Welcome to Untamed Ember, the podcast where pleasure is your birthright, curiosity is your compass, and unlearning shame is part of the foreplay.
I’m Dr. Misty, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist & Supervisor, clinically licensed in Washington State, Maryland, Virginia, and D.C., radically inclusive educator, and your guide for reclaiming pleasure without outdated “shoulds,” shame spirals, or performative nonsense.
Here, we don’t do cold, clinical sex talk or vague, fluffy advice. We do real, unfiltered conversations about desire, intimacy, identity, and the glorious mess of being a human with a body and a brain. This space is queer-affirming, body-positive, kink-aware, and free of the judgment that keeps so many people silent about what they really want.
Each week, we peel back layers of cultural conditioning, explore polyamory and kink dynamics, and get playfully honest about what turns us on (in every sense). We also dig into nervous system–friendly ways to make pleasure part of daily life, without guilt, pressure, or pants (unless you like them).
So if you are ready to reclaim pleasure, rewrite your internal scripts, and laugh a little while turning yourself on to your own life...
Welcome to Untamed Ember. Let’s get curious.
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Welcome to Untamed Ember, the podcast where pleasure is your birthright, curiosity is your compass, and unlearning shame is part of the foreplay.
I’m Dr. Misty, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist & Supervisor, clinically licensed in Washington State, Maryland, Virginia, and D.C., radically inclusive educator, and your guide for reclaiming pleasure without outdated “shoulds,” shame spirals, or performative nonsense.
Here, we don’t do cold, clinical sex talk or vague, fluffy advice. We do real, unfiltered conversations about desire, intimacy, identity, and the glorious mess of being a human with a body and a brain. This space is queer-affirming, body-positive, kink-aware, and free of the judgment that keeps so many people silent about what they really want.
Each week, we peel back layers of cultural conditioning, explore polyamory and kink dynamics, and get playfully honest about what turns us on (in every sense). We also dig into nervous system–friendly ways to make pleasure part of daily life, without guilt, pressure, or pants (unless you like them).
So if you are ready to reclaim pleasure, rewrite your internal scripts, and laugh a little while turning yourself on to your own life...
Welcome to Untamed Ember. Let’s get curious.
Your Vagus Nerve is Cockblocking You: How to Hack Your Sexual Nervous System
Untamed Ember
26 minutes 23 seconds
4 months ago
Your Vagus Nerve is Cockblocking You: How to Hack Your Sexual Nervous System
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Ever wondered why your brain is a full “hell yes” but your body suddenly ghosts the moment things heat up? Or why your nervous system sabotages even the sexiest situations? In this no-holds-barred episode, Dr. Misty goes full trauma nerd on the vagus nerve—that misunderstood highway running between your brain, your body, and your ability to actually stay present for pleasure.
We’re not talking about generic “just relax” advice or another meditation app download. We’re hacking your actual sexual nervous system with trauma-informed, neurodivergent-friendly, science-backed strategies. Discover:
Why your vagus nerve can’t mind its business during sex (and how it becomes an accidental cockblocker)
How chronic stress, trauma, and neurodivergence set the stage for “nervous system sabotage”
The real reason arousal sometimes flips to anxiety, shutdown, or sensory overwhelm—and what to do about it
Practical, immediately usable hacks for vagus nerve stimulation, breathwork, movement, and sensory support before and during sex
Why the neurodivergent brain needs rituals and “transition time” for pleasure—and how to build them
This episode is for every beautifully complex, neurodivergent, queer, or trauma-impacted human who’s tired of being shamed for their body’s boundaries. Your sexual nervous system isn’t broken—it’s just never been given the tools (or the respect) it deserves. Let’s fix that.
Listen in, reclaim your body’s pleasure wiring, and don’t forget to grab your free worksheet in The Ember Vault.
Untamed Ember
Welcome to Untamed Ember, the podcast where pleasure is your birthright, curiosity is your compass, and unlearning shame is part of the foreplay.
I’m Dr. Misty, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist & Supervisor, clinically licensed in Washington State, Maryland, Virginia, and D.C., radically inclusive educator, and your guide for reclaiming pleasure without outdated “shoulds,” shame spirals, or performative nonsense.
Here, we don’t do cold, clinical sex talk or vague, fluffy advice. We do real, unfiltered conversations about desire, intimacy, identity, and the glorious mess of being a human with a body and a brain. This space is queer-affirming, body-positive, kink-aware, and free of the judgment that keeps so many people silent about what they really want.
Each week, we peel back layers of cultural conditioning, explore polyamory and kink dynamics, and get playfully honest about what turns us on (in every sense). We also dig into nervous system–friendly ways to make pleasure part of daily life, without guilt, pressure, or pants (unless you like them).
So if you are ready to reclaim pleasure, rewrite your internal scripts, and laugh a little while turning yourself on to your own life...
Welcome to Untamed Ember. Let’s get curious.
