I know we all say “it’s okay not to be okay” but when it’s actually you who’s not okay, it usually doesn’t feel that way, does it?
This week I’ve been sitting in that space, the one where your brain is desperate to minimise, distract, and pretend everything’s fine, when it’s really not.
And honestly, it’s been confronting to notice how fast I want to move on, fix, support everyone else, and avoid my own pain.
In this episode I talk about what happens when we can’t just “get on with it,” how our protective parts try to save us from feeling, and what it looks like to slow down and ask ourselves:
“Where does it actually hurt?”
This one’s tender. It’s honest. It’s not tied up with a bow.
But if you’ve been trying to hold it together lately, this one’s for you. From my tender heart to yours.
You know that weird energy that hits around this time of year?
The “how is it already October?” panic, the guilt of unfinished goals, and the quiet shame that whispers you should’ve done more.
In this episode, we’re talking about the end of year scaries, that mix of scarcity, fear, and comparison that creeps in when you realise 2025 is almost over and you’re not where you thought you’d be.
We’ll unpack:
✨ Why “falling behind” is a story your fear tells, not the truth
✨ How to move from shame into self-belief
✨ The difference between chasing goals from fear vs. alignment
✨ How to come back to your values, your timing, and your purpose
✨ And the powerful reflection question to help you do what actually matters
Because 2025 isn’t over.
You’re not behind.
You’re becoming.
Your job now? To take one small, brave step toward living in alignment with what truly matters, not just for the rest of this year, but for the rest of your life.
Journal prompt:
What’s one area of my life where I’m not living in alignment with my values?
And what’s one small step I can take this week to change that?
🎧 Listen now and get ready to finish 2025 doing what matters, not what’s expected.
Ever felt trapped in a job, relationship, or plan that looks “perfect on paper” but feels completely wrong in your body?
This episode is your official permission slip to pivot.
We’re breaking down:
✨ Why we cling to things that aren’t working (hello conditioning)
✨ The difference between resistance vs. misalignment
✨ How pivoting is actually self-leadership, not failure
If you’ve been waiting for a sign to change direction, this is it.
🔗 Want deeper support in navigating your pivots and building a life that feels aligned? Come work with me inside my 1:1 program HEAL, explore the program + book in your free connection call here: https://www.kathleenmindsetcoach.com/coaching
Ever look at other people’s friendships and wonder why it feels so hard for you?
Like everyone else has their “soulmate friends” while you’re stuck with surface-level connections, loneliness, or just a nagging sense that something’s missing?
In this episode of What To Do When… I’m talking about the real, messy truth of building friendships as an adult. Because here’s the thing: friendships massively impact your mental health — but they’re also the pillar we often put the least effort into.
I share:
✨ My own seasons of loneliness and “cocooning” where friendships felt slim or fake
✨ Why building strong friendships is actually a skill (not just “luck”)
✨ The fears, wounds, and social myths that make adult friendships so hard
✨ How to get clear on the kind of friendships you want (just like dating)
✨ Tools to put yourself out there, navigate rejection, and find your people
✨ How to handle common struggles — like what to do when a friend hurts you or when a connection feels one-sided
This one’s part story, part pep talk, and part practical coaching. If you’ve been craving those soulmate-level friendships — the kind that make you feel seen, safe, and supported — this episode is for you.
👉 Share this with a friend who needs to hear it, or use it as a reason to finally reach out and reconnect.
And if you’re ready to go deeper — building self-trust, confidence, and relationships that actually feel good — comment HEAL on my latest post or reach out to learn more about my 1:1 coaching program.
Ever fallen off something important to you — a goal, a project, a practice, a dream — and then found every excuse in the book not to start again? Yep… same.
This is my big, messy comeback episode. After ghosting my own podcast for 2 months (🙃), I’m pulling back the curtain on:
✨ Why shame is the real thing that keeps us stuck (not the falling off itself)
✨ How to reconnect with your WHY when the motivation feels dead and buried
✨ The barriers we build that make starting harder than it needs to be (and how to remove them)
✨ Stories of people who started messy and imperfect — and still made it work
✨ A reminder that your future self will thank you for starting now, not perfectly
This episode is short, sharp, and real — like a voice note from a friend reminding you that you don’t need a studio, a perfect plan, or a shiny new notebook to start. You just need to begin again, right where you are.
So if you’ve been waiting for a sign to stop ghosting your own dreams… this is it. 🫶
👉 If you loved this episode, share it with a friend who’s been putting off their own big idea. And if you’re ready to go deeper into your own healing + self-leadership journey, you can connect with me here.
If you’ve ever felt shame around pleasure, been nervous about trying sex toys, or wondered how the hell to ask for what you actually like in bed — this episode is your new safe space.
Kathleen is joined by Viv from Girls Get Off — the powerhouse brand behind some very buzzy bedside drawer staples — for a no-filter conversation on all things pleasure, desire, and ditching the shame.
They get into:
→ The real reason so many women still struggle with receiving pleasure
→ The orgasm gap (and how to actually close it)
→ Sex toy 101: a breakdown of the types + how to explore them without the overwhelm
→ How to talk about sex without spiralling into “Do they think I’m weird now?”
→ And why connecting to your pleasure isn’t just sexy… it’s healing.
This one’s equal parts spicy, empowering and giggle-worthy. And yes — it’s VERY R18. Plug in your headphones, babe.
Resources mentioned:
→ Girls Get Off Website
→ Girls Get Off Instagram
→ GGO Facebook Community Group
→ Yoni Mapping Practitioners
→ Anal Dilation 101 (yes, we went there)
→ Becoming Cliterate by Laurie Mintz
→ Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski
✨ Want to keep healing and reconnecting with your body, mind and self-worth?
Join Kathleen’s 1:1 program HEAL — designed to help you unpack the beliefs, patterns, and parts that have kept you stuck in self-abandonment, anxiety, and shame.
More on HEAL here → https://www.kathleenmindsetcoach.com/coaching
Feel like you’re too much, not enough, or one awkward text away from being exiled from the group chat?
Yep. Been there.
This episode is for the overthinkers, the approval-seekers, the “they took 3 hours to reply so they probably hate me” crowd.(raising my hand here too).
In this vulnerable, no-fluff chat, we dive deep into:
You’ll also learn my go-to practice for building rejection tolerance (yes, that’s a thing), plus practical tools to regulate your nervous system, stop spiralling, and stay connected to you — even when someone else pulls away.
Because confidence isn’t about being liked by everyone. It’s about trusting yourself enough to stay, even when someone else doesn’t.
In this episode, we cover:
This one’s for you if:
Mentioned in this episode:
→ HEAL Coaching Program — Join here: https://www.kathleenmindsetcoach.com/coaching
→ Follow Kathleen on Instagram @kathleen.mindsetcoach
P.S. Rejection is a normal part of being a human. Abandoning yourself doesn’t have to be.
If you’ve ever asked everyone else for advice… and still felt more confused, this episode is for you.
This one’s for the deep feelers, the spirallers, the ones who’ve built a voting system just to make a decision — only to feel further away from their own gut.
Inside this episode:
Why self-trust is so hard (especially if you’re an overthinker)
How childhood and past relationships shape your decision-making patterns
What your perfectionist/avoider/inner critic is really trying to protect
What a Sense Reset is — and how to use it to interrupt spirals
What it actually looks like to rebuild self-trust (without needing to be 100% sure)
You’ll leave this episode feeling less alone in the noise — and more equipped to come home to your own voice.
Try this next:
✨ Download the free Protective Parts Mapping Practice I mentioned in the episode — to meet your inner protectors and start untangling your overthinking loop.
→https://drive.google.com/file/d/1Km7mYM5RltBfpQhGCnm9IVTbKxCX6v5U/view?usp=drive_link
Want to go deeper?
→ DM me the word “HEAL” on Instagram if you’re ready to explore a space for emotional safety, self-trust, and support through the messy middle or learn more about HEAL and 1:1 coaching here: https://www.kathleenmindsetcoach.com/coaching
Ever felt like you're emotionally self-aware but still stuck?
You’ve read the books, listened to the podcasts, analysed your triggers — but nothing’s really changing?
This episode is for you.
Inside today’s solo, I’m walking you through the 5 stages of emotional growth and healing — the exact process I’ve witnessed every single client move through inside my 1:1 coaching program, HEAL.
We explore what it really means to:
Move from emotional avoidance to emotional embodiment
Feel your feelings in the body — not just talk about them
Build emotional capacity
Use emotions like anxiety or anger as messengers (instead of things to fix)
Let emotional clarity lead to practical, real-life change
I’m also walking you through real-life examples with anxiety and anger so you can see how this process unfolds in everyday moments — and how you can begin applying it to your own healing journey.
This episode will help you locate where you are — and give you language for what’s next.
Resources & Links Mentioned:
🎧 Free Resource: The Emotional Processing Masterclass
This free masterclass walks you through a simple, body-based process to feel your feelings without spiralling — and begin moving from reaction to clarity.
Ready to stop avoiding your feelings — and start healing for real?
This is the exact path we walk inside HEAL, my 1:1 coaching program that blends deep emotional healing with practical change.
Inside HEAL, we move through:
✔️ Building a relationship with your emotions
✔️ Unpacking protective parts and past patterning
✔️ Using your emotional world to guide how you live, relate, work and lead
You’ll be supported through somatic practices, real-time emotional tools, and grounded integration — no more over-intellectualising, no more doing it alone.
✨ DM me HEAL on Instagram to chat about whether it’s the right next step for you
✨ Learn more about the program here: kathleenmindsetcoach.com/coaching
✨ Book your free 30-min intro call here: tidycal.com/kathleenmindsetcoach/connect
Come say hi on Instagram: @kathleenmindsetcoach
If this episode spoke to you, please share it, leave a review, or send it to a friend who’s ready to meet themselves more honestly.
You’re not behind. You’re becoming.
Let’s walk this path — together.
You’re ticking the boxes.
Doing everything “right.”
Showing up, trying, pushing forward.
So why does it still feel like you’re falling behind?
Or worse—like you’re quietly failing at life?
This episode is for the person who looks like they’ve got it all together… but inside, they’re exhausted by the pressure to prove their worth. We’re talking high-functioning anxiety, invisible timelines, and the myth that achieving more will finally make you feel okay.
Inside this episode:
The deeper reason you still don’t feel like enough (even when you’re doing it all)
Why your brain ties self-worth to productivity—and where that started
A personal story I’ve never shared before about achievement, identity and fear of failure
How to start getting off the hamster wheel and relate to yourself differently
A gentle reminder that you’re probably doing better than you think
If you’ve ever found yourself spiralling in “I should be further along by now,” this one’s going to meet you right where you are.
✨ Mentioned in this episode:
Free 5-Day Inner Child Healing Challenge – Start here if you're new to this work: https://kathleenmindsetcoach.myflodesk.com/c99440de-5165-4166-b6b3-012465456e8b
HEAL – 1:1 Coaching Support – Explore the offer: https://www.kathleenmindsetcoach.com/coaching
Book a Free Connection Call – Let’s see if it’s a fit: https://tidycal.com/kathleenmindsetcoach/connect
Let’s connect:
Instagram: @kathleen.mindsetcoach
Website: www.kathleenmindsetcoach.com
In this episode, we’re flipping the script on boundaries. If you’ve ever felt like setting boundaries makes you mean, cold, or too much — or if you’ve used boundaries as a way to keep people out rather than let the right people in — this one’s for you.
I’m sharing how I used to use boundaries as a defence mechanism — a way to protect myself from discomfort and avoid hard conversations. And how I’ve come to realise that real, healthy boundaries aren’t about pushing people away... they’re about opening your heart with clarity, not chaos.
We dive into:
Whether you’re a recovering people-pleaser, someone afraid to rock the boat, or just ready to stop abandoning yourself — this episode will help you set boundaries that create more connection, not less.
💛 Want support with this work?
I offer 1:1 coaching for people ready to stop people-pleasing, start honouring their truth, and build real confidence.
👉 Book a free 30-minute connection session here: https://tidycal.com/kathleenmindsetcoach/connect
🎁 Free Resource Mentioned:
Want access to my emotional processing masterclass — the one that’s helped so many people get unstuck and learn to feel again?
→ DM me EMOTIONS on Instagram + your best email address or email me at kathleenmindsetcoach@gmail.com and I’ll send it your way.
💭 Journal Prompt:
What’s one moment recently where you abandoned your needs to keep the peace?
What would a loving boundary have looked like instead?
✨ If this episode resonated, share it with a friend or leave a quick review — it helps this little podcast reach more people who need it 💛
In a world that teaches us to chase love, validation, and approval from everyone but ourselves—what happens when we flip the script?
In this episode, we're talking all things self-love—the kind that's rooted in science, self-compassion, and real inner safety. We unpack the lies we've been fed about what it means to love yourself (spoiler: it's not cringe, it's revolutionary), how society polices confidence, and why self-love is often misunderstood as bubble baths and skincare.
You'll walk away with a powerful new lens on:
Why seeking external validation is the norm—but not the vibe
The difference between self-care and true self-love
How to rewire your relationship with your inner critic
The science behind self-compassion and its wild impact on your brain and body
Tangible tools to shift from self-critical to self-kind
And if no one's told you lately: You're allowed to love the hell out of yourself. Loudly. Proudly. Unapologetically.
🔗 Resources & Mentions
Research by Dr. Kristin Neff on Self-Compassion
Self-Compassion free downloadable guided practice: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1GBLeEMsZinMQ790abnb_ywjmrPVWalpD/view?usp=sharing
Want to work with me 1:1 - book a free connection call to chat 1:1 and see if we’re a powerful fit for this next season of life:https://tidycal.com/kathleenmindsetcoach/connect
Ever expected change to feel exciting and empowering—only to find yourself deep in anxiety, overthinking, and overwhelm the minute you take a step forward?
In this episode, we’re getting real about what change actually feels like. Not the Instagram version. The real, messy, chaotic one that brings up old wounds, fear, resistance, and allll the spiraling thoughts.
Kathleen shares personal stories from her recent leap into a new job and starting her counselling studies, and how—even though these were things she wanted—she was smacked in the face with emotional chaos she didn’t expect. We unpack why that happens, how to support yourself through it, and why feeling lost or overwhelmed doesn’t mean you’ve made the wrong decision.
You’ll learn:
Why our brains hate change (and how to stop letting that hold you back)
How to stop reading resistance as a “sign” to quit
What it really means to build a new way of being (and why it’s so damn hard)
Kathleen’s top 3 tips for grounding yourself in the chaos
This one’s for you if:→ You're trying to make changes in your life but it feels harder than it "should"→ You're beating yourself up for not having it all figured out→ You want permission to embrace the mess, feel your fear, and go for it anyway
Ever felt like you’re in between versions of yourself—no longer who you once were, but not quite sure who you’re becoming? Yeah, same.
In this episode, we’re talking about that unsettling space where your old dreams, values, and identity no longer fit, but you’re still figuring out what’s next. Whether you're going through a major life transition, healing deep wounds, or just realizing that what you once wanted… isn’t actually what you want anymore, this one’s for you.
We’re diving into:
✨ Why it’s normal (and actually necessary) to outgrow past versions of yourself
✨ How changing internally can shake up your sense of identity
✨ The pressure to have it all figured out—and why that’s BS
✨ The big, scary, and exciting question: What do I actually want now?
If you’re feeling lost, confused, or in the middle of a major life shift, you’re not alone. Let’s unpack this together.
🎧 Tune in now!
👉 Coaching & Support: kathleenmindsetcoach.com/coaching
👉 Book your connection call: https://tidycal.com/kathleenmindsetcoach/connect
Ever feel like you’ve moved on, healed, grown… and then BAM! The past comes knocking? Maybe an old relationship resurfaces, a pattern you swore you broke sneaks back in, or you find yourself reacting in ways that feel way too familiar.
Here’s the thing: when the past resurfaces, it’s not a sign you’re back at square one. It’s an invitation to handle things differently this time. In this episode, we’re diving into:
🔥 Why the past keeps showing up (spoiler: it’s not to torture you)
🔥 How to respond instead of react when old wounds get triggered
🔥 What it really means to leave the past in the past
🔥 A powerful self-forgiveness practice to help you release shame & move forward
🎧 Ready to shift the pattern? Tune in now!
👉 FREE Self-Forgiveness Practice: Click here to download
👉 Coaching & Support: kathleenmindsetcoach.com
Why NOT you? Do you believe you can have it all? Its a new year baby, goals, dreams and resolutions are about to be set — but do you know what’s getting in the way? Limiting stories. Limiting belief systems. Old wounds. Join me in this episode walking you through exercises and mindset shifts to help you see your own blindspots that are keeping you stuck in old patterns and get clear on whats really important to you in 2025. More heart. Less ego.
Connect with me @kathleen.mindsetcoach on IG or FB and email kathleenmindsetcoach@gmail.com
Ever feel like the end of the year sneaks up, brings a megaphone, and shouts: “You haven’t done enough!”? As you see other people celebrating their big wins, it’s so easy to fall into the trap of comparison—questioning your progress, your worth, and your future. Suddenly, you’re knee-deep in a spiral of self-doubt and drafting a wild list of ego-driven goals for 2025.
In this episode, we’re talking about:
Let’s leave the shame and should-haves behind and enter 2025 feeling grounded and clear.
Ever look at other people’s friendships — how close and supportive they are — and get just a little... jealous? Wonder if you’re ever going to have those soulmate friendships like you see on Instagram? SAME.
In this episode, we spill the tea on how to actually build those deeper, more meaningful connections. We’re diving into the truth about how friendships can make or break our mental health, and why more friends doesn’t always mean better friendships.
We’ll help you figure out who’s bringing the best energy into your life and how to get real about the energy exchange in your relationships. Vulnerability? Yep, that’s key to unlocking next-level bonds, and we’re here to guide you through it. Let’s be honest — real friendships take effort, and we’re breaking down exactly how to nurture the ones that matter most (without losing yourself in the process).
Key Takeaways:
In this empowering episode, we dive deep into the world of self-confidence and reveal that it's so much more than just "faking it till you make it." Together, we break down how true confidence is built on a foundation of self-acceptance and authenticity, not perfection or external validation.
Expect an honest conversation about how societal pressures and media often distort our ideas of what confidence should look like—and why embracing your insecurities is key to discovering your real inner strength. We also shed light on how limiting beliefs can hold you back, and how crucial it is to have a strong support system as you work through them.
Key Takeaways:
Join us for an uplifting and eye-opening discussion on building the confidence you truly deserve.
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Connect with Kathleen @kathleen.mindsetcoach
Connect with Kelsey @bigrigg__
In this episode, we dive deep into the roots of perfectionism, how it often stems from childhood experiences and the pressures we all face in today’s world.
For many, perfectionism is more than just striving for excellence—it's a coping mechanism, a way to maintain control and protect our self-worth.
But as we discuss, there's so much power in understanding where this need comes from, so we can start practicing self-compassion instead.
We talk about how inner child work can help you unravel those old patterns and find balance when perfectionist tendencies take over.
Kelsey also opens up about her own healing journey, sharing how self-acceptance and giving yourself what you truly need can be the game-changer you’ve been searching for.
If you’ve ever struggled with perfectionism or know someone who has, this episode is full of practical advice, personal insights, and gentle reminders that we’re all a work in progress—and that’s perfectly okay.
SUBMIT your “What to do when…” question here and we could be answering it on the next episode: https://forms.gle/wBKswmyFvFfpH4Vk9
Connect with Kathleen @kathleen.mindsetcoach
Connect with Kelsey @bigrigg__
Takeaways:
Perfectionism often stems from unmet childhood needs.
It can manifest as a coping mechanism for control.
Understanding the roots of perfectionism can foster self-compassion.
Perfectionism can create a false sense of safety and security.
Healing the inner child is crucial for overcoming perfectionism.
Self-worth is often tied to external validation and control.
Finding balance is key to managing perfectionist tendencies.
Emotional eating can be linked to feelings of control and restriction.
Praise and self-acknowledgment are essential for healing.
It's important to focus on personal growth rather than external standards.
Keywords:
perfectionism, self-worth, inner child, control, emotional eating, mental health, coping mechanisms, self-development, personal growth, self-compassion
Chapters
00:00 Understanding Perfectionism
01:37 Kelsey's Personal Struggles with Perfectionism
04:51 Misconceptions About Perfectionism
08:37 The Need for Control
11:40 Childhood Influences on Perfectionism
18:11 The Journey to Authenticity
24:19 Inner Child Work and Self-Worth
30:56 Finding Empowerment in Healing
39:11 Advice for Overcoming Perfectionism