“Just because it didn’t last doesn’t mean it was never meant to be.” Lean in, Beloved, as we chat about something almost everyone has experienced… Heartbreak and the journey to move forward after. This episode is titled 3 Reasons You Can’t Get Over Your Ex, but that is where the struggle begins. Heartbreak is not something you “get over.” I’m sharing a perspective many people miss. We heal, we grow, and we move forward. We don’t fully get over being in love, sharing a life, and creating memories with someone we’ve felt a deep connection with. I know firsthand that the heartbreak struggle is real—and there are three main reasons why. If you have been wondering why it’s been so hard to heal and move forward from heartbreak, this is the conversation you need to have today. Takeaways We never really get over heartbreak—we heal and move forward. Heartbreak leaves lasting imprints on our hearts and minds. Going no contact is essential for healing after a breakup. Romanticizing a relationship can hinder the healing process. Closure is something you must give to yourself, not seek from others. Healthy distractions can help fill the void left by a breakup. Resetting your energy is crucial for moving forward. It's okay to take time to reclaim yourself after a relationship. The version of you in the relationship is not the same as now. Chapters 00:00 Understanding Heartbreak and Healing 02:05 The Importance of No Contact 04:57 Romanticizing Relationships 08:02 The Myth of Closure 11:58 Practical Steps to Heal from Heartbreak   Thanks to I Hope This Helps, The Podcast Sponsors: CozyEarth.com Right now, you can stack my code HELPS on top of their sitewide sale — giving you up to 40% off in savings. AquaTru.com Use my code HELPS to save 20% off your purchase of a purifier. Resources For deeper reflection and journal prompts: Habits For Healing: Reclaim Your Purpose, Peace, and Power⁠ Cover Art: Alafia Haus Photography: Drea Nicole   Healing allows you to carry positive memories into future relationships Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Start by asking yourself, "Do I really need to have this conversation?" This conversation is a new format for us, and I’m excited about it. I get to answer a listener’s question in a series I’m calling Ask Nakeia. This week’s question comes from “Liz.” She shared some background information before asking a question that many of you will relate to. Her intention is to share her heart without hurting her mother, to be heard and respected, to maintain the health of the relationship, and to deepen the connection. Can you guess what Liz’s question is? Some of my answers may surprise you. Tune in to hear the six practices I share and learn how your question could be the next one I answer in the all-new Ask Nakeia series. Takeaways Start by asking yourself, "Do I really need to have this conversation?" Get clear on your intention. Validation from others isn't always necessary. Sometimes just being heard is enough. You may need to process your feelings in the safety of a professional. Decide how you will handle the worst-case scenario. Only share what is necessary. Release your projected outcomes. Understanding your intent can guide your conversations. Continue being brave enough to use your voice.   Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Difficult Conversations 00:51 Preparing for the Conversation Thanks to I Hope This Helps, The Podcast Sponsor: CozyEarth.com Right now, you can stack my code HELPS on top of their sitewide sale — giving you up to 40% off in savings. Resources: For deeper reflection, read the chapter on not taking things personally and boundaries: Habits For Healing: Reclaim Your Purpose, Peace, and Power⁠ Cover Art: Alafia Haus Photography: Drea Nicole Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“When it blocks your blessings… Let it go.” “How do I know when to let go?” is part of my top five most frequently asked questions. And today, I have answers... In this episode, I walk you through the complex emotions surrounding the decision to let go of relationships, goals, and personal attachments. I’m sharing the signs you may be missing and sending you love as I share the signs you and I both know you know. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, this episode encourages you to confront your fear of change and failure and ultimately let go. Takeaways When it’s time to let go, there will be signs. Conditioning leads us to hold on longer than we should. Fear of change can prevent us from letting go. Letting go can feel like admitting failure. Investment in time and energy can make it hard to release. You don’t need closure to move on. There is grief that comes from doing what's best for you. Not everything we need to let go of is bad—It just may not align with our current selves. Everything that's good to you ain't good for you. Letting go opens up space for new opportunities and growth. Chapters   00:00 The Dilemma of Letting Go 02:11 Understanding the Struggle to Let Go 09:41 The Emotional Weight of Letting Go 10:33 Recognizing When to Let Go 18:23 The Power of Letting Go Resources: For deeper reflection, read the chapter on letting go, and journal prompts: Habits For Healing: Reclaim Your Purpose, Peace, and Power⁠ Cover Art: Alafia Haus Photography: Drea Nicole   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“The people who hurt you may not want to see you healed.” I was sending you love this entire episode. Today, we discussed something that a lot of people struggle with, which is healing without an apology. In this episode, I really leaned into the fact that healing is a personal journey that does not require the approval or acknowledgment of others. Even when it comes to feelings of hurt, disappointment, and betrayal, the way forward is through your decision to heal—not an apology. The truth is: some people aren’t willing, able, or ready to admit their wrongs, but you deserve to heal anyway. Once again, we are going “there.” There will be some talk about validating your own feelings, engaging in healing practices, self-care, and the steps one can take to reclaim their energy and find closure.   Takeaways You don't need an apology to heal. Your healing belongs to you. Healing does not require the approval or participation of others. The people who hurt you may not want to see you healed. Apologies can come in different forms, not always verbal. Your work is to heal. Excuse yourself from the offense and move forward. Acknowledge your feelings to begin the healing process. You can give yourself closure. Healing without an apology is the ultimate act of self-care. Chapters   00:00 The Journey to Healing Begins 09:49 Finding Closure and Acknowledging Feelings 16:20 Reclaiming Energy and Practicing Self-Care Resources: For deeper reflection and journal prompts: Habits For Healing: Reclaim Your Purpose, Peace, and Power⁠ Prayer for healing without an apology: I Hope This Helps Cover Art: Alafia Haus Photography: Drea Nicole Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“If You Are The Problem, You Are Also The Solution.” I am sending you love as I say this: You may be your biggest opp. But settle yourself, Beloved, because today, I am going to show you how to become your greatest ally. This episode explores the pattern of self-sabotage.  We will reflect on the behaviors that may be hindering your progress. And I take my time as I unpack 10 self-sabotaging habits and 4 transformative habits that will replace them all. If you are tired of starting and stopping, not keeping your word, doing the same old things, and feeling stuck, get into this episode immediately. And be prepared to be moved into action. Takeaways You may be your own biggest obstacle. Personal accountability empowers you to change. Talking too much can limit your potential. Seek the right people for support and guidance. Don't wait for the perfect moment to start. Prioritize your mental health as a foundation for success. Forgiveness is essential for moving forward. Include faith in your plans for guidance. Understanding your feelings is crucial for growth. Embrace your gifts and stop downplaying your talents. Chapters 00:00 Identifying the Problem: Are You the Issue? 01:25 Self-Sabotaging Habits: An Overview 05:08 The Importance of Communication: Who Are You Talking To? 11:11 Starting Before You're Ready: Embracing Imperfection 14:23 Prioritizing Mental Health: The Foundation of Progress 16:54 Forgiveness: Letting Go of the Past 19:45 Including Faith in Your Journey 22:20 Understanding and Regulating Your Feelings 24:20 Embracing Your Gifts: Stop Downplaying Yourself 30:16 Decisiveness: Making Choices to Move Forward 32:16 Healing Self-Sabotage: Steps to Take   Resources: For deeper reflection and journal prompts: Habits For Healing: Reclaim Your Purpose, Peace, and Power⁠ The book I used to start weight training: The New Rules Of Lifting For Women Cover Art: Alafia House Photography: Drea Nicole   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"You have to choose friendship."   In this episode, we will laugh a little as we explore the complexities of adult friendships. I share my personal friendship experiences, including one that ended. I discuss how friendships evolve and the importance of intentionality in cultivating and maintaining these relationships. And I leave you with some practical advice on how to meet new friends as an adult. If you have had struggles in your friendships, want to deepen existing connections, or redefine friendship in a new season in your life, this episode is for you. Takeaways Friendship dynamics change as we grow older. Adult friendships often require intentional effort. Defining friendship characteristics is crucial for connection. Boundaries in friendships help maintain healthy relationships. Showing up for friends is essential for deepening bonds. Friendship should be easy and not burdensome. It's important to communicate needs in friendships. Cultivating new friendships should always be an option. Reconnecting with old friends can reignite valuable relationships. Connection outside of family and partners is necessary for well-being. Chapters   00:00 The Foundation of Adult Friendships 02:21 Evolving Definitions of Friendship 05:07 Navigating Changes in Friendships 07:36 Characteristics and Boundaries in Friendships 10:18 Showing Up as a Friend 14:19 Making Friendships Easy 17:59 Cultivating New Friendships 20:21 The Importance of Connection   Resources: Friendship Scripture: A man who has friends must himself be friendly, -Proverbs 18:24 For deeper reflection and journal prompts: Habits For Healing: Reclaim Your Purpose, Peace, and Power⁠ Cover Art: Alafia House Photography: Drea Nicole   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"The habits that helped you survive in the past could be the cause of your current struggle." Everyone is talking about healing. There is a hashtag for every trending healing practice. Yet, people are still struggling with the same patterns, relationships, and mindset. My book, “Habits for Healing: Reclaim Your Purpose, Peace, and Power is what ABC News calls “a roadmap to healing” because it outlines nine essential habits that can help you go from a traumatic childhood, burnout, insecurity, shame, or hopelessness to healing, growing, thriving, and living in purpose, peace, and power. In this week’s episode, each healing habit is explored in detail, highlighting the significance of self-care, letting go, personal accountability, acceptance, self-forgiveness, not taking things personally, minding one's own business, setting boundaries, and remembering one's identity, so you can engage in your healing journey and identify practices that resonate with your unique experiences. After listening, you will be ready to take the next step on your healing journey. Takeaways Self-care practices must be individualized to be effective. Letting go of past habits is essential for growth. Personal accountability empowers individuals to take control of their lives. Acceptance involves adjusting expectations and recognizing capacity. Self-forgiveness is crucial for honoring personal progress. Not taking things personally helps in understanding the truth. Minding your own business allows for personal focus and growth. Setting boundaries is necessary for healthy connections. Remembering who you are is vital for embracing possibilities. Chapters   00:00 Embracing Healing and Personal Development 02:49 Identifying Individual Healing Journeys 03:42 The Nine Habits for Healing 04:16 Self-Care: The Foundation of Healing 05:34 Letting Go: Embracing Change 06:47 Personal Accountability: Taking Control 09:29 Acceptance: Healing Bitterness 11:09 Self-Forgiveness: Honoring Progress 13:43 Not Taking Things Personally: Finding Truth 14:39 Minding Your Own Business: Focusing on Self 16:58 Setting Boundaries: Ensuring Connection Resources: Get your copy of Habits For Healing: Reclaim Your Purpose, Peace, and Power⁠ Contributors: Cover Art: Alafia House Photography: Drea Nicole 18:01 Remembering Who You Are: Embracing Possibility Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"Love me with your boundaries."   In this episode, I unpack the complex topic of boundaries. We explore why you may struggle to set them and how they can be reframed as tools for safety and support in relationships. I discuss the historical context of boundaries, particularly within family dynamics, and emphasize the importance of mutual respect and effective communication. I provide practical advice on how to effectively communicate boundaries, the actions to take when they are crossed, and the significance of consistency in maintaining them. Ultimately, I share everything you need to know to begin the healing practice of setting boundaries. My take is different from what you may have heard in the past, and my hope is that this fresh approach will change your most valued relationships.   Takeaways Boundaries are essential for feeling safe and supported in relationships. Many struggle with boundaries due to past experiences and family dynamics. Setting boundaries can preserve relationships rather than harm them. If your boundary isn’t communicated, it doesn’t exist. You are responsible for your own boundaries and actions. Stop negotiating your boundaries with chronic boundary crossers. Respect for boundaries is mutual and should be reciprocal. Boundaries are for family, too. If you struggle with boundaries, it may indicate a deeper issue with the relationship. Ask yourself what you need to feel safe and supported in your relationships. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Boundaries 00:54 Understanding the Struggle with Boundaries 05:05 Reframing Boundaries for Safety and Support 09:01 Boundaries in Family Relationships 12:13 Communicating Boundaries Effectively 19:25 Actions to Take When Boundaries Are Crossed 25:06 The Importance of Consistency in Boundaries Resources: For deeper reflection and journal prompts Habits For Healing: Reclaim Your Purpose, Peace, and Power⁠ Cover Art: Alafia House Photography: Drea Nicole 29:19 Conclusion: Boundaries Preserve Relationships Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Most people don’t get what they want because they don’t know what they want.” Self-awareness is revolutionary. Knowing who you are, what you want, and why you want it will literally change the quality of your life—and the only way to get to the bottom of it is through conversations with yourself. This week, we discuss the significance of self-dialogue and its impact on personal growth and self-awareness. The practice of having meaningful internal conversations is something I learned from a mentor when I was a young girl. I thought it was silly, but because I trusted my mentor, I did it anyway—and I’ve been talking to myself ever since. The benefits of self-talk are priceless, and I’m sharing the ones that have impacted my life the most, as well as a few other reasons you should have conversations with yourself daily. If you want to cultivate a deeper relationship with yourself and improve the quality of your life, start with today’s episode.   Takeaways Self-dialogue deepens self-awareness. Most people don’t get what they want because they don’t know what they want. Self-talk can improve emotional regulation, communication, and productivity. Knowing your 'why' informs your decisions. Self-awareness leads to self-actualization. Self-talk enhances mindfulness and focus. You are your eternal companion. Chapters   00:00 The Importance of Self-Dialogue 10:05 Exploring the Three W's: Who, What, Why Resources: For deeper reflection and journal prompts: Habits For Healing: Reclaim Your Purpose, Peace, and Power⁠ Cover Art: Alafia House Photography: Drea Nicole Theme Music: Charles "Tony" Homer & Nakeia Homer   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Healing is a privilege.” That change in your commute to work, phone conversation with a friend, extra 20 minutes of sleep, or the boundary you just set with a sibling is proof that you are healing. This episode explores the concept of healing, emphasizing that it is a journey towards wholeness rather than a destination. We discuss the various layers of healing, the truths about healing, and the continuous nature of the healing process. Instead of pressuring yourself to meet an unrealistic definition of healing, I am inviting you to define it for yourself, recognize your progress, and engage in daily practices that lead to wholeness.   Takeaways Healing is about becoming whole and aligned. Healing can involve multiple cycles throughout life. Feeling pain does not negate the healing process. Loss can be a part of healing. Healing is a lifelong journey, not a one-time event. Daily practices contribute to a sense of wholeness. Self-awareness is key to recognizing healing progress. Setting boundaries is an important aspect of healing. Emotional maturity is reflected in the ability to feel. Healing is a privilege that allows for continuous growth.   Chapters 00:00 Understanding Healing: A Journey to Wholeness 04:09 The Truths of Healing: Embracing the Process 08:55 Healing as a Lifelong Journey: Continuous Growth 12:12 Practical Steps to Feel Whole: Daily Practices Resources: nakeiahomer.com nakeiahomer.com/books Email: podcast@nakeiahomer.com Cover Art: Alafia Haus Photography: Drea Nicole Theme Music: Charles "Tony" Homer & Nakeia Homer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Feelings may not be facts—but they are valid.” I think it’s safe to say we’ve all experienced something we could label "the worst"— at least until the next worst thing happens. In this episode, I discuss the universal experience of facing life's worst moments and offer practical practices that will help you navigate them. We dive into the importance of feeling emotions, making a decision to heal, collecting lessons from struggles, prioritizing self-care, and embracing the new version of yourself that emerges from adversity. This episode is special. I didn’t realize it until I listened to the playback, but I get really raw as I share what was one of the most painful experiences in my life. My hope is that I encourage you as I encouraged myself with this one. Finally, I extended a special invitation for you to share your “worst season” story with me. Listen to this episode, and if you have the capacity, email me directly at podcast@nakeiahomer.com. *Please note the correct email address. The one I shared on the podcast is incorrect.   Correct email address is: podcast@nakeiahomer.com   Takeaways Feel all of your feelings—they are valid. Remember past challenges to find strength. Make a conscious decision to heal. Collect lessons from your struggles. Prioritize self-care during tough times. Ask for help. Embrace the new version of yourself that emerges. Your worst times can lead to personal growth. Document your journey for reflection. 00:00 Introduction to Life's Challenges 02:52 Navigating Through Difficult Emotions 05:36 The Decision to Heal 08:27 Collecting Lessons from Struggles 11:44 The Importance of Self-Care 14:36 Embracing the New You Resources: Habits For Healing: Reclaim Your Purpose, Peace, and Power Cover Art: Alafia House Photography: Drea Nicole Theme Music: Charles "Tony" Homer & Nakeia Homer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"If you want to heal, start where it hurts." In this inaugural episode of the podcast, Nakeia vulnerably takes you back to her start and shares her journey from a traumatic childhood to creating a new legacy of healing. If you want to break generational cycles, create your own path, and become the person you were meant to be, listen as Nakeia shares the next 3 steps you should take on your healing journey. Learn simple daily practices that contribute to your healing and personal growth, and get inspired as you go from pain to power. Takeaways Healing starts with acknowledging where it hurts and making a decision to change. Daily practices and choices lead to daily progress. Don’t make the mistake of trying to heal too much too fast. Come up with one thing you can do to bring some form of healing to your life today.  Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Journey 02:58 Overcoming Adversity and Defying Statistics 05:41 The Healing Journey Begins 08:59 The Importance of Authenticity and Connection Covert Art: Alafia House Photography: DRea Nicole Theme Music: Charles "Tony" Homer and Nakeia Homer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to I Hope This Helps, The Podcast. Host Nakeia Homer will be covering everything from healing to personal growth, relationships to purpose, and everything in between. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices