You Have the Power - The Road to Truth, Freedom and Real Connection
Darla Ridilla
64 episodes
4 days ago
There’s grief in death - but there’s also grief in the life you pictured that didn’t happen. In this raw and deeply personal episode, Darla Ridilla shares what it really looks like to grieve the invisible losses - the breakup that shattered her expectations, the friendships she outgrew, and the death of her soul dog, Goliath. Through her story, Darla explores how grief shows up not just in our hearts but in our bodies - through exhaustion, anxiety, numbness, and even chronic pain - and how gi...
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There’s grief in death - but there’s also grief in the life you pictured that didn’t happen. In this raw and deeply personal episode, Darla Ridilla shares what it really looks like to grieve the invisible losses - the breakup that shattered her expectations, the friendships she outgrew, and the death of her soul dog, Goliath. Through her story, Darla explores how grief shows up not just in our hearts but in our bodies - through exhaustion, anxiety, numbness, and even chronic pain - and how gi...
There’s grief in death - but there’s also grief in the life you pictured that didn’t happen. In this raw and deeply personal episode, Darla Ridilla shares what it really looks like to grieve the invisible losses - the breakup that shattered her expectations, the friendships she outgrew, and the death of her soul dog, Goliath. Through her story, Darla explores how grief shows up not just in our hearts but in our bodies - through exhaustion, anxiety, numbness, and even chronic pain - and how gi...
This is the grief we don’t talk about - the kind that breaks your body, shatters your identity, and forces you to rebuild from nothing. In this opening episode of our new series, The Cost of Carrying It All, we explore what it means to grieve deeply, fully, and in a world that often turns away. Grief coach and author Eryn Elder shares the story of losing her firstborn daughter to sudden unexplained infant death and how that loss unraveled everything she thought she knew. We talk about: What m...
Sometimes words just aren’t enough. You can analyze, journal, and talk through your pain—but your body still remembers what your mind is trying to forget. In this episode, Darla sits down with Mindful Arts Therapist Susan Day, who’s redefining what healing looks like through creativity, mindfulness, and play. Together they explore how art, movement, and even “messy expression” can help women process emotions, calm their nervous systems, and rebuild self-trust—without needing to say a word. Yo...
We all have our go-to escapes—food, wine, shopping, scrolling—when life feels overwhelming. But here’s the hard truth: most of what we call coping is really numbing. It silences the emotions we’ve never been taught to process and leaves us stuck in cycles of shame, self-criticism, and quick fixes that don’t last. In this solo episode of Healing Beyond Words: Food, Art, and the Path Back to Self, I connect the dots between emotional eating and creative expression—showing how our bodies often r...
If you’ve ever found yourself standing in front of the fridge when you weren’t even hungry, reaching for food to calm the storm of emotions inside, this conversation is for you. In the first episode of Healing Beyond Words: Food, Art, and the Path Back to Self series, I sit down with trauma-informed life and weight loss coach Jillian Scott to explore the hidden link between emotionally abusive relationships, emotional eating, and the shame so many of us carry in silence. Jillian shares her pe...
What if the root of our anxiety, people-pleasing, and unhealthy relationship patterns isn’t personal weakness—but a deeper cultural conditioning that keeps us trapped in hierarchy and control? In Part 3 of the Radical Truth in Relationships series, Darla Ridilla sits down with Amy Vasterling—future-focused author of Know: Where the Status Quo Ends and You Come to Life—to explore how reclaiming your inner knowing can dismantle old patterns and open the door to authentic connection. Together th...
In this raw and unfiltered solo episode—part two of the series Radical Truth in Relationships: From Straight Talk to Lasting Connection—Darla Ridilla opens up about the cost of silence and the radical freedom that comes from telling the truth—even when it risks rejection, backlash, or pain. She shares her personal reflections in the wake of Charlie Kirk’s assassination, her own history of surviving narcissistic abuse, and the ongoing process of learning to communicate with honesty, integrity,...
What if the prison keeping you stuck… was built by you? In this powerful opening episode of our new Radical Truth in Relationships series, I sit down with Sandra J. Valks—veteran financial advisor turned Confidence Coach and Queen of Compassionate Straight Talk—to explore how communication becomes a cage or a key. From growing up silenced to mentoring prisoners and executives alike, Sandra shares her path through ancestral trauma, a brutal divorce, and her own dark night of the soul. We talk ...
Let’s get brutally honest: most men were never taught how to feel. They were taught to perform. Provide. Power through. But not to feel. In this unfiltered episode, Liz Beachy joins me for a raw conversation about how emotional suppression—especially in men—destroys connection and breeds dysfunction. We unpack why so many relationships fail not because of lack of love, but because of the lack of emotional safety. Liz is a Resilience Coach and creator of the Emotional Resilience Accelerator, a...
This solo episode of You Have the Power builds on my conversation with Katherine Kimball about raising standards in dating — and takes the next step: realizing that the most important relationship I can ever commit to is the one I have with myself. After a recent breakthrough with my coach, I’ve come to see that my healing isn’t just about avoiding the wrong men. It’s about embracing being single on purpose, not from lack, but from power. I share how music, open mics, and learning to say no h...
What happens when you stop chasing love and start choosing yourself? In this powerful kickoff to the Radical Relationship Recovery: Rebuilding from the Inside Out series, I sit down with Katherine Kimball—my former counselor and the woman who held space for one of the most transformative seasons of my life. For three months, I brought her my grief, loneliness, codependency, and truth. What I got in return was something no one had ever given me: space to feel it all and still stay standing. In...
In this powerful conversation, I sit down with sisters Amy and Nancy Harrington — former Hollywood insiders turned founders of The Passionistas Project — to talk about awakening, empowerment, and the transformative power of women’s stories. Amy and Nancy share how they walked away from high-profile careers in the entertainment industry to build a global sisterhood that amplifies voices too often left unheard. Together, we dive into their upcoming Passionistas Project Summit — happening August...
One year ago, I started this podcast to talk about trauma, narcissistic abuse, and the long road to recovery. But what I didn’t know was how much I would change along the way. This episode marks a turning point — not just in the show’s title, but in my life, my relationships, and my truth. I’ve walked away from romantic partners, friends, and pieces of my past that no longer align. I’ve come home to Colorado, laid my soul dog to rest, and faced the grief of being too much for people who could...
Part 2 of Breaking the Cycle: Generational Trauma & Emotional Inheritance What if your child’s meltdown was actually a mirror? What if every outburst, every triggered reaction, was pointing you back to your own healing? In this powerful episode, I sit down with Debbie Simmons—a mother to nine adopted children, founder of Anchor Point, and a woman who has turned unthinkable pain into a powerful legacy. From infertility and the heartbreaking loss of her quadruplets to parenting children fro...
You didn’t choose the chaos, the shame, or the silence — but you’re still carrying it. In this powerful first episode of Breaking the Cycle: Generational Trauma & Emotional Inheritance, Darla Ridilla exposes the truth about what gets passed down through family lines — and how those invisible emotional hand-me-downs hijack your nervous system and destroy your dating life. From coal in a Christmas stocking to a mother threatening suicide on wedding days, Darla shares raw stories from her ow...
In this powerful episode, part 4 of the Reclaiming Safety & Power After Sexual Abuse series, I welcome Beth Brunk, a woman who has triumphed over unimaginable pain and betrayal. Raised in a strict fellowship, Beth faced years of sexual abuse and pornography addiction in her marriage, leaving her with deep emotional scars. Through faith and relentless healing work, she is now living a life of freedom, self-forgiveness, and abundance. Beth opens up about the painful moments in her marriage,...
In Part 3 of my Reclaiming Safety & Power After Sexual Abuse series, I open up about one of the hardest truths: forgiveness is not always owed to our abusers. In this raw, unfiltered episode, I share why I choose not to forgive those who violated me — and why real healing means forgiving myself instead. I talk about the deep betrayal that comes when the people we trust the most become the ones who hurt us, and the painful layers of shame, anger, and self-blame that can linger for years. W...
What happens when the people who were supposed to protect you... didn’t? When silence and denial caused as much damage as the abuse itself? In this deeply moving episode, Darla sits down with The Emotional Chain Breaker herself, Ada Lloyd, for an unflinching conversation about the long-term effects of sexual abuse—and what it really takes to heal. Ada shares her own story of surviving childhood sexual abuse, the devastating moment her mother refused to believe her, and the journey that led he...
Send us a text This is the episode I was never supposed to record. In Part 1 of Reclaiming Safety & Power After Sexual Abuse, Darla Ridilla shares her raw, unfiltered story—from childhood abuse to adult violation, from being silenced by the people who should’ve protected her to reclaiming her voice on her own terms. This episode isn’t just a personal account—it’s a wake-up call for every high-achieving woman who was told to keep quiet, stay small, or protect their abuser’s reputation at t...
Send us a text You’ve pushed through. You’ve achieved. You’ve held it together for everyone else. But underneath the surface, your body has been keeping score—and it’s tired. In today’s episode of You Have the Power, Darla sits down with yoga therapist and mindfulness coach Rachel Posner to explore a healing path most high-functioning women overlook: trauma-informed yoga. This conversation isn’t about yoga poses or flexibility—it’s about learning how to listen to your body when your mind is s...
You Have the Power - The Road to Truth, Freedom and Real Connection
There’s grief in death - but there’s also grief in the life you pictured that didn’t happen. In this raw and deeply personal episode, Darla Ridilla shares what it really looks like to grieve the invisible losses - the breakup that shattered her expectations, the friendships she outgrew, and the death of her soul dog, Goliath. Through her story, Darla explores how grief shows up not just in our hearts but in our bodies - through exhaustion, anxiety, numbness, and even chronic pain - and how gi...
