In this episode we explore how the quiet boundaries you don’t set for yourself lead to anxiety, burnout and attachment issues. Key points How everyday boundary breakdowns feel normal because they've been normalisedWhy childhood trauma teaches us to abandon our needsWhat everyday boundaries look like Powerful reframes to change the way you think about boundaries Reflective questions to facilitate your self knowledge and healing USEFUL LINKS: Book a free 15 minute consult...

We don’t talk enough about the attachment trauma that comes from a toxic sibling. The jealousy, manipulation, betrayal — all brushed off as “normal” or “just sibling stuff.” In this episode, I’m unpacking the hidden trauma of sibling relationships shaped by toxic family dynamics. We’ll explore the roles we’re forced into, how it impacts your self-worth, and what healing might actually look like. If you’ve ever felt guilty for stepping back from a sibling, this one’s for you. Resources&n...

Ever wondered if someone’s avoidant or actually narcissistic? In this episode, I break down what sets avoidant attachment apart from narcissism, why they often get confused (especially in anxious-avoidant dynamics), and how understanding the difference can help you stop blaming yourself, start seeing patterns clearly, and move toward healthier relationships. Whether you’re trying to make sense of someone else’s behavior or reflecting on your own, this episode brings nuance, compas...

When you're anxious or highly stressed, starting your day with a healthy morning routine for better mental health can help to support your emotional wellbeing. Some routines can feel daunting or another to-do but when you approach it from a place of being trauma informed and realistic, you can work with what you have the time and means to do. This episode gives you ideas to try, even when you are incredibly short on time. Did you enjoy this episode? Don’t forget to share and...

If you’ve ever felt disconnected during sex, struggled to enjoy pleasure, or found yourself shutting down emotionally or physically, this episode is for you. This week, psychotherapist Lizandra is joined by certified sexologist Lucy Rowett for a deeply honest and empowering conversation about the links between trauma, attachment wounds, and female sexuality. We explore why so many women feel stuck in cycles of shame or numbness when it comes to intimacy, and what it actually takes to re...

**Currently Accepting Clients** 📱Book your free 15 minute intro call with Lizandra In this episode, we’re diving into the science behind Adverse Childhood Experiences, or ACEs, and why your childhood experiences may still be impacting your mental, emotional, and even physical health today. If you’ve ever wondered why certain patterns keep showing up in your life—like anxiety, chronic stress, people-pleasing, or difficulty in relationships—this conversation offers a powerful lens t...

Many children of narcissistic fathers tend to have a core feeling of never being good enough. Feeling invaluable or invisible unless they are over-performing or over-achieving. This episode looks at the emotional and psychological impact of growing up with a narcissistic father and what steps you can take to start healing. Subscribe and watch the free training Stop Doing Relationships Like Your Parents **Currently Accepting Clients** 📱Book your free 15 minute intro ...

**Currently Accepting Clients** 📱 Book your free 15 minute intro call with Lizandra Connect on TikTok Connect on Instagram In this episode, we're talking about something that so many people are living with daily—often without realising it: being stuck in the stress response. From a trauma-informed perspective, this isn’t just about feeling busy or overwhelmed. Living in the stress response means your nervous system is constantly on high alert—operating from fight, flight, freeze, or faw...

Have you been trying all of the things to move forward in your healing journey? Therapy, podcasts, reading, meditation but you still feel like you’re not getting anywhere? There are often reasons why you can plateau and feel like you are not making progress. This episode helps you to discover what they are so that you can stop being so hard on yourself and make the changes you’ve been working so hard to make. If you’re just getting started or you just need to refresh, listen...

🚨**LAST CHANCE TO BOOK YOUR SEAT Friday 17th May Midnight BST** 👉Click here for your ticket 👈 Ever found yourself freezing mid-conversation, overreacting to a small comment, or walking away from a talk thinking, “That didn’t come out how I meant it to”? You’re not alone. In this episode, we explore why communication feels impossible when you’re triggered—and how your attachment style, nervous system, and past experiences all play a role. If you’re tired of miscommunication, emotional spiral...

Let’s talk about the subtle ways we push people away - even when we don’t mean to. In this episode, I’m breaking down 3 communication habits that can quietly damage connection, especially if you’ve learned to protect yourself by not being fully honest about what you need. Here’s what we cover: Why over-explaining isn’t clarity - it’s a nervous system trying to feel safe How emotional distance and avoidance can cause resentment and fuel conflictThe sneaky habit of expressing needs through sma...

Healing Childhood trauma is back after a break! In this episode, I’m talking about five emotional habits that might seem harmless—or even polite—but are actually signs you’re disconnected from your emotional needs. These patterns are common if you grew up in a home where your emotions weren’t welcomed or validated, and they often show up in the way we relate to ourselves and others as adults. We’ll cover: Why constantly invalidating your own experience feels “normal” How over-apologis...

In this episode of healing childhood trauma, the anxious and avoidant attachment style dynamic is explored. It’s why the relationships that seem to make sense in the beginning, often end up in frustration and dissatisfaction. In this episode you’ll understand where anxious and avoidant attachment begins How these patterns show up in the early stages of a relationship Why people with anxious attachment are drawn to people with avoidant attachment Why people with a...

Lizandra is a trauma informed psychotherapist who works with relational trauma in adults. Healing Childhood Trauma is a mental health podcast about healing from the past, breaking unhealthy patterns and becoming secure, so you can have the best relationships. This podcast is for you if you find yourself asking questions such as How do I heal from Trauma? Can I change my attachment style? Why am I a people pleaser? How do I get over my fear of being alone? Why do I feel...

In this episode we explore the root cause of an insecure attachment and father wounds in daughters. Attachment is often related to romantic relationships but the patterns of abandonment and rejection are often much deeper. As a therapist that works with childhood relational trauma, psychotherapist Lizandra offers insights from clinical practice and experience. Key learnings: How to consider your safety when working with trauma so that you don't feel overwhelmed. When h...

Join psychotherapist and relationship therapist Lizandra for this real talk episode that unpacks red flags in relationships and dating. Do you ignore the early warning signs in relationships? Ever wish you could have spotted the signs of a toxic relationship early on? In this episode you'll discover how we repeat relationship patterns we've learned from our parents The early signs to spot problematic and narcissistic behaviours you shouldn't ignore Why we normalise toxic behaviour...

What do you do when the most toxic person you know is your mother? It’s hard dealing with a narcissist. It's even harder when that person is your mother. In this episode we explore the dynamic of mother daughter relationships and the traits that narcissist mothers have with their daughters. Find out the seven signs of a narcissistic mother What this means about your own attachment style How this can impact your friendships, romantic relationships and how you parent a...

In this episode, we dive deep into the struggles of maintaining your sense of self in relationships when you have an anxious attachment style. If you find yourself constantly overthinking, people pleasing, or feeling like you’re "too much," this episode is for you. We’ll explore why anxious attachers often lose themselves in relationships, how childhood trauma plays a role, and practical steps to regain self-worth and emotional independence. Key Takeaways: Understanding anxious attachme...

Do you get anxiety about having anxiety? In this episode we explore the mind and body approach to working with the physical and mental signs of anxiety. Experienced psychotherapist Lizandra discusses an integrative approach from clinical practice that helps clients to recognise their signs of overwhelm and stress to feel calmer. This episode also includes anxiety strategies that help to regulate your nervous system and why there can be a benefit to experiencing anxiety. Th...

This episode is all about understanding the dismissive avoidant attachment style. This attachment style is often misunderstood so in this episode we unpack: Where dismissive avoidant attachment comes from What to look out for when identifying avoidant attachment How this attachment style can negatively impact your relationships if you don’t address your childhood wounds and lots more to understand if you or your someone you know has avoidant attachment traits in relati...