Ever feel like your body won’t let you relax into love?
You want connection but instead you snap, shut down, fawn, or pull away. It’s not that you’re broken. It’s your nervous system running old survival patterns.
You’ll learn from this episode:
Why “self-sabotage” in relationships is actually your nervous system in survival mode
How fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses replay in adulthood and hijack intimacy
Why love, kindness, or support can feel viscerally unsafe even without red flags
How unintegrated shadow parts show up as snapping, shutting down, fawning, or projecting
Why logic and mindset work can’t override dysregulation—and what actually can
Tune in now to understand your nervous system’s role in intimacy and start rewiring toward connection.
🚨 Regulate & Release, my self-paced nervous system course, is open! Inside, you’ll get the exact practices I teach clients to move out of survival mode and into trust and connection. For a limited time, you’ll also receive 30 days of personalized email support. You can start healing today HERE.
Connect with me:
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Website: dainwellness.com
Do you ever feel like you’re walking on eggshells in your relationships—terrified that one wrong move will lead to rejection, chaos, or disconnection? You’re not alone.
In this episode, we explore how childhood survival roles—like eldest daughter syndrome, people-pleasing, and emotional caretaking—carry into our adult relationships.
You’ll discover why many of us unconsciously choose partners we feel we need to “manage” or protect, and how nervous system survival patterns like fawning, hyper-vigilance, and conflict avoidance show up in love.
What we cover in this episode:
Why conflict feels terrifying when love was tied to silence, self-abandonment, or performance in childhood
How people-pleasing, over-functioning, and caretaking impact intimacy and connection
The neuroscience behind why your body reacts to conflict like it’s life or death
Practical tools to build safety in expressing your needs without spiraling into fear or shame
Whether you grew up as the eldest daughter, the family peacemaker, or the “responsible one,” this conversation will help you untangle old patterns so you can create relationships rooted in safety, honesty, and authentic connection.
👉 Tune in if you’re ready to stop carrying more than your share and finally experience love without fear, anxiety, or over-functioning.
🚨 Doors are open! Regulate & Release, my self-paced nervous system course, is now live. Heal at the root, release survival patterns, and learn how to regulate your nervous system so you can feel at home in your body. For a limited time, you’ll also receive 30 days of personalized email support. Start regulating today [JOIN HERE]
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So many eldest daughters grow up under an invisible set of rules- be responsible, don’t rock the boat, make everyone proud. This unspoken Good Daughter Contract might have kept you safe as a kid, but in adulthood it often turns into people-pleasing, overfunctioning, perfectionism, and a deep fear of disappointing others.
In this episode, we explore:
If you’ve ever felt like being the “good one” was your job, this conversation will help you see where that script came from and how to write a new one that feels like freedom.
👉 Ready to step out of the role and reclaim yourself? Join me inside Regulate & Release.
Take my free 2-minute Discover the Root Cause of Anxiety Quiz & receive your Nervous System SOS bundle!
Connect with me:
Instagram: @dainwellness
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Website: dainwellness.com
If you grew up without the emotional support, safety, or presence you needed, chances are you’ve promised yourself: I’ll be the parent I never had. But trying to break generational cycles without tools or support often leads to the same result we’re all too familiar with- burnout, resentment, and exhaustion.
In this episode, we dive into:
How childhood trauma, eldest daughter syndrome, and people-pleasing roles shape the way you parent
Why being “the cycle breaker” can feel overwhelming when your nervous system is stuck in survival mode
The truth about gentle parenting and conscious parenting (and why self-regulation matters more than perfection)
Practical, somatic ways to nurture your children and yourself without repeating old patterns
How to create a sustainable foundation of safety, love, and presence for your family without abandoning your own needs
This is for the cycle breakers, the mothers who want to raise their children differently, and the women learning to reparent themselves along the way.
👉 Listen in to discover how to be the parent you never had without burning out.
Start Here
Download my free nervous system reset guide HERE.
Learn the root cause of your anxiety by taking my FREE QUIZ.
Join my 8-month nervous system regulation program for women HERE.
Where to find us:
Instagram: @dainwellness
TikTok: @dainwellness
Tags: burnout recovery, autoimmune healing, trauma and chronic illness, nervous system healing, burnout and trauma, somatic recovery, healing anxiety naturally
Have you ever felt like your entire identity was built around being the “good daughter”? Always responsible, agreeable, keeping the peace while inside you’re anxious, resentful, and completely drained?
In this episode, I dive deep into the hidden cost of the “good daughter” role and how it shapes your nervous system, self-worth, and adult relationships.
We’ll unpack:
How the good daughter/parentified child dynamic forms (especially in eldest daughters and first-generation households)
Why people-pleasing, hyper-vigilance, and repressed rage aren’t personality traits—they’re nervous system survival strategies
The connection between the fawn response, shame, and chronic anxiety, burnout, and even autoimmune symptoms
How confusing love with self-abandonment leaves you exhausted, resentful, and questioning your identity
What it looks like to break free: building safety in saying no, reclaiming your authentic self, and moving from obligation to devotion
If you’ve ever struggled with overgiving, people-pleasing, or carrying everyone else’s emotional weight, this episode will help you understand why and more importantly, how to step into a life where you feel safe being fully you.
👉 Ready to go deeper? Inside my Regulate & Release program, I help women release the “good daughter” role, regulate their nervous systems, and reclaim their authentic identity without drowning in guilt. Learn more HERE.
Book a free, no-strings-attached 30-minute clarity call with me here if you'd like to explore if this would be a good fit for you.
Where to find us:
Instagram: @dainwellness
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When people think of trauma, they picture the big stuff: assault, car accidents, natural disasters.
But here’s the thing, trauma isn’t just about what happened to you, it’s also about what didn’t. The love you didn’t get. The validation you needed but never received. The protection that was missing when you were small.
In this episode, I share part of my own story: the “big T” trauma of childhood assault alongside the quieter but relentless drip of shame, bullying, and emotional invalidation.
Both left imprints on my nervous system. Both shaped how I learned to survive.
We’ll dive into:
Why trauma is about the absence of safety, not just dramatic events
How “small” wounds like shame or invalidation echo into adulthood
Ways these patterns show up as people-pleasing, perfectionism, and chronic anxiety
What healing actually looks like (spoiler: awkward, but worth it)
Your trauma doesn’t have to look like mine to be real. If your body remembers it, it matters.
👉 Ready to start healing those absences and rebuilding safety from the inside out? Join me inside Regulate & Release. Learn more here → HERE.
Where to find us:
Instagram: @dainwellness
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Burnout isn’t an accident- it’s the business model.
The world makes money when you’re too exhausted to cook, too wired to sleep, and too anxious to say no.
Hustle culture isn’t just toxic; it’s profitable.
In this episode, I’m breaking down why exhaustion is so glorified, how your nervous system gets hijacked by the pace of modern life, and why choosing to live slow is one of the most radical (and necessary) rebellions you can make.
We’ll talk about:
Why the world wants you burnt out (and compliant)
How my own burnout got praised as “discipline”
What living slow actually does for your nervous system
Simple ways to start slowing down without blowing up your life
Learn the root cause of your anxiety by taking my quiz HERE
Join the program that helps you rewire your system and reintroduce safety from the inside out: Regulate & Release – Learn more here → HERE.
Where to find us:
Instagram: @dainwellness
TikTok: @dainwellness
Tags: nervous system healing, mindset work, trauma-informed mindset, somatic healing, nervous system regulation, healing anxiety naturally, subconscious reprogramming, body-based healing, identity and trauma, somatic psychology, trauma healing podcast, nervous system podcast, emotional regulation tools, healing from survival mode, fight flight freeze fawn, nervous system and self-worth
Ever wonder if you’re too much or too broken to be a parent?
That was my fear for years- terrified of passing down my anxiety, reactivity, and self-doubt to a future child.
In this episode, I’m unpacking the fears of motherhood, what it means to heal for your future children (and your inner child), and how nervous system regulation changes the story we pass on.
In this episode, we’ll cover:
Why fears about motherhood often mirror unresolved patterns in your nervous system
How explosive emotions and anxiety shape the fear of “messing up” your kids
The difference between control and true safety in parenting
Why healing isn’t just for you—it’s for the future generations you influence
What it looks like to build capacity for uncertainty instead of spiraling into fear
This episode is for you if you’ve ever thought:“Maybe I shouldn’t be a parent… what if I ruin them?”
Healing doesn’t guarantee life will be perfect, but it does give your children (and yourself) a different baseline of safety, presence, and self-trust.
✨ Join the program that helps you rewire your system and create safety from the inside out: [Regulate & Release → HERE].
Where to find us:
Instagram: @dainwellness
TikTok: @dainwellness
Tags: motherhood fears, nervous system healing, breaking generational trauma, somatic healing, nervous system regulation, healing anxiety naturally, subconscious reprogramming
You don’t have mindset problems. You have a nervous system that’s doing its job: keeping you safe by keeping you small.
In this episode, we’re unpacking why nervous system work isn’t separate from mindset work—it is the mindset work.
The stories you tell yourself, the thoughts you believe, the identity you’ve constructed to feel safe in the world… they’re all shaped by your state.
🧠 When your body feels unsafe, your thoughts will follow. When your nervous system is regulated, your mindset can expand.
In this episode, we’ll cover:
Why you can’t force mindset shifts from survival
How your identity is built through nervous system patterning, not logic
Why certain thoughts feel “true” even when you know they’re not
What to do when affirmations or journaling just don’t work
How to use safety, not shame, to rewire your inner dialogue
This episode is for you if you’ve been wondering:
“Why do I keep thinking this way even though I know better?”
Because knowing better doesn’t matter if your body doesn’t feel safe. Let’s get to the root.
✨ Join the program that helps you rewire your system and reintroduce safety from the inside out:
Regulate & Release – Learn more here → HERE.
Where to find us:
Instagram: @dainwellness
TikTok: @dainwellness
Tags: nervous system healing, mindset work, trauma-informed mindset, somatic healing, nervous system regulation, healing anxiety naturally, subconscious reprogramming, body-based healing, identity and trauma, somatic psychology, trauma healing podcast, nervous system podcast, emotional regulation tools, healing from survival mode, fight flight freeze fawn, nervous system and self-worth, why mindset work isn’t working, affirmations not working, trauma-informed coaching, safety and mindset shifts
EP 07. My Burnout Story: From Autoimmune Symptoms to Nervous System Healing
This is the story I wish I heard when I was spiraling. In this personal episode, I share what led me to the edge of burnout- chronic anxiety, autoimmune symptoms, and emotional shutdown and how I came home to myself through somatic healing and nervous system work.
✨ In this episode:
The hidden link between burnout and trauma
How autoimmune symptoms mirror emotional suppression
What it means to heal without fixing yourself
Start Here
- Download my free nervous system reset guide HERE.
- Learn the root cause of your anxiety by taking my FREE QUIZ.
- Apply to work with me 1:1 HERE.
Where to find us:
Instagram: @dainwellness
TikTok: @dainwellness
Healing is messy. Some days you’re thriving, other days you’re spiraling—and that doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong. This episode is a gentle reminder that relapse isn’t failure, and that regulating your nervous system isn’t about perfection—it’s about returning. I also share my favorite analogy for understanding the nervous system when old patterns and wounds resurface.
✨ Inside this episode:
Why “setbacks” are actually signs of integration
The nervous system logic behind emotional rollercoasters
How to hold self-compassion when you feel like a mess
Join my 8-month nervous system regulation program for women HERE.
Where to find us:
Instagram: @dainwellness
TikTok: @dainwellness
Tags: healing isn’t linear, trauma healing journey, anxiety relapse, nervous system recovery, emotional healing, somatic integration, perfectionism and healing
If resting makes you feel lazy, anxious, or like you’re falling behind—you’re not alone. In this episode, we explore how hustle culture + trauma wire our nervous systems to fear stillness, and how to gently reintroduce rest as safety, not threat.
✨ You’ll learn:
Why slowing down feels uncomfortable for many trauma survivors
How productivity can become a survival pattern
Somatic tools to make rest feel safe again
Download Reflection Prompts on your relationship to Rest HERE.
Learn the root cause of your anxiety by taking my FREE QUIZ.
Join my 8-month nervous system regulation program for women HERE.
Where to find us:
Instagram: @dainwellness
TikTok: @dainwellness
Tags: rest anxiety, high-functioning anxiety, trauma and productivity, nervous system dysregulation, hustle culture recovery, rest nervous system
Ever find yourself snapping at someone you love… or going completely numb mid-conversation and later wondering why can’t I just act normal?
This episode is for the woman who feels like her emotions are “too much” to hold — and too much for anyone else to stay through.
We’re diving into what’s actually going on beneath the outbursts, the shutdowns, and the walking-on-eggshells feeling that makes it hard to be real in your relationships.
Spoiler: this isn’t a communication issue.
It’s a nervous system issue.
✨ What you’ll learn:
Why your emotional outbursts or shutdowns aren’t proof you’re broken — they’re your body doing its job
How emotional repression builds pressure (and why you explode or freeze when it leaks out)
What’s actually underneath guilt, rage, and numbness — and how to hold space for it instead of spiraling
Real-life ways to stay connected and regulated in hard conversations
Somatic tools to express yourself without abandoning yourself
🎧 If you’re tired of fearing your own emotional waves — and ready to feel safe in your body, your feelings, and your relationships — this one’s for you.
🔗 Start Here:
Download my free nervous system reset guide HERE.
Learn the root cause of your anxiety by taking my FREE QUIZ.
Join Regulate & Release, my 8-month trauma-informed group coaching program for women ready to stop walking on emotional eggshells and finally feel whole HERE.
Where to find us:
Instagram: @dainwellness
TikTok: @dainwellness
Tags: nervous system regulation, trauma responses, emotional outbursts, emotional shutdown, somatic healing, rage, numbness, guilt, emotional safety, trauma-informed podcast
Regulation is not the absence of stress. It’s your ability to move through it and come back home to yourself.
Still think nervous system regulation means staying calm at all times and doing more breathwork? Not quite.
In this episode, we unpack what true regulation actually is—and why it’s not about avoiding triggers but about your capacity to move through them without abandoning yourself.
We’ll explore the layers of nervous system healing, how Amazon Prime culture messes with your expectations, and what building emotional safety really looks like in the body.
What you’ll learn:
Why regulation isn’t about being chill all the time
How black-and-white thinking keeps you stuck in dysregulation
The layered process of healing your nervous system (and why it takes time)
What regulation actually feels like in everyday life (hint: it’s not always peaceful)
How to build more capacity without shaming your nervous system
Resources to Regulate
Download my free nervous system reset guide HERE.
Learn the root cause of your anxiety by taking my FREE QUIZ.
Join my 8-month nervous system regulation program for women HERE.
Where to find us:
Instagram: @dainwellness
TikTok: @dainwellness
Tags:fight flight freeze fawn, trauma responses, nervous system healing, somatic trauma podcast, overthinking anxiety, survival responses, nervous system education, trauma-informed coach
If you grew up being “the strong one,” the emotional caretaker, or the default adult, this one’s for you.
In this episode, we explore eldest daughter syndrome and how childhood responsibility wires you for burnout, people-pleasing, and internalized shame.
You’ll learn why your nervous system still feels unsafe letting others in—and how to begin unlearning the survival role that shaped you.
✨ In this episode:
What “emotional parentification” actually looks like
How people-pleasing becomes a trauma response
What your body needs to feel safe saying “no”
🔗 Need nervous system tools to unwind fawn responses?
Where to find us:
Instagram: @dainwellness
TikTok: @dainwellness
Tags: eldest daughter trauma, people pleasing, emotional parentification, fawn response, childhood trauma healing, nervous system podcast, trauma-informed healing, somatic healing tools
You’ve read the books, done the therapy, journaled until your hand cramped, but the anxiety is still there.
In this episode, we’ll unpack the missing link that most healing spaces don’t talk about: your nervous system.
You’ll learn why being self-aware doesn’t mean you’re regulated, and what to focus on instead if you want deep, lasting peace in your body.
✨ We’ll cover:
Why mindset work alone doesn’t heal anxiety
How nervous system dysregulation keeps you stuck in overthinking
What it means to “feel safe” without controlling everything
🎁 Free Resources to Get You Started:
Download my free nervous system reset guide HERE.
Where to find us:
Instagram: @dainwellness
TikTok: @dainwellness