No one warns you about this part of love. One day you look across the table at the person you built a life with—and ask yourself: What if I made a huge mistake?

You have spent years getting to know them better than they may even know themselves- and some of it's ugly.

And you wonder: Is this still workable—or am I just fooling myself?

In this episode of Is It Me or Is It Them?, we’re talking about the part of long-term relationships that doesn’t get enough acknowledgment: The moment when your partner’s flaws aren’t just annoying, they are damn right repulsive, infuriating—and they make you question everything.

Here’s what we explore:

• Why seeing the worst in your partner is sometimes inevitable—and what it means
• The difference between difficult and deal breaker
• How your nervous system interprets relationship conflict as danger
• The internal process you need to go through before making major decisions
• Why even good people can still be wildly incompatible sometimes
• What to do when love starts to feel like work you don’t want to do
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Whether you’re in the middle of a long slow burnout or just hit a bump that’s bigger than usual, this conversation is here to bring some clarity, calm, and honest reflection.

Mentioned in this episode:

→ The Reset Your Relationship audio program – now self-paced and audio-only, for busy people doing hard relationship work.

Check it out here.

If this episode resonates, share it with someone else who’s wondering what’s “normal” in long-term love—and what isn’t. And as always, thank you for being here.

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