Have you ever wondered what actually happens behind the scenes at a dating retreat inspired by reality TV? How can you bring more excitement and authenticity to your dating life, especially as you navigate dating later in life? Can reality television actually teach us meaningful lessons about forming connections?
In this lively episode recorded Live From the Golden Bachelor Mansion Retreat, hosts Kimmy Seltzer and Allison Melody invite you into the heart of their dating retreat in Southern California—where the glitz of reality TV meets the depth of personal transformation. They kick things off with a whimsical walk-through of the mansion, sharing behind-the-scenes details and honest vibes, all while prepping for the arrival of retreat guests. The conversation weaves through reflections on the latest Golden Bachelor episode—breaking down on-screen chemistry, emotional availability, and the real-world parallels to authentic relationships. Kimmy draws insight from her experience as a dating strategist, therapist, and image consultant, while Allison keeps things raw with practical suggestions and witty commentary.
You’ll hear:
A candid mansion tour revealing the setup for a transformational dating retreat.
A recap and analysis of the latest Golden Bachelor episode—did Mel choose chemistry or compatibility?
The importance of balancing playfulness, relaxation, and deep connection when dating later in life.
Why emotional availability and boundary-setting are key (and how not to be boring on dates).
The power of friendship and camaraderie in the dating journey—especially when facing life’s transitions.
Come for the dating drama, stay for the laughs, and leave with a fresh perspective on what real connection actually looks like.
Make sure to subscribe and catch Kimmy LIVE every Tuesday and Thursday at 4pmPST/7pmEST on Instagram and YouTube @kimmyseltzer or go to datingrealtalk.com
How does confidence play a role in dating, reality TV, and the way we present ourselves to the world? What really separates genuine connection from fleeting chemistry, especially in the sometimes surreal world of reality dating shows? In this episode, Kimmy Seltzer, Allison Melody, and guest Ryan Bailey peel back the layers of pop culture, personal stories, and hard-hitting dating advice with our expert guests, taking you from bad first impressions to moments of true transformation.
This episode dives deep into the intersection of entertainment and life as Kimmy, Allison, and Ryan Bailey discuss everything from the psychology of reality TV contestants, the allure and pitfalls of influencer culture, to what "sexy confidence" really means—especially for later-life daters. With honest, often hilarious storytelling, you’ll hear candid confessions about personal struggles with confidence, lessons learned from coaching both real-world singles and reality stars, and the true magic that comes from leaning into your quirks, mistakes, and vulnerabilities. Plus, the Golden Bachelor gets dissected, from its friendships to its controversies, and we even get the inside scoop on Ryan Bailey’s own romantic journey—including the baby news and his take on dating apps.
You’ll hear:
Come for the dating drama, stay for the laughs, and leave with a fresh perspective on what real connection actually looks like.
Make sure to subscribe and catch Kimmy LIVE every Tuesday and Thursday at 4pmPST/7pmEST on Instagram and YouTube @kimmyseltzer or go to datingrealtalk.com
What does it really take to open your heart after heartbreak or divorce? Why do we attract certain types of partners, and how can we break free from guardedness to find authentic connection? How much should we share about our past traumas, and when is the right time to get real about what we truly want in a relationship?
This episode explores the heightened emotions and drama of the "Golden Bachelor," but quickly goes beyond TV to extract powerful lessons for anyone dating in their second act. Kimmy leads a lively discussion about body language, pressure in dating, and the pitfalls of prematurely seeking commitment—connecting reality show moments to what actually happens in the world of dating after divorce. The group tackles the differences (and surprising similarities) between men and women when it comes to vulnerability, attraction, and the pain of love lost. Plus, Doug and Mark reveal what it feels like to date post-divorce, how trauma and guardedness affect their desire for openness, and the lively banter around authentic connection versus superficial “fun.”
You’ll hear:
The real-life male perspective on dating after divorce (what’s different, what’s hard, and what’s hopeful)
Insights from watching and dissecting “The Golden Bachelor”—and what applies to your own dating life
How to recognize body language cues that reveal true feelings (and the risks of ignoring them)
Candid discussion on when (and how) to share your past traumas with a new partner
The power of authenticity, self-love, and real energy in attracting the right relationship
Come for the dating drama, stay for the laughs, and leave with a fresh perspective on what real connection actually looks like.
Make sure to subscribe and catch Kimmy LIVE every Tuesday and Thursday at 4pmPST/7pmEST on Instagram and YouTube @kimmyseltzer or go to datingrealtalk.com
Do you ever wonder why dating feels so much harder once you're past your twenties? Do you question where all the eligible singles are—or if there’s still a way to have fun while meeting them? Have you noticed that certain fears or self-doubts creep in right when you’re about to put yourself out there? If these questions sound familiar, then this Real Talk Tuesday episode is made just for you.
In this episode, Kimmy goes beyond the basics by exploring one of the most frequently asked questions: how to meet eligible people in real life, especially after 40. Kimmy dives into the nitty-gritty of why dating can feel daunting as we age, including how shifting life stages, the rise of digital dating, and internal “love shields” can unintentionally make us less approachable. Through relatable stories, actionable advice, and lively audience Q&A, she uncovers the little-known truth that how you show up (your energy, confidence, and body language) is just as important, if not more so, than where you go to meet someone.
You’ll hear:
Why approachability and body language matter more than ever in dating, especially after 40.
The top challenges singles face when trying to meet people offline—and how to overcome them.
Strategies to break out of negative self-talk and “love shields” that block your chances.
Proven places and times to meet eligible people, from coffee shops to business conferences.
How to create a custom dating “strategy plan” that fits your personality, lifestyle, and stage of life.
Come for the dating drama, stay for the laughs, and leave with a fresh perspective on what real connection actually looks like.
Make sure to subscribe and catch Kimmy LIVE every Tuesday and Thursday at 4pmPST/7pmEST on Instagram and YouTube @kimmyseltzer or go to datingrealtalk.com
How do reality TV dating experiences mirror your own romantic journey? What does it really mean to “find love from within,” and how can seeing others date on screen help you unpack your habits and emotional patterns? This episode of Dating Real Talk dives deep into these questions with Kimmy Seltzer and co-host Allison Melody, fresh off their review of the latest, drama-packed episode from Season 2 of The Golden Bachelor.
Kimmy and Allison use the onscreen dynamics—from Nicole’s high-drama exit to Carol’s self-protective decision to leave, to Mel’s spiritual experiment with shamans and tarot—to shine a light on real-life dating challenges. They unpack the “four domains of chemistry” that fuel connection in every relationship, discuss why certain contestants struggle to move past their comfort zones, and offer heartfelt advice for building confidence and balancing vulnerability. They also get candid about their own experiences with long-distance romance, the evolving role of therapy, and how dating apps can be transformed from frustrating distractions into valuable practice arenas.
You’ll hear:
The four domains of chemistry—physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual—and how to recognize them in dating.
Kimmy’s take on why finding love within yourself is key to attracting true partnership.
How reality TV editing shapes our perceptions…and what’s authentic underneath.
Emotional self-protection, transitional relationships, and lessons from Carol’s exit.
Kimmy’s best advice for long-distance dating, dating apps after 50, and where to “practice flirting” in real life (including why grocery stores are the new singles bars!).
Come for the dating drama, stay for the laughs, and leave with a fresh perspective on what real connection actually looks like.
Make sure to subscribe and catch Kimmy LIVE every Tuesday and Thursday at 4pmPST/7pmEST on Instagram and YouTube @kimmyseltzer or go to datingrealtalk.com
Have you ever looked in the mirror and questioned whether you’re still desirable or wondered if finding love later in life is even possible? What if everything you’ve been told about aging — especially when it comes to love, relationships, and sensuality — was wrong?
In this episode, Kimmy welcomes Natascha Hardee, a pro-aging advocate and one of the standout stars from The Golden Bachelor, for an honest and joyful conversation about reinvention, visibility, and reclaiming joy and flirtation in midlife. Kimmy and Natasha share transformative stories from their own lives and the lives of their clients—like the 85-year-old woman learning to flirt at a bar or the transformational moment when covering mirrors turned into rediscovering beauty in oneself. They explore why so many feel “past their prime” and reveal how you can cultivate radiance and confidence, rewrite your story, and connect meaningfully with others regardless of age.
You’ll get expert insights on mindset, navigating the shifting landscape of relationships, and breaking free from societal expectations. From revelations about dating as a skill and tackling emotional intelligence, to funny behind-the-scenes moments from reality TV and actionable advice on self-love and setting boundaries, every moment is geared towards showing you how to live—and love—with unapologetic zeal at any age.
You’ll hear:
Tips for reinventing your dating life, even after decades away from the scene.
Why aging amplifies your wisdom, confidence, and sensuality, not diminishes it.
The skill of dating: how it’s learned, practiced, and why it matters more now than ever.
Real talk about emotional intelligence and the differences between how men and women approach relationships in midlife.
Actionable ways to prioritize self-love, set boundaries, and cultivate community in your second act.
Come for the dating drama, stay for the laughs, and leave with a fresh perspective on what real connection actually looks like.
Make sure to subscribe and catch Kimmy LIVE every Tuesday and Thursday at 4pmPST/7pmEST on Instagram and YouTube @kimmyseltzer or go to datingrealtalk.com
Are you feeling stuck on the dating "struggle bus"? Have fears or past relationship baggage kept you from putting yourself out there? What does it actually mean to date in your "second act," and how do you gain clarity when everything seems to have changed since your twenties? On this special episode of Dating Real Talk we’re calling Real Talk Tuesday, Kimmy dives into the complex—and sometimes hilarious—world of dating later in life, opening with real questions about how to break out of old patterns, build confidence, and approach love with fresh curiosity.
Kimmy addresses the impact of reality TV on dating mindsets, breaks down the concept of "quantum dating," and offers practical advice for escaping the cycle of fear, frustration, and going nowhere fast. From embracing discomfort and intentionality in meeting people IRL to changing up your environment—and even confronting the realities of rejection—she challenges listeners to stop spinning their wheels and start creating meaningful connections.
You’ll hear:
How the dating mindset has to shift for your second act—and why clarity is everything
What "quantum dating" is and how it can transform your experience
Kimmy's practical formula for meeting people IRL (and why you need diversity in your dating life)
Why so many singles get stuck in the "loop de loo" of fear, comfort, and indecision
Actionable strategies for building confidence, overcoming negative patterns, and reclaiming your spark
Come for the dating drama, stay for the laughs, and leave with a fresh perspective on what real connection actually looks like.
Make sure to subscribe and catch Kimmy LIVE every Tuesday and Thursday at 4pmPST/7pmEST on Instagram and YouTube @kimmyseltzer or go to datingrealtalk.com
What makes us change our minds about a potential partner after that electrifying first impression? Can reality TV dating drama teach us meaningful lessons about our own romantic lives? In this episode, Kimmy Seltzer and Allison Melody dive deep into the intersections of reality television, real-world dating pitfalls, and the surprising power of first impressions.
The conversation kicks off with a lively recap of "The Golden Bachelor," examining how Nicole and Mel transform in viewers’ eyes from ‘hero’ to ‘anti-hero’—and why we all fall for those shiny first impressions. Kimmy and Allison explore the perils of judging too quickly, the concept of “pink flags,” and how projecting our own experiences onto new partners can sabotage authentic connection. They draw parallels between dating on-screen and dating in real life, revealing how timing, vulnerability, and self-awareness are crucial at every stage.
You’ll hear:
How first impressions can change and what to look for beyond the “shiny object.”
What reality TV reveals about red flags, manipulation, and genuine romantic chemistry.
Real-life body language cues of attraction—hair-twirling, proximity, even dilated pupils!
Why pacing and timing matter in sharing vulnerability and personal history on dates.
Tips for safe, fun, and flirty online dating for singles over 50, plus how to avoid scams.
Come for the dating drama, stay for the laughs, and leave with a fresh perspective on what real connection actually looks like.
Make sure to subscribe and catch Kimmy LIVE every Tuesday and Thursday at 4pmPST/7pmEST on Instagram and YouTube @kimmyseltzer or go to datingrealtalk.com
Ready to transform your dating life—whether you're just jumping in, coming back after a hiatus, or navigating dating's "second act"? Dating Real Talk is your weekly destination for all things love, attraction, and confidence, blending the juicy drama of reality TV with actionable, empowering advice for today's singles.
Hosted by confidence therapist and dating strategist Kimmy Seltzer (host of the Charisma Quotient podcast), alongside pop culture commentator Allison Melody (host of the Food Heals podcast), this show is your backstage pass to everything love and relationships—from style overhauls to flirting tips, from body language secrets to first date fails and wins.
You’ll hear:
Breakdowns of the latest pop culture dating shows (hello, Golden Bachelor!) and the real-life lessons hiding behind the drama
Candid, relatable dating stories, including Kimmy’s unforgettable “red dress” transformation
The science of attraction: how first impressions, color choices, and confidence shifts the dating game
Tips for “later daters” and those seeking love the second (or third!) time around
The secrets to making genuine connections—when to share, when to hold back, and how vulnerability builds real connection while trauma bonding creates only the illusion of one.
Come for the dating drama, stay for the laughs, and leave with a fresh perspective on what real connection actually looks like.
Make sure to subscribe and catch Kimmy LIVE every Tuesday and Thursday at 4pmPST/7pmEST on Instagram and YouTube @kimmyseltzer or go to datingrealtalk.com