Join my newsletter at untamedember.kit.com for deep dives. Consensual non-consent (CNC) is one of the edgiest and most misunderstood areas of kink. Done well, it’s cathartic and erotic. Done poorly, it becomes coercion. In this episode, I break down the ethics of CNC: how to negotiate clearly, check capacity, and always have clear off-ramps in place. We’ll talk nervous system safety, why freeze and fawn matter, and how to play with intensity without crossing lines. CNC doesn’t erase consent — it makes it even more central. Subscribe to Untamed Ember wherever you get your podcasts.

Join my newsletter at untamedember.kit.com for weekly deep dives. “Enthusiastic consent” sounds great — but what if your body doesn’t do loud, verbal yeses? For neurodivergent folks, trauma survivors, and anyone who struggles with words in the moment, enthusiasm might look like presence, softness, or subtle signals. In this episode, we unpack what enthusiastic consent really means, why verbal expression isn’t the only valid language of desire, and how to honor body-based yeses and noes. Because consent isn’t about volume — it’s about clarity, congruence, and safety. Subscribe to Untamed Ember wherever you get your podcasts.

Join my newsletter at untamedember.kit.com for weekly deep dives. Safe, Sane, and Consensual. Risk-Aware Consensual Kink. Personal Responsibility in Consensual Kink. If you’ve been in kink spaces, you’ve heard the acronyms — but what do they mean for nervous-system safety? In this episode, I break down SSC, RACK, and PRICK/SSICK, explore where they succeed and where they fall short, and offer a nervous system lens that makes consent more than words on paper. If you’re neurodivergent, trauma-impacted, or just craving clarity, you’ll learn how to translate these frameworks into embodied practice so consent is real, not theoretical. Subscribe to Untamed Ember wherever you get your podcasts.  

Join my newsletter at untamedember.kit.com for weekly deep dives. ADHD meds can be a lifesaver for focus, productivity, and stability — but no one tells you what they might do to your sex life. Lowered desire, delayed arousal, harder-to-reach orgasms… it’s a thing, and it’s not your fault. In this episode, I talk about how stimulant medications interact with sexual response, why neurodivergent brains often experience sex differently, and what strategies can help you adapt without shame. From timing your intimacy to sensory amplifiers to honest scripts with partners, this is about reclaiming agency and keeping pleasure alive — meds or no meds. Subscribe to Untamed Ember wherever you get your podcasts.

Join my newsletter at untamedember.kit.com for weekly deep dives. You want to feel connected, but suddenly you’re gone — body present, mind floating near the ceiling tiles. Dissociation during sex can feel confusing, shameful, or even like proof something’s wrong with you. But here’s the truth: dissociation isn’t failure, it’s protection. In this episode, I break down why nervous systems sometimes check out during intimacy, how trauma and shame hijack presence, and what you can do to begin reclaiming safety and real connection. This isn’t about forcing pleasure or performing for your partner — it’s about understanding your body’s brilliance and learning to stay with yourself one breath at a time. Subscribe to Untamed Ember wherever you get your podcasts.

Ever wondered why detailed negotiation, safe words, and scene structure don’t kill the vibe in kink—they actually make it hotter? For neurodivergent and trauma-impacted folks, clear boundaries and predictable roles can feel like a nervous system exhale. In this episode of Untamed Ember, Dr. Misty unpacks how structured intimacy (like kink and BDSM) creates real safety, reduces dissociation, and turns clarity into turn-on. We’ll dive into why your brain craves rules in the bedroom, how consent conversations are actually erotic, and why aftercare is non-negotiable for healing. Craving intimacy that feels genuinely safe? Hit play—and subscribe to Untamed Ember wherever you get your podcasts. Join the free weekly newsletter for bonus podcast episodes and free content at untamedember.kit.com

Ever sat in your car outside an event, heart racing, stomach in knots, every cell in your body screaming don’t go in, but guilt dragged you anyway? In this episode, Dr. Misty dismantles the toxic myth that keeping every commitment equals moral worth. You’ll learn the neuroscience behind why saying no is an act of nervous system protection, how to spot your body’s “quit signals” before burnout hits, and practical strategies for bailing, gracefully, unapologetically, and without drowning in guilt. Perfect for neurodivergent, queer, trauma-impacted, and chronically overcommitted rebels ready to reclaim their energy, boundaries, and agency. For more gems, freebies, and podcast bonus episodes, join the free weekly newsletter at untamedember.kit.com

What happens when your body aches for more touch than your partner, friend, or family can give—or when you crave space while someone else longs to connect? In this radically honest episode of Untamed Ember, Dr. Misty dives deep into the science, shame, grief, and negotiation of “touch hunger” and mismatched touch needs. Discover why touch is a real biological need, how neurodivergence, trauma, fat liberation, and disability justice shape who gets touched (and who doesn’t), and get practical tools, scripts, and rituals for navigating the awkward, brave, and beautiful work of honoring your body’s truth. Whether you’re touch-starved, touched-out, or somewhere in between, this episode is your permission slip to need what you need—without apology. Share, reflect, and join The Ember Vault for more embodied, inclusive community.

Is waiting agony for you? Do you feel anxious when a conversation goes quiet, or does time vanish when you’re hyperfocused? In this episode of Untamed Ember, Dr. Misty unpacks how ADHD and neurodivergent brains experience time differently—why pauses can feel like punishment, and why mismatched tempos create conflict, shame, and communication breakdowns. You’ll get a science-backed, radically honest look at time perception, plus practical tools and conversation scripts to make your own “time warp” visible and workable in relationships, work, and daily life. Perfect for neurodivergent folks, partners, friends, and anyone ready to ditch urgency culture and honor their real rhythm. Listen, share, and join the Untamed Ember rebellion—because your tempo isn’t a flaw, it’s your superpower. Subscribe to Untamed Ember wherever you get your podcasts, and join The Untamed Ember Newsletter at untamedember.kit.com for more deep dives, resources, and freebies.

Subscribe to the Untamed Ember newsletter for free resources, weekly insights, and more SOFT practices: untamedember.kit.com. Are you haunted by old stories in your sex life—shutdowns, freeze responses, numbness, or shame that shows up right when you most want to be present? In this episode, Dr. Misty takes you deeper than talk therapy, into the places your body holds ancestral scripts about pleasure, safety, and desire—sometimes generations deep. Discover how your fascia acts as the body’s living archive, and learn the basics of SOFT (Somatic-Oriented Fascia Therapy), Misty’s original approach for working with tissue-level memory and nervous system liberation. You’ll hear stories, get practical ways to notice your “ghosts,” and find out why your pleasure isn’t something you have to earn—it’s your birthright.

Grab your FREE worksheet and weekly shame-smashing resources at untamedember.kit.com — where every part of you belongs. — Ever notice that right when things get steamy, your brain turns into a Twitter feed of insecurity? Welcome to the world of parts work, sex edition. In this episode, Dr. Misty dives headfirst into Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy and how your inner critic, perfectionist, rebel, caretaker, and shame-burdened exiles all love to crash your sex life. We’re talking about: Why sexual difficulties are rarely about “technique”—and almost always about internal parts fighting for airtime How the Performance Manager, Hypervigilant Protector, People-Pleasing Caretaker, and your spicy inner exiles hijack your pleasure Specific, actionable strategies to check in with your parts, speak for them, and actually integrate their wisdom instead of letting them run wild Neurodivergent masking, sexual spontaneity, and why you might feel disconnected or stuck in performance mode (again) Real talk: The parts of you that want connection, the ones that want control, and how to get them working together instead of fighting for the mic Ready to turn your internal chaos into conscious, embodied pleasure? Listen in, download your worksheet from The Ember Vault, and start negotiating with your inner committee—no shame, no judgment, just radical acceptance. — Subscribe for weekly resources: untamedember.kit.com Podcast + show notes at untamedember.com — #SexTherapy #InternalFamilySystems #PartsWork #SexualHealing #NeurodivergentSex #ShameFreeSex #QueerSexuality #TraumaInformedSex #UntamedEmber #SexualLiberation

Get weekly, radical resources and bonus episodes free at untamedember.kit.com — Your pleasure deserves better. — Ever wondered why your brain is a full “hell yes” but your body suddenly ghosts the moment things heat up? Or why your nervous system sabotages even the sexiest situations? In this no-holds-barred episode, Dr. Misty goes full trauma nerd on the vagus nerve—that misunderstood highway running between your brain, your body, and your ability to actually stay present for pleasure. We’re not talking about generic “just relax” advice or another meditation app download. We’re hacking your actual sexual nervous system with trauma-informed, neurodivergent-friendly, science-backed strategies. Discover: Why your vagus nerve can’t mind its business during sex (and how it becomes an accidental cockblocker) How chronic stress, trauma, and neurodivergence set the stage for “nervous system sabotage” The real reason arousal sometimes flips to anxiety, shutdown, or sensory overwhelm—and what to do about it Practical, immediately usable hacks for vagus nerve stimulation, breathwork, movement, and sensory support before and during sex Why the neurodivergent brain needs rituals and “transition time” for pleasure—and how to build them This episode is for every beautifully complex, neurodivergent, queer, or trauma-impacted human who’s tired of being shamed for their body’s boundaries. Your sexual nervous system isn’t broken—it’s just never been given the tools (or the respect) it deserves. Let’s fix that. Listen in, reclaim your body’s pleasure wiring, and don’t forget to grab your free worksheet in The Ember Vault.

Ever had sex with a partner who was physically present but clearly somewhere else? Welcome to the “What the Fuck Just Happened?” club. This episode is for every partner who’s ever wondered why their neurodivergent, trauma-impacted, or just beautifully complex lover seemed to disappear mid-connection—while their body kept going through the motions. Dr. Misty (Untamed Ember) breaks down what dissociation really looks like during sex, why it’s not a Yelp review of your skills, and how to create the kind of safety that brings your person back—without pressure, shame, or performance. Learn how to spot the subtle signs, what to do (and NOT do) when it happens, and why real intimacy means honoring nervous system reality, not just consent on paper. We’re throwing out the toxic scripts about sexual perfection, reclaiming what it means to love someone with trauma, and getting nerdy about co-regulation, nervous system signals, and non-performative presence. Bonus: Grab the partner’s worksheet in The Ember Vault for scripts, rituals, and reflection tools. Listen to the Untamed Ember podcast wherever you get your podcasts, and join The Ember Vault for weekly deep-dive worksheets at untamedember.com.

Get weekly free resources and bonus podcast episodes—sign up for the Untamed Ember newsletter at untamedember.kit.com. Ever felt like your body was sabotaging you during sex, even when your mind and heart were all-in? In this episode, Dr. Misty unpacks the wild world of somatic therapy and why your body’s “weird” responses are actually wisdom in action—not dysfunction. We’ll break down how shame, trauma, and neurodivergence shape our sexual scripts, and why honoring your authentic needs is the most revolutionary act of all. This episode covers: The science of why bodies freeze, tense, or check out during intimacy (even with safe partners) SE, Hakomi, and TRE—somatic tools that let you finally listen to your nervous system (instead of fighting it) How to create a personalized “sexual map” so you know exactly what your body needs to feel safe and turned on Radical embodiment, embodied consent, and how to build authentic sexual healing without performance, perfection, or shame Includes real stories, hands-on practices, and that signature Untamed Ember mix of humor, rebellion, and real talk. Don’t forget: This week’s worksheet, “Your Sexual Somatic Intelligence Map,” is waiting in the Ember Vault at untamedember.com. You are not broken. Your body is brilliant. And sexual healing starts when you finally learn to speak your body’s language. #SexTherapy #Somatic #BodyWisdom #NeurodivergentSex #QueerSexEd #TraumaInformed #UntamedEmber  

Ever burst into tears during a massage or felt grief bubble up when you’re just trying to sleep? You’re not broken—and you’re definitely not alone. In this episode, Dr. Misty pulls back the curtain on fascia: your body’s secret emotional archivist. We’ll break down what fascia actually is (think: way sexier than raw chicken), why it hoards every microtrauma and shutdown, and how those mysterious aches, pains, and restless nights are actually your body keeping score. From chronic jaw tension to pelvic floor pain to the sleep-shame spiral, you’ll learn why your “tight hips” are holding old grief, why your jaw’s clenching on unsaid truths, and why stretching just isn’t enough. Most importantly, we’ll explore erotic rest—not just as self-care, but as an act of radical rebellion and embodied pleasure for trauma-impacted, neurodivergent, and queer bodies. Get practical tools for fascial release (no, not torture with foam rollers), and learn why tenderness—not performance—is your body’s true path to safety, pleasure, and finally, real rest. Listen in for: The real deal on fascia as emotional memory How trauma and shame live in connective tissue The “fascia-sleep-shame loop” (and how to break it) Science-backed, anti-perfectionist tools for reclaiming rest and pleasure Why erotic rest is a liberation movement, not a wellness trend Mentioned: Download this episode’s worksheet, “Mapping the Body’s Bedtime Stories,” exclusively in The Ember Vault.

Why does your brain turn into a haunted house the minute you finally feel safe enough to rest? Why do so many trauma-impacted, neurodivergent adults struggle with sleep—even when nothing is “wrong” on the outside? Welcome to Untamed Ember, where Dr. Misty dives headfirst into the Polyvagal Paradox—that infuriating reality where your body refuses to relax, no matter how perfect your sleep hygiene or how many weighted blankets you own. In this episode, we break down: Why sleep is the ultimate act of vulnerability—and why your nervous system might see it as a threat, not a reward How trauma, neurodivergence, and chronic stress rewire your body’s ability to rest (and why “just relax” is a setup for shame) The difference between “tired but wired” insomnia and emotional collapse sleep—and why you might bounce between both The real role of fascia, hypervigilance, and your window of tolerance in sleep struggles (not just “bad habits”) How polyvagal theory reveals the secret language of your sleep cycles—plus what “false ventral” looks like at 2AM A client story that proves: Your sleep isn’t broken, your nervous system is just a damn good protector Radically practical, non-performative tools for reclaiming rest: deep pressure, rocking, Yoga Nidra, body scan journaling, and the lost art of letting your sleep be weird This isn’t another lecture on blue light and bedtime routines. It’s a rebellious, trauma-informed, neurodivergent-friendly call to stop blaming yourself for sleepless nights and start building genuine nervous system safety—at your own pace, with your own rules. PLUS: Vault members, don’t forget to grab this week’s worksheet, The Sleep Safety Map, to build your own personalized nervous system plan for rest at untamedember.com. And join our FREE newsletter for free weekly resources: untamedember.kit.com Want more anti-shame, science-backed content? Listen to the Untamed Ember podcast wherever you get your podcasts Join The Ember Vault for weekly deep-dive worksheets and tools ($5/month) #polyvagaltheory #trauma #neurodivergent #sleep #nervoussystem #insomnia #rest #healing #cptsd #adhd #autism #untamedember

When someone in authority told you "your body isn't really yours," that messaging didn't just live in your mind—it rewired your nervous system. In this revolutionary episode, Dr. Misty exposes how high-control systems, particularly religious environments, strategically target sexuality as their primary mechanism of control. We dive deep into the neurobiology of religious sexual conditioning, exploring how it creates internal "parts" that continue enforcing these rules long after you've intellectually rejected them. But this isn't just about understanding the damage—it's about liberation. Discover practical, somatic approaches to reclaim your erotic sovereignty, decolonize your nervous system, and develop an embodied sexuality that genuinely belongs to YOU, not to systems that sought to control you. Because your pleasure isn't just personal—it's political resistance against institutions that weaponized shame to maintain power.

Ever wanted sex but found yourself mentally checking out, counting ceiling tiles, or suddenly reorganizing your mental sock drawer instead of feeling pleasure? In this raw, neuroscience-backed episode, Dr. Misty breaks down why your body sometimes hits the emergency eject button during intimacy—even when you enthusiastically consented. Through the lens of Polyvagal Theory, we explore how trauma, religious shame, and societal conditioning create nervous system patterns that can override conscious desire. This isn't just theory—you'll get actual, practical, neurodivergent-friendly tools to expand your capacity for staying present during pleasure. Because your disconnect isn't a defect; it's your brilliant body trying to protect you. Time to reclaim your birthright to embodied joy as an act of radical resistance.  Join the Ember Vault for all the Podcast Worksheets: ko-fi.com/untamedember https://untamedember.com

Healing isn’t about linen pants, pastel lighting, and performing peace. In this episode of Untamed Ember, Dr. Misty takes a flamethrower to the healing industrial complex—the whitewashed, commodified wellness machine that polices our grief, hijacks our rage, and sells calmness like a lifestyle brand. You’ll hear: Why “high vibe only” is toxic nonsense How performative healing silences marginalized bodies What consent-based healing actually looks like How to build rituals that are messy, honest, body-inclusive—and actually yours Plus: a listener question that hits deep—what do you do when healing spaces don’t feel safe, inclusive, or built for you? ✨ Spoiler: You stop shrinking to fit them. You start building something real. Get the companion worksheet: Healing Isn’t Aesthetic – A Shame Detox for the Spiritually Over-It Download it now inside The Ember Vault → untamedember.com

What if your healing doesn’t look calm, graceful, or Instagram-worthy—and that’s exactly what makes it real? In this episode, Dr. Misty rips into the toxic trap of performative healing—where spiritual practices become branding, regulation gets weaponized, and “high-vibe only” becomes emotional gaslighting. We’re talking: Why breathwork, yoga, and meditation sometimes don’t work (and why that’s not your fault) Polyvagal theory (but make it sexy, sassy, and trauma-aware) Rage, shutdown, and why calm is not the goal ️ Rebel healing rituals that work with your neurodivergent, overstimulated, gloriously messy body Plus: a listener question that cracked our hearts open—"Why do I feel worse after breathwork?" This episode is your permission slip to rage, shut down, scream into a towel, and call that shit sacred. ✨ Grab the companion worksheet: “Messy, Angry, Whole: A Nervous System Reclamation Map” inside The Ember Vault → untamedember.com