In this episode Roxi and Erika talk about how they set boundaries between their own lives and their work.
Have you ever had trouble separating your work from your life before?
Let us know @unlearningwith us on IG and Tiktok!
In this episode Roxi and Erika discuss the 3 thing that shouldn't be taboo between people in their relationships.
Have you ever had an experience wherein you decided to avoid talking about with your significant other? Let us know @unlearningwith us on IG and Tiktok!
In this episode, Erika's boyfriend guests in this session to discuss filtering friends based on their current preferences or position in their life.
Filtering friends - can be at times a tough but necessary decision, especially when compatibility comes into question due to differences arising over time.
Preferences change - even people change. Tune in to Erika and her boyfriend as they disclose their own reasons for deciding to filter out certain friends in their lives and how they dealt with it moving forward.
Have you ever experienced filtering your friends due to your differences? Let us know @unlearningwith us on IG and Tiktok!
In this episode, Roxi and Erika discuss how living in another place can change the way you think and feel - even the way you live.
Tune in to hear Roxi and Erika's experiences of realizing certain toxic patterns they learned to notice and outgrow after living in Europe. Like the normalization of grind and hustle culture - where working for longer hours seem to be the only path to achieve success. In contrast to how they live now (in Europe), where work-life balance is deeply entrenched into the culture.
Have you ever realize certain patterns in your life you unlearned and outgrew from? Let us know @unlearningwith us on IG and Tiktok!
In this episode, Roxi and Erika tackle the topic of dealing with the certain societal pressure of getting married and having babies.
In certain societies (like the Philippines for example), you are expected to marry and have kids at a certain age otherwise you would be considered a "leftover." To some extent, marrying & having babies have become the only options due to social norms.
Have you ever exeprienced this kind of societal pressure in your life? Let us know @unlearningwith us on IG and Tiktok!
In this episode, Erika talks about the benefits of waking up earlier (like getting more shit done) and how even people who hate mornings can become morning people.
Let’s get this out of the way: you’re not going to become a morning person just by waking up groggily at 6 am to a blaring alarm. Changes like this are beneficial, but sure as hell still need to be planned out for you to actually enjoy the change! Take it slowly with Erika’s steps!
Have you tried (and failed) to be a morning person or did you the extra time to be productive? Let us know @unlearningwithus on IG and Tiktok!
In this podcast, Roxi talks about how your upbringing and community affect the way you view yourself and your partner in future relationships (whether positive or negative).
How do you unlearn something you’ve experienced your entire life? How do you expect your partner to keep up with the million things you’re triggered by? Spoiler: you’re not supposed to expect them to!
Be real & tell us know what “toxic” traits you think you’ve brought to a relationship. Tell us @unlearningwithus on IG and Tiktok!
In this episode, Roxi talks about the 2 specific steps she took to learn how to let go and how both those things took a lot of conscious effort.
Whether it’s about your body or your work or your relationship, refusing to let go of tiny details will have you obsessing over things that can never be perfect anyway.
What do you hyper-focus on even when you know you’ll feel better after letting it go? Let us know @Unlearningwithus on Tiktok and IG!
In this podcast, Erika and Roxi talk about how moving to a different country and immersing yourself in a different culture can be both exciting and not-very-glamorous (both due to culture shock).
It’s pretty hard having to pick up your life and head to a new country only to find out you can’t go to lunches with your co-workers because they plan things months in advance (no hard feelings).
What misconception did you have about a different culture and how did you find out you were wrong? Tell us your stories @Unlearningwith us on IG and Tiktok!
In this episode, Erika talks about Asian kids and boundaries that they’ve set (or, in most cases, never set) with their parents.
There’s always a lot of overstepping and “I know what’s better” which makes it difficult to have conversations, but how is this something you overcome? How do you get the older generation to unlearn what’s been passed down for years?
DM us something you’ve been struggling to tell your parents ;) @UnlearningWithUs on IG!
In this episode, Erika talks about how she felt confident across the years and how this feeling of confidence has changed.
Confidence comes in many forms; from accepting your body to seeing where you fit in with your peers. Most importantly, confidence comes over time and Erika talks about how, while there’s been so much growth, she still isn’t at 100% (but she’s getting there).
How do you work on your confidence? Has it changed in any way since you were a kid? Let us know @UnlearningWithUs on IG!
In this podcast, Roxi talks about how she manages taking care of both herself and her son while also balancing her husband and all her other priorities– all leading up to mom guilt.
How do you negotiate with a baby, with a kid that can barely talk let alone comprehend the balance that your life needs to have? Is mom guilt talked about enough? How do you balance what goes first when your husband, kid, yourself, and friends all deserve that spot?
If you’ve ever experienced feeling guilty about your decisions as a mom, let us know @unlearningwith us on Instagram!
Some of the common fears people tell us when they want to consider starting a business are: the fear of losing stable income, the fear of dealing with all of the government requirements, and the capital needed start. The biggest one though is always, “What if it doesn’t work?”
In this podcast, we talk about how we related to all of those fears (and still do) and how we built our business into something we think is very successful now. But also learning that businesses go wrong all the time and, if this is something you want to do, you just need to go for it!
Are you thinking about hopping out of your full-time job and starting something on your own? Let us know @unlearningwithus on Instagram!
In this episode, Erika talks about how she tried something new “later” on in her life and her expectations about learning to cycle (which proved to be wrong).
There’s always a reason to not learn to do something new– why learn to cycle when there’s public and private transport available everywhere or if you already have expectations about how difficult it’s going to be? Unless you try something, you’re never going to know if you love it, hate it, or even if it’s what you think it’s going to be.
Tell us about a new thing you learned to do later in life! How did it go? Tag us @unlearningwithus on IG!
In this episode, Erika talks about what living with your partner before marriage really entails– the good and the bad, but why it’s necessary for relationships to grow.
Getting married first before living your partner is expected in Asia, but it’s not that big of a deal in Europe. I mean, your aunt praying over you because you live with your partner shows that clearly.
There are a lot of reasons, though, to move in with someone: practicality, relationship progression, dynamic understanding.
What do you think about moving in with your partner before marriage? Is it still frowned upon? Let us know @unlearningwithus on Instagram!
In this episode, Roxi talks about the relationships she’s been in in the past and how they’ve contributed to her personal growth, despite how sh*tty they were in the moment. ”He was swiping on Bumble right next to me on the couch when we were watching Netflix” - Erika Everyone should go through sh*tty relationships– at least we think people should. We tend to gravitate to what we think we deserve, but we (hopefully) come out of these relationships stronger and knowing what we actually deserve. Do you have a bad relationship story that tops ours? Tell us @unlearningwithus on Instagram!
In this episode, Roxi talks about her outlook on life, success, and the need to be results-driven. Because of a hard-hitting life event, Roxi was forced to look at what success means from a different perspective. Why does failure or the lack of getting a certain result break you down to the point where you feel like you’re nothing? Why is it so difficult to prioritize happiness as a goal? Have you ever had to prioritize happiness over success? Tell us your story at @UnlearningWithUs on Instagram!
In this episode, Roxi talks about cultural differences and societal expectations with casual dating and how they navigated these “relationships”.
Did you have an on or off switch where you realized that you’re done with the exhaustion of getting to know someone with purpose? Like Roxi, you might come to a realization that you’re sick of the whole “romancing” dating scene!
As a Filipino or someone in another culture, how does casual dating work? Do you agree with the dating rules set by your culture? Let us know @unlearningwithus on Instagram!
In this episode, Roxi and Erika talk about what it means to love your body and Roxi discusses her body issues before, during, and after her pregnancy.
It’s both interesting and important to think about the conversations you have with yourself about your body and why they’re either defined as positive or negative (although, let’s be honest, mostly negative). Loving and accepting your body will always be a work in progress, but the goal shouldn’t be weight it should be simply not caring.
How do you deal with body image issues? Tag us @unlearningwithus on Instagram if this podcast helped!
In this episode, Erika talks about how it felt bonding with an ex years after a breakup.
Is there any way you’re supposed to feel about seeing your ex after a long time? There’s a lot of curiosity about how you’re meant to feel and how you’re supposed to react; or even if you’re supposed to be hanging out with them!
How do you feel about hanging out with your exes after your breakup? Let us know at @unlearningwithus on Instagram