In this episode of The New Dad Order, Ray and Parfait break down what it truly means to have “Ice in the Veins” — that elite-level calm under pressure that separates average performers from true leaders. Drawing from college football memories, parenting lessons, and the psychology of performance, they unpack how emotional control, preparation, and resilience build both great athletes and confident kids.Ray shares his first start at the University of Pittsburgh vs. Notre Dame, reliving the nerves, a dropped pass, and the immediate bounce-back that led to a breakout performance. He reflects on playing alongside legends like Curtis Martin and Alex Van Pelt, and being coached by future NFL greats like Jon Gruden, Mike McCarthy, and Marvin Lewis. These stories illustrate how poise under pressure and quiet confidence often matter more than hype or volume.The hosts explore the difference between quiet and loud leadership, comparing Tom Brady, Kobe Bryant, Michael Jordan, Drew Brees, and Peyton Manning. Each led differently—but all shared a mastery of focus, calm, and execution. The phrase “ice in the veins” isn’t arrogance—it’s emotional maturity, the ability to stay grounded and perform when it counts.⏱️ Timestamps / Chapters00:00 – Intro | What “Ice in the Veins” Really Means02:10 – Cold-Blooded or Calm? The Truth Behind “Ice in the Veins”06:25 – Ray’s First Start at Pitt vs. Notre Dame10:40 – Playing with Legends: Curtis Martin, Alex Van Pelt & NFL Coaches15:30 – Leadership Styles: Brady, Brees, Kobe & Jordan20:55 – Quiet Leadership vs. Loud Motivation25:45 – Parenting Through Pressure: Lessons from the Field30:20 – From Benched to Starter: The 9-Year-Old Redemption Story34:40 – Practice, Poise, Performance: The Three-Step Formula for Kids38:25 – Applying the Athlete Mindset to School and Life41:30 – Sponsors & Final Takeaway: Calm Beats Chaos43:57 – Outro | Stay Cool. Lead Strong.👉 Subscribe for weekly episodes on leadership, parenting, and resilience — real talk for people who want to build strength, not excuses.✦ About Ernie Burns & Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsPresident & CEO: Ernie M. Burns, Jr.Master Certified Estate Planner (MCEP®)Forbes Top Financial Security Professional in Louisiana – 2022 & 2023Author: Total Retirement: A Step-By-Step Educational GuideHost: Total Retirement with Ernie Burns – airing weekly across Louisiana, Florida & Alabama✦ Contact InformationToll-Free: 800-308-4416Louisiana: 985-345-7114Florida: 850-855-4890Alabama: 251-378-9822Fax: 985-345-7124Email: marketing@burnsestateplanning.comWebsite: burnsestateplanning.comOffice Locations: Hammond (HQ), Mandeville, Metairie, Baton Rouge (LA); Destin, Panama City Beach, Pensacola, Tallahassee, West Palm Beach, Jacksonville (FL); Spanish Fort (AL).Social Media:Facebook: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsLinkedIn: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth AdvisorsYouTube: Burns Estate Planning & Wealth Advisors🎧 Listen on Spotify: New Dad Order Podcast on Spotify📸 Follow us on Instagram: @newdadorderpodcast1#podcast #newdadorder 📩 Reach Out:Jerrard:📧 Email: jmparfait@gmail.com📱 Instagram: @itsparfaitRay:📧 Email: rbelvin91@gmail.com💤 Sleep & Recovery:Melatonin-Free Sleep & Recovery for Peak Fitness👉 Hit this link and use promo code: NDOZZZ🔗 https://thirdzy.com/⚡ Energy Boost:Need a new energy drink? Try Dubby Energy!👉 Use this link and discount code automatically applies🔗 https://www.dubby.gg/discount/NEWDADORDER?ref=fhfcqotb🌐 Find Us Online:Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/newdadorderpodcast1Spotify:🎧 https://open.spotify.com/show/4Zi2b2lmVbAr1m8mhHhjOK?si=l6HluKZ8Rs2Fxt6WJAVy9QTikTok:https://www.tiktok.com/@newdadorderApple broadcast:https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/new-dad-order/id1849310124