Self-worth is the operating system running your relationships, career, stress, sex life—even your biology. Update it and everything upgrades.Self-worth ≠ self-esteem. Dr. John maps 5 realms that shape love, success, health, and meaning—plus simple practices to feel enough now.Self-worth isn’t a warm fuzzy—it’s the master switch for how you love, lead, and live. In this episode, Dr. John breaks down The 5 Realms of Self-Worth — Inner, Relational, Achievement, Embodied, and Existential—and shows why chasing self-esteem (external approval) keeps you stuck while building self-worth (inherent value) sets you free. Expect science, stories, irreverence, and real-world practices men actually use.You’ll learn: The clean split between self-esteem (weather) and self-worth (climate) How self-worth changes your nervous system, not just your mood Why achievement-based value leads to burnout—and what to do instead Repair > defend: the 30-second reset that deepens connection Two micro-practices that start rewiring “not enough” todayPerfect for: high-performing men, partners who love them, and anyone tired of hustling for approval. 03:10 Self-esteem ≠ self-worth (and why that matters) 07:20 Realm 1—Inner: upgrading the voice in your head 14:05 Realm 2—Relational: love, boundaries, repair 20:40 Realm 3—Achievement: worth beyond output 27:15 Realm 4—Embodied: your body’s self-worth story 33:30 Realm 5—Existential: meaning, purpose, service 40:00 Close: one realm up, all realms riseIf this hits home, share it with a guy who’s crushing goals but starving for “enoughness.”Connect Like An Evolved Caveman: TheEvolvedCaveman.com GuideToSelf.com

Why Avoiding Difficult Conversations Is Wrecking Your LifeIn this episode of the Evolved Caveman podcast, Dr. John Schinnerer explores the psychology behind avoidance and how it impacts our lives. He discusses why our brains are wired to avoid discomfort and the detrimental effects that avoidance has on our relationships, mental health, and personal growth. He provides practical steps for overcoming avoidance, including developing self-awareness, confronting uncomfortable feelings, and learning to sit with discomfort. The episode wraps up with a challenge to listeners to tackle one thing they've been avoiding, emphasizing that real growth comes from facing issues head-on.00:00 Introduction to the Evolved Caveman Podcast00:21 Understanding Avoidance: The Root of the Problem00:58 The Brain's Role in Avoidance03:07 The Consequences of Avoidance04:40 Childhood Scripts and False Control06:32 Steps to Overcome Avoidance08:53 Practical Tips for Facing Discomfort10:27 Conclusion and Weekly ChallengeWanna Climb Higher Up The Happiness Hill ? Here’s Where To Begin Your Ascent:😡 For info on Dr. John's Ultimate Online Anger Management Class (which has over 20,000 graduates!), visit his High Performer Shop 🧠 Top tools for emotional mastery and high tech execs from the best executive coach in Silicon Valley:👉 GuideToSelf.com💬 The best podcast for relationships and those who want to create a happier, safer love life:🎙️ Love Isn’t Enough Podcast 👉 For the tremendous work Dr. John & Joree are doing in couples counseling, visit their top couples counseling site: 👉 LoveIsntEnough.net🎙️ Top 10 Podcast for Men looking to evolve with greater communication skills, grit, mental toughness and happiness:👉 The Evolved Caveman Podcast🌱 Joree’s expert work on mindfulness, therapy & transformation (aka, the best therapist for women near you):👉 JoreeRose.com

Join Dr. John Schinnerer in this episode of the Evolved Caveman Podcast as he dives deep into the science behind aging and longevity. After a mind-blowing 40-year high school reunion, Dr. John explores why some people age gracefully while others, well, don’t. Learn about the role of telomeres, and discover practical, science-backed hacks to extend your health span, from meditation to exercise, stress management, and even testosterone replacement therapy. Plus, get a reality check on how your mindset about aging can literally shape your cellular health. If you're looking to age like a fine Napa cabernet rather than a gallon of milk left in a warm garage, this episode is a must-watch!01:33 The Science of Telomeres02:23 Dr. Alyssa Epel's Longevity Research05:21 Proven Longevity Tools07:39 Testosterone Replacement Therapy10:59 Mindset and Aging15:31 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsWanna Live Longer? Here’s Where To Begin:😡 For info on Dr. John's Ultimate Online Anger Management Class (which has over 20,000 graduates!), visit his High Performer Shop 🧠 Top tools for emotional mastery and high tech execs from the best executive coach in Silicon Valley:👉 GuideToSelf.com💬 The best podcast for relationships and those who want to create a happier, safer love life:🎙️ Love Isn’t Enough Podcast 👉 For the tremendous work Dr. John & Joree are doing in couples counseling, visit their top couples counseling site: 👉 LoveIsntEnough.net🎙️ Top 10 Podcast for Men looking to evolve with greater communication skills, grit, mental toughness and happiness:👉 The Evolved Caveman PodcastPlease be sure to like, rate, review this episode on Apple Podcasts to help us get the word out. Our mission: to help men evolve, one man at a time.  Sharing this episode with someone else helps us to accomplish that. 

How do we successfully show up as men in such a politically-charged environment? Join Dr. John as he dives into an eye-opening conversation with Laurence Johns, a seasoned men's work expert. Raised amidst the gritty streets of 1980’s East London, Laurence shares his tumultuous journey from success to addiction to near-bankruptcy, and the brotherhood that saved him. Now a key figure in The Mankind Project UK, and co-founder of Masculinity X, Laurence offers practical insights on modern masculinity, breaking destructive generational patterns, and finding a badass balance between strength and vulnerability. Tune in for a rollercoaster of laughs, deep revelations, and unconventional wisdom on building a fulfilling, emotionally-aware life for men.Wanna Honestly Look At Your Own Shit? Here’s Where To Begin Your Soul Search:🧠 Top tools for emotional mastery and high tech execs from the best executive coach in Silicon Valley:👉 GuideToSelf.com💬 The best podcast for relationships and those who want to create a happier, safer love life:🎙️ Love Isn’t Enough Podcast 👉 For the tremendous work Dr. John & Joree are doing in couples counseling, visit their top couples counseling site: 👉 LoveIsntEnough.net🎙️ Top 10 Podcast for Men looking to evolve with greater communication skills, grit, mental toughness and happiness:👉 The Evolved Caveman Podcast😡 For info on Dr. John's Ultimate Online Anger Management Class (which has over 20,000 graduates!), visit his High Performer Shop 🌱 Joree’s expert work on mindfulness, therapy & transformation (aka, the best therapist for women near you):👉 JoreeRose.com📸 For more info on the superb counseling Joree is doing with women who don’t want the next 20 years to be like the last 20, visit her site at 👉 MindfulnessAndTherapyCenter.com 

Loving Kindness and Radical Honesty: A Wish for the WorldIn this episode of the Evolved Caveman Podcast, Dr. John shares his profound wish for the world: that everyone develops the courage to face their own inner challenges with radical honesty. He emphasizes that true loving-kindness is not just about wishing others well but involves facing personal fears, shadows, and emotional struggles head-on. Dr. John discusses the destructive habits and psychological barriers that prevent individuals from taking accountability for their own actions and emotions. He invites listeners to turn inward, practice emotional maturity, and cultivate deeper, more loving relationships. Ultimately, his message is a call to action for self-improvement that starts from within and spreads outward, healing relationships and, eventually, the world. Listen in for practical advice, profound insights, and an inspiring message about the transformative power of self-awareness and emotional courage.Timestamps:01:12 The Importance of Facing Our Own Issues02:18 Cultural and Psychological Barriers03:48 The Power of Vulnerability and Accountability05:21 Practical Steps to Emotional Maturity07:33 The Universal Wish for Courage10:18 The Ripple Effect of Personal HealingPlease, please, please remember to like, rate, review and share. This helps us to spread the word further. Thank you ! Wanna Climb Higher Up The Happiness Hill ? Here’s Where To Begin Your Ascent:😡 For info on Dr. John's Ultimate Online Anger Management Class (which has over 20,000 graduates!), visit his High Performer Shop 🧠 Top tools for emotional mastery and high tech execs from the best executive coach in Silicon Valley:👉 GuideToSelf.com💬 The best podcast for relationships and those who want to create a happier, safer love life:🎙️ Love Isn’t Enough Podcast 👉 For the tremendous work Dr. John & Joree are doing in couples counseling, visit their top couples counseling site: 👉 LoveIsntEnough.net🎙️ Top 10 Podcast for Men looking to evolve with greater communication skills, grit, mental toughness and happiness:👉 The Evolved Caveman Podcast🌱 Joree’s expert work on mindfulness, therapy & transformation (aka, the best therapist for women near you):👉 JoreeRose.com📸 For more info on the superb counseling Joree is doing with women who don’t want the next 20 years to be like the last 20, visit her site at 👉 MindfulnessAndTherapyCenter.com💬 The top 10 podcast for women over 40:🎙️ Journey Forward with Joree Rose Podcast

Join Dr. John on The Evolve Caveman Podcast as he dives into the power of mindset in transforming your life. With a mix of humor and candid storytelling, Dr. John discusses how adopting a growth mindset can boost intelligence, manage pain, master stress, slow aging, and even aid in weight loss. Hear inspiring real-world examples and learn practical steps to upgrade your mental game. Subscribe to stay in the loop and discover how you can face life's challenges with a brave and resilient mindset. Don't miss this episode; it might just change how you think, laugh, love, and succeed!00:51 A Story from the Front Lines03:09 Understanding Mindset03:51 Fixed vs. Growth Mindset07:09 Real-World Examples of Growth Mindset13:14 Mindset's Impact on Health and Well-being25:16 Practical Tips to Improve Your Mindset

One Human Family: Exploring Global Peace with Mandar ApteFrom Shell Engineer to Peace AdvocateIn this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast, Dr. John interviews Mandar Apte, a former petroleum engineer turned peace advocate. Mandar shares his fascinatingjourney from working at Shell Oil to teaching meditation practices to over 2000 Shell employees, and founding Cities for Peace in 2018. They discuss how to create a cultureof peace in communities and the importance of individual healing. Mandar also shares his experiences working with law enforcement and former gang members in SouthCentral LA, and the profound impact of meditation and breathwork on overcoming trauma. Additionally, they explore the concept of interconnectedness and the ancientwisdom that binds humanity as one family. Join Dr. John and Mandar for an inspiring conversation filled with actionable insights on fostering inner peace and compassion.Find out more about Mandar’s exemplary work at Cities4Peace.com.Looking for More Inner Peace? Here’s Where To Begin Your Quest:😡 For info on Dr. John's Ultimate Online Anger Management Class (which has over 20,000 graduates!), visit his High Performer Shop 🧠 Top tools for emotional mastery and high tech execs from the best executive coach in Silicon Valley:👉 GuideToSelf.com💬 The best podcast for relationships and those who want to create a happier, safer love life:🎙️ Love Isn’t Enough Podcast 👉 For the tremendous work Dr. John & Joree are doing in couples counseling, visit their top couples counseling site: 👉 LoveIsntEnough.net🎙️ Top 10 Podcast for Men looking to evolve with greater communication skills, grit, mental toughness and happiness:👉 The Evolved Caveman Podcast🌱 Joree’s expert work on mindfulness, therapy & transformation (aka, the best therapist for women near you):👉 JoreeRose.com📸 For more info on the superb counseling Joree is doing with women who don’t want the next 20 years to be like the last 20, visit her site at 👉 MindfulnessAndTherapyCenter.com💬 The top 10 podcast for women over 40:🎙️ Journey Forward with Joree Rose Podcast #loveisntenough #relationshipadvice #loveandrelationships #relationshiptips #relationshippodcast #relationshiptools #relationshipgoals #marriage #marriageadvice #marriedlifetips #marriedgoals #marriagetips #couplestherapy #couplegoal

In this high-energy episode, Dr. John dives illuminates the differences between self-worth, self-esteem, and self-confidence. Why is this so important? Discover why some men have been incredibly successful yet (often) still feel lousy about themselves. This is the critical difference between self-worth and self-esteem. Self-esteem is built from the outside in (i.e., compliments from others, likes on social media, and external recognition). Self-worth is infinitely more powerful and is built from the inside out (i.e., acting based upon your values and praising yourself when you are doing so). Find out why the difference is life-changing in terms of your happiness, and thus, your success. Brace yourself for metaphors, personal anecdotes, and actionable advice to silence your inner critic, set boundaries, and track your wins. Tune in for 5 steps you can take to improve your self-worth so you can thrive like never before!00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview00:24 The Importance of Self-Worth02:32 What Is Self-Worth? What Is Self-Esteem?03:43 Self-Worth vs. Self-Esteem08:19 Self-Worth vs. Self-Confidence18:10 How To Build Your Self-Worth23:36 Conclusion and Self-Worth ChallengeWanna Build The Foundation To Your Self-worth Castle ? Here’s Where To Begin The Construction:😡 For info on Dr. John's Ultimate Online Anger Management Class (which has over 20,000 graduates!), visit his High Performer Shop 🧠 Top tools for emotional mastery and high tech execs from the best executive coach in Silicon Valley:👉 GuideToSelf.com💬 The best podcast for relationships and those who want to create a happier, safer love life:🎙️ Love Isn’t Enough Podcast 👉 For the tremendous work Dr. John & Joree are doing in couples counseling, visit their top couples counseling site: 👉 LoveIsntEnough.net🎙️ Top 10 Podcast for Men looking to evolve with greater communication skills, grit, mental toughness and happiness:👉 The Evolved Caveman Podcast🌱 Joree’s expert work on mindfulness, therapy & transformation (aka, the best therapist for women near you):👉 JoreeRose.com📸 For more info on the superb counseling Joree is doing with women who don’t want the next 20 years to be like the last 20, visit her site at 👉 MindfulnessAndTherapyCenter.com💬 The top 10 podcast for women over 40:🎙️ Journey Forward with Joree Rose Podcast #selfworth #selfesteem #selfconfidence #shame #emotionaliq #menswork #happiness 

A Rollercoaster Journey Through AlcoholismJoin Dr. John on The Evolved Caveman Podcast as he catches up with his old friend, Tony Hicks. From their middle school antics to Tony's new book 'Lying Drunk,' this episode dives deep into Tony's struggles with alcoholism. Tony shares brutally honest and sometimes hilarious stories about the trials, tribulations, and sheer insanity of being an alcoholic. Discover the meaning behind his book's provocative title, his multiple stints in rehab, and the raw truth about his battle with sobriety. Don't miss this engaging and irreverent conversation that tackles emotional pain, panic attacks, and the fragile grip of sobriety. Perfect advice for those curious about the pitfalls of addiction or seeking a brutally honest tale of redemption! Grab a copy of 'Lying Drunk' on Amazon and brace yourself for a wild ride!00:33 The Story Behind 'Lying Drunk'01:20 Struggles with Alcoholism05:11 Rehab Experiences and Rock Bottom11:16 Anxiety and Panic Attacks20:11 Impact on Family and Personal Life22:54 Homelessness and Recovery25:36 Reflecting on Past Friendships and Life Changes28:13 The Relationship Between Emotional Pain and Alcohol30:51 Defining Sobriety and Personal Struggles34:50 Spirituality and Sobriety37:19 Anecdotes and Personal Stories39:58 The Breakup Letter to Alcohol43:49 Final Thoughts and ReflectionsHere’s Where To Find Out More About John and Joree’s Work To Save Humanity One Person At A Time:😡 For info on Dr. John's Ultimate Online Anger Management Class (which has over 20,000 graduates!), visit his High Performer Shop 🧠 Top tools for emotional mastery and high tech execs from the best executive coach in Silicon Valley:👉 GuideToSelf.com💬 The best podcast for relationships and those who want to create a happier, safer love life:🎙️ Love Isn’t Enough Podcast 👉 For the tremendous work Dr. John & Joree are doing in couples counseling, visit their top couples counseling site: 👉 LoveIsntEnough.net🎙️ Top 10 Podcast for Men looking to evolve with greater communication skills, grit, mental toughness and happiness:👉 The Evolved Caveman Podcast🌱 Joree’s expert work on mindfulness, therapy & transformation (aka, the best therapist for women near you):👉 JoreeRose.com📸 For more info on the superb counseling Joree is doing with women who don’t want the next 20 years to be like the last 20, visit her site at 👉 MindfulnessAndTherapyCenter.com💬 The top 10 podcast for women over 40:🎙️ Journey Forward with Joree Rose Podcast 

Join Dr. John Schinnerer in this episode of The Evolved Caveman as he delves into the art of not taking other people's moods personally and helping others to do the same. Discover the 'depersonalization game,' learn the difference between emotions and moods, and master the 'crank call' to communicate your bad moods effectively (i.e., the best gift you can give your loved ones!). Get ready to level up your emotional IQ, build stronger relationships, and avoid unnecessary drama. Don't forget to like, rate, review, and share to spread the wisdom and help make the world a better place!00:39 Understanding Personalization of Emotions02:25 The Depersonalization Game04:07 Helping Others with Your Mood04:38 Distinguishing Emotions from Moods07:34 Mastering the Crank Call08:44 Benefits of the Crank Call10:21 How to Deliver and Follow Up on a Crank Call12:52 Handling Missed Crank Calls14:30 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsWanna Climb Higher Up The Happiness Hill ? Here’s Where To Begin Your Ascent:😡 For info on Dr. John's Ultimate Online Anger Management Class (which has over 20,000 graduates!), visit his High Performer Shop 🧠 Top tools for emotional mastery and high tech execs from the best executive coach in Silicon Valley:👉 GuideToSelf.com💬 The best podcast for relationships and those who want to create a happier, safer love life:🎙️ Love Isn’t Enough Podcast 👉 For the tremendous work Dr. John & Joree are doing in couples counseling, visit their top couples counseling site: 👉 LoveIsntEnough.net🎙️ Top 10 Podcast for Men looking to evolve with greater communication skills, grit, mental toughness and happiness:👉 The Evolved Caveman Podcast🌱 Joree’s expert work on mindfulness, therapy & transformation (aka, the best therapist for women near you):👉 JoreeRose.com📸 For more info on the superb counseling Joree is doing with women who don’t want the next 20 years to be like the last 20, visit her site at 👉 MindfulnessAndTherapyCenter.com💬 The top 10 podcast for women over 40:🎙️ Journey Forward with Joree Rose Podcast 

The latest episode of The Evolved Caveman has dropped, and this time it’s about stress and burnout, comparing the two, unpacking why you should care and what the hell to DO about them. Burnout is a soul-crushing abyss, not just tiredness, but a full-blown system crash caused by chronic stress. Dr. John Schinnerer highlights the grim reality: 82% of employees are at risk of burnout, with healthcare workers, teachers, and younger workers suffering the most. From financial strain to digital overload, from lack of control to toxic workplaces, John lays out the causes of burnout. He also explores the symptoms—mental exhaustion, cynicism, physical issues, and bad behaviors like drinking and Netflix binging. Differences between stress and burnout? Stress can be productive; burnout is a hopeless black hole. Take a listen if you’re interested in the fixes for burnout.  If you're drowning in the burnout ocean, don't be a hero; seek help. And hey, be sure to leave a review if this episode saved your sanity, and of course, subscribe so you never miss an episode!Wanna Climb Higher Up The Happiness Hill ? Here’s Where To Begin Your Ascent:😡 For info on Dr. John's Ultimate Online Anger Management Class (which has over 20,000 graduates!), visit his High Performer Shop 🧠 Top tools for emotional mastery and high tech execs from the best executive coach in Silicon Valley:👉 GuideToSelf.com💬 The best podcast for relationships and those who want to create a happier, safer love life:🎙️ Love Isn’t Enough Podcast 👉 For the tremendous work Dr. John & Joree are doing in couples counseling, visit their top couples counseling site: 👉 LoveIsntEnough.net🎙️ Top 10 Podcast for Men looking to evolve with greater communication skills, grit, mental toughness and happiness:👉 The Evolved Caveman Podcast🌱 Joree’s expert work on mindfulness, therapy & transformation (aka, the best therapist for women near you):👉 JoreeRose.com📸 For more info on the superb counseling Joree is doing with women who don’t want the next 20 years to be like the last 20, visit her site at 👉 MindfulnessAndTherapyCenter.com💬 The top 10 podcast for women over 40:🎙️ Journey Forward with Joree Rose Podcast 

In today's sterling episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast, Dr. John Schinnerer teams up with John O'Brien, a licensed psychologist & executive coach from Portland, Maine. Together, the Johns tackle the epidemic of rudeness plaguing our workplaces, political lives, and homes. From defining rudeness and its various types—interpersonal, cyber, and victimless—to exploring anger, incivility, and the startling impact of hostile individuals like some rude surgeons on our physical health, this episode is packed with actionable insights. They even delve into the effects of social media outrage and the challenge of maintaining self-awareness in a world that seems to reward snarky comments. Whether you're dealing with drama in your personal life or just trying to keep your cool on social media, this candid discussion is a must-listen. For those individuals who need a little rudeness rehab: start with self-awareness, therapy, mindfulness, and maybe buying John’s book. This convo oozes with insights, tough love, and a touch of irreverence. And remember, you can’t change the world overnight, but you can start by being a jerk less often to others.Timestamps:01:32 Defining Rudeness and Its Types04:20 Personal Experiences with Rudeness05:33 The Psychology Behind Rudeness07:19 Anger and Hostility in Society18:14 Rudeness in Professional Environments22:25 Righteous Rudeness and Effective Communication25:16 The Pandemic of Rudeness27:43 Psychological Payoff of Rudeness29:21 Self-Awareness as a Solution32:14 Disengaging from Rude Comments35:47 Gender and Cultural Dynamics of Rudeness38:07 Rehabilitating Rude Behavior39:08 The Impact of Media on Rudeness40:15 Boundaries and Cognitive Flexibility43:45 The Role of Emotional Reasoning45:34 The Future of AI and Deep Fakes47:21 Final Thoughts and Hope for ChangeAbout Dr. John’s Valued Guest:John M. O’Brien, Ph.D.  is a professional speaker and executive coach who helps individuals and organizations create lower stress work environments that ignite employee engagement, increase productivity and strengthen profitability. He is a licensed psychologist, professional speaker, and executive coach in Portland, Maine with over 30 years experience in the mental health field as a clinician and adjunct faculty member at the University of Maine at Augusta. John is the author of a newly released book, “Rudeness Rehab: Reclaiming Civility in the Workplace and Your Home Space.”

In this special episode of the Evolved Caveman podcast, Dr. John Schinnerer delivers a heartfelt message to men, addressing the significant pressures and outdated norms surrounding modern masculinity. Highlighting the findings of the State of American Men 2025 report by Equimundo, he discusses the harmful effects of societal expectations on men, including financial stress and isolation. Dr. Schinnerer emphasizes that men are not broken or alone and advocates for a redefinition of masculinity that includes emotional honesty, mutual care, and deeper connections. He concludes with actionable steps for men to embrace their full humanity and rebuild a more inclusive, compassionate version of manhood.Wanna Climb Higher Up The Happiness Hill ? Here’s Where To Begin Your Ascent:😡 For info on Dr. John's Ultimate Online Anger Management Class (which has over 20,000 graduates!), visit his High Performer Shop 🧠 Top tools for emotional mastery and high tech execs from the best executive coach in Silicon Valley:👉 GuideToSelf.com💬 The best podcast for relationships and those who want to create a happier, safer love life:🎙️ Love Isn’t Enough Podcast 👉 For the tremendous work Dr. John & Joree are doing in couples counseling, visit their top couples counseling site: 👉 LoveIsntEnough.net🎙️ Top 10 Podcast for Men looking to become an evolving caveman with greater communication skills, grit, mental toughness and authenticity:👉 The Evolved Caveman Podcast🌱 Joree’s expert work on mindfulness, therapy & transformation (aka, the best therapist for women near you):👉 JoreeRose.com📸 For more info on the superb counseling Joree is doing with women who don’t want the next 20 years to be like the last 20, visit her site at 👉 MindfulnessAndTherapyCenter.com💬 The top 10 podcast for women over 35:🎙️ Journey Forward with Joree Rose Podcast 

In this episode of The Evolved Caveman, Dr. John is joined by Dr. Kasim Al-Mashat, a multifaceted expert whose journey from skepticism to healing spans numerous disciplines. From a childhood in Iraq marred by war to groundbreaking research on trauma and refugees, Dr. Kasim's relentless pursuit of healing has led him through the realms of sales, counseling, and mindfulness. Together, they explore the power of authenticity, the transformative effects of mindfulness and laughter yoga, and the importance of embracing all emotions. Tune in to uncover how Dr. Kasim navigates life's challenges, turning suffering into growth, one breath at a time.00:00 Introduction to Dr. Kasim Al-Mashat00:29 Kasim's Early Life and Journey to Healing03:06 The Power of Authenticity03:32 Kasim's Experience During the Persian Gulf War05:46 Challenges of Growing Up in a War-Torn Country07:04 Discovering a Passion for Counseling10:11 Transition from Business to Counseling16:55 Research on the Impact of War on Children22:37 The Journey into Mindfulness and Meditation30:22 The Challenge of Silent Retreats31:23 Understanding Mood Swings33:22 Benefits of Mindfulness35:27 Discovering Joy Through Meditation36:40 The Importance of Positive Emotions40:48 Laughter Yoga: A Path to Happiness45:45 The Science Behind Laughter50:04 Embracing All Emotions53:11 The Power of Shared HumanityWanna Climb Higher Up The Happiness Hill ? Here’s Where To Begin Your Ascent:😡 For info on Dr. John's Ultimate Online Anger Management Class (which has over 20,000 graduates!), visit his High Performer Shop.🧠 Top tools for emotional mastery and high tech execs from the best executive coach in the San Francisco Bay Area:👉 GuideToSelf.com💬 The best podcast for relationships and those who want to create a happier, safer love life:🎙️ Love Isn’t Enough Podcast👉 For the tremendous work Dr. John & Joree are doing to heal relationships, visit their top couples counseling site: 👉 LoveIsntEnough.net🎙️ Straight talk on evolution, masculinity & growth on the best podcast for men:👉 TheEvolvedCaveman.com🌱 Joree’s expert work on mindfulness, therapy & transformation from the best therapist for women near you:👉 JoreeRose.com📸 For more info on the superb counseling Joree is doing with women who are stuck in their lives, visit her site at 👉 MindfulnessAndTherapyCenter.com  💬 The best podcast for women who seek to get unstuck in live and make the next 30 years better than the last 30:🎙️ Journey Forward with Joree Rose Podcast

In this episode of the Evolved Caveman podcast, Dr. John explores the next wave of the AI revolution, emphasizing emotional intelligence over technical prowess. Addressing an audience of modern men, he stresses the importance of evolving beyond outdated ideals of stoicism and rugged individualism. Dr. John outlines seven practical steps to enhance emotional intelligence, including naming emotions, staying curious, seeking therapy, practicing vulnerability, slowing down, listening to understand, and taking responsibility. As AI rapidly develops emotional nuances, men are urged to prioritize connection, authenticity, and empathy to stay relevant and fulfilled in a rapidly changing world.Please be sure to leave a 5 star review and share with someone who needs to hear this message. Both help us to build a bigger audience and teach more people. Thank you!Wanna Climb Higher Up The Happiness Hill ? Here’s Where To Begin Your Ascent:😡 For info on Dr. John's Ultimate Online Anger Management Class (which has over 20,000 graduates!), visit his High Performer Shop at https://guide-to-self.mykajabi.com/store 🧠 Top tools for emotional mastery and high tech execs from the best executive coach in San Ramon Valley:👉 https://GuideToSelf.com 💬 The best podcast for relationships and those who want to create a happier, safer love life:🎙️ Love Isn’t Enough Podcast at https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-isnt-enough/id1774236475 👉 For the tremendous work Dr. John & Joree are doing in couples counseling, visit their top couples counseling site: 👉 https://LoveIsntEnough.net 🎙️ Top 10 Podcast for Men looking to evolve with greater communication skills, grit, mental toughness and happiness:👉 The Evolved Caveman Podcast at https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-evolved-caveman-podcast-w-dr-john-schinnerer/id1463310003 🌱 Joree’s expert work on mindfulness, therapy & transformation (aka, the best therapist for women near you):👉 https://JoreeRose.com 📸 For more info on the superb counseling Joree is doing with women who don’t want the next 20 years to be like the last 20, visit her site at 👉 https://MindfulnessAndTherapyCenter.com 💬 The top 10 podcast for women over 40:🎙️ Journey Forward with Joree Rose Podcast at https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/journey-forward-with-joree-rose/id1454834765 #loveisntenough #relationshipadvice #loveandrelationships #relationshiptips #relationshippodcast #relationshiptools #relationshipgoals #marriage #marriageadvice #marriedlifetips #marriedgoals #marriagetips #couplestherapy #couplegoal

In this episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast, Dr. John sits down with Rich Heller—a marriage whisperer with two decades of experience and the brains behind the *Rich in Relationship* podcast. Think of Rich as a relationship mechanic who helps couples stop setting emotional fires and start building actual connection (without needing a fire extinguisher or a therapist on speed dial).They dig into the juicy stuff: Rich’s own WTF moments that shaped his career, how generational trauma likes to crash your relationship uninvited, and why shame is the sneaky gremlin screwing things up behind the scenes without your knowledge or permission. They also take a sledgehammer to outdated ideas of masculinity (spoiler: being emotionally clueless isn’t sexy), and explore how to create relationships that don’t suck—with actual tools, not just good vibes.This one’s for anyone who wants less drama and more connection—minus the woo-woo fluff.01:32 Rich Heller's Journey to Marriage Coaching04:16 Personal Reflections on Divorce05:08 Managing Anger and Emotional Triggers11:33 Conflict Resolution in Relationships17:22 Understanding and Releasing Trauma30:05 The Metaphor of Cleaning the House30:49 Exploring Masculinity Myths31:43 The High Plains Drifter and Masculine Myths32:48 Replacing Outdated Masculine Myths35:39 The Importance of Connection and Vulnerability36:16 From Fixer to Feeler: Helping Men Connect39:48 Understanding Men's Root Fears in Relationships42:41 The Role of Shame in Men's Lives47:55 The Difference Between Shame and Guilt53:08 Relational Wealth and Personal FulfillmentAbout Dr. John’s Cool Guest;Rich Heller, MSW, PCC, ELI-MP, Rich is the podcast host of Rich in Relationship, and Marriage Transformation Coach. He helps couples move from conflict to synergy, from parallel lives to true connection, and from routine to transformation.Rich holds a BA from Vassar College in sustainable social change and an MSW from Hunter School of Social Work, specializing in relational dynamics. He is a Professional Certified Coach (PCC), Master Practitioner of MER and NLP, and a trained mediator and parent coordinator.  Rich has helped thousands of couples break free from old patterns and build relationships rooted in love, partnership, and prosperity—including his own marriage of 20+ years.

Welcome back to a special joint episode of The Evolved Caveman andLove Isn’t Enough podcasts, where your favorite therapist power couple,Dr. John and Joree, lovingly drag your toxic relationship habits into thedaylight. This week? We’re tackling the last two horsemen of your relationalapocalypse: Contempt and Stonewalling. (Because your love life wasn'talready teetering on the edge after Criticism and Defensiveness lastweek.)First up: Contempt — the "I’m better than you" flavor of loathing that turnsevery dishwasher squabble into a power play. It's got everything: eye-rolls,sneers, and the emotional subtlety of a flamethrower. According to theGottmans, contempt is basically the kiss of death. Spot it in the first 5minutes of a fight? That relationship’s got the lifespan of a mayfly (that is,breakup is around the corner!).Then there's Stonewalling, the cold shoulder’s evil twin. It’s when onepartner shuts down, checks out, and basically becomes a decorative plantduring conflict. Spoiler: that's not sexy. Or helpful. Or sustainable. It’s also aharbinger of breakup.John and Joree keep it real by admitting they used to suck at this stuff too.But they’ve done the work — and now they're here to help you recognizethese behaviors before your relationship flatlines.So if you're tired of feeling unheard, judged, or like you’re arguing with abrick wall (or *being* one), tune in. You might cringe a little, but hey —growth isn’t supposed to be comfy.Wanna Climb Higher Up The Happiness Hill ? Here’s Where To Begin YourAscent:�� For info on Dr. John's Ultimate Online Anger Management Class (which hasover 20,000 graduates!), visit his High Performer Shop.�� Top tools for emotional mastery and high tech execs from the best executivecoach in the San Francisco Bay Area:�� GuideToSelf.com�� The best podcast for relationships and those who want to create a happier,safer love life:��️ Love Isn’t Enough Podcast�� For the tremendous work Dr. John & Joree are doing to heal relationships,visit their top couples counseling site:��  LoveIsntEnough.net��️ Straight talk on evolution, masculinity & growth on the best podcast for men:�� TheEvolvedCaveman.com�� Joree’s expert work on mindfulness, therapy & transformation from the besttherapist for women near you:�� JoreeRose.com�� For more info on the superb counseling Joree is doing with women who arestuck in their lives, visit her site at�� MindfulnessAndTherapyCenter.com�� The best podcast for women who seek to get unstuck in live and make thenext 30 years better than the last 30:��️ Journey Forward with Joree Rose Podcast

Welcome back to a special joint episode of  The Evolved Caveman and Love Isn’t Enough, where Joree and John lovingly drag your relationship habits into the light—so you can stop sabotaging your love life one passive-aggressive comment at a time.In this episode, we’re saddling up with the Four Horsemen of the (Relationship) Apocalypse, straight from the research of the OG love nerds, Drs. John and Julie Gottman. These four bad boys—criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling—aren’t just annoying. They’re *statistically proven* to predict divorce with a freaky 92% accuracy rate.That’s right. If these habits are riding around unchecked in your relationship, you're not just arguing over the dishwasher—you might be headed for Splitsville.Today, we’re going deep on the first two horsemen: Criticism (AKA “Let me tell you why you suck”) and Defensiveness (AKA “Oh really? Well what about YOU?”). Joree and John keep it real with personal stories, hilarious moments of self-awareness, and insight from working with clients who, let’s just say, *learned the hard way*.What You'll Learn (Besides How to Stop Arguing Like 5-Year-Olds):* Why your nervous system flips out in the middle of a fight* How criticism is NOT the same as feedback (and why one will wreck your weekend)* The sneaky ways defensiveness kills emotional safety* How to stop being a porcupine when your partner needs a hug* Simple ways to shift from reaction to curiosity (yes, even mid-argument)* The absolute magic of non-defensive listening (hint: your partner might cry happy tears)* And how to actually connect—even when you’re pissedBecause the goal isn’t just to stop fighting. It’s to fight smarter, love deeper, and maybe—just maybe—not feel like you're stuck in a never-ending episode of *Who’s the Bigger Jerk?*Bottom Line?You don’t need to be perfect—you just need to show up, own your sh\*t, and stop letting bad habits ride roughshod over your connection. With curiosity, compassion, and a little non-defensive magic, you can actually make your relationship feel less like a battlefield and more like, well, love.Want more tough love with tools?💔 Check out the Relationship Master Class at👉 [LoveIsntEnough.net](https://LoveIsntEnough.net)(Spoiler: love isn’t enough. But boundaries, communication, and knowing what to do when your partner is annoying? Total game-changers.)🎙️ Listen now on The Evolved Caveman Podcast👉 [TheEvolvedCaveman.com](https://TheEvolvedCaveman.com)💃 For Joree’s powerhouse work helping women ditch burnout, find joy, and stop dating emotionally unavailable man-children: 👉 [JoreeRose.com](https://JoreeRose.com)👔 For Dr. John’s work helping execs and high performers stop silently imploding: 👉 [GuideToSelf.com](https://GuideToSelf.com)😡 For info on Dr. John's Ultimate Anger Management Course (which has over 20,000 graduates!), visit his High Performer Shop at https://guide-to-self.mykajabi.com/store. 

Ready for a no-holds-barred chat on anger management, male irritability and their impact on relationships? We've got Dr. John Schinnerer—yes, his last name is a mouthful—dropping some serious self-awareness bombs. Trina Glines interviews Dr. John to help you discover your authentic self and stop life's challenges from becoming roadblocks. Dr. John breaks down how anger actually works (hint: it's not just a secondary emotion) and gives four killer components: emotional, cognitive, physiological, and attentional. He even dishes on living with an angry ex-spouse and references John Gottman's 'four horsemen' that predict relationship doom. But hey, it's not all bad news! Dr. John's got the top tools to begin your transformation into Phil Jackson, aka the zen master. You'll learn how to keep your cool, stop fights, and maybe even enjoy life a bit more. Don't worry about long therapy sessions—his coaching style makes this stuff accessible. Whether you're an executive with an irritability issue, in a relationship with an testy twat, or just someone who's aware of their own anger issues, you're in the right place. So breathe, grab your journal, and get ready to take some notes. You're about to transform your anger into strength.Wanna Go Deeper Down the Rabbit Hole? Here’s Where to Find Us):👔 For Dr. John’s work helping execs and high performers stop silently imploding: 👉 [GuideToSelf.com](https://GuideToSelf.com)💔 Curious about the couples counseling magic John’s doing with the amazing Joree Rose, LMFT?👉 [LoveIsntEnough.net](https://LoveIsntEnough.net)  (*Spoiler: Love isn’t enough, but skills, self-awareness, and maybe a glass of wine are.*)🎙️ For all you evolving caveman out there, here’s the podcast info: 👉 [TheEvolvedCaveman.com](https://TheEvolvedCaveman.com)💃 For Joree’s powerhouse work helping women: 👉 [JoreeRose.com](https://JoreeRose.com)Follow Dr. John like the Evolved Caveman that you are:📸 **Instagram:** [@TheEvolvedCaveman](http://instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman)  👥 **Facebook:** [Anger.Management.Expert](http://facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert)  🐦 **Twitter/X:** [@JohnSchin](http://x.com/JohnSchin)  💼 **LinkedIn:** [Dr. John Schinnerer](http://linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnerer)Follow, click, explore, evolve. Or don’t. But your emotional health might suffer and your relationships could end in flames. No pressure. 🔥

Buckle up, intrepid listeners! Dr. John kicks off the latest episode of the Evolve Caveman Podcast with a bang, bringing on the illustrious Daniel Ellenberg, Ph.D. This dude isn't just any therapist; he's a leadership coach, founder of Strength with Heart men's groups, and past president of the APA's division on Men and Masculinities. Oh, and did I mention he co-developed training for NASA? Yeah, the guy's got creds. John and Daniel dive into the intricacies of male relationships, the importance of play, and why guys need to stop being such jackasses about vulnerability and self-compassion. They riff on everything from the significance of boundaries to the irony of male loneliness, all while making sure to keep things breezy and sarcastic. Ever wonder why men are so scared of the word 'compassion'? You're about to find out. Daniel's current passion project: helping men balance strength with heart through the Men and Boys Compassion Coalition. A must-listen for anyone trying to upgrade their male operating system without losing their edge.About Dr. John’s Esteemed Guest, Daniel Ellenberg, Ph.D.:Daniel Ellenberg, PhD, is a licensed therapist, leadership coach, and the founder of Strength with Heart men’s groups and workshops. He is a past president of American Psychological Association (APA) division on men and masculinities and the founder/director of the Men and Boys Compassion Coalition through the Global Compassion Coalition (GCC). He is currently co-writing a book for men called Strength with Heart and contributed a chapter in A Global Dialogue on Masculinity. He has spent his entire career helping people, particularly men, navigate their lives more mindfully, skillfully, and compassionately. He co-developed and delivered training at several NASA space centers—including Resilience Dynamics, Introspection for Leadership Excellence, and The Neuroscience of Teams. Wanna Go Deeper Down the Rabbit Hole? Here’s Where to Stalk Us (Respectfully):👔 For Dr. John’s work helping execs and high performers stop silently imploding: 👉 [GuideToSelf.com](https://GuideToSelf.com)💔 Curious about the couples counseling magic John’s doing with the amazing Joree Rose, LMFT👉 [LoveIsntEnough.net](https://LoveIsntEnough.net)  (*Spoiler: Love isn’t enough, but skills, self-awareness, and maybe a glass of wine are.*)🎙️ For all things caveman evolution, podcast-style: 👉 [TheEvolvedCaveman.com](https://TheEvolvedCaveman.com)💃 For Joree’s powerhouse work helping women ditch burnout, find joy, and stop dating emotionally unavailable man-children: 👉 [JoreeRose.com](https://JoreeRose.com)Follow Dr. John like the Evolved Caveman that you are:📸 **Instagram:** [@TheEvolvedCaveman](http://instagram.com/@TheEvolvedCaveman)  👥 **Facebook:** [Anger.Management.Expert](http://facebook.com/Anger.Management.Expert)  🐦 **Twitter/X:** [@JohnSchin](http://x.com/JohnSchin)  💼 **LinkedIn:** [Dr. John Schinnerer](http://linkedin.com/in/DrJohnSchinnerer)---Follow, click, explore, evolve. Or don’t. But your emotional health might suffer and your relationships could end in flames. No pressure. 🔥