Consider the elephant in the room called out..

You’re scaling. You’re thriving. You’re finally in your flow…
But at home, something feels off.

In this raw solo episode, I unpack what’s really happening when your success starts to spook your man — why it’s more common than you think, how to keep your edge without dimming your light, and the simple communication ritual that keeps love and leadership thriving side by side.

This isn’t about shrinking yourself or tiptoeing around his ego. It’s about bringing him with you — letting your ambition expand the relationship, not threaten it.

If you’ve ever felt the tension between being the breadwinner, the boss, and the wife who still wants deep connection, this one’s for you.

🎧 Tune in for a 10-minute permission slip to stay powerful and partnered — no apology required.

In this bite-sized solo, I’m calling out a pattern I keep seeing with the powerhouse women I coach: when business growth takes center stage, marriage and intimacy often get pushed to the sidelines.

I share why this is so common for high-achieving, independent women—and why it doesn’t have to mean doom and gloom. Instead, this episode is your nudge to pause, reflect, and ask: am I nurturing my relationship with the same energy I pour into my business?

🎧 Listen in if you’ve ever felt the tension between being a visionary in business and a partner in love. You’re not alone—and I’ve got more tools coming your way.

Owning how your neurospicy brain actually runs the show in love, sex, and communication is a game-changer — but most of us have been tricked into believing we should all experience ADHD the same way. Spoiler: there’s no one-size-fits-all.

In this fiery solo ep, Courtney drops the mask and hands you a permission slip to finally stop comparing your experience to your bestie’s, your partner’s, or the internet’s. Because your ADHD isn’t broken — it’s just yours.

Here’s what you’ll hear:
✨ Why no two ADHD brains are alike (think: 1,000 ways to cook a chicken 🍗)
✨ How your unique ADHD features drive how you communicate, connect, and crave intimacy
✨ The biggest myth women believe when comparing their libido or relationship patterns to others
✨ Why giving yourself full permission to do you, boo is the real intimacy upgrade

Whether you’re the woman who hyperfocuses on her business and forgets to eat, or the one who gets overstimulated AF in the bedroom, this episode will help you ditch the shame, reclaim your lane, and show up unapologetically in your relationship.

💌 Loved this episode? Slide into my DMs on Instagram @courtney__nolan and tell me how your neurospicy brain shows up in your relationship.

Your relationship deserves more than running on autopilot.

This 90-second micro-ep is your no-excuses, straight-to-the-point guide to the couple check-in — the ritual I use with every private client to keep connection alive (and avoid the “roommate” trap).

Inside this tiny episode, you’ll learn:

✨ Why a weekly check-in is non-negotiable (and what your resistance is really saying)

✨ The simple structure that takes the awkwardness out of “deep talks”

✨ How to keep your partner feeling seen, heard, and hot — even after 5, 10, or 20 years together

Because newsflash: you don’t actually know your partner as well as you think. People evolve, desires shift, and seasons change. The check-in is your built-in intimacy upgrade.

🔗 Drop me your questions or how it lands for you over on Instagram @courtney__nolan.

Running a business with ADHD isn’t just about keeping up—it’s about learning how to win differently. In this episode, Courtney sits down with her business bestie Kat—a high-performing massage therapist and mentor—to get real about what it looks like to thrive as a neurospicy woman in business.

They talk about:

✨ ADHD in business as a superpower (and when it spirals into shiny-object chaos)

✨ The truth about ADHD burnout vs “normal” burnout

✨ High-functioning but exhausted? Why so many ambitious women hit the wall

✨ Tools Kat swears by: meds, checklists, alarms, and compassionate boundaries

✨ Why community + strategy are game-changers for women with ADHD who want to scale

If you’re a high-achieving woman who secretly feels scattered, overstimulated, or like you’re holding it all together with duct tape—this conversation will feel like a deep exhale.

ADHD isn’t a flaw. For entrepreneurs, leaders, and driven women, it can be the exact edge that fuels creativity, resilience, and business growth—if you learn how to manage it.

Today I’m joined by the powerhouse that is Jorgie (aka Florence of Flo Mentoring) — Jorgie Florence is a Sport & Exercise Scientist and founder of Flo Mentoring, helping high-achieving, active women break free from burnout through cycle-synced training, and a guided path to feeling like themselves again. With over 8yrs in the health & fitness industry, and a mission to challenge the male-centred fitness model, she empowers women to train in alignment with their bodies, reclaim their energy, and achieve sustainable performance - for life, not just for a season.

This isn’t just about squats and sweat. We dive into the juicy crossover between libido, lifting, and living cycle-smart. Think of it as a permission slip to stop burning yourself out in the gym and start training in sync with your body’s natural rhythm (instead of fighting against it).

Inside this convo you’ll hear:

💥 Why most high-achieving women unknowingly train themselves into burnout (and what to do instead)

💥 The truth about cycle-sync training (and why it’s less woo-woo, more science than you think)

💥 How stress + high-intensity workouts can actually wreck your energy, hormones, and sex drive

💥 Practical ways to adjust your training during each “season” of your cycle — without losing strength or results

💥 The link between hormones, recovery, and libido (yes, your deadlifts and desire are connected)

💥 Simple hacks for sleep, nutrition, and recovery that actually stick — even if you’re ADHD, neurospicy, or just wired AF

This is the episode you’ll want to save and send to your gym bestie — especially if you’ve ever walked out of a “stress release” workout only to feel more wrecked than refreshed.

🔗 Connect with Jorgie

✨ Instagram: @j.florence.h ✨ Website: floMentoring.au

✨ If you loved this chat, drop me a DM on Instagram @courtney__nolan and tell me your biggest aha — and if you’re flirting with burnout, consider this your sign to finally stop punishing your body and start playing the long game.

If you’ve ever thought “I love my partner… but if we never had sex again, I wouldn’t be mad”—you’re not broken, babe. You’re just overstimulated and under-sparked.

In this short, sharp ep, Courtney cuts through the shame and shows you how ADHD brains often don’t crave sex—not because something’s wrong, but because your system is already doing the damn most.

If sex feels like another decision on your mental menu (and you’d rather scroll TikTok than schedule a shag), this one’s going to hit just right.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

🧠 Why neurodivergent women tend to swing between hyperfixation and numbness when it comes to sex

🔄 Why boredom—not brokenness—is behind your “meh” libido

💡 Tiny tweaks that reignite novelty (without needing to fly to the Maldives or get a new man named Julio)

🎧 Sensory hacks, text flirt prompts, and how to switch the vibe without the pressure

📲 A permission slip to stop forcing “sexy time” and start feeding your spark

✨ Big Reframe:

“Your brain doesn’t want sex. It wants a spark. Feed it that—and the body will follow.”

🎧 Listen If: You’re a high-performing, neurospicy woman whose libido has left the chat—and you're ready to bring it back without the drama.

👯‍♀️ Tag Your Bestie Who... Thinks she’s broken because she’s not “in the mood” anymore. This is the episode she needs to hear.

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You know I’m a fan of a good calendar block. But if you’re putting “SEX” in your planner and still feeling like flatmates by Friday… 💥 We need to talk.

This bite-sized NEUROSPICY episode is for you if:

• You crave connection but feel like intimacy’s just one more thing
• You’ve tried “scheduling sex” but it now feels like admin foreplay
• You’re doing all the right things but something still feels flat
• The idea of talking at each other instead of to each other is hitting too close to home

🎧 In this ep, I break down:

✨ Why ‘scheduled intimacy’ doesn’t have to kill desire

✨ The notes app trick that’ll save your connection

✨ And how to build desire… without adding pressure

Listen now while folding laundry, walking the dog, or hiding from your kids in the pantry. This one’s spicy and strategic.

Because intimacy isn’t about penciling in penetration. It’s about making space to want again.

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He thinks you're not into him… but you're just out of capacity.

This quickie ep is your neurospicy permission slip to stop blaming your sex drive when the real issue is your overloaded nervous system.

You're not avoidant. You're not broken. You're just DONE. Done making decisions, done being touched, done holding space for everyone but yourself.

In this spicy 3-min hit, Courtney unpacks:

• Why your mental load is cock-blocking your libido
• How micro-decisions are draining your body’s ability to feel sexy
• The actual way to explain what’s going on to your partner (without spiralling or snapping)

If the thought of sex feels like just one more thing on your to-do list—this is your ep.

💡 Send it to your partner. 🎯 Save it for the next “I’m not in the mood” moment. ⚡ And remember: when your brain gets a break, your body can say yes.

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Hey powerhouse—before you blame your libido, your relationship, or your husband’s awkward sex initiation timing, I need you to hear this:

You’re not cold. You’re not avoidant. You’re just f*cking fried.

In this spicy and soul-shaking episode, I’m calling out the real reason so many high-achieving, emotionally intelligent women are feeling disconnected in the bedroom—and it’s not because you’re broken.

It’s because you’re always on. Business mode. Mum mode. CEO of the never-ending to-do list. And now your body doesn’t even have the capacity to feel sexy, let alone surrender into it.

We’re cracking into:

• 🧠 The misdiagnosis of sexual “avoidance” and what’s actually happening in your nervous system
• 😵‍💫 Why he thinks you’re rejecting him (but your body is just screaming for rest)
• 💬 The exact real-life scripts your burnout uses to avoid intimacy—and why they’re making it worse
• 🍑 Simple, cheeky ways to reconnect with your body (no crystal wands or moon chants required)

Plus, I’m handing you the permission slip you didn’t know you needed to say no, drop the ball, and start choosing YOU.

This one’s for the woman who’s secretly asking herself, "What’s wrong with me?" And babe—nothing is. You just haven’t had space to breathe.

👇 Tune in now, screenshot it, and send it to the group chat where you usually drop memes. Let’s make the sex chat the real Sunday scroll.

🛎 Mentioned in this episode: – The truth about libido & presence – Why pleasure isn’t a reward for productivity – How to explain your “not tonight” without crushing connection

🎧 Subscribe, share, and DM me your biggest "holy shit, that’s me" moment.

You’re not alone. And you’re definitely not broken. Let’s talk about it.

In this raw, unfiltered solo episode, Courtney Nolan shares the real story behind her viral pivot—why she left the police force, how PTSD reshaped her marriage, and the exact moment she realised traditional advice wasn’t cutting it.

This one’s for the woman who’s doing all the right things… but still feels like no one gets it.

🔍 Inside this episode:

– The behind-the-scenes of her career leap from law enforcement to intimacy coaching

– The podcast search that left her more confused (and angry) than ever

– The real reason she built a business: to create what didn’t exist

– Why most support advice sounds good, but leaves women feeling more alone

– Her first exposure to somatic sexology—and why it shook her more than any crime scene

– The spicy, neurospicy truth about running a business while being “the village” for everyone else

– A powerful reframe for any woman navigating relationships, motherhood, or trauma support alone

💥 Whether you're a CEO, partner to someone with mental health challenges, or just looking to understand your own needs on a deeper level, this one will hit home.

👂Listen in, and if this episode speaks to you, share it, tag @courtney__nolan, and drop into her DMs with your fav line.

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Just a quickie ep - i didn't create this concept but i'm damn sure going to share it' because goddamn it's a goodie!This short and spicy 2-minute episode is your loving slap-in-the-face reminder:

You're not stuck. You're scared. And that’s normal—but it’s not the whole story.

Inside this quickie: — Why feeling unhappy and choosing the same thing = a silent loop — How to shift from autopilot to empowered in one thought — The permission slip you didn’t know you needed to choose differently

This is your bite-sized nudge to stop marinating in “fine” and start choosing something better.

Because babe, you’re not here to tolerate your life. You’re here to build it.

🛎 Ready to take the wheel again? Hit play now.

xCourts

You want closeness. You initiate the sex. You start the deep conversation. And then… you ghost. Or pull away. Or shut down. Or spiral and convince yourself he doesn’t really love you.

Sound familiar?

In this episode, Courtney dives into the complex, chaotic, oh-so-relatable world of disorganised attachment—also known as anxious-avoidant attachment.

It’s the style no one talks about… But nearly every high-achieving, overthinking woman secretly lives inside of.

What you'll learn in this episode:

• The real reason you flip-flop between wanting deep connection and needing space
• How anxious and avoidant traits can show up in the same nervous system
• What early emotional unpredictability teaches us about love, vulnerability, and safety
• How this shows up in marriage, conflict, and the bedroom (yep, even mid-thrust)
• Practical signs this attachment style is running the show—and how to start spotting it before it wrecks your connection

You’ll especially relate if:

• You open up one day… and feel emotionally hungover the next
• You initiate intimacy but panic as soon as it starts to feel real
• You say “I just need space,” then spiral when your partner actually gives it to you
• You secretly fear that closeness = loss of control

Key Message: You’re not too much. You’re not confusing. You’re not cold or clingy. You’re just someone who’s never been shown what safe, stable love actually feels like.

And babe—now that you see the pattern? You can start to change it.

So, you're the strong one. The capable one. The “I’m fine, don’t worry about me” one.

But here’s the truth no one told you: Avoidant attachment doesn’t mean you don’t want love. It means love feels like it might cost you your freedom.

In this juicy, note-folding, heart-spilling solo episode, Courtney unpacks what avoidant attachment actually looks like for high-achieving women who are thriving in business… but shutting down at home.

We dive into:

• The high-functioning habits masking your intimacy struggles (hello, overworking + emotional distance)
• Why “I’m fine” is your favourite lie
• The real reason your nervous system craves independence over intimacy
• How avoidant attachment shows up in the bedroom (and why it’s not about low libido)
• Courtney’s proven method for building connection without feeling engulfed
• Why Afterglow™ is the container for unlearning performance-based love without losing your edge

If you’ve ever ghosted mid-conflict (emotionally or literally), felt guilty for needing space, or hate being vulnerable unless it’s on your terms—this one is for you.

✨ Bonus Nugget: Healing avoidant attachment isn’t about changing who you are. It’s about learning to stay—present, soft, powerful—even when it gets uncomfortable.

Afterglow™ is where we do exactly that. → DM “AFTERGLOW” or apply directly [CLICK HERE]

Let’s be real—your partner’s short text reply shouldn’t make your heart drop. But if your brain spirals, your chest tightens, and you’re suddenly convinced he’s falling out of love with you, this episode is going to feel like a deep exhale.

Today’s chat is all about anxious attachment—why high-achieving, hyper-capable women like you can lead a boardroom but fall into panic when he forgets the 😘 emoji.

Inside this episode:

• What anxious attachment really is (no textbook snoozefest, promise)
• How your nervous system got wired for “earn your love” energy
• Why texts, tone, and timing can feel like life-or-death signals
• The secret sauce to going from panic to power (in under 3 minutes)
• Courtney’s spicy personal rituals to get out of overfunction mode
• A behind-the-scenes peek at Afterglow™ and how to become secure AF in love and intimacy

If you’ve ever asked:

💬 “Why do I know I’m loved, but I don’t feel it?”

💬 “Why does silence feel like punishment?”

💬 “Why can’t I stop refreshing his Insta story views?” …this episode is your permission slip to stop performing and start healing.

✨ Wanna go deeper? Join the AFTERGLOW™ waitlist or DM Courtney “AFTERGLOW” to apply. You’re not too much. You’re just finally feeling everything. → [CLICK HERE]

Feel like a total badass at work but fall apart over a one-word text from your partner? Yeah—this one’s for you.

In this episode, Courtney breaks down anxious attachment in a way that actually makes sense—no therapy jargon, just real talk for high-achieving women who are sick of spiralling in silence. Learn why you overthink, shut down, and keep chasing emotional safety in all the wrong places—and how to finally get off the anxiety rollercoaster.

This is your no-fluff, luxe AF guide to understanding the emotional wiring behind your bedroom blocks. And the best part? You don’t have to stay stuck.

You’ll learn:

• What anxious attachment really means (and how it shows up in texts, sex, and silence)
• Why high-performing women are wired for over-functioning and fear of abandonment
• Tools to calm your nervous system in the middle of a spiral (aka The Reset Loop™)
• How to feel safe, sexy, and seen—without needing him to text back instantly

If your love life feels like a game of emotional ping pong, it’s time to change the rules.

🔥 Mentioned in This Episode:

💌 AFTERGLOW™ — Courtney’s 4-week, high-touch group experience for women ready to break their anxious patterns and create confident, grounded intimacy. Only 4 spots. No fluff. Full transformation. ✨ Apply here → [CLICK] Or DM “AFTERGLOW” on Instagram to learn more.

📌 Connect with Courtney:

• Instagram: @courtney__nolan
• Website: www.courtneynolan.com
• UNCUT Weekly Email: Subscribe [here]

You’ve got the candles lit, the laundry folded, and maybe even the lube nearby… So why does sex still feel like something you’re performing instead of something you’re enjoying?

In this unfiltered, juicy AF episode, I take you on a real-talk car ride (yep, nips freezing and all) to unpack the truth most women never get taught:

If you’re obsessing over your angles, your sounds, or whether you’re “doing it right”—you’re not broken. You’re conditioned.

We dive into:

• The link between performance-based love and your bedroom confidence
• What childhood praise (or the lack of it) has to do with your moaning habits
• Why so many high-achieving women over-function in the bedroom just like they do in business
• The anxious spiral when he skips a “good morning” text—and how that’s your attachment style talking
• How to spot (and stop) performance sex patterns before they wreck your pleasure

Whether you’re the “praise me or I panic” type, or just sick of overthinking sex like it’s a bloody KPI, this episode will help you pause, unpack, and actually start to enjoy intimacy again.

It's cheeky. It’s vulnerable. And it might just be your bedroom breakthrough.

Ever tried to give feedback during sex and it totally backfired? You're not alone. In this refreshingly honest episode, Courtney breaks down one of the most common intimacy blocks for couples: when feedback in the bedroom feels like criticism… and suddenly, your partner shuts down. Whether you’ve been left wondering “Did I just ruin the vibe?” or you’re tired of tiptoeing around your own pleasure, this one’s for you.

Courtney shares:

• Why good communication sometimes still doesn’t land mid-thrust
• How your childhood attachment style plays into your adult sex life
• The exact questions to ask your partner after a bedroom flop
• What to say (and NOT say) when asking for something different in bed
• How to rebuild trust and desire when intimacy goes awkward

If the phrase “slow the fuck down” has ever left your lips and killed the mood—you’ll feel deeply seen in this one.

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This episode wasn’t planned. It poured out of me. And it might be one of the most important ones I’ve ever recorded.

I’m sharing the part of my story I never thought I would: How working in the police force made me shut down my sensuality… Not because of trauma—but because sex started to feel unsafe. Because expressing desire made me a target. Because being bold, feminine, and flirty in that world came at a cost.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• 💥 Why I stopped expressing my sexual side—even in my own marriage
• 💔 What I saw inside the force that changed how I viewed intimacy
• 🔥 How I finally got her back—the unapologetic, turned-on, magnetic version of me
• 💎 Why The Iconic Femme Experience™ is more than just a program—it’s a homecoming

If you’ve ever felt like you had to tone it down to be taken seriously… If you’ve ever missed the wild, creative, sensual part of you… If you’re a high-achieving woman who’s done the work but still feels disconnected… This episode will speak to you.

✨ DM me ICONIC or email info@courtneynolan.com to explore whether this experience is your next chapter.

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Resources + Links:

🎯 Take the Bedroom Confidence Quiz → YES!

💌 Book a Private Call with Me → BOOK NOW

🔥 Sign up for The Iconic Femme Experience™ → LET'S CHAT

📩 Or email me directly at: info@courtneynolan.com with “ICONIC” in the subject line.