We’ve all done it — rushed through a task to “save time,” only to spend hours fixing it later. This episode dives into the psychology of future debt — the hidden cost of taking shortcuts. We’ll unpack why your brain craves immediate relief, how “lazy” habits actually rewire you for stress and inefficiency, and how to build a new standard of true completion.
You’ll learn:
- Why present bias makes us choose short-term comfort over long-term peace
- How “work debt” quietly drains your time, energy, and confidence
- The Do It Once framework — a practical mindset shift to reclaim your focus and stop living in cleanup mode
This is your reminder that rushing isn’t progress — it’s debt. The real freedom comes from doing it right the first time.
We often think we need massive, overnight changes to get results, only to burn out and quit. This episode, The Psychology of Tiny Habits, is your guide to getting off the all-or-nothing hamster wheel.
We break down the 1% Rule, revealing why small, simple actions—like a single push-up or writing one sentence—are the actual secret to radical, lasting growth. You'll learn:
The Dopamine Loop: How your brain is wired to reward consistency, not perfection, and how to harness that for habit formation.
Neuroplasticity in Action: How every small win literally rewires your neural pathways, making your desired habits easier over time.
Identity-Based Habits: How to stop chasing results and start casting "votes" for the person you want to become.
Tune in to discover the surprisingly simple steps for applying the 1% Rule today and how this principle of compound change is really not that deep.
If you spoke to your best friend the way you speak to yourself… would they still be your friend?
In this episode, we unpack the psychology of self-talk; why we become our own worst critic, how your brain learned this pattern, and the exact way to rewire it into something kinder (without turning into a delusional optimist)
.You’ll learn about cognitive distortions, neuroplasticity, and how to shift from inner judgment to inner safety, because the way you speak to yourself shapes everything.
Why does time fly as we age? And how do we make life feel full again? In this episode, we explore the psychology behind time perception, from memory density to dopamine, and discuss practical ways to reintroduce fun, novelty, and presence into our daily lives.
A reminder that fun isn’t childish, it’s what makes life feel worth living!
Motivation is fleeting, but discipline is what actually changes your life. In this episode, we break down the psychology behind discipline: why our brains avoid hard things, how to make it easier to follow through, and the mindset shifts that keep you consistent. From identity-based habits to simple environment tweaks, you’ll learn practical tools you can use today to show up even when you don’t feel like it.
Tune in if you’ve ever said, “I’ll do it tomorrow,” and want to finally follow through for your future self.
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At the end of life, the biggest regrets aren’t about failure; they’re about never living true to yourself. In this episode, I dive into the top five regrets of the dying and unpack the psychology and spirituality behind each one. From authenticity and work-life balance, to emotional expression, friendship, and happiness, we’ll explore what really matters and how to align your life so you don’t look back wishing you had lived differently. Think of this episode as both a wake-up call and an invitation to start choosing courage, presence, and joy right now.
What if I told you that the voice in your head isn’t really you? For most of us, our thoughts run the show. We wake up, think “I can’t do this,” and immediately believe it’s true. But here’s the truth: your thoughts are not facts, they’re just mental events. In this episode, I break down the psychology, brain science, and even the spiritual wisdom behind separating yourself from your thoughts.You’ll learn:- Why cognitive defusion (ACT therapy) helps you stop fusing with negative self-talk.- How the brain’s Default Mode Network creates constant background noise.- The difference between your thinking self and your observing self (and why that’s life-changing).- Practical tools to help you detach from unhelpful mental chatter.This realization is freeing: you are not the chatter in your head, just the one who notices it. Once you understand that, you open up space for choice, creativity, and peace.
Change can feel uncomfortable — but it’s also where growth lives. In this solo episode, I open up about why I’m continuing this podcast, my mission to make psychology simple and relatable, and what change has been teaching me lately. From secure attachment to the Buddhist idea of impermanence, we’ll unpack how to navigate life transitions with more ease, understanding, and trust in the process.If you’ve ever felt scared of change but also knew it was necessary, this one’s for you.
We’ve all had those moments where we edit a text three times, toning ourselves down in a room, pretending everything’s fine when it’s not. Exhausting, right? In this episode, we dive into why authenticity is a psychological need and a spiritual law.
We’ll break down why being real is actually essential for your mental health and relationships. And, because we’re us, we’ll share our own messy, goofy stories of when showing up authentically opened doors we didn’t expect.
By the end, you’ll have practical ways to practice authenticity (without it feeling terrifying), and maybe even notice how the universe rewards you for being yourself.
You don’t have to “stop caring” to detach — you just have to care about yourself more than the outcome.
In this milestone episode, we’re talking about the kind of detachment that frees you, not the cold, distant kind people often imagine. We’ll explore how to step out of the exhausting cycle of overthinking, over-performing, and over-controlling, and instead move into feminine energy — the space of allowing, receiving, and trusting that what’s meant for you will stay.
We cover:
✨ Where your “high-value woman” checklist really came from✨ Why control is an illusion (and how it drains you)✨ Emotional independence & stopping the spiral of obsession✨ The power of silence and being okay with loss✨ Practical steps to soften your grip and let life flow
If you’ve ever felt stuck in attachment, comparison, or performance mode — this episode will help you step into your worth, reclaim your peace, and finally let go without fear.
If you’ve ever been told to “just be mindful” while your brain is spiralling and your chest feels tight, this episode is for you. We’re breaking down nervous system regulation in real language.
You’ll learn:
Why your fight, flight, freeze, or fawn response isn’t you “being dramatic” — it’s your body’s survival system doing its job
How to recognize when you’re outside your window of tolerance (and what to do about it)
Why mindfulness isn’t about forcing calm — it’s about noticing what’s real inside your body
The difference between bottom-up and top-down regulation (and why you can’t mindset your way out of a dysregulated body)
Actual tools you can use in the moment — from grounding techniques to vagus nerve hacks — to help you return to center
This episode is for the people who know they spiral fast, know she “should meditate,” but have never had someone explain why their body feels like this in the first place. By the end, you’ll understand how to work with your nervous system instead of shaming yourself for it, so you can meet life’s stressors with less panic and more self-trust.
Why do we feel off after something really good? Whether it’s coming home from a trip, ending a whirlwind weekend, or simply stepping back into routine after a high, re-entry can feel… weird. In this episode, we’re unpacking the psychology of why and what to do about it.
We get into everything from hedonic adaptation to dopamine dips, ambiguous grief, and the pressure to make summer “the best one yet.” You'll also hear personal stories (Sunday scaries, post-trip spiral, and FOMO), practical tools to feel better, and reminders that you’re not broken — your brain’s just catching its breath.
✨Topics include:
Why the comedown hits harder than expected
The science of “re-entry”
Summer sadness & the myth of the perfect season
How to integrate the high points into your day-to-day
Little rituals that help you feel like you again
This one’s for anyone feeling a little lost, a little sad, or just not quite back yet. It’s not that deep… but it kinda is.
If peace feels boring, drama feels like love, and you keep ending up in situationships that drain you, this episode is your wake-up call. We’re diving into the psychology of chaos addiction: from trauma bonds and cortisol loops to why you mistake anxiety for chemistry.
We unpack how childhood conditioning wires your nervous system to crave emotional rollercoasters, how to spot the difference between chaos and connection, and what healing actually feels like (spoiler: calm love won’t spike your adrenaline, and that’s a good thing).
Expect gut punches, science-backed insight, and chaotic girl confessions. Plus: a juicy game of “Chaos or Chemistry?” where we separate red flags from real intimacy.
🧠 Nervous system truths💥 The science of drama bonds🌿 How to build a secure relationship💋 Iconic chaos confessions
This one hits deep… but you’ll feel lighter after.
Today we’re diving into random but very real questions — from overcoming the “I’m not good enough” narrative and what our future selves want us to know, to intrusive thoughts and how they mess with manifestation. We also explore whether we’d still be friends if we met today, the human emotions we might have overcome (spoiler: grief and jealousy are significant), our biggest regrets, and the moments we thought our lives were over. It’s giving late-night convos, journal prompts, and some much-needed perspective.
Why is doing literally anything hard in your 20s? From imposter syndrome spirals to last-minute meltdowns over printer paper, this episode dives into the mental chaos behind hard tasks — and how we somehow still get them done.
We talk about:
How ADHD, perfectionism, and time blindness sabotage us
What actually works for motivation (hint: not waiting for it)
Tools that help us stop procrastinating and start somewhere
Why celebrating small wins literally rewires your brain
Reframing failure, managing self-talk, and pushing through when everything feels too big
Whether you’re starting a project, a new chapter, or just trying to do the bare minimum today — this one’s for you.
🎧 Tune in for stories, psychology-backed strategies, and the reminder that you can do hard things (even if you complain the whole time).
Ever look in the mirror and think, “Wait… who am I right now?” Because same. In this episode, we’re diving deep (but not too deep) into the weird, wobbly identity crisis that is your 20s — from imposter syndrome and personality glow-ups to outgrowing people, places, and survival mode versions of yourself.
We’re unpacking:
Why “healing” can feel like losing your personality
The psychology behind identity shifts and self-boundaries
A chaotic (but therapeutic) game of Did I Outgrow This or Was It Just a Red Flag?
The ✨delulu✨ moments we mistook for growth
Why imposter syndrome might mean you’re actually growing
a sneak peak at our official Grudge List™ (because healing is spiritual, but also a little petty)
Whether you’re rebranding your personality, questioning your entire life path, or just trying to figure out if you’re thriving or dissociating… you’re not alone. You’re evolving.
🧠 Therapy meets group chat energy. Hit play, laugh through the existentialism, and text this to the friend who’s in their “reinvention era.”
In this episode, we’re unpacking the lessons that stuck from therapy: the mindset shifts that changed how we show up, the spirals we’ve named (and tamed), and why your inner critic is not the truth-teller she thinks she is.
We’re breaking down the big breakthroughs and quiet reminders we wish we knew sooner. Expect digestible psychology, personal confessions, and emotional intelligence energy.
No trauma dumps — just cozy, honest, lighthearted therapy talk that might just feel like the permission slip you didn’t know you needed.
We cover:
How therapy helped us reparent our inner child (yes, it's more than just a trend)
Why avoiding a convo isn't the same as protecting your peace
The psychology behind burnout, spiralling thoughts & validation
Actual CBT tools we use on bad days
We’ve been taught that walking away means weakness, but what if it’s the strongest thing you can do?
In this episode, we’re unpacking what it means to move on—from toxic friendships, dead-end relationships, old identities, and even summer camp. 👋 From messy breakups to switching schools, we share our own stories of choosing peace over pressure and why letting go doesn’t mean you didn’t try hard enough.
PLUS: We play a fun game of “Should I Stay or Should I Go?” with real listener dilemmas, talk about glow-ups that only happen when you stop settling, and remind you that you’re allowed to outgrow people, places, and versions of yourself.
💌 Whether you’re in the middle of a big decision or grieving a chapter that’s closed, this one will feel like a warm hug and a pep talk.
We’re going there. This week, we’re diving into the things people never want to admit—feeling weird in your body, sabotaging good things, and realizing (too late) that maybe you were the toxic one. It’s raw, funny, a little too relatable, and totally judgment-free. If you’ve ever cringed at your own behavior but also wanted a hug about it… this one’s for you 🫶
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If you walked into a room and met you—as you are right now—would you like her? Would you trust her? Would you want to be her friend, her partner, her coworker?
In this episode, we’re diving into the glow-up that isn’t about looks—it's about self-awareness, healing, and becoming someone we're genuinely proud of. We’re reflecting on old patterns, past versions of ourselves, and all the ways we’ve grown out of the chaos (well... mostly).
We ask the big questions:
✨ Would I date me?
✨ What would my younger self think of me now?
✨ Am I leading with love—or people-pleasing?
✨ And most importantly… is my delulu-to-awareness ratio getting better?It’s vulnerable, funny, a little humbling, and super affirming. Because yeah—we’ve made questionable choices and maybe even ghosted a group chat or two. But we’re healing, we’re learning, and honestly? We love the girl we’re becoming.
This one’s for the soft spirals, the self-aware baddies, and anyone learning to like themselves a little louder.
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