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The High Conflict Blueprint (for Stepmums & Stepmoms DONE with the ex's drama)

The High Conflict Blueprint

23 episodes

3 days ago

It feels like she's winning, doesn't it? Every time she ignores your boundaries, every time she gets away with something – it feels like she’s winning and you're losing. But what if that idea of winning versus losing is keeping you trapped in her game? The problem is that you're so focused on not letting her "get away with" it that you're accidentally sacrificing the very things you're trying to protect – your peace, your relationship, your goals, and your family's happiness. Because every ti...

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It feels like she's winning, doesn't it? Every time she ignores your boundaries, every time she gets away with something – it feels like she’s winning and you're losing. But what if that idea of winning versus losing is keeping you trapped in her game? The problem is that you're so focused on not letting her "get away with" it that you're accidentally sacrificing the very things you're trying to protect – your peace, your relationship, your goals, and your family's happiness. Because every ti...

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Episodes (20/23)

The High Conflict Blueprint (for Stepmums & Stepmoms DONE with the ex's drama)

22. Feel Like She's Always Winning? How to Beat the Ex By Changing the Game

It feels like she's winning, doesn't it? Every time she ignores your boundaries, every time she gets away with something – it feels like she’s winning and you're losing. But what if that idea of winning versus losing is keeping you trapped in her game? The problem is that you're so focused on not letting her "get away with" it that you're accidentally sacrificing the very things you're trying to protect – your peace, your relationship, your goals, and your family's happiness. Because every ti...

5 days ago

9 minutes

The High Conflict Blueprint (for Stepmums & Stepmoms DONE with the ex's drama)

21. When His Family Still Talks to the Ex & You Feel Left Out

She's at family gatherings. His mum still helps her out. His sister invites her to birthday parties. And you're left wondering – why does she get to stay in, while you feel like the outsider? In this episode, I break down why the high conflict ex clings to his family and the manipulation tactics she uses to stay there. You'll learn why his family allows this to happen, and the practical strategies you can use to limit the value of those connections to her, giving her less reason t...

1 week ago

18 minutes

The High Conflict Blueprint (for Stepmums & Stepmoms DONE with the ex's drama)

20. Is The Toxic Ex Turning You Into Someone You Don’t Recognise? Here's the Truth

You’re stressed, reactive, angry – you don't recognise yourself anymore. And you think, "She's turning me into someone I'm not." But here's the truth – she's not turning you into anything. She’s just revealing parts of you that you didn't know were there. And that's the most powerful thing you could discover. Because when you know that about yourself, you have an opportunity to build capabilities you'd never develop otherwise. And when you learn how to handle her at her worst and still ...

2 weeks ago

9 minutes

The High Conflict Blueprint (for Stepmums & Stepmoms DONE with the ex's drama)

19. When the Kids Are Her Spies – & Nothing in Your Life Feels Private

You start to mention weekend plans to the kids, but you stop yourself mid-sentence. Because you know what happens next – within 24 hours, she'll know. She'll have something to say about it, or she'll try to ruin it entirely. This episode tackles one of the most frustrating parts of high conflict co-parenting – when everything you say or do gets reported back to the high conflict ex. You'll learn why she uses the kids as spies, how to protect your privacy and plans without shutting them ...

3 weeks ago

14 minutes

The High Conflict Blueprint (for Stepmums & Stepmoms DONE with the ex's drama)

18. Which High Conflict Pattern Are You Dealing With?

Ever feel like you're losing your mind trying to understand why she acts the way she does? In this episode, I break down five specific personality patterns commonly found in high conflict people. By the end, you might finally have an explanation for behaviours that have been driving you crazy. I'll walk you through the narcissistic pattern (the 'I'm superior, you're nothing' type), the borderline pattern (the 'love you, hate you' type), the antisocial pattern (the cruel con artist), the paran...

1 month ago

16 minutes

The High Conflict Blueprint (for Stepmums & Stepmoms DONE with the ex's drama)

17. How to Choose Your Battles with a Toxic Ex

Another "emergency" text at 9 PM. Another crisis that somehow requires immediate attention. You're exhausted from fighting with her about everything she throws at you. Today, I'm breaking down exactly how to choose your battles with a high conflict ex without burning yourself out in the process. You'll discover why she creates endless conflicts, and learn my four-question framework that takes the guesswork out of when to respond and when to let it go. No more spending hours agonising over the...

1 month ago

12 minutes

The High Conflict Blueprint (for Stepmums & Stepmoms DONE with the ex's drama)

16. Getting to Yes – How to Negotiate with a High Conflict Ex

You rehearse the perfect request – polite, reasonable, with plenty of notice. But you already know what's coming. The automatic "no" from the high conflict ex. If you've been there, you'll know that crushing frustration of trying to negotiate with someone who seems to enjoy refusing everything. And every time she refuses something reasonable that would actually benefit the kids, you feel that anger building. Why does it have to be this hard? In today's episode, I'm revealing a five-part appro...

1 month ago

17 minutes

The High Conflict Blueprint (for Stepmums & Stepmoms DONE with the ex's drama)

15. The Surprising Reason You're So Frustrated All the Time

You're constantly frustrated. She won't respect boundaries. He won't stand up to her. Nobody does what they should do, and you're stuck feeling angry, disappointed, and resentful about it all. In this episode, I reveal the surprising reason you feel so frustrated – and it's not what you think. While you've been focused on the ex's toxic behaviour, there's something else quietly stealing your peace. It’s your "Manual” – a set of unwritten rules you have about how everyone should behave s...

1 month ago

10 minutes

The High Conflict Blueprint (for Stepmums & Stepmoms DONE with the ex's drama)

14. Is the Ex High Conflict or Just Difficult? How to Tell

She's nice to you, then sends a toxic text. You're wondering – is the ex really high conflict? Maybe she just had a bad day... maybe you're imagining things... maybe you're the problem? This episode cuts through the confusion with a clear way to help you recognise if she’s truly high conflict, or if she’s just difficult. I'll walk you through real scenarios that reveal the patterns high conflict people follow, even when they seem reasonable on the surface. You'll discover why this distinction...

2 months ago

11 minutes

The High Conflict Blueprint (for Stepmums & Stepmoms DONE with the ex's drama)

13. Stop Living in Fear – How to Set Boundaries When You're Terrified of What She'll Do

You and your partner give in to ridiculous demands because the fear of what the high conflict ex might do feels scarier than just putting up with her current toxic behaviour. And the exhaustion of constantly managing her emotions is crushing you. But what if all this careful tiptoeing is actually making you more vulnerable, not less? In this episode, I'll show you why your current strategy of avoiding her triggers isn't actually protecting your family, and what's really happening when y...

2 months ago

13 minutes

The High Conflict Blueprint (for Stepmums & Stepmoms DONE with the ex's drama)

12. She’s Poisoning Their Minds – What to Do When the Kids Believe Her Lies

What do you do when your stepchild repeats something cruel – and you know it came straight from her? This episode is your guide to one of the most painful things stepmum's face – when the high conflict ex plants toxic messages in the kids’ minds and tries to turn them against you. I’ll walk you through exactly how to respond without throwing the kids in the middle or fuelling more conflict. You’ll learn how to support them through the confusion and protect your relationship with them. Most im...

2 months ago

13 minutes

The High Conflict Blueprint (for Stepmums & Stepmoms DONE with the ex's drama)

11. When You Hate His Ex – & Resent Who You’ve Become

Do you ever feel consumed by hate toward your partner’s high conflict ex? In this episode, I unpack the raw, unspoken truth behind those feelings of rage and resentment. We’ll explore what’s happening beneath the surface – and how to shift out of hate without pretending everything’s fine. This episode is a must-listen if: Your thoughts are consumed by resentment towards herYou’re constantly triggered, even when she’s not aroundShe’s turning you into someone you don’t recogniseYou just want to...

2 months ago

13 minutes

The High Conflict Blueprint (for Stepmums & Stepmoms DONE with the ex's drama)

10. Why You're So Triggered by the Ex

It’s not just what she says – it’s how it gets to you. Every time. In this episode, we’re digging into why you feel so triggered, and how to take back your emotional control. You’ll learn how emotional triggers actually work, why you spiral so quickly, and the real reason her drama hits you so hard. I’ll walk you through a step-by-step process to stop internalising her jabs, shift your perspective, and finally break the cycle – without needing her to change a thing. 👉 Episode Show...

2 months ago

10 minutes

The High Conflict Blueprint (for Stepmums & Stepmoms DONE with the ex's drama)

9. When the High Conflict Ex Won't Be Reasonable – What to Do

Stuck on the emotional rollercoaster of hoping that the high conflict ex will finally be reasonable? In today’s conversation, I talk about why she keeps acting the way she does, why your expectations (however fair) keep getting crushed, and (most importantly) what to focus on instead. If you’ve tried everything and nothing changes, this episode will help you get out of that loop. 👉 Episode Show Notes: highconflictblueprint.com/podcast/unreasonable-ex 👉 Not sure whether the ex is t...

3 months ago

10 minutes

The High Conflict Blueprint (for Stepmums & Stepmoms DONE with the ex's drama)

8. When Your Partner Won’t Stand Up to Their Ex – & You’re Stuck in the Middle

Your partner won’t set boundaries with their ex – and you’re paying the price. Maybe they fear retaliation. Maybe they’re terrified of conflict. Either way, it feels like the high conflict ex still has emotional control over your partner and far too much influence in your lives. You’ve tried raising it gently. You’ve tried stepping in to help. But now you’re stuck in the middle of a dynamic that’s eroding your peace and your relationship. In this episode, you’ll learn what’s really goin...

3 months ago

11 minutes

The High Conflict Blueprint (for Stepmums & Stepmoms DONE with the ex's drama)

7. When To Set Boundaries With a Toxic Ex – & How to Do It

Struggling to set boundaries or hold them when she pushes back? In this episode, you’ll learn how to create boundaries that actually work with the high conflict ex, and how to follow through, even if she escalates, badmouths you, or tries to guilt-trip you into giving in. This is your practical, compassionate guide to taking your power back, protecting your peace, your relationship and your emotional health. 👉 Episode Show Notes (including my 10 boundary tip recap): highconf...

3 months ago

17 minutes

The High Conflict Blueprint (for Stepmums & Stepmoms DONE with the ex's drama)

6. Why Everyone Believes Her Stories – & What To Do About It

What do you do when everyone else believes her twisted stories... and you’re left looking like the problem? In this episode, you’ll learn why high conflict people are so persuasive, even to professionals like therapists, teachers, and court officials. We’ll explore why people fall for her version of events, why it feels like no one sees what you’re going through, and what to do when you feel erased, blamed, or misunderstood. You’ll walk away with clear strategies to protect ...

3 months ago

11 minutes

The High Conflict Blueprint (for Stepmums & Stepmoms DONE with the ex's drama)

5. Tired of Feeling Blindsided? How to Predict Her Next Move and Stay One Step Ahead

Blindsided again by your partner’s ex? What if I told you her chaos isn’t random – but actually follows patterns you can learn to spot and prepare for. In this episode, we dive into the emotional logic behind high conflict behaviour and reveal the hidden patterns that make her actions more predictable than you think. You’ll learn how to recognise common patterns like the “Pre-Event Blow-Up” and “Connection Disruptor,” that explain seemingly random behaviour. Disc...

4 months ago

12 minutes

The High Conflict Blueprint (for Stepmums & Stepmoms DONE with the ex's drama)

4. How to Respond to Her Toxic Messages

Today, I'm breaking down a five-step plan that helps you respond to toxic messages without getting emotionally hooked. This episode is for anyone tired of overthinking every word, trying to defend themselves, or feeling drained after every interaction with a high conflict ex. I'll show you how to stay calm, and in control, no matter how chaotic the message. 👉 FREE GUIDE DOWNLOAD - You don’t need to get stuck in conversations that always seem to escalate. Stay calm (no matter what ...

4 months ago

10 minutes

The High Conflict Blueprint (for Stepmums & Stepmoms DONE with the ex's drama)

3. The 5 Biggest Mistakes You're Making When Communicating With the High Conflict Ex – & How to Avoid Them

Ever spent hours crafting the perfect response to your partner's high conflict ex, only to have it blow up in your face? In this episode, I reveal the five biggest communication mistakes you’re making that keep you trapped in the conflict cycle. You'll discover why your well-intentioned approaches backfire and set you up for endless drama. By the end, you’ll be able to stop exhausting yourself with strategies that never work, and instead find new ways that do. 👉 FREE G...

4 months ago

11 minutes