Charlie Kirk was more than a voice—he was a force. In this episode, we honor his life, his work, his family, and the movement he built. From founding Turning Point USA at just 18, to becoming one of the most influential conservative voices of his generation, Charlie proved that courage doesn’t wait for permission.

But his story is also a gut-punch reminder: speaking truth in a world that thrives on silence comes with risk. Charlie faced ridicule, enemies, and finally violence—but he never backed down. And now, it’s on us to carry the torch he lit.

This episode is part tribute, part rallying cry. It’s about grief, about anger, and about courage. Because if we let fear silence us, then Charlie’s death means nothing. But if we rise—if we speak, if we stand, if we choose conviction over comfort—then his legacy lives on through us.

Rest in power, Charlie. We’ll take it from here.

Isn’t it easier to hit snooze, eat the food that comforts you, or avoid the hard conversation that’s been weighing on your heart? Avoidance feels safe in the moment — like a quick fix for the stress, fear, or overwhelm we’re carrying. But here’s the truth: avoidance always has a cost, and it almost always makes things worse in the long run.

In this episode, I share real stories from my own life — the times I avoided my finances until the problem got bigger, the way I pulled back from my goals when I got pregnant, and how avoiding hard conversations led to resentment and distance. I’ll break down the science behind why we avoid in the first place, how it connects to trauma and survival, and the very real consequences of staying in that cycle.

But most importantly, this isn’t just about awareness. It’s about learning to choose your hard. Because yes, facing things is uncomfortable — but so is living with the fallout of avoiding them. I’ll walk you through practical steps to stop running, face the things that scare you, and start building a future that’s worth the discomfort it takes to get there.

If you’ve ever told yourself “I’ll deal with it tomorrow,” this episode is your wake-up call.

Just because you’re aware of your toxic patterns doesn’t mean your life is magically going to change. Awareness is only the first step — the flashlight that shows you the problem. The real transformation happens when you choose to do the hard, opposite action that breaks the cycle.

In this episode, I open up about my own struggles over the past few months — how my default under stress is to isolate, withdraw, and detach, even though I know better. I’ll walk you through the different ways people cope under pressure — from isolation and overdrive to numbing and anger — and break down how to actually interrupt those cycles in real time.

We’ll talk about:

• Why awareness alone won’t change your life

• The sneaky ways people detach or disassociate when stressed

• Practical, opposite actions you can take to break your old patterns

• Why your future self is built on today’s choices, not your intentions

• My own commitment to showing up even when I don’t feel like it

If you’ve ever found yourself saying, “I know what I need to do, but I just can’t make myself do it,” this episode is for you.

In this episode of Talking Without Permission, I sit down with Kristen — a counselor with over 17 years of experience helping people navigate the tangled web of anxiety. We get real about what anxiety actually is, why it shows up the way it does, and how it impacts our thoughts, bodies, and relationships. Kristen shares insight from her years of clinical work, breaks down common misconceptions about anxiety, and offers practical tools you can start using today to calm your mind and regain control. Whether you’re battling daily worry, panic attacks, or the creeping feeling of “something’s wrong” without knowing why — this conversation is packed with guidance, hope, and a few lightbulb moments that might just change how you see anxiety forever.

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Have you ever felt like life is supposed to be black or white? Like you’re either healing or broken, thriving or failing, right or wrong, happy or miserable—with no in-between? I lived in that mindset for a long time, and let me tell you... it kept me stuck.

In today’s episode, I’m sharing the truths I wish someone would’ve told me sooner—truths I had to learn the hard way, mostly through life humbling me again and again.

We’re diving into the messy middle where real growth happens:
— How two things can exist at the same time. You can love someone and still need distance. You can be grateful and still want more. You can forgive and still set a boundary.
— How healing gets lonely before it gets peaceful—and why that loneliness is part of the process, not a sign you’re doing it wrong.
— How becoming emotionally aware changes how you see the people around you—and how that awareness is both freeing and frustrating.
— Why empathy doesn’t mean carrying other people’s pain and how to support someone without drowning in their emotions.
— The importance of believing people when they show you who they are... instead of holding on to who you wish they’d be.
— Asking yourself one of the hardest but most freeing questions in your healing: “What’s my part in my own suffering?”
— And finally, how action (even the smallest step) helps pull you out of depression when overthinking keeps you stuck.

This is one of those “let’s sit on the couch and have a real conversation” episodes. No fluff. Just the honest truths that finally stuck in my own life.

If you’re in a season where you feel stuck in your head, caught between your feelings and your reality—this one’s for you.

In today’s episode, we’re talking about something that matters to all of us… friendship. The real kind. The kind that grows with you, challenges you, and feels safe even when life gets messy.

I’m sharing the 4 biggest truths I’ve learned about friendship over the years—truths I wish someone would have told me sooner. We’ll talk about why some friendships last and others shift, how timing and proximity play a bigger role than we realize, and what it really takes to build meaningful, lasting connections as an adult.

I’ll also share a personal story about my own journey—how I spent years keeping people at a distance, only letting one person in, and what happened when I had to learn to open myself up again and redefine what friendship looks like.

Whether you’re in a season of making new friends, nurturing old ones, or simply wanting to show up better in your relationships, this episode will remind you that real friendship is built on honesty, grace, and choosing each other—over and over again.

Because at the end of the day… the right friendships won’t feel like chasing or forcing—they’ll feel like coming home.

What happens when life doesn’t go the way you planned? When disappointment hits hard, pain lingers longer than expected, and your emotions feel louder than reason? In this deeply honest episode, I take you behind the scenes of a recent surgery that should’ve been simple—but quickly became something that physically, emotionally, and mentally derailed me.

If you've ever felt like life blindsided you—whether it was a relationship ending, an unexpected diagnosis, a surprise pregnancy, or even just the weight of unmet expectations—you’re not alone. I’ve been there. And I know how easy it is to let our mindset spiral into fear, frustration, and hopelessness.

But I also know that’s not where the story has to end.

In this episode, I reflect on past moments where I let my mindset keep me stuck—from pregnancy during a crumbling marriage to this recent surgery that left me feeling unheard and violated. I walk you through the science of how our mindset shapes our healing, how resentment can block recovery, and how we always have a choice: to freeze or to flex.

You’ll walk away with 4 powerful mindset shifts that have helped me start healing—mentally, emotionally, and physically. We’ll talk about:

• How your mindset filters every experience

• What you can (and can’t) control when life goes off-script

• How stored emotions impact your physical health

• The power of envisioning the outcome you do want, instead of obsessing over what went wrong

Whether you’re in a season of heartbreak, healing, or just holding it together—you’ll find compassion, practical encouragement, and a reminder that your mindset is the greatest tool you’ll ever have.

So if you’re listening today because someone sent this to you… know this: they see your pain, they believe in your future, and they love you enough to want better for you.

This episode is for the one who’s ready to shift from survival mode to strength. Let’s talk about how we do that—starting in the mind.

Let’s be honest—sometimes peace feels more like a threat than a relief. If you’ve ever found yourself asking “Why do I keep ending up in toxic friendships, dramatic relationships, or jobs that drain the life out of me?”... this episode is for you.

In Comfort in the Chaos, I unpack why your nervous system might be addicted to dysfunction, why chaos can feel oddly comforting, and how growing up in a high-stress or emotionally unstable environment trains your brain to find “safety” in all the wrong places. We’re diving into the science behind why your body craves what it knows—even when what it knows is chaos—and how you can start rewiring that response.

I’ll share some stories from my own chaos-loving era (spoiler: I had a PhD in picking projects with legs), how I used to find friendships that needed me to be the hero, and why learning to stop fixing people has made me a better, more genuine friend.

This episode is equal parts science, story, and soul work—and it’s not just about recognizing your patterns, it’s about breaking them. We’re making peace feel like home again.

So if you’re tired of chaos being your comfort zone, grab your headphones—we’re about to reintroduce your nervous system to calm… and teach it not to panic.

In this episode of Talking Without Permission, I’m sharing a story many of us can relate to—visiting loved ones and leaving emotionally drained, not because of what they did, but because of what we hoped they would do. I used to come home from trips feeling exhausted, hurt, and resentful—not realizing it was my own unspoken expectations and lack of boundaries setting me up for heartbreak.

This time, I did it differently.

I’ll walk you through how I approached my most recent visit with intention, how I protected my energy, managed my expectations, and chose peace without guilt. This isn’t about blaming anyone—it’s about owning your experience, showing up with a loving heart, and releasing the need to overextend just to feel worthy.

If you’ve ever walked away from a family trip feeling like you gave more than you had to give—this one’s for you.

Accountability isn’t about blame—it’s about ownership. In this raw and unapologetic episode of Talking Without Permission, Rini digs into the hard truth: your life right now is a reflection of your choices, your patterns, and your willingness—or refusal—to take responsibility.

We talk a lot about trauma, childhood, and how others have hurt us—and yes, that matters. But at some point, healing also means saying: What am I doing with where I am now? Rini confronts the lies we tell to avoid growth—“I can’t help it, it’s how I was raised,” “I wouldn’t be like this if they hadn’t hurt me,” “I’m stuck because of them”—and flips the script.

This episode is a wake-up call. A challenge. A mirror. It’s not about shaming your past—it’s about refusing to let it own your future.

If you're ready to stop outsourcing your power and start holding yourself accountable for the life you're building, this one's for you.

In this special Q&A episode, I’m answering the most personal and most asked questions I get about cutting ties with my mom. From handling guilt, to what finally made me walk away, to how I navigate Mother’s Day and explain it all to my kids—this episode is raw, real, and rooted in healing.

I’m sharing the truth behind what it looks like to forgive someone without allowing them access, to protect my peace (and my kids’ peace), and to honor my mental health even when it goes against what some people think “family” should look like.

If you’ve ever been made to feel guilty for choosing boundaries… if you’ve ever had to walk away to heal… this episode is for you.

We’re learning, healing, and growing together.
I’m your host and your friend—see you inside. 🤍

In this episode, I’m sharing my personal journey of forgiving. We’re breaking down the difference between forgiveness and healing, why “forgive and forget” isn’t biblical, and how God’s love calls us to both forgiveness and boundaries. I’ll walk you through the science of what resentment does to your body, what forgiveness really is (and isn’t), and the powerful freedom that comes when you release the burden of vengeance to God. If you’ve ever felt guilty for setting boundaries, or wondered if forgiveness means letting toxic people back into your life, this one’s for you.

We’re learning, healing, and growing together.

In this episode of The Rini Spencer Show, we dive deep into the complex and often hidden emotion of resentment. We break down what resentment really is, how it quietly builds over time, and the toll it takes on your mental, emotional, and physical health. You’ll hear about real studies that show the impact of holding onto anger and bitterness—and how it can literally weigh down your heart. We also talk about where resentment starts, why communication and boundaries matter so much, and what steps you can take to begin healing. Whether you’re the one holding onto resentment or you’ve been shut out by someone who is, this episode offers actionable tools and compassionate insight to help you move forward. Tune in for a powerful, honest conversation that will challenge you to let go of what no longer serves you and create space for healthier connections.

What happens when the pain isn’t physical—but it still wrecks you? In this raw and unfiltered episode, we’re talking emotional abuse. What it is, what it sounds like, and how it can quietly destroy your sense of self.

We’re diving into the science—yeah, the actual brain damage it causes—how it compares to physical abuse, and why so many people stay stuck in patterns they don’t even realize are toxic. I’ll walk you through real-life examples, how to spot emotional abuse in others and yourself (because yep, we go there), and how to start unlearning it.

This episode hits hard, but it’s also about hope. Because if emotional abuse taught you to shrink, healing will teach you to stand up.

Listen now. Your healing starts here

Ever feel like you’re constantly walking on eggshells around someone who lives for drama? Like no matter how hard you try to keep the peace, they always pull you into their chaos? In this episode of The Rini Spencer Show, we’re diving deep into the Grey Rock Method—a boundary-setting tool that helps you stay calm, grounded, and emotionally unshakable around toxic people.

I’m breaking down what it is, how to use it without losing yourself, and how to know when it works (and when it doesn’t). I’ll even share how I wish I had known about this method while navigating a toxic relationship with my mom—it could’ve saved me from a lot of emotional wars I never needed to fight.

We’ll talk boundaries, tone, body language, and the critical difference between protecting your peace and shutting out people who genuinely care. Plus, I’m bringing the real-life examples, the tough truths, and of course—my signature bold and unfiltered style.

Whether you're dealing with a guilt-tripping parent, a co-parent who knows how to push your buttons, or just trying to stay sane around a toxic coworker—this one’s for you.

In this episode, we dive deep into one of the most complicated dynamics we face—navigating toxic relationships when cutting ties isn’t an option. Whether it's a parent, a co-parent, a boss, or a long-time friend, sometimes walking away isn’t easy—or even possible. So what do you do? We explore how to protect your peace by setting healthy, intentional boundaries, managing your own emotional triggers, and letting go of the expectation that toxic people will suddenly change.

You'll also learn the difference between expectations and standards, how to stop trying to control others, and how to gain back your emotional power in relationships that have previously drained you. We'll look at what it really means to be toxic—and how to make sure we’re not the ones causing harm too. Because at the end of the day, the only person we can truly change is ourselves.

This episode is an honest, empowering guide for anyone trying to find peace in the midst of difficult people—and it ends with a powerful reminder: sometimes the most loving thing you can do is choose distance. Tune in, reflect, and take one step closer to a life rooted in self-awareness and peace.

We’ve all heard about boundaries, but are we setting them in a healthy way—or using them as walls to shut people out? In this episode, we’re breaking down the difference between real boundaries and toxic behaviors that disguise themselves as boundaries, like the silent treatment or cutting people off without communication. I’ll also walk you through the key types of boundaries—emotional, physical, mental, and time—and how to implement them in your daily life.

If setting boundaries makes you feel guilty, if you've struggled to say "no" without over-explaining, or if you've ever been told you're "selfish" for protecting your peace—this episode is for you. By the end, you’ll have the tools to set boundaries with confidence, without second-guessing yourself.

🎧 Tune in now and take the first step toward reclaiming your time, energy, and self-respect!

The people you surround yourself with have a powerful influence on who you become and how you see yourself. In this episode, I share a deeply personal story —one that stemmed from childhood and made me question my intelligence and self-worth. We’ll dive into how the words of others can shape our identity, why cutting ties with toxic influences is sometimes the only way to grow, and how to intentionally build a circle that lifts you up instead of holding you back. If you’ve ever questioned whether the people in your life are helping or hindering your growth, this episode is for you. Tune in and let’s talk about why your circle really matters.

Have you ever let someone else's words define you? In this episode, I sit down with motivational speaker and mentor Steven Hatch, who shares a powerful story from his childhood—one where a single comment from a teacher nearly shaped his entire future. But instead of letting those words dictate his path, Steven learned to challenge and rewrite the beliefs that were holding him back.

Together, we dive into:
- How to recognize the limiting beliefs you’ve been carrying
- The moment Steven realized he didn’t have to accept someone else’s version of his future
- Practical ways to challenge negative self-talk and reprogram your mindset
- Why rewriting your story is the key to unlocking your full potential

This episode is a must-listen if you’ve ever doubted yourself because of someone else’s opinion. Tune in, take notes, and get ready to rewrite your story!

We’ve all heard the term cycle breaker, but what does that actually look like in real life? In this episode, we’re diving deep into the hard truths about healing—because awareness alone won’t set you free. I’ll be breaking down the exact steps to recognizing your triggers, releasing guilt and shame, and reprogramming your subconscious so you don’t keep repeating the past. And yes, we’re talking about the tough stuff—including why cutting off toxic relationships (even family) is sometimes necessary for your growth. If you’re ready to step into the healing you deserve, this episode is for you.

Let’s get into it!