In this powerful and intimate episode, Stacie explores the deeper truth behind manifestation, that real change isn’t about chasing desires, but about embodying a new identity. She unpacks the energetic, psychological, and spiritual layers of identity work, showing how our self-concept quietly dictates what’s possible for us.
With vulnerability and grace, Stacie opens up about her own lived experiences — including the pain, anger, and even moments of suicidal ideation that surfaced while trying to manifest financial freedom. She shares how these moments of darkness can be part of a deeper initiation, an energetic death of the old self and how surrendering to that process can create space for divine abundance to flow.
This conversation offers no quick fixes or surface-level affirmations. Instead, it invites listeners to trust the sacred timing of their becoming, to honour the discomfort that arises during transformation, and to remember that even when life feels unbearable, you are not broken, you are becoming.
Takeaways
Manifestation and identity shifts are interconnected but distinct processes.
True change occurs when one's self-concept aligns with desired outcomes.
Effortless shifts often happen when internal beliefs match external realities.
Trauma can create subconscious blocks that hinder manifestation.
Surrendering control can lead to deeper peace and acceptance.
Self-worth is not tied to external achievements or financial success.
The universe reflects our true beliefs, not just our spoken affirmations.
Spiritual alignment plays a crucial role in the timing of identity shifts.
Exploring resistance can reveal deeper beliefs that need to be addressed.
Transformation involves both internal and external changes, requiring patience and trust.
Titles
Manifestation vs. Identity: The Key to Transformation
Unlocking Change: The Power of Identity Shifts
Chapters
00:00 Manifestation vs. Identity Shift
04:46 The Power of Identity in Change
09:41 Understanding Delayed Manifestation
14:07 The Role of Trauma and Self-Concept
18:48 Surrendering to Divine Timing
23:16 Exploring Spiritual Alignment
28:16 The Energetic Layers of Identity Work
32:59 Integrating Reflection and Action
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Are you truly calm, or just numb? In this episode, we explore functional freeze — the silent emotional shutdown that masquerades as independence, low libido, or emotional maturity. Learn how to recognise the subtle ways your nervous system protects you from vulnerability, and how these patterns affect your relationships, intimacy, and sense of joy. Discover practical steps to safely ‘thaw’ and reconnect with your body, emotions, and aliveness. Whether you struggle with attachment, past trauma, or just feel disconnected from yourself, this episode helps you understand the difference between surviving and truly living. Start noticing your emotional waves, reclaiming your nervous system, and stepping into deeper connection and presence today.
Feeling stuck in self-doubt or questioning your worth as an entrepreneur? In this 10-minute guided session, Stacie Spiler, founder of MAP Coaching, helps you release limiting beliefs, align with your next-level identity, and step confidently into your business. Perfect for women entrepreneurs ready to build success from the inside out.
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In this conversation, Stacie Spiler delves into the complex interplay of identity, gender, and the development of children. She emphasises the importance of providing a clear framework for children to understand their identities while allowing for exploration and self-expression. The discussion highlights the potential confusion that can arise from a lack of clarity and the impact of societal labels on children's self-concept. Stacie advocates for a balanced approach that fosters freedom within a context of understanding, ultimately aiming to support children's mental health and well-being.TakeawaysFreedom without understanding can create unintentional harm.Children need a framework to understand themselves.Clarity in identity gives children a foundation.Labels should be tools for understanding, not templates for confusion.Exploration is vital for developing confidence and creativity.Children are still forming their self-concept.Teaching children to fully accept themselves is essential.The way we talk about identity today is historically new.Children thrive when they have freedom and clarity.Freedom and possibility enhance growth, not confusion.Chapters00:00 Exploring Identity and Gender in Children05:39 The Balance of Freedom and Responsibility10:58 The Impact of Labels on Self-Concept16:45 Navigating Identity with Context and Clarity24:15 Empowering Children Through Understanding#genderidentity #parenting #genderequality
Are you truly manifesting—or subtly manipulating your reality without realizing it?
In this episode of Mindset by Design, we uncover the hidden reason your manifestations aren’t working — and it has nothing to do with how hard you’re trying. It’s about energy, alignment, and the beliefs you’re unconsciously carrying beneath the surface.
What if your manifestation practice isn’t blocked… it’s just misaligned?
When you operate from control, fear, or old conditioning, you’re not manifesting — you’re managing outcomes from survival mode. And that energy can’t hold what you’re asking for.
You’ll learn:
💫 The energetic difference between manifesting and manipulating
🧠 How fear and control quietly sabotage your manifestations
🌿 What “receivership” really means — and how to embody the frequency of knowing it already is
🪞How to reprogram the beliefs and nervous system patterns that keep you chasing instead of allowing
This isn’t about toxic positivity or forcing yourself to “feel good.”
It’s about building a new internal ecosystem — one rooted in safety, trust, and alignment with what’s already meant for you.
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🎧 Tune in to shift from control to co-creation.
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Because the moment you stop trying to get it right… is the moment everything starts to align.
In this conversation, Stacie Spiler explores the themes of manifestation, personal transformation, and the in-between stages of growth. She discusses her journey through trauma, the shift in her identity, and the importance of aligning with new values and perspectives. Stacie emphasises the role of money as energy and the need to heal relationships with the divine masculine to embrace abundance fully. The conversation concludes with insights on co-creating with the universe and the evolution of her podcast's direction.
Takeaways
Manifestation involves navigating an in-between stage of transformation.
Personal growth often requires letting go of past identities.
Healing trauma is essential for embracing new perspectives.
Money should be viewed as energy, not a stigma.
Aligning with high-vibrational clients enhances the coaching experience.
The divine masculine plays a crucial role in our relationship with wealth.
Co-creation with the universe is about trusting the process.
Patience is key in the journey of personal development.
Recognizing the value of oneself is essential for growth.
The podcast is transitioning to reflect a new focus on mindset.
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Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Manifestation and Quantum Leaps
05:40 Shifting Perspectives on Trauma and Healing
10:59 The Role of Money and Abundance in Personal Growth
17:06 Understanding the Divine Masculine and Wealth
22:41 Conclusion and Future Directions
Do you feel a quiet pull toward something greater but have no evidence it will work out? This episode is for those who know deep down they were made for more but have yet to see results, validation, or recognition.
In this episode, I share how to distinguish the voice of Source from the noise of your mind, why the preparation phase is essential, and how to stay connected to your why even when nothing external confirms it. I dive into practical strategies for aligning with your calling, building consistency, and managing your energy while learning and creating in the “invisible” season.
I also walk you through a glimpse of my own daily routine—how I structure my days to live fully aligned with my calling, from morning rituals to creative work, study, and self-management. This episode is designed to help you trust your path, stay in your lane, and cultivate the patience and resilience needed to manifest your purpose.
If you’ve tried multiple jobs, felt out of place, or questioned whether your calling is real, this conversation is for you. Learn how to honour your journey, celebrate invisible progress, and take aligned action even without external proof.
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Are you struggling with self-sabotage, inner conflict, or patterns you can’t seem to break? In this video, I explore Internal Family Systems (IFS) and how building relationships with your parts can transform healing. Instead of rejecting your managers, firefighters, or exiles — I’ll show you how compassion and awareness create real change.If you’ve ever felt stuck in shame, judgment, or toxic patterns, this episode will help you understand your parts, unlearn harmful narratives, and embrace your shadows as essential to your growth.✨ Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share if this resonates. Your support helps spread this message to others on their healing journey.📌 Subscribe for more insights on:Trauma HealingFamily Dynamics & RolesRelationship GrowthSelf-Development & Mindset ShiftsInternal Family Systems (IFS)🔗 Links:🌐 Website: https://staciespiler.com/📺 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Ditching_The_Dysfunction🐦 Twitter/X: https://x.com/StacieSpiler🛠 Toolkit: https://drive.google.com/file/d/17T2Uz4mkVEw06LbDnhcqMTdCCTTvp6rQ/view?usp=sharing#TraumaHealing #SelfDevelopment #RelationshipHealing #MotivationalSpeaker #MindsetShift
In this conversation, Stacie Spiler discusses the concept of triangulation in parenting, where children are pulled into adult conflicts, leading to emotional burdens that hinder their development. She explains how this dynamic creates roles such as scapegoat and peacemaker among siblings, affecting their emotional well-being and relationships. Stacie emphasizes the importance of breaking this cycle to allow children to experience a safe and nurturing environment, free from adult problems. She encourages parents to reflect on their family dynamics and the long-term implications for their children's future relationships.
Takeaways
Triangulation can harm children by involving them in adult conflicts.
Children often feel responsible for maintaining peace in the home.
Roles like scapegoat and peacemaker can develop among siblings.
These roles can lead to anxiety and emotional issues in children.
Parents can break the cycle by setting boundaries and communicating directly.
Children deserve to feel safe and free to be themselves.
Family dynamics shape children's future relationships and coping mechanisms.
Awareness of triangulation is crucial for healthy parenting.
Parents should reflect on their behaviour and its impact on children.
Therapeutic coaching can help parents apply these insights in their lives.
Sound bites
"Kids absorb, they feel responsible for the peace."
"This is triangulation in action."
"They stop being free to just be themselves."
Chapters
00:00 Understanding Triangulation in Parenting
05:46 Breaking the Cycle of Triangulation
10:42 Empowering Children to Be Themselves
Ever wondered why your family felt like it had “set roles” growing up? 🤔 In this video, we break down Family Systems Theory — how families operate as interconnected webs, the survival roles children adopt (Hero, Scapegoat, Lost Child, Mascot), and how these patterns can follow us into adulthood.
You’ll learn:
✅ What a family system is & why it matters
✅ The 4 common childhood roles explained
✅ How these patterns impact relationships & self-worth
✅ Practical steps to break generational cycles
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In this conversation, Stacie Spiler explores the profound impact of our thoughts and beliefs on our lives. She discusses how repetitive thought patterns can trap individuals in cycles of low vibrational living, emphasising the importance of recognising and changing these narratives. Stacie introduces the concept of the higher self and the necessity of accountability in personal growth. She outlines a framework for transformation that includes recognising patterns, taking responsibility, and maintaining consistency in efforts to change. The conversation culminates in a call to action for listeners to embrace their potential and make conscious choices for a better future.Chapters00:00 The Power of Thoughts and Patterns06:35 Understanding Your Past and Present12:39 The Cost of Change18:33 Taking Accountability for Your Life23:51 Reinventing Your Beliefs33:43 Consistency: The Key to TransformationTakeawaysEvery day, we have 60 to 80,000 thoughts.95% of our thoughts are the same as yesterday.Our beliefs and narratives shape our reality.Low vibrational thinking keeps us stuck in cycles.Recognizing our patterns is the first step to change.Accountability is crucial for personal growth.Changing thoughts requires consistent effort.Our higher self exists on a different frequency.Transformation costs us our old beliefs and narratives.Consistency is key to rewiring our thinking.
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In this episode of Ditching The Dysfunction, I dive deep into a topic we rarely talk about: the responsibility that comes with love. We often hear “love is given freely,” but in romantic relationships—and even in deep family bonds—love asks something of us.
I explore what it truly means to be ready tohold love, how to create a safe, nurturing container for your partner, and why sometimes love requires saying “no” rather than giving in.
Through personal stories—from step-parenting and earning the trust of my stepkids to navigatingpast marriages and invitations to commit—I break down what readiness,consistency, and conscious presence really look like.
Listeners will reflect on questions like:
· Are you truly ready to carry the responsibilityof love?
· Can you consistently provide emotional safety,even when it’s uncomfortable?
· How do you create a container where love canflourish rather than simply survive?
If you’ve ever wondered why relationshipssometimes fail despite love being present, or how to move beyond unconsciouspatterns in your connections, this episode is for you.
What does it really mean when your spirit feels fractured? How do fear, integrity, and karma shape the life you live—and the patterns you keep repeating? In this episode, we explore the subtle signs that your soul is out of alignment, how these fractures show up in your relationships and even in your children, and why peace can sometimes feel unfamiliar after years of chaos. I share insights on recognising these patterns, honouring your needs, and choosing conscious alignment, even when it’s uncomfortable. Tune in to discover how living with integrity can restore your spirit, transform your energy, and help you step into a life that truly reflects your soul.
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If you’re seeking guidance to heal from past trauma, understand attachment patterns, or disrupt the narratives that no longer serve you, my coaching sessions provide compassionate, trauma-informed support tailored to your journey. Together, we explore practical tools to create lasting change, restore alignment, and cultivate self-trust.
Key Topics & Keywords:
Trauma-informed coaching
Therapeutic support for women
Attachment healing
Disrupting limiting narratives
Emotional resilience
Navigating relationship patterns
Personal growth insights
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We’ve been taught that stability means playing it safe—holding onto the job, the routine, the image of control. But what if that very idea of “stability” is the real cage keeping you stuck? In this episode, I explore the hidden cost of society’s version of stability—how it breeds stagnation, stress, and fear—and contrast it with the deeper, truer stability that unlocks freedom. Through real stories and practical insights, you’ll discover how to stop gripping so tightly, trust the natural flow of life, and find the kind of stability that expands you rather than limits you.
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What if the biggest influence on who you are today wasn’t your parents’ love—it was their fear? Their fear of you getting hurt, rejected, or failing. And without realising it, you may still be living out their fear.
In this episode, I explore how many of us were parented through fear before we ever understood love—and how those early lessons shape the way we show up in our adult relationships, our parenting, and even the way we see ourselves. This isn’t about shaming parents—it’s about uncovering the unconscious patterns we inherited, so we can break cycles and build deeper, safer connections with the people we love most.
If you’ve ever wondered why you react the way you do, why connection sometimes feels so hard, or how to parent without passing on the same fears, this conversation is for you.
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Your emotions are not drama — they’re data. In this episode, we explore how primary and secondary emotions shape your reactions, relationships, and self-understanding. Learn how trauma and early environments influence your emotional wiring, why your nervous system reacts the way it does, and practical steps to decode your emotions, respond consciously, and reclaim emotional freedom.
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In this raw and unfiltered episode, I share my journey from being the abused to becoming the abuser—how survival turned into narcissistic traits, and the pivotal moment that sparked real change. We’ll explore what it means to stop hurting others, start giving love, and become a catalyst for growth—without shame, without judgment, and with the occasional f-bomb.
Ever wondered how someone goes from chaotic childhood to taking control of their life—and laughing through the mess? In this first episode of Ditching the Dysfunction, I introduce myself, my story, and the no-BS approach that powers this show. From questioning my parents at age five to rewiring my brain with coaching and psychotherapy tools, I share how I learned to disrupt the narratives, face the shadows, and start living on my terms. Expect laughs, raw honesty, and a little f-bomb here and there. Let’s ditch the dysfunction—together.
Takeaways
Stacie Spiler introduces her podcast focused on overcoming dysfunction.
Childhood experiences shape our narratives and patterns.
Disrupting negative stories is key to transformation.
Accountability is often mistaken for blame.
Big emotions can be embraced as friends, not enemies.
Contempt signals when personal boundaries are violated.
Emotions are not ugly; they teach us important lessons.
Simplicity in healing is often complicated by trauma.
Listeners are encouraged to reclaim their power.
Shadows can be seen as secret superpowers rather than enemies.
Titles
Ditching the Dysfunction
Sound bites
"We mistake accountability for blame."
"Maybe this anger is my friend."
"They're not ugly, they're not catastrophic."
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Ditching Dysfunction
00:59 Childhood Reflections and Early Realisations
03:58 Disrupting Negative Narratives
05:53 Embracing Emotions and Patterns
09:38 Conclusion and Next Steps
