When life is moving a mile a minute, it’ might feel like you just want to get in your car and get away for a few days. But you don’t need to book a vacation or escape your life to get back in control. You can shift the energy in the moment, right where you are. And really, this is where our healing actually happens, right here, right now, in how we take control of ourselves on a moment by moment basis.

In this episode, I share three powerful ways to get grounded and in control, even when everything around you feels chaotic:

• Managing your energy with Spoon Theory – a practical way to understand your limits and use your resources wisely.
• Taking charge of your thoughts and self-talk – how to stop the inner spiral and slow down.
• Being responsible for the energy you bring into a room – how to stop adding to the negativity and reset your energy quickly.

Think of this episode as a reminder that you don’t need to overhaul your your whole entire life—you may just need a few small, intentional shifts to feel more calm and grounded right now.

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In this episode of Is It Me or Is It Them?, we unpack one of the most misunderstood ideas about anxiety: the belief that feeling safe is the ultimate goal. We're going to explore why seeking safety can sometimes keep us stuck—and why building trust in ourselves is a more sustainable path forward.

Drawing on my work as a therapist, and real-life examples from clients and my own experiences, I walk you through the subtle but important shift from trying to avoid discomfort to learning we can handle it.

What You’ll Hear:

• Why “safety” might not be what you actually need
• The difference between control and trust
• How to build inner confidence and resilience, especially after trauma
• A reframe for those of us who tend to overprepare, overthink, or retreat
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If you’ve ever tried to fix your anxiety by making your world smaller—by canceling plans, avoiding conflict, or needing constant reassurance—this one’s for you.

Resources + Next Steps:

• Try a self-trust journal prompt this week: What have I already survived that proves I can do hard things?
• Want support applying this to your own life or relationship? Learn more at www.aprilboyd.ca

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No one warns you about this part of love. One day you look across the table at the person you built a life with—and ask yourself: What if I made a huge mistake?

You have spent years getting to know them better than they may even know themselves- and some of it's ugly.

And you wonder: Is this still workable—or am I just fooling myself?

In this episode of Is It Me or Is It Them?, we’re talking about the part of long-term relationships that doesn’t get enough acknowledgment: The moment when your partner’s flaws aren’t just annoying, they are damn right repulsive, infuriating—and they make you question everything.

Here’s what we explore:

• Why seeing the worst in your partner is sometimes inevitable—and what it means
• The difference between difficult and deal breaker
• How your nervous system interprets relationship conflict as danger
• The internal process you need to go through before making major decisions
• Why even good people can still be wildly incompatible sometimes
• What to do when love starts to feel like work you don’t want to do
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Whether you’re in the middle of a long slow burnout or just hit a bump that’s bigger than usual, this conversation is here to bring some clarity, calm, and honest reflection.

Mentioned in this episode:

→ The Reset Your Relationship audio program – now self-paced and audio-only, for busy people doing hard relationship work.

Check it out here.

If this episode resonates, share it with someone else who’s wondering what’s “normal” in long-term love—and what isn’t. And as always, thank you for being here.

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What do you do when the problem isn’t just your in-laws—but your partner’s refusal to set limits with them?

In today’s episode of Is It Me or Is It Them? we’re talking about one of the most painful and confusing dynamics that shows up in relationships: when your partner won’t back you up, won’t speak up, and won’t protect the boundaries that matter to you.

You’re not imagining it. You’re not being too sensitive.

You’re not crazy—you’re just outnumbered.

Here’s what we’ll explore:

• Why your partner might be avoiding hard conversations with their family (even when they agree with you privately)
• How your people-pleasing, approval-seeking tendencies might be keeping you stuck
• Why waiting for your partner to “handle it” often backfires
• What it looks like to stop outsourcing your self-respect
• The mindset shift that changes everything: Above no one. Below no one.

You’ll also hear a real (anonymous) client story about what changed when she stopped trying to get her partner to fix it—and started showing up as her own steady, grounded, grown-ass self.

This is not about going to war. This is about stepping out of the dance of dysfunction and giving yourself permission to speak truth, hold the line, and take up space—with clarity and dignity.

If this episode resonates, I’d love if you shared it with someone who needs to hear it. And if you’re ready to go deeper into the work of getting on the same page as your partner, check out the Reset & Reconnect program here.

Thanks for listening. I’m so glad you’re here.

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In today’s episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on a cultural trend that might seem harmless, but actually functions as a form of social control: the "Karen" meme.

While it may have started as a way to call out rude or entitled behaviour, it’s morphed into something much darker—something that often punishes women for speaking up, setting boundaries, or simply taking up space. Especially as they age.

Drawing on personal experience and research, April unpacks how the Karen label is weaponized to silence assertiveness in women, while men exhibiting the same behaviours are often rewarded or even celebrated.

What We Explore in This Episode:

• 🔹 Why calling someone a “Karen” is more than just a joke—it’s a tool of silencing
• 🔹 The disturbing double standards women face in leadership, public, and social spaces
• 🔹 The emotional cost of always having to be “extra nice” just to avoid backlash
• 🔹 Why male assertiveness is respected—and female assertiveness is often resented
• 🔹 How this meme reinforces internalized misogyny among women themselves
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Stats You’ll Hear in This Episode:

🧠 33% of women in performance reviews were told they’re “too opinionated” — compared to just 4% of men source

🗣 Women’s perceived competence drops 35% when they are described as assertive source

👔 66% of women receive feedback about their personal style (tone, demeanor) vs. 1% of men source

A Personal Story:

April shares a moment during a family trip in Amsterdam when she found herself at risk of being labeled a “Karen”—just for holding her ground about a café table she’d been given.

This episode is an invitation to:

• Question how we treat assertive women
• Notice how we might be unconsciously policing each other
• Start calling out sexism—even when it’s hiding behind a meme
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If you liked this episode, you might also enjoy:

• Silence or Truth? Two Times I Bit My Tongue—And One Time I Didn’t
• The Ugly Truth About Long-Term Love
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Thanks for listening.

If this resonated with you, share it with someone else who'd benefit from hearing it. And if you have a story or topic you'd like April to talk about on the show, feel free to reach out.

✨ This podcast is a place for nuance, honesty, and taking up space with dignity.

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Welcome back to Is It Me or Is It Them? After a short break, I’m so glad to be back with you—and today, we’re diving into something that comes up all the time in relationships: the fear of speaking up.

You might think the problem is that you don’t know how to say it. But what if the real issue is that you don’t think you’re allowed to?

In this episode, we’ll explore:

• Why many people struggle to voice their needs, even when the words are right there
• The cultural and relational conditioning that makes speaking up feel unsafe
• How guilt, shame, and people-pleasing silence us—and what that silence costs
• A mindset shift that can help you speak with more clarity, confidence, and care
• What to ask yourself when you’re stuck between honesty and harmony

Whether you're dealing with in-laws, a disconnected partner, or a moment where your heart is screaming to say something but your mouth won’t move—this conversation will help you start untangling the inner blocks to speaking your truth.

Mentioned in this episode:

• My break from the podcast and why honouring your own season matters
• The importance of knowing your intentions before having a hard conversation
• What it looks like to be direct and kind (at the same time)

If this episode resonates, I’d be so grateful if you’d leave a review or share it with a friend. And if you're navigating these kinds of stuck points in your own relationship, check out the Reset & Reconnect program here.

Thanks for listening—I’ll see you next time.

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Today we explore two reasons why  the heavy burden many women feel when juggling responsibilities in their personal and professional lives. The conversation dives into the cultural expectations that lead to overfunctioning, how these beliefs impact relationships and why over-working becomes a stress management tool you probably don't even notice you're using.

• Discussing the overwhelming mental load women carry
• Societal expectations and the "good wife" stereotype
• The correlation between overfunctioning and self-worth
• Unpacking overfunctioning as a coping strategy for stress
• Challenging fears of being seen as demanding in relationships
• Introducing the Reset and Reconnect Program to help shift dynamics

Come check out Reset and Reconnect and see if this program feels right for you.

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The episode dives deep into the often-overlooked dynamic where one partner assumes a parental role over the other. We explore the roots of this behavior, how it can backfire, and actionable ways to restore balance in relationships.

 
• The pitfalls of becoming a caretaker rather than a partner
• How societal expectations play into relationship dynamics
• Strategies for breaking the cycle of over-functioning

Check out the "Reset and Reconnect" program for couples ready to evolve their relationship dynamics! 

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We all know that building healthy relationships requires open communication- but what when they don't want to hear what you have to say?  What about those times when it just seems to cause or fight- or worse- leaves you feeling dismissed and ignored?

When it doesn't feel it's okay to say what you need to say, you can develop a habit of biting your tongue, stuffing down your needs, and just trying harder to be more tolerant, more understanding, more forgiving.

But this doesn't get us what we want- and sometimes, like in my story that I'm sharing with you here- it's actually just makes things worse.

So today we're diving deep into the self-sacrificing and peace-making tendencies that can create emotional distance and contribute to the erosion of a relationship over time.  

Reset & Reconnect is open! This is a course for couples who want to create more balance, have more productive conversations and get back to things feeling fun and easy again.

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Are you feeling the anxiety & stress that's all around us right now? Me too. That's why I decided to put some energy into the things I can control - and I'm inviting you to do the same by channelling your anxiety into your purpose. 

This conversation is a call to action for those with a yearning to share their ideas—whether it's writing a book, launching a business, or starting a nonprofit. 

Join me Saturday for a free workshop, Create & Contribute, where I'm going to share some of the questions I ask myself and processes I use when I am beginning a new project or putting my work out into the world.

Sign up here.

Right now the world needs more acts of care, service & contribution.  We need more do-gooders. 

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Can a simple act of validation shift our relationships, both personally and professionally? Join me, April Boyd, as I share insights from my facilitator training session on the "Is it Me or Is it Them" podcast. We'll explore why acknowledging emotions is a critical ingredient in creating genuine connections, helping others and avoiding conflict.

 Whether you're consoling a grieving friend, having a difference of opinion with a colleague, or talking to your partner, understanding the power of validation is key to ensuring everyone feels truly heard and understood. I delve into practical strategies to incorporate this essential tool into your everyday interactions, promising a new level of effective communication and deeper connection.

But that's not all! I extend an invitation to a free workshop aimed at helping you get your gifts and ideas into the world.

This Saturday at 11 am Eastern, we gather for our first session of the "do-gooders club," a place to share your ideas, get support and ask me any questions about how I've wrote my books, created the Love & Loss Project or grew my private practice. 

Whether you're dreaming of writing a book, starting a business, or simply spreading kindness when this world needs it most, this session offers encouragement, clarity, and community support. Your ideas hold immense power, and together, we can harness it to make a meaningful impact in the world. Join us to fuel your imagination and contribute to a kinder, gentler world.

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Is it just a rough patch or a sign of a deeper relationship issue? This is the question I should have been asking during my first marriage and today I'm finally going to share my story. Join me, April Boyd, as I unravel the complexities of relationship dynamics, unpacking the difference between temporary stressors and recurring patterns that may indicate something more serious. Through my personal experiences, I touch on the importance of recognizing when a pattern of feeling unseen and unheard becomes too persistent to ignore. This conversation invites you to reflect on your own relationships and consider whether your struggles are truly temporary or symptoms of a larger issue that needs your attention.

As we explore this topic, I'm thrilled to introduce an upcoming program designed to transform relationships by going deeper into your own personal growth, and reconnecting with the stronger, happier version of you as you change the ways you and your partner communicate and connect.  Don't miss your chance to be part of this transformative journey; sign up for my email list to receive exclusive updates and invitations. Thank you for joining me on this path to living more authentic lives and nurturing the relationships that matter most!

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When things feel frightening and uncertain in the world around me, I try to go back to what I know for sure. One thing I know for sure is that we need more do-gooders in this world.  

We need people who care about other people.

We need people who are willing to give more than they take.

We need people who want to use their gifts & energy to help others.

So if you have ever had the urge to create something, start a project, grow a business or offer something that benefits other people, I would love to support you in your work.

Today's episode is a heartfelt invitation to join me for a free workshop, "Create & Contribute," happening on Saturday, February 22nd. This workshop is to offer support and guidance to anyone who wants to share their gifts and ideas in a way that helps others, maybe by starting a project, growing a business, or find meaningful ways to help others. 

Whether you're considering writing a book, starting a fundraising, opening an etsy shop, or even if you don't know yet what you want to offer, you just know you want to use your ideas, energy and resources to offer something good and loving to others, this workshop is your opportunity to get support, clarity and direction.

Get all the details here.

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Is it needy to want to feel appreciated?  Or just a basic relationship need? in relationships?  The episode discusses over-giving tendencies, our need for affirmation, and helps you know when you need to speak up- or just validate yourself.  Whether you are dealing with a co-worker, client or spouse, this episode is going to help you know when you just need to be content and confident in what you have to offer- and when we need more reciprocity and balance.

Here's what we're talking about:


• Exploring the tension between self-validation and external appreciation
• Recognizing when we may be over-giving in relationships
• Understanding the importance of reciprocity and mutual recognition
• Validating the desire for words of affirmation as a legitimate need
• Communicating needs in relationships effectively
• Summarizing key questions for self-reflection on giving and receiving
• Introducing the upcoming Relationship Reset program

RESET YOUR RELATIONSHIP STARTS SOON!
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Are you in a relationship someone who doesn't seem to carry their weight? Ever found yourself wondering if the trade-offs in your relationship are worth it? Today we're unpacking some of the difficult decisions and dynamics of life with an under-functioning partner. 

Listen in to learn:

• how to tell the difference between your needs & wants.
• decision-making tips for knowing when to stay and go
• new ways of finding a balance that works for your personal values and comfort levels

This episode will help you to get more clarity about whether or not to stay with someone who doesn't seem to make any real effort to live up to their own potential. Together, we'll explore when it works to accept a partner's limitations - and how to avoid being exhausted by them- and when the balance may be too far off to fix.

Throughout our discussion, you'll hear insights on crafting your own relationship rules, understanding that there's no one-size-fits-all blueprint for love. We'll talk about the necessity of recognizing your deal breakers and tapping into your own power within the dynamic. 
 
If our conversation resonates, consider sharing this episode with others who might benefit from it, helping spread the message of better love in long term relationships.

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In this episode of Is It Me or Is It Them?, therapist & coach April Boyd explores the tension and frustration that arise in relationships when someone doesn't get you- and doesn't seem to want to.  Whether you're navigating challenging dynamics with family, in-laws, or friends, this conversation sheds light on how to stop chasing external validation and reclaim your sense of peace and agency.

What You'll Learn:

• How to recognize when you’re stuck in a pattern of frustration and approval-seeking.
• Why relationships can feel harder as you grow and start noticing dynamics that once seemed “normal.”
• The common trap of thinking your only options are “submit” or “burn it down.”
• The importance of stepping into "Option C"—taking care of yourself while letting others be who they are.
• How to shift away from giving others power over your emotional well-being.

Key Takeaways:

• Many people feel torn between maintaining harmony by suppressing their needs or risking conflict to stand up for themselves.
• Self-validation begins with accepting that others may not respond the way you hope—and that’s okay.
• It's empowering to let go of trying to force change in others and focus on what you can control in the relationship.

Questions to Reflect On:

• Are you placing your emotional safety in the hands of someone who can’t meet your needs?
• What would it look like to stop chasing validation from others and give it to yourself instead?
• How can you honour your boundaries while maintaining relationships in a way that feels healthier for you?

Listen Now:
Tune in for thoughtful insights and practical tips on creating healthier dynamics without losing yourself in the process.

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This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if needed


All identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

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Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?

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This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if needed

All identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

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If I had to pick the one question that has made the biggest difference in my life, my self-esteem and my social circle- this might be the one.  

This episode invites you to reflect on your relationships, work and life with one really simple check in.

Listen in to hear:

•Why we stay stuck in unhealthy relationships & friendships
• How accepting unacceptable behaviour can weigh us down 
• A personal story about confronting a toxic friendship
• How to get more clear & honest about what is working- and what's not

If you only do one piece of self-reflection as you begin the new year, let this be it.

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All identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

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This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if needed

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Ever wonder why some individuals persistently disregard your boundaries, or don't seem to care if they are having a negative impact on you?

Setting boundaries with difficult people can transform your relationships and preserve your emotional well-being and so today I'm sharing 5 important boundary reminders that are going to help you:

** feel less guilty for setting limits or saying no 
** get more control when dealing with emotionally immature people
**understand where you might be giving away your power and sabotaging your own peace of mind
**avoid the pitfalls that many of us fall into when we are dealing with someone who is causing us stress and upset.
** understand why some people aren't interest in finding solutions or trying to understand you.
** be able to better recognize when someone is trying to control you.



Navigating difficult relationships doesn't have to be a personal battleground. Understand how to depersonalize interactions by recognizing that others' behavior often reflects their limitations rather than an attack on you. Explore the societal pressures that steer women towards politeness, even in discomfort, and the importance of standing firm when your boundaries are tested. Through personal anecdotes and insights, we shed light on recognizing the red flags you should be taking bigger note of, and the thinking traps that are making you small and vulnerable to difficult and selfish people. 

If you found this useful, please share it with someone who would benefit and help me reach 20 000 this month!

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Have you been feeling unmotivated, a bit burnt out or low energy lately?  Have you been feeling like you just don't want to do anything?  Sick of working so hard?  You're not the only one. Join me, April Boyd, as I share personal reflections on our latest episode about embracing the season of rest. 

This episode is a heartfelt invitation to recognize that personal growth doesn't always demand grand gestures or constant momentum. Instead, let's give ourselves permission to tune into the our natural, necessary rhythms, honor our needs and allow ourselves to slow down.  It's the end of the year after all!  Of course we're tired.

Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?
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This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if needed


All identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.

Want to get better at speaking up? Sign up for the free on-demand workshop that will help you be more confident in standing your ground when you're dealing with a boundary bulldozer. Sign up here.

Have a topic or question you'd love to hear about?

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email april@lovelossproject.com

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Please note:

This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if needed

All identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.