Renee is literally & metaphorically ON THE MOVE & in her own rebirth & reset cycle.
Listen to this episode for a more personal share about:
1. The context that led up to moving from Arkansas to St. Louis - it has been unfolding for many months!
2. How a late diagnosis of AUDHD means disruptions in environment & routine are more challenging & stressful. If this is you, you are not alone & there is a reason your brain is on the blink: it's about CAPACITY!
3. The real & regular challenge of obtaining adhd meds - which demands more executive functioning & adds to frustration.
4. Feeling DEEPLY means saying goodbye is hard. Extended good byes or abrupt are even more challenging.
5. GenX Cycle Breakers, like Renee, rarely get a chance to "come up for air" before a new or another life challenge arises.
Renee will be back "in the saddle" seeing clients soon & can't wait to connect!
Listener Question:
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Renee chats with Michael Herman , the Autistic Half of "Scenes from a Neurodivergent Marriage".
They chat about the nuances of communication styles, the importance of self-acceptance, & the impact of neurodiversity on personal and professional relationships.
They also discuss how understanding one's own needs & communicating them effectively can lead to healthier interactions, both in work and personal life.
The dialogue emphasizes the significance of vulnerability, especially in the context of social media, and how sharing personal experiences can foster community and healing.
They also touch on the challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals in relationships and the importance of mutual understanding and support.
Our Guest:
Michael is a Chicago-based director, playwright and teacher. He loves nothing more than watching a new play come to life, while increasing access to the arts. Michael studied Architecture at The Cooper Union, holds undergraduate degrees in Theater and English from The State University of New York at Brockport, and an MFA in Dramatic Writing from Carnegie Mellon University. Music is the answer.
http://www.outerlooptheater.org/
http://www.youtube.com/@MyAutisticHusband
https://www.tiktok.com/link/v2?
aid=1988&lang=en&scene=bio_url&target=instagram.com%2Fmyautistichusband
https://www.instagram.com/myautistichusband?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==Our Host: Renee Fleming
A therapist turned coach who specializes in trauma healing & late diagnosed neurodivergence.
Nadine's Journey to Trauma Bond Expertise
Nadine shared her personal journey, including her marriage to the Wolf of Wall Street and her later divorce. She discussed how her experiences led her to pursue a career in therapy & eventually earn a doctorate. Nadine specializes in trauma bonds & betrayal trauma, which she developed after realizing the need for further research in this area. She wrote a book based on her findings, which has been well received.
Nadine's Approach to Complex Trauma
Navigating Toxic Relationships & Co-Parenting Challenges
Nadine shared:
Pathological Relationships & Self-Care Strategies
Self-Care &Compassion in Trauma
Nadine discussed the importance of :
Dealing With Narcissistic Individuals
Recognizing Trauma Bonds & Coercive Control
Our Guest:
Dr. Nadine Macaluso, or Dr. Nae, is the real-life inspiration behind Naomi Belfort's character in "The Wolf of Wall Street." She survived a turbulent eight-year marriage to Jordan Belfort, marked by abuse, greed, & trauma.
Following her experiences, Dr. Macaluso relocated to California. Her journey of trauma & healing inspired her to return to school at age 39, where she earned her Master's in counseling & a Ph.D. in somatic psychotherapy. She further specialized with a two-year postdoctoral training in the Neuro-affective Relational Model (NARM).
As a therapist, Dr. Macaluso combines her education & personal experiences to help others heal from trauma. Her practice focuses on assisting patients in connecting with their authentic selves, fostering confidence, resilience, & agency. Dr. Macaluso firmly believes in the potential for post-traumatic growth, instilling hope in her patients & guiding them to reach their potential in life & love.
Be sure to check out Dr. Macaluso’s new book, “Run Like Hell” & her online community on Circle!
Our Host:
Renee Fleming, therapist & coach, can be found on most social media platforms @Resetwithrenee or www.resetwithrenee.com
Both her free & subscription community & courses can be found on Mighty Networks.
Neurodivergence & Ableism
Alexithymia: Emotional Understanding & Relationships
Alexithymia is a condition where individuals struggle to identify & express their emotions which can be disorienting & unsettling, often requiring a longer period of reflection to understand & resolve. They also touched on the potential impact of alexithymia on interpersonal relationships & how it may vary across different cultures.
Neurodiverse Experiences With IFS Therapy
Sofia and Renee discussed their experiences with Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy. Both agreed that their experiences were influenced by their neurodiverse wiring, which made traditional IFS methods less effective for them.
Family Constellations for Parts Work Related to Alexithymia
Sofia highlighted the benefits of these modalities for individuals with Alexithymia.
Exploring Alexithymia & Emotional Suppression
They agreed that this condition could be linked to genetic wiring, as well as emotional neglect & abuse - which sets up a trauma respone of learned suppression. Suppressing emotions is a significant energy drain for those affected.
Family constellations is an approach that can help individuals witness their emotions without having to actively work on them.
Effective Session & Movement Discussion
Recently, Sofia facilitated a session for Renee & Renee shared how helpful it was to have her parts represented. She noted that the session felt more powerful & deep than others she had experienced.
Sofia also shared her experience of representing her own part during a family constellations training, highlighting the importance of using the skills of an Ifs practitioner when working with one's own parts.
New Method of Working With Parts
Sofia shared how she had been able to connect with parts that were previously elusive, such as the parts responsible for squashing joy & play, and the parts responsible for blocking sadness. She noted that these parts were not as extreme in their job after being connected with, allowing for more flexibility & awareness of emotions. Sofia also mentioned that the impact of the parts work persisted after the experience.
Sofia's Work with Parts in Family Constellations
Sofia discussed her recent interactions with four parts. Renee emphasized the importance of building relationships with parts of the self, particularly in the context of the healing journey which often involves updating parts, & releasing them energetically from past traumatic experiences through unburdening.
Sofia's Healing Journey Development Plans
Sofia discussed her intention to develop & make her work available to clients who want to have similar work done for them. She plans to start with one-off sessions & then move to weekly cohorts where participants can trade off being clients & witnesses. She shared her vision of having a group of people who keep coming back to work on their own systems and be involved in other people's work. Sofia also hinted at the possibility of creating a membership program for ongoing practices & communication.
OUR GUEST: Sofia Olson is a Level 2 certified IFS practitioner, as well as a Family Constellations Facilitator.
Sofia is ADHD, alexithymic, & aphantasic. She's also the parent, step-parent, wife, daughter, & sister of people with various neurdivergences. She has benefited tremendously from going on an anti-ableism journey with her wife who became chronically ill in 2014 & then began learning about their neurodivergence in 2022.
To satisfy her ADHD brain, she splits her work time between healing work & nonprofit accounting consulting. Find Sofia at:
OUR HOST: Renee Fleming of Reset With Renee
Renee’s mentor, Tanner Wallace, visits for a follow up discussion to their conversation in November 2024.
See Episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/14OIRSzS0KfCJ7cceOn020?si=hWsntv0iTDWqGzxB627yag
Tanner Wallace, a former academician, is a survivor of childhood trauma & has been on an active healing journey for the past five years. Tanner is a Level 3 Internal Family Systems (IFS) trained practitioner. She has integrated various modalities into a cohesive healing protocol.
Success in Resolution: Persistence & Conviction
Tanner shared a personal story about a mentor who emphasized the importance of persistence in the face of rejections, suggesting that the key to success lies in not giving up. Tanner emphasized that everyone has their own timeline for healing & that setbacks are a natural part of the process. Different trauma responses were discussed & Tanner noted that those with a more collapsed, helpless response may face a harder starting point.
Breaking Cycles of Disempowerment
Exploring Dark Energy & Trauma
Dark energy is characterized by a destructive, dehumanizing energy that can manifest as rage & a desire to destroy. This trauma energy is often a result of unresolved trauma from generations past & can lead to cycles of shame & oppression. Lineage work & ancestral medicine are helpful paths to understand & address these issues.
Expanding Trauma Work & Community
The importance of creating a global community of shared stories & experiences was highlighted for the future of trauma healing. Tanner guides humans focused on cycle-breaking & seeking practical guidance on managing relationships with family members who may not be fully supportive of the healing process. The unique position of Gen X in facilitating this work as a bridge between generations was highlighted.
Personal Power & Self-Trust in Healing
Personal power, self-belief, & self-trust are needed to heal trauma & overcome challenges.
Our Guest: Tanner Wallace
Our Host: Renee Fleming
#resetwithrenee #ifsforcptsd #genx #cyclebreakers #generationalhealers #recovery #traumahealing #lineage #personalpower #unshame #survivors #traumaenergy #householders #conviction
Join Renee & Maggie as they discuss the therapeutic aspects of astrology & the importance of reconnecting with oneself after experiencing significant trauma.
Astrology as Tool for Self-Discovery
• the grounding of astrology in nature & potential as a mirror for personal growth
• a language that transcends the physical world
• hold astrological interpretations lightly - individuals make their own decisions about what resonates with them
Astrology's Prescriptive Nature and Evolution
Maggie discussed the concept of astrology, specifically evolutionary astrology, focusing on its prescriptive nature rather than just descriptive. Maggie explained that astrology can provide insights into the possibilities & experiences an individual may encounter in their lifetime, moving beyond mere personality descriptions, which can be helpful during life transitions & changes.
Exploring Archetypes and Personal Purpose
• Understanding these energies can help make practical life decisions
• A litmus test for personal health as well as helps identify one's soul's purpose & journey
Astrology's Role in Life's Challenges
• Provides a bigger picture of one's life, helping to understand the deeper meaning & purpose behind challenging experiences.
• Helpful for deep thinkers & those who are highly sensitive, as it offers a framework for understanding & processing difficult emotions & experiences.
Radical Acceptance and Astrological Healing
• Astrology can provide a broader perspective on life experiences, helping individuals understand that their wounds may have originated before their current life & that they have the power to heal them
• A perspective can empower individuals to move forward & find meaning in their experiences, rather than feeling stuck or powerless
• Understanding the internal processes that may be mirrored in external events, & how this understanding can lead to more intentional & empowered healing
Astrology as Life Navigation Tool
• Natal charts can reveal areas of life where significant growth & learning occur, helping to broaden one's perspective on challenges
• Valuable insights can potentially reduce suffering & allow for more conscious participation in life
External Perspectives and Personal Clarity
Renee shared her experience of a past relationship, where a reading with Maggie helped her gain clarity & perspective.
Astrology Readings and Life Insights
• Natal chart readings provide insights into an individual's life & purpose
• Chart processing sessions can deepen understanding
• Transit readings offer insights into specific time periods
• Solar return charts predict psychological changes over the next year
Our Guest: Maggie Jones Boyle, LPC, Sacred Circle Holistic Healing, specializes in working with childhood trauma, complex PTSD, & issues related to people pleasing, boundary setting, and sense of self.
www.sacredcircleholistichealing.com
@sacredcircleholistichealing
Your Host: Renee Fleming
@resetwithrenee
#resetwithrenee #traumahealing #astrology #evolutionaryastrology #frameworks #reclamation #clarity #lifepurpose #archetype
SUMMARY
Renee & Bex, both therapists & late-diagnosed autistic individuals, discussed their personal experiences & plans to research the intersection of autism & psychedelics as well as the potential benefits & challenges of using these psychedelics substances for therapy.
The conversation ended with a deep & meaningful discussion about their personal journeys, including their experiences with trauma, therapy, & psychedelics, & the need for more effective treatment modalities for neurodivergent individuals.
THEMES DISCUSSED
Exploring Autism and Psychedelic Therapy
Ketamine Therapy's Life-Changing Impact
Ketamine treatments helped Bex to relax & release physical tension, making therapy more effective. This change was also validated by her massage therapist.
Addressing Physical Trauma in Therapy
The need for a "bottom-up" approach to healing was discussed as well as the challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals, particularly those with autism, in identifying their body's states & needs due to difficulties with interoception.
Ketamine Therapy & Autism Impact
Ketamine therapy significantly reduced Bex’s depression scores & also seemed to affect her autism, making her less sensitive to sensory inputs & more flexible in daily routines.
Coping With Trauma & Loss
Emotional Experiences and Visions
An MDMA vision (black, oozing river of trauma & a vision of her younger self on the other side) led Bex to realize that she needed to confront her trauma directly. A life-changing moment with ketamine & a positive experience with MDMA also helped her feel more connected & less overwhelmed by her autism.
Journey to Self-Realization and Acceptance
"I am enough" is a belief that is hard for neurodivergent people to claim. A journey led Bex to realize that while she had spent her life asking for permission & approval to exist, she was always good enough. Bex shared her husband's sweet emotional response to their realization.
Neurodivergent Identities and Trauma Therapy
Exploring Psychedelic Treatments for Healing
Substance Sensitivity & Neurodivergent Effects
Personal Journeys and Therapy Challenges
About Our Guest: Bex is the owner of Your Unique Mind LLC & provides Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy at Klarity Clinic in Las Vegas NV. Bex is also pursuing a PhD in Autism Studies at Towson University in Maryland.
In private practice Bex is focused on clients who are autistic or have other neurodivergent identities, trauma, & relational challenges related to neurodivergence.
In any spare time, Bex can be found playing or listening to music, playing poker, reading & researching various special interests, advocating for autistic supports, & enjoying her friends and family which include her 4 cats.
About Our Host: Renee is a therapist turned coach specializing in CPTSD, trauma bonds, & Neurocomplexity. Learn more here: https://resetwithrenee.com/
Both your host & guest are graduates of the Integrative Psychiatry Institute: https://psychiatryinstitute.com/psychedelic/
#resetwithrenee #psychedelicassistedtherapy #cpatp #neurodivergent #autism #audhd #hsp #traumahealing #woundedhealer #cptsdrecovery #latediagnosedwomen #interoception #youareneough #partswork
Renee and Helen, both healthcare, professionals discussed the challenges faced by women with neurodivergence and hormonal changes, particularly during perimenopause and menopause.
They highlighted the lack of understanding and support from healthcare providers, emphasizing the need for greater awareness, research, and standardized care for these issues.
The conversation also touched on the importance of recognizing women's roles in medicine and careers, as well as the need to promote acceptance and understanding of neurodiversity in society.
Listen to hear their discussion of the following topics:
Our Guest: Dr. Helen Wall
Doctor, Broadcaster, Columnist & Medical Keynote Speaker
Our Host:Renee Fleming/Reset With Renee
Therapist Turned Coach & Late Diagnosed Woman
Renee interviews Danny Conner, a seasoned psychonaut, who has a wealth of knowledge & experience with different medicines.
Both Renee & Danny discuss the importance of "set & setting" as well as continued integration. Ideas of surrender & non-resistance are key to opening to the experience. Cautious & intentional use of any medicine is highlighted versus self medicating or recreational use.
The conversation focuses on the healing nature of the medicines & includes deep dives into the following areas:
For more information about Danny Conner:
https://five-meo.education/ https://sacredwellness1.com/
For more information about Renee:
David Bedrick visited the show to discuss his book "The Unshaming Way" & share insights on embracing emotions, understanding trauma, & setting boundaries.
Embracing Emotions for Personal Growth
Childhood Experiences and Self-Belief Impact
Understanding Natural Essence and Strengths
Understanding and Embracing Boundaries
Emotional Authenticity and Self-Acceptance
Addressing Trauma and Shame in Relationships
Authenticity and Vulnerability in Leadership
They emphasized the need for leaders who can hold space, witness, & share their own struggles & imperfections. OUR GUEST
David Bedrick, JD, Dipl. PW, is a teacher, counselor, and attorney. He grew up in a family marked by violence. While his father’s brutality was physical and verbal, his mother’s denial and gaslighting had its own covert power. This formative context introduced David early to the etiology of shame and instilled an urge to unshame.
Professionally, he was on the faculty for the University of Phoenix and the Process Work Institute in the U.S. and Poland and is the founder of the Santa Fe Institute for Shame-based Studies where he trains therapists, coaches and healers and offers workshops for individuals to further their own personal development.
David writes for Psychology Today and is the author of three books: Talking Back to Dr. Phil: Alternatives to Mainstream Psychology and Revisioning Activism: Bringing Depth, Dialogue, and Diversity to Individual and Social Change.
His new book is You Can’t Judge a Body by Its Cover: 17 Women’s Stories of Hunger, Body Shame and Redemption. His new book, The Unshaming Way, was published by North Atlantic books in November 2024.
Links:
Order The Unshaming Way: https://a.co/d/dYTwNa7
Website: https://www.davidbedrick.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/david.bedrick/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DBedrick
Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/david-bedrick-jd-dipl-pw
YOUR HOST
Find Renee @ResetwithRenee & on her website: www.resetwithrenee.com
Join Renee & others for a journey of growth, healing, transformation, leadership, & evolution in the Reset Collective available on Mighty Networks:
https://reset-gathering.mn.co/share/Z2B41TXYimz0wgrm?utm_source=manual
Renee & Ashley are GenX women who have worked with women for decades wrestling with the challenge of being an Overfunctioning Woman in love with an Underfunctioning Man.
GenX women received the message, “you can have it all” yet the GenX men were NOT taught how to level up their skillset to be in equal partnership.
There is an EPIDEMIC of women carrying the MENTAL LOAD & leading the planning, coordination, & execution of managing family & the home while working, caregiving for children & other family, AND not having enough resourcing.
The Overfunctioning Woman in relationship with an Underfunctioning Man will attempt to:
• Partner
• Problem Solve
• Plan
• Make Bids for Connection.
And she will meet the defensive shield of the Underfunctioning Man, who does not have the skillset or capacity to feel his own feelings. And therefore, he is not available to meet hers either.
His response will likely include:
• Denial
• Dismissal
• Defense
• Projection (turn the tables or “off load”)
Leaving her stuck with overwhelm, unmet needs, self-doubt, anger, resentment, & hurt.
This cycle will “rinse & repeat” until she loses hope & her love is destroyed.
She has experienced “death by a thousand papercuts” & when she is DONE, he feels blindsided.
Women in midlife are being called to RESTORE their personal power & plug energy leaks.
It is NOT selfish; it is self-preservation.
You are worthy. You are NOT crazy. This is textbook.
Emotional safety is a prerequisite for healthy relationships.
To learn more about Dr. Ashley Southard & her work: http://www.drashleysouthard.com/
To learn more about Renee & her work: www.resetwithrenee.com
To join the Reset Collective available for free on Might Networks: https://reset-gathering.mn.co/share/Z2B41TXYimz0wgrm?utm_source=manual
My AUDHD assessment as well as my podcast interview with Tanner Wallace of CPTSD Medicine took place in 2024.
In hindsight, there was much more to say about IFS, CPTSD, & AUDHD.
CPTSD Medicine Podcast Episode/Navigating Neurodivergence
https://open.spotify.com/episode/14OIRSzS0KfCJ7cceOn020?si=JS79kOegQZyoUx-1Y13Cgg
THIS EPISODE: While many neurological differences are hereditary & present at birth, some are acquired. For late diagnosed beings, NOT having this information can be a giant obstacle to living their best life.
IFS is a fabulous model for healing for both populations but alternative perspectives are needed to avoid delay in improvement, hurt & harn, & shame.
If you weren't born with a neurological developmental difference, you can still acquire neurological differences through trauma.
For people with native or acquired neurodivergence, finding neuroaffirming providers is essntial as neurotypical care can create hurt & harm.
Learn how Renee has come to understand how to adapt the IFS model for CPTSD Recovery.
Renee advocates for greater awareness of neurocomplexity & shares more about her journey of discovering her AUDHD on her path towards CPTSD Resolution.
Meet Taylor Damiani:
"Hi, I’m Taylor. I’m a Psychologist and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Coach, but honestly, I’m just someone who knows how messy and complicated healing from a dysfunctional family can be. Growing up with anarcis sistic parent (and all the dynamics that come with that), I get how hard it is to untangle yourself from years of self-doubt and expectations and figure out who you really are. It’s taken me a long time to start reconnecting with my true self (and honestly, it’s still a work in progress). Now, I help others who’ve grown up with narcissistic parents find their way back to themselves through my group program, Reclaim You: Healing as Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents."
Find Taylor At:
website: www.reclaimyougroup.com
social: https://www.instagram.com/taylordamiani
Taylor & Renee Chat About:
Personal Journeys and Healing Work
Taylor and Renee discussed their personal journeys and how they connected through social media. Renee expressed her appreciation for Taylor's work and mentioned an upcoming summit focused on cycle breaking. Taylor shared her own healing journey, which began in 2015 when she discovered Dani Morgan's website. She then pursued a graduate degree and eventually started her own healing work, with Renee being one of the first speakers at her first summit.
Taylor's Summit on Healing and Cycle Breaking
Taylor discussed her passion for organizing summits, particularly those focused on healing from narcissistic abuse and cycle breaking. The upcoming summit will explore themes of reconnecting with one's inner self, redefining identity, and becoming a cycle breaker. Taylor emphasized the importance of self-reparenting and becoming the person one needed.
Themes Discussed:
The upcoming summit, which will take place from December 9th to 12th - will consist of four days of presentations, with the last day being an interactive day of discussions and workshops. Each presentation will be available for 24 hours, and attendees can purchase an all-access pass for lifetime access. There will also be live speaker panels and peer panels where attendees can share their stories.
Renee's presentation for the Summit is on the topic of Resistance & Rejection. Renee wiill offer a follow-up Q&A session for those who purchase the all-access pass.
Register for Cycle Breaker Summit using Renee's Affiliate Link: https://resetwithrenee.krtra.com/t/IJuO2SNUZEYf
I’m moving through a new phase of recovery & want to share it with you in real time.
This is different for me. I historically wait until I’m “on the other side” of it for neutrality, clarity, & solutions.
I do believe there is value in sharing “what’s real” in real-time. For me, there is freedom in honoring my truth. For others, my hope is that my story continues to serve those who are still searching for their truth. I hope too that in sharing I might help you put your puzzle pieces together too.
My puzzle pieces to date have been understanding Narcissistic abuse & CPTSD recovery.
I’ve made a lot of progress in many ways but there have been many challenges. Adequate support, enough safety, & the environment do matter on a recovery journey.
Listen to learn how I entered the #hsp to #autism pipeline:
Do get assessed or self identify?
What the process was like
Relief & grief as a late diagnosed GenX female
An umbrella of characteristics, gifts, & challenges
Masking & autistic burnout
Lack of neuro affirming providers & why
Co-occurrence with trauma
"Canary in the Coal Mine"
Overdue Reset
Calling in neuro inclusivity & neuro affirming advocacy, support, & resources vs stigma
Learn why Renee believes CPTSD is more common than not!
Lineage/Ancestral Burdens:
1. Inheritances of hurt
2. Frequencies of fear
3. Shadowy survival strategies
Wounding in Your Lifetime:
1. Developmental Trauma (see ACES)
2. Relational betrayals
3. Secondary Traumas
4. The "Collective"
Identify common characteristics of CPTSD survivors.
See Blog: https://resetwithrenee.com/complex-ptsd-cptsd-traits/
How to move forward:
1. Clear out trauma energy to
2. Leave a LEGACY of restoration to wholeness
3. Create a Ripple Effect
RESOURCES MENTIONED:
1. Prepare Enrich Couples Assessment: https://www.prepare-enrich.com/couples/why-prepare-enrich/
--Preparation, Enrichment, Restoration
--Assess strengths & growth areas with guided support
2. HEAL CLASS (Heal Emotions And Relationship Troubles) by Renee Fleming. Contact for more details.
3. Book - Thawing Childhood Abandonment Issues by Don Carter, MSW, LCSW
4. Work of John Gottman: https://www.gottman.com/
5. Dr. Mark Hyman Meme IG: “The majority of arguments between couples are around 3 main areas – control & power, care & closeness, and respect & recognition.”
SHOW NOTES:
NEEDS:
A. Survival Needs = Basic Needs: food shelter, clothing, medical attention, safety & protection. If a child doesn’t feel safe, then they cannot relax & play; disrupts developmental growth. Protective mechanisms will develop for survival & will become an added burden later in life.
B. Emotional Dependency Needs = Basic & Primary Needs for Love & Esteem = Time, Attention, Affection, & Direction.
WOUNDS from “The Past”: When NEEDS aren’t met and/or something happens or doesn’t happen that should in the absence of support. These wounds HURT & adaptive (defensive, protective, proactive/extreme/reactive) strategies are then developed & repeated.
Common Emotional Injuries/Wounds: being controlled, excluded, abandoned, humiliated, neglected, abused, betrayed, rejected, ignored, & disrespected.
Suggested Partner Conversation: It might be helpful to discuss with your partner, how your families of origin handled or reacted to each of the main ”primary” emotions: mad, sad, scared, & glad. In other words, what was accepted/encouraged & what was avoided/minimized/shamed?
Self-Check: Assess what is overdeveloped, underdeveloped, or appropriately skillful….?
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This episode is an endcap to a series on having & healing the Father Wound.
To understand what a father wound is see: https://resetwithrenee.com/understanding-and-healing-the-father-wound/.
In this episode, I follow the 3 part blog on my website to share with you my story & journey as it relates to healing my own father wound.
Our story may be similar or different, but if you have a father wound or experienced something similar, may you find comfort that you are not alone.
It is hard work to be the cycle breaker of generational trauma. It requires a multidimensional approach beyond "talk therapy".
Wholeness, peace, harmony, abundance, is medicine for the heart & soul of someone who knows fear, lack, scarcity, & conflict.
If you think we may a good fit to work together I invite you to reach out for your own RESET.
IFS parts work + an understanding of the 4 Fs of the nervous system (Polyvagal Theory):
as these responses drive protective parts.
Accessing I AM is essential for growth, healing, & recovery.
Bringing help to I HURT parts is key for the whole system.
Learning how to HOLD THE HURT is often hard without a process, practice, & support.
See IG/FB for May 2024 posts on this topic for more information. Drop your questions for me to reply to in future episodes!
Join a healing circle Wednesday May 8th 10 AM CST via Zoom to receive facilitation to connect to the Great Mother; a frequency that can tend to the Mother Wound many of us carry.
Creating generational health means breaking the cycle of disempowerment that is passed from each generation until a cycle breaker does the deep & often challenging & unrecognized work of healing their hurt as well as showing up for the hurt of their family.
Attend the event, purchase the recording, or listen to learn more about how to disrupt disempowering energy & activate personal power.
