Shame runs deep inside all of us. What if we switched the narrative from eradicating shame to working with it? Drew and Brittani deep dive into the definitions, origin stories of shame, and how we can begin our healing journey.   02:17 Podcast Format Change Announcement 04:28 Deep Dive into Shame 04:55 Defining Shame and Its Impact 10:23 Shame in Development and Relationships 23:43 Shame vs. Other Emotions 28:07 The Garden Analogy for Shame 28:48 The Garden of Shame and Secrets 29:58 Addiction and the Power of Secrets 31:35 Exploring Vulnerability 33:05 Vulnerability in Dating 35:57 The Role of Hope in Vulnerability 37:18 Healthy Shame and Narcissism 43:01 Brene Brown's Approach to Shame 44:45 Narcissism and Leadership 50:04 Rewriting Our Stories 57:58 Final Thoughts on Shame and Vulnerability   Get your free Intimacy Workbook ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219⁠ For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠ 

A wounded Marine combat veteran, Chris overcame his own challenges and is now a thriving psychotherapist. With a foundation in cognitive behavioral therapy, he specializes in EMDR for performance enhancement and psychedelic integration therapy. Having worked with 7-figure business executives and startup founders, military combat and special operations veterans, athletes, creatives, first responders, and other clinicians - he has a passion for helping people reach their highest potential. Over the past decade he's served on various public health, non-profit, and advisory boards; as well as national committees focused on clinical quality and rehabilitation research. Chris is a founder and the CEO of Helicon, a public benefit corporation committed to advancing EMDR for societal mental health.   00:11 Exploring EMDR and Its Challenges 01:50 Building a Tech Platform for Therapists 02:46 Marketing Insights and Collaborations 03:52 Helicon: Vision and Implementation08:12 Understanding EMDR: A Deep Dive 15:31 Personal Experiences with EMDR 24:55 Transitioning to Private Practice 25:26 Introduction to Psychedelic Therapy 25:48 Introduction to Psychedelic Studies 26:08 Training During COVID 26:48 Parallels Between Psychedelic Therapy and EMDR 27:51 Exploring Psychedelic Therapy 30:29 Ethical Considerations and Guidelines 31:02 Phases of Psychedelic Assisted Therapy 32:15 EMDR in Psychedelic Therapy 34:56 Neuroplasticity and Psychedelic Therapy 36:36 Client Experiences and Outcomes 43:24 Addressing Skepticism and Trust 47:46 Contact Information and Conclusion     Learn more about Helicon: gowithhelicon.com Connect with Chris: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cdbrownvet/   Brittani-  https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219 For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc    Therapist Threads Newsletter: https://relate-co.kit.com/069297fffb   

00:20 Event Overview: North Carolina Sport and Performance Professionals Conference 01:41 The Importance of Community and Real-Life Connections 02:27 Building a Supportive Team for Athletes 13:54 Challenges and Benefits of Planning the Conference 19:59 Final Thoughts and Encouragement to Join 21:45 Introduction and Sign-Up Information 22:16 Welcome Back to the Podcast 22:31 Event Overview and Details 23:52 Importance of Community and Teamwork 27:27 Broadening the Definition of Athlete 30:38 Conference Schedule and Activities 35:25 Planning and Challenges 41:28 Final Thoughts and Encouragement  

Show Description with Timestamps 00:00 – Personal Stories MatterHost Brittani welcomes Heather Waxman back to the podcast and discusses the importance of sharing personal stories in therapy. 00:14 – The Power of BreathworkHeather explains the true intention behind breathwork, its connection to spirit, and how it helps us reconnect with our essence. 38:45 – Personal Healing JourneyHeather shares her transformative experience with Kundalini yoga and how breathwork became a daily practice for healing trauma. 1:10:00 – Breathwork Myths & First ExperiencesDiscussion on common misconceptions, first breathwork experiences, and how breathwork can bring up powerful emotions. 1:45:00 – Safety, Preparation & Group WorkHeather details how she prepares clients for breathwork, the importance of safety, and what to look for in a facilitator. 2:30:00 – Final Thoughts & Where to Find HeatherClosing thoughts on simplicity in healing, the value of curiosity, and where listeners can connect with Heather online.

00:13 Lake Gaston Adventures and Wakeboarding Woes 03:59 The High School Mentality Never Ends 04:44 Life Updates and Upcoming Plans 05:47 The Rise of Non-Alcoholic Options 07:29 The Return of Cigarettes in Media 08:36 Diving into Social Work 22:54 From Awkward to Approachable: Personal Growth 27:18 Therapy for Athletes: Building Genuine Connections 32:35 Bill Belichick's Coaching Style 33:20 Coaching College Athletes vs. NFL Players 34:13 Mental Health and Performance in Sports 35:43 Expectations vs. Preparation 41:36 Challenges of Limited Playing Time 50:44 Therapeutic Approaches for Athletes 52:20 The Role of Values in Sports 55:25 Navigating High School Social Dynamics 01:05:18 Concluding Thoughts and Reflections   Brittani- https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219 For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc    Therapist Threads: https://relate-co.kit.com/069297fffb MemberUp Community Link:https://memberup.com?via=c0cb99   

00:00 Introduction and Greetings 00:43 Romantacy Obsession 05:37 Chronic Pain Journey Begins 07:03 Navigating the Medical System 12:07 Discovering Effective Treatment 19:38 Pain Reprocessing Therapy 35:47 Identifying Key Personality Traits 36:21 Neuroplasticity and Athletes 36:36 Commonalities Among Clients 37:16 Pain Reprocessing Therapy (PRT) in Practice 40:15 Understanding Chronic Pain 46:11 Somatic Tracking Explained 57:06 Combining PRT with Physical Therapy 01:06:34 Resources for Learning About PRT 01:09:18 Final Thoughts and Personal Experiences   Trinity:https://www.wholementality.com/abouttrinity  

Mbong Henry, PT, DPT shares insights on the importance of pelvic health for athletic performance, pregnancy, and postpartum recovery. We delve into the complexities of pelvic floor muscles, common misconceptions fueled by social media, and the holistic approach required for effective treatment. You'll learn about the interconnectedness of the pelvic floor with other body parts, the impact of stress, and the importance of a supportive team in navigating pelvic health challenges.   Mbong's Resourceshttps://www.radiancept.com/ https://www.instagram.com/mbonghenry.dpt/    Brittani- https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219 For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc 

Psychologist and dating coach Dr. Lori Husband is back! Women dating in their 30's and 40's feel the heaviness of dating decisions, whether or not to freeze eggs, and factors that go into decisions for both. Whether you're a woman in this phase of life, or know women who are, this episode is for you.    00:41 Navigating Dating in Your 30s and 40s 04:12 Introducing the New Course: Should I Freeze My Eggs or Download Tinder? 06:19 The Modern Dating Landscape and Fertility Awareness 10:16 Considering a Move for Better Dating Prospects 16:47 Exploring Social Clubs and Activities for Dating 22:17 Dating Apps: Strategies and Realities 28:43 Understanding Vulnerability in Relationships 30:52 The Dilemma of Dating Apps 31:58 The Importance of Clarity in Dating 40:35 The Reality of Egg Freezing 44:14 Navigating the Decision to Freeze Eggs 49:42 The Cost and Support for Egg Freezing 57:34 Final Thoughts on Egg Freezing and Dating   Dr. Lori's course:Do I Freeze My Eggs or Download Tinder?https://drlorihusband.systeme.io/32224554   Work with Lori: https://drlorihusband.com/  Brittani- https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/  Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219 For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc    Therapist Threads Newsletter: https://relate-co.kit.com/069297fffb

What is different about working with athletes? Drew Klobuchar is here to talk about sports, city team loyalty, and how athletes relate. We'll explore the role of sports in childhood and its effect on psychological safety, as well as the pressures and expectations athletes face from their environments and families. The conversation also delves into crash-outs, attachment theory, and the distinctions between mental performance and mental health.    00:00 Introduction and Greetings 00:05 Connecting Through Mutual Friends 01:14 Background and Hometown Stories 02:19 Sports Culture and Small Talk 03:27 Athletes and Their Relationships 10:34 The Human Side of Sports 15:43 Challenges Faced by Young Athletes 23:05 Parental Influence and Athlete Identity 32:24 Emotional Support and Coping Strategies 39:33 Parental Challenges in Youth Sports 40:41 Team Sports vs. Individual Sports 43:48 Mental Health vs. Mental Performance45:28 Understanding Flow State 52:00 The Impact of Dance on Mental Health 59:05 Yoga and Flexibility in Sports 01:08:33 Starting Your Mental Health Journey 01:11:59 Conclusion and Contact Information       Brittani-  https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ Get your free Intimacy Workbook ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219⁠ For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠ 

It's a coffee catch up conversation with Jamie Illinetski (Drescher). After a two week vacation, we're back! Brittani and Jamie talk about lifestyle changes over the past ten years, soulmates, and splurges. Question for you: What's your Roman Empire?   00:00 Coffee Limits 01:03 Reflecting on Past Drinking Habits 03:22 Health Trends and Alcohol 04:52 Drugs and Creatine 06:05 Life Updates and New Experiences 10:53 Podcasts We're Into 13:18 Coffee Habits 22:25 Splurge vs Cheap 24:24 Belief in Soulmates 25:52 Love Soulmates and Relationship Dynamics 26:21 Dating Insights and Negotiations 29:06 Memorable Moments and Shared Experiences 33:15 Parental Pride and Personal Achievements 38:03 Future Goals and Personal Development 43:52 Creative Pursuits and Social Activities

00:35 Mission of Lane Nine 01:06 Understanding RED-S in Athletes 02:50 Signs and Symptoms of RED-S 07:33 Impact of Social Media on Nutrition 10:56 Diet Culture and Misinformation 16:01 Defining Diet and Its Flexibility 18:47 Frustrations with Diet Culture 21:45 Obsessive Health Trends 25:27 Debunking Misinformation 26:03 Exploring Food Beliefs and Patterns 27:48 Challenging Rigid Food Rules 29:19 Understanding Disordered Eating 32:37 Promoting Flexibility with Food 41:14 The Importance of Fueling Before Workouts 44:57 Evaluating Supplements and Performance 48:36 Final Thoughts on Food and Wellness   Resources: Lane 9: https://www.lane9project.org/   Brittani-  https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ Get your free Intimacy Workbook ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219⁠ For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠ 

We're talking about sex on the How to Relate Podcast! Brittani is with sex educator and coach Veronica Dress. We'll explore the complexities of sex, sexuality, and intimacy. Veronica shares her personal journey from an upbringing in a strict Irish Catholic environment to her current career in sex education and coaching. We'll discuss the role of play and creativity in sexual relationships, and the importance of creating safe, curious spaces to explore one's sexuality. Veronica emphasizes the transformative power of understanding and defining one's sexuality through a more holistic lens, which includes sensuality, intimacy, sexual health, and pleasure. 00:28 Discussing Sex and Sexuality 01:16 Veronica's Journey into Sex Education 05:26 Challenges and Realizations 07:06 Planned Parenthood and Peer Education 13:31 Current State of Sex Education 24:34 Defining Sexuality and Intimacy 36:51 Exploring the Elusive Nature of Erotic Experiences 38:12 The Intersection of Tarot and Sexuality 39:52 The Role of Play in Sexual Education 40:45 Challenging Purity Culture and Rigid Scripts 42:14 The Oldest Profession and Human Sexuality 43:40 Intentionality and Creative Control in Sex 47:00 The Power of Rehearsal and Playfulness 51:58 Intimacy Coaching and Boundaries in Theater 53:08 Creating Collaborative Spaces for Intimacy 57:59 The Importance of Rituals in Transitioning 01:01:37 Final Thoughts and Upcoming Workshops   Not Your Crumpled Flower Replacing shame with pleasure-centered, accurate sex ed Identifying personal sexual values Building confidence in expressing boundaries + desires (in any setting!) Open to all—This is a welcoming space for adults of all genders + sexualities navigating this unique healing journey. Whether clients are deconstructing, staying connected to faith, or somewhere in between. ⁠https://www.dressrehearsal.space/not-your-crumpled-flower⁠   Brittani-  https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ Get your free Intimacy Workbook ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219⁠ For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠ 

Welcome back to How to Relate! Brittani is here with Cierra Listermann is a trauma therapist specializing with people who are dating. We talk about the impact of modern dating apps, attachment styles, and the importance of practical tools for trauma-informed dating. The episode provides valuable insights and practical advice for individuals navigating the dating world with an emphasis on self-worth and building healthy connections. 00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome 00:17 Building Connections Through Mutual Friends 01:02 Sierra's Professional Background 02:02 Specializing in Trauma and PTSD 03:48 Challenges of Being a Therapist 06:41 Journey to Becoming a Therapist 11:34 Trauma and Dating 30:54 Modern Dating Challenges 36:50 Dating Apps as Exposure Therapy 41:22 The Role of Self-Esteem in Dating 43:40 Setting and Honoring Non-Negotiables 56:55 The Importance of Self-Trust 57:04 Avoiding the Trap of Dating for Potential 01:00:18 Navigating Red Flags and Boundaries 01:06:33 Resources for Relational Self-Awareness 01:10:11 Final Thoughts and Contact Information   Cierra Resources:Website: https://www.carolinatraumarecovery.com/IG: https://www.instagram.com/carolinatraumarecovery/    Brittani- https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219 For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc   

Kim Konderla, LCSW is here with Brittani to talk about unique challenges for millennial women- especially millennial moms. Kim helps us define codependency and how we can move from codependence to interdependence in our relationships. We talk about IFS, parts work, and parenting from the inside out.   01:10 Raleigh Local Coffee Shops Shoutout 02:48 Friends Introducing Friends 03:45 Building Your Network and Friendships 05:31 Journey to Becoming a Therapist 07:06 Millennial Moms and Inner Child Work 08:56 Family Dynamics and Generational Patterns 20:48 Codependency in Relationships 35:41 Understanding the Gap in Accountability 36:45 Enabling vs. Managing: A Fine Line 38:19 Co-Parenting Dynamics and Emotional Burdens 40:08 Inner Child Work and Re-Parenting 40:59 Parenting the Adolescent Self 52:27 Navigating Codependency and Narcissistic Dynamics 56:29 Conflict Resolution and Personal Accountability 01:08 Interdependency: The Balance Between Independence and Connection 01:12: Stay Connected     Resources: Kim: https://www.groundedlivingpllc.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/grounded_living_therapy/   Brittani-  https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ Get your free Intimacy Workbook ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219⁠ For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠ 

Brittani is here with John Markette! John talks all about fatherhood, young men's mental health, and ways men can be more active in their community. John discusses the important role of what it means to be a dad and why paternal relationships matter for adolescent development. We talk about nihilism and why how it can seductive trap in the fear of failure. Enjoy this conversation with John Markette!   01:11 John's Practice and Unique Approach 02:23 Therapeutic Mentorship in Action 05:07 Challenges Facing Young Men Today 06:08 The Role of Fathers and Media Influence 07:58 Consequences of Fatherless Homes 14:13 The Importance of Relational Equity 22:53 Effortless Perfection and Social Media 28:56 How to Combat Nihilism- and Why You Should 37:37 Building Self-Esteem Through Action 39:18 Behavioral Habits and Happiness 40:54 The Importance of Emotional Well-being 42:48 Relationships and Longevity 43:59 Balancing Self-Care and Relationships 47:44 Fatherhood and Personal Growth 01:04:19 Community and Social Connections 01:14:59 The Value of Small Acts of Kindness   John Markette Work with Modern Progress Counseling and Consulting https://modernprogresscc.com/ Instagram: @modernprogresscc https://www.instagram.com/modernprogresscc   How to Relate Resources website: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ Get your free Intimacy Workbook ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219⁠ For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter ⁠https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc⁠ 

Matthew Case is back! We're talking about spirituality. Matthew discusses how traditional religious and spiritual traditions can guide us through a collective spiritual crisis.    00:20 Impact of Asking Different Questions 01:29 Diving into Spirituality 03:10 Exploring Spiritual Practices and Traditions 04:27 The Big Question: Are We in a Spiritual Crisis? 05:44 Reevaluating Life Post-Pandemic 08:30 Interconnectedness and Purpose 10:06 Reengaging with Traditional Faiths 14:17 The Role of Wonder and Mystery in Spirituality 19:29 Knowledge vs. Wisdom 21:20 Re-engaging with Christianity and Faith 31:45 The Illusion of Online Transformation 32:09 Social Media's Role in Our Lives 32:53 The Impact of Social Media on Relationships 34:07 Spiritual Formation in Isolation 35:34 Habits and Behavioral Patterns 37:09 The Challenge of Social Media Addiction 37:55 Reevaluating Our Relationship with Social Media 41:29 The Importance of Community in Spiritual Life 45:58 Practical Steps to Engage in Spiritual Practices 52:10 The Power of Collective Experiences 56:03 The Role of Tradition and Practicality in Spirituality 01:02:24 Final Thoughts and Reflections  

Welcome back to the How to Relate Podcast! Brittani is with Heather Waxman, LMFT. Heather is a coach and therapist working with people to practically live in a spiritually connected way. In this episode Heather shares her favorite modalities, including breath work, somatic practices, and Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) tapping, emphasizing their simplicity and practical application. You'll gain insight on the significance of having a spiritual connection, the role of prayer in facilitating shifts in perception, and the power of consistency in building a relationship with spirit. Enjoy! 01:10 Therapeutic Modalities and Client Empowerment 03:16 Navigating Client Relationships and Boundaries 08:27 The Role of Spirituality in Therapy 13:08 Practical Spiritual Practices and Miracles 22:49 Integrating Playfulness and Spirituality 33:34 Breath Work and Personal Favorites 34:08 Personal Anecdotes and Breathwork Preferences 36:31 Guided Somatic Practice 40:35 The Importance of Awareness and Compassion 45:10 Understanding and Healing Trauma 52:19 Exploring Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) 57:31 Practical Applications and Client Experiences 01:05:26 Resources   Resources:Heather: https://www.heatherwaxman.com/ IG: https://www.instagram.com/heatherwaxman/ Insight Timer: https://insighttimer.com/heather_waxman  Brittani: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/  Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219 For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc 

June is Men's Mental Health month and Justin Carotti is back. We're talking about men's mental health, pressure with reaching potential, and finding purpose.    00:43 Discussing the Lost Boys Report 01:32 Impact of Societal Changes on Men 05:01 Men's Mental Health and Behavioral Responses 08:44 Challenges in Addressing Men's Issues 12:05 Family Dynamics and Potential 22:14 Building Resilience and Handling Distress 29:15 Motivation vs. Discipline 31:48 Overcoming Resistance to Change 32:36 Discovering Personal Values 33:06 Practical Exercises for Value Identification 37:56 Career Counseling Insights 40:50 Navigating Life's Choices 51:24 Making Therapy Accessible for Men 56:39 Resources   Resources   Justin: https://www.valiancecounseling.com/ One Percent Better: https://one-percent-better.kit.com/landing-page https://www.linkedin.com/in/justincarotti/ Brittani: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/ Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219 How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc     

Navigating career transition? Thinking about leaving your job? Want to find your purpose? Marty McGovern from Career Therapy talks about how to navigate your work life with practicality and ease. We'll discuss AI, myth of the dream job, and importance of building relationships.    00:32 Career Transition: From Corporate to Therapy 02:08 The Evolution of Workplace Mental Health Services 04:29 AI in Therapy: Opportunities and Concerns 06:53 The Impact of Remote Work on Mental Health 14:59 The Myth of the Dream Job 35:14 Burnout in Marketing and Advertising 35:58 The Misconception of Career Coaching 37:57 The Difference Between Coaching and Therapy 38:08 The Value of Credentials in Coaching 39:13 Navigating the Coaching Industry 44:36 Exploring Career Paths and Self-Help 53:55 The Importance of Networking 01:00:35 Overcoming Networking Fears 01:03:45 Proactive Career Management Marty's Resourceshttps://careertherapy.com/   Brittani- https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/  Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219 For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc 

Welcome back to the How to Relate Podcast!  Brittani is here with Gwendolyn Watson! Gwendolyn Watson is a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT #147312) based in California, where she supports individuals and couples navigating anxiety, relationship challenges, and the impact of past experiences. Certified in EMDR and trained in Gottman Method (Level 2), she blends clinical insight with a strategic mindset shaped by her decade-long past career at Google in Strategic Partnerships. Outside the therapy room, she writes The Hopeful Partner, a free newsletter exploring how we get in our own way in our relationships—and how to find our way back to deeper connection. Connect with her on Substack, LinkedIn, or her website.     Resources: Links: The Hopeful Partner: https://thehopefulpartner.substack.com/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/gwendolyn-watson-lmft-3520821a/ Website: www.gwendolynwatson.com   Brittani's Resources: https://www.brittaniprocknow.com/  Get your free Intimacy Workbook https://relate-co.kit.com/b956780219 For deep dives into relational topics that give you insight and action for how you can relate better, sign up for the How to Relate Newsletter https://relate-co.kit.com/e9f87bb2dc