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Soulful Ascent: Mindful steps towards a thriving life
Trevors Rooney
16 episodes
4 hours ago
Soulful Ascent with Trevors, is for anyone struggling with self-doubt, trapped in negativity, battling low self-worth and feeling like they dont deserve anything good in life. I want you to know that I've been there and there is nothing as freeing as letting go, I am here to help you , reclaim your confidence, navigate these mental challenges, take up your space and become your biggest fan. I do this through reflective storytelling, practical strategies and empowering insights. I want you to know that there is no one who is ever going to show up for you better than you can for yourself.
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Soulful Ascent with Trevors, is for anyone struggling with self-doubt, trapped in negativity, battling low self-worth and feeling like they dont deserve anything good in life. I want you to know that I've been there and there is nothing as freeing as letting go, I am here to help you , reclaim your confidence, navigate these mental challenges, take up your space and become your biggest fan. I do this through reflective storytelling, practical strategies and empowering insights. I want you to know that there is no one who is ever going to show up for you better than you can for yourself.
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Episodes (16/16)
Soulful Ascent: Mindful steps towards a thriving life
Romanticizing Your life- The Secret To Happiness

Keywords


morning routine, romanticize life, fun, motivation, self-development, controlled consumption, positivity, luxury, creativity, personal growth


Summary


In this episode, Travis Rini discusses the importance of romanticizing life through simple yet impactful changes, starting with morning routines. He emphasizes waking up earlier to set a positive tone for the day, making mundane tasks enjoyable, and the significance of controlled consumption in media. Travis also encourages listeners to embody their idols for motivation and to add small moments of luxury to their daily lives, ultimately aiming for a more fulfilling and interesting existence.


Takeaways


Waking up earlier can significantly improve your day.

Making tasks fun boosts mood and productivity.

Controlled consumption of media enhances happiness.

Embodying your idol can provide motivation.

Adding small luxuries can make life more enjoyable.

Morning routines set the tone for the entire day.

Avoid stress triggers first thing in the morning.

Music playlists can influence your mood positively.

Indulging in experiences requires time and focus.

Romanticizing life is about appreciating small moments.


Titles


Romanticizing Your Life: A Guide to Joy

The Art of Morning Routines


Sound Bites


"Wake up one hour earlier!"

"Make boring tasks fun!"

"Romanticize your life!"


Chapters


00:00 Romanticizing Life: The Main Character Approach

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00:35 Romanticizing Life: An Introduction

03:27 The Importance of Fun and Consistency

05:21 The Importance of Morning Routines

08:04 Embracing Change and Letting Go of the Past

10:55 Creating Joy and Positive Mindset

12:23 Finding Motivation and Indulging in Experiences

12:42 The Power of a Morning Routine

15:48 Controlled Consumption for a Fulfilling Life

17:53 The Importance of Creativity in Self-Development


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1 week ago
18 minutes 3 seconds

Soulful Ascent: Mindful steps towards a thriving life
The Art Of Detachment

Keywords


detachment, law of detachment, self-worth, abundance, personal growth, attachment issues, mindfulness, emotional freedom, self-acceptance, manifestation


Summary


In this episode, Trevors discusses the concept of detachment and its significance in personal growth. He emphasizes that true worth is not defined by outcomes and that embracing detachment can lead to a more fulfilling life. The conversation explores the law of detachment, the importance of letting go of control, and recognizing attachment patterns in our lives. Trevors encourages listeners to focus on their completeness and self-worth, rather than seeking validation from external sources.


Takeaways


Detachment affects your vibration and manifestation.

To embrace detachment, let go of past experiences.

Your worth is not defined by outcomes.

The universe is abundant and will reward you.

Focus on what you can control, not what you can't.

Attachment stems from a sense of lack.

Detachment is about assigning proper weight to things.

You are complete as you are, with or without a partner.

Identify your attachments to understand their roots.

Strive for excellence without hinging your worth on outcomes.


Titles


The Power of Detachment in Personal Growth

Understanding the Law of Detachment


Sound Bites


"The universe is abundant."

"You need to learn to let go."

"You are complete as you are."


Chapters


00:00 Introduction to Detachment

00:26 Understanding the Law of Detachment

00:51 Practicing Detachment for Fulfillment

01:19 Introduction to Detachment

03:02 Understanding Attachment and Its Impact

05:32 The Law of Detachment

07:24 Recognizing and Overcoming Attachment

08:36 The Impact of Attachment on Vibration

10:26 Detachment and Freedom from Ego

11:55 Understanding Self-Worth and Abundance

14:16 The Importance of Emotional Detachment

14:47 Embracing Detachment and Letting Go

15:45 Focusing on Control and Trusting the Universe

16:24 Chasing Dreams and Abundance

18:18 The Power of Manifestation and Prayer

18:19 Embracing Self-Completeness

18:46 Letting Go of Attachments

19:12 The Power of Effort and Belief


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2 weeks ago
19 minutes 38 seconds

Soulful Ascent: Mindful steps towards a thriving life
Discipline in a Nutshell

Todays episode is pretty different but I hople you like it, it was not planned so dont worry guys, we will work on a better one but I hope you get to takeaway something. Love you.

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4 weeks ago
18 minutes 17 seconds

Soulful Ascent: Mindful steps towards a thriving life
Mastering Self-Love to Build Lasting Confidence

Summary


In this episode, Trevors discusses the importance of self-love and self-compassion amidst life's challenges. He shares personal experiences and insights on how to embrace oneself, overcome self-criticism, and celebrate small victories. The conversation emphasizes the significance of acceptance and practical steps to cultivate a loving relationship with oneself.


Keywords


self-love, self-compassion, personal growth, mental health, emotional well-being, self-acceptance, positivity, mindfulness, self-criticism, personal development


Takeaways


Self-love is essential for personal growth.

Embrace uncomfortable emotions as part of healing.

Comparison can hinder self-acceptance.

Celebrate every small win in your journey.

Surround yourself with supportive people.

Self-compassion leads to better mental health.

Journaling can help reflect on daily experiences.

Acceptance is the first step towards progress.

Recognize that tough moments are inevitable.

Choose to love yourself even on hard days.


Titles


Embracing Self-Love: A Journey to Acceptance

The Power of Self-Compassion


Sound Bites


"Self-love is a self-serving mindset."

"Learn to celebrate every small win."

"Life is going to be so good for you."


Chapters


00:00 The Impact of Self-Criticism on Our Well-Being

29:46 Embracing Self-Compassion and Abundance Mindset

32:57 Celebrating Small Wins and Navigating Tough Times


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1 month ago
35 minutes 46 seconds

Soulful Ascent: Mindful steps towards a thriving life
Silencing Self-Doubt and Reclaiming Your confidence

Keywords


resilience, self-doubt, confidence, boxing, faith, writing, personal growth, loss, family influence, Lakota tradition


Summary


In this episode of Soulful Ascent, host Travis Rooney engages in a heartfelt conversation with boxing trainer and author Mark Connor. They explore themes of resilience, self-doubt, and the impact of faith and family on personal growth. Mark shares his journey through loss, the challenges of balancing boxing and academics, and the decision to pursue writing. The discussion also delves into the symbolism of Mark's book cover and the unique structure of his narrative autobiography intertwined with poetry. Listeners are encouraged to embrace their challenges and reclaim their confidence, regardless of self-doubt.


Takeaways


Self-doubt is a common struggle for many, including successful individuals.

Resilience is key to overcoming personal challenges and loss.

Faith can provide strength and guidance during difficult times.

Family support plays a crucial role in building confidence.

Balancing passions like boxing and academics can be challenging but rewarding.

Choosing not to pursue a professional boxing career can be a wise decision based on personal circumstances.

Boxing teaches discipline and how to face life's challenges calmly.

Exploring different traditions can provide clarity and insight into one's identity.

The symbolism in a book cover can reflect the themes and journey of the author.

Writing can be a therapeutic process, especially during times of grief.


Sound Bites


"Surround yourself with supportive people."

"Just take the step. Just do it anyway."

"You are so imperfect like everyone else."


Chapters


00:00 Introduction to Self-Doubt and Resilience

05:48 The Impact of Faith on Overcoming Doubt

10:01 Lessons from Family and Personal Growth

15:57 Balancing Boxing and Academics

27:05 Deciding Against a Professional Boxing Career

33:45 The Allure of Boxing and Personal Passion

36:59 The Pursuit of Fame and Identity

38:01 Exploring the Lakota Tradition

41:09 Reconnecting with Faith

45:16 The Journey from Boxing to Writing

48:25 Life Lessons from the Ring

51:21 Writing Through Grief and Challenges

58:53 Symbolism in the Book Cover

01:09:08 Overcoming Self-Doubt and Taking Action


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1 month ago
1 hour 18 minutes 22 seconds

Soulful Ascent: Mindful steps towards a thriving life
The Art of Making Better Decisions

Keywords


decision making, self-concept, emotions, intuition, logic, choices, personal growth, decision-making challenges, self-improvement, mindfulness


Summary


In this episode, we explore the intricacies of decision making, emphasizing the importance of self-concept, emotions, and intuition. The host discusses how understanding oneself can lead to clearer choices and how emotions can influence decisions. The conversation also highlights the balance between intuition and logic, the challenges faced in decision making, and the importance of practicing small decisions to build confidence. Ultimately, the episode encourages listeners to trust their intuition while also being mindful of the consequences of their choices.

Takeaways


Every decision shapes our lives and tells a story.

Understanding self-concept is crucial for clear decision making.

Emotions can significantly influence our choices.

Intuition acts as a guiding force in decision making.

Practicing small decisions strengthens our decision-making skills.

Too many options can lead to overwhelm and indecision.

Reflecting on past decisions helps in making better future choices.

Balancing intuition with logic is essential for sound decisions.

External pressures can cloud our judgment; trust yourself.

Decision making is a skill that improves with practice.


Titles


Navigating Life's Choices: The Art of Decision Making

The Power of Self-Concept in Decision Making


Sound Bites


"Every choice carries consequence."

"Too many options can overwhelm us."

"Don't confuse opinions with wisdom."


Chapters


00:00 Introduction to Decision Making

00:47 Embracing New Strategies and Mindsets

01:29 podcast-interview-background-music-299016.mp3

01:38 Understanding Decision-Making

04:10 Influences on Decision-Making

06:21 The Decision-Making Process

10:35 Challenges in Decision-Making

15:34 Overcoming Decision-Making Barriers

16:20 Understanding Self-Concept and Decision Making

21:56 The Role of Intuition in Decision Making

28:13 Balancing Intuition and Analytical Thinking

30:56 Finding Calmness Before Decision-Making

33:42 Building Confidence Through Small Decisions

36:26 Strategies for Effective Decision-Making

39:37 The Importance of Reflection and Seeking Counsel

42:04 Overcoming Indecision and Embracing Imperfection

45:17 Balancing Logic and Intuition in Decisions




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1 month ago
48 minutes 59 seconds

Soulful Ascent: Mindful steps towards a thriving life
Strengthening Friendships—and Knowing When to Walk Away

Dont forget to rate the pod as well, I love yall so much.


Keywords


friendship, personal growth, red flags, mutual respect, emotional support, communication, empathy, boundaries, self-concept, healthy relationships


Summary


In this episode, Travis explores the multifaceted nature of friendship, emphasizing the importance of mutual respect, emotional support, and personal growth. He discusses the signs of unhealthy friendships, including one-sided dynamics and lack of celebration for each other's successes. The conversation also highlights strategies for fostering stronger friendships through open communication, empathy, and respecting boundaries.


Takeaways


Friendship challenges you to become a better version of yourself.

Don't be the fixer in friendships; it can lead to imbalance.

Real friendships should uplift you, not drain you.

Celebrate your friend's wins instead of competing with them.

Communication is essential for healthy friendships.

Be consistent and present in your friendships.

Practice empathy and active listening to understand your friends better.

Respect your friends' boundaries to maintain a healthy relationship.

Self-concept influences how we engage in friendships.

Recognize red flags in friendships to protect your well-being.


Titles


The Essence of Friendship: Building Strong Bonds

Identifying Red Flags in Friendships


Sound Bites


"Don't be the fixer in friendships."

"Friendship is about mutual respect."

"Communication is key in friendships."


Chapters


00:00 Fostering Strong Friendships Through Shared Growth

52:47 The Importance of Forgiveness and Patience in Relationships


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2 months ago
57 minutes 42 seconds

Soulful Ascent: Mindful steps towards a thriving life
From Negative To Positive: A Mindset Shift

Keywords


negativity, positivity, self-talk, mental health, mindfulness, personal growth, neuropsycho, self-improvement, emotional well-being, gratitude



Summary


In this episode, Travis Rooney explores the pervasive nature of negativity and its impact on our lives. He discusses the different types of negativity, including self-directed, other-directed, and world-directed negativity. The conversation delves into the neuropsycho approach to shifting from negativity to positivity, emphasizing the importance of awareness and reframing thoughts. Travis shares practical strategies for cultivating positivity in daily life, such as practicing gratitude, surrounding oneself with uplifting people, and helping others. The episode concludes with personal reflections and goals, encouraging listeners to take mindful steps towards a thriving life.



Takeaways


Negativity is a pattern of feeling, thinking, and behaving.

Understanding the types of negativity can help in addressing them.

Your brain and mind are distinct; thoughts can be reshaped.

Practicing gratitude can significantly improve mental well-being.

Surrounding yourself with positive influences is crucial.

Helping others can enhance your own happiness.

Awareness is the first step in breaking negative cycles.

Daily practices can help shift focus from negativity to positivity.

Mindfulness and self-reflection are key to personal growth.

It's important to set personal goals and reflect on progress.



Titles


Navigating Negativity: A Path to Positivity

The Power of Mindfulness in Overcoming Negativity



Sound bites


"Thoughts can be rewired."

"You are not your thoughts."

"Practice gratitude daily."



Chapters


00:00 Introduction to Negativity

01:00 Understanding Negativity and Its Types

02:58 The Neuropsycho Approach to Positivity

06:01 Steps to Shift from Negativity to Positivity

09:54 Practical Strategies for Daily Positivity

19:20 The Ascent Circle: Personal Reflections and Goals

Dont forget to rate the podcast as well love you

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2 months ago
41 minutes 39 seconds

Soulful Ascent: Mindful steps towards a thriving life
Learning About Boundaries and How to Make them.

On today's episode I wanted to talk about boundaries and as a people pleaser this was a really intereting episode cause listen having control of people who you surrond yourelf with or control of your apce can bevery uncomfortable but thats what we are unpacking on thi particular epiosde, it really interesting a well, so I hope that you get toenjoy and learn how to make a boundary and stand on it.

I also apologize for any sound issues, please give me time I am working on this, thanks for your support as well, I rally appreciate it.

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3 months ago
54 minutes 59 seconds

Soulful Ascent: Mindful steps towards a thriving life
Building Our Confidence And Silencing Self-Doubt.

On todays epsiode we get to talk about self-doubt and the roots of self-doubt and how we can be able to flipt the script, take back our confidence and live life ambitiously and confidently. As a person who fights self-doubt almost all the time learning that we can be able to control this made me so much hapy and so I also want my listeners to feel the same way.




Keywords


self-doubt, confidence, personal growth, mental health, positivity, self-worth, overcoming fear, podcasting, resilience, self-improvement


Summary


In this episode, Travis Rooney discusses the challenges of self-doubt and the importance of building confidence. He shares personal experiences and insights on how to navigate through tough weeks while maintaining a positive outlook. The conversation delves into the origins of self-doubt, the impact of external judgments, and the significance of self-compassion. Travis emphasizes reframing failure as feedback, the dangers of seeking validation, and the need to focus on personal growth rather than comparison with others. He encourages listeners to embrace their worth and use doubt as a tool for refinement rather than a barrier to action.


Takeaways


Positivity is essential even during rough times.

Apologizing for audio quality shows accountability.

Self-doubt often stems from fear of judgment.

Reframing failure can lead to growth.

Self-compassion is crucial for overcoming setbacks.

Seeking validation can hinder personal progress.

Creating proof of success is more effective than seeking support.

Comparison can paralyze action and creativity.

Recognizing self-worth is vital for confidence.

Doubt should be used as a focus filter for improvement.


Titles


Overcoming Self-Doubt: A Journey to Confidence

Building Confidence Through Self-Reflection

Navigating Life's Challenges with Positivity


Sound Bites


"We're always going to be optimistic."

"Reframe failure as feedback."

"Comparison paralyzes actions."

"I am worthy not because of what I do."

"Use doubt as a focus filter."

"Don't let emotions hold you back."


Chapters


00:00 Navigating a Rough Week with Positivity

01:51 Apologies for Audio Quality and Introduction to Confidence

03:48 Understanding Self-Doubt and Its Origins

06:13 Reframing Failure and Overcoming Judgment

09:37 The Importance of Self-Compassion

12:30 Seeking Validation and the False Consensus Effect

15:51 Creating Proof Instead of Seeking Support

17:45 The Dangers of Comparison

20:35 Building Self-Worth and Accepting Compliments

23:59 Using Doubt as a Focus Filter

27:52 Final Thoughts and Encouragement


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3 months ago
31 minutes 49 seconds

Soulful Ascent: Mindful steps towards a thriving life
Unlocking The Power Of Manifestation.

On todays episode we are talking about manifestation and how to actually incorporate it into our lives and I was so hapy while learning about this topic cause for so long I feel like weve all had diffeent perceptions about it and learning about it actually made it even easier to make it a part of my life, and so on the epsode i get to share some of the easiest ways on hwo we an attract or manifest our dream lifes.

A huge shout out to Roxie and Dr Dotty as well for there knowldge on this and thank you spotify as well. Also incase of any sound issues or audibility issues I sincere apologize for that.


Keywords


manifestation, mindset, self-worth, positivity, personal growth, belief, techniques, barriers, energy, fear


Summary


In this episode, Trevors explores the concept of manifestation, emphasizing the importance of mindset, self-worth, and practical techniques to attract desired outcomes in life. He discusses the barriers that hinder manifestation, such as fear and limiting beliefs, and highlights the significance of maintaining a positive energy and belief in oneself. The conversation provides actionable insights and encourages listeners to embrace their power to manifest their dreams.


Takeaways


Manifestation is about believing you deserve what you want.

Self-worth is crucial for successful manifestation.

Practical techniques include journaling and vision boarding.

Fear and doubt can hinder your manifestation journey.

Positive energy attracts positive outcomes.

Be clear and specific about your goals.

Negative self-talk sabotages your efforts.

Your subconscious mind is receptive during sleep.

Surround yourself with supportive energy.

You have the power to change your circumstances.


Titles


Unlocking the Power of Manifestation

Manifestation: The Mindset Shift You Need


Sound Bites


"Manifest from a place of love."

"Be clear about your goals."

"Stop the negative self-talk."


Chapters


00:00 Navigating Challenges and Celebrating Wins

01:50 Commitment to Consistency and Growth

02:45 podcast-interview-background-music-299016.mp3

02:53 Introduction to Manifestation

08:31 Understanding Manifestation

15:54 The Role of Self-Worth in Manifestation

22:53 Overcoming Barriers to Manifestation

30:59 Manifestation and Control

36:04 Pursuing Passion Over Status

40:49 Practical Manifestation Techniques

44:47 The Power of Possibilities in Manifestation

46:15 Manifesting from a Place of Love

47:40 Claiming Your Goals and Worthiness

51:04 Insights and Learning in Manifestation


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4 months ago
53 minutes 47 seconds

Soulful Ascent: Mindful steps towards a thriving life
The Compas Within - Finding Your Purpose

On today's episode, I felt it was nice to introduce trailblazers to something called purpose, the topic itself for me , really hit different after learning about it and it helped me realize that there are a lot of things that I hadnt been paying attention to that really mattere, and so on theesiode I get to share how finding my purpose was an eye opener and some of the challeges tha someoen might encounter on their journey of discovering there purpose.

We give a huge shout out to spotify and riverside for the amazing studio experienc as well.

Show Notes.

Keywords


purpose, mindfulness, self-improvement, mental health, personal growth, authenticity, challenges, self-discovery, emotional well-being, podcasting

Summary

In this episode of SoFuAscent, Trevors explores the journey of discovering one's purpose, emphasizing the importance of mindfulness and self-reflection. He discusses the challenges faced in this journey, including external pressures and the fear of failure. Trevors introduces the 'Purpose Loop' as a framework for finding and refining one's purpose, encouraging listeners to embrace authenticity and let go of societal expectations. The conversation concludes with a reminder that purpose is a continuous journey of growth and self-discovery.

Takeaways


Finding your purpose is a journey, not a destination.

You're not stuck, you're just holding on.

Your purpose is not the thing you do, it's the impact you have on others.

Use your current season as a teacher to learn and grow.

Don't let the fear of failure hold you hostage.

External noise can drown out our authentic desires.

Purpose isn't something you find, it's something you build.

Be curious about what you are drawn to and explore it.

Reflect on what went right and what went wrong in your journey.

Don't mistake someone else's purpose for your own.


Chapters


00:00 Introduction to Purpose and Mindfulness

02:49 The Journey of Discovering Purpose

05:58 Overcoming Challenges in Finding Purpose

08:48 The Purpose Loop: Steps to Discovering Your Purpose

11:55 Misalignments and External Pressures

14:49 Embracing Authenticity and Letting Go

17:45 Conclusion: Purpose as a Journey




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4 months ago
43 minutes 19 seconds

Soulful Ascent: Mindful steps towards a thriving life
Breaking Free: Escaping the Grip of Addiction

In today's episode, we're diving deep into the journey of overcoming addiction—unlocking the power to regain control over our thoughts, mind, and body. This topic is not only compelling but also deeply relevant, and I truly believe it will resonate with many. By applying the recovery steps I’ve shared, I’m confident that we, as Trailblazers, will embrace this process with strength and find fulfillment in the outcome.

Also, we give a huge shoutout to podcastle for their amazing feature.

Thank you, Apple podcast, for the amazing opportunity as well.

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4 months ago
30 minutes 50 seconds

Soulful Ascent: Mindful steps towards a thriving life
Embracing myself: The Journey To Self-Acceptance.

Todays episode focuses on self-acceptance, particularly regarding our appearance. As someone who has grappled with my own reflection, striving to find peace and positivity in the way I look, I want to share my experience as a reassurance to those who are struggling. If you're feeling uncertain about your appearance, know that you're not alone-it's completely okay to have those feelins. What truly makes a difference is the actions we take to improve our mindset and embrace ourselves nore fully. And that's the heart of today's episode.

the link to my instagram account is this as well. https://www.instagram.com/trevor.roon3y?igsh=ZzFmbGJ4OHlkM3d4&utm_source=qr

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5 months ago
25 minutes 55 seconds

Soulful Ascent: Mindful steps towards a thriving life
FROM OVERTHINKING TO CONFIDENCE: A MENTAL HEALTH RESET.

In today's episode, I want to explore a familiar challenge—an unwelcome guest in our minds that lingers when it shouldn’t: the habit of overthinking. As someone who tends to overanalyze, I’ve long searched for ways to break free from this cycle. Through my research, I’ve discovered strategies that not only help me but can also support listeners in managing overthinking. This episode is all about shifting our focus and finding a healthier mindset


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6 months ago
16 minutes 41 seconds

Soulful Ascent: Mindful steps towards a thriving life
TRAILER

Soulful Ascent is a podcast dedicated to personal growth, resilience, and cultivating self-love while maintaining a balanced mindset. It empowers listeners to navigate life's challenges with confidence and strength, embracing self-compassion along the journey.


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38 seconds

Soulful Ascent: Mindful steps towards a thriving life
Soulful Ascent with Trevors, is for anyone struggling with self-doubt, trapped in negativity, battling low self-worth and feeling like they dont deserve anything good in life. I want you to know that I've been there and there is nothing as freeing as letting go, I am here to help you , reclaim your confidence, navigate these mental challenges, take up your space and become your biggest fan. I do this through reflective storytelling, practical strategies and empowering insights. I want you to know that there is no one who is ever going to show up for you better than you can for yourself.