Jamie and Neil discussed personal relationships and our feelings of unworthiness. When we reflect on our own and others' flaws can we reveal and play with our shadow aspects? How can we use games and kink to make this fun, arousing and connecting?
We discuss the impact of childhood experiences and parental influences on developing beliefs about oneself. If we are able to focus on the positive aspects of trauma can it lead to personal growth, connection and even juiciness!?
Offerings
Jamie will be offering his world renowned 'Game Changer' course very soon - find our more and sign up here:
https://www.jamiecatto.com/gamechanger
Neil offers coaching and counselling, plus his incredible relationship workshop (also for single people) - 'Building Secure Attachments', here:
https://www.positively-mindful.com/
If you want more spicy and playful offerings (like 'Caring Kink') then visit:
This month Jamie enters a new chapter in relating and discusses with Neil what we can do when in the dip (an ebb of tiredness, fatigue or low emotions) to manage our thoughts and emotions, without causing harm to our relationships.
Neil opens by discussing a Ram Dass clip he is inspired by: The Yoga of Relationship: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0xuRbOcmQUAOxT4dsHg6sm?si=ab539ef4e403455d
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Jamie is offering his world famous facilitator training at https://www.jamiecatto.com/bringit
Neil is offering two juicy things:
Building Secure Attachments: a 12 week online group meeting once a week, with a course of material to help you feel more secure in your self and your relationships: https://www.positively-mindful.com/building-secure-attachments.html
Playful Desires: In person workshops and play parties that help reconnect us to the playful, innocent joy of various kinky dynamics in safer ways. Neil calls this 'Caring Kink': https://playful-desires.co.uk/
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Welcome to The Gentle Village, a place for us to connect, knowing we don't have to do it all alone. A safe space to explore Relationships. Vulnerabilities, Curiosities, Courage and a deeper connection with Life and Love in 2023… and beyond!
In this podcast, Jamie Catto (Musician, Film-maker and author of Insanely Gifted) and Neil Morbey (Counsellor, Mindfulness Coach, Kink Workshop Facilitator) talk about topics of relationships with a focus on attachment, polyamory, monogamy, vulnerability, basic needs, boundaries, trauma and support.
If you'd like us to discuss something please send questions to neil@positively-mindful.comand jamie@jamiecatto.com
In this episode Jamie and Neil discuss:
Let's give ourselves the chance to get a little freaky now and then
Not all about relationships this time...
Musings on teaching and facilitation
Masochism in workshops vs exploring spiritually
Laughter and comfort zone changes and healings
Transforming neurosis
Neuroplasticity
Fantasies
The 10-day Vipassana
Is pushing ourselves a good thing?
It’s ok to judge sometimes
Neil is offering two juicy things:
Building Secure Attachments: a 12 week online group meeting once a week, with a course of material to help you feel more secure in your self and your relationships: https://www.positively-mindful.com/building-secure-attachments.html
Caring Kink: In person workshops and play parties that help reconnect us to the playful, innocent joy of various kinky dynamics in safer ways: ere:https://www.positively-mindful.com/playful-desires.html
Jamie is offering his world famous facilitator training at jamiecatto.com/bringit
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Welcome to The Gentle Village, a place for us to connect, knowing we don't have to do it all alone. A safe space to explore Relationships. Vulnerabilities, Curiosities, Courage and a deeper connection with Life and Love in 2023… and beyond!
In this podcast, Jamie Catto (Musician, Film-maker and author of Insanely Gifted) and Neil Morbey (Counsellor, Mindfulness Coach, Kink Workshop Facilitator) talk about topics of relationships with a focus on attachment, polyamory, monogamy, vulnerability, basic needs, boundaries, trauma and support.
If you'd like us to discuss something please send questions to neil@positively-mindful.comand jamie@jamiecatto.com
In this episode we chat about:
Neil has just posted a whole curriculum of 'spicy' workshops that he calls CARING K1NK. You can also find Neil at Positively-Mindful
Jamie is offering his world famous Bring It facilitator training at jamiecatto.com/bringit
In this episode both Jamie and Neil have big news about their lives and are diving deep into attachment. We discuss god and how belief can affect recovery of our trust in love, in life and in our partners. Little nuggets of Jamie and Neil wisdom lie within, we think.
Neil has just posted a whole curriculum of 'spicy' workshops that he calls CARING K1NK. If you're interested to know more click here:
https://www.positively-mindful.com/playful-desires.html
Jamie is offering his world famous Bring It facilitator training at jamiecatto.com/bringit
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Welcome to The Gentle Village, a place for us to connect, knowing we don't have to do it all alone. A safe space to explore Relationships. Vulnerabilities, Curiosities, Courage and a deeper connection with Life and Love in 2023
In this podcast, Jamie Catto (Musician, Film-maker and author of Insanely Gifted) and Neil Morbey (Mindfulness and Relationship Coach, Intimacy and Kink Workshop Facilitator) talk about topics of relationships with a focus on attachment, polyamory, monogamy, vulnerability, basic needs, boundaries, trauma and support.
If you'd like us to discuss something please send questions to neil@positively-mindful.com and jamie@jamiecatto.com
In this episode we summarise our own intense summers of learning, growth and processing of relationships and explore more nuggets of Jamie and Neil wisdom and mixed opinions.
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Welcome to The Gentle Village, a place for us to connect, knowing we don't have to do it all alone. A safe space to explore Relationships. Vulnerabilities, Curiosities, Courage and a deeper connection with Life and Love in 2023
In this podcast, Jamie Catto (Musician, Film-maker and author of Insanely Gifted) and Neil Morbey (Mindfulness and Relationship Coach, Intimacy and Kink Workshop Facilitator) talk about topics of relationships with a focus on attachment, polyamory, monogamy, vulnerability, basic needs, boundaries, trauma and support.
If you'd like us to discuss something please send questions to neil@positively-mindful.com and jamie@jamiecatto.com
In this episode we meander between subjects including death, kink, daughters, parenting, going deeper into relationships consciousness and opportunities cloaked as disaster. Little nuggets of Jamie and Neil wisdom lie within, we think.
To come to Neil's in-person workshop in Bristol: 2024: April 27th: Blindfolded Sensation Seeking
Where you'll get to experience being blindfolded for hours and re-sensitizing your body to smell, taste, sound and touch in a lovely, safe and playful group setting.
Also Neil just began a new online course, which you can still join (we've done week 1, but you can re-watch it): 2024: April 9th: 12-Week Course: Building Secure Attachments.
Jamie is offering his world famous Bring It facilitator training at jamiecatto.com/bringit
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Welcome to The Gentle Village, a place for us to connect, knowing we don't have to do it all alone. A safe space to explore Relationships. Vulnerabilities, Curiosities, Courage and a deeper connection with Life and Love in 2023
In this podcast, Jamie Catto (Musician, Film-maker and author of Insanely Gifted) and Neil Morbey (Mindfulness and Relationship Coach, Intimacy and Kink Workshop Facilitator) talk about topics of relationships with a focus on attachment, polyamory, monogamy, vulnerability, basic needs, boundaries, trauma and support.
If you'd like us to discuss something please send questions to neil@positively-mindful.com and jamie@jamiecatto.com
This episode is HOT!
We loved to talk about desire and pleasure and we know you'll get a lot from this one. If you're interested to work with Neil or Jamie in groups or 1:1 click to connect with us. Enjoy us talking about:
...And so much more!
Welcome to The Gentle Village, a place for us to connect, knowing we don't have to do it all alone. A safe space to explore Relationships. Vulnerabilities, Curiosities, Courage and a deeper connection with Life and Love in 2024
In this podcast, Jamie Catto (Musician, Film-maker and author of Insanely Gifted) and Neil Morbey (Mindfulness and Relationship Coach, Intimacy and Kink Workshop Facilitator) talk about topics of relationships with a focus on attachment, polyamory, monogamy, vulnerability, basic needs, boundaries, trauma and support.
If you'd like us to discuss something please send questions to neil@positively-mindful.com and jamie@jamiecatto.com
We are back, after a few months pause. In this episode we discuss: Learned Secure Attachment
- Workshops, courses and 1:1 coaching at Positively-Mindful.com: by Neil Morbey
- Courses and other offerings at jamiecatto.com by Jamie Catto
Welcome to The Gentle Village, a place for us to connect, knowing we don't have to do it all alone. A safe space to explore Relationships. Vulnerabilities, Curiosities, Courage and a deeper connection with Life and Love in 2024
In this podcast, Jamie Catto (Musician, Film-maker and author of Insanely Gifted) and Neil Morbey (Mindfulness and Relationship Coach, Intimacy and Kink Workshop Facilitator) talk about topics of relationships with a focus on attachment, polyamory, monogamy, vulnerability, basic needs, boundaries, trauma and support.
If you'd like us to discuss something please send questions to neil@positively-mindful.com and jamie@jamiecatto.com
What is a reasonable request and how do we make them? Where is the balance between expressing our feelings and needs vs controlling another's actions? We explore these questions in our conversational style as we reflect on our own relationship adventures, requests, boundaries...
Some references in the podcast:
- Love Languages by Gary Chapman, adapted by Neil into his 6 love languages: HEARTS
- WILD - adapted from Non Violent Communication
- Workshops, courses and 1:1 coaching at Positively-Mindful.com: by Neil Morbey
- Courses and other offerings at jamiecatto.com by Jamie Catto
- Jamie Catto's 5-month adventure jamiecatto.com/gamechanger
Welcome to The Gentle Village, a place for us to connect, knowing we don't have to do it all alone. A safe space to explore Relationships. Vulnerabilities, Curiosities, Courage and a deeper connection with Life and Love in 2023
In this podcast, Jamie Catto (Musician, Film-maker and author of Insanely Gitfted) and Neil Morbey (Mindfulness and Relationship Coach, Intimicacy and Kink Workshop Facilitator) talk about topics of relationships with a focus on attachment, polyamory, monogamy, vulnerability, basic needs, boundaries, trauma and support.
If you'd like us to discuss something please send questions to neil@positively-mindful.com and jamie@jamiecatto.com
Where is the line between healthy support and co-dependence? Can we reasonably put restrictions on our partner's behaviour? Can we expect our partners to care for us, including our own 'inner children'? How do we become a team and work together well?
These are some of the questions we explore in this episode of the podcast (in rough order, so you can skip through and find them)
- Dangers of labels and diagnosis
- Wise Kind Adult vs Triggered Child
- Taking time outs in difficult conversations, with a clear re-connection time
- The power of eye contact and touch
- Valuing vulnerability and empathy
- Three key questions to bring us back into our Wise Kind Adult (Fear, Desire, Love)
- Supporting each other's inner children
- Boundaries as part of care and love (halfway through podcast)
- The role of anger
- Trust, dependence and support
- Agreements and Restrictions
- Traumatsing vs discomfort
- Protecting our partners like a beast
- Promoting safety and communicating discomforts isn't weak
Things and people we referenced in the podcast
Welcome to The Gentle Village, a place for us to connect, knowing we don't have to do it all alone. A safe space to explore Relationships. Vulnerabilities, Curiosities, Courage and a deeper connection with Life and Love in 2023
In this podcast, Jamie Catto (Musician, Film-maker and author of Insanely Gitfted) and Neil Morbey (Mindfulness and Relationship Coach, Intimicacy and Kink Workshop Facilitator) talk about topics of relationships with a focus on attachment, polyamory, monogamy, vulnerability, basic needs, boundaries, trauma and support.
If you'd like us to discuss something please send questions to neil@positively-mindful.com and jamie@jamiecatto.com
Gentle Village #003: Holding our Triggers, Building Trust
In episode three, we delve deep into the nuance of triggers, and attachment styles. We ask ourselves the question: How do we hold space for others and ourselves when we are triggered? What helps us in conflicts?
Some references in the podcast:
- Neil's upcoming 8-week course: Building Secure Relationships
- Jamie’s Book and Course, Insanely Gifted and the Self-Care Manual and his upcoming course Bring It Teacher Training
Welcome to The Gentle Village, a place for us to connect, knowing we don't have to do it all alone. A safe space to explore Relationships. Vulnerabilities, Curiosities, Courage and a deeper connection with Life and Love in 2023
In this podcast, Jamie Catto (Musician, Film-maker and author of Insanely Gitfted) and Neil Morbey (Mindfulness and Relationship Coach, Intimicacy and Kink Workshop Facilitator) talk about topics of relationships with a focus on attachment, polyamory, monogamy, vulnerability, basic needs, boundaries, trauma and support.
If you'd like us to discuss something please send questions to neil@positively-mindful.com and jamie@jamiecatto.com
Gentle Village #002:
In episode one, we introduce ourselves and take a personal look at the topics of challenges, triggers, and attachment styles. We ask ourselves the questions: What are our biggest challenges in relationships? What does each 'attachment style' need to do for itself and need to receive in a relationship? How is it for us?
Some references in the podcast:
- Neil's upcoming 8-week course: Building Secure Relationships
- Non-Violent Communication, by Marshall Rosenberg
- WIN model by David Wolf (Relationships that Work)
- The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
- Jem Ayres, Orgasmic Employment Practitioner (Who is your team?)
- Neil’s Repairative SORRY model
- Jamie’s Book and Course, Insanely Gifted and the Self-Care Manual
Welcome to The Gentle Village, a place for us to connect, knowing we don't have to do it all alone. A safe space to explore Relationships. Vulnerabilities, Curiosities, Courage and a deeper connection with Life and Love in 2023
In this podcast, Jamie Catto (Musician, Film-maker and author of Insanely Gitfted) and Neil Morbey (Mindfulness and Relationship Coach, Intimicacy and Kink Workshop Facilitator) talk about topics of relationships with a focus on attachment, polyamory, monogamy, vulnerability, basic needs, boundaries, trauma and support.
If you'd like us to discuss something please send questions to neil@positively-mindful.com and jamie@jamiecatto.com
Gentle Village #1: Attachment Styles - Inner Child:
In episode one, we introduce ourselves and take a personal look at the topics of challenges, triggers, and attachment styles. We ask ourselves the questions: What are our biggest challenges in relationships? What does each 'attachment style' need to do for itself and need to receive in a relationship? How is it for us?
Some references in the podcast:
- Conversations With God, by Neale Donald Walsch
- Anxious-Avoidant (Disorganised) Style - Spice of Life by Brianna MacWilliams
- '"That's nothing!" Game by Dave Rock
- The Orgasmic Arc, by Genevieve Genevieve