following a Universal Law, and so it required as part of living a fuller, happier life?
These are some of the benefits of removing 'things' from our space. We clean, lighten the energy flow of the space, create opportunity to replace with things, experiences and reminders by more conscious choice. All the while, lightening our emotional energy and opening up the flow for more good things to come in.
Admittedly, like all other processes, this takes time, and bigger the clean out, potentially the bigger energy and memory shifts. With this in mind, it is suggested you be gentle with yourself, do in stages or on a mission to create more of what you choose to experience in your life.
Mindfulness is the practice of allowance and permission for you to be human. To have feelings, reactions and responses to situations. By giving permission, takes the sting out of the feelings, similar to reverse psychology. Another way of viewing the acts of mindfulness is seeing yourself with compassionate and empathetic eyes.
You are a collection of experiences, which when triggered will come through, but I will challenge you. To consider the cost of staying in pain and suffering by blaming, judging and holding onto your reactions when things do not go to plan, or you are activated, or your knee jerk reaction comes through before you have a chance to notice.
What if, with practice you were able to see these reactions and responses simply raw data. Simply information. Are you able to stop, see and let it be? Is it possible for you to thank the information and choose a different response of action as a consequence of this data coming to the fore?
What wold you like to create different, with the new insight and information? As your awareness, allowance and non-judgement skills strengthen, are you able to celebrate this win and encourage yourself all the more to continue practicing the art of awareness without controlling each thought?
Ready to consider a different way of seeing yourself, and possibly a different way of seeing mindfulness.
Take away the judgement, blame and projection onto your past showing up in the present and see you different you feel, interact and heal
What do you focus on? This is fundamental to all change. Do you see your strengths, wins and achievements or your challenges, failures and shortfalls? By seeing and acknowledging your strengths, wins and where you have succeeded you open the way to seeing more. Where we put our attention, we expand.
Grab your journal, or better still, download your copy of the Awareness & Accountability Journal. This journal teaches, and guides you through specific self-awareness each do to support your healing, growth and celebrations. To purchase your instant access download from Amazon
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If you are triggered, or require support please reach out to your local Mental Support Health line.
Here we go, the first episode in a series of different strategies one can use to shift, heal and transform parts holding us trapped in the past.
1. Awareness. Awareness is the first step for any change, but what do you listen to? Body symptoms, thoughts, feelings, reactions responses.
2. Dreams and desires. What do you want, and what have you wanted in the past.
3. Recognise the smallest of good things. Compliments, things happening in your favour, positive synchronicity.
4. What do you focus on, expands. Consider where you live mostly from, love or fear?
With this information you are more able to make choices in your favour. It will still take practice, but with awareness you have more power.
If you are triggered during the episode, please reach out or call your mental health support team.
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This is the end of the series, introducing topics in the book What the Mind Sees, the Body Feels, Creates and Attracts. Over the series, we have explored big concepts outlining how our body and our mind create our life choices, and more so how our beliefs do this.
The child's emotional and mental develop is key to how as adults we operate, for the child's brain is like a sponge and takes in all the bits of information they are exposed to. We make interesting and very influencing interpretations about ourselves, the world we live in, our value and importance in life even in these formative years.
The benefit with knowledge is you can choose to learn, apply, and practice the information. The next series of the Podcast is Change Beliefs, Create Your Life Activities and Strategies. In this series, ways of addressing our beliefs. Healing, re-writing, letting go and forgiving ourselves so we can Create a Life by choice and not auto-pilot dictates from our past.
Believe it or not, you have been applying these laws, you can't get away from them, well because they are law!
Before you start dissing the possibility, listen to the episode with an open mind, and reflect how you are using the law for pleasure or pain. Then, consider if you live more from fear, protection and heavy emotions or pleasure, joy and lightness.
Gold nuggets galore as you sift through insights, and Aha moments.
If this episode hits home, and you are ready to use these Universal Laws to Create Your Life on Your Terms, then now is the time to reach out.
Own your past! Heal, forgive and let go! Define and Declare what you Desire and move forward to creating life from love and acceptance.
Challenges are designed to create growth.
Life's adventures encourages growth, challenge the norm, the old dogma and ways of doing things, if one is open are receptive.
Self-compassion, empathy and awareness to embrace the journey of self-discovery and coming back to yourself.
Enjoy this one
Self actualisation may seem like a pie in the sky concept, when pulled apart, I think it simply is the process of coming back to ourselves, manifesting in our outer world as success. Whatever success means to ourselves.
A peeling away, shifting, healing, letting go and forgiving of the various layers, painful experiences and misunderstandings etc.
This episode also explores the crossover between previously discussed Psycho-social developmental theorists of Attachment Theory, Erikson, and Jung.
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Our physical body is directly influenced by the food, drink, medication, exercise, all the choices we make.
Down stream or the ripple effect of these choices, often dictated by our choices are:
Increasing our awareness of why do choose what we do, our resistance to look after our body, make changes appropriate to support health, we learn so much about our past. With this information, we are in a position to make informed, empowered decisions that work for us, our character, our values etc.
Enjoy the exploration of what our beliefs can do as a secondary effect. You might be quite surprised.
We know our beleifs rule our world, but have you thought about how?
Previously we explored beliefs and the emotional vibration they created, and from this episode, we explore other ways the beliefs interfere with our body's health, mental health and dis-ease that is created.