In this debut episode of her new podcast evolution, Tiffany Han introduces Unperform and the Unperform Era—the radical shift from high-functioning martyrdom to bold, embodied sovereignty. She shares why overachieving isn’t coming to save us, what it looks like to stop being the glue, and the six core shifts that will help you reset your operating system: from reaction to intention, from role overload to nervous system safety, and from performative productivity to gentle, bold clarity.
If you’ve been performing success while secretly unraveling, this episode is your permission slip to stop proving and start becoming.
Links + Shownotes:
Tiffany's website: tiffanyhan.com
Tiffany's IG: @thetiffanyhan
Newsletter Magic (aka permission slips in your inbox): tiffanyhan.kit.com/news
Grown-Up Gap Year waitlist (your strategic life redesign): tiffanyhan.com/gugy-waitlist
First- we’re doing something new here! So if you want to see the full, unedited and LIVE version of this episode, head on over to YouTube.
Or if you want to stay right here - let’s jump in.
Today we are talking about all the “right” ways we are handed in life. We’re told the right way to eat, parent, exercise, work, read … the right way to be a woman, and the right way to be creative.
All of this locks us in a cage, and if we aren’t really careful, life becomes an ongoing process of convincing ourselves we have to do things the “right” way, and if we don’t like it - well, we better suck it up and do it anyway.
Yuck.
So today I’m talking about:
Resources from this episode:
Got questions? Or ideas you would like me to maybe talk about here?
Your feedback makes a huge difference!
Leave a comment or an Instagram DM. Or, you can always find me at tiffanyhan.com.
See you next time!
Any chance you are looking for a new (#better) way to handle the procrastination that keeps getting in the way of you making real progress?
I thought so!
Head’s up: This episode comes with a FREEBIE called Vanish Procrastination: Why Beating Yourself Up Doesn't Work and What You Can Do Instead.
Be sure to grab it at the link below!
https://tiffanyhan.com/banish-procrastination
Let’s dive into today’s episode:
Don’t forget - you can now also watch Raise Your Hand, Say Yes on YouTube!
(and then you can always head back here to the show notes for each episode if you need any extra details like books I talk about or other fun stuff I mention)
Resources from this episode:
Got questions? Or ideas you would like me to maybe talk about here?
Your feedback makes a huge difference!
Leave a comment or an Instagram DM. Or, you can always find me at tiffanyhan.com.
See you next time!
Next month, I am turning 45.
And guess, what - I feel the best I have felt in my entire life.
So what’s going on?
I started feeling my best when I started saying BYE 👋
So in today’s episode, I’m sharing 10 things I ditched and how quitting is helping me feel ahhhh-mazing.
Plus I’m talking about:
This Episode In Timestamps:
06:38 Plan based on capacity, not unrealistic expectations.
09:00 Self-care through small daily actions greatly improves well-being.
13:04 Over communicate, free mental energy, focus on today.
14:56 Commit to workouts, embrace the present, stop procrastinating.
18:10 Small steps matter more than big, perfect moves.
Links and Resources:
Gentle Productivity Club IS NOW OPEN! Yay! 🌟
Gentle Productivity Club is one of my favorite things that I do. I love it and I would love to have you join us.
Gentle Productivity Club helps you put a new kind of focus on your goals and how you're living, while remaining gentle with yourself and how you're moving through things.
And I promise you, it is like the biggest, most beautiful, glorious win.
Head over now to sign-up (Right now, today. 😉)
Notes On This Episode: 10 Things I Quit (and now I feel better than ever!)
https://tiffanyhan.com/10-things-i-quit-and-now-i-feel-better-than-ever/
Tiffany's Website
Gentle Productivity Club
tiffanyhan.com/gentle-productivity-club
Raise Your Hand Say Yes
Tiffany's Instagram
#raiseyourhandsayyeswithtiffanyhan #tiffanyhanpodcast #gentleproductivity #gentleproductivityclub #cozyentreprenuer #mindfulness #lifecoach #prioritizingforwomen #worklifebalance #smarternotharder #momentumforwomen #selfimprovement #smallstepsforwomen
For many of us, taking action can feel like an uphill battle, even if we’re motivated or inspired. The weight of uncertainty, fear of failure, and the allure of procrastination often paralyzes our best intentions.
It’s a common struggle to transform a thought into some sort of tangible action.
In my own life, I have found simple steps to take that help me actually get started.
What I am sharing with you today:
How to take action (it’s not just about creating an attainable first step)
The three steps that help us make things happen
How to keep going!
The Raise Your Hand Say Yes Podcast is on YouTube now! Head over there and subscribe and follow and like this episode and click the notifications button so you get a fancy little alert every time a new episode goes live.
Got questions? Or ideas you would like me to maybe talk about here?
Send me an Instagram DM. Or, you can always find me at tiffanyhan.com.
See you next time!
Tweets/Quotes:
Getting prepared is actually its own starting action. If we haven't done that step, then we're trying to jump forward, and it's harder. It takes more - more strength, more initial force, more power to overcome that inertia, and then nobody wins.
There are two deep breaths that are most important. Number one is the one that you take right before you do the thing, right before you take action. The second one is the one that you take after you've started because it lets you know that you survived.
Envision taking the action. Seeing it is going to help you believe that it's possible.
Something that I hear so, so often goes like this:
There are so many things happening all the time and all I can do is just keep reacting.
Ack. We don’t want to live like that, right?
We want to work toward goals and have direction - we want lives that feel good. So how can we do that amongst all the adulting stuff that keeps popping up?
Today, we’re going to talk about momentum.
I’m sharing:
3 keys to momentum (and a side order of science)
How boundaries and bumpers keep us moving forward
Why fun and easy momentum actually works
The Raise Your Hand Say Yes Podcast is on YouTube now! Head over there and subscribe and follow and like this episode and click the notifications button so you get a fancy little alert every time a new episode goes live.
We are opening the doors to Gentle Productivity Club very soon! Yay! 🌟
Gentle Productivity Club is one of my favorite things that I do. I love it and I would love to have you join us.
Gentle Productivity Club helps you put a new kind of focus on your goals and how you're living, while remaining gentle with yourself and how you're moving through things.
Got questions? Or ideas you would like me to maybe talk about here?
Send me an Instagram DM. Or, you can always find me at tiffanyhan.com.
See you next time!
Tweets/Quotes:
The beautiful thing about being on a journey is that every step of the journey teaches you more about what you need to know for the next step of the journey.
One thing that you can do to prepare yourself better for potential friction is as you're thinking about momentum, as you're thinking about starting, and how to protect yourself from the outside forces, is to say when the friction shows up, here are some different things I can do.
All or nothing thinking is never going to be satisfied because we can always try to have more and the opposite of more in all or nothing thinking is nothing. Not helpful.
It’s an adjustment to start reshaping your goals so that they actually fit into the life that you currently have. And it's a gift.
We’ve all heard it a million times:
“Work smarter, not harder.”
But guess, what? If that worked, we’d all be doing it already, right?
And if like me, you have ADHD or an otherwise neurodivergent brain, this advice wasn’t created for you.
But not to worry - I've got you!
There absolutely is a way to get things done, without trying to cram your magical brain into the “work-smarter” box. So listen in as we discuss:
Why “work smarter” isn’t a sustainable strategy
What balance actually looks (and feels) like
How to find your Thrive Zone
Links and Resources:
We are opening the doors to Gentle Productivity Club very soon! Yay! 🌟
Gentle Productivity Club is one of my favorite things that I do. I love it and I would love to have you join us.
Gentle Productivity Club helps you put a new kind of focus on your goals and how you're living, while remaining gentle with yourself and how you're moving through things.
And I promise you, it is like the biggest, most beautiful, glorious win.
If you want to get on the waiting list and be the first to know when registration opens up, be sure to head right here. (Right now, today. 😉)
Watch the video on youtube: https://youtu.be/_q1CMpydDYI
Tiffany's Website: tiffanyhan.com
Gentle Productivity Club: gentleproductivity.club
Tiffany's Instagram: instagram.com/thetiffanyhan
This Episode In Timestamps:
05:47 The pressure of the word "smart.”
09:28 Embrace gentle living to focus on what matters.
12:08 Thrive zone: optimal conditions for human life.
16:19 Identify your needs and priorities today.
18:15 Prioritize what matters most and find joy.
#raiseyourhandsayyeswithtiffanyhan #tiffanyhanpodcast #gentleproductivity #cozyentreprenuer #burnout #productivityhacks #mindfulness #lifecoach #motivation #adhdproductivity #adhdinwomen #neurodiversity #worklifebalance #smarternotharder
If you are someone who has ever found yourself staying up way past your bedtime, looking at YouTube videos or scrolling Instagram trying to find that one life hack that is going to make your life infinitely better, this episode is for you.
Today we're talking about three very simple things that you can do to improve your life over time.
If you do them consistently, I promise they will make your life exponentially easier and help it feel better. And they each cost $0, so I promise you can start today.
So let’s jump into:
Why we zone out when we’re looking for answers (and no - it’s not just you!)
My three simple but not easy ideas
How to turn my three ideas into consistent habits
Links & Resources:
Tiffany's Core Values Masterclass
This Episode In Timestamps:
00:00 Sharing free tips for improving life.
05:46 Journaling: a powerful but underutilized tool for transformation.
08:02 Journaling regularly as a habit for self-reflection and processing emotions.
11:19 Journal prompts for reflective moments.
13:58 Values sharpen focus on what's important, guide decision-making, and prioritize intentions over actions.
20:21 Quality sleep is crucial for health and clarity.
25:22 Creating an evening routine for better sleep and energy.
27:00 Simple steps for life change.
Fear.
Yikes, right?
Fear keeps so many of us from doing the things that we want to do in our lives.
We all experience fear, but when we’re going through it, it’s easy to feel alone, and like we are the only one who get stuck in fear’s clutches.
So today, let’s get into fear - specifically, the kind of fear that keeps us from taking action on the things we want to do.
Let’s talk about:
The relationship between fear and procrastination
Why beating up our fear doesn’t work
5 steps to get through fear that is blocking your path
So join me - you can read, listen or watch!
And … don’t forget to head over to Instagram and add a butterfly to my post about this episode as part of the experiment we’re doing.
(And even if you don’t, just know that you are NOT the only one looking for belonging, understanding and acceptance, OK? 🦋)
The Raise Your Hand Say Yes Podcast is on YouTube now! Head over there and subscribe and follow and like this episode and click the notifications button so you get a fancy little alert every time a new episode goes live.
Got questions? Or ideas you would like me to maybe talk about here?
Send me an Instagram DM. Or, you can always find me at tiffanyhan.com.
See you next time!
Tweets/Quotes:
Every time you try to fight the fear, all you end up doing is making it more powerful because you're giving it your attention, and everything you pour into it, it is going to give back to you exponentially.
Part of what happens with fear is that as we take action towards whatever it is that we're building, it starts to dissipate.
There is a better way forward for you, a more loving way forward, and a more sustainable way forward that is so much easier, because you are not pouring all of your energy into fighting the fear. Instead, you learn to work with it, and then on the other side, you actually have energy left to be in your life.
Oh motivation. It’s tricky, right? We think that if we could just harness motivation, we’d be unstoppable.
So how do we do that? How do we make motivation work for us?
And can we start TODAY?!
Um … yeah, actually!
So let’s get into it with:
The biggest motivational myth
Why not feeling motivated is not about weakness or laziness
Five motivational shifts that are going to help you start taking action
So join me - you can read, listen or watch!
Ep. 430: Practicing Radical Self Belief (and creating a containers of safety for YES)
Ep. 429: Creating a Say Yes Lifestyle (with 6 steps to help!)
The Raise Your Hand Say Yes Podcast is on YouTube now! Head over there and subscribe and follow and like this episode and click the notifications button so you get a fancy little alert every time a new episode goes live.
Got questions? Or ideas you would like me to maybe talk about here?
Send me an Instagram DM. Or, you can always find me at tiffanyhan.com.
See you next time!
Tweets/Quotes:
Tell yourself the truth. Your life's purpose is not to white knuckle your way through to some externally defined end result that you are not connected with.
Stop making your goals unreachable. Stop it. The moon is not for your to do list. Put it on your vision board if you want to shoot for the moon. But for your to do list - be more reasonable.
You cannot out-motivate your capacity, nor can you use motivation to solve a capacity problem.
You’ve probably heard some advice in the past about consistency, right?
Maybe people have told you not to “break the chain” as you’re pursuing a creative idea. Or maybe you’ve heard not to skip even one day when you are setting up a new routine.
And maybe you’ve also realized that advice like that can actually get in your way - as in, you miss one day, and figure all is now lost.
So today, we’re going to talk about consistency.
Listen in as we break down:
What that common advice about consistency gets wrong
Three mindset shifts we can make about consistency
My favorite consistency hacks that will help you follow through on what you want to do
So join me - you can read, listen or watch!
My planner that I talked about (You can also see it in the YouTube version of this episode - Episode 324)
The Raise Your Hand Say Yes Podcast is on YouTube now! Head over there and subscribe and follow and like this episode and click the notifications button so you get a fancy little alert every time a new episode goes live.
Tweets/Quotes:
This is the first mindset shift that you have to embrace about consistency: Your version of consistency does not, should not, and will not look like anybody else's consistency.
You can be your own version of successful by embracing your own version of consistency. It's not a second place way of doing things.
You can always add on later if you want something fancier. But if you want consistency, make what you are doing stupid simple.
Hello friends!
This week, we are tackling a question straight from my Gentle Productivity Club membership.
Here it is:
“Do you think it's easier to be gently productive after years of working to burn out?
I love the idea of being soft and gentle with myself, but I'm pretty early in my career and feel like I need to spend my spare time working now and be gentle later.”
Such a great question, right?!
So in this episode, we’re talking about:
Does it ever make sense to hustle now and rest later? (spoiler alert: nope!)
The big productivity myth
5 things to think about as we step into gentle productivity
You can now also watch Raise Your Hand Say Yes on YouTube!
(and then you can always head back here to the show notes for each episode if you need any extra details like books I talk about or other fun stuff I mention)
Got questions? Or ideas you would like me to maybe talk about here?
Send me an Instagram DM. Or, you can always find me at tiffanyhan.com.
See you next time!
Tweets/Quotes:
“When we put aside the myth that says working harder equals more success, we can ask ourselves: what do I want to believe about success, about what's possible, about what that success looks like, about what creates it?”
“You have to trust yourself enough to know when you need to slow down. Yes, it's going to feel slower, but the quality of what you're able to create is going to be so much higher.”
“Remember that you are not even going to be able to call on the discernment that you might need, the faith that you might need, the trust that you might need, that radical self belief that you might need until you slow down.”
We are back with Part 3 of the pivotal yes series!
So first - a quick recap:
In Part 1, I talked about the yeses that have made the biggest difference in my life (and how they felt)
In Part 2, I talked about how to actually listen to the little whispers that pop up, and how to be with those whispers and begin to understand what they are telling you.
So - you might want to go back and listen to those episodes if you haven’t and yet.
And then today, we’re jumping into one of my very tippy-top favorite topics, Radical Self Belief.
Today we’re going to talk about:
How Radical Self Belief helps you cut through the noise and clutter of life
The 5 pillars of Radical Self Belief
How Radical Self Belief helps you create a container of safety
So join me - you can read, listen or watch!
Ep. 428 - The Pivotal Yes (the yeses that have made the biggest difference in my life)
Ep. 429 - Creating a Say Yes Lifestyle (With 6 Steps to Help!)
Ep. 408 - Your Best Life is Already Here (more about Radical Self Belief and DF-STAG)
The Raise Your Hand Say Yes Podcast is on YouTube now! Head over there and subscribe and follow and like this episode and click the notifications button so you get a fancy little alert every time a new episode goes live.
Got questions? Or ideas you would like me to maybe talk about here?
Send me an Instagram DM. Or, you can always find me at tiffanyhan.com.
Tweets/Quotes:
~ 5:50
“What radical self belief allows us to do is create the container of safety within which we get to evolve and live and experiment and play and figure things out. We're creating that container as we take our baby steps.”
6:28
“One of the big secrets that I've learned being an adult is that everybody is making it up as they go. So you might as well play along for yourself, too.”
Hello there friends!!
So … remember last week when we talked about listening to our quiet whispers and the yeses that have made the biggest difference in my life?
Today’s podcast is technically part two of that, so if you haven’t listened to that episode, be sure to head over and give that episode a listen first.
And then, dive into today’s episode where I’m talking about:
How to know which whispers to say yes to
What saying yes to your whispers actually looks like
6 steps to help you clarify and get closer to the yeses you’re craving
Episode 374: Radical Self Belief: What It Is, What It Isn’t and What It Can Do For You
Join me for FREE Gentle Productivity Club Don’t Wanna Do Session
Do you have questions for me? Or podcast ideas?
What about thoughts on that question I ask in this episode: Should we do a whole episode about becoming less busy?
Leave a comment or an Instagram DM. Or, you can always find me at tiffanyhan.com.
I have a special freebie offer for you!
Join us for FREE in a Gentle Productivity Club Don't Wanna Do session.
In these sessions, we gather on Zoom for one hour and bring the stuff that we don't wanna do - like making appointments or cleaning the fridge or anything that you keep putting off.
I really want to invite you to join one of our Don't Wanna Do sessions for FREE(!) because I know that there are things that are standing in the way of you making space and being able to say yes.
So let’s clear away those pesky things from your to-do list, OK?
Here is the link where you can join us live! Yay!
Tweets/Quotes:
~ 7:32 “Responsibilities don't take away our longings. And often our longings are pointed to something more powerful, something bigger and better. So even if you can only spare ten minutes (of quiet) a day, take that ten minutes a day.”
~ 9:01 “Notice the whispers. Just be with them. Hear them. Say, oh, that might be a whisper over there. Oh, that might be a whisper over there. The more that you notice them, the more that you see them, those tiny little whispers - they will get louder.”
~10:27 “The whispers that are meant for you are going to keep showing up.”
I’m sharing the yeses that have made the biggest difference in my life.
We’re getting specific. And personal.
My hope is that in sharing them - you’ll be encouraged to find the yeses that you need most.
Here an overview of what I am sharing today:
What pivotal yeses look like and feel like
How our yeses add up to create a lifestyle
Why we need to start asking yourselves NOW what we really want
Next week, I’ll be back with Part 2 - Diving deep into how to recognize your own yeses!
But for now, join me and give this episode a listen!
Got questions? Or ideas you would like me to maybe talk about here?
Your feedback makes a huge difference!
Leave a comment or an Instagram DM. Or, you can always find me at tiffanyhan.com.
See you next time!
Tweets/Quotes:
~ 6:57 “Every single yes is a brick, paving your way into the life you want.”
~ 18:52 “What we're doing here, when we are saying yes, when we're thinking about our yeses, when we're talking about raising your hand and saying yes, we are creating a lifestyle. And that's what I want for you.”
~ 19:09 With every yes that you say, you reinforce that you are a person who figures things out as you go, who is brave, who does scary things, who can create a home within yourself so that the circumstances of your life don't determine whether or not you are a success, so that the the results from one thing doesn't determine whether or not you've made it or whether or not you can keep going.
We’re back this week talking about no.
I know! What are we doing talking about no on the Raise Your Hand Say Yes Podcast?
Well, as we discussed last week, nos are important and help serve out greater yeses.
With this in mind, let’s explore:
The different kinds of nos you may want to say
Scripts to help you say no (yes, please!)
A couple of great no resources
Don’t forget - you can now also watch Raise Your Hand Say Yes on YouTube!
(and then you can always head back here to the show notes for each episode if you need any extra details like books I talk about or other fun stuff I mention)
Episode 426: The Foundation of Saying Yes
The Joy of Saying No by Natalie Liu
The Book of Boundaries by Melissa Urban
The Raise Your Hand Say Yes Podcast is on YouTube now! Head over there and subscribe and follow and like this episode and click the notifications button so you get a fancy little alert every time a new episode goes live.
Got questions? Or ideas you would like me to maybe talk about here?
Leave a comment or an Instagram DM. Or, you can always find me at tiffanyhan.com.
Tweets/Quotes:
~ 3:19 The way that we make space in our lives is by saying no.
~ 13:42 If you are new to saying no, start with a baby step, which might be an easier no, a smaller no, or it might be like a little whisper of a no to somebody who is really safe for you.
~ 16:11 You are allowed to make space in your life for the things that you want to say yes to.
Today, we’re back diving into yes. We’re talking about all the things you want to say yes to, and what you need to put in place in order to be able to say yes to those things.
So get ready for:
How to build your yes foundation
Why we need to consider HALT (are you hungry, angry, lonely or tired?) as part of going after the big things we want
How to deal with HALT( hungry, angry, lonely or tired? in three steps
And I want to hear from you about this.
What questions are rising up right now?
What are your yeah-buts?
You can reach out in an Instagram DM, or, you can always find me at tiffanyhan.com.
And if you’re watching on YouTube, (YAY!) it would make me especially happy if you left a comment, because this brand new platform makes me so excited to interact with you even more.
Speaking of YouTube, you can head over there and subscribe, follow and like this episode and then click the notifications button so you get a fancy little alert every time a new episode goes live.
Curious about quitting social media? Wondering how I stepped away from social media for a year? Here is a great place to start!
Wondering about my sobriety journey? Here are a couple of resources:
Tweets/Quotes:
~ 7:47 If you’re too tired to feel your feelings, what happens when that yes brings so many more feelings?
~16:28 How are you feeding yourself? How are you taking care of your instrument? If you’re a violin player - if you are a fiddle player in a bluegrass band - and you treat your fiddle like shit, it’s not going to sound very good when it’s time to perform.
Hey hey hey friends! I am so excited to share that the Raise Your Hand Say Yes show is back!
It’s a brand new iteration, and in today’s episode, I’m talking all about that and so much more, like:
How to skillfully balance yeses and nos and feel good about it
How to find more peace AND go after what lights you up
How small steps help create radical self belief
How Raise Your Hand Say Yes 2024 is a new game, with a new set of rules
Plus, I finally get to share with you maybe the most exciting news - you can now also watch Raise Your Hand, Say Yes on YouTube!
Tiffany on YouTube (more fun stuff is coming here soon!)
Episode 400: Introducing My Year of No (and Why I’m Quitting Social Media)
Episode 347: Radical Self-Belief: What It Is, What It Isn’t and What It Can Do For You
Episode 23: The Crazy Faith Episode
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Tweets/Quotes:
~ 7:03: “We want to be able to take bold, inspired moves, and we also want to have the capacity to steward the bold, inspired moves, to turn them into something beautiful.”
~ 7:42: “The road to your yes is going to be paved with so many no's.”
~ 13:47: “The seemingly too-small things make up the days of our life.”
Y’all. You know I love year-long experiments.
The goals of my Revival experiment were to:
Soooo, did I do it? Short answer: yes. But there are A LOT of asterisks!
Listen in to hear about all those asterisks, get into why it worked, and what lessons I’m bringing into 2024!
Because we know there's something more to life than the perfectly coiffed, perfectly creative version of ourselves we think we need to be.
Links:
Gentle Productivity Club (open through 1/18/24)
What happens when you've been sharing your life online for 18 years, and realize one day that things aren't working? How do you step back from the internets when you're so connected to so many? Is this even allowed?
In today's show, I have a candid and insightful conversation with the incredible Elise Cripe. She's been a familiar presence online for 18 years (and has been on this show multiple times), but she's decided it's time for a big shift. She's stepping back from the internet. Indefinitely.
And she's talking about it here.
In this conversation, we talk about:
+ why Elise is making this change (including a look into the money piece!)
+ how long it took her to go from *hungry for change* to actually making it
+ what she's most looking forward to, once her life-online break starts
This is an in-front-of-the-change conversation that we don't normally here, especially when showcasing the Afters is so popular! Settle in, and enjoy!
Links & Show Notes:
Elise's links: Blog | Instagram
Elise's Get to Work Book: Site | Instagram
Connect with Tiffany: Get the newsletter | Site | Instagram