We’re taught to chase success, but what if the real growth comes from chasing failure? In this episode of In Confidence, Lisa sits down with her best friend, Jane Park, founder of Julep and Tokki, and former director at Starbucks and leader at BCG, to talk about why she sets “failure goals” on purpose. Jane shares how reframing failure as a target instead of a setback can help you aim higher, take bigger risks, and uncover who you’re truly meant to be. You’ll learn: Why avoiding failure is the enemy of growth and how to rewire your brain to seek it out The “next time this happens, I will…” method to turn regrets into learnings How to process rejection, face worst-case scenarios, and keep the conversation going when you hear “no” This conversation will inspire you to rethink your relationship with failure and see it as proof that you are stretching, growing, and playing bigger than before.   00:00 Intro 01:37 Meet Jane Park 08:22 Why Jane Thinks We Should Strive to Fail 12:00 What Is a Failure Goal? 17:37 No Regrets, Only Learnings 19:51 Why Jane Adopted This Philosophy 22:47 Jane’s Failure of Character Story and What She Learned from It 32:53 How to Process Shame and Embarrassment 34:56 Shame Buddies, Holding Space, and Recognizing Toxic Positivity 39:07 Quick Questions: Ritual to Stay Grounded, Rewards for Failing, Normalizing Failure in the Workplace, Jane’s Professional Failure Rate 48:39 Why Great Risk-Taking Means Being an Expert in Failure 53:16 Try This Failure Goal This Week 55:10 Outro 56:25 Disclaimer   Connect With Us So You Never Miss a Moment of Inspiration:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit Our Website ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Our Best-Selling Book in Paperback⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Follow Gravitas on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Follow Lisa on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Connect with Lisa on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Suggestions or Questions? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email Us at inconfidence@gravitasnewyork.com⁠

Only 12% of people feel confident speaking in front of others, which means the rest of us are winging it, sweating through it, or avoiding it altogether. Are you part of the 88% who don’t feel ready for the spotlight? Let’s change that. In this episode of In Confidence, Lisa shares the rituals, strategies, and mindset shifts that helped her go from a shy immigrant kid to a confident keynote speaker. What you'll get from this episode: Lisa’s 3-part framework for public speaking (no stage required) How body language, breathwork, and playlists can help you show up with power The storytelling formulas and connection tricks that make your words stick   Public speaking isn’t just for performers. It’s for all of us. And with the right tools, you can get better at it.   00:00 Intro 04:06 What to Expect: 3 Tips for Public Speaking 04:26 Tip 1: Embrace Your Body 13:10 Tip 2: Practice Storytelling 15:24 Tip 3: Energize and Enthuse 20:19 Use Season 1, Episode 1 as a Practice Too l21:35 Outro 22:05 Disclaimer   Connect With Us So You Never Miss a Moment of Inspiration:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit Our Website ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Our Best-Selling Book in Paperback⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Follow Gravitas on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Follow Lisa on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Connect with Lisa on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Suggestions or Questions? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email Us at inconfidence@gravitasnewyork.com⁠

This week on In Confidence, Lisa sits down with Dr. Grace Kao, IBM Professor of Sociology at Yale University and K-pop expert, to explore why Korean idol groups have taken the world by storm and what their global rise reveals about identity, belonging, and the forces that shape confidence.    This episode unpacks: The rigorous training system that gives idols unshakable confidence How fandom creates deep belonging and challenges stereotypes Why K-pop may be shifting how the world sees Asian identity Stay with us because this isn’t just about K-pop. It’s about the power of being seen.   *This episode contains discussion of mental health, suicide, and body image. If those topics are sensitive for you, please take care in choosing how and when to listen.   Listen to Dr. Grace Kao's YouTube Playlists: 10-Song Intro to K-Pop 40 Song Intro to K-Pop   00:00 Intro 02:01 Meet Professor Dr. Grace Kao 10:48 How Grace Got Into K-pop 13:07 Lisa’s Story: Reclaiming Identity Through K-pop 16:41 What Makes K-pop Fandom Different 21:50 How Fandom Shapes Identity and Belonging 27:14 How East Asian Men Are Viewed in Media and Dating 31:49 Why K-pop Crossed Over While Other Asian Music Hasn’t 37:33 Biases, Archetypes, and the “Someone for Everyone” Formula 40:52 Idol Romance Rules, Western Collabs, and K-pop’s Film Takeover 45:16 Unrealistic Beauty Standards in K-pop 48:31 Confidence Through Preparation: The Idol Training System 50:08 Mental Health Pressures in the Industry 53:13 The Global Rise of Asian Desirability 56:08 Quick-Fire Round: Music Videos, Bias Picks, and Billboard Highlights 01:01:44 Outro 01:03:32 Disclaimer   Connect With Us So You Never Miss a Moment of Inspiration:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit Our Website ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Our Best-Selling Book in Paperback⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Follow Gravitas on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Follow Lisa on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Connect with Lisa on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Suggestions or Questions? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email Us at inconfidence@gravitasnewyork.com⁠

Think your coworkers are difficult or you just can’t seem to work well together? With Boomers, Gen X, Millennials, and Gen Z all sharing the same workplace, it’s no wonder that collaboration can feel harder than it should. In this episode of In Confidence, Lisa breaks down the values, habits, and communication styles that shape each generation and how to use that insight to build stronger team dynamics at work. You’ll learn: Strengths and triggers of each generation and how they show up at work Why trust starts with curiosity, openness, and acceptance Practical tools for cross-generational communication and collaboration Whether you’re managing, mentoring, or just trying to be understood, this episode offers insight for every generation at the table.   00:00 Intro 01:59 What to Expect: 4 Generations in the Workplace 06:19 Generation Overview: Strengths & Challenges 11:07 How to Build Trust Across Generations 12:09 What Each Generation Teaches Us and What Triggers Them 19:00 Resolving Cross-Generational Conflict 30:35 Final Takeaways 31:51 Outro 32:15 Disclaimer   Connect With Us So You Never Miss a Moment of Inspiration:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit Our Website ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Our Best-Selling Book in Paperback⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Follow Gravitas on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Follow Lisa on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Connect with Lisa on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Suggestions or Questions? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email Us at inconfidence@gravitasnewyork.com⁠  

Career pivots can feel overwhelming, but moments of uncertainty are often turning points. Whether you're stuck in a role that no longer fits, scared to take the leap, or navigating a change you didn’t choose, these crossroads offer a chance to grow in new and meaningful ways.   In this episode of In Confidence, Nikkia Reveillac—former professional dancer turned corporate leader at Netflix and Twitter, now entrepreneur and speaker—joins Lisa to reflect on the mindset, courage, and strategy behind her major career pivots. Each transition has helped her begin breaking free from her cage, and now she’s sharing the insights that have guided her along the way.   Highlights from this episode: How to grieve a career shift without getting stuck in the past Why taking a pause can lead to better decisions about what’s next A bold approach to pivoting industries: a talk on resumes and how to stand out from the rest Your next chapter may feel uncertain, but it could also be the best one yet. So break from your cage.   00:00 Introduction 06:35 Meet Nikkia Reveillac 19:50 The Pivot Conversation Begins 20:27 First Pivot: From Need to Opportunity 26:26 Grieving Dance and Finding Abundance 31:40 Getting Fired From Twitter 39:34 When Feedback Reflects Culture 49:20 Laid Off Without Severance: What Now? 55:11 How to Pivot: Skills, Experimentation, Outreach 1:00:28 Staying Open to What's Next 1:05:06 Hire for Potential, Not Pedigree 1:06:43 Calming the Inner Critic 1:10:48 Breaking Out of the Cage 1:16:41 Sweet Exhaustion: Knowing the Work Still Fits 1:21:25 What’s Next for Nikkia 1:22:11 Outro 1:23:16 Disclaimer   Connect With Us So You Never Miss a Moment of Inspiration:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit Our Website ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Our Best-Selling Book in Paperback⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Follow Gravitas on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Follow Lisa on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Connect with Lisa on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Suggestions or Questions? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email Us at inconfidence@gravitasnewyork.com⁠  

What if the conversation you’ve been avoiding could be the one that helps you grow most?   In this episode of In Confidence, Lisa breaks down the skill of feedback: how to ask for it, how to give it, and how to receive it with openness and grace. Feedback can feel like dynamite or a gift and your mindset makes the difference. With stories from the workplace and personal life, Lisa gives a practical, trust-based roadmap to feedback that builds relationships, not resentment.   What you’ll learn: A simple, effective way to ask for feedback that gets real answers How to give feedback with clarity, care, and purpose The four-step formula that makes feedback easier and more productive How to receive feedback without spiraling and actually grow from it Feedback isn’t always easy, but it’s always a chance to show up for ourselves and each other. For access to the downloadable PDFs for this episode, head to our website, GravitasNewYork.com.    00:00 Intro: Giving, Asking, and Receiving Feedback 02:20 Feedback Is a Gift + Lisa’s Story 03:34 Asking for Feedback: “What’s One Thing I Could Do Better?” 06:33 Leave Nothing to Mystery: Real-World Example 09:36 Giving Feedback: Everyone Starts with an A 11:00 What Great Feedback Looks Like vs. What It Doesn’t 13:41 Lisa’s Formula: 4 Steps to Give Clear, Constructive Feedback 14:40 Feedback in Practice: Personal and Work Examples 18:23 Receiving Feedback: Listen Without Defensiveness 21:07 Responding with Trust, Empathy, and Understanding 22:34 Outro 23:03 Disclaimer   Connect With Us So You Never Miss a Moment of Inspiration:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit Our Website ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Our Best-Selling Book in Paperback⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Follow Gravitas on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Follow Lisa on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Connect with Lisa on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Suggestions or Questions? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email Us at inconfidence@gravitasnewyork.com⁠  

Whether you're negotiating for a raise, a new title, or better work-life balance, this episode is your tactical roadmap. In Part 2 of this series, Meggie Palmer joins Lisa to break down what to say, how to say it, and most importantly, how to believe you deserve it.  Prepare for any outcome. Every negotiation ends in Yes, No, or Maybe. Define your Wish, Want, and Walk figures before you walk into the conversation. Ask for more than money. Salary is just one part of your total life P&L. A No today does not mean No forever. Follow up, get creative, and stay in the conversation. Every negotiation sets a precedent. When you ask for more, you help normalize it for everyone who comes after you.   Want to learn more from Meggie Palmer?⁠ Join the PepTalkHer community⁠⁠ Download the free PepTalkHer app⁠⁠G et your own set of Career Cards⁠   AS SEEN IN THE EPISODE From Our Studio to Your Closet ⁠The Maverick Tee (Emmeline Pankhurst)⁠   01:05 Meet Meggie Palmer: Founder of PepTalkHer 02:18 Why Meggie Created PepTalkHer and Her Mission to Close the Pay Gap 19:35 Why We Struggle to Ask for More and How to Reframe It 30:10 Yes, No, Maybe: The Three Possible Outcomes to Plan For 31:45 Wish, Want, Walk: Define Your Salary Boundaries 35:41 Beyond Salary: Non-Monetary Benefits and Your Total Life P&L 46:55 Keep Your Receipts: Why Documentation Matters 52:29 Advocate for More: Not Just for You but for Others Too 56:06 When the Answer Is Still No: Hard Choices and Next Steps 1:00:02 When Your Boss’s Narrative Doesn’t Match Yours 1:05:58 Negotiating as a Freelancer or in the Gig Economy 1:10:15 Meggie’s Wish: Normalize Transparency Around Money   Connect With Us So You Never Miss a Moment of Inspiration:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit Our Website ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Our Best-Selling Book in Paperback⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Follow Gravitas on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Follow Lisa on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Connect with Lisa on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Suggestions or Questions? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email Us at inconfidence@gravitasnewyork.com⁠  

Ever felt ready for more responsibility, recognition, or compensation, but held back from asking?  In this solo episode of In Confidence, Lisa shares a powerful reframe: asking for a raise or promotion isn’t about demanding. It’s about declaring your worth. Drawing from her Gravitas superpower framework, she breaks down how to lead the conversation with clarity, strategy, and self-belief.   This conversation sparked so much interest that we decided to turn it into a two-part series. Stay tuned for Part Two with negotiation expert Meggie Palmer, where we dive even deeper into tactical tips, scripts, and strategies.   In Part 1, you’ll learn: How to reframe fear of asking into a leadership moment What to prepare for the three raise and promotion scenarios: A title change with no money A pay increase without changing your role A promotion that comes with both more responsibility and more pay The next step in your career starts with a single conversation. Let’s make sure you’re ready for it.   00:00 Intro 01:09 The Reframe 05:10 The Three Scenarios We're Exploring 06:04 Title Change With No Pay Increase 13:25 A Pay Increase Without Changing Your Role 18:14 A Promotion With a Pay Increase 21:22 Final Thoughts 22:36 Outro   Connect With Us So You Never Miss a Moment of Inspiration:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit Our Website ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Our Best-Selling Book in Paperback⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Follow Gravitas on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Follow Lisa on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Connect with Lisa on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Suggestions or Questions? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email Us at inconfidence@gravitasnewyork.com⁠  

The secret to looking good on camera isn’t about being flawless. It’s about capturing a moment you’ll want to remember. That’s what world-renowned headshot photographer Peter Hurley has learned after two decades behind the lens. Lighting is important, but it’s the memory the photo holds that matters most. On this episode of In Confidence, Peter shares why so many of us fear the camera, how to quiet the inner critic, and what it really takes to feel good in front of the lens. You’ll also hear his five go-to tips for being photogenic in any setting. And if you want to see those tips in action, this episode is one to watch. In this episode, you’ll learn: The mindset behind photogenic confidence How to build trust in front of the lens and in life Why self-doubt shows up the moment the camera does Why candid, unpolished photos often capture the real you So don’t skip the photo. It might become your favorite memory.   00:00 Intro 00:40 Meet Peter Hurley 07:37 Pivots and Opportunity Mindset 11:53 Peter's Purpose 13:50 Battling Perfectionism 19:20 What Makes a Great Portrait 21:46 Why People Fear the Camera 24:03 Inner Critic + Building Trust 31:42 Tip #1: Get The Jawline Out 32:20 Trust Comes From Expertise 41:04 Tip #2: Squinching  42:58 More Tips to Get the Best Photo 46:39 Capturing Moments 53:36 Let Your Subconscious Shine Through 55:18 Ideal Camera Angles 59:46 Final Thoughts   Connect With Us So You Never Miss a Moment of Inspiration:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit Our Website ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Our Best-Selling Book in Paperback⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Follow Gravitas on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Follow Lisa on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Connect with Lisa on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Suggestions or Questions? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email Us at inconfidence@gravitasnewyork.com⁠

What happens when your title is stripped away, your inbox goes quiet, and your Monday morning feels like a void? In this deeply personal episode of In Confidence, Lisa opens up about her own experience being fired as a startup CEO and what came next. Whether you've been laid off, restructured out, or let go, Lisa shares emotional insights, mindset shifts, and practical strategies to help you move forward.   You’ll learn: What happens in your brain and body after a professional loss How to quiet your inner critic and confront shame Ways to channel your strengths and maintain momentum How to redefine success based on resilience, not your resume If this hasn’t happened to you, it’s probably happened to someone you know and care about. Share this episode with them and remind them (or yourself): your job doesn’t define your worth.   00:00 Intro 01:20 Lisa's Story of Being Fired 07:16 What Happens When There Is a Job Loss 09:21 The Inner Critic Triggered 12:59 Shift Your Mindset and the Self-Sustaining Superpower 16:29 Have Your Shame Buddy 17:33 Don’t Lose Momentum 20:55 Have a Plan 21:40 Redefine Success 23:12 Recognize Your Resourcefulness 24:24 Final Thought and Success Story 26:13 Outro 26:59 Disclaimer   Connect With Us So You Never Miss a Moment of Inspiration:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit Our Website ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Our Best-Selling Book in Paperback⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Follow Gravitas on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Follow Lisa on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Connect with Lisa on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Suggestions or Questions? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email Us at inconfidence@gravitasnewyork.com⁠

Burnout isn’t just feeling tired. It’s a brain and body stuck in survival mode. In this powerful episode of In Confidence, Dr. Romie Mushtaq, brain doctor, Chief Wellness Officer, and bestselling author of The Busy Brain Cure, joins Lisa for a candid conversation about how stress rewires your brain, why so many of us are operating in "busy brain" mode, and how to heal using real science. What you’ll get from this episode: -How to decode your Busy Brain Score and what it reveals about your stress levels -The difference between chronic stress and burnout (and why it matters) -A science-backed morning ritual to reset your nervous system -Why hope is a measurable mindset and a leadership superpower   Walk away with practical tools to calm your mind, protect your energy, and move forward with purpose.   00:00 Intro 00:35 Meet Dr. Romie Mushtaq 00:58 Dr Romie's Story: Burnout, Illness, and Finding Purpose 03:00 The Busy Brain Cure: Why She Wrote It 07:14 Understanding Your "Brain Score" and the Busy Brain Quiz 09:20 Busy Brain vs Burnout 10:43 Neuroscience of Storytelling and Self-Talk 14:49 The Importance of Morning Rituals 22:16 Burnout: Where to Begin 24:05 Diet is a Four Letter Curse Word 27:29 Busy Brain Lab Tests 29:18 The Science of Hope 37:12 Is Working 24/7 The Only Path to Success? 42:28 Final Thoughts and Questions 44:49 Outro 45:57 Disclaimer   Want to learn more from Dr. Romie? Take the Busy Brain Test Get her book The Busy Brain Cure Visit her website   Connect With Us So You Never Miss a Moment of Inspiration:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit Our Website ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Our Best-Selling Book in Paperback⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Follow Gravitas on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠Follow Lisa on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Connect with Lisa on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Suggestions or Questions? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Email Us at inconfidence@gravitasnewyork.com⁠

In our first episode of Season 2, Lisa shares why trust is the next big idea she’s exploring—drawing from two decades of consulting, leadership, and personal reflection. You’ll learn why trust is often fragile, how our brains process betrayal more intensely than connection, and her four-part framework to help you turn trust into an intentional skill set in every area of your life.   In this episode you'll learn: Why trust is the foundation of strong relationships How to turn trust into a teachable, practical skill The 4 components of trust: Reliability, Congruence, Acceptance, and Openness A self-assessment to help you reflect and rebuild trust in any relationship This season, we’re building the trust muscle and it starts here.   00:00 Intro 01:41 Why Lisa Is Passionate About Trust  05:55 Trust Is Everywhere 07:34 Why Trust Matters 11:30 The Trust Deficit 13:46 The Neuroscience of Trust and Betrayal 17:46 The Iceberg Model of Trust 18:50 Lisa's 4 Components of Trust 24:01 Trust Assessment Exercise 27:41 Real-Life Examples (Work and Personal) 30:43 From Transactional to Transformational 31:28 Final Thoughts 32:48 Outro 33:21 Disclaimer     As seen on this episode: The Dragon Collection https://gravitasnewyork.com/collections/lunar-new-year-dragon     Connect With Us So You Never Miss a Moment of Inspiration:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit Our Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Our Best-Selling Book in Paperback⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow Gravitas on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow Lisa on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Connect with Lisa on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Suggestions or Questions? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Email Us at inconfidence@gravitasnewyork.com⁠

At the heart of this podcast is a belief: what we share in confidence helps us grow in confidence. Season 1 has been full of honest conversations, hard-won wisdom, and vulnerable truths that made all of us a little braver. To close out this first chapter of In Confidence, we’ve created a highlight reel to reflect on those moments. In this episode, you’ll hear: Deep dives into the core themes from ⁠Gravitas: The 8 Strengths That Redefine Confidence⁠. Advice and insights from guests that shifted our thinking and strengthened our resolve. Mic-drop moments that changed how we lead, connect, and step into our power. Season 2 is coming. But before we look ahead, let this finale remind you of everything you already are. And in the words we’ve ended every episode with this season: I see you. I value you. I believe in you. This is In Confidence.   00:00 Intro  01:41 ⁠Episode 1⁠ Your Life Story is Your Leadership Story 02:02 ⁠Episode 2⁠ It's Time to Stop Apologizing. Say This Instead.  03:26 ⁠Episode 4⁠ You Only Need 19 Seconds to Tap Into Your Full Potential. 03:53 ⁠Episode 6⁠ You've Been Thinking About Confidence All Wrong. Here's The Truth.  04:40 ⁠Episode 9⁠ The Mindset Shift You Need for Returning to Office 06:16 ⁠Episode 14⁠ Your Guide on How to Break through Setback With The Power You Already Have 07:00 ⁠Episode 16⁠ Have You Ever Been Called Bossy? You're Not Alone and You're Not The Problem 07:41 ⁠Episode 17⁠ The Art of Small Talk: A Guide for When You Don’t Know Anyone in the Room 08:17 ⁠Episode 5⁠ Keep Moving Forward With Vicky Nguyen  08:54 ⁠Episode 7⁠ If We Had Our Own Place with Jenny Nguyen 10:09 ⁠Episode 10⁠ Transform Any Moment Into A Win-Win with Dr. Wendy Borlabi 11:05 ⁠Episode 11⁠ Art That Meets The Moment with Schele Williams 12:10 ⁠Episode 13⁠ The Performing Superpower & How to be Great at Karaoke with Ada Tseng 14:01 ⁠Episode 15⁠ Scaling Magic While Normalizing Wobbliness with Lindsay Shookus 14:53 Outro and Thank You 15:57 ⁠Episode 8⁠ Why Women Love Romantasy Novels   AS SEEN IN THE EPISODE From Our Studio to Your Closet ⁠Meet Our Best-Sellers   Connect With Us So You Never Miss a Moment of Inspiration:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit Our Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Our Best-Selling Book in Paperback⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow Gravitas on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow Lisa on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Connect with Lisa on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Suggestions or Questions? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Email Us at inconfidence@gravitasnewyork.com⁠

Like it or not, small talk is part of life. And whether you love it or dread it, it helps to have some gravitas going into the room.   In this episode of In Confidence, Lisa shares how to approach small talk with intention so you’re not just getting through it, but actually making the most of it. Whether you’re at a networking event, a wedding where you barely know anyone, or like Lisa, your college reunion, these moments can turn into something meaningful.   What you'll get from this episode: The mindset shift that makes walking into a room feel less intimidating. 5 tips to help you make real connections. How to move from surface chatter to something that feels more personal. Plus, our downloadable PDF guide to help you prep before your next event.  Small talk isn’t about filling the silence. It’s about creating something real.   00:00 Intro 00:59 Why Small Talk Matters More Than You Think 02:15 Resetting Your Mindset 04:10 5 Tips To Master Small Talk 09:50 Final Thoughts and a Free Downloadable PDF 10:45 Outro 11:09 Disclaimer   AS SEEN IN THE EPISODE From Our Studio to Your Closet Meet the Corazon Blouse: https://gravitasnewyork.com/products/corazon-button-down-blouse   Connect With Us So You Never Miss a Moment of Inspiration:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit Our Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Our Best-Selling Book in Paperback⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow Gravitas on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow Lisa on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Connect with Lisa on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Suggestions or Questions? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Email Us at inconfidence@gravitasnewyork.com⁠

Have you ever been called bossy, cold, or intimidating at work? Or been told you're too quiet to lead? In this episode of In Confidence, we unpack the triple standard women face at work and how it affects how we’re perceived, promoted, and valued. Through personal stories, surprising research, and tactical ways to reframe the narrative, Lisa shares how the Leading superpower can be both your greatest strength and your most misunderstood quality. Learn how to expand the scorecard for success, advocate for yourself in real time, and lead with both clarity and connection.   Let’s redefine what leadership really looks like.   00:00 Intro 00:43 Defining the Triple Standard 02:58 The Hidden Bias Behind Promotion 03:57 Expanding the Scorecard and Helping Women Embrace and Appreciate Their Superpowers 05:40 How to Respond When You've Been Called Bossy 10:04 Balancing Leadership with Connection 13:46 Final Thoughts: You're Not Bossy, You're Leading 14:57 Outro 15:23 Disclaimer   Connect With Us So You Never Miss a Moment of Inspiration:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit Our Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Our Best-Selling Book in Paperback⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow Gravitas on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow Lisa on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Connect with Lisa on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Suggestions or Questions? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Email Us at inconfidence@gravitasnewyork.com⁠

In this episode of In Confidence, Lisa sits down with Lindsay Shookus—former SNL producer, co-founder of Women Work F#cking Hard, and speaker—to talk about reinvention, resilience, and redefining success.Lindsay shares what it looks like to embrace uncertainty, build a “portfolio life,” and trust in your own talents, even through wobbly moments.   Key Takeaways: Why “normalizing wobbliness” is crucial when navigating career transitions or reinvention How to build a portfolio career based on energy, joy, and trust in your talents Strategies for making meaningful connections (even if you're introverted) Why showing up, especially when you don’t feel like it, can change your life   00:00 Intro 00:50 Meet Lindsay Shookus 03:48 What It Really Takes to Leave a 20-Year Career 11:03 Founding WWFH and Creating a Space for Women to Support Each Other 17:55 Authentic Connection, Showing Up, and Advice for Introverts 21:20 Letting the Universe Guide What's Next 22:52 The Portfolio Life: Reinvention, Speaking, and Creative Problem Solving 33:50 Normalizing Wobbliness and Discomfort 37:06 Final Thoughts and What She's Most Excited About 41:07 Outro 42:01 Disclaimer   Seen on Lisa in this episode: the ⁠Unbossed & Unbought Sweatshirt⁠, inspired by Shirley Chisholm's 1972 Presidential campaign slogan. Chisholm challenged societal norms to give marginalized groups a voice, becoming the first Black Congresswoman and the first Black woman to run for a major-party presidential nomination. Get yours today on ⁠GravitasNewYork.com⁠.    Connect With Us So You Never Miss a Moment of Inspiration:  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit Our Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Get Our Best-Selling Book in Paperback⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow Gravitas on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow Lisa on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Connect with Lisa on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Suggestions or Questions? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Email Us at inconfidence@gravitasnewyork.com⁠

This episode of In Confidence gives you two tools to name what’s holding you back and recognize the strengths already within you that will help you push through it. Lisa walks you through a weekend reflection practice on the six forces that fuel your inner critic and invites you to rediscover your confidence through the Gravitas Confidence Language Quiz. You’ll leave this episode with more clarity, more self-belief, and a simple mindset shift: the thing standing in your way isn’t stronger than the power you already have.   Take our Confidence Language Quiz   Head to our website to download the episode worksheets   00:00 Intro 00:39 Exercise 1: Identifying the Six Forces That Hold You Back 01:46 Lisa’s Personal Story: Facing the Satisfaction Conundrum 03:15 Exercise 2: Take the Confidence Language Quiz 03:33 How to Interpret Your Quiz Results 04:31 A Family Breakthrough from the Quiz 06:12 What Changes When You Name Your Strengths 06:31 Outro 06:59 Disclaimer   Connect With Us So You Never Miss a Moment of Inspiration:  ⁠Visit Our Website⁠ ⁠Get Our Best-Selling Book in Paperback⁠ ⁠Follow Gravitas on Instagram⁠ ⁠Follow Lisa on Instagram⁠ ⁠Connect with Lisa on LinkedIn⁠ ⁠Suggestions or Questions? Email Us. E-Mail: inconfidence@gravitasnewyork.com 

Only 12% of people have the Performing superpower—the ability to shine in front of others with ease. But what if you could practice it in a way that’s low-stakes, joyful, and just plain fun? In this episode, Lisa explores how karaoke can be a powerful tool for building confidence in everyday life. She’s joined by writer, editor, and karaoke journalist Ada Tseng, creator of the LA Times Karaoke Generator, to talk about how karaoke helps us get comfortable with the spotlight on our own terms. In this episode, you’ll learn: What the Performing superpower is (and why so few of us claim it) Why karaoke is actually risk-free confidence training How to pick your perfect karaoke song (with data to back it up) Why letting go of perfection might be your biggest mic-drop moment Whether you're karaoke-curious or a seasoned shower-singer, this episode is your permission slip to take up space, sing your heart out, and have fun doing it.   00:00 Intro: Why karaoke is a powerful tool for building confidence00:42 The performing superpower and how we develop it03:46 Real-life growth: Performing in everyday situations08:10 Karaoke as practice: A safe, joyful way to build the performing superpower09:54 Meet Ada Tseng, karaoke journalist and creator of the LA Times Karaoke Generator14:44 Karaoke as culture, connection, and self-care18:08 From stage fright to spotlight: Building confidence through song24:44 What makes a great karaoke song and Lisa and Ada’s top tips27:42 Letting go of perfection and having fun with it33:30 Are women held to a higher standard? Making karaoke a judgment-free zone38:57 The Gravitas team’s favorite karaoke songs43:53 Final thoughts and Ada’s post-marathon karaoke celebration46:23 Outro46:41 Disclaimer   Connect With Us So You Never Miss a Moment of Inspiration:  ⁠Visit Our Website⁠ ⁠Get Our Best-Selling Book in Paperback⁠ ⁠Follow Gravitas on Instagram⁠ ⁠Follow Lisa on Instagram⁠ ⁠Connect with Lisa on LinkedIn⁠ ⁠Suggestions or Questions? Email Us. E-Mail: inconfidence@gravitasnewyork.com 

In this special episode of In Confidence, Lisa shares the story of a tiny plaque on the Brooklyn Bridge that sparked a big realization: women have built the world we live in, but their names are often left out of the story. From Wi-Fi to Monopoly, dishwashers to life rafts, Lisa highlights five surprising everyday inventions created by women and why it’s time we give them the credit they’ve always deserved.   This episode is both a celebration and a reclamation. It’s a reminder that behind every great invention, there’s often a woman whose brilliance made it possible—even if she didn’t get the spotlight. Tune in and be inspired to not just honor the past, but to build boldly into the future.   00:00 Intro 01:40 The Inspiration Behind This Episode 02:10 Five Inventions That Were Created by Women 05:28 Even More Inventions You Didn’t Know Were Invented by Women 06:34 Final Thoughts 06:44 Outro 07:09 Disclaimer    Connect With Us So You Never Miss a Moment of Inspiration:  ⁠Visit Our Website⁠ ⁠Get Our Best-Selling Book in Paperback⁠ ⁠Follow Gravitas on Instagram⁠ ⁠Follow Lisa on Instagram⁠ ⁠Connect with Lisa on LinkedIn⁠ ⁠Suggestions or Questions? Email Us. E-Mail: inconfidence@gravitasnewyork.com 

From performing in Rent and Aida to directing The Notebook and The Wiz, Schele Williams has built a legacy not only through what she’s accomplished, but through how she leads. In this episode of In Confidence, Lisa and Schele sit down to discuss how the discipline, heart, and conviction she’s carried through her career have shaped the way she shows up.   What You’ll Learn: Why representation behind the table can change the entire story. How to shift from scarcity to a purpose-driven mindset. What it takes to overcome stage fright and own your voice. Why your peers aren’t your competition, but your inspiration.   Whether you're navigating your own creative path or redefining leadership in any industry, this conversation is a masterclass that will leave you thinking bigger and rooting harder for the people around you.   00:00 Intro 00:43 Meet Schele Williams 01:44 Getting Started in the Arts 07:41Love for the Arts 09:21 Transitioning from Performer to Director 10:45 Her First Directing Opportunity 13:40 Comparing the Roles of Performer and Director 18:33 How Performing Shaped Her Directing Style 21:47 What She Had to Learn to Become a Great Director 23:08 Building Her Leadership Style 25:17 Handling Rejection and Staying Confident 28:28 The Power of Community and Peer Support 32:11 Creating Work You’re Proud Of (Even If Others Don’t Get It) 35:47 Learning to Lead Diverse Teams 38:50 Advice for Overcoming Stage Fright 41:46 Applying Storytelling Across Roles 43:49 How Broadway Is Evolving 50:22 Theater’s Role in Expanding Perspective 53:09 Breaking Barriers in Broadway Leadership 54:54 Writing Your Legacy for the Next Generation 57:20 What’s Ahead and Her Advice for Confidence 58:42 Outro   Connect With Us So You Never Miss a Moment of Inspiration:  ⁠Visit Our Website⁠ ⁠Get Our Best-Selling Book in Paperback⁠ ⁠Follow Gravitas on Instagram⁠ ⁠Follow Lisa on Instagram⁠ ⁠Connect with Lisa on LinkedIn⁠ ⁠Suggestions or Questions? Email Us. E-Mail: inconfidence@gravitasnewyork.com