In this special “first-in-bed” episode, Koaty & Sumner welcome their first actual in-bed guest: psychiatrist, entrepreneur, and emotional edge-walker Dr. Hector.

Together, they get real about why so many gay men struggle to feel emotionally connected—even in hyper-social, hyper-sexual spaces. From intimacy issues to trauma loops, hookup culture to healing, this episode peels back the layers with insight, humor, and zero shame.

⚡ Topics we cover:
• Why high-functioning doesn’t mean emotionally fulfilled
• Shame, identity, and sex: the invisible triangle
• Rebuilding trust with yourself (before anyone else)
• What gay men really want from connection—and how to get there

This isn’t therapy, but it might feel like it.

🦋 Guest: Dr. Hector
Psychiatrist. Creative. Sacred outcast. Founder of The White Butterfly.
@drhector.rodriguez | doctorhector.com


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