Are you an overachiever, a procrastinator, or an avoider? In this episode of Unlock Your Blocks, trauma-informed life strategist Elyssa Smith breaks down the hidden faces of perfectionism—and how each one keeps you stuck in survival mode. She unpacks how these patterns often begin in childhood, where self-worth becomes tied to performance or praise, and explains how they evolve into anxiety, burnout, and self-doubt in adulthood. Elyssa shares practical, trauma-informed strategies for identifying your perfectionism style and starting to reprogram your nervous system to feel safe with imperfection. Through gentle awareness and small, intentional steps, you’ll learn how to trade the exhausting pursuit of “perfect” for the freedom of progress, authenticity, and peace. ✅ What You’ll Learn: The three main types of perfectionists: overachiever, procrastinator, and avoider How childhood conditioning fuels perfectionistic tendencies The connection between perfectionism, anxiety, and burnout Why procrastination is often a form of self-protection How to reprogram your beliefs about failure and worth The power of taking small, imperfect actions Why your nervous system resists change (and how to make it feel safe) How embracing imperfection leads to deeper growth and joy 🕒 Episode Chapters: 00:00 – Understanding Perfectionism 05:51 – The Three Faces of Perfectionism 10:18 – Reprogramming Perfectionist Patterns 15:13 – Taking Action Against Perfectionism 🎁 Get a Free Call with Elyssa: Book your FREE 15-minute Unlock Your Blocks focus call to uncover what’s keeping you from your next level of growth and clarity. 👉 Book here 📌 Follow Elyssa for More: 📸 Instagram: @elyssacsmith 📘 Facebook Group – The Stressless Lounge

High-achieving women are often seen as strong, capable, and unstoppable—but behind the success, many are silently carrying the weight of unhealed trauma. In this powerful episode of Unlock Your Blocks, Elyssa Smith is joined by Crystal Williams to unpack the realities of healing for women who have learned to perform, lead, and hold it all together—often at the expense of their own well-being. Crystal vulnerably shares her journey through childhood trauma, the impact of family dynamics, and how embracing self-leadership became a turning point in her healing. Together, they discuss the importance of emotional expression, breaking toxic cycles, and making space for authentic self-care. If you’ve ever felt like you had to be the crisis manager for everyone else, this conversation will remind you that healing is not just possible—it’s your birthright. ✅ What You’ll Learn: Why high-achieving women often struggle with hidden trauma How crying can be a powerful sign of emotional release and healing The impact of family dynamics and the need to set boundaries Why stepping out of the “crisis manager” role matters for growth How trauma can manifest in subtle, overlooked ways The role of self-leadership in breaking toxic cycles The question to ask when you don’t know what’s next in your healing journey Why playing small limits not only you, but those around you Practical steps to embrace patience, self-care, and compassion 🕒 Episode Chapters: 00:00 – Introduction to Healing and Trauma 02:44 – Crystal's Journey Through Trauma 13:25 – Understanding PTSD and Its Impact 17:40 – Navigating the Path to Healing 22:30 – The Roots of Trauma and Personal Growth 25:22 – Navigating Family Dynamics and Personal Healing 31:03 – The Journey of Self-Discovery and Leadership 38:54 – Embracing the Healing Process and Self-Care 43:24 – Looking Ahead: Future Conversations and Connections 🎁 Get a Free Call with Elyssa: Ready to step into healing and self-leadership? Book your FREE 15-minute Unlock Your Blocks focus call with Elyssa and start reclaiming your energy and clarity today. 👉 Book here 📌 Follow Elyssa for More: 📸 Instagram: @elyssacsmith 📘 Facebook Group – The Stressless Lounge  

Have you ever wondered why you procrastinate, freeze, or hesitate just as you’re about to step into something bigger? In this episode of Unlock Your Blocks, Elyssa Smith unpacks the hidden reasons behind self-sabotage and how survival mode—often rooted in childhood experiences—can shape the way we approach success as adults. Elyssa shares how fear of visibility, anxiety, and inner criticism often keep women from asking for more, stepping into leadership, or fully embracing opportunities. She introduces the power of inner child work, practical mindset shifts, and pattern interrupts to help you break free from cycles of self-doubt. If you’ve ever felt stuck, this conversation will give you tools to move forward with compassion, courage, and clarity. ✅ What You’ll Learn: How survival mode contributes to self-sabotaging behaviors Why childhood experiences impact your motivation and view of success The connection between fear of visibility and procrastination How anxiety shows up as resistance when you’re close to growth The importance of reassuring your inner child during transitions Why investing in yourself is key to sustainable success How to use pattern interrupts to break cycles of self-doubt Ways to reframe setbacks and enjoy the journey, not just the outcome 🕒 Episode Chapters: 00:00 – Understanding Survival Mode and Its Impact on Success 08:28 – Breaking the Cycle of Self-Sabotage 11:36 – Practical Steps to Overcome Fear of Success 🎁 Get a Free Call with Elyssa: Book your FREE 15-minute Unlock Your Blocks focus call to uncover what’s keeping you from your next level of growth and clarity. 👉 Book here 📌 Follow Elyssa for More: 📸 Instagram: @elyssacsmith 📘 Facebook Group – The Stressless Lounge

Life can pivot in an instant, and sometimes those challenges reveal your true purpose. In this episode of Unlock Your Blocks, Elyssa Smith sits down with Missy Shopshire to explore her transition from a high-powered corporate sales career to becoming a life and business coach. Missy shares her personal story, including facing her daughter’s illness and a near-death experience of her own, which prompted a deep reevaluation of her life and priorities. They discuss overcoming self-sabotage, trusting your intuition, embracing visibility, and the importance of building support systems. This conversation is a powerful reminder that intentional living and stepping into your purpose often require courage, reflection, and actionable steps. ✅ What You’ll Learn: How unexpected life challenges can spark personal transformation Common self-sabotage patterns among high-achieving women The importance of trusting your intuition for growth and decision-making Why delegation and support systems are essential for success How to embrace visibility and self-promotion with confidence Lessons in intentional living and prioritizing your purpose Practical steps for taking small, meaningful actions toward your goals 🕒 Episode Chapters: 00:00 – From Sales Success to Life Coaching 06:42 – Facing Life's Challenges: A Near-Death Experience 11:47 – The Journey of Self-Discovery and Purpose 17:08 – Overcoming Self-Sabotage and Embracing Visibility 24:53 – Redefining Intentions in Speaking Engagements 26:09 – The Power of Authenticity and Connection 28:05 – The Importance of Support and Delegation 30:12 – Learning to Ask for Help 33:40 – Finding Flexibility in Entrepreneurship 37:03 – Trusting Yourself and Your Body 39:24 – Choosing Your Response in Difficult Times 40:05 – Taking the Next Right Step 42:00 – Empowering Self-Care Practices   🎁 Get a Free Call with Elyssa: Book your FREE 15-minute Unlock Your Blocks focus call to uncover what’s keeping you from your next level of growth and clarity. 👉 Book here 📌 Follow Elyssa for More: 📸 Instagram: @elyssacsmith 📘 Facebook Group – The Stressless Lounge  

Ever feel like you’re your own worst enemy? That harsh inner voice might not be laziness or weakness—it’s actually a protective mechanism your brain learned long ago. In this episode of Unlock Your Blocks, trauma-informed life strategist Elyssa Smith unpacks the roots of self-criticism and negative self-talk. She explains how these patterns often come from childhood experiences and societal pressures, then linger into adulthood as overactive inner critics. Elyssa shares practical strategies to recognize when self-criticism shows up, reframe it with compassion, and retrain the brain through nervous system regulation. If you’ve been stuck in cycles of doubt or judgment, this episode will give you tools to shift from self-sabotage to self-support. ✅ What You’ll Learn: Why harsh self-criticism often starts in childhood How negative self-talk is secretly trying to protect you The role your nervous system plays in fueling self-doubt Why recognizing the inner critic is the first step to healing Practical ways to bring self-compassion into your daily routine How nervous system regulation helps calm inner judgment The power of reframing negative self-talk to support growth Why creating a supportive lifestyle accelerates change When seeking professional help can be a game-changer 🕒 Episode Chapters: 00:00 – Understanding Harsh Self-Criticism 04:58 – The Impact of Negative Self-Talk 08:03 – Recognizing and Integrating the Inner Critic 12:25 – Rewiring the Brain for Self-Compassion 🎁 Get a Free Call with Elyssa: Ready to quiet the inner critic and unlock more compassion for yourself? Book your FREE 15-minute Unlock Your Blocks focus call with Elyssa and start building a kinder, more supportive relationship with yourself. 👉 Book here 📌 Follow Elyssa for More: 📸 Instagram: @elyssacsmith 📘 Facebook Group – The Stressless Lounge  

Making a career pivot can feel intimidating—especially when self-doubt and imposter syndrome creep in. In this episode of Unlock Your Blocks, Elyssa Smith sits down with Kristen Weeden to talk about trusting your instincts, embracing authenticity, and navigating the challenges women face in leadership. Kristen shares her journey from sports management to corporate HR, offering a candid look at the lessons learned along the way. Together, they discuss the power of authenticity in leadership, building positive workplace culture, and challenging the self-limiting beliefs that hold women back. If you’ve ever felt like you needed to check every box before going after an opportunity, this conversation will inspire you to step forward with confidence and own the value you bring. ✅ What You’ll Learn: Why trusting your gut is essential for career pivots How self-doubt keeps women from pursuing opportunities The role authenticity plays in leadership and workplace culture Why negative self-talk undermines career fulfillment How to balance serving others with caring for yourself Why you don’t need to meet every qualification to apply for a role How diversity strengthens organizations and teams The importance of focusing on impact, not accolades 🕒 Episode Chapters: 00:00 – The Journey of Pivots 04:55 – From Sports Management to Corporate HR 11:43 – Trusting Your Gut in Career Decisions 18:07 – Overcoming Self-Doubt and Imposter Syndrome 24:06 – The Importance of Authenticity in Leadership 30:18 – Navigating Gender Dynamics in the Workplace 37:42 – Creating a Positive Work Culture 43:47 – Taking Action Against Negative Self-Talk 🎁 Get a Free Call with Elyssa: Ready to break through self-doubt and step into your next level of leadership? Book your FREE 15-minute Unlock Your Blocks focus call with Elyssa today. 👉 Book here 📌 Follow Elyssa for More: 📸 Instagram: @elyssacsmith 📘 Facebook Group – The Stressless Lounge  

Not all “self-care” is actually caring for yourself. Sometimes it’s survival mode in disguise. In this episode of Unlock Your Blocks, trauma-informed life strategist Elyssa Smith breaks down the subtle differences between restorative self-care and sneaky self-sabotage. She reveals how childhood messages shape the way we treat ourselves as adults, especially when it comes to productivity, fear, and avoidance. If you’ve ever wondered why your “breaks” sometimes leave you feeling worse, this conversation will help you recognize what’s really happening and how to shift into true, supportive self-care. Elyssa shares calming techniques, practical strategies, and mindset shifts to help you rewire limiting beliefs and create a safe environment where growth can actually flourish. ✅ What You’ll Learn: How survival mode can masquerade as self-care The impact of childhood messages on adult behaviors Why your nervous system triggers self-sabotage when it perceives threats How to tell the difference between a needed break and avoidance Why unintentional “self-care” can actually stall your growth How to spot patterns of exhaustion before they sabotage progress Simple calming techniques to reset your system in the moment How uncovering the root of your fears helps overcome self-sabotage Why creating safety is essential for lasting personal growth 🕒 Episode Chapters: 00:00 – Understanding Survival Mode vs. Self-Care 02:45 – The Impact of Childhood Messages on Adult Behavior 05:48 – Recognizing Self-Sabotage in the Name of Self-Care 08:35 – Strategies for Overcoming Self-Sabotage 11:41 – Creating a Safe Environment for Growth 🎁 Get a Free Call with Elyssa: If self-sabotage keeps showing up in your “self-care,” let’s uncover what’s really going on. Book your FREE 15-minute Unlock Your Blocks focus call with Elyssa and learn how to create a safe, growth-focused reset. 👉 Book here 📌 Follow Elyssa for More: 📸 Instagram: @elyssacsmith 📘 Facebook Group – The Stressless Lounge  

Can high-achieving women actually slow down, heal, and thrive—without burning out or giving up their ambition? In this transformative episode of Unlock Your Blocks, Elyssa Smith interviews Lauren Prasek, an integrative psychiatry expert and women’s wellness educator who went from finance to functional medicine. Together, they explore the powerful link between trauma, chronic health issues, and the importance of self-advocacy in healthcare—especially for women who are used to pushing through pain to perform. Lauren shares why traditional medicine often falls short for women, how the gut-brain connection affects your mood and motivation, and why small changes (not big overhauls) are the key to long-term wellness. If you’re feeling dismissed, depleted, or disconnected from your health, this episode will help you reclaim your power—and trust your body again. ✅ What You’ll Learn: Why so many women feel unheard or misdiagnosed in traditional healthcare The gut-brain connection and how it impacts mood, focus, and stress How trauma can manifest as chronic health issues What integrative psychiatry is and how it supports the whole person Why medication is a tool—not the full solution—for healing The hidden cost of performance-based self-worth How to build sustainable self-care habits (even with a busy life) Why high achievers need data and intuition to track their healing How to advocate for yourself with doctors and health providers Why your 30s, 40s, and beyond are still prime time to thrive 🕒 Episode Chapters: 00:00 – Introduction to Holistic Wellness 01:44 – Lauren's Unconventional Journey 04:09 – The Need for Holistic Approaches 06:44 – Understanding Trauma and Illness 11:18 – Integrative Psychiatry Explained 15:26 – The Challenge of Impatience in Healing 19:38 – Building Small Habits for Big Change 23:16 – Performance-Based Self-Worth and Motivation 25:17 – The Challenge of Small Changes 28:14 – Tracking Progress and Celebrating Wins 30:58 – Understanding the Brain-Gut Connection 32:56 – Empowering Self-Advocacy in Health 36:21 – Self-Care Practices for Busy Lives 🎁 Get a Free Call with Elyssa: Ladies—book your FREE 15-minute Unlock Your Blocks focus call with Elyssa to get to the root of why you're stuck playing small and discover your next steps. You’re just 15 minutes away from the clarity that will set you free! 👉 Book here 📌 Follow Elyssa for More: 📸 Instagram: @elyssacsmith 📘 Facebook Group – The Stressless Lounge  

If you’ve been working so hard for your next breakthrough but it feels like it never comes, your nervous system may be holding the brakes. In this episode of Unlock Your Blocks, trauma-informed life strategist Elyssa Smith unpacks the hidden patterns that keep high-achieving women stuck—especially the “hero daughter” identity. This role, often formed in childhood, teaches you to earn love, safety, and worth through constant productivity and managing others’ needs. The problem? That same programming can make rest, ease, and abundance feel unsafe. Elyssa shares how to spot these deep-rooted patterns, how to gently rewire your nervous system for safety, and why even a 1% upgrade in your daily life can trigger massive change over time. If you’ve been waiting for “the other shoe to drop,” this conversation will show you how to finally put both feet on steady ground. ✅ What You’ll Learn: Why your next breakthrough may feel “stuck” despite hard work The hero daughter identity and how it shapes your adult life How childhood programming impacts procrastination and perfectionism Why rest and ease can feel unsafe for high achievers How your nervous system rejects abundance without realizing it Why survival mode gets triggered even when things are going well How to create a track record of safety with small daily changes What a “1% upgrade” is and how it rewires your patterns How to care for yourself in ways your younger self never saw modeled 🕒 Episode Chapters: 00:00 – Breaking the Cycle of Stagnation 03:09 – The Hero Daughter Identity 05:57 – The Impact of Childhood Programming 08:50 – Navigating Adult Life with Old Programming 11:52 – Creating a Track Record of Safety 🎁 Get a Free Call with Elyssa: Feeling stuck in a loop of hard work without progress? Book your FREE 15-minute Unlock Your Blocks focus call with Elyssa and uncover the nervous system patterns that are keeping you from your next breakthrough. 👉 Book here 📌 Follow Elyssa for More: 📸 Instagram: @elyssacsmith 📘 Facebook Group – The Stressless Lounge

What if the key to your next breakthrough isn’t doing more—but becoming more of who you really are? In this empowering episode of Unlock Your Blocks, Elyssa Smith sits down with Mapuana Reed—photographer turned podcast host and founder of Malama Rituals. Mapuana shares her brave journey of pivoting from a successful career in photography to creating a life that honors her intuition, creativity, and emotional well-being. They explore what it truly means to evolve, the subtle ways self-sabotage creeps in, and how daily rituals can help women reconnect with themselves. If you’re in a season of transition or craving more authenticity, this episode will inspire you to listen in, trust your inner voice, and take gentle steps toward the life you actually want. ✅ What You’ll Learn: Why becoming your truest self is the real work of growth How to recognize when it’s time to pivot in your career or life Subtle forms of self-sabotage and how to move through them The power of small boundaries to reclaim your time and energy Why authenticity and embracing your age is deeply empowering How tuning into your intuition leads to aligned decision-making The role of daily rituals in cultivating gratitude and inner peace What it means to leave something you love while still honoring it How boundaries teach others how to treat you Ways to create emotional safety through self-care and reflection 🕒 Episode Chapters: 00:00 – Introduction to Mapuana Reed 01:37 – The Journey of Becoming 04:15 – Recognizing the Need for Change 07:02 – The Concept of Journey on Becoming 10:14 – Overcoming Self-Sabotage 13:43 – Embracing Age and Authenticity 15:39 – Setting Boundaries and Choosing Happiness 19:29 – Listening to Your Intuition 21:10 – Journey of Self-Discovery 22:46 – The Power of Daily Rituals 25:42 – Gratitude in Everyday Life 29:43 – Setting Boundaries for Self-Care 33:58 – Reparenting the Inner Child 36:12 – Finding Balance and Resetting 🎁 Get a Free Call with Elyssa: Ladies—book your FREE 15-minute Unlock Your Blocks focus call with Elyssa to get to the root of why you're stuck playing small and discover your next steps. You’re just 15 minutes away from the clarity that will set you free! 👉 Book here 📌 Follow Elyssa for More: 📸 Instagram: @elyssacsmith 📘 Facebook Group – The Stressless Lounge  

Do you overthink everything, aim for perfection, and still feel like it's never enough? You’re not broken—you’re protecting yourself. In this episode of Unlock Your Blocks, trauma-informed life strategist Elyssa Smith (not Alissa 😅) breaks down the perfectionism-overthinking loop that keeps so many high-achieving women stuck. She unpacks how these patterns often originate from childhood environments where safety and love were linked to performance, people-pleasing, or doing everything just right. Elyssa explains how perfectionism isn’t about high standards—it’s about emotional safety. And more importantly, she shares how to start breaking the cycle with compassion, curiosity, and small, body-based shifts that rewire your nervous system for peace, not panic. If you’ve been trying to "fix" yourself with more discipline and hustle, this episode is your permission slip to do the opposite. ✅ What You’ll Learn: Why perfectionism and overthinking are often trauma responses How childhood environments shaped your relationship with achievement Why overachievers often fall into self-sabotage cycles The role of emotional safety in making meaningful change Why high standards aren't the problem—but fear is How analysis paralysis keeps you stuck in inaction Simple ways to nurture your nervous system and reduce overwhelm How to create internal safety to move forward with confidence The truth about “dysfunctional” families and why it’s not your fault Practical strategies to rewire old patterns for more freedom and peace 🕒 Episode Chapters: 00:00 – Understanding Perfectionism and Overthinking 07:08 – The Impact of High Standards on Life 12:04 – Strategies for Letting Go and Moving Forward 🎁 Get a Free Call with Elyssa: Feeling stuck in a cycle of self-sabotage, burnout, or overthinking? Book your FREE 15-minute Unlock Your Blocks focus call with Elyssa and get to the root of what’s keeping you stuck. 👉 Book here 📌 Follow Elyssa for More: 📸 Instagram: @elyssacsmith 📘 Facebook Group – The Stressless Lounge  

Is your clutter more than just “stuff”? It might be a trauma response. In this transformative episode of Unlock Your Blocks, Elyssa Smith sits down with Valerie Huard, a trauma-informed decluttering expert and creator of the Do Well method. Valerie opens up about her personal journey with clutter and how unhealed trauma shaped her environment—and her stress. Together, they explore how clutter goes beyond physical objects, touching on emotional overwhelm, mental clutter, and self-sabotaging patterns. Valerie offers powerful, practical tips to help you declutter not just your space, but your mind and nervous system, too. ✅ What You’ll Learn: How trauma affects your ability to manage clutter Why emotional and mental clutter must be addressed first The truth about procrastination and perfectionism in decluttering How the Do Well method reduces stress before organizing Why creating emotional safety is the first step to change How to use gloves to lessen overwhelm when sorting items The importance of celebrating small wins How clutter can serve as a hiding place Transformation stories that show what’s possible when you declutter from the inside out 🕒 Episode Chapters: 00:00 – Introduction to Trauma-Informed Decluttering 02:25 – Valerie's Journey to Trauma-Informed Decluttering 07:55 – Understanding Trauma and Clutter 09:29 – Self-Sabotage and Clutter 12:22 – The Impact of Trauma on Home Management 18:15 – The Do Well Method Explained 22:53 – Creating Sustainable Change 27:47 – Transformation Stories 32:26 – First Steps to Decluttering 33:50 – Practical Tips for Decluttering 36:10 – Favorite Pump-Up Songs and Self-Care Connect with Valerie: https://up.dowellht.com/7secrets-es Get a free call with Elyssa:​​Ladies - book your FREE 15-minute Unlock Your Blocks focus call with Elyssa to get to the root of why you are stuck playing small and help you discover your next steps. You are just 15 minutes from the clarity that will set you free! Book here: https://elyssasmith.com/focus 📌 Follow Elyssa for More: 📸 Instagram 📘 Facebook Group – The Stressless Lounge  

Ever feel like you're running on empty… even when you're trying your best? In this episode of Unlock Your Blocks, trauma-informed life strategist Elyssa Smith dives deep into the idea of capacity problems—what they are, where they come from, and how they can quietly sabotage your productivity and motivation. Hint: It's not that you're lazy—it's that your nervous system might be maxed out. Elyssa shares how childhood experiences shape our emotional bandwidth, and introduces her "Three S’s" framework to help you manage overwhelm, make space for peace, and grow gently from the inside out. ✅ What You’ll Learn: Why capacity issues, not laziness, are often behind burnout How your nervous system learns what’s “safe” from childhood The connection between emotional overwhelm and productivity How to reprogram your mindset for personal and professional growth Why creating space for yourself is essential The power of the Three S’s framework for managing stress Practical ways to engage your five senses to self-soothe How to take gentle, sustainable steps toward well-being The importance of surrounding yourself with supportive people 🕒 Episode Chapters: 00:00 – Understanding Capacity Problems 02:59 – The Roots of Productivity Issues 05:38 – Reprogramming Your Mindset 08:33 – Creating Space for Yourself 11:20 – The Three S's for Overwhelm 13:47 – Taking Gentle Steps Forward   Get a free call with Elyssa:​​Ladies - book your FREE 15-minute Unlock Your Blocks focus call with Elyssa to get to the root of why you are stuck playing small and help you discover your next steps. You are just 15 minutes from the clarity that will set you free! Book here: https://elyssasmith.com/focus 📌 Follow Elyssa for More: 📸 Instagram 📘 Facebook Group – The Stressless Lounge  

What’s the real reason you’re still playing small? In this empowering episode of Unlock Your Blocks, Elyssa sits down with Munira Zahabi—better known as the Niche Navigator—to explore how visibility, storytelling, and self-worth are deeply connected in business and life. Munira shares her personal journey of feeling invisible for years before finally stepping into her power as a marketing strategist and author. Her story is a blueprint for anyone who’s ever struggled with imposter syndrome, people-pleasing, or fear of being seen. Together, Elyssa and Munira unpack what it takes to own your unique value, share your story without shame, and build relationships that actually matter. You’ll walk away with practical steps for identifying your niche, getting visible with confidence, and learning how to rewire the self-sabotaging habits that hold so many women back. If you’ve ever wondered whether your story matters—this episode will answer that with a resounding yes. ✅ What You’ll Learn: How to identify and communicate your unique value The hidden link between self-sabotage and visibility fears Why most women hesitate to “brag” about their accomplishments—and how to reframe it How building real relationships is the key to sustainable success Simple ways to start discovering your niche and voice How music and self-care can shift your mindset instantly Why sharing your story can unlock your next opportunity 🕒 Episode Chapters:00:00 – Introduction to Visibility Challenges02:16 – The Importance of Niche and Self-Promotion10:35 – Overcoming Fear and Self-Sabotage17:03 – Transitioning from Corporate to Coaching22:46 – Building Genuine Relationships and Impact24:40 – The Power of Listening and Mentorship26:36 – Overcoming Imposter Syndrome29:59 – Recognizing Your Unique Value32:49 – Advice for Women Facing Self-Doubt36:32 – Identifying Your Skills and Talents41:30 – Finding Motivation Through Music42:17 – Self-Care and Perspective Shifts   Get a free call with Elyssa:Ladies—book your FREE 15-minute Unlock Your Blocks focus call with Elyssa to get to the root of why you are stuck playing small and help you discover your next steps. You are just 15 minutes from the clarity that will set you free!👉 Book here: https://elyssasmith.com/focus 📌 Follow Elyssa for More:📸 Instagram📘 Facebook Group – The Stressless Lounge

What if your procrastination was trying to protect you? In this eye-opening episode of Unlock Your Blocks, trauma-informed life strategist Elyssa Smith explores the deep roots of self-sabotage, especially for high achievers and perfectionists. She explains how self-doubt, shaped by early life experiences and trauma, fuels cycles of procrastination, overthinking, and burnout. Elyssa introduces self-validation as a powerful tool to build true self-confidence—the kind that doesn’t depend on external approval. If you've ever felt stuck in a loop of trying harder but getting nowhere, this conversation offers a path out rooted in compassion, awareness, and healing. ✅ What You’ll Learn: Why self-sabotage isn’t laziness—it’s a protective pattern How childhood experiences shape beliefs about worth and safety Why perfectionism and procrastination often go hand-in-hand The difference between external validation and self-validation How to begin rewiring your brain for emotional safety Why co-regulation and community support matter How self-trust builds real confidence over time Practical mindset shifts to break free from self-defeating cycles 🕒 Episode Chapters: 00:00 – Understanding Self-Sabotage and Its Roots 02:51 – The Role of Self-Doubt in High Achievers 05:40 – The Importance of Self-Validation for Confidence 08:21 – Breaking the Cycle of Procrastination and Perfectionism 📌 Keywords: self-sabotage, self-doubt, perfectionism, self-confidence, validation, trauma, mental health, personal development, procrastination, emotional safety 📲 Follow Elyssa for More Support and Growth: 📸 Instagram: @elyssacsmith 👥 Facebook Group: The Stressless Lounge  

What if procrastination, perfectionism, and people-pleasing weren’t personal flaws—but trauma responses? In this powerful solo episode of Unlock Your Blocks, trauma-informed life strategist Elyssa Smith explores the hidden roots of self-sabotage. She breaks down how big T, little t, and what she calls “tiny t” trauma shape our behaviors and belief systems—especially when those emotional needs go unmet in childhood. If you've ever wondered why you keep getting in your own way, this episode will offer clarity, compassion, and tools for healing. Elyssa helps you uncover what your survival brain is trying to protect you from—and how to reclaim your power with rest, support, and rewired beliefs. ✅ What You’ll Learn: The difference between big T, little t, and tiny t trauma How self-sabotage is a protective mechanism of the survival brain Why childhood programming can lead to adult patterns like procrastination and people-pleasing What it means to ask: “What feels unsafe about this?” Why rest is a biological need, not a weakness How to begin rewiring beliefs that no longer serve you The role of professional support in healing and growth Why self-acceptance is a non-negotiable in mental and emotional health   Get a free call with Elyssa:​​Ladies - book your FREE 15-minute Unlock Your Blocks focus call with Elyssa to get to the root of why you are stuck playing small and help you discover your next steps. You are just 15 minutes from the clarity that will set you free! Book here: https://elyssasmith.com/focus 📌 Follow Elyssa for More:📸 Instagram📘 Facebook Group – The Stressless Lounge  

Struggling to stick with healthy habits? You’re not broken—your nervous system just needs a new approach. In this uplifting solo episode of Unlock Your Blocks, Elyssa Smith breaks down what it really takes to create lasting lifestyle changes. From battling perfectionism to finding your deeper “why,” she shares simple, science-backed strategies to help you build habits that actually stick. Whether you’re tired of starting over or just ready to feel better, Elyssa reminds you that progress doesn’t require pressure—it requires compassion. This episode is packed with encouragement and practical tools for anyone on a path of wellness, self-improvement, or personal growth. ✅ What You’ll Learn: Why your motivation must be tied to what matters most to you How to make new habits the path of least resistance The importance of removing barriers instead of adding pressure How all-or-nothing thinking sabotages consistency The role of nervous system regulation in habit formation How to use play, joy, and ease to support lasting change Why setbacks are data, not proof of failure How to rewire your brain for long-term success Get a free call with Elyssa:​​Ladies - book your FREE 15-minute Unlock Your Blocks focus call with Elyssa to get to the root of why you are stuck playing small and help you discover your next steps. You are just 15 minutes from the clarity that will set you free! Book here: https://elyssasmith.com/focus 📌 Follow Elyssa for More:📸 Instagram📘 Facebook Group – The Stressless Lounge  

Are you burned out—or just out of alignment? In this empowering solo episode of Unlock Your Blocks, Elyssa Smith takes a deep dive into the root causes of burnout for high-achieving women. Spoiler alert: it’s not just about doing too much—it’s about abandoning yourself. Elyssa explores how ignoring your own desires in favor of perfectionism, people-pleasing, or obligation leads to chronic exhaustion and disconnection. She walks you through how to reconnect with your zone of genius, the importance of intrinsic motivation, and how small shifts can lead to big transformations in both your energy and your life. ✅ What You’ll Learn: Why burnout often stems from self-abandonment, not just overworking How to identify the disconnect between action and alignment What your zone of genius is—and how to find it Why perfectionism and people-pleasing amplify emotional fatigue The importance of evaluating what drains vs. excites you Why saying no is essential for self-preservation How to reignite motivation through inspiration, not obligation The power of tiny, joyful actions to build long-term resilience 🕒 Episode Chapters: 00:00 – Understanding Burnout and Self-Abandonment 02:58 – The Zone of Genius: Finding What Lights You Up 05:42 – Overcoming Procrastination and Perfectionism Get a free call with Elyssa:​​Ladies - book your FREE 15-minute Unlock Your Blocks focus call with Elyssa to get to the root of why you are stuck playing small and help you discover your next steps. You are just 15 minutes from the clarity that will set you free! Book here: https://elyssasmith.com/focus 📌 Follow Elyssa for More:📸 Instagram📘 Facebook Group – The Stressless Lounge  

What if feeling lost is exactly where you're meant to start? In this episode of Unlock Your Blocks, Elyssa Smith sits down with Hilary Spiritos, a pathfinding coach who specializes in helping young adults navigate major life transitions. Together, they explore how self-sabotage, inner child work, and societal expectations shape the post-high school journey. Hilary shares how courage, safety, and deep self-awareness can help young people discover their authentic direction—and why it’s okay not to have it all figured out. If you're in a season of change or supporting someone who is, this conversation offers wisdom, warmth, and grounded guidance. ✅ What You’ll Learn: Why life transitions can trigger fear, self-doubt, and resistance The power of coaching in helping young adults find clarity How external expectations and inner beliefs fuel self-sabotage Why connecting with the inner child is key to growth The importance of building internal safety before making big decisions How small acts of courage create momentum Ways to honor your desires in the face of societal pressure Why you’re not alone in feeling uncertain 🕒 Episode Chapters: 00:00 – Navigating Life Transitions 02:25 – The Role of a Pathfinding Coach 07:42 – Overcoming Self-Sabotage and Limiting Beliefs 11:45 – Finding Your Authentic Path 16:34 – Understanding the Inner Child 22:02 – Building Safety and Courage 30:12 – First Steps Towards Freedom   📲 Connect with Elyssa for More Inspiration: 📸 Instagram: @elyssacsmith 👥 Facebook Group: The Stressless Lounge   Connect with Hilary: Website: https://batouttahell.net/ TikTok/Instagram: @bat.outta_hell Calendly: https://calendly.com/batouttahell  

Is your to-do list silently running the show—and running you into the ground? In this solo episode of Unlock Your Blocks, host Elyssa Smith dives into the emotional and psychological weight of to-do lists. She explores how the freeze survival response, perfectionism, and childhood conditioning contribute to chronic overwhelm. More than just a time management issue, Elyssa reveals how our nervous systems react to productivity pressure—and offers compassionate, practical tools for reclaiming calm and control. This is a must-listen for high achievers, people-pleasers, and perfectionists ready to step off the hamster wheel and back into self-leadership. ✅ What You’ll Learn: Why to-do list overwhelm activates a freeze response How childhood programming contributes to perfectionism and procrastination The danger of treating your to-do list like a controlling entity How to break tasks into manageable categories The role of self-care and nervous system regulation in productivity Practical tips for outsourcing, simplifying, and softening the pressure The “Three S’s” approach for stress and overwhelm How to shift from all-or-nothing thinking to graceful action 🕒 Episode Chapters: 00:00 – Introduction to Overwhelm and Productivity 03:05 – Understanding To-Do List Overwhelm 05:47 – The Impact of Childhood Conditioning 09:00 – The Freeze Response and Its Consequences 12:06 – Steps to Overcome Overwhelm 17:07 – Practical Strategies for Managing Your To-Do List Get a free call with Elyssa:​​Ladies - book your FREE 15-minute Unlock Your Blocks focus call with Elyssa to get to the root of why you are stuck playing small and help you discover your next steps. You are just 15 minutes from the clarity that will set you free! Book here: https://elyssasmith.com/focus 📌 Follow Elyssa for More:📸 Instagram📘 Facebook Group – The Stressless Lounge