"I can do anything!"
"I am stuck..."
"I can change."
"This is just how it's going to be."
"I can do this."
"I am the way I am."
Which of these statements are correct?
Of course, all of them! and depending on what YOU believe, the statements in your head are correct too.
I learned the CTFAR model when I was going through my overcome pornography training. This model has benefited my life in so many ways, many of which were very unexpected.
We cannot change our circumstances, but we can change how we think about them and how we think about them will give us a feeling about that circumstance. We act based off of how we feel and our action produces a result. The results of our life can directly be influenced by our thoughts!
Change is hard but is possible and YOU are the only one who can do it for you. Practice this model and watch your life change before your eyes.
How would you show up for yourself in your life if Jesus Christ had just told you He was so proud of you???
Bill Annes graciously shares one of the most sacred experiences of his life: His Near Death Experience.
In 2011, Bill's health was declining and he ultimately flatlined and died for a short period of time. During this time, Bill went to Heaven and was embraced by the warmth, love and encouragement of Jesus Christ. He was given the option to stay in Heaven or return home to be with and continue to care for his family. Bill is here today to talk about his decision to return to his family and continue living mortal life.
In this episode, we are also joined by Bill's wife, Beverly, and his daughter, Megan Carey to help tell this remarkable story.
This story is not only intriguing and very interesting but incredibly encouraging. Despite continued challenges (like we all have), Bill is not afraid of death and has an optimistic look on life.
Please listen along and share this episode with anyone who is discouraged about their circumstance, decisions and overall outlook on life moving forward.
YOU are loved! YOU can change! YOU are favored by The Lord!
Thank you Bill, Beverly and Megan for sharing this experience for the benefit of others.
Each one of us gets to determine if our problems define us. Interestingly, problems can create the need for adherence to systems that bring us closer to achieving our purposes and goals.
Without “problems”, our brains often create drama, anxiety, or seek out offense.
If we notice ourselves drifting through life and creating problems because we are not engaged in a good cause, this is a great sign we should change! Change ourselves. Change our perspective. Change our purpose. Change our goals.
Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi's Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience
Is the way we see life a misinterpretation of the truth? Is our view of the world obstructed by sticky notes on the walls of your glass box?
I can’t wait to teach the principles of The Glass Box: how your beliefs and stories shape everything you see, and how to peel them off so you can finally see clearly again. How you can deeply understand others by watching them view the world through THEIR OWN GLASS BOX!
Today you’ll get reflection questions, practical steps, and a simple daily habit to clear your glass and live with more freedom and clarity.
The moments we take for granted are numbered and there will be an end to each of them someday.
If you knew how many times were left to go out on the town with your spouse, call your parents or kiss your kid good night, would you treat those experiences different?
Are we building our testimonies on BIG spiritual moments that happen every so often? Of course, these aren’t bad experiences but can we more frequently experience God’s love, guidance and answers to prayers in the LITTLE moments that may seem insignificant? Moments like following a prompting to text a friend, reading a scripture or quote that is encouraging on a tough day or experiencing a kind gesture from a stranger. These moments are everywhere and available to us if we look for them.
There is time-maybe not the kind you want but ask yourself “HOW CAN I have these wonderful little moments moving forward?” There’s nothing you can do about the past. How will you treat these small moments as your life goes on?
It is our pleasure to share our conversation with Delight Clark who is also Hayden's MOM! There are many topics, ideas and experiences that we could have discussed but we chose to have Delight share one of her passions in how she helps people today. The DREAM MANAGER is just that. A person who helps manage other people's dreams for them to identify them and break them down into attainable goals and steps.
Dylan is currently a member and client of the Dream Manager program and gives some of her perspective and takeaways from how it has blessed her life so far.
Our dreams might not be as far away as we think!
If we keep an open mind and accept that there are an infinite number of options to our "problems' and "challenges", we can take those necessary first steps towards those dreams that seemed way too big to ever go after.
Thank you so much Delight and MOM.
Reach out to Delight for The Dream Manager coaching...
theclark7@cox.net
Today we dropped off our little girl atpreschool for the first time—and it hit me. The pride in being her daddy, theoverwhelming love, the ache of letting her go… it all taught me something remarkableabout how our Heavenly Father feels about us. This is a solo reflection on whatfatherhood is teaching me about THE Father.
https://open.spotify.com/episode/6HTSY3Fuu2sgXIaKrudNsZ?si=thxfBmSoR6eHVsUP-fyd7w
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/111-john-burke-what-happens-when-we-die/id1492492083?i=1000656128129
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tH3eVf0C1QY
We live in a world that labels us by what we’ve done—good or bad. But the truth is, your identity isn’t found in your failures or your highlight reel. In this episode, we open up about the dangers of shame, the trap of performance-based worth, and how to break free from both.
Whether you’ve been carrying the weight of your past or chasing your next win to feel “enough,” this conversation is a reminder that your value is unshakable—and it’s not up fordebate. You are not what you’ve done. You are who God says you are.
You are a Son or Daughter to loving Heavenly Parents!
You are a Brother or Sister to the best big brother, Jesus Christ!
Do you need a vacation from your vacation?
Listen along as we jump into the challenge of taking an amazing trip or vacation but then finding yourself in a little bit of a slump in the days or weeks following.
How do hormones and "feel good" chemicals play into this and what to do about it!
What routines and habits can you build to look forward to when you get back? Not the ones that everyone says you should do but the ones you really REALLY like.
Placing things out in the future to look forward to.
Addressing relationships that may be a struggle and energy drain.
Facing a job that is dreadful and what to about that!
Identifying those things that are fulfilling to you in your life.
Finally, a mini-challenge for each listener in order to make a softer landing at home when you are coming home from a trip or vacation.
Happy summer travels, everyone!
I am thrilled to share my conversation with Travis Webb. Travis has been our marriage therapist for almost 9 years. He has also counseled Dylan and I individually. Through years of learning from counseling others as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Travis answers some of these tough questions about addiction, pornography, environment, phones, victimhood and victim mentality.
What is the reason people use pornography? Getting to the root!
Is pornography about a past trauma?
What do all addictions have in common?
How can we change our environment to influence our habits and addictions?
How does the brain play into all of this?
How social media and phones feed the ADD, ADHD, Anxiety and Depression epidemic.
Identifying the intention behind using stimulants. Why are we using them?
Why we find reasons to be offended TODAY because of some past trauma or offense.
Travis, thank you for sharing what you have learned in your years of helping others through their toughest challenges.
It's easy to find what is GOOD about something when everything seems to be going as planned. But what about when our plans aren't going as we intended or as fast as we would like them to? Can we still ask ourselves "What Is Good About This" in those moments too? And actually find something good??
When things seem to be going WRONG, it just means you haven't found what is good about it yet.
If we allow ourselves to understand the answers the God can give to us then we can improve in seeing the good in tough situations. These answers can be YES, NO or NOT YET...
Take time this week to really think about and place intention on appreciating the freedom we enjoy and probably take for granted sometimes.
“When we’re attached to outcomes, we can rob ourselves of peace, growth, and joy. True freedom comes when we show up fully—but let go of the need for things to turn out a certain way. Can I get an Amen!”
Attachment: “If this doesn’t happen, I’ll feel like a failure.”
Detachment: “I did everything I could. The rest isn’t mine to carry.”
Am I ATTACHED Assessment:
Do I feel anxious or unworthy if this doesn’t go a certain way?
Am I obsessively thinking about this outcome?
Would I be okay if this didn’t happen?
Here are some of the lessons learned from trying to GET RICH QUICK
1. “The world has a beautiful way of showing you where you are wrong” Dan Martell
2. Reframing painful financial decisions
3. The Law of the Harvest
4. “Money makes you more of what you already are” Dave Ramsey
5. If money wasn’t an issue, who would you be?
6. Calculated Risk vs Blind Shot
Within the span of a few years, our friend Robin has endured some truly challenging trials. His example of how to respond to adversity is inspiring to us—and will inspire many who listen to this interview.
• Prostate cancer
• An eating disorder
• Strokes
• A misdiagnosis of Alzheimer’s
“God means what He says…”
“…so let us mean what we do!”
Robin generously shares some of the triumphs he’s experienced with his health, as well as powerful lessons he’s learned and truths that have been reinforced in his life.
We can all learn from the way Robin has faced adversity—and we look up to him as an example of one of the many ways to endure life’s challenges with grace and faith.
Thank you, Robin!
Are you having a hard time getting what you want? Is there anything you have been skipping over?
Today I get to share where in my life I learned this principle of doing what I was capable of in the moment to be able to build up to doing something that I thought was never possible.
The BASCIS in any area of life are foundational to the rest of success that can be wanted or expected in that area. Kobe Bryant was a fanatic about doing the basics and had a foundation capable of building a dynasty of Mamba accolades like MVP's and NBA championships.
YOU can do this too!
Start with what you CAN do.
We can approach our shortcomings and mistakes so much better when we understand whether or not we are experiencing NATURAL CONSEQUENCES or unnecessary PUNISHMENT.
Natural consequences can often times be accompanied by the guilt of making wrong choices. That guilt can encourage you to CHANGE and LEARN from your mistakes.
But the punishment... self-inflicted or from someone else... can carry a hefty amount of shame. This is shame is unnecessary and unrelated to our shortcomings. This is unhelpful and discouraging.
So... DON'T BEAT YOURSLEF UP!
You are human!
You are going to make lots of mistakes!
You are doing your best to be your best and that's enough!
In the middle of feeling alone and betrayed, it was nearly impossible to imagine celebrating a wedding anniversary that wasn’t consumed by the challenges of pornography.
For our NINE year wedding anniversary we want to share a message of encouragement!
Dylan shares her through these topics…
What was your reaction?
Did you ever think about leaving?
Why did you stay?
What does choosing to stay look like TODAY?
What would you tell others going through something similar?
CONTENT WARNING:
(Though we don't go into explicit detail of sexual abuse, some topics can be difficult to hear.)
I (Hayden) am so happy to share a deep and meaningful conversation I had with my aunt, Cindy Stain.
After losing her parents in a plane crash, Cindy, along with her five siblings, was orphaned at the age of four. Off to a rocky (understatement) start in life, Cindy had tougher challenges ahead where she would endure ongoing sexual abuse at the age of eight and then completely block it out of her memory as a defense mechanism until it resurfaced in her early 20's.
If there was someone who would be allowed to choose victimhood, it would be Cindy. But, she chooses to live her life as a VICTOR and learns from the seemingly insurmountable hand of cards she was dealt. Cindy has turned the events of her early life into fuel to learn about energy work, healing, service to others, massive acceptance and love for others, forgiveness and perhaps the highest vibrating energy frequency I have ever been in proximity to.
This episode is filled with incredible perspectives on life and trials as well as encouraging words to those who may have experienced big trauma at some point in their life.
Thank you, Cindy, for your time and willingness to share!
If you would like to learn more about working with Cindy and/or attending her free seven week course on Universal Principles, reach out to her by emailing her at:
cindymortensen108@gmail.com