Welcome to Untamed Ember, the podcast where pleasure is your birthright, curiosity is your compass, and unlearning shame is part of the foreplay.
I’m Dr. Misty, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist & Supervisor, clinically licensed in Washington State, Maryland, Virginia, and D.C., radically inclusive educator, and your guide for reclaiming pleasure without outdated “shoulds,” shame spirals, or performative nonsense.
Here, we don’t do cold, clinical sex talk or vague, fluffy advice. We do real, unfiltered conversations about desire, intimacy, identity, and the glorious mess of being a human with a body and a brain. This space is queer-affirming, body-positive, kink-aware, and free of the judgment that keeps so many people silent about what they really want.
Each week, we peel back layers of cultural conditioning, explore polyamory and kink dynamics, and get playfully honest about what turns us on (in every sense). We also dig into nervous system–friendly ways to make pleasure part of daily life, without guilt, pressure, or pants (unless you like them).
So if you are ready to reclaim pleasure, rewrite your internal scripts, and laugh a little while turning yourself on to your own life...
Welcome to Untamed Ember. Let’s get curious.
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Welcome to Untamed Ember, the podcast where pleasure is your birthright, curiosity is your compass, and unlearning shame is part of the foreplay.
I’m Dr. Misty, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist & Supervisor, clinically licensed in Washington State, Maryland, Virginia, and D.C., radically inclusive educator, and your guide for reclaiming pleasure without outdated “shoulds,” shame spirals, or performative nonsense.
Here, we don’t do cold, clinical sex talk or vague, fluffy advice. We do real, unfiltered conversations about desire, intimacy, identity, and the glorious mess of being a human with a body and a brain. This space is queer-affirming, body-positive, kink-aware, and free of the judgment that keeps so many people silent about what they really want.
Each week, we peel back layers of cultural conditioning, explore polyamory and kink dynamics, and get playfully honest about what turns us on (in every sense). We also dig into nervous system–friendly ways to make pleasure part of daily life, without guilt, pressure, or pants (unless you like them).
So if you are ready to reclaim pleasure, rewrite your internal scripts, and laugh a little while turning yourself on to your own life...
Welcome to Untamed Ember. Let’s get curious.
Parts Work for Perverts: When Your Inner Critic Shows Up in Bed
Untamed Ember
22 minutes 58 seconds
4 months ago
Parts Work for Perverts: When Your Inner Critic Shows Up in Bed
Grab your FREE worksheet and weekly shame-smashing resources at untamedember.kit.com — where every part of you belongs.
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Ever notice that right when things get steamy, your brain turns into a Twitter feed of insecurity? Welcome to the world of parts work, sex edition. In this episode, Dr. Misty dives headfirst into Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy and how your inner critic, perfectionist, rebel, caretaker, and shame-burdened exiles all love to crash your sex life.
We’re talking about:
Why sexual difficulties are rarely about “technique”—and almost always about internal parts fighting for airtime
How the Performance Manager, Hypervigilant Protector, People-Pleasing Caretaker, and your spicy inner exiles hijack your pleasure
Specific, actionable strategies to check in with your parts, speak for them, and actually integrate their wisdom instead of letting them run wild
Neurodivergent masking, sexual spontaneity, and why you might feel disconnected or stuck in performance mode (again)
Real talk: The parts of you that want connection, the ones that want control, and how to get them working together instead of fighting for the mic
Ready to turn your internal chaos into conscious, embodied pleasure? Listen in, download your worksheet from The Ember Vault, and start negotiating with your inner committee—no shame, no judgment, just radical acceptance.
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Untamed Ember
Welcome to Untamed Ember, the podcast where pleasure is your birthright, curiosity is your compass, and unlearning shame is part of the foreplay.
I’m Dr. Misty, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist & Supervisor, clinically licensed in Washington State, Maryland, Virginia, and D.C., radically inclusive educator, and your guide for reclaiming pleasure without outdated “shoulds,” shame spirals, or performative nonsense.
Here, we don’t do cold, clinical sex talk or vague, fluffy advice. We do real, unfiltered conversations about desire, intimacy, identity, and the glorious mess of being a human with a body and a brain. This space is queer-affirming, body-positive, kink-aware, and free of the judgment that keeps so many people silent about what they really want.
Each week, we peel back layers of cultural conditioning, explore polyamory and kink dynamics, and get playfully honest about what turns us on (in every sense). We also dig into nervous system–friendly ways to make pleasure part of daily life, without guilt, pressure, or pants (unless you like them).
So if you are ready to reclaim pleasure, rewrite your internal scripts, and laugh a little while turning yourself on to your own life...
Welcome to Untamed Ember. Let’s get curious.
