In this episode of The New Dad Order, Ray and Parfait break down what it truly means to have “Ice in the Veins” — that elite-level calm under pressure that separates average performers from true leaders. Drawing from college football memories, parenting lessons, and the psychology of performance, they unpack how emotional control, preparation, and resilience build both great athletes and confident kids.Ray shares his first start at the University of Pittsburgh vs. Notre Dame, reliving the nerves, a dropped pass, and the immediate bounce-back that led to a breakout performance. He reflects on playing alongside legends like Curtis Martin and Alex Van Pelt, and being coached by future NFL greats like Jon Gruden, Mike McCarthy, and Marvin Lewis. These stories illustrate how poise under pressure and quiet confidence often matter more than hype or volume.The hosts explore the difference between quiet and loud leadership, comparing Tom Brady, Kobe Bryant, Michael Jordan, Drew Brees, and Peyton Manning. Each led differently—but all shared a mastery of focus, calm, and execution. The phrase “ice in the veins” isn’t arrogance—it’s emotional maturity, the ability to stay grounded and perform when it counts.⏱️ Timestamps / Chapters00:00 – Intro | What “Ice in the Veins” Really Means02:10 – Cold-Blooded or Calm? The Truth Behind “Ice in the Veins”06:25 – Ray’s First Start at Pitt vs. Notre Dame10:40 – Playing with Legends: Curtis Martin, Alex Van Pelt & NFL Coaches15:30 – Leadership Styles: Brady, Brees, Kobe & Jordan20:55 – Quiet Leadership vs. Loud Motivation25:45 – Parenting Through Pressure: Lessons from the Field30:20 – From Benched to Starter: The 9-Year-Old Redemption Story34:40 – Practice, Poise, Performance: The Three-Step Formula for Kids38:25 – Applying the Athlete Mindset to School and Life41:30 – Sponsors & Final Takeaway: Calm Beats Chaos43:57 – Outro | Stay Cool. Lead Strong.👉 Subscribe for weekly episodes on leadership, parenting, and resilience — real talk for people who want to build strength, not excuses.✦ About Ernie Burns & Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsPresident & CEO: Ernie M. Burns, Jr.Master Certified Estate Planner (MCEP®)Forbes Top Financial Security Professional in Louisiana – 2022 & 2023Author: Total Retirement: A Step-By-Step Educational GuideHost: Total Retirement with Ernie Burns – airing weekly across Louisiana, Florida & Alabama✦ Contact InformationToll-Free: 800-308-4416Louisiana: 985-345-7114Florida: 850-855-4890Alabama: 251-378-9822Fax: 985-345-7124Email: marketing@burnsestateplanning.comWebsite: burnsestateplanning.comOffice Locations: Hammond (HQ), Mandeville, Metairie, Baton Rouge (LA); Destin, Panama City Beach, Pensacola, Tallahassee, West Palm Beach, Jacksonville (FL); Spanish Fort (AL).Social Media:Facebook: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsLinkedIn: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsYouTube: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth Advisors🎧 Listen on Spotify: New Dad Order Podcast on Spotify📸 Follow us on Instagram: @newdadorderpodcast1#podcast #newdadorder 📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: jmparfait@gmail.com📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: rbelvin91@gmail.com💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify:🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/4Zi2b2lmVbAr1m8mhHhjOK?si=l6HluKZ8Rs2Fxt6WJAVy9QTikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorderApple broadcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-dad-order/id1849310124
This episode explores the often-unspoken reality behind modern masculinity — where strength and vulnerability collide. This episode dives deep into the emotional struggles men face in silence, the pressure to “be the rock,” and the hidden cost of suppressing pain. Hosts Ray and Parfait open a real conversation about how men can carry strength without losing their humanity, combining stoic principles with emotional intelligence to define what healthy masculinity looks like in 2025.This discussion challenges outdated stereotypes about what it means to “be a man.” The hosts unpack courage, leadership, and emotional control — emphasizing that masculinity is not about hiding emotions but mastering them. Drawing from real-life experiences and pop culture icons like Kobe Bryant, Michael Jordan, and Yellowstone’s John Dutton, the episode reveals how true confidence is rooted in preparation, composure, and calm under pressure. When men learn to lead with balance — strength without arrogance, vulnerability without collapse — they unlock what the show calls “quiet power.”In “Real Leadership Starts with Emotional Control” the conversation turns raw and real. The hosts talk about grief, anxiety, and the weight men carry when life demands composure in moments of chaos — from funerals to fatherhood to everyday leadership. They highlight how being stoic doesn’t mean being emotionless. Instead, it’s about the discipline to act with courage and clarity when others need you most. Through humor, honesty, and sharp insight, “When Men Break” bridges old-school values and modern emotional awareness. The hosts challenge the “alpha male” myth, arguing that real masculinity thrives on humility, purpose, and preparedness. They discuss the difference between performative strength and authentic resilience — showing that calm leadership, not dominance, defines real power. 👉 Subscribe for weekly episodes on leadership, parenting, and resilience — real talk for people who want to build strength, not excuses.✦ About Ernie Burns & Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsPresident & CEO: Ernie M. Burns, Jr.Master Certified Estate Planner (MCEP®)Forbes Top Financial Security Professional in Louisiana – 2022 & 2023Author: Total Retirement: A Step-By-Step Educational GuideHost: Total Retirement with Ernie Burns – airing weekly across Louisiana, Florida & Alabama✦ Contact InformationToll-Free: 800-308-4416Louisiana: 985-345-7114Florida: 850-855-4890Alabama: 251-378-9822Fax: 985-345-7124Email: marketing@burnsestateplanning.comWebsite: burnsestateplanning.comOffice Locations: Hammond (HQ), Mandeville, Metairie, Baton Rouge (LA); Destin, Panama City Beach, Pensacola, Tallahassee, West Palm Beach, Jacksonville (FL); Spanish Fort (AL).Social Media:Facebook: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsLinkedIn: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsYouTube: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth Advisors🎧 Listen on Spotify: New Dad Order Podcast on Spotify📸 Follow us on Instagram: @newdadorderpodcast1#CharlieKirk #NewDadOrder #Podcast #CharlieKirkMurder #Politics #FreedomOfSpeech📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: jmparfait@gmail.com📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: rbelvin91@gmail.com💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify:🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/4Zi2b2lmVbAr1m8mhHhjOK?si=l6HluKZ8Rs2Fxt6WJAVy9QTikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorderApple broadcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-dad-order/id1849310124
In Episode 30 of the New Dad Order Podcast, hosts Ray and Parfait dive into the unspoken rules of emotional intelligence, and conversation skills. The episode opens with a relatable truth—how men often default to saying “I’m good” even when they’re not. It’s a cultural shorthand for emotional restraint, politeness, and control, but it can also isolate men from real connection. The hosts explore how social conditioning makes men less likely to express vulnerability and more likely to keep conversations surface-level.Small Talk and Social ConfidenceThe conversation shifts to small talk—the “elevator speech” moments that define first impressions. Ray and Parfait share humorous stories from retail jobs, where polite interactions often turned into oversharing sessions. They dissect the difference between genuine connection and social obligation, offering practical advice for men who struggle with social anxiety or party settings. Ray admits he’s not the life of the party, but he’s learned techniques to navigate unfamiliar rooms. His go-to strategy? Find common ground. He uses sports (especially Saints and LSU football) as easy conversation entry points, then pivots into personal stories or shared experiences. Their takeaway: being interesting is really about being curious. Ask questions, look for context clues—like family photos or travel pictures—and invite others to talk about themselves.Debate, and Emotional ControlThe second half of the episode focuses on how men debate, argue, and manage emotions. Ray confesses he often walks away from heated conversations replaying what he “should’ve said,” while Parfait explains his “poker-face” approach: stay calm, lower emotional intensity, and never mirror the other person’s anger. This emotional discipline, is key to effective masculine communication. It’s not about domination—it’s about maintaining composure to earn respect and keep control of the narrative👉 Subscribe for weekly episodes on leadership, parenting, and resilience — real talk for people who want to build strength, not excuses.✦ About Ernie Burns & Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsPresident & CEO: Ernie M. Burns, Jr.Master Certified Estate Planner (MCEP®)Forbes Top Financial Security Professional in Louisiana – 2022 & 2023Author: Total Retirement: A Step-By-Step Educational GuideHost: Total Retirement with Ernie Burns – airing weekly across Louisiana, Florida & Alabama✦ Contact InformationToll-Free: 800-308-4416Louisiana: 985-345-7114Florida: 850-855-4890Alabama: 251-378-9822Fax: 985-345-7124Email: marketing@burnsestateplanning.comWebsite: burnsestateplanning.comOffice Locations: Hammond (HQ), Mandeville, Metairie, Baton Rouge (LA); Destin, Panama City Beach, Pensacola, Tallahassee, West Palm Beach, Jacksonville (FL); Spanish Fort (AL).Social Media:Facebook: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsLinkedIn: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsYouTube: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth Advisors🎧 Listen on Spotify: New Dad Order Podcast on Spotify📸 Follow us on Instagram: @newdadorderpodcast1#CharlieKirk #NewDadOrder #Podcast #CharlieKirkMurder #Politics #FreedomOfSpeech📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: jmparfait@gmail.com📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: rbelvin91@gmail.com💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify:🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/4Zi2b2lmVbAr1m8mhHhjOK?si=l6HluKZ8Rs2Fxt6WJAVy9QTikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorder
In this episode of the Water to Wine Podcast, two dads open up about faith, family, and friendship—and how God often turns the simple, ordinary moments of life into the “good wine” that nourishes our souls. Drawing inspiration from Jesus’ first miracle at Cana, they explore what it means to live out faith not just in church, but in marriage, parenting, and daily relationships.One host shares how joining a Catholic couples’ ministry—the “Together in Holiness” program at a parish in Ponchatoula—has strengthened his marriage and community. The other reflects on an unexpected blessing: discovering an older half-brother and starting a biweekly family Bible study over Zoom. Both stories point to one truth: God moves through community, and the friendships rooted in faith can transform our homes and hearts.This episode reminds listeners that small spiritual habits—like praying with your spouse, taking a nightly walk, or reading Scripture with your kids—can be more powerful than grand gestures. As one host says, “It’s not about the big events; it’s about the daily moments where God meets us.” Together, they highlight Proverbs 3:5–6, encouraging listeners to “trust in the Lord with all your heart,” and Matthew 28:19, calling every believer to live out the Great Commission in their own home.The conversation turns practical as they discuss Christian parenting in today’s culture—teaching kids to know and love Scripture before the world shapes their beliefs. They challenge parents not just to talk about faith but to open the Bible at home and make prayer part of family life. It’s about turning water—our everyday routines—into wine, the spiritual richness of intentional living.👉 Subscribe for weekly episodes on leadership, parenting, and resilience — real talk for people who want to build strength, not excuses.✦ About Ernie Burns & Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsPresident & CEO: Ernie M. Burns, Jr.Master Certified Estate Planner (MCEP®)Forbes Top Financial Security Professional in Louisiana – 2022 & 2023Author: Total Retirement: A Step-By-Step Educational GuideHost: Total Retirement with Ernie Burns – airing weekly across Louisiana, Florida & Alabama✦ Contact InformationToll-Free: 800-308-4416Louisiana: 985-345-7114Florida: 850-855-4890Alabama: 251-378-9822Fax: 985-345-7124Email: marketing@burnsestateplanning.comWebsite: burnsestateplanning.comOffice Locations: Hammond (HQ), Mandeville, Metairie, Baton Rouge (LA); Destin, Panama City Beach, Pensacola, Tallahassee, West Palm Beach, Jacksonville (FL); Spanish Fort (AL).Social Media:Facebook: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsLinkedIn: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsYouTube: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth Advisors🎧 Listen on Spotify: New Dad Order Podcast on Spotify📸 Follow us on Instagram: @newdadorderpodcast1📲 More socials coming soon…#CharlieKirk #NewDadOrder #Podcast #CharlieKirkMurder #Politics #FreedomOfSpeech📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: jmparfait@gmail.com📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: rbelvin91@gmail.com💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify:🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/4Zi2b2lmVbAr1m8mhHhjOK?si=l6HluKZ8Rs2Fxt6WJAVy9QTikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorderMelatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak fitness-Hit this link and use our promo code-NDOZZZhttps://thirdzy.com/Need a new energy drink get Dubby Energy!https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb
Is America getting too soft to defend itself — or even raise resilient kids? In this episode, Ray and Parfait break down Pete Hegseth’s passionate warning about soft culture, weak leadership, and fading standards. They connect his message to everyday parenting, youth sports, and the modern military, asking the hard question: Can a soft generation survive in a hard world?From the soccer field to the battlefield, this discussion exposes how lowering standards and protecting kids from failure creates fragile adults. Ray and Parfait share real coaching and parenting experiences that reveal the difference between controlled failure (where growth happens) and uncontrolled collapse (where accountability disappears). Their solution: let kids struggle safely, teach them to take ownership, and rebuild a mindset rooted in discipline, merit, and leadership.They explore how the “participation trophy era” has crept into workplaces and the armed forces alike, eroding excellence in the name of inclusion. The conversation shifts to military readiness, the National Guard’s role, and whether domestic deployments distract from the core mission of warfighting. Along the way, they bring in ideas from Jocko Willink, discussing how real reform brings “collateral damage” but ultimately restores strength and clarity.Whether you’re a parent, coach, veteran, or leader, this conversation challenges you to embrace toughness as a virtue, not a vice. It’s about raising warriors, not victims — and leading with courage in a culture that too often rewards comfort over competence.📌 Timestamps00:00 – Intro & context02:30 – Are we raising tough enough kids?07:00 – Controlled vs. uncontrolled failure13:00 – Leadership in the “quitting moment”18:00 – Participation trophies & workplace softness24:00 – The National Guard & mission drift29:30 – Jocko Willink and “collateral damage”33:30 – Closing thoughts: restoring merit & discipline👉 Subscribe for weekly episodes on leadership, parenting, and resilience — real talk for people who want to build strength, not excuses.✦ About Ernie Burns & Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsPresident & CEO: Ernie M. Burns, Jr.Master Certified Estate Planner (MCEP®)Forbes Top Financial Security Professional in Louisiana – 2022 & 2023Author: Total Retirement: A Step-By-Step Educational GuideHost: Total Retirement with Ernie Burns – airing weekly across Louisiana, Florida & Alabama✦ Contact InformationToll-Free: 800-308-4416Louisiana: 985-345-7114Florida: 850-855-4890Alabama: 251-378-9822Fax: 985-345-7124Email: marketing@burnsestateplanning.comWebsite: burnsestateplanning.comOffice Locations: Hammond (HQ), Mandeville, Metairie, Baton Rouge (LA); Destin, Panama City Beach, Pensacola, Tallahassee, West Palm Beach, Jacksonville (FL); Spanish Fort (AL).Social Media:Facebook: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsLinkedIn: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsYouTube: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth Advisors📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: jmparfait@gmail.com📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: rbelvin91@gmail.com💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify:🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/4Zi2b2lmVbAr1m8mhHhjOK?si=l6HluKZ8Rs2Fxt6WJAVy9QTikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorderMelatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak fitness-Hit this link and use our promo code-NDOZZZhttps://thirdzy.com/Need a new energy drink get Dubby Energy!https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb
In this episode, the hosts break down Pete Hegseth’s fiery 45-minute speech to military generals, focusing on standards, leadership, and the future of the U.S. military. The unscripted and passionate delivery impressed both hosts, who argue it was one of the clearest calls to action on restoring accountability and readiness in today’s armed forces.Core TakeawaysRaise Standards, Not Lower Them: Hegseth stresses fitness, grooming, and discipline as key indicators of readiness. The hosts agree—arguing that enforcing high standards across all ranks, including generals, ensures combat preparedness.Toxic Leadership Defined: Promotions based on quotas instead of merit undermine trust and capability. The phrase “toxic leadership is adhering to low standards” resonates strongly throughout the discussion.Grievances & Accountability: One host cautions that dismissing “grievances” could silence real misconduct victims, while the other emphasizes that weak standards already slipped down a “slippery slope.”DEI & Quotas: Heated debate arises over diversity, equity, and inclusion. The concern: quota-driven promotions risk discrediting qualified leaders, especially minority officers, by framing them as “DEI hires.”Masculinity & Vigilance: The hosts connect military readiness to everyday life—discussing situational awareness, protecting family, and the “strong men create good times, weak men create hard times” cycle.Notable Moments“Small things matter”—beards, haircuts, and uniforms signal discipline and order.Praise for holding generals to the same fitness tests as enlisted soldiers: “Thank you for your service… it’s time to move on” if they can’t pass.Rebranding the Pentagon back to the “War Department” as a reminder of its true mission.Practical family protection tips: seating in restaurants, footwear choices, and positioning loved ones safely in public spaces.Where They DifferTrump Shout-outs: Some parts of Hegseth’s speech—like references to Donald Trump—felt unnecessary and more like ego-stroking than substance.Balance of Standards vs. Protection: Tension between enforcing hardline standards and ensuring legitimate complaints (like assault or abuse) aren’t buried.✦ About Ernie Burns & Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsPresident & CEO: Ernie M. Burns, Jr.Master Certified Estate Planner (MCEP®)Forbes Top Financial Security Professional in Louisiana – 2022 & 2023Author: Total Retirement: A Step-By-Step Educational GuideHost: Total Retirement with Ernie Burns – airing weekly across Louisiana, Florida & Alabama✦ Contact InformationToll-Free: 800-308-4416Louisiana: 985-345-7114Florida: 850-855-4890Alabama: 251-378-9822Fax: 985-345-7124Email: marketing@burnsestateplanning.comWebsite: burnsestateplanning.comOffice Locations: Hammond (HQ), Mandeville, Metairie, Baton Rouge (LA); Destin, Panama City Beach, Pensacola, Tallahassee, West Palm Beach, Jacksonville (FL); Spanish Fort (AL).Social Media:Facebook: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsLinkedIn: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsYouTube: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth Advisors📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: jmparfait@gmail.com📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: rbelvin91@gmail.com💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify:🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/4Zi2b2lmVbAr1m8mhHhjOK?si=l6HluKZ8Rs2Fxt6WJAVy9QTikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorderMelatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak fitness-Hit this link and use our promo code-NDOZZZhttps://thirdzy.com/Need a new energy drink get Dubby Energy!https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb
This episode examines three of the most talked-about stories of 2025: the Charlie Kirk assassination, the suspension of Jimmy Kimmel, and the debate over deploying the National Guard in New Orleans.The conversation begins with the shocking assassination of Charlie Kirk, a moment that shook the political landscape and intensified national concerns about political violence. The episode explores not only the facts of the case but also the media reaction and the way the story has been framed across different outlets.Attention then turns to the suspension of Jimmy Kimmel, following his controversial remarks connected to Kirk’s death. This segment asks whether the incident reflects the persistence of cancel culture or a more straightforward case of accountability. The blurred line between free speech, public consequences, and claims of censorship is analyzed within the broader context of America’s ongoing culture wars.From there, the focus shifts to crime and policing in New Orleans, where leaders are debating whether the National Guard should assist local police. The proposal comes despite reports that violent crime has declined by nearly 20% in 2025. The episode highlights the tension between statistics showing progress and political moves suggesting crisis, questioning what it means to normalize troop patrols in U.S. cities.The discussion raises several broader questions:Has the phrase cancel culture lost meaning in today’s debates, or is it still useful for understanding cultural clashes?What role should accountability play when celebrities and media figures make controversial statements?How should the U.S. respond to crime in cities where trends are improving but public trust remains shaky?Does deploying the military in American neighborhoods strengthen public safety or signal deeper problems in governance and policing?Throughout the episode, these stories are connected to larger themes of political polarization, cultural tension, and public safety. The result is a timely and thought-provoking breakdown of how politics, media, and security collide in America in 2025.0:00-intro 0:49-Show intro 1:19-Lost faith in humanity? 1:29-thirdly ad 4:14-We talk about Jimmy Kimmel 9:43-Disneys decision 11:44-Letterman fan 13:30-Not a lot watching late night tv 14:11-Conspiracy theories 14:39 -Same thoughts from previous episode on Charlie Kirk? 16:39-Dubby Ad 17:20-Don’t talk about your faith 21:43-Propaganda monologue 22:22-National Guard discussion 35:00-Wrap up🎧 Listen on Spotify: New Dad Order Podcast on Spotify📸 Follow us on Instagram: @newdadorderpodcast1#CharlieKirk #NewDadOrder #Podcast #CharlieKirkMurder #Politics #FreedomOfSpeech📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: jmparfait@gmail.com📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: rbelvin91@gmail.com💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify:🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/4Zi2b2lmVbAr1m8mhHhjOK?si=l6HluKZ8Rs2Fxt6WJAVy9QTikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorder✦ Contact Information Burns Estate PlanningToll-Free: 800-308-4416Louisiana: 985-345-7114Florida: 850-855-4890Alabama: 251-378-9822Fax: 985-345-7124Email: marketing@burnsestateplanning.comWebsite: burnsestateplanning.comOffice Locations: Hammond (HQ), Mandeville, Metairie, Baton Rouge (LA); Destin, Panama City Beach, Pensacola, Tallahassee, West Palm Beach, Jacksonville (FL); Spanish Fort (AL).Social Media:Facebook: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsLinkedIn: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsYouTube: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth Advisors
In this episode of the New Dad Order Podcast, Ray and Parfait dive into the shocking murder of Charlie Kirk — a polarizing figure in American politics and social media.We talk about:👉 His rise from college campus debates to internet fame👉 Why so many people either loved him or hated him👉 The role social media played in his career (and his downfall)👉 Our honest opinions on his impact, legacy, and the tragedy surrounding his death👉 How freedom of speech, division, and echo chambers shaped the conversation around himThis one’s a little different in tone, but we wanted to give our real reactions and have an open conversation without the political extremes. Whether you agreed with Charlie Kirk or not, there’s no denying his influence.Hit LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, and drop a comment below 👇 — Did Charlie Kirk’s debates ever change your mind about anything, or did they just fuel the division?🎧 Listen on Spotify: New Dad Order Podcast on Spotify📸 Follow us on Instagram: @newdadorderpodcast1📲 More socials coming soon…#CharlieKirk #NewDadOrder #Podcast #CharlieKirkMurder #Politics #FreedomOfSpeech📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: jmparfait@gmail.com📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: rbelvin91@gmail.com💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify:🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/4Zi2b2lmVbAr1m8mhHhjOK?si=l6HluKZ8Rs2Fxt6WJAVy9QTikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorderMelatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak fitness-Hit this link and use our promo code-NDOZZZhttps://thirdzy.com/Need a new energy drink get Dubby Energy!https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotbWe are also on the following sites:Instagram-https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify-https://open.spotify.com/show/4Zi2b2lmVbAr1m8mhHhjOK?si=l6HluKZ8Rs2Fxt6WJAVy9Qtiktok-https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorder
In Episode 23 of the New Dad Order podcast, Ray and Parfait dive into the funniest, strangest, and most absurd house rules and parenting myths they grew up with. From weird family traditions to childhood superstitions, the episode unpacks the rules parents swore were true but turned out to be nothing more than myths or scare tactics.The Strangest House RulesSome rules were practical, but others made no sense at all. One example was the “no shoes and no socks inside” rule, meant to keep the house clean but taken to an extreme. Another? No sleeping past 8 AM on weekends, because sleeping in was seen as being “lazy.” Families also enforced no singing at the table, no eating in the living room, and the classic “don’t use the nice towels or soap” reserved for guests only.Parenting Myths We All HeardRay and Parfait laugh about the myths nearly every kid was told:“Don’t swallow gum, it stays in your stomach for 7 years.”“No swimming after eating for 30 minutes.”“Turn off the car’s dome light—it’s illegal.”“Sit too close to the TV and you’ll go blind.”These myths weren’t just funny—they shaped how kids behaved, even though none of them were true.Childhood Superstitions and Family BeliefsThe hosts also share unique cultural superstitions. One rule claimed that whistling indoors invited ghosts. Another tradition suggested rubbing a potato on a wart and burying it to make it disappear. Families even believed that planting a baby’s umbilical cord stump by rose bushes would make the flowers bloom more beautifully.Outdated Safety RulesThe episode highlights how safety was viewed differently back then. Many kids rode in the back of pickup trucks or skipped wearing seatbelts in the back seat because parents thought it was safe. Others were told that wearing the seatbelt incorrectly could “cut you in half” during an accident—another scare tactic with no truth.Why These Rules Stick With UsWhile most of these childhood rules and myths turned out to be false, they remain memorable because of how often parents repeated them. Some were rooted in caution (like not swallowing gum), while others were just cultural traditions passed down without question.Today, parents laugh at how absurd these rules sound but also reflect on how they shaped childhood experiences. Whether it was drinking from the garden hose, turning lights off to “save money,” or avoiding “guest towels,” these weird family rules and parenting myths became part of growing up.👉 If you love stories about funny parenting rules, childhood myths, and family superstitions, this episode of the New Dad Order podcast is packed with nostalgia, humor, and a reminder that sometimes the strangest rules make the best memories.📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: jmparfait@gmail.com📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: rbelvin91@gmail.com💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify:🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/4Zi2b2lmVbAr1m8mhHhjOK?si=l6HluKZ8Rs2Fxt6WJAVy9QTikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorderMelatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak fitness-Hit this link and use our promo code-NDOZZZhttps://thirdzy.com/Need a new energy drink get Dubby Energy!https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotbWe are also on the following sites:Instagram-https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify-https://open.spotify.com/show/4Zi2b2lmVbAr1m8mhHhjOK?si=l6HluKZ8Rs2Fxt6WJAVy9Qtiktok-https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorder
How do you know if your child is dealing with fake friends at school? In this episode of New Dad Order, Ray and Parfait dive deep into the realities of childhood friendships, parenting struggles, and the hard lessons kids face when friends turn toxic.As parents, we want our kids to grow up surrounded by real friends who uplift them, not fake friends who use, criticize, or tear them down. But spotting the difference isn’t always easy—especially in elementary and middle school, when cliques, jealousy, and peer pressure start to shape your child’s social life.In this conversation, we break down the 7 signs of fake friends every parent should know:Only reaching out when they need somethingCriticizing instead of upliftingTalking behind your backDismissing your feelings or dreamsMimicking your interests for the wrong reasonsGetting jealous of your winsLeaving you drained after hanging outAlong the way, Ray and Parfait share real parenting experiences about guiding kids through friendship struggles, school drama, and balancing sports, academics, and personal hobbies. From helping your child handle toxic friendships to teaching them how to be a true friend themselves, this episode is full of practical parenting tips, relatable stories, and encouragement for families.We also cover:How to protect your kids from fake friends without sheltering themThe right way to talk to your child about jealousy, criticism, and gossipBuilding resilience and empathy so kids can thrive socially and emotionallyWhy friendship struggles are part of growing up—and how parents can guide their kids through themWhether your child is facing toxic friendships in school, struggling with losing a best friend, or just starting to navigate the ups and downs of childhood friendships, this episode gives you the tools to help them spot the red flags and build stronger, healthier relationships.If you’re a parent who wants actionable parenting advice on friendships, fake friends, and helping kids grow socially, this one’s for you.👉 Don’t forget to Like, Comment, and Subscribe for more conversations on parenting, kids, and real-life family struggles.Time Stamps:00:00-intro 01:27-Thirdzy Ad 01:56-Friend talk 12:19-When do friends separate? 14:33-7 things fake friends do 14:43-#1 Friend needs me when he needs something 17:58- #2-Criticize more than uplift 20:49-#3-friends who talk behind their back 23:16-Dubby Ad 23:56-#4-they dismiss your feelings or make fun of your dreams 27:30-#5-They mimic your interest 29:02-#6-Jealous of your wins 31:02-#7-You feel drained after hanging out 33:00-How do we teach our kids not to be fake friends 37:50-outro📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: jmparfait@gmail.com📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: rbelvin91@gmail.com💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify:🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/4Zi2b2lmVbAr1m8mhHhjOK?si=l6HluKZ8Rs2Fxt6WJAVy9QTikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorderMelatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak fitness-Hit this link and use our promo code-NDOZZZhttps://thirdzy.com/Need a new energy drink get Dubby Energy!https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotbWe are also on the following sites:Instagram-https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify-https://open.spotify.com/show/4Zi2b2lmVbAr1m8mhHhjOK?si=l6HluKZ8Rs2Fxt6WJAVy9Qtiktok-https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorderThanks to Psych2Go!
Breakfast Cereal, 90s Nostalgia, Saturday Morning Cartoons, Sugar Smacks, Frosted Flakes, Lucky Charms, Apple Jacks, and Corn Pops — in this episode of the New Dad Order Podcast, Ray and Parfait take you back to the golden days of childhood when cereal and cartoons ruled Saturday mornings.The hosts start by declaring their favorite childhood cereals: Sugar Smacks (both agree it was their number one pick). From there, the cereal debate heats up with Apple Jacks, Corn Pops, and the ever-popular Frosted Flakes. They laugh about whether Wheaties were just Corn Flakes in a different box, share hot takes on why Lucky Charms marshmallows weren’t really marshmallows, and admit that some cereals like Cookie Crisp were “too much” even for kids.Classic cereal mascots also get a shoutout — Tony the Tiger, Toucan Sam, and the Trix Rabbit — as the guys remember how commercials influenced what ended up in the pantry. They dive into retro cereals tied to cartoons like Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, Ghostbusters, and Batman, all of which were just Lucky Charms knockoffs with different marshmallow shapes.The episode blends cereal rankings, funny debates, childhood stories, and retro advertising nostalgia, making it a perfect listen for anyone who grew up in the 1980s, 1990s, or early 2000s. Whether you loved sugary cereals, healthy cereals like Cheerios, or gimmick cereals tied to cartoons, you’ll find yourself nodding along — or arguing in your head about which box was truly the best.By the end, both hosts realize they actually agreed on way too much (especially their love for Sugar Smacks and Frosted Flakes) and invite listeners to share their own favorite cereals in the comments.📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: jmparfait@gmail.com📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: rbelvin91@gmail.com💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify:🎧 Listen on SpotifyTikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorderMelatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak fitness-Hit this link and use our promo code-NDOZZZhttps://thirdzy.com/Need a new energy drink get Dubby Energy!https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotbWe are also on the following sites:Instagram-https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify-https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/ray-belvin/episodes/No-Regrets-on-using-Life-360--Eat-whats-cooked--NDO5-family-podcast-motivation-art-jre-e31pdc6tiktok-https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorderTime Stamp0:00-intro 1:15-Thirdzy Ad 02:18-We start the discussion on favorite cereal-Sugar Smacks 2:46-Applejacks 3:10-Corn pops 3:33-Lucky Charms 4:02-Cartoons made likeness cereals 5:24-Frosted Flakes 6:05-Corn Flakes 6:36-Wheaties 7:26-Frosted mini wheat 8:10-Rays personal Mandela Effect 8:38-Cheerios 8:50-Frootloops 9:41-Rice krispies 9:50-Fruity/ cocoa pebbles 11:09-Trix 12:41-Cookie Crisp 13:53-Reese’s Puffs 14:09-cinnamon toast crunch 15:05-Captain Crunch 15:18-cereal commercials 17:03-Crunch Berries 17:56-honey bunches of oats 18:02-Life cereal 18:38- Dubby Ad 19:11-Life cereals Origin of name 20:03-Special K 20:13-Raisin Bran 21:54-Drinking milk after eating cereal 23:10-Drinking milk with dinner 25:16-couldn’t debate cereal because we liked the same ones 26:19-outro
Welcome back to the New Dad Order Podcast! In Episode 20, Ray and Parfait take a nostalgic trip down memory lane and revisit the magic of Saturday morning cartoons. From bowls of cereal in front of the TV to heated debates about which shows truly stood the test of time, this episode is packed with laughs, memories, and a healthy dose of dad perspective.We compare the cartoon eras of the 80s vs. 90s, exploring what shows shaped our childhoods, what still holds up today, and how modern kids are missing out on the weekend ritual of waking up early for cartoons. We also dive into wrestling nostalgia, after-school classics, and how streaming has completely changed the game for kids today. What we cover in this episode:Saturday morning routines & the culture around cartoonsWrestling cartoons & WWF memories (Hulk Hogan, Andre the Giant, Iron Sheik)Iconic 90s lineup: ProStars (Michael Jordan, Bo Jackson, Wayne Gretzky), Ghostbusters, Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles 80s favorites: Smurfs, Scooby-Doo, Dungeons & Dragons, Thundercats, G.I. JoeLooney Tunes vs. Flintstones vs. Jetsons – which cartoon holds up the best?Afternoon & after-school shows: DuckTales, Chip & Dale Rescue Rangers, Tiny Toons, Robotech, X-Men Scooby-Doo crossover, and the moment kids realized wrestling wasn’t “real”Comic book crossovers and how Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles went from violent indie comics to kid-friendly Saturday staplesPlus, we share some funny personal stories: growing up on pizza nights, family food traditions, comic collecting, and even which Ninja Turtle was our favorite.🕒 Timestamps00:00 – Intro & Saturday morning nostalgia01:10 – Childhood routines & cartoons02:12 – Wrestling cartoons & WWF memories03:08 – ProStars, Ghostbusters & Ninja Turtles04:17 – Classic 80s cartoons: 06:36 – G.I. Joe toys, cartoons & life lessons08:12 – Pre-workout sponsor shoutout09:08 – Looney Tunes, DuckTales & after-school favorites10:35 – Space Jam & Looney Tunes revival11:34 – Comic book cartoons: Spider-Man, X-Men, Batman12:31 – Hanna-Barbera classics: Captain Caveman, Space Ghost14:00 – Saturday morning wrestling & WWF memories15:26 – Scooby-Doo & WWE crossover16:01 – After-school cartoons: Tiny Toons, Rescue Rangers, Brady Bunch18:19 – Anime influence: Robotech, GeForce & toy culture20:23 – Nickelodeon classics: Rugrats, Doug, Dora22:08 – Baby Shark & kids’ shows today22:58 – Scooby-Doo Jr., Jetsons, Flintstones24:33 – Best cartoons ever? Dungeons & Dragons vs. Ninja Turtles25:56 – Wrestling memories & realizing it was scripted26:30 – Flintstones vs. Looney Tunes27:38 – Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles comic origins29:29 – Favorite Turtles & final reflections29:54 – Closing thoughts & call to actionLike this episode? Don’t forget to LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, and turn on notifications so you never miss a new drop from New Dad Order.📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: jmparfait@gmail.com📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: rbelvin91@gmail.com💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify:🎧 Listen on SpotifyTikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorderMelatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak fitness-Hit this link and use our promo code-NDOZZZhttps://thirdzy.com/Need a new energy drink get Dubby Energy!https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotbWe are also on the following sites:Instagram-https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify-https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/ray-belvin/episodes/No-Regrets-on-using-Life-360--Eat-whats-cooked--NDO5-family-podcast-motivation-art-jre-e31pdc6tiktok-https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorder
In this episode of the New Dad Order Podcast, Ray and Parfait dive into the world of travel baseball vs travel basketball (AAU). They break down how summer becomes “high drama season” with endless World Series tournaments, costs of travel ball, team classifications (AA, AAA, Majors), and the business behind organizations like Perfect Game, UTSA, and Hammond Yankees. They also compare basketball’s AAU structure, local leagues, and the impact on young athletes and families. From expenses to coaching, talent development, and the culture of travel sports, this conversation is both insightful and relatable for every sports parent. ⏱️ Timestamps00:00 – Travel baseball World Series hype00:29 – Spring, summer, and travel ball season00:54 – Recovery products for sports dads01:24 – Basketball & AAU explained02:20 – Travel baseball structure & “money grab” debate03:22 – Travel organizations (Perfect Game, UTSA, 2D, Hammond Yankees)05:20 – Costs of tournaments, uniforms & fees07:03 – Umpire fees & tournament format08:23 – Local vs out-of-state travel09:17 – Playing AA vs AAA vs Majors10:18 – Why kids deserve stronger competition11:15 – Travel team organizations across Gulf Coast12:42 – Basketball structure & travel programs14:00 – Parents’ role & team development15:28 – Multiple “World Series” explained16:22 – Travel drama, alcohol, and team chemistry17:09 – Basketball travel timeline vs baseball seasonReach out to Jerrard or RayJerrard-Jmparfait@gmail.comJerrard-IG is @itsparfait Ray-rbelvin91@gmail.comMelatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak fitness-Hit this link and use our promo code-NDOZZZhttps://thirdzy.com/Need a new energy drink get Dubby Energy!https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotbWe are also on the following sites:Instagram-https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify-https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/ray-belvin/episodes/No-Regrets-on-using-Life-360--Eat-whats-cooked--NDO5-family-podcast-motivation-art-jre-e31pdc6tiktok-https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorder#joerogan #theovon #shawnryanshow #news #dailydoseofwisdom
n this episode of the New Dad Order podcast, co-host Jerrard shares his firsthand experience using Thirdzy, a natural sleep supplement, and how it compares to his previous go-to: Beam, a CBD-based sleep aid. As a dad who juggles early mornings and long commutes, Jerrard gives a detailed, no-hype breakdown of how Thirdzy affected his sleep quality, referencing data from his WHOOP sleep tracker. He explains how Thirdzy helped him reach deep sleep faster, without the grogginess he sometimes felt after using Beam.Jerrard talks about how Beam worked well for a time, especially when paired with warm milk, but eventually he wanted something more well-rounded—without melatonin or CBD. That led to his switch to Thirdzy, which he says gives him a “night and day” difference in how rested he feels. The conversation digs into ingredients, routines (including adding electrolytes for overnight hydration), and real-world results from using both products.Later, the dads pivot to a deeper discussion around parenting psychology—specifically the emotional impact of things parents say without thinking. They explore phrases like “What’s wrong with you?” and “I wish you were more like your sister” and how these comments, even if unintentional, can hurt a child’s sense of identity or self-worth. The guys reflect on their own upbringings, cultural norms, and how they’re learning to parent more consciously.The episode blends dad life, health optimization, and emotional intelligence, making it a valuable resource for parents who want to feel better and do better.Key topics:Thirdzy sleep aid vs Beam CBD sleep powderNatural sleep without melatonin or grogginessWHOOP deep sleep tracking & resultsParenting psychology: harmful vs helpful languageHow dads can balance health, stress, and emotional parentingT⏱️ YouTube Timestamps00:00 – Welcome & Episode 18 Overview01:32 – Ray’s First Experience with Thirds Sleep Supplement02:41 – Beam CBD Sleep Aid: How It Worked (and Downsides)03:35 – Why Ray Switched from Beam to Thirds04:36 – Sleep Tracking with Whoop & Deep Sleep Benefits06:11 – Doctor’s Opinion on Thirds (Non-Melatonin Advantage)07:33 – Real-Life Benefits: Waking Up Rested Without Grogginess08:37 – How Thirds Makes 3 Hours Feel Like 809:54 – Sleep Patterns & Recovery Insights10:20 – Why Ray Subscribed to Thirds for Good11:13 – Nootropic-Based Pre-Workout Introduction12:04 – Parenting Story: The Ice Cream Incident13:09 – “What’s Wrong With You?” – Harmless or Harmful?14:40 – The Context Matters: Behavior vs. Personal Traits15:46 – “I Wish You Were More Like…” – Healthy Advice or Hurtful Comparison?16:49 – When Comparison is Used for Positive Traits17:21 – Cultural Context: Asian Firstborn Expectations18:27 – Final Thoughts on Parenting Phrases & Character Development👇 Drop your thoughts below!✅ Don’t forget to LIKE 👍, SHARE, and SUBSCRIBE for more honest talks on health, recovery, and parenting.🔔 Hit the bell so you never miss an episode!Reach out to Jerrard or RayJerrard-Jmparfait@gmail.comJerrard-IG is @itsparfait Ray-rbelvin91@gmail.comMelatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak fitness-Hit this link and use our promo code-NDOZZZhttps://thirdzy.com/Need a new energy drink get Dubby Energy!https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADO...We are also on the following sites:Instagram- / newdadorderpodcast1 Spotify-https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show...tiktok- / newdadorder
s your marriage struggling after having kids? You're not alone. In this episode of the New Dad Order Podcast (Ep 17), we dive deep into how marriage changes after kids and what it takes to reconnect with your partner when life revolves around parenting.From managing schedules to creating intentional couple time like a quiet coffee or dog walks, we share real experiences and practical tips for keeping your marriage strong. Whether you're newly married, planning a baby, or already married with kids, this conversation offers honest insights and advice for relationships after baby.We explore how family life, marriage struggles, and the challenge of finding time for each other impact long-term happiness. Learn how small efforts—like a weekly routine or simple attention—can make a huge difference in marriage life after baby.💬 Drop a comment: What do you and your partner do to stay connected?👍 Like | 🔔 Subscribe | 📣 Share with others who might relate!Reach out to Jerrard or RayJerrard-Jmparfait@gmail.comJerrard-IG is @itsparfait Ray-rbelvin91@gmail.comMelatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak fitness-Hit this link and use our promo code-NDOZZZhttps://thirdzy.com/Need a new energy drink get Dubby Energy!https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotbSpotify-https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/ray-belvin/episodes/No-Regrets-on-using-Life-360--Eat-whats-cooked--NDO5-family-podcast-motivation-art-jre-e31pdc600:00 - Intro: Welcome to New Dad Order Podcast00:30 - Overview of the 4-part "Dad Identity Crisis" series01:18 - Rediscovering self and marriage after kids02:10 - Importance of personal hobbies & identity03:36 - How marriage changes when kids grow up05:00 - Prioritizing your spouse: “God first, wife second”06:00 - How they created couple time after kids07:35 - Coffee and conversation: the new connection routine09:20 - Evening walks with the dog = bonding time10:50 - Breaking the habit of only talking about the kids12:45 - Date night struggles & lack of alone trips15:00 - Daily routines vs weekly connection17:20 - Dreams for future: travel, coffee, connection20:00 - Do we give our spouse enough attention?22:15 - What do we actually do together as a couple?23:45 - Joining a faith-based couple group for growth25:00 - Final reflections: Awareness is key26:30 - Outro: Share your ways of staying connected!🔔 Disclaimer:The content shared in this video is for informational and conversational purposes only. It reflects personal experiences and opinions, and should not be taken as professional marital, psychological, or parenting advice. Every relationship is unique. Please consult a qualified counselor or therapist for personalized support. Viewer discretion is advised.#marriageafterkids #marriedwithkids #relationshipadvice #familylife #marriagetips #relationshiptips #babyplanningaftermarriage #marriageandkids #marriedafter #marriageinfamily #lifeafterbaby #marriagestruggles #marriagekidsandmoney #family #aftermarriagebabyplanning
In this powerful episode of the New Dad Order podcast, we dive deep into one of the most overlooked yet important transitions a man can experience: rediscovering your identity after becoming a father. Fatherhood changes everything — from your hobbies and lifestyle to how you see yourself. Hosts Ray and Parfait reflect on their personal journeys of transformation, sharing how they moved from late-night poker tables to early morning workouts, CrossFit routines, coaching youth sports, and balancing marriage and mental health. 👉 Are you a new dad feeling lost in your role?👉 Do you miss your old hobbies and wonder if you'll ever get back to “you”?You're not alone — this episode is for YOU.🔑 Topics Covered:Finding new purpose after kidsBalancing marriage and parentingMental health & me-time for dadsGetting back into fitness (CrossFit, running, etc.)Coaching and community leadershipDad guilt vs. self-careWhy “effort and focus” matter more than anythingMyths of modern fatherhood💬 Drop a comment and tell us: How have YOU rediscovered yourself after becoming a dad?📌 Don’t forget to Like, Subscribe, and hit the 🔔 notification bell for more authentic parenting talks.00:00 – Intro: The Dad Identity Crisis00:28 – Losing Old Hobbies After Kids00:52 – Not Letting Fatherhood Define You01:55 – Early Fatherhood Reflections & Work-Life Balance03:10 – Poker, Parties, and Letting Go04:57 – The Mental Shift: Guilt vs. Priorities07:21 – Coaching: A New Purpose Beyond Parenting08:40 – Leadership & Community Involvement10:00 – Respect & Effort: Life Lessons Through Sports12:03 – Rediscovery Through Fitness & CrossFit14:18 – Marriage, Me-Time & Running as a Couple26:00 – Outro: Why Dads Must Keep Their Identity🔒 Disclaimer:The content shared in this video and podcast episode is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is intended for informational and motivational purposes only and should not be taken as professional medical, psychological, or parenting advice. Always consult a qualified expert or counselor for personalized support related to mental health, parenting, or relationship issues.#fatherhood #parentingtips #rediscovery #dadlife #mentalhealth #newdadorder #findyourjoy #postpartum #coachingdads #crossfitdadiva #marriageafterkids #momstories #dadidentitycrisis
Work-Life Balance for Dads: Real Talk on Boundaries, Stress & Family Time (NDO15)Struggling to balance your career, stress, and family time as a dad? You're not alone. In Episode 15 of the New Dad Order podcast, hosts Ray and Parfait open up about the real challenges modern dads face when it comes to work-life balance. From long work hours and bringing stress home to missing precious moments with family—this episode dives deep into how to set boundaries, avoid burnout, and be fully present as a father and partner.You'll hear personal stories, mistakes made, and lessons learned from two dads trying to make it work. We discuss practical tips on balancing work and family, how corporate culture can either help or hurt, and what boundaries are essential for protecting your time and mental health. Whether you're a new dad, a seasoned parent, or just trying to figure it out—this episode is for you. Topics covered:Work-life balance for dadsSetting healthy boundaries at workManaging work stress and not taking it homePersonal routines for family-first livingReal talk on career pressure and modern fatherhood👇 Drop your biggest work-life struggle or tip in the comments. Don’t forget to hit LIKE and SUBSCRIBE for more real conversations for dads.🎧 Listen, reflect, and find your balance.00:00 – Intro: Welcome to New Dad Order (NDO 15)01:05 – Defining work-life balance as a modern dad03:20 – Why dads struggle with setting boundaries06:15 – Real talk: Stress from work affecting family life08:50 – Ray’s story: Missing moments with his kids12:30 – Parfait’s routine for mental reset after work15:00 – How to communicate your boundaries at work18:45 – Redefining “provider” in today’s fatherhood21:10 – Tips to prioritize presence over pressure24:00 – Final thoughts: Progress over perfectionDisclaimer:The content shared in this video is for informational and conversational purposes only. The opinions expressed are based on personal experiences and are not intended to replace professional advice. Always consult with a qualified expert or counselor regarding mental health, work-life balance, or family-related matters.#WorkLifeBalance #ModernDad #DadLife #FatherhoodJourney #SetBoundaries #WorkStress #ParentingPodcast #NewDadOrder #FamilyFirst #DadTalks
Welcome to the New Dad Order Podcast, where we get real about the modern Dad Identity Crisis and the challenges men face from dating to marriage to fatherhood. In this episode, hosts Ray and Parfait break down what it really means to lose — and then rediscover — yourself as a husband and father.They dive deep into the stages that shape your identity: going from dating to dad, balancing a demanding career with family time, and finding ways to keep your marriage strong long after the honeymoon phase. Whether you’re a new dad wondering how to juggle work-life balance, a husband trying to reconnect with your partner, or a father feeling pulled in every direction — this episode is for you.Ray and Parfait share honest stories about long dating phases, instant family life, huge family gatherings, and the real cost of splitting time between households. They discuss practical tips on how to rediscover your identity, protect your mental health, and build a thriving marriage beyond raising kids.They also touch on modern challenges like joint custody during the holidays, being a stepdad, and how faith, family, and strong communication help keep things together when life feels overwhelming. You’ll hear real examples that every father can relate to — the big wedding vs. small wedding debate, the chaos of family holidays, and the bittersweet realities of sharing kids across households.If you’re ready to join a supportive community of dads, laugh a little, and maybe even find new strategies to thrive as a husband and father, you’re in the right place. Hit play and get ready for honest dad talk that helps you feel less alone in your journey.🔔 Subscribe to the New Dad Order Podcast for more real conversations about fatherhood, marriage, identity, and keeping the spark alive when life gets real.#DadIdentityCrisis #FatherhoodPodcast #MarriageAfterKids #WorkLifeBalanceForDads #NewDadOrderPodcast #ModernDadTalk #ParentingPodcast #HusbandAndFather #RediscoverYourself #familylife Time stamp:00:00 – Intro: Welcome to New Dad Order Podcast01:50 – What Is a Dad Identity Crisis?02:15 – How Fatherhood Changes Your Identity04:50 – From Dating to Dad: Our Personal Stories08:00 – Big Wedding vs. Small Wedding – Different Paths10:45 – Blending Families & Big Family Holidays14:20 – Balancing Work, Life, and Family18:00 – Rediscovering Yourself as a Husband & Father21:30 – Marriage Beyond the Kids: Keeping the Spark Alive25:15 – Split Families & Co-Parenting During Holidays28:45 – Real Talk: Dad Energy, Health & Staying Present31:30 – Closing Thoughts & Next Episode PreviewReach out to Jerrard or RayJerrard-Jmparfait@gmail.comJerrard-IG is @itsparfait Ray-rbelvin91@gmail.comMelatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak fitness-Hit this link and use our promo code-NDOZZZhttps://thirdzy.com/Need a new energy drink get Dubby Energy!https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotbSpotify-https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/ray-belvin/episodes/No-Regrets-on-using-Life-360--Eat-whats-cooked--NDO5-family-podcast-motivation-art-jre-e31pdc6#joerogan #theovon #shawnryanshow #news #dailydoseofwisdom
Welcome to the New Dad Order podcast! In this powerful episode, Ray and Parfait dive into a deeply personal and eye-opening discussion about the 8 most harmful phrases parents unknowingly say to their kids. Whether you're a new dad, seasoned parent, or someone healing from childhood trauma, this conversation will resonate with you.Starting at 1:07, the hosts break down phrases like “What’s wrong with you?”, “Don’t have time for you,” and “Because I said so”. Drawing from real-life experiences, coaching backgrounds, and honest parenting moments, they explore how these common phrases affect children's mental health, self-worth, and long-term development.Each harmful phrase is examined through a psychological, emotional, and practical parenting lens. Ray shares the impact of being compared to others, while Parfait reflects on how small things like saying “in a minute” can create emotional distance. They also discuss how guilt, shame, and fear are often unintentionally reinforced by language—and how parents can flip those moments into opportunities for growth, trust, and connection.This episode is more than just calling out toxic parenting phrases. It’s a real, raw, and often funny journey through the modern fatherhood landscape—offering actionable tips, introspective moments, and real dad talk about how we can do better. From talking about yelling vs. communicating, to discussing gut feelings, religious values, and potty-training behind the couch, this episode is both profound and entertaining.👨👧 Whether you're a conscious parent, coach, educator, or just want to break generational cycles, this episode will give you the clarity, motivation, and insight to grow as a parent.🛠️ Key Takeaways:How subtle language impacts a child’s identityWhen “Because I said so” becomes damagingThe long-term harm of guilt-based disciplineRecognizing manipulative parenting patternsCreating trust-based communication at homeTHANKS to Psych2Go for the topic!
Want to play D1 college football — or help your kid get there?In this powerful episode of the New Dad Order Podcast, Ray breaks down 8 things he did to play Division 1 football in the 90s — and 5 ways modern athletes can still get recruited today.The game may have changed — with NIL deals, transfer portals, and social media highlights — but one thing hasn’t: effort always matters.🎧 Whether you’re a dad raising an athlete, a parent navigating today’s confusing recruiting world, or a coach helping young players succeed, this episode delivers real talk and actionable advice.You’ll learn:🏈 The biggest recruiting mistake parents still make🏈 Why grades matter more than hype🏈 The truth about multi-sport athletes🏈 Why game film beats Instagram clips🏈 The mindset coaches are still looking for🏈 How to help your kid stand out — without spending a fortune🏈 What I wish I knew when chasing D1 dreamsFrom old school grit to modern recruiting hacks, this is a must-watch for any family thinking about college sports.👊 We built this podcast to serve:✅ New dads✅ Stepdads✅ Parenting podcast fans✅ Sports parents✅ Athletes and coaches✅ YouTubers building fatherhood or personal growth communities👉 Join the #DadCiples — where fatherhood meets real life, sports meets character, and we raise kids who chase their dreams the right way.👍 Like | 💬 Comment | 🔔 SubscribeLet’s build better athletes — and better humans.#collegefootball #d1recruiting #fatherhoodpodcast #parentingathletes #stepdadlife #raisingathletes #youthsports #NILera #newdadorder #sportsparents #footballpodcast #dadcommunity #realparenting #gritwinsReach out to Jerrard or RayJerrard-Jmparfait@gmail.comJerrard-IG is @itsparfait Ray-rbelvin91@gmail.comMelatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak fitness-Hit this link and use our promo code-NDOZZZhttps://thirdzy.com/Need a new energy drink get Dubby Energy!https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotbSpotify-https://creators.spotify.com/pod/show/ray-belvin/episodes/No-Regrets-on-using-Life-360--Eat-whats-cooked--NDO5-family-podcast-motivation-art-jre-e31pdc6📅 Final Timeline / Chapters0:00 – Full Video Intro (Custom intro content you added)1:17 – Main Show Intro: D1 Football Journey + Why This Episode Matters2:00 – Reason #1: Effort Wins Opportunities3:15 – Reason #2: Be Athletic — Basketball, Agility, Footwork4:50 – Reason #3: Know Your Job — Mental Processing & Reads7:10 – Reason #4: Speed Matters — Run Well At Any Size8:30 – Reason #5: Play With Confidence + Coachability10:10 – Reason #6: Play Multiple Sports — Recruit Visibility12:40 – Reason #7: Academic Success Matters15:05 – Reason #8: Team Success Drives Recruiting17:20 – When I Knew I Could Go D1 — Pitt Postcard Moment19:00 – How Recruiting Has Changed — NIL + Transfer Portal20:40 – Tip #1: Attend Legit School Camps23:15 – Tip #2: Beware Showcase Money Traps25:45 – Tip #3: Stay Focused on Schoolwork + Eligibility28:05 – Tip #4: Be Humble, Attentive, Well-Spoken30:30 – Tip #5: Use Social Media Wisely — Avoid DelusionsSpecial Segment: Soccer & Youth Sports Conversation35:00 – Youth Soccer Cutoff Controversy — Birth Year vs School Year36:10 – Club Soccer vs High School Soccer Recruiting37:15 – European Club Influence & U.S. Soccer PathwaysFinal Segment: Parenting, Mindset, Community38:30 – Parenting Wisdom — Take Advice That Fits Your Kid39:20 – Personality Gaps & Raising Well-Rounded Kids40:15 – Final Reflection — Processing Sports Info at Young Age41:00 – Call to Action — Subscribe, Comment, Join New Dad Order Community#joerogan #theovon #shawnryanshow #news #dailydoseofwisdom