In this episode, we’re flipping the script on boundaries. If you’ve ever felt like setting boundaries makes you mean, cold, or too much — or if you’ve used boundaries as a way to keep people out rather than let the right people in — this one’s for you.

I’m sharing how I used to use boundaries as a defence mechanism — a way to protect myself from discomfort and avoid hard conversations. And how I’ve come to realise that real, healthy boundaries aren’t about pushing people away... they’re about opening your heart with clarity, not chaos.

We dive into:

• What open-hearted boundaries actually are (and what they’re NOT)
• Why boundaries aren’t about controlling others — they’re about trusting yourself
• How to set boundaries without guilt, shame, or shutting down
• The connection between people-pleasing and boundary avoidance
• Tangible tips to communicate your needs with love, not fear

Whether you’re a recovering people-pleaser, someone afraid to rock the boat, or just ready to stop abandoning yourself — this episode will help you set boundaries that create more connection, not less.

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💭 Journal Prompt:
What’s one moment recently where you abandoned your needs to keep the peace?

What would a loving boundary have looked like instead?

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