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"My mind is blown by your talent and insight. The way you can so casually and somewhat gleefully explain my deepest psychological wounds to me without breaking a sweat is fucking witchcraft."-Masterclass Attendee
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Not a Masterclass: $0-100k
This hyperPOTENT class is all about how I made my first cumulative 100k in biz while being very much the same human I've always been:
Very ADHD, daydreamer, a lil messy & scattered,control freak, overthinking,neurotic in my own ways and deeply unbothered in my own other ways.
This class is all about the journey - the horrors and the pleasures andeverything in between lol.
WHO is this class for?? For the woman who has made or wants to make the radical & timeline bending choice to exit the matrix of numbing their soul just to make money. LET'S RE-WRITE THE RULES for how we do this wild and precious life, okiiiiiii?
If you: 🛸 Feel caught in an endless circuit of trying to "heal" from your humanness while struggling to be visible in your business
Know deep down there's a connection between your trauma wounds and yourbusiness blocks
Are tired of outsourcing your answers to yet another program that promises the"missing piece"
Crave permission to run your business in alignment with your soul rather thansomeone else's blueprint
Are ready to transmute visibility wounds, abandonment wounds, rejection wounds,and humiliation into your greatest business assets
This isn't just another business class.
This is existential kink for your business—learning to love the drama, thecontraction, the expansion, and everything in between.
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FREE masterclass: Healing with Spirit Guides
This class will most likely not be what you think it is, but far richer and deeper:
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Leadership isn't about being the loudest person in the room.
In this episode, we're talking about a different kind of leadership - one that doesn't require you to bulldoze your nervous system, ignore your body's wisdom, or perform some masculine cosplay of "strength."
In this episode, I dig into:
This conversation is for the sensitive women who've been told they need to be harder, faster, more resilient - basically less human - to LEAD anything. It's also for the women who don't buy into the "soft feminine boss girl" vibes and are trying to manifest everything without doing anything.
Want more of this??
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This episode is me walking you through an actual Tuesday where I almost didn't record a podcast at all -- and how I made it easier for myself instead of harder.
173: "Consistency" without patriarchal bullsh*t: How to show up when you really don't want to
We're diving into consistency (yes, even though I used to think it was patriarchal bullsh*t), making things so simple you'll actually do them, and how to honor your feminine cycles while still showing up in your business and life.
I share my real-time struggle with feeling frozen, why I chose a voice memo walk over a Facebook Live, and the practices that keep me grounded without burning out.
If you've ever felt like you're pushing a 1000-pound boulder up a hill, this one's for you.
We're talking about devotion to yourself, building capacity without shame, and creating habits that feel like love instead of obligation.
What we explore:
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172: How I don't absorb other people's emotions as a highly sensitive person
Ever feel completely drained after holding space for someone going through something heavy?? Like you're carrying their emotions long after the conversation ends?
Yea i bet ya do :)
Because you're highly sensitive AND conditioned to rescue others.
This is NOT a flaw, it is a GIFT
And, learning to wield and work with your sensitivity is crucial.
If you're a human who feels everythinggggg, this episode is for you.
I'm pulling back the curtain on how I work with clients through their deepest emotional experiences -- tears, rage, grief, all of it -
without burning out or needing hours to decompress afterward.
And no, this doesn't mean shutting down your empathy or building walls around your heart.
In this episode, I share my exact framework for staying grounded and regulated even when clients are in the THICK of their emotions.
You'll learn why not victimizing your clients/people is the most compassionate thing you can do, why trying to "rescue" people actually blocks their healing, and how radical non-judgment creates a psychedelic-level container.
If you're tired of emotional hangovers, people-pleasing patterns, or feeling like you have to carry everyone's pain, this episode will show you how to hold space with presence, curiosity, and lightness -
so showing up for people actually feels nourishing instead of depleting.
What you'll take away:
In this potent + hilarious + fun + deep conversation with Felicia - she interviews me!!!
Ep. 171. FELICIA INTERVIEWS ME!!! Telling your story is medicine // pleasure as protest // reclaiming the Self after sxxual assault
The theme is sxxual assault, and damnnn we cover a lot of territory beyond and around that topic.
This episode is for anyone who has a hard time talking about things that have happened to them, has spent years keeping the "bad" parts locked away, who thinks there's something fundamentally broken about them that needs fixing, and/or has experienced any kind of trauma.
We chat about:
I share my own story of sxxual assault, the decade of silence that followed, and the moment I decided to stop giving my abusers power by staying small + quiet.
This conversation gets really real about intrusive thoughts, including one about peeing on people hahahahah....and learning to love and laugh with the messy, vengeful, supposedly unacceptable parts of ourselves.
Listen below 💎
I was literally just having a casual connection call with this awesome woman Sharli and within like...2 minutes I had this intense intuitive pull to ask if she wanted to turn this convo into a podcast episode
so here we are lol
Sharli's been practicing Focusing - a therapeutic approach all about focusing attention on internal sensations to gain insight/clarity - for over 30 YEARS.
and what I love is she's made it her own.
it's not some rigid technique...it's become a way of being for her.
here's what we dove into during this convo:
→ what the fck is Focusing (and why your body already knows how to do it)
→ the gentleness required to actually heal vs. the forcing we're conditioned to do
→ how your pain just wants a WITNESS...not a fixer, not a savior, just someone to SEE it
→ why that part of you that wants ice cream all day isn't sabotaging you - it's trying to tell you something
→ Sharli's journey from devout Mormon to "praying to mystery" (LOVED this part of our convo and legit teared up)
→ visibility as practice - from "Sharli show-off" as a kid to decades of hiding to finding her way back
→ how symbols (tarot, astrology, your body's sensations) all speak the same language
→ trusting your intuition when it makes ZERO logical sense
the thing that hit me hardest:
Sharli talked about how in focusing, you don't DO things to your pain.
you don't breathe light into it.
you don't try to transform it.
you just...let it BE there.
you get curious about it.
and it changes on it's own.
that's the exact opposite of how we're taught to "heal" right??
we're always trying to fix and force and improve
but what if the work is just...being WITH yourself?
what if the mystery is where all the magic lives? ooOoOoo
this episode is for you if:
Sharli shares how Focusing helped her through leaving the Mormon church, finding her spirituality again, reclaiming visibility after years of hiding.
and honestly?
this conversation reminded me why I do this work.
because when we give ourselves permission to just FEEL what we feel without trying to change it...
when we witness our pain instead of weaponizing positivity against it...
when we trust the mystery instead of needing certainty...
everything shifts.
not because we forced it.
but because we finally stopped fighting ourselves.
grab your headphones + make some tea.
listen in.
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Here's what we'll be moving through in these 7 days together (9 including the weekend):
· Audio trainings and practices to help you befriend your anger as the sacred fire she actually is - not something to fear or suppress, but wisdom trying to speak through you
· Somatic practices to release decades of trapped rage from your throat, jaw, and shoulders without burning down your relationships - shaking, vocal toning, breathwork, movement
· Learn to distinguish between reactive anger (the explosion after years of suppression) and creative anger (the clear boundary-setting energy that protects what you love)
· Understanding the science of suppression, ancestral fear patterns, + a matriarchal orientation to women's anger. YOU KNOW I love to bring indigenous and Eastern wisdom in, and this initiation is no different.
· LIVE integration class - 60 minutes to tie everything together on Tuesday, October 28th at 11am PST (mark your calendar now!!)
All materials yours to keep forever.
ooo yea this is good one. This is a live full coaching session using a combo of somatics, parts work, inquiry, and Existential Kink.
In this powerful sesh, witness a real-time journey through the process of working with anger, tension, and the fear of emotional expression.
My client started the session feeling trapped - chest tight, throat constricted, caught in the familiar pattern of wanting to explode while simultaneously afraid of the destruction that might follow (so relatable).
Through guided somatic work, grounding techniques, and an unexpected encounter with her inner guide "Gemma," my client discovers that her explosive feelings aren't something to fear or fix.
Thru a non-fear, non-shame lens, they're fireworks (!!!) with deep origins -- beautiful and intense -- wanting space and movement.
Perfect for highly sensitive women, caregiving types, entrepreneurs, creatives, and anyone ready to transform their relationship with anger and emotional expression <3
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You know that tension you're holding in your neck right now??
Or the tightness in your stomach you've grown so used to that you barely notice it anymore?
Yeah—this episode is about that :)
Aimee Takaya is a brilliant Hanna somatic educator who guides people through the gentlest, most powerful form of release.
Her approach isn't about pushing through pain or forcing your body into submission. It's about teaching your nervous system that it's *finally* safe enough to let go.
In this WONDERFUL convo, we explore how chronic tension is literally muscle memory holding onto past experiences—car accidents, stress responses, childhood patterns, all of it encoded in the way we move (or don't move) through the world.
Aimee walked me through some of her techniques live on the podcast, and I actually felt my neck tension release in real-time.
It was wild.
We dive into:
· Why pushing harder and stretching more can actually keep you stuck in pain patterns
· How your body might be holding resistance for really valid reasons (and why that's okay)
· The difference between clenching and actual functional movement
· Why being "bad at sports" as a kid might have been a nervous system thing all along
· The accumulative magic of consistent somatic practice—and why it's foundational, not optional
· How water therapy and somatics together create this dreamy parasympathetic state
· Why co-regulation with practitioners is essential for those of us holding space for others
This episode is for my highly sensitive, people-pleasing humans who've been white-knuckling their way through life, trying to control everything by staying tense and braced.
If you've ever felt like you're pushing against your own nature just to keep it all together, this conversation will meet you exactly where you are.
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Aimee's Bio & links:
Aimee Takaya has been guiding transformative movement for over 13 years. First as an international yoga teacher and now as a Hanna Somatic Educator and Transformation Facilitator.
She knows from personal experience the power of this modality to resolve chronic tension and pain and unlock your limitless human potential.
Through her practice in Hanna Somatics she has overcome debilitating chronic pain/unresolved trauma that used to control her life.
Now, she enjoys ease in leadership, entrepreneurship, healthier personal relationships and has better functional mobility than she did as a child!
She helps heart-led leaders become actualized in their Somas so they too can enjoy the magical, expansive life they have always dreamed was possible.
Connect with Aimee at one of her Somatic Bodywork based retreats, Learn about her Transformative 6 Month Somatic Education program or Listen to the Free Your Soma Podcast
IG: @aimeetakaya
FB: Aimee Takaya
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COME WALK WITH ME!!
This ep is a brain dump by the ocean after picking up skincare. We're talking about the bullshit + fun of beauty standards we've all bought into,
the weird abstract "I'm not enough" story running in our heads,
and why I'm done staying politically neutral :)
I read you the post I made about Charlie Kirk and why owning our conditioning is loving.
We also talk about into how self-criticism perpetuates trauma cycles, business is a mirror for your patterns, and how most of our behavior comes down to avoiding or facing emotions.
Also announcing something new coming about women's anger!!!!
When you meet someone who literally sparkles with joy and makes you remember what it feels like to be fully alive...
Aj Smit is one of those magical humans for me <3
She's an intuitive energy worker, speaker, henna artist, and author of "The Red Thread: Weaving an Embodied Life of Joy" - plus she's a hot chocolate connoisseur, glitter enthusiast, and one of the most full-spectrum humans I've ever had the absolute pleasure of working with.
I worked with Aj about a year ago when she was doing some tech and energy support work in my business, and y'alllllll - she is everything you could want and more in a collaborator, friend, and coach.
She would send me these adorable packages with glitter and sweet notes, and when we'd work together on tech stuff, if I was feeling overwhelmed, she'd guide me back to connection with myself first. Always meeting me where I was, and infusing our sessions with humor and so much love.
She's since transitioned fully into her calling as an intuitive coach and energy worker - and I truly believe that's exactly where she should be.
In this deliciously rich + deep conversation, we dive into:
Aj embodies a truth that joy isn't frivolous or naive - it's necessary medicine for ourselves and our world.
Her energy is infectious, her wisdom is deep, and her commitment to helping women remember their own radiance is beautiful and important.
Where to Connect with Aj:
Website: www.thejoyweaver.com
Instagram: @thejoyweaver
Facebook: /thejoyweaver
Her book: "The Red Thread: Weaving an Embodied Life of Joy"
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Episode 165: The Secret to Not Giving a F*ck About Social Media Likes (And Why Your Business Depends On It)
Hi bb
If you've ever felt that gut punch when your post gets 2 likes instead of 78, if you've ever spiraled into "am I doing something wrong?" because your engagement dropped, if you've ever let the fear of crickets stop you from making that invitation... this episode is for you :))
I'm sharing the unfiltered truth about my own journey from engagement-obsessed people pleaser to someone who posts with 2 likes and gives (almost) zero fucks because I know my people are there, watching, waiting for what I'll say next.
And PS. Your biz "success" is not dependent on vanity metrics, I promise.
This isn't just about social media strategy - this is about the core wound work that every female entrepreneur has to face when she decides to put her heart's work out into the world.
What we dive into:
Your art matters. Your message matters. Your people are there - even when they're not clicking that little heart button.
Come to The Time Freedom Challenge - we're on day 2, so we have 3 more live days together! It's not too late to join us as we move from "wtf why am I always so behind" to ease, flow, and moving WITH the purring entity that is TIME. $25.
This is for the women who are ready to stop performing their lives and start living them. Let's fucking go.
Come to a free 1-1 coaching connection call with me: https://danelle-gallo.mykajabi.com/Schedule
You know those calls where you spend 45 minutes trauma-dumping to a stranger who then uses your vulnerabilities as ammunition for their sales pitch?
Yeah, we don't do that patriarchal transactional nonsense here.
What actually happens:
The magic happens because you work WITH your nervous system, not against it.
When you're in stress response, your brain literally can't see the bigger picture - it's designed to hyper-focus on details for survival. Your job on the call is to show up as you are.
My job is being your external observer, connecting dots you can't see from inside your own activation.
This is for: Highly sensitive women who are both spiritual AND grounded, scientific yet intuitive. Secret witches who don't quite fit traditional new age spaces but crave something deeper than purely logical approaches.
If you're tired of performing your life and ready to remember who you actually are underneath all the conditioning - let's talk :)
Rate my pod if you love it!!!
And come to The Time Freedom Challenge - September 8, 2025-September 12th, 2025; 5 days to move from "wtf why am I always so behind" to ease, flow, and moving with (not against) the purring entity that is TIME. $25. Sign up here: https://danelle-gallo.mykajabi.com/offers/jwB4bUGu/checkout
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Listen to the episode on how to not gaslight yourself when you do The Work of Byron Katie: https://open.spotify.com/episode/31GH5TzOcPjI6EBpayEP3e?si=PwhMvXbfRIGeUua7psesng
So, holy sh*t. I just got back from a Byron Katie retreat and I am still integrating what just happened.
I went thinking I'd be doing the work on my relationship trauma and stuff, you know, the usual... but what came up was so much deeper and more unexpected than I could have imagined.
This wasn't just some feel good weekend retreat LOL. This was six hours a day of sitting in the abyss of consciousness, questioning everything I thought I knew about myself, and discovering how to love the ravaging of being a human EVEN DEEPER. Damn damn damnnnn.
The gifts are still coming through in my dreams, in my daily worksheets, in ways I'm still unpacking.
Listen in for the tea.
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"My mind is blown by your talent and insight. The way you can so casually and somewhat gleefully explain my deepest psychological wounds to me without breaking a sweat is fucking witchcraft." -Masterclass Attendee
COME TO THE FULL RELATIONSHIP ALCHEMY MASTERCLASS:
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Tired of "discovery calls" that are just sales pitches in disguise?? Mmmm....same.
Where you spend 30 minutes trauma-dumping to a stranger who then uses your vulnerabilities against you?
That's some patriarchal transactional bullshit and we don't do business like that around here.
My coaching connection calls are the antidote to that bullshit.
What actually happens: → 45-50 minutes of real dream life mapping → 10-15 minutes exploring working together (only if aligned) → Zero pressure, maximum clarity
I work with your nervous system, not against it.When you're in stress response, your brain literally cannot see the bigger picture—it's designed to hyper-focus on details for protection. My job is being your external observer, connecting dots you can't see from inside your own activation.
We investigate your current landscape, step into your future self through desire inventory work, and map out exactly how tobridge that gap. You leave with a personalized roadmap whether we work together or not.
This is for highly sensitive women who are both spiritual and grounded, scientific yet intuitive. Secret witches who don'tquite fit traditional new age spaces but crave something deeper than purely logical approaches.
If you're tired of performing your life and ready to remember who you actually are underneath all the conditioning—let's talk.
Do you hear about tapping and feel curious about the impact it could have on your anxiety?
Ever wondered what the powerful shadow work practice of Existential Kink could do for you?
...Or maybe you've never heard of either of those things, but you're just seeking some GODDAMN RELIEF???
Let's bring it together in this free Masterclass for you to explore processing your anxious discomfort and then letting your anxiety LET GO OF YOU. Yes, you read that correctly.
Your whole self is welcome in this practice - your fears, messiness, pain, triggers, love, peace, acceptance, etc.etc.etc.:
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“What if I lose it all?” A client asked me recently.
"What if the other shoe drops? What if I'm not prepared for something bad happening? If I really let myself feel happy and good and peaceful...what if I lose it all?"
And you know what I told her?
It makes so much sense that you feel this way.
We believe on some level that if we're too happy, too joyful, it'll all be taken away.
So there’s safety – protection - in staying small, staying worried, staying prepared for the worst.
If we’re always kind of unhappy or numb, it’ll just be another day in the neighborhood.
Nothing new here.
Nothing to really lose.
But here’s the thing.
You’ve already lost it all if you’re not enjoying it now.
It's already gone.
This podcast episode is actually a masterclass that I hosted a couple of months ago,
and I wanted to share with you because it's so potent + relevent
Joy is resistance.
Joy is the shiniest rebellion.
Fascist regimes and oppressive systems are on a mission to steal your joy, expression, and creativity.
Your life force.
Joy is expansive
Hopeful
And powerful.
Your joy is medicinal.
Your joy makes you ungovernable.
So let's disrupt the story that joy makes you unsafe, shall we?
Listen and let me know what lands for you.
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~ The Hidden Reason You Can't Handle Your Dream Life ~
Capacity is your PERCEIVED ability to experience, handle, and process ANY emotion.
Not just the "negative" ones you're scared of feeling,
but also the "positive" ones that come with success and actually getting what you want.
We think we want the tangible stuff -
more money, the perfect relationship, peace in our bodies.
But when we dig deeper, it always comes back to how we want to *feel*.
Your nervous system is so innocently protective that it keeps you small to keep you "safe" AKA in FAMILIAR emotions.
**In Episode 160 of Too Human with Nurse Nell: Capacity is the Hidden Reason You Can't Handle Your Dream Life (And What to Do About It) we chat about -
- What the eff is really going on in your nervous system and why it matters to understand it
- Why highly sensitive women struggle with capacity
- Why you're accidentally sabotaging yourself because you're scared you can't handle the emotions that come with getting what you want
- Personal stories from my own capacity work + the profound difference it's made - in life and biz
- Why living like you're "already canceled" is a vibe
- The incremental approach to capacity expansion
When you come across a teacher whose words hit you on such a deep, somatic, soul-based level that they fundamentally change how you see yourself and the world...
David Bedrick is one of those teachers for me.
I first discovered David through his collaboration with Simone Seol in The Shame Clinic for entrepreneurs, and his work has been an absolute game-changer for my life and business working with highly sensitive women who've experienced trauma.
Here are a few snippets of what I've learned from David:
He once said, "Shame isn't just a feeling - it's an internalized vision of ourselves."
When we believe something is fundamentally wrong with us, that message gets recorded into our consciousness.
It severs our trust with our innate intelligence and wisdom.
We stop looking inside for what's right about us and instead constantly seek validation and answers from the outside.
It's not just about what happened -- between you and the perpetrator(s) -- it's about whether anyone witnessed your pain with love (including yourself).
Without that witness, as David explains, the wound gets 'wrapped up and freezes,' and instead of thinking 'I need healing,' we think 'what's wrong with me?'
In other words, when our pain is met with denial, dismissal, or gaslighting, we internalize those shaming responses and begin to treat ourselves as if we're the problem.
In this profound conversation, David and I explore:
Why there's no trauma healing without shame healingThe revolutionary concept of the "witness" and its impact on healing
How to trust your body's intelligence instead of pathologizing your responses
Why shame acts as a protective shell around our core wounds
How to become your own loving witness
This convo is an invitation to see yourself through loving eyes and reclaim authorship of your own story 💙
Where to Connect with David Bedrick & Find his Work:
📖 His Latest Book: "The Unshaming Way: A Compassionate Guide to Dismantling Shame" - available in print, Kindle, and audiobook wherever books are sold
🌐 Website: https://www.davidbedrick.com/ - Find free resources, courses, and his complete body of work
📱 Instagram: @david.bedrick https://www.instagram.com/david.bedrick/
🏫 Santa Fe Institute for Shame-Based Studies: David's institute where he trains therapists, coaches, and healers in UnShaming techniques and offers workshops for personal development
📚 Other Books by David:
"Talking Back to Dr. Phil: Alternatives to Mainstream Psychology"
"You Can't Judge a Body by Its Cover: 17 Women's Stories of Hunger, Body Shame and Redemption"
"Revisioning Activism: Bringing Depth, Dialogue, and Diversity to Individual and Social Change"
I am so exciteeeeee to share this special convo with MY MENTOR Tonja Mills with you all!!!
aka my resident magical fairy godmother psychic witch hypnotherapist, and TRULY one of the most pure-hearted souls I've ever met.
What We Dive Into:
✨ Tonja's Extraordinary Journey
💫 The Art of Channeling & Intuitive Work
🌊 Business as Spiritual Practice
💎 On Joy, Presence & Personal Power
Why This Conversation is So Good:
There's something so rare about being in the presence of someone who acts as a direct channel to your most radiant self.
Tonja is someone who embodies unconditional love. I cried during our consult, and I rarely ever cry on coaching calls.
She has the ability to attune to your energy and find the heart of the issues.
And then ever so masterfully, gently, and powerfully guide you in weaving threads of different stories - the culmination of which brings you into contact with your most radiant, loving, awake self.
Every time we work together, I remember who the f*ck I am.
If you've ever felt called to work more intuitively, to trust your gifts, or to build a business that feels aligned with your soul - this conversation will light you up.
Tonja's approach to blending the mystical with the practical, the spiritual with the strategic, is truly one-of-a-kind.
Connect with the goddess that is Tonja Mills:
Website: https://www.tonjamills.com/
Quantum Queens Mastermind: https://www.tonjamills.com/quantum-queens
Higher Love: https://www.tonjamills.com/higher-love
I'm feeling so JOYFUL to share the absolute gem that is Coco Duan with you all!!
This conversation is so special. I always feel so freakin' good in Coco's energy and I KNOW you're going to fall in love with her too.
Coco Duan is a former Fortune 500 senior executive turned life and leadership coach and the author of the book "Unchecking the Boxes."
She helps high-achieving women executives become powerful, confident and authentic leaders by guiding them to become the CEO of their inner lives.
Her coaching is anchored in nervous system regulation, emotional healing and mindset change, leading to lasting leadership transformation from the inside out. AKA the REAL work that actually creates lasting change.
In this deliciously honest convo, we dive into Coco's wild journey from what she calls being an "insecure overachiever" - checking every single box imaginable while silently drowning (relatable) - to becoming the grounded, bold, and absolute bada$$ woman she is today.
She climbed the corporate ladder in America while living in what she describes as "constant fear" for 42 YEARS of her life.
She described how COV!D times literally saved her life by forcing her to slow down long enough to realize she felt absolutely miserable despite ALL her external success.
What followed was a complete life overhaul: divorce, leaving corporate America, and doing the deep nervous system and emotional healing work that changed everything.
You'll learn:· Why "return to safety" is the first step to any real transformation· How to process emotions like waves instead of stuffing them down· The difference between pushing yourself from lack vs. desire (this hit DEEP)· Why you literally cannot lead others until you lead yourself (the tea bb)· How to expand your capacity through "small doses" of discomfort· The power of creating your OWN definition of success (instead of society's BS cliche versions)
Whether you're a high-achiever feeling trapped in your own "success" or someone ready to step into authentic leadership, this conversation offers a refreshingly honest look at what it really takes to become FREE.
Coco's energy is just so gooooood - pure sparkly magic - & she's living proof that you can uncheck ALL those boxes and still become more successful than you ever imagined.
Connect with Coco:
If you love this episode and this podcast, please rate it 5 stars!!!
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Come to my new class Devoted: a 75-minute transmission for women who want release their internal war and play life BIG with 2 feet in. It's going down on Wednesday July 9th at 4:30pm pst and is $25. You'll get the replay for life:
https://calendly.com/nursenell/devoted
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Book a connection call with me here. Let's dive into the landscape of your life: https://calendly.com/nursenell/coaching
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I was 14. Black Friday at Best Buy with my sister.
The crowds were suffocating. The noise was overwhelming. And something inside me that had been building for YEARS was about to explode.
I'd played the good girl for a while.
Because I was scared I'd get hurt if I rebelled.
I swallowed my anger like bitter medicine because that's what I thought I had to do.
But that day? Something truly shifted.
We got home, and I stood in the middle of our kitchen and screamed at the top of my lungs.
My whole family stared at me like I'd lost my mind. "What the hell, Danelle??? You're so crazy!!"
But here's the thing - even with all their judgment, even with being labeled "crazy"... I felt FREE.
For years after, I lived in this pattern:
Sound familiar??
Here's what I've learned after years of somatic work and helping hundreds of women:
Your anger isn't the problem. The suppression is.
Check out episode 156: Stop Swallowing Your Rage: A 3-Step Guide to Processing Anger and find out...
🔥 The REAL story behind that kitchen scream - and why it took me years to learn how to process anger without exploding
💥 Why we've been taught to fear our own rage (it goes back generations and has nothing to do with us being "too much")
✨ The exact 3-step process I now use that transforms anger from destructive force into scintillating freedom:
This episode will slap for u if you've:
I still remember how that scream felt in my body. Like a tea kettle finally releasing all that pressure. Damn it felt goooood.
But now??
I don't wait for the explosion. I work WITH my anger. I dance with it. I let it show me what i need to see.
And it's transformed everything - my relationships, my business, my entire nervous system's capacity for joy.
Enjoiiii
Come to my new class Devoted: a 75-minute transmission for women who want release their internal war and play life BIG with 2 feet in. It's going down on Wednesday July 9th at 4:30pm pst and is $25. You'll get the replay for life:
https://calendly.com/nursenell/devoted
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oooooo I am SO excited to share this intimate somatic session with you with one of my fav people in the world
This is what happens when you slow down enough to actually LISTEN to your body's wisdom.
You're about to witness a live 30-minute session where thousands of rainbow-clear joy bubbles rise through the belly and hips while the lonely, sad parts get to scream until there's nothing left but GOLD
And yes, you read that right. Joy bubbles. Because your body speaks in metaphors and magic when you give it permission.
This episode is perfecto for you if:
🩵 You're tired of spiritual bypassing and want an example of what real embodied work + play looks like in session
🩵 You feel disconnected from your body and crave deep inner knowing
🩵 You're curious about somatic work but don't know what the heck a session actually feels like
🩵 You're navigating your own dance between joy and grief
Here's what you'll experience:
An unscripted, intuitive somatic journey where we discover:
❤️🔥Sad, lonely parts are actually absolutely needed for the joy to bubble (duality, babyyy)
❤️🔥Why screaming heads and energetic vomiting are sometimes exactly what the doctor ordered lolz
❤️🔥Your body knows EXACTLY what it's doing when you stop trying to fix it
This episode contains authentic emotional expression including crying, screaming, and deep release work.
Step into my office 😏