In this raw and honest comeback episode ofUnlearned, Jaime and CA open up about their recent divorce and journey of healing. They discuss unlearning old patterns and navigating neurodivergence while finding a balance between intellectualizing pain and truly feeling their emotions. With candid vulnerability and humor, they invite listeners to join them on a path toward new beginnings.
Notes:
Hosts return after a long hiatus following intense personal healing.
They discuss their recent divorce as a transformative, painful step.
The conversation centers on unlearning old relational patterns.
They explore how neurodivergence shapes their need for structure and emotional processing.
A key theme is balancing the urge to intellectualize pain with the need to feel it.
Vulnerability and raw emotion are embraced throughout the episode.
The hosts highlight the importance of setting healthy boundaries.
They share personal anecdotes that reveal layers of trauma and growth.
The dialogue examines the interplay between physical survival and emotional well-being.
They critique oversimplified self-help advice in favor of honest self-discovery.
The episode invites listeners to join them on a journey toward new beginnings.
Future episodes promise a blend of deep introspection and lighter moments.
Links:
Would you like CA to coach you?https://tinyurl.com/ybt3jwat
Order Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book.https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
FREEBIE! Intention Prompts:http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
CA’s Voxer Coaching:http://tinyurl.com/434fs8zd
Jaime’s Coaching:https://recollectedself.com/workwithme
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com
International Suicide Hotlines:https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlines
National Suicide Hotline: Call:988 Text: 988
Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox
Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.
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Amanda B.
Plamen S.
Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)
Social media is filled with nostalgia and it can be a lot of fun. But what happens when you look at the shared childhood experiences of others and think to yourself, “that wasn’t me?” Join CA and Jaime as they explore what life looks like for those of us who have had to, more or less, raise ourselves. Is being a latchkey kid something we need to heal from? Listen in and find out.
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
Come to our first-ever in-person retreat: buy.stripe.com/14k5ldd0n1tQ51e6oF
Order Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE
Notes:
Jaime’s struggles with memory around her childhood
CA’s struggles with not having a carefree childhood
What happens when you don’t remember your childhood like other people do
Parentification - what it is and what it means
How parentification affects development
Latchkey kids and how they cope
Why we need to connect with ourselves and find our needs
Healing from our childhood trauma
Understanding and embracing your inner child
Using your inner child was a parent
Links:
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
CA’s Voxer Coaching: http://tinyurl.com/434fs8zd
Jaime’s Coaching: https://recollectedself.com/workwithme
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com
International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988
Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox
Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.
Over 50 Club!
Amanda B.
Plamen S.
Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)
Jaime and CA continue their series on insecure attachment styles with a discussion on the anxious-attachment style. This time, Jaime opens up about her experiences as someone who naturally falls under this category.
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
Order Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE
Ep. 39: The Justification Trap
Notes:
The most difficult part of attachment healing
How anxious-attachment types deal with discomfort in a relationship
The signs of an anxious-attached person
Why anxious attachment starts with “never being good enough”
Roleplaying anxious-attachment
What causes anxious-attachment people to spiral
Steps you can take to heal from being anxious-attachment
The importance of clear and direct communication
Links:
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
CA’s Voxer Coaching: http://tinyurl.com/434fs8zd
Jaime’s Coaching: https://recollectedself.com/workwithme
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com
International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988
Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox
Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.
Over 50 Club!
Amanda B.
Plamen S.
Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)
We’re back!
CA and Jaime return from their hiatus with a series on insecure attachment styles. In this episode, they explore the Avoidant-Attachment style both from a clinical standpoint and from a personal standpoint via CA’s experiences.
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
Order Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE
Notes:
Happy Anniversary! We’re back!
Please consider supporting the show
Defining the four main attraction styles (Secure attachment, Anxious-ambivalent attachment, Anxious-avoidant, and Disorganized/disoriented attachment)
Where all insecure attachment styles come from
How does someone develop avoidant-attachment?
Why opposite attachment styles seem to be attracted to one another
CA’s journey as someone with avoidant-attachment style
How avoidant-attachment shows up in relationships
How to heal and form a healthy attachment style
Links:
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
CA’s Voxer Coaching: http://tinyurl.com/434fs8zd
Jaime’s Coaching: https://recollectedself.com/workwithme
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com
International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988
Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox
Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.
Over 50 Club!
Amanda B.
Plamen S.
Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)
We all know that healing isn’t linear, but there does tend to be a moment when a corner is turned - where we begin to live our life again. What do we do then? Season 1 of the show focused on healing and trauma recovery. Join Jaime and CA as they introduce Season 2, which will focus on what happens after.
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
Order Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE
Notes:
Introducing Season 2 - Life After Healing
What trauma healing really looks like
Societal beliefs and trauma recovery
Why should you learn and then honor your thresholds
How it feels to shift out of survival mode
How to approach recovery safely
Honoring your body and mind during the recovery process
Links:
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com
International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988
Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox
Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.
Over 50 Club!
Amanda B.
Plamen S.
Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)
In this episode, CA and Jaime explore how relationships can serve as protective factors for trauma processing and healing. Especially relationships in which we are not merely tolerated, but rather accepted and, ideally, celebrated.
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
Order Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE
Notes:
Sweater weather!
Changing energy and changing seasons
What are protective factors and how do they affect us?
Beginning the process of processing trauma
How relationships can be protective factors for trauma processing
What normal relationships look like
The importance of knowing whether you are being tolerated, accepted, or celebrated in a relationship
Links:
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com
International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988
Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox
Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.
Over 50 Club!
Amanda B.
Plamen S.
Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)
Join Jaime and CA as they delve into the complexities of spirituality. They question whether religion has exclusive control over our spiritual experiences, provide a clear definition of spirituality, and dive into the topic of secular spirituality. Additionally, they explore the themes of self-righteousness, self-sovereignty, authority within the spiritual domain, and more.
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
Order Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE
Notes:
Does religion own spirituality?
What is spirituality?
What is secular spirituality?
An example of an experience of secular spirituality versus an experience of religious spirituality
Fear-based spirituality and trauma
The source of spiritual power
Self-righteousness, self-sovereignty, and authority
Links:
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com
International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988
Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox
Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.
Over 50 Club!
Amanda B.
Plamen S.
Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)
Join CA and Jaime as they dive into the concept of "cringe." They'll dissect its nature, explore why it makes us squirm, and reveal how trauma recovery can shift our understanding. Get ready for an eye-opening discussion that will change the way you think about cringe.
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
Order Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE
Notes:
Super cringy opening
March Madness - but with kittens!
What is cringe?
What can cringe teach us?
Is it weird or is it a social contract
When do we begin to feel cringe?
Where perception comes into play
The link between cringe and trauma recovery
Links:
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com
International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988
Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox
Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.
Over 50 Club!
Amanda B.
Plamen S.
Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)
Join CA and Jaime as they explore personal evolution with the internationally recognized singer, Audrey Assad. Discover the transformative power of music, delve into profound discussions on faith, suffering, and self-acceptance, and gain valuable insights into the art of living in the moment. Audrey's wisdom and experiences make for a truly inspiring conversation you won't want to miss.
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
Order Jaime’s book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE
Notes:
Introducing Audrey Assad
The power of music - specifically with praise and worship music
Being ok with not having an answer
OCD and Black-and-White Thinking
The relationships between Christianity and suffering
The importance of radical self-acceptance
Learning to just live for the sake of living
Links:
Part 1: Ep. 27: Religious Trauma: Part 1
https://open.spotify.com/episode/0YoXD8jlj6RZ2i3qyUytzr?si=235516c3dd384d13
Audrey’s New Single: https://ffm.to/betteriscoming
Her substack: https://thevioletfields.substack.com/
Monica Martin: Go Easy Kid: https://open.spotify.com/track/50hN4KDpQILZpTejaifHZK?si=CWxhlOreT9aqcaAzgMVMlA
Website: http://www.audreyassad.com
Audrey’s Instagram: http://instagram.com/audreyassad
The liturgists podcast Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/scrupulosity/id903433534?i=1000447501709
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6hXrkFJoM55UKJY9COQsMw?si=Bv2Zj5pST6KrSKbx-AY7Lg
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com
International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988
Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox
Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.
Over 50 Club!
Amanda B.
Plamen S.
Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)
Jaime and CA welcome McKay Orton, a natural beekeeper who has repeatedly gone viral to discuss beekeeping, nature, animals, mental health, and how they intersect.
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
Order Jaime’s upcoming book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It will come out on September 5th and is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE
Notes:
Introducing McKay Orton
Bee’s and mental health
Nature, connection, and improving our wellbeing
The frequency of curiosity
Other animals who can help calm you down
The importance of connecting with nature
Honey talk
Links:
McKay’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mckayjo
McKay’s website: https://mckayjo.com/
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com
International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988
Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox
Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.
Over 50 Club!
Amanda B.
Plamen S.
Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)
CA puts Jaime in the hot seat to discuss Jaime's brand new book, "Toxic Relationship Recovery," which comes out tomorrow! Get a behind-the-scenes look at everything that went into writing (and recording) it before you pick it up yourself!
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
Pre-order Jaime’s upcoming book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It will come out on September 5th and is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE
Notes:
The story behind Jamie's book
How did the title come about?
Why Jaime used the word, "toxic"
The importance of using the right language
Describing the format of the book
Who is the target audience
Links:
@Gendersauce’s post: https://www.instagram.com/p/CsRZHGQOJe6/
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com
International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988
Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox
Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.
Over 50 Club!
Amanda B.
Plamen S.
Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)
Are intimacy and sex the same thing? Is skipping right into the “deeper conversations” a good way to create intimacy? How do we actually form intimate relationships with other people? Jaime and CA explore these questions and more as they take a deep dive into intimacy, what it is, how we build it, and why it’s so hard.
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
Pre-order Jaime’s upcoming book “TOXIC RELATIONSHIP RECOVERY,” today! It will come out on September 5th and is available in paperback, as an audiobook (read by Jaime, herself), and as an e-book. https://bit.ly/43Ka8kE
Notes:
Roleplay time!
Building intimacy versus trying to skip to it
How do we build intimacy?
Outs to intimacy
Building emotional intimacy with yourself
The dangers of getting too intimate too soon
Misperceptions about intimacy
Sex and intimacy
How mundane conversations can lead to intimacy
Links:
@Gendersauce’s post: https://www.instagram.com/p/CsRZHGQOJe6/
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com
International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988
Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox
Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.
Over 50 Club!
Amanda B.
Plamen S.
Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)
In this special bonus episode, CA and Jaime take a deep dive into the Jonah Hill text message situation to explore the importance of standards and boundaries, how and when to have conversations about them, standards versus control, and more.
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
Jonah Hill, Sarah Brady Text Messages—Full Transcript: https://www.newsweek.com/jonah-hill-sarah-brady-text-messages-full-transcript-1812193
Notes:
Background on the Jonah Hill texts
Why stating your boundaries and standards is actually a good thing
The differences between boundaries and standards
The importance of deciding what matters to you before it’s too late
Core components of standards we should look at in a relationship
How to have conversations about boundaries and standards
Clarify! Clarify! Clarify!
Looking at Jonah Hill’s texts
Giving away the keys to the car
Being celebrated vs tolerated
Links:
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club:https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
FREEBIE! Intention Prompts: http://tinyurl.com/Intentionprompts
Follow the podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theunlearnedpodcast/
Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com
International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlinesNational Suicide Hotline: Call:988Text: 988
Website:https://988lifeline.org/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=web&utm_campaign=onebox
Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.
Over 50 Club!
Amanda B.
Plamen S.
Rachel S. (Her Petstagram: @mini_carlo_pinscher)
Can humor help us heal? Can a joke ever be “too dark?” Join Jaime and CA as they chat with comedian Myles Weber and explore the relationship between comedy and healing on this hilarious and insightful episode.
Support the podcast by joining our Coffee Fiend club: https://www.patreon.com/unlearned
Notes:
Links:
Over 50 Club!
Suffering has a role in life, but what happens if it takes center stage? CA and Jaime explore how we can break free from looking at our trauma as a main fixture of our identity and learn to let our suffering be a part of who we are and not all of who we are.
Notes:
The role of suffering in our lives
Suffering as “part of our lives” vs suffering as the goal
Is suffering a path to holiness?
Identifying ourselves with our baggage
Learning to let go of our trauma story
“Addiction Does Not Make the Artist”
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“Big Magic” by Elizabeth Gilbert: https://www.elizabethgilbert.com/books/big-magic/
“Rest is Resistance: A MANIFESTO” by Tricia Hersey: https://thenapministry.com/
“Riptide” by Beartooth: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zv3t0Fvgvik
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In this incredibly personal and powerful episode, Jaime and CA explore the dark moments in our lives where it can seem impossible to see the light. They also discuss how to be there for someone in those moments, even when you are dealing with stuff yourself.
**This episode covers sensitive topics like depression and suicidality. So, please don’t listen if you are not in a safe headspace. See the notes for resources.
International Suicide Hotlines: https://blog.opencounseling.com/suicide-hotlines
National Suicide Hotline: Call: 988 Text: 988
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Lifeline Options For Deaf + Hard of Hearing For TTY Users: Use your preferred relay service or dial 711 then 988.
Notes:
When trauma specialists have trauma themselves
The problem with putting people on a pedestal
Why linear healing isn’t really a thing
Being a witness to someone else’s darkness
How to be there for someone during a dark time
Witnessing your own darkness on social media
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We often find ourselves offering help by way of the phrase, “let me know what I can do to help,” but have we ever stopped to think about how incredibly unhelpful that may be? Jaime and CA explore how to actually provide real support for people who are going through a tough time, for whatever reason, by not just making it easier on the person suffering, but by being proactive about it.
Notes:
Actually providing support vs providing intention to support
Why “Let me know if you need anything” doesn’t work
What if we want to help someone but can’t?
How to proactively help people who are going through something
Be brave enough to be wrong and take risks
How to help without being taken advantage of
How to help on a real, deep level
Links:
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CA and Jaime continue their series on Neurodivergency by discussing how it impacts relationships, focusing on romantic partners. They discuss the importance of actually knowing yourself, how to properly communicate your needs, what acceptance looks like, and more in this dynamic discussion.
Part 1: https://open.spotify.com/episode/41rYpF6FnCouWR6NzYDFb1?si=3100d2970c3c4458
Notes:
The importance of knowing yourself
What overstimulation looks like
How to describe overstimulation with analogies
How to communicate your needs
Why having a partner who can validate your needs is so important
What acceptance and support really looks like
How to identify when your self-advocacy is being challenged for the right reasons
What if both partners are neurodivergent?
How to have a conversation, not a competition
Links:
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Jaime’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/recollectedself/
Jaime’s TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@recollectedself
CA’s Instagram: https://www.secure.instagram.com/embracingdivergence/
CA’s Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@embracingdivergence
Email us topics/suggestions: unlearned@recollectedself.com
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Amanda B.
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