In this episode, we dive into 4 questions to ask yourself before taking advice from anyone, especially from people close to you. I unpack how to build discernment, break free from subconscious people-pleasing, and develop the muscle of self-trust in an age of information overload.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed by conflicting opinions & information overload, and having trouble connecting to your inner voice, this is for you.
Key moments:
0:00 Intro
2:00 The importance of cultivating discernment in personal relationships
4:35 #1 - Care vs. confirmation bias
7:50 #2 - What does this person actually know about my inner world?
12:08 #3 - You are your own expert & other people’s opinions are fickle
15:54 #4 - Is there a kernel of truth here?
17:15 Summary
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Are you feeling stuck, like something - or someone - is holding you back from your next big move? In this episode, we break down the real reasons behind what's keeping you from reaching your goals, dreams, and full potential.
We dive deep into the external forces that may be sabotaging your success (like toxic people and systemic barriers) AND the sneaky ways you may be unknowingly sabotaging yourself. This isn't your typical "just stop procrastinating" advice. We’re going in - covering the hidden habits like needing permission, fear of judgment from people you know, oversharing too early, and using degrees or mentors as crutches.
This episode is a mix of personal insights, practical tools, and tough love to help you finally break free from the patterns holding you back.
Whether you're an aspiring entrepreneur, creator, or just navigating a major life shift - this episode will help you identify your self-sabotage traps and start moving forward with clarity and confidence.
🎧 Tune in to learn:
- How to recognize external vs. internal sabotage
- The subtle ways you give your power away
- A powerful fear-of-judgment exercise that actually works
- Why imposter syndrome might be a lie
- The real reason you’re starting and stopping projects
Timestamps:
00:00 Intro: Feeling Held Back? Let’s Talk About It
01:03 When Others Hold You Back
03:00 Sneaky Behavior #1: Waiting for Permission
05:56 Sneaky Behavior #2: Oversharing Your Plans Too Soon
07:38 Sneaky Behavior #3: Fear of Judgment
09:50 Sneaky Behavior #4: The Truth About Imposter Syndrome
10:55 Signs You’re Caught in a Self-Sabotage Loop
12:13 How to Break Free
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Have you ever felt like you’re living two lives?
In this episode, we dive deep into the tension many of us feel when our values seem to contradict each other -- stability vs. adventure, creativity vs. structure, cultural expectations vs. personal desires.
I open up about my own journey -- from corporate America to creative pursuits, from big tech to working at a nonprofit -- and how value polarity has shown up at every step. Most importantly, I share 3 powerful mindset shifts to help you make peace with these contradictions and actually use them to your advantage.
Whether you're feeling stuck in indecision or unsure which path to take, this episode is for you.
IN THIS EPISODE:
- What “value polarity” is and why it matters
- Real-life examples of how conflicting values can shape your career and life
- Three mindset shifts to navigate your own polarity with clarity and confidence
Timestamps:
0:00 Intro - feeling pulled in two directions
0:40 What is value polarity?
1:26 Examples of contradictory values
2:05 The "choose one" myth
2:54 My career timeline through polarities
4:40 Reframing value tension - 3 key ideas
9:20 Real-life example: moving from NY to TX
11:50 Living a more integrated life
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In this episode, we dive into how quitting alcohol not only improved my mental and physical well-being but also completely transformed my dating life.
Join me as I share the surprising benefits I experienced after going fully sober, including how it helped me attract healthier relationships and better understand myself.
From my history with alcohol to how it interfered with my personal growth and even my Reiki energy healing, I talk about the taboo of not drinking, especially in social settings, and why I finally made the decision to quit.
You'll hear about the three unexpected benefits of sobriety when it comes to dating:
I’ll also touch on how decentering men and embracing your quirks and values can lead to deeper, more authentic connections.
Timestamps:
00:00 Why it took me so long to go fully sober
01:02 Quitting alcohol improved my dating life
01:45 In our society, it’s taboo to not drink unless you have a “reason”
02:15 How alcohol is antithetical to a spiritual path
02:56 Alcohol + mental health (hangxiety)
03:19 How alcohol interferes with Reiki energy healing
04:20 Binge drinking habits in business school (MBA program)
05:13 Benefit #1 = It became easy to weed out the wrong people
05:40 I could tell who wanted to be my drinking buddy vs. life partner
07:23 The importance of allowing people to get to know the real you
10:01 Benefit #2 = No more beer goggles
10:15 Is this actually fun? Or is alcohol making this fun?
12:22 Taking shots is just a way to connect with people
13:03 Benefit #3 = Super strong intuition
15:07 Decentering men!
15:38 When you show up as yourself, people can meet you where you are
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If you've ever felt like a problem is all your fault, will ruin everything, and/or will never go away, this episode is for you.
I break down the 3Ps, a cognitive trap identified by psychologist Martin Seligman. I talk about how these mental biases keep us stuck and, more importantly, how to break free from them.
If you’re ready to shift your mindset, reframe challenges, and stop letting problems control you, tune in!
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Asees Singh (@aseesk) is an NYC-based powerhouse PR & communications professional, dancer, and movement & mindset expert.
In this episode, we cover:
- Being single in her late 30s
- How dance helps her connect to her sensuality & femininity
- Her decision to freeze her eggs & the difficult emotions (anger, sadness, loneliness) she encountered through the process
- How our relationships with our parents have evolved over time
- And more!
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In this episode, we dive into what we’re really seeking on social media — and why validation isn’t the enemy. We unpack how to create safety within yourself, when seeking approval from others (like your parents) is healthy vs. when it holds you back, and why true safety isn’t just about nervous system regulation — you need other people, too.
If you’ve ever struggled with people-pleasing or tried to “stop caring what others think” but still feel stuck, this conversation will help you reframe validation as a tool rather than a trap. Plus, we explore the impact of being constantly online and why looking to the internet for belonging might be doing more harm than good.
Inside this episode:
- What we’re actually looking for on social media (hint: it’s not just likes and comments)
- Why validation isn’t a bad thing — and how to use it in a healthy way
- How to create safety within yourself, even when external approval is missing
- When seeking validation from your parents is helpful vs. when it holds you back
- Why feeling safe isn’t just about nervous system regulation — you need community
- The hidden ways being online affects your sense of security
- Why the internet can’t provide the safety you’re looking for
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In this episode, we dive deep into topics about love & strength. We talk about:
- My recent move to Austin (for love!) and what it's taught me about strength and self-trust
- Why moving for love isn’t weakness but rather is the ultimate act of courage
- What I used to believe made me "strong" vs. what I now believe
- The concept of being the "first to love," and how it can enhance every area of your life
- How love forces you to confront your fears and evolve in ways solitude never could
- The difference between real peace and the illusion of peace that comes from avoidance
- How embracing love (instead of resisting it) leads to deeper self-discovery and growth
Whether you're exploring dating, loving your single chapter, or about to make a big decision about your love life, this is for you.
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Welcome to The Clarity Container. I'm excited to learn, grow, and evolve with you!
With gratitude,
Omika
