What if queer travel could be more than parties and pool floats?

In this week’s In Bed with Koaty & Sumner, we’re literally in bed with Randle Roper, CEO and co-founder of VACAYA — the world’s first large-scale LGBTQ+ vacation company built on radical inclusivity. 🌈

From all-gay cruises to resort takeovers in Puerto Vallarta, Randle shares how VACAYA is creating safe, affirming, and wildly fun spaces for every letter of our community — gay, lesbian, bi, trans, non-binary, plus-size, kink-curious, you name it.

We talk:
• Why queer travel is about connection, not just celebration 🏳️‍🌈
• How VACAYA trains its legendary “V-Team” to balance luxury + community 💫
• Randle’s leap from Atlantis to launching his own inclusive empire 🚢
• The stereotypes about gay cruises — and what actually happens 👀
• The future of LGBTQ+ travel in 2025 and beyond 🌍

Plus: rapid-fire chaos, confessions from the Blayne It On Us inbox, and our question of the week — Do you have to be open to have fun on a gay vacation?

✨ Listen for laughs, insight, and maybe your next trip idea.


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What happens when your ex keeps sending you money, your boyfriend disappears into afterparties, or your “open” relationship starts feeling more like an Olympic event in emotional regulation? This week, we’re diving into five confessions that live at the messy, magnetic intersection of ego, intimacy, and queer identity.

In this episode of Blayne It On Us, Sumner and Koaty unpack stories that hit a little too close to home — from the “Jealous Saint” who calls his anxiety enlightenment, to the guy who’s still texting his ex’s mom, to the Pride-goer who loves the community but hates the crowds. It’s a lineup of stories that remind us how queer relationships are rarely neat, often hilarious, and always human.

💸 A partner splitting everything 50/50 but ignoring the income gap.❤️‍🔥 A boyfriend who swears “it’s just dancing and vibes.”💭 A listener trying to come out not just to the world — but to himself.

Sumner brings the heart and psychology, Koaty brings the bite and brutal honesty. Together, they say what everyone’s thinking but no one admits: we’re all just trying to find balance between being enlightened, horny, and slightly emotionally unhinged.

💌 Got something to confess?Tell us your story anonymously at https://tally.so/r/mZro1o — no judgment, no names, just vibes.

Whether you’re the saint, the sinner, or somewhere between, this episode’s for you.

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This week on we have a full episode of Blayne It On Us, where we read your confessions on are and give our take on it. We had lots of submissions this time, and we picked 4.  We’re diving deep into the messy, magnetic, and totally relatable world of jealousy and open love. From silent resentment to throuple drama, we are breaking down listener confessions that prove one thing — even the most healthy relationships have their limits.
💚 Stories this episode:

• “The Jealous Boyfriend Who Says He Isn’t” — when support turns into quiet control.
• 🔥 “Our Third Made Me Feel Second” — how an open door became a revolving one.
• 🧃 “He Wants a Third… But Only If I Pick” — when “being chill” means avoiding accountability.
• ⚖️ “Jealousy Made Me Realize I’m Not As Open As I Thought” — when your fantasy of openness meets your reality of attachment.

🎧 Tune in for the laughs, stay for the therapy you didn’t book.

💌 Submit Your Confession or Question:

Have your own wild, unfiltered, or “oh no, we did that too” story? Submit it anonymously for future episodes of Blayne It On Us!
👉 https://tally.so/r/mZro1oor visit KoatyandSumner.com/BlayneItOnUs to share your story.
You can submit about:

• Relationship drama
• Jealousy
• Threesomes gone wrong (or right)
• Open relationship rules
• Sex, friendship, kink, or “did that really happen?” moments

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What does it mean to come out, build a community, and launch a porn career at 21 in 2025? In this episode, we sit down with James Ash, one of the newest young voices in queer adult entertainment, to talk about growing up in London, moving to Australia, and what Gen Z is doing differently in porn.

We compare our own coming out journeys to his, swap stories about queer culture shocks, and dive into how being digital-native shapes fan relationships, kink exploration, and brand building. And because it wouldn’t be our show without some chaos, we wrap things up with rapid-fire questions and future fantasies that only James Ash could answer.

💡 Expect laughs, vulnerability, and a generational mash-up of queer perspectives you won’t want to miss.

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In this raw and hopeful episode, Koaty and Sumner Blayne dive into the reality of friendships shifting in your 30s. From recognizing when friends no longer fit the life you’re building, to spotting signs it’s time to move on, they explore grief, growth, and gaining clarity. With a mix of humor and honesty, they share personal stories, couple banter, and practical advice for letting go gracefully — and making room for relationships that celebrate who you are now. Perfect for anyone navigating friendship breakups, personal growth, or redefining connection in adulthood.

We also do Blayne It On Us segment, where we answer your anonymous confessions live. Submit yours here for a chance to have us discuss it in the next episode here: https://tally.so/r/mZro1o

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It’s football season, and in this episode of In Bed with Koaty & Sumner we talk about what the game means for our relationship. 🏈

Koaty grew up surrounded by football—at home, at Penn State, and while living in Philadelphia—while Sumner wasn’t really exposed to it much at all. Over time, he’s become a fan through Koaty’s love for the sport. We share how trying the things your partner loves can actually bring you closer together.

We also dive into our annual tradition of celebrating the Super Bowl at The Big Gay Super Bowl Party in LA, and play a hilarious game where Koaty quizzes Sumner on real vs. fake football terms.

Finally, we close with our newest segment, Blayne It On Us!, where listeners send us anonymous confessions for advice.
This week:    •    A guy discovers his dad is secretly gay.    •    A husband is using Grindr without his partner knowing.

Grab a drink, crawl into bed with us, and let’s talk love, football, and confessions. 💋

👉 Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more weekly episodes!📲
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Koaty and Sumner Blayne are taking In Bed With Koaty and Sumner overseas—podcasting from a bed in Japan while Koaty’s on a work trip. After a quick life update, we debut our brand-new segment, Blayne It On Us, where listeners send anonymous confessions and questions about relationships, sex, friendship, money, and other gay topics. We respond with unfiltered humor, raw honesty, and our trademark mix of comedy and vulnerability. The unqualified advice you asked for!

Submit your anonymous question for a future episode here: https://tally.so/r/mZro1o

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This week, we’re diving deep—literally and emotionally. Koaty and Sumner open up about how adult toys transformed our sex life and brought us closer as a couple. From our first unrealistic dildo to designing our very own double penetration mold with Mr. Hankey’s Toys, this episode is all about pleasure, trust, and play. We’re talking:

• Why toys aren’t a last resort—they’re the gateway to emotional safety
• How we use them to explore power dynamics and deepen communication
• What it was really like getting our dicks molded in buckets of silicone
• Our honest reviews of toys we’ve tried (yes, even the punching dildo machine)
• Plus: tips for couples navigating their first toy experience

We also share why we partnered with Mr. Hankey’s Toys—a brand that gets it. They don’t just make fantasy toys, they make real tools for connection. Our custom DP dildo is now live on their site, and it’s built with platinum-cured, medical-grade silicone—aka, the good stuff. Whether you're curious, kinky, or just ready to laugh at us oversharing (again), this episode has something for every couple looking to keep things hot, honest, and hella fun.

👉 Check out our collab toy at https://www.mrhankeystoys.com/

Search the KoatySum Dildo

(P.S. Use water-based lube. Your toys will thank you.)

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In this special “first-in-bed” episode, Koaty & Sumner welcome their first actual in-bed guest: psychiatrist, entrepreneur, and emotional edge-walker Dr. Hector.

Together, they get real about why so many gay men struggle to feel emotionally connected—even in hyper-social, hyper-sexual spaces. From intimacy issues to trauma loops, hookup culture to healing, this episode peels back the layers with insight, humor, and zero shame.

⚡ Topics we cover:
• Why high-functioning doesn’t mean emotionally fulfilled
• Shame, identity, and sex: the invisible triangle
• Rebuilding trust with yourself (before anyone else)
• What gay men really want from connection—and how to get there

This isn’t therapy, but it might feel like it.

🦋 Guest: Dr. Hector
Psychiatrist. Creative. Sacred outcast. Founder of The White Butterfly.
@drhector.rodriguez | doctorhector.com


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This week, we’re in bed with the one and only Dr. Chris Donaghue—sex therapist, author, and queer truth-teller behind the book Rebel Love. We dive deep into the messy beauty of queer intimacy, ethical sex, and rewriting every outdated rule we’ve been told about love and relationships.

From emotional differentiation to kinky exploration, Dr. Chris helps us unpack how shame-free pleasure and radical honesty can actually heal our relationships. We also get personal about sex work, queer partnership, and what it means to reclaim love outside the heteronormative script. Oh—and we may have gotten a little too honest. But hey, that’s the point, right?

💬 Let us know what part cracked you open the most.

📚 Grab Rebel Love here: https://www.amazon.com/Rebel-Love-Break-Free-Relationships/dp/0593443025

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We’re joined by therapist and author Tom Bruett, whose book The Go-To Relationship Guide for Gay Men has genuinely impacted our relationship. In this honest and vulnerable conversation, we dive deep into the two stages that rocked us the most: Differentiation and Exploration.

We talk about what it really means to stay emotionally connected while becoming your own person, how to ask for what you want in bed (without shame), and why open relationships often bring up the deepest communication work. Tom shares what it was like writing his most personal chapter, and we open up about how the book has helped us become better partners.

💬 Learning to set boundaries without shutting down
🧠 The power of sex-positive, vulnerable conversations
❤️ Why differentiation can feel scary—but lead to deeper love

And of course, we close it out with a classic Koaty and Sumner game: Red Flag or Growth Lag? We throw out spicy relationship scenarios, and Tom tells us whether it’s a dealbreaker—or just a couple stuck in one of the book’s core stages.

This episode is heartfelt, hilarious, and deeply helpful for anyone in a queer relationship (or hoping to be in one).

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In this vulnerable and validating episode, Koaty shares the emotional journey behind cutting off his father—and the years of narcissistic behavior, gaslighting, and betrayal that led up to it. We explore how hard it can be to draw boundaries with a parent, especially when manipulation is masked as love. From financial deception to emotional abuse, we break down the signs of a narcissistic parent, why it’s okay to walk away, and how chosen family can sometimes be the safest family. And of course, it wouldn’t be us without a little fun—Sumner closes the episode with a spicy quiz to find out once and for all: does Koaty have daddy issues? This episode is part healing, part chaos, and 100% real.

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From church pews to OnlyFans views. In this episode, Sumner opens up about growing up Mormon—from blessing sacrament trays as a teenager to being interrogated by bishops about masturbation (yep, really). Koaty plays Mormon Mythbusters and finds out just how weird—and wildly repressive—Sumner’s childhood really was.

We get into sex shame, secret Mormon wife culture, sacred underwear, and how leaving the Church helped Sumner finally reclaim his sexuality.

If you’ve ever grown up in purity culture, questioned religion, or just love messy spiritual trauma with a gay twist… this one’s for you.

👼 Trauma dump meets temple tea. Tap in.

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"Hey!!! We just got back from Puerto Vallarta, where we were nominated for three awards at the very first International Content Creator Awards (aka the ICCAs)… and we took home Best Podcast! 🏆 In this episode, we’re sharing all the highlights: from the content house vibes to the red carpet feels, and what it meant to be surrounded by so many creators in one space.

We also open up about the mental side of it all — the pressure to compare, the way looks can mess with your self-worth, and how we’re learning to keep it real with ourselves even in the middle of all the glam. Spoiler: we still had an amazing time and looked damn good doing it. 


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Skinny jeans are out. Baggy cargos are in. Harnesses? Always timeless. In this episode, Sumner & Koaty Blayne dive headfirst into the messy, sexy, and sometimes downright busted world of gay men’s fashion. From growing up in skin-tight clubwear to navigating the oversized streetwear takeover, they spill all the tea.

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In this episode, Koaty and Sumner Blayne open up about their full journey through circuit party culture—from wild weekends, outfit changes, and hookup chaos to burnout, boundaries, and slowing the hell down.

We reflect on how the circuit brought us together, tested our relationship, boosted our OnlyFans, and eventually wore us out. We’re not anti-party—we’re just pro-evolution.

Plus: a chaotic game of “Did We Do That?” featuring afterparty confessions, filming mishaps, and one very suspicious cuddle puddle.

If you’ve ever felt sexy, sweaty, overstimulated, and a little sad on the same dance floor—this one’s for you.


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In this episode, Koaty and Sumner Blayne open up about their evolving relationship with kink, not as experts or full-time fetish freaks, but as a couple learning to be more curious, more communicative, and way less judgmental.

We explore how getting older has made us more open to trying things we once avoided, and how shame can sneak into the bedroom even in the most loving relationships. From sploshing and age play to sounding and voyeurism, we talk about what used to freak us out—and what we’re now learning to approach with curiosity instead of fear.

Plus: our favorite game “Guess That Kink!”, and by the end, we put Koaty through the ultimate test… just how open-minded is he really?

It’s not about being kinky. It’s about being open.


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In this spicy and thought-provoking episode of In Bed with Koaty and Sumner, we’re diving into the wild world of AI, sexbots, and the future of intimacy. As technology advances, virtual partners and hyper-realistic sex dolls are shaking up relationships—so where do we draw the line?

We explore whether AI companions are enhancing or replacing real human connection, debate if having a virtual AI partner counts as cheating, and ask the ultimate question: if your partner had a sexbot that looked exactly like you, would you be flattered or freaked out?

Get ready for a futuristic, hilarious, and maybe even slightly unsettling conversation about AI-driven pleasure, emotional bonds with chatbots, and whether AI can really be a personal sex coach. Tune in, because this one is too good to miss!

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Season 2 of In Bed with Koaty & Sum kicks off with a bang! We’re diving into one of the wildest, most productive weeks Koaty has ever had! For seven days leading up to the GAYVN Awards in Las Vegas, he stayed in a content house with some of the biggest OnlyFans creators—all set up by his agent. His goal? To film 11 collabs. But, of course, things didn’t always go as planned.

Sumner, who does do studio porn, is full of questions as he gets all the details about what it was really like—how Koaty scheduled everything, the unexpected challenges, and even the days when he managed to film three scenes in a row. From the chaos of coordinating collabs to the reality of living in a house full of adult creators, we’re breaking it all down.

If you’ve ever wondered what goes on behind the scenes of a packed week like this, you won’t want to miss this one. And trust us—there’s plenty more coming soon!


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In this episode, we dive into the topic of physical intimacy and how it plays a crucial role in our relationship. We open up about how often we need it, the highs and lows of our sex drives, and how we’ve learned to balance and meet each other’s needs. We also get real about the challenges—what happens when one of us feels like it’s not enough or when the dynamic starts to feel one-sided. Join us for an honest and vulnerable conversation about keeping the connection strong and the passion alive.

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