In Episode 30 of the New Dad Order Podcast, hosts Ray and Parfait dive into the unspoken rules of emotional intelligence, and conversation skills. The episode opens with a relatable truth—how men often default to saying “I’m good” even when they’re not. It’s a cultural shorthand for emotional restraint, politeness, and control, but it can also isolate men from real connection. The hosts explore how social conditioning makes men less likely to express vulnerability and more likely to keep conversations surface-level.Small Talk and Social ConfidenceThe conversation shifts to small talk—the “elevator speech” moments that define first impressions. Ray and Parfait share humorous stories from retail jobs, where polite interactions often turned into oversharing sessions. They dissect the difference between genuine connection and social obligation, offering practical advice for men who struggle with social anxiety or party settings. Ray admits he’s not the life of the party, but he’s learned techniques to navigate unfamiliar rooms. His go-to strategy? Find common ground. He uses sports (especially Saints and LSU football) as easy conversation entry points, then pivots into personal stories or shared experiences. Their takeaway: being interesting is really about being curious. Ask questions, look for context clues—like family photos or travel pictures—and invite others to talk about themselves.Debate, and Emotional ControlThe second half of the episode focuses on how men debate, argue, and manage emotions. Ray confesses he often walks away from heated conversations replaying what he “should’ve said,” while Parfait explains his “poker-face” approach: stay calm, lower emotional intensity, and never mirror the other person’s anger. This emotional discipline, is key to effective masculine communication. It’s not about domination—it’s about maintaining composure to earn respect and keep control of the narrative👉 Subscribe for weekly episodes on leadership, parenting, and resilience — real talk for people who want to build strength, not excuses.✦ About Ernie Burns & Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsPresident & CEO: Ernie M. Burns, Jr.Master Certified Estate Planner (MCEP®)Forbes Top Financial Security Professional in Louisiana – 2022 & 2023Author: Total Retirement: A Step-By-Step Educational GuideHost: Total Retirement with Ernie Burns – airing weekly across Louisiana, Florida & Alabama✦ Contact InformationToll-Free: 800-308-4416Louisiana: 985-345-7114Florida: 850-855-4890Alabama: 251-378-9822Fax: 985-345-7124Email: marketing@burnsestateplanning.comWebsite: burnsestateplanning.comOffice Locations: Hammond (HQ), Mandeville, Metairie, Baton Rouge (LA); Destin, Panama City Beach, Pensacola, Tallahassee, West Palm Beach, Jacksonville (FL); Spanish Fort (AL).Social Media:Facebook: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsLinkedIn: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsYouTube: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth Advisors🎧 Listen on Spotify: New Dad Order Podcast on Spotify📸 Follow us on Instagram: @newdadorderpodcast1#CharlieKirk #NewDadOrder #Podcast #CharlieKirkMurder #Politics #FreedomOfSpeech📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: jmparfait@gmail.com📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: rbelvin91@gmail.com💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify:🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/4Zi2b2lmVbAr1m8mhHhjOK?si=l6HluKZ8Rs2Fxt6WJAVy9QTikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorder