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Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast
Lynn Nichols
101 episodes
4 days ago

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast

Validate. Rebuild. Revolutionize (and Patriarchy Deconstruction)

Discover a safe haven and a wellspring of insight with the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast. In this candid, relevant, and eye-opening show, host Lynn, author and passionate recovery advocate, guides you through the landscape of toxic relationships and covert narcissistic abuse dynamics. With honesty, depth, and tough love, Lynn helps you recognize subtle manipulation tactics and offers practical strategies to heal, rebuild, and reclaim your power.

Episodes dive deep into the complexities of narcissistic family systems, exploring roles like scapegoat and golden child, and shedding light on the pain of ostracization. We tackle topics like going no contact, setting boundaries, and uncovering covert dynamics that keep you from thriving. Our conversations go beyond personal trauma to examine how narcissism is woven into broader cultural systems, including patriarchy’s influence on gender roles and equality.

  • In-Depth Conversations: Learn about covert tactics like gaslighting, emotional manipulation, and financial control, and discover actionable steps for setting boundaries and reclaiming independence.
  • Practical Guidance: From detailed strategies for going no contact to insights on handling emotional labor and overcoming self-doubt, our episodes offer tools you can apply right away.
  • Broader Perspectives: Understand how narcissistic abuse intersects with societal issues like gender inequality, workplace bias, and cultural conditioning. Our work goes beyond personal relationships to show how narcissism is embedded in cultural systems and structures like patriarchy. By unpacking gender roles and systemic inequality, we aim to reveal how these dynamics shape our lives. Available on all major podcast networks. Subscribe today.

This podcast exists to expose and challenge the systems that diminish, control, and silence. We focus on what has been overlooked, question what has been normalized, and create space for healing, clarity, and collective strength. Serving as a resource of hope, encouragement, and validation, so victims of narcissistic abuse can rebuild their lives and pursue dreams, visions, and intentional living.


Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Website: Visit our website at https://www.movingforwardafterabuse.com/ 

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Lynn is a trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coach, author, and creator of the YouTube Channel, Wake the Elephant. Her books include Overcoming the Devastation of Narcissistic Abuse: How to Heal, Recover and Take Your Life Back and Master Manipulators: Discover Covert Tactics Narcissists Devise to Manipulate, Deceive and Control.


This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. The content shared is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are experiencing a mental health crisis, please seek help from a qualified professional or contact a local crisis hotline.


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Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast

Validate. Rebuild. Revolutionize (and Patriarchy Deconstruction)

Discover a safe haven and a wellspring of insight with the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast. In this candid, relevant, and eye-opening show, host Lynn, author and passionate recovery advocate, guides you through the landscape of toxic relationships and covert narcissistic abuse dynamics. With honesty, depth, and tough love, Lynn helps you recognize subtle manipulation tactics and offers practical strategies to heal, rebuild, and reclaim your power.

Episodes dive deep into the complexities of narcissistic family systems, exploring roles like scapegoat and golden child, and shedding light on the pain of ostracization. We tackle topics like going no contact, setting boundaries, and uncovering covert dynamics that keep you from thriving. Our conversations go beyond personal trauma to examine how narcissism is woven into broader cultural systems, including patriarchy’s influence on gender roles and equality.

  • In-Depth Conversations: Learn about covert tactics like gaslighting, emotional manipulation, and financial control, and discover actionable steps for setting boundaries and reclaiming independence.
  • Practical Guidance: From detailed strategies for going no contact to insights on handling emotional labor and overcoming self-doubt, our episodes offer tools you can apply right away.
  • Broader Perspectives: Understand how narcissistic abuse intersects with societal issues like gender inequality, workplace bias, and cultural conditioning. Our work goes beyond personal relationships to show how narcissism is embedded in cultural systems and structures like patriarchy. By unpacking gender roles and systemic inequality, we aim to reveal how these dynamics shape our lives. Available on all major podcast networks. Subscribe today.

This podcast exists to expose and challenge the systems that diminish, control, and silence. We focus on what has been overlooked, question what has been normalized, and create space for healing, clarity, and collective strength. Serving as a resource of hope, encouragement, and validation, so victims of narcissistic abuse can rebuild their lives and pursue dreams, visions, and intentional living.


Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Website: Visit our website at https://www.movingforwardafterabuse.com/ 

Are you enjoying our podcast? If so, leave us a positive review!

Tip us here!

See our store on Gumroad:

Our LinkTree

Join our Private Podcast Feed with no ads


Lynn is a trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coach, author, and creator of the YouTube Channel, Wake the Elephant. Her books include Overcoming the Devastation of Narcissistic Abuse: How to Heal, Recover and Take Your Life Back and Master Manipulators: Discover Covert Tactics Narcissists Devise to Manipulate, Deceive and Control.


This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. The content shared is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are experiencing a mental health crisis, please seek help from a qualified professional or contact a local crisis hotline.


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast
Ep. 104 Triangulation: The Invisible People Ruining Your Relationship (And How to Spot Them)

Triangulation is one of the most disorienting tactics in toxic and narcissistic dynamics. It turns simple conversations into three-way dramas, pulls “invisible people” into your relationship, and leaves you defending yourself against stories you never heard. This episode breaks down how triangulation actually works, why manipulators rely on it, and what you can do to reclaim clarity and control.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • Why triangulation is never accidental
  • How manipulators use third parties, selective storytelling, and engineered confusion to maintain control.
  • The real purpose behind bringing “someone else” into your conflict
  • You’ll hear how triangulation filters the truth, reshapes narratives, and keeps you on the defensive.
  • The quiet erosion of your support system
  • How triangulation turns friends and family into sources of doubt and distance, and why isolation is the endgame.
  • Subtle signs you’re being triangulated
  • From shifting stories to “he said / she said” dynamics to the sudden tension in your close relationships.


If you’ve ever felt like you were fighting rumors you never heard, competing with people you never met, or explaining yourself to audiences you didn’t know existed, this episode will give you the clarity you’ve been missing.


🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com

📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here 

 🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery** 👉 Start the Course

🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 

📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More** 👉 Visit the Store

💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast** 👉 Become a Member

🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar

📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree

⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ **Leave a Review** 

Our Gumroad Store
Social Media
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Course
Grief and Loss from Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Workbook
Somatic Audio Healing Sessions

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4 days ago
23 minutes 50 seconds

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast
Ep. 103 The Awakening: How Narcissistic Abuse Patterns Are Embedded in Every System Women Face

You thought it was just your toxic partner. You finally learned to recognize the gaslighting, the financial control, the manipulation that nearly destroyed your sanity. But then you started noticing something terrifying: the exact same tactics showing up everywhere else in your life.

In this groundbreaking episode, we explore the shocking truth that narcissistic abuse isn't just a personal relationship problem—it's a systemic feature of how our entire society operates. From family courts that favor charming manipulators to workplaces that reward toxic behavior as "leadership," from churches that demand women's endless forgiveness to medical systems that dismiss women's pain as "emotional"—the same playbook is being used at every level.

What You'll Discover:

🔸 The Financial Trap Evolution: How modern economic abuse has adapted to women's increased workforce participation, creating sophisticated new forms of control that keep women financially vulnerable even when they have jobs

🔸 Religious Institutional Betrayal: Why churches systematically fail to protect abuse survivors, and the uncomfortable question of whether they avoid teaching manipulation detection because it might expose their own power tactics

🔸 The Workplace Exodus: Shocking statistics reveal that 50% of women leave tech jobs before age 35, with 43% thinking about quitting weekly—and why this represents systematic pushing-out rather than personal choice

🔸 Legal System Weaponization: How narcissists systematically exploit courts through frivolous lawsuits, false accusations, and procedural manipulation, turning the justice system into a tool of continued abuse

🔸 Medical Gaslighting: The disturbing reality of how healthcare systems pathologize abuse victims while missing the real patterns of harm

🔸 The Historical "Why": The brutal truth about why these systems were designed to disadvantage women—and why those in power actively resist change despite having the collective ability to transform these structures


🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com

📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here 

 🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery**  👉 Start the Course

🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 

📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More**  👉 Visit the Store

💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast**  👉 Become a Member

🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar

📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree

⭐ **Leave a Review** 

Our Gumroad Store
Social Media
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Course
Grief and Loss from Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Workbook
Somatic Audio Healing Sessions

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2 months ago
42 minutes 2 seconds

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast
Ep. 102 Emotionally Absent: When Patriarchy Teaches Men to Disconnect

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Have you spent years feeling unseen in your relationship, wondering why someone who says they love you can’t seem to connect with you emotionally? In this episode, we explore the hidden emotional architecture behind that disconnect — specifically, how alexithymia and cultural conditioning through patriarchy create the perfect storm for emotional starvation.

This is not just about emotionally unavailable men. It's about men who were taught — sometimes neurologically wired — not to feel. And it’s about the women who’ve lived beside them for decades, carrying the entire emotional weight of the relationship and doubting themselves the whole time.

We explore how these patterns intertwine with narcissistic abuse, how emotional neglect masquerades as "normal," and how survivors can finally name what they experienced — not as personal failure, but as systemic conditioning.

If you’ve ever asked:

  • “Why won’t he open up?”
  • “Is it me?”
  • “How can something so silent feel so painful?”

This episode offers answers — and the validation you've been craving.

It’s not just about what happened. It’s about finally putting words to what was missing.


Read the article here: https://movingforwardafterabuse.com/emotionally-absent/

🔗 Additional Healing Resources & Support: 👉 movingforwardafterabuse.com

📚 **Books by Lynn** 👉 Go Here 

 🎓 **Online Course: Narcissistic Abuse Recovery** 👉 Start the Course

🧘‍♀️ **Somatic Healing Audio Sessions** 👉 Listen Now 

📥 **Downloadables: Ebooks, Worksheets & More** 👉 Visit the Store

💬 **Join the Exclusive Community on Supercast** 👉 Become a Member

🎁 **Support the Show** 👉 Tip Jar

📱 **Connect on Social Media** 👉 Visit our Linktree

⭐ **Leave a Review** 

Our Gumroad Store
Social Media
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Course
Grief and Loss from Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Workbook
Somatic Audio Healing Sessions

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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2 months ago
15 minutes 39 seconds

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast
Ep. 101 Validation Withholding: The Hidden Psychological Abuse Destroying Women's Reality

Are you constantly questioning your own reality? Do you find yourself apologizing for having feelings or wondering if you're "too sensitive"? You might be experiencing validation withholding - a psychological manipulation tactic that's more common and devastating than most people realize.

In this comprehensive episode, we expose the hidden patterns of validation withholding that happen in narcissistic relationships AND across our society.

You'll discover:

🔍 The exact phrases narcissists use that sound supportive but are actually designed to tear you down

🧠 Why 83% of women report feeling invalidated by their partners (backed by relationship research)

💔 The twisted psychology behind why narcissists refuse to validate your experiences, emotions, and reality

🏥 How the medical system, workplace, and society systematically dismiss women's pain, ideas, and voices using identical tactics

⚠️ The devastating long-term effects of chronic invalidation on your mental health, decision-making, and sense of self


Whether you're dealing with a narcissistic partner, recognizing cultural gaslighting, or supporting someone who's being systematically invalidated - this episode will change how you understand psychological manipulation.


Warning: This episode contains discussions of psychological abuse and may be triggering for survivors. Please listen with care and seek professional support if needed.



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Hosted by trauma-informed coach & author Lynn, this podcast helps survivors of narcissistic abuse uncover covert manipulation, set boundaries, and reclaim their voice. From family roles to patriarchy, we explore how personal healing intersects with cultural change.
🌐 Our LinkTree
☕ Support the show
📚 Books by Lynn
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Course Here

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2 months ago
37 minutes 15 seconds

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast
Ep. 100 Covert Sabotage: How to Recognize Hidden Psychological Warfare in Relationships

Discover the hidden world of covert sabotage - a calculated form of psychological manipulation that targets your success while maintaining complete deniability. This episode reveals the sophisticated tactics used to undermine ambitious individuals, particularly successful women, and how to recognize patterns designed to be invisible.

What You'll Learn:

  • The definition of covert sabotage and why it's nearly impossible to detect
  • Five signature tactics used against high achievers: milestone sabotage, reputation damage, strategic interference, achievement minimization, and energy depletion
  • Advanced psychological warfare strategies including information manipulation and timing games
  • How chronic psychological abuse physically changes your brain structure and nervous system
  • Why your body recognizes threats before your conscious mind does
  • Pattern recognition techniques to identify manipulation when it's designed to be hidden
  • The neurological and physical effects of living under constant psychological threat


Watch the video here:

And in-depth article here: https://movingforwardafterabuse.com/covert-sabotage/



🔗 Explore More:

🌐 Visit the Website:

https://movingforwardafterabuse.com

Explore free resources, articles, survivor tools, and deep-dive content to help you reclaim your power and heal from narcissistic abuse.

📚 Read the Books by Lynn:

https://movingforwardafterabuse.com/books-by-lynn/

Check out Lynn’s powerful books on narcissistic abuse recovery, manipulation tactics, and the emotional journey of healing. Perfect for survivors ready to take their next step.

💡 Want to support the show?

Leave us a tip 🎁 Tip Jar: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/waketheelephant

📝 Leave a Review:

If this episode brought you clarity or comfort, leave a quick review on your favorite podcast app. It helps others find us and keeps the message spreading.


Our LinkTree



Join our Exclusive Community: https://narcissisticabuserecovery.supercast.com/

Hosted by trauma-informed coach & author Lynn, this podcast helps survivors of narcissistic abuse uncover covert manipulation, set boundaries, and reclaim their voice. From family roles to patriarchy, we explore how personal healing intersects with cultural change.
🌐 Our LinkTree
☕ Support the show
📚 Books by Lynn
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Course Here

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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2 months ago
33 minutes 18 seconds

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast
Ep. 99 Loyalty Over Love: The Quiet Code That Shapes Male Relationships

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What if a man’s strongest allegiance isn’t to the relationship, but to the silent, unspoken loyalty he holds with other men?

In this eye-opening episode of the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast, Lynn exposes the invisible code that governs male loyalty — and the ways it subtly undermines emotional partnership. It's not always about cheating or cruelty. Sometimes, it's about who he protects when it really counts — and why you find yourself emotionally second in line.

This episode explores:

  • The quiet ways men prioritize male approval over relational intimacy
  • Why emotional exclusion and silence feel like betrayal — because they are
  • What “respect” among men actually protects — and who it leaves behind
  • How patriarchy stays alive through silence, avoidance, and emotional self-preservation
  • What this means for women navigating trust, connection, and emotional safety

If you’ve ever felt like your partner defends his friends before defending you... If you’ve called out harm only to watch other men go quiet… If you’ve felt like no one has your back — even in spaces that claim to support women...

This episode will give you clarity. Not just about him — but about the systems around him. You’ll walk away with a sharper lens, a stronger voice, and the permission to stop rationalizing emotional abandonment as loyalty.


🔗 Explore More:

🌐 Visit the Website:

https://movingforwardafterabuse.com

Explore free resources, articles, survivor tools, and deep-dive content to help you reclaim your power and heal from narcissistic abuse.

📚 Read the Books by Lynn:

https://movingforwardafterabuse.com/books-by-lynn/

Check out Lynn’s powerful books on narcissistic abuse recovery, manipulation tactics, and the emotional journey of healing. Perfect for survivors ready to take their next step.

💡 Want to support the show?

Leave us a tip 🎁 Tip Jar: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/waketheelephant

📝 Leave a Review:

If this episode brought you clarity or comfort, leave a quick review on your favorite podcast app. It helps others find us and keeps the message spreading.

Join our Exclusive Community: https://narcissisticabuserecovery.supercast.com/


Hosted by trauma-informed coach & author Lynn, this podcast helps survivors of narcissistic abuse uncover covert manipulation, set boundaries, and reclaim their voice. From family roles to patriarchy, we explore how personal healing intersects with cultural change.
🌐 Our LinkTree
☕ Support the show
📚 Books by Lynn
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Course Here

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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3 months ago
20 minutes 34 seconds

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast
Ep. 98 Alexithymia and Patriarchy: When Men Can’t Name Their Feelings, Everyone Pays the Price

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If you’ve ever loved someone who couldn’t name their own feelings — and spent years trying to fill in the blanks — this episode is for you. Today, we explore alexithymia: the quiet condition that leaves people emotionally mute, and often leaves their partners emotionally starving. We’ll unpack how patriarchal norms contribute to emotional suppression in men, how that silence takes shape in narcissistic abuse, and why survivors deserve clarity, validation, and relief.

Whether it showed up as cold silence, emotional invisibility, or decades of feeling unloved — you’re not imagining it. You were asked to carry the emotional weight of two people, and that has consequences.

We contrast alexithymia with emotional unavailability, dig into narcissistic patterns, and hold space for the women who’ve spent years translating feelings that were never expressed.

This isn’t just education. It’s liberation.

What You’ll Gain From This Episode:

  • A clear understanding of what alexithymia is — and how it differs from emotional unavailability
  • Insight into how emotional suppression contributes to narcissistic dynamics and long-term relational harm
  • Validation for survivors who’ve spent years feeling unseen, unheard, or emotionally deprived
  • Empowering language to articulate what they experienced and why it wasn’t their fault
  • Nuanced, trauma-informed distinctions that help prevent future relational patterns
  • Practical reflection questions that foster emotional clarity and personal growth
  • A compassionate yet unflinching look at how patriarchal conditioning silences emotion — and how reclaiming it is an act of healing


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🔗 Explore More:

🌐 Visit the Website:

Explore free resources, articles, survivor tools, and deep-dive content to help you reclaim your power and heal from narcissistic abuse.

📚 Read the Books by Lynn:

Check out Lynn’s powerful books on narcissistic abuse recovery, manipulation tactics, and the emotional journey of healing. Perfect for survivors ready to take their next step.

💡 Want to support the show?

Leave us a tip 🎁 Tip Jar:

📝 Leave a Review:

If this episode brought you clarity or comfort, leave a quick review on your favorite podcast app. It helps others find us and keeps the message spreading.



Listen to the Full Podcast on our Supercast Private Feed

https://narcissisticabuserecovery.supercast.com/

Hosted by trauma-informed coach & author Lynn, this podcast helps survivors of narcissistic abuse uncover covert manipulation, set boundaries, and reclaim their voice. From family roles to patriarchy, we explore how personal healing intersects with cultural change.
🌐 Our LinkTree
☕ Support the show
📚 Books by Lynn
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Course Here

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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3 months ago
4 minutes 55 seconds

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast
Ep. 97 The Purpose of the Patriarchy: Controlling Women’s Bodies, Choices and Sexuality

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Most people think the patriarchy is about power, dominance, or resource management. But what if the real goal has always been much more specific? What if every institution - marriage, religion, law, medicine, and cultural "morals" - has been designed to give men unrestricted access to women's bodies and sexuality?

In this episode, we explore:

  • Why the patriarchy isn't really about general power - it's about sexual access
  • How women are gaslit into motherhood from childhood by family and society
  • The uncomfortable truth about why mothers pressure daughters to have children
  • Why single women are pushed out by married friends and social circles
  • How modern backlash (abortion bans, economic discrimination) serves the same old purpose
  • The connection between societal control and narcissistic abuse tactics
  • Why articles about single women's happiness keep disappearing from the web
  • How cultural ostracization punishes women for choosing independence
  • Why this "war" against women's autonomy will never truly end
  • The real reason saying "no" is the most powerful act of defiance

This isn't about male-bashing. This is about recognizing patterns that have shaped our world for millennia and understanding why women's choices are still under constant attack.

Warning: This episode contains frank discussions about sexuality, reproductive control, and systemic manipulation. It may be triggering for survivors of abuse or those questioning traditional life paths.

If this episode resonates with you, please share it with someone who needs to hear it.


Watch the video here

🔗 Explore More:

🌐 Visit the Website:

Explore free resources, articles, survivor tools, and deep-dive content to help you reclaim your power and heal from narcissistic abuse.

📚 Read the Books by Lynn:

Check out Lynn’s powerful books on narcissistic abuse recovery, manipulation tactics, and the emotional journey of healing. Perfect for survivors ready to take their next step.

💡 Want to support the show?

Leave us a tip 🎁 Tip Jar:

📝 Leave a Review:

If this episode brought you clarity or comfort, leave a quick review on your favorite podcast app. It helps others find us and keeps the message spreading.


See also Episode 89, “The Silent Brotherhood,” for deeper insight into male loyalty codes.🎧 To hear this full episode, go to waketheelephant.gumroad.com/l/hiddenloyalty


Hosted by trauma-informed coach & author Lynn, this podcast helps survivors of narcissistic abuse uncover covert manipulation, set boundaries, and reclaim their voice. From family roles to patriarchy, we explore how personal healing intersects with cultural change.
🌐 Our LinkTree
☕ Support the show
📚 Books by Lynn
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Course Here

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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3 months ago
27 minutes 52 seconds

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast
Ep. 96 Why True Partnership Requires Destroying Patriarchy, Not Just Criticizing Men

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The Hidden Connection Between Narcissistic Abuse and Patriarchy: A Groundbreaking Episode

Have you ever wondered why toxic relationship patterns keep repeating, no matter how hard you try to "fix" things? What if I told you the problem isn't you, your partner, or even individual men – but an invisible system so pervasive that most people never see it operating? In this riveting episode, we uncover the shocking connection between narcissistic abuse and patriarchy that will fundamentally change how you understand relationships, power, and social change. This isn't another male-bashing session – it's a revolutionary approach to healing that liberates everyone from destructive patterns while holding people accountable for their actions.

What You'll Discover:

  • The devastating truth about why individual relationship "fixes" always fail
  • Shocking research findings connecting narcissistic abuse patterns to patriarchal systems
  • The exact same tactics both narcissists and patriarchy use: gaslighting, isolation, trauma bonding, and reality manipulation
  • Real-life examples of couples who transformed their relationships by addressing systemic patterns
  • Why this approach benefits everyone – including men trapped by toxic masculinity expectations
  • Practical steps to dismantle destructive patterns in your personal life and community
  • The liberation perspective that turns partners into allies instead of adversaries
  • How to hold people accountable while simultaneously changing the systems that create problems

Perfect for:

  • People healing from narcissistic abuse and toxic relationship patterns
  • Partners wanting authentic equality
  • Anyone interested in systemic social change

Join our Exclusive Community


Financial Independence Retire Early - Book Mentioned in Podcast


🔗 Explore More:

🌐 Visit the Website:

Explore free resources, articles, survivor tools, and deep-dive content to help you reclaim your power and heal from narcissistic abuse.

📚 Read the Books by Lynn:

Check out Lynn’s powerful books on narcissistic abuse recovery, manipulation tactics, and the emotional journey of healing. Perfect for survivors ready to take their next step.

💡 Want to support the show?

Leave us a tip 🎁 Tip Jar:

📝 Leave a Review:

If this episode brought you clarity or comfort, leave a quick review on your favorite podcast app. It helps others find us and keeps the message spreading.


See also Episode 89, “The Silent Brotherhood,” for deeper insight into male loyalty codes.🎧 To hear this full episode, go to waketheelephant.gumroad.com/l/hiddenloyalty

Hosted by trauma-informed coach & author Lynn, this podcast helps survivors of narcissistic abuse uncover covert manipulation, set boundaries, and reclaim their voice. From family roles to patriarchy, we explore how personal healing intersects with cultural change.
🌐 Our LinkTree
☕ Support the show
📚 Books by Lynn
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Course Here

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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3 months ago
36 minutes 53 seconds

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast
Ep. 95 Hidden Rage Women Were Never Allowed to Express

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In 1998, Alanis Morissette released "Sympathetic Character" - a raw, unflinching song that exposed truths most women knew but were never allowed to say out loud. Twenty-six years later, her words hit harder than ever: "I have as much rage as you have... and I've kept mine bubbling under for you."

This isn't just about one song. It's about the hidden rage millions of women carry - the anger they've been taught to swallow, the emotions they manage for everyone else while ignoring their own, and the exhausting reality of making men their everything only to lose themselves in the process.

In this episode, we dive deep into:

  • Why women were systematically taught to suppress their rage and manage everyone else's emotions
  • How the patriarchy designed dependency to keep women trapped without options
  • The real reason women walk on eggshells in relationships - and it's not just about "bad men"
  • Why making someone your best friend, lover, mentor, teacher, and savior sets you up for failure
  • How emotional labor became women's unpaid full-time job
  • The connection between financial independence and emotional freedom
  • What happens when women finally let their rage rise to the surface where it belongs

We're not man-bashing here - we're system-smashing. Because the truth is, when you have your own money, your own life, and your own voice, you don't have to keep your rage bubbling under for anybody.


🔗 Explore More:

🌐 Visit the Website:

https://movingforwardafterabuse.com

Explore free resources, articles, survivor tools, and deep-dive content to help you reclaim your power and heal from narcissistic abuse.

📚 Read the Books by Lynn:

https://movingforwardafterabuse.com/books-by-lynn/

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4 months ago
13 minutes 31 seconds

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast
Ep. 94 When Care Becomes Control: Recognizing Unhealthy Patterns in Loving Relationships

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Ever been in a relationship where someone takes care of everything for you, but something feels... off? You can't quite put your finger on it, but you feel smaller, more dependent, less like yourself. In this eye-opening episode, we explore the hidden mechanics of how genuine care can sometimes transform into patterns of control.

This isn't about judging relationship arrangements or traditional roles. Many couples thrive in partnerships where one person handles finances, another manages decisions, or where roles are divided in ways that work for both people. The real issue isn't WHO does WHAT—it's HOW these arrangements are established and maintained.

We dive deep into the psychology behind control patterns in caring relationships, examining how they can develop in any type of partnership, regardless of gender roles. Through real-world examples and research-backed insights, you'll learn to recognize the crucial difference between supportive partnership and emotional control.

Key topics covered:

  • The subtle shift from helpful support to controlling behavior
  • How financial care, decision-making, and "protection" can become tools of manipulation
  • The connection between relational control and narcissistic abuse patterns
  • Why these dynamics feel so familiar and "normal" to many of us
  • Red flags disguised as caring behavior
  • How to build healthy interdependence based on mutual respect

Drawing from peer-reviewed research on pathological narcissism and coercive control, this episode provides concrete tools for recognizing when care crosses the line into control. You'll discover why authentic care empowers while control diminishes, and how to ensure your partnerships are built on mutual respect rather than dependence.

Whether you're questioning dynamics in your own relationship, supporting someone you care about, or simply want to understand these patterns better, this episode offers valuable insights without judgment or blame. Remember: the best kind of care makes you stronger, not smaller.



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Hosted by trauma-informed coach & author Lynn, this podcast helps survivors of narcissistic abuse uncover covert manipulation, set boundaries, and reclaim their voice. From family roles to patriarchy, we explore how personal healing intersects with cultural change.
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4 months ago
24 minutes 26 seconds

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast
Ep. 93 Was Emotional and Financial Illiteracy the Patriarchy’s Perfect Trap?

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Have you ever felt like the system was rigged against you—like no matter how hard you tried, something invisible kept you stuck?

In this episode of The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast, we unpack how patriarchy created a devastating two-part trap: emotional illiteracy in men and financial illiteracy in women. These weren’t accidents—they were engineered to keep people disconnected, disempowered, and dependent.

We explore:

  • How boys are taught to suppress emotion, disconnect from vulnerability, and equate masculinity with numbness
  • How girls are conditioned to avoid money, mistrust their instincts, and depend on others for financial security
  • The historical and cultural systems that reinforced these roles—and how they still echo today
  • What patriarchy stole from both men and women: emotional fluency, financial freedom, and the right to live fully human lives
  • How this imbalance creates the perfect conditions for narcissistic abuse to thrive

This episode is for anyone who’s ever felt silenced, stuck, or ashamed for not knowing what they were never taught. If you’ve questioned why emotional connection feels impossible—or why leaving a harmful relationship feels terrifying—this conversation will help you name the trap, trace its roots, and begin to break free.


🔗 Explore More:

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Explore free resources, articles, survivor tools, and deep-dive content to help you reclaim your power and heal from narcissistic abuse.

📚 Read the Books by Lynn:

https://movingforwardafterabuse.com/books-by-lynn/

Check out Lynn’s powerful books on narcissistic abuse recovery, manipulation tactics, and the emotional journey of healing. Perfect for survivors ready to take their next step.

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Follow our work beyond the podcast: We publish essays and insights on Medium through our Moving Forward with Hope publication, and you can also find additional content and community updates on our Substack. Join us there to go deeper, connect with others, and support the movement.


See also Episode 89, “The Silent Brotherhood,” for deeper insight into male loyalty codes, and Lynn’s book Master Manipulators—now on Audible—for a full breakdown of covert narcissistic tactics.🎧 To hear this full episode, go to waketheelephant.gumroad.com/l/hiddenloyalty

Hosted by trauma-informed coach & author Lynn, this podcast helps survivors of narcissistic abuse uncover covert manipulation, set boundaries, and reclaim their voice. From family roles to patriarchy, we explore how personal healing intersects with cultural change.
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4 months ago
16 minutes 37 seconds

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast
Ep. 92 Why Patriarchy Indirectly Teaches Silence, Isolation and Your Compliance

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What if the rules you’ve been living by were never truly yours? What if they were designed to keep you silent, compliant, and doubting your own worth?

In this powerful episode of the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast, Lynn unpacks how patriarchal scripts condition us to stay small and why unlearning these patterns is key to real freedom and healing.

🔹 See how isolation isn’t random but a strategy designed to keep you disconnected, ashamed, and convinced your pain is a personal failure.

🔹 Explore how subtle side-eye glances, laws, religion, and culture taught generations to trade authenticity for approval.

🔹 Learn why these inherited scripts don’t just hurt women but create fertile ground for narcissistic abuse to flourish in silence.

🔹 Hear the electrifying true story of Lucy Stone, the fearless pioneer who dared to question everything and sparked the women’s rights movement long before most women were allowed to speak.

🔹 Understand the emotional and historical roots of self-silencing, and why questioning these patterns can lead to a soul-deep awakening.

🔹 Reflect on powerful questions: Have you ever felt like life doesn’t fit? Are you tired of carrying blame that was never yours? Do you wonder what it feels like to live unbound by cultural expectations?

This episode is for anyone who senses there’s more to life than the scripts they were handed. It’s for those ready to break the silence, reclaim their story, and see how unlearning patriarchal conditioning is essential for emotional safety and authentic connection.




If you’re ready to see the truth behind the scripts, awaken to new possibilities, and subscribe for more conversations that go deeper than anyone else will, hit play now. Let’s unravel these patterns together.


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Explore free resources, articles, survivor tools, and deep-dive content to help you reclaim your power and heal from narcissistic abuse.

📚 Read the Books by Lynn:

https://movingforwardafterabuse.com/books-by-lynn/

Check out Lynn’s powerful books on narcissistic abuse recovery, manipulation tactics, and the emotional journey of healing. Perfect for survivors ready to take their next step.

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See also Episode 89, “The Silent Brotherhood,” for deeper insight into male loyalty codes, and Lynn’s book Master Manipulators—now on Audible—for a full breakdown of covert narcissistic tactics.🎧 To hear this full episode, go to waketheelephant.gumroad.com/l/hiddenloyalty

Hosted by trauma-informed coach & author Lynn, this podcast helps survivors of narcissistic abuse uncover covert manipulation, set boundaries, and reclaim their voice. From family roles to patriarchy, we explore how personal healing intersects with cultural change.
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Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Course Here

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4 months ago
16 minutes 50 seconds

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast
Ep. 91 Why So Many Women Are Emotionally Drained by “Good Men”

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You thought it was just about him. His pullbacks. His silence. The way your needs felt like pressure and your presence felt like too much. But deep down, you knew it wasn’t personal. It was patterned.

In this powerful episode, we expose the quiet architecture of patriarchy and how it silently scripts our most intimate relationships. If you’ve ever been the one holding the emotional gravity while he hovered just out of reach, this conversation will validate what you’ve sensed all along: you weren’t just loving a man—you were carrying a system.

We’ll explore:

  • The emotional load men offload without realizing it—and how women absorb it
  • Why he wants your softness but resists your boundaries, truth, and anger
  • How patriarchal conditioning rewards women for being “the bigger person”
  • The trap of emotional dependence without accountability
  • Why “the good guy” can still leave you empty
  • How women become fluent in a language men are never required to learn
  • What it means to finally name the weight and put it down

This episode is not about blaming men—it’s about recognizing the invisible system that shaped them, and the cost women keep paying in the name of love.

If you’ve ever wondered why relationships feel so exhausting, why emotional labor falls on you, or why your truth keeps getting softened, this is your wake-up call. Not because you failed to love well—but because you were never meant to carry what he refused to hold.


Master Manipulators on Audible:

Further Reading:

What is Emotional Labor and Why Does it Matter?

Men's Loneliness Starts in Boyhood:


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🌐 Visit the Website:

https://movingforwardafterabuse.com

Explore free resources, articles, survivor tools, and deep-dive content to help you reclaim your power and heal from narcissistic abuse.

📚 Read the Books by Lynn:

https://movingforwardafterabuse.com/books-by-lynn/

Check out Lynn’s powerful books on narcissistic abuse recovery, manipulation tactics, and the emotional journey of healing. Perfect for survivors ready to take their next step.

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If this episode brought you clarity or comfort, leave a quick review on your favorite podcast app. It helps others find us and keeps the message spreading.


See also Episode 89, “The Silent Brotherhood,” for deeper insight into male loyalty codes.🎧 To hear this full episode, go to waketheelephant.gumroad.com/l/hiddenloyalty

Hosted by trauma-informed coach & author Lynn, this podcast helps survivors of narcissistic abuse uncover covert manipulation, set boundaries, and reclaim their voice. From family roles to patriarchy, we explore how personal healing intersects with cultural change.
🌐 Our LinkTree
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📚 Books by Lynn
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Course Here

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4 months ago
10 minutes 15 seconds

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast
Ep. 90 The Real Reason Some Men Resist Independent Women

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The Real Reason Some Men Resist Independent Women

Uncovering the Roots of Resistance

Why does a woman’s financial freedom still trigger discomfort in some men? In this episode, Lynn digs beneath surface-level stereotypes to expose the cultural machinery that equates “being a good man” with being needed. You’ll hear how centuries-old laws—like banks refusing women their own credit until 1974—still echo in today’s wage gaps, caregiving penalties, and financial abuse. We trace five main fault lines of resistance: loss of control, identity crises, caregiving myths, gender-role whiplash, and the sheer uncertainty of facing a blank page when the old script no longer fits.

Along the way you’ll learn:

  • how “provider” conditioning turns independence into a perceived threat
  • why peer-pressure slurs like “simp” and “whipped” police male behavior even in adulthood
  • what really happens when partners rewrite household roles and share emotional labor
  • the silent link between financial autonomy and women’s safety after break-ups, illness, or divorce
  • practical steps—on both sides—for turning power struggles into genuine partnership

If you’ve ever been called “too independent” or wondered why equality can feel like loss to someone else, this conversation will connect the dots. We also reference Episode 89, “The Silent Brotherhood,” for deeper insight into male loyalty codes, and highlight Lynn’s book Master Manipulators—now on Audible—for a full breakdown of covert narcissistic tactics.🎧 To hear this full episode, go to waketheelephant.gumroad.com/l/hiddenloyalty

Listen in, take a breath, and decide whether you’re still reading from yesterday’s lines or ready to write something new—together.

Learn More: Link: https://www.bath.ac.uk/announcements/husbands-stress-increases-if-wives-earn-more-than-40-per-cent-of-household-income-new-research/


Master Manipulators on Audible:

Watch the Video

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4 months ago
15 minutes 47 seconds

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast
Ep. 89 The Silent Brotherhood: What Women Don’t Know About Male Loyalty And Why It Matters

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🎧 This is an exclusive episode. To hear the full episode, click the link in the description or go to waketheelephant.gumroad.com/l/hiddenloyalty

What happens when a man’s deepest loyalty isn’t to you, but to his male peers? In this powerful episode of the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast, Lynn pulls back the curtain on the hidden emotional alliance between men that often goes unnoticed in relationships: the Silent Brotherhood.

This isn’t about overt betrayal. It’s about the subtle ways men prioritize male approval, protect male comfort, and stay quiet when it matters most—even at the cost of the women they claim to love.

We explore:

  • How the unspoken code between men shapes relationships
  • Why emotional exclusion feels like betrayal (because it is)
  • What male “respect” often means—and who it’s really for
  • How patriarchy survives through silence, not just aggression
  • What this all means for women seeking trust, equality, and connection

If you’ve ever felt dismissed, excluded, or like your partner is loyal to everyone but you, this episode will validate your experience and help you see the broader system at work.

You’ll leave with clarity—not just about him, but about what you need and deserve moving forward.


Have you ever confronted a man about betrayal or abuse—only to watch other men go quiet, shift uncomfortably, or subtly take his side?

You’re not imagining it.

There’s a hidden code of loyalty among men that protects power, silences women, and keeps harmful patterns alive. In this 20-minute special edition episode, we take a deeper look at how that brotherhood operates—and why women are often left unsupported, even in spaces that claim to be safe.

You’ll learn how men close ranks without saying a word, how male loyalty mirrors narcissistic dynamics, and why this silence feels like betrayal—because it is.



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Explore free resources, articles, survivor tools, and deep-dive content to help you reclaim your power and heal from narcissistic abuse.

📚 Read the Books by Lynn:

https://movingforwardafterabuse.com/books-by-lynn/

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Hosted by trauma-informed coach & author Lynn, this podcast helps survivors of narcissistic abuse uncover covert manipulation, set boundaries, and reclaim their voice. From family roles to patriarchy, we explore how personal healing intersects with cultural change.
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5 months ago
3 minutes 19 seconds

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast
Ep. 88 7 Truths About What Would Really Happen If Men Respected Women

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What Would Really Happen If Men Respected Women?

What if respect wasn’t something men said—but something they did?

What would it look like if women were seen not as helpers, healers, or background support—but as full, complex human beings with their own ambitions, emotions, and needs?

In this episode, we’re not just questioning gender roles. We’re peeling back the layers of performance, politeness, and patriarchy—and asking the questions that don’t usually get airtime.

You’ve heard men say they respect women.

But what does that really mean?

And more importantly—what happens when they don’t?

This episode isn’t about surface-level answers. It’s about the quiet truths no one wants to name.

To the contradictions in modern relationships.

To the biology excuses.

To the marriages where “partnership” is just another word for sacrifice.

We’re challenging the entire framework—power, pleasure, performance.

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Additional Reading:

OECD Report

Title: Man Enough? Measuring Masculine Norms to Promote Women’s Empowerment

Key finding:

"Men can feel threatened by increases in women's relative independence and resort to physical violence to re-establish their dominance and control in the household."

Source: OECD, 2021


UN Women Briefing

Title: The Manosphere Is No Joke: UN Women Explains Why

Key insight:

UN Women discusses how the rise of misogynistic online spaces is directly linked to backlash against women's empowerment and increased visibility.

Source: UN Women, 2025


World Economic Forum Article

Title: Do Successful Female Leaders Have to Deal with Intimidated Men?

Key finding:

"Men act more aggressively toward hypothetical female bosses... likely because they feel challenged by the women's authority."

Source: World Economic Forum, 2015


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Explore free resources, articles, survivor tools, and deep-dive content to help you reclaim your power and heal from narcissistic abuse.

📚 Read the Books by Lynn:

https://movingforwardafterabuse.com/books-by-lynn/

Check out Lynn’s powerful books on narcissistic abuse recovery, manipulation tactics, and the emotional journey of healing. Perfect for survivors ready to take their next step.

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If this episode brought you clarity or comfort, leave a quick review on your favorite podcast app. It helps others find us and keeps the message spreading.

Hosted by trauma-informed coach & author Lynn, this podcast helps survivors of narcissistic abuse uncover covert manipulation, set boundaries, and reclaim their voice. From family roles to patriarchy, we explore how personal healing intersects with cultural change.
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Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Course Here

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5 months ago
10 minutes 35 seconds

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast
Ep. 87 The Pick Me Culture: The Cost of Being Pickable

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In this powerful follow-up episode of the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast, Lynn dives deeper into the devastating cost of the Pick Me mindset—and how it continues to shape women’s lives in ways we often don’t realize until much later.

We’re not just talking about relationships anymore. We’re talking about ambition. Burnout. Sisterhood. Identity. And money.

Because the Pick Me culture doesn’t just ask women to be agreeable—it asks them to be invisible. It teaches them to shrink in boardrooms, overextend in relationships, compete in silence, and base their worth on being chosen. But what does that actually cost us?

In this episode, you’ll learn how this mindset:

  • Undermines women’s confidence and career advancement
  • Normalizes unpaid emotional labor in romantic and social relationships
  • Breeds quiet competition instead of community between women
  • Gradually erodes your sense of self and replaces it with performance
  • Reinforces the idea that financial freedom is optional, instead of essential

Lynn exposes how the Pick Me mindset is more than a social dynamic—it’s a system. One that thrives on silence, self-abandonment, and suppression. And breaking it isn’t just personal healing—it’s an act of resistance.

This episode invites you to ask harder questions:

  • Who are you if you stop performing for approval?
  • What happens when you stop waiting to be picked—and start choosing yourself?
  • Why is emotional labor expected from women… but never paid for?
  • How have we been conditioned to fear money, while still being expected to manage everything else for free?

Whether you're rebuilding after narcissistic abuse, reevaluating your own belief systems, or simply tired of holding everything together, this conversation is for you.

It’s time to stop measuring your worth by how well you fit into a patriarchal mold—and start reclaiming the parts of you that were never supposed to be small.

Mentioned in this episode:

  • Emotional labor and financial disempowerment
  • Workplace inequality and under-recognition
  • Identity loss through people-pleasing and social survival
  • How systemic conditioning mirrors the dynamics of abuse

🎧 Listen now to break the silence, unravel the mindset...

Catch the Video Here:



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Explore free resources, articles, survivor tools, and deep-dive content to help you reclaim your power and heal from narcissistic abuse.

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5 months ago
11 minutes 18 seconds

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast
Ep. 86 The Pick Me Culture: Why Women Are Still Expected to Be Chosen

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Why are women still expected to be chosen—and not the ones doing the choosing? In this powerful episode of the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast, host Lynn breaks down the cultural conditioning, historical oppression, and emotional grooming that built what we now recognize as the Pick Me Culture.

This isn’t just a meme or a trend. It’s a deeply ingrained belief system passed down through generations, subtly shaping how women view their worth, their relationships, and their role in the world. From patriarchal programming to narcissistic abuse dynamics, we unpack how the Pick Me mindset primes women to accept control, dismiss red flags, and shrink themselves to fit into systems built to keep them small.

In this episode, we explore:

  • How the Pick Me Culture evolved and why it still exists
  • The historical roots of marriage, survival, and female dependence
  • Why language like “unmarried” still reinforces outdated norms
  • How societal pressure leads women to prioritize being wanted over being whole
  • The connection between being overly agreeable and attracting emotionally manipulative or narcissistic partners
  • How cultural systems mirror narcissistic abuse through gaslighting, self-abandonment, and identity erasure
  • The quiet stigma that still surrounds single, autonomous women
  • Why women are conditioned to define themselves through men—and how we can begin to undo that

We discuss how girls were not raised to lead, build, or dream—but to wait. Wait to be picked. Wait to be chosen. Wait to become “someone’s” wife, partner, or mother. And how that wait becomes a trap—one that sets the stage for exploitation, emotional manipulation, and relationship trauma.

This episode is essential listening for survivors of narcissistic abuse, women in the process of deconstructing patriarchy, and anyone beginning to notice the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways that gender roles, social validation, and emotional labor intersect to hold women back.

We don’t just talk about dating or marriage—we talk about survival systems, identity formation, power dynamics, and the psychological costs of being raised to please. Whether you’re child-free, single, divorced, partnered, or in the thick of rediscovering yourself, this episode will resonate deeply with your journey.

🎧 Listen in to reclaim your voice, rebuild your self-worth, and remember this:

You were never meant to be picked. You were meant to be free.


🔗 Explore More:

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Explore free resources, articles, survivor tools, and deep-dive content to help you reclaim your power and heal from narcissistic abuse.

📚 Read the Books by Lynn:

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Check out Lynn’s powerful books on narcissistic abuse recovery, manipulation tactics, and the emotional journey of healing. Perfect for survivors ready to take their next step.

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5 months ago
10 minutes 46 seconds

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast
Ep. 85 The Patriarchy Isn’t Just Upheld by Men: How Women Are Trained to Enforce It Too

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What if the patriarchy isn’t just upheld by men? What if the voices enforcing it are sometimes women’s—your friends, your coworkers, your mother, or even...your own?

In this powerful episode of the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast, Lynn dives deep into the uncomfortable truth that many women, often unknowingly, support the very systems designed to hold them back. From internalized misogyny to the relentless pursuit of male approval, we break down how women are conditioned to uphold the patriarchy—and how we can begin to break free.

You’ll hear raw reflections on:

  • The social programming that trains women to prioritize everyone but themselves
  • “Pick Me” behavior and how it derails collective empowerment
  • The glorification of male validation and how it steals women’s autonomy
  • Subtle ways women judge and police one another to stay “in line”
  • How traditional gender roles keep women stuck in emotional labor and self-erasure
  • Signs of internalized misogyny you may not realize you’ve adopted

This is not about blaming women. It’s about reclaiming power—and waking up to the unconscious beliefs that keep us small. As always, we keep it real, reflective, and focused on growth.

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Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast

Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast

Validate. Rebuild. Revolutionize (and Patriarchy Deconstruction)

Discover a safe haven and a wellspring of insight with the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast. In this candid, relevant, and eye-opening show, host Lynn, author and passionate recovery advocate, guides you through the landscape of toxic relationships and covert narcissistic abuse dynamics. With honesty, depth, and tough love, Lynn helps you recognize subtle manipulation tactics and offers practical strategies to heal, rebuild, and reclaim your power.

Episodes dive deep into the complexities of narcissistic family systems, exploring roles like scapegoat and golden child, and shedding light on the pain of ostracization. We tackle topics like going no contact, setting boundaries, and uncovering covert dynamics that keep you from thriving. Our conversations go beyond personal trauma to examine how narcissism is woven into broader cultural systems, including patriarchy’s influence on gender roles and equality.

  • In-Depth Conversations: Learn about covert tactics like gaslighting, emotional manipulation, and financial control, and discover actionable steps for setting boundaries and reclaiming independence.
  • Practical Guidance: From detailed strategies for going no contact to insights on handling emotional labor and overcoming self-doubt, our episodes offer tools you can apply right away.
  • Broader Perspectives: Understand how narcissistic abuse intersects with societal issues like gender inequality, workplace bias, and cultural conditioning. Our work goes beyond personal relationships to show how narcissism is embedded in cultural systems and structures like patriarchy. By unpacking gender roles and systemic inequality, we aim to reveal how these dynamics shape our lives. Available on all major podcast networks. Subscribe today.

This podcast exists to expose and challenge the systems that diminish, control, and silence. We focus on what has been overlooked, question what has been normalized, and create space for healing, clarity, and collective strength. Serving as a resource of hope, encouragement, and validation, so victims of narcissistic abuse can rebuild their lives and pursue dreams, visions, and intentional living.


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Lynn is a trauma-informed narcissistic abuse recovery coach, author, and creator of the YouTube Channel, Wake the Elephant. Her books include Overcoming the Devastation of Narcissistic Abuse: How to Heal, Recover and Take Your Life Back and Master Manipulators: Discover Covert Tactics Narcissists Devise to Manipulate, Deceive and Control.


This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. The content shared is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are experiencing a mental health crisis, please seek help from a qualified professional or contact a local crisis hotline.


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