In this heartfelt episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly sits down with yoga teacher Gráinne to explore her journey through heartbreak, healing & the realities of co-parenting after separation.
Gráinne opens up about the emotional challenges of her breakup- from anger and hurt to rediscovering herself as both a woman and a mother. She shares how she learned to separate personal emotions from parenting responsibilities, the importance of communication with her ex-partner & how she found joy again through yoga, self-care & moments of independence.
Together, Kelly and Gráinne dive deep into what it really means to rebuild after a breakup when children are involved, how to find balance, create new boundaries & redefine happiness on your own terms.
Whether you’re co-parenting, navigating a separation, or simply learning to start over, this episode is a grounded, hopeful reminder that healing is always possible & you can thrive, not just survive.
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In this solo episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly dives deep into one of the biggest post-breakup traps; putting your ex on a pedestal.
If you’ve been replaying every memory, romanticising the good moments or secretly wondering if you’ll ever feel that spark again- this conversation is for you. Kelly breaks down why we idealise our exes, how attachment styles (especially avoidant dynamics) can distort our perspective & what it actually takes to see them clearly again.
Through honesty and humor, she reminds listeners that healing starts when you stop worshipping the fantasy and start reclaiming your power. Because the truth is, you don’t miss them, you miss the version of them in your mind.
This episode also features a Where Is She Now story from a listener who finally walked away from a four-year on-again, off-again relationship, cut contact & built a brand-new life abroad, proof that peace really is on the other side of letting go.
Why “knocking your ex off the pedestal” is essential for healing
How to separate the fantasy from the reality of who they were
Why we confuse potential for love (and how to stop)
The power of no contact and creating emotional distance
How to rebuild your self-worth and confidence after heartbreak
What avoidant attachment can teach you about the cycle of chasing unavailable love
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In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly dives into a viral topic inspired by a video from Therapy Jeff.
If you’ve ever felt completely disillusioned with dating, this one’s for you. Kelly unpacks the frustration of navigating modern relationships for a woman who’s self-aware, healing and tired of the same emotional patterns- yet still wants to believe in love again.
She explores how to separate the system from the individual (yes, patriarchy is real but not every man is your ex), how to spot emotionally intelligent men & how to date with hope & self-respect instead of fear or resentment.
This is a real, grounded & empowering conversation about keeping your standards high without closing your heart.
In this episode, you’ll learn:💭 How to stop projecting past pain onto new people💭 Why expanding your “evidence file” of good men matters💭 What to do about the emotional intelligence gap💭 How to balance accountability with compassion💭 Why you don’t need to choose between awareness & optimism
Because you can call out the patriarchy and still believe in love- without lowering your standards or losing yourself.
Listen for: real talk, humor & healing perspective on modern dating, inspired by the viral wisdom of Therapy Jeff.
💌 Got a story for the Where Is She Now segment? Email info@kellyskoaching.com✨ Connect on Instagram & TikTok @kellyskoaching🔗 All links: linktr.ee/kellys_koaching
In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly dives into a viral topic inspired by a video from Therapy Jeff.
If you’ve ever felt completely disillusioned with dating, this one’s for you. Kelly unpacks the frustration of navigating modern relationships for a woman who’s self-aware, healing and tired of the same emotional patterns- yet still wants to believe in love again.
She explores how to separate the system from the individual (yes, patriarchy is real but not every man is your ex), how to spot emotionally intelligent men & how to date with hope & self-respect instead of fear or resentment.
This is a real, grounded & empowering conversation about keeping your standards high without closing your heart.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
💭 How to stop projecting past pain onto new people💭 Why expanding your “evidence file” of good men matters💭 What to do about the emotional intelligence gap💭 How to balance accountability with compassion💭 Why you don’t need to choose between awareness & optimism
Because you can call out the patriarchy and still believe in love- without lowering your standards or losing yourself.
Listen for: real talk, humor & healing perspective on modern dating, inspired by the viral wisdom of Therapy Jeff.
💌 Got a story for the Where Is She Now segment? Email info@kellyskoaching.com
✨ Connect on Instagram & TikTok @kellyskoaching
🔗 All links: linktr.ee/kellys_koaching
What do you do when your husband cheats, your next boyfriend dumps you before your big Europe trip & life completely implodes?
If you’re Gabrielle Stone, you buy a plane ticket, grab your journal & write a book about it that becomes a global phenomenon!
In this week’s episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly sits down with actress, author & queen of heartbreak-to-healing, Gabrielle Stone, to talk about everything from betrayal & love bombing to solo travel & the infamous Self-Love Cocktail.
Together, they dive into:
✨ The messy truth about healing (spoiler: it’s not linear)
✨ How to stop confusing love bombing for real connection
✨ Why solo travel is the ultimate breakup glow-up
✨ The importance of self-awareness and owning your patterns
✨ How to turn rejection into redirection & pain into purpose
This episode is equal parts therapy session and girls’ night- complete with laughter, brutal honesty & the reminder that the person you really need to fall in love with is you.
So grab your matcha (or a cocktail) & get ready to feel seen, empowered & maybe even inspired to book that solo trip!
🔗 Links & Resources
Try the Cutting the Cord Meditation (bonus episode)
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Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com
Explore more tools & resources: Kelly’s Linktree
In this episode, Kelly shares her personal journey through relationships, focusing on the lessons learned from her past mistakes. She discusses the importance of self-awareness, taking responsibility for one's actions & the need for personal growth after breakups. Kelly reflects on her experiences with anxiety, trust issues & the challenges of maintaining a sense of self-worth in relationships. She emphasises the significance of setting boundaries, recognising red flags & the journey towards healing & independence. Ultimately, Kelly encourages listeners to reflect on their own experiences & to embrace the lessons learned from their past.
🔗 Links & Resources
Try the Cutting the Cord Meditation
Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching
Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com
Explore more tools & resources: Kelly’s Linktree
Takeaways
Kelly reflects on her past relationships and the lessons learned.
Self-awareness and taking responsibility are crucial for growth.
Anxious attachment styles can impact relationships significantly.
Trust issues often stem from insecurity and paranoia.
Reassurance should come from within, not solely from partners.
Avoiding conflict can lead to unresolved issues in relationships.
Having an identity outside of a relationship is essential.
Recognising red flags is important for future relationships.
Shame can be transformed into valuable lessons for personal growth.
Healing involves compassion for oneself and understanding past behaviours.
In this episode of the Breakup Debrief, Kelly discusses the often-taboo subject of divorce in Ireland, sharing her personal experiences and insights. She explores the stigma surrounding divorce, the legal processes involved, & the differences between legal separation and divorce. Kelly also highlights the benefits of a DIY divorce, emphasising the importance of mindset and self-empowerment in moving forward. Additionally, she addresses the challenges of dating after divorce and encourages listeners to celebrate new beginnings with a divorce party. The episode concludes with a listener's inspiring story of resilience and personal growth after leaving an abusive relationship.
🔗 Links & Resources
Try the Cutting the Cord Meditation
Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching
Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com
Explore more tools & resources: Kelly’s Linktree
Takeaways
Divorce is still stigmatized in Ireland, affecting many people's decisions.
Choosing happiness over an unhealthy marriage is essential.
Legal separation and divorce are two different processes with distinct implications.
DIY divorce can be a cost-effective option for amicable separations.
The divorce process in Ireland can be lengthy and confusing.
Mindset plays a crucial role in healing after a divorce.
Dating after divorce can be daunting, but honesty is key.
Celebrating a divorce can be empowering and liberating.
It's important to acknowledge the emotional journey of divorce.
Sharing personal stories can help others feel less alone in their experiences.
In this episode of the Breakup Debrief, Kelly & Dating Coach Lisa-Marie discuss the complexities of dating, healing from breakups & the importance of setting standards in relationships. Lisa shares her personal journey through heartbreak & how it led her to become a coach, emphasising the significance of self-worth & belief in love. They explore the process of manifesting love, raising standards & the value of investing in personal growth through coaching or therapy. The conversation highlights the transformative power of breakups & the opportunities they present for self-discovery and growth. In this conversation, Kelly & Lisa-Marie discuss the nuances of dating, the importance of a supportive dating environment & the work required before entering a new relationship. They emphasise the significance of healing & self-awareness in recognising readiness for dating, navigating breakup phases & the necessity of surrendering to the process of finding love. The discussion also touches on the value of investing in oneself & the idea that there are multiple soulmates in life, each serving a purpose in personal growth
🔗 Links & Resources
Try the Cutting the Cord Meditation
Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching
Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com
Explore more tools & resources: Kelly’s Linktree
Welcome to Season 2 of The Breakup Debrief! In this first episode, Kelly is breaking down the most common breakup myths that keep women stuck in heartbreak, anxious attachment, and situationships & and replacing them with the truths you actually need to heal.
From the lie that “time heals all wounds” to the fantasy that “closure comes from your ex”, these myths might sound familiar… but believing them is exactly what keeps you spiralling, waiting or holding on to someone who isn’t choosing you.
✨ In this episode, Kelly debunks myths like:
Why “time heals all wounds” keeps you passive (and what really creates healing)
The truth about closure (and why it never actually comes from your ex)
Why “staying friends” isn’t maturity
The danger of “maybe one day” & exes who circle back
Why “getting under someone else” doesn’t actually help you get over your ex
The myth that healing has a timeline (“half the time you were together”)
& why walking away from the wrong relationship isn’t failure, it’s freedom
💡 Key takeaway: Breakup healing doesn’t come from myths, distractions or waiting. It comes from self-awareness, no contact & the choice to start choosing you.
🔗 Links & Resources
Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching
Share your story for the Where Is She Now? segment: info@kellyskoaching.com
Explore more tools & meditations: Kelly’s Linktree
In this special bonus episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly guides you through a powerful Cutting the Cord Meditation, designed to help you release lingering emotional ties with an ex (or anyone you’re struggling to let go of!)
Whether you’re stuck in breakup limbo, still checking their socials or replaying old conversations in your head, this practice will help you:
✨ Energetically release the connection that’s keeping you feeling stuck✨ Calm your nervous system and return to a sense of safety✨ Reclaim your energy so you can move forward feeling lighter and freer
This isn’t about pretending the relationship never happened, it’s about acknowledging what was & then choosing to let go so you can step into your next chapter.
Find a quiet space, put your phone on airplane mode & let Kelly guide you through a gentle but deeply transformative process.
💡 Remember: healing doesn’t come from waiting for someone to choose you, it comes from choosing yourself, right here, right now.
🔗 Links & Resources
Follow Kelly on Instagram & TikTok: @kellyskoaching
Share your story for the Where Is She Now? segment: info@kellyskoaching.com
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Welcome to the final episode of Season 1 of The Breakup Debrief! In this solo episode, Kelly unpacks a painful but common stage of heartbreak: The Breakup Limbo.
Breakup limbo is when you’ve technically ended the relationship, but you’re still:
Texting your ex
Hooking up “one last time” (again and again)
Holding on to a “maybe in the future” promise
This stage is especially difficult for women with anxious attachment styles, who cling to breadcrumbs of hope while avoiding the reality of the breakup.
In this episode, Kelly shares:
What breakup limbo is and why it keeps you stuck
How avoidant partners use “maybe one day” to stall commitment
The emotional cost of staying in contact with an ex
Why no contact is the fastest path to healing after a breakup
How to take your power back and start building self-worth again
💡 Key takeaway: If he doesn’t want you right now, that is your answer. Don’t wait for the future version of him- choose yourself today.
👉 Bonus: Kelly also introduces her brand-new Cutting the Cord Meditation, a guided practice to help you release your ex & finally let go of lingering emotional ties.
🔗 Links & Resources
Try the Cutting the Cord Meditation (bonus episode dropping soon)
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Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com
Explore more tools & resources: Kelly’s Linktree
In Part 2 of this powerful conversation with Molly Smith from The Healing Gals Podcast, we dive even deeper into the realities of heartbreak, growth & reclaiming your self-worth.
Molly opens up about the transformation that happens when you stop chasing love in others & start pouring that energy back into yourself. We talk about the messy but beautiful process of healing, the lessons learned from heartbreak & the thriving, empowered place she’s found herself in today.
✨ What you’ll hear in this episode:
How Molly’s perspective on love and self-worth has shifted since her breakups
The turning point that helped her rebuild confidence and identity
Why heartbreak can be a catalyst for personal growth
Encouragement for women to know they deserve so much more than settling
The importance of sharing our stories honestly to empower others
This episode is a reminder that while heartbreak can feel like the end, it often becomes the beginning of a whole new chapter- one where you’re thriving, flourishing & no longer settling for less than you deserve.
🔗 Links & Resources
Connect with Kelly: Instagram / TikTok @kellyskoaching
Email your story for the Where Is She Now? segment: info@kellyskoaching.com
Join the community + offerings: Kelly’s Linktree
Listen to Molly’s work: @healinggalspodcast
In this special two-part conversation, Kelly sits down with Molly, founder of The Healing Gals Podcast & women’s circle facilitator.
Molly shares her own journey of navigating difficult life experiences & how they inspired her to create safe spaces for women to heal, connect & grow together. From the importance of shared storytelling to the unique energy of women’s circles, this episode explores how collective healing can transform the way we move through heartbreak & life transitions.
✨ In Part 1, we discuss:
Molly’s personal story and how she came to this work
The importance of community in healing after hard times
How sharing your story can be a catalyst for self-discovery
This conversation is raw, real & deeply inspiring & we can’t wait for you to hear it!
📩 Want to share your own “Where Is She Now?” story? Email info@kellyskoaching.com to be featured on a future episode.
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In this week’s episode, Kelly dives into one of her most transformative healing practices: solo travel
From someone who once thought she could never travel alone, to now calling it the practice that changed her life more than any other- Kelly shares why packing a bag and heading off on your own is about so much more than airports and Airbnbs.
You’ll hear:
✨ Why solo travel is one of the fastest ways to build confidence & independence after heartbreak
✨ The surprising lessons you learn when you spend time with yourself in a new place
✨ How being alone abroad differs from being “lonely” at home
✨ Why creating new experiences matters so much when you’re rebuilding after a breakup
Whether the thought of booking a solo trip excites you or terrifies you, this episode will inspire you to rethink what’s possible when you stop waiting for someone else to join you & choose yourself instead.
Links & Resources:
📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com
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In this raw & honest solo episode, Kelly dives deep into one of the most challenging parts of healing after heartbreak- the loneliness that sets in when the distractions fade.
She breaks down why feeling alone after a breakup isn’t just about missing your ex- it’s about missing being known, the daily check-ins & the sense of being chosen. Kelly shares why this loneliness often feels louder for those with anxious attachment styles, how it can trigger old abandonment wounds & why it’s tempting to rush into distractions that only delay real healing.
You’ll hear practical, compassionate strategies to move through the quiet moments, create new rituals of connection & reframe what “alone” really means. Whether you’re in the early days of a breakup or months down the line but still feeling that ache, this episode will remind you: loneliness is not proof that you’re unlovable- it’s an invitation to reconnect with yourself.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
Why loneliness after a breakup hits harder than you expect
How to tell the difference between missing them & missing feeling chosen
Gentle ways to sit with loneliness without spiralling
How to turn this season into a time of self-reconnection & emotional safety
Links & Resources:
📧 Share your story for the “Where Is She Now?” segment: info@kellyskoaching.com
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In this heartfelt episode of the Breakup Debrief, Kelly sits down with Nadine Selina to explore the intricate journey of navigating a breakup while trying to create a successful business. Nadine shares her transformative experiences, from the challenges of long-distance relationships to the empowering realisation of self-worth and independence. Together, they delve into the importance of building a fulfilling life post-breakup, the role of supportive friendships, and the power of focusing on personal and professional aspirations. Tune in for an inspiring conversation that offers hope and guidance for anyone on the path to healing and self-discovery.
🔗 Links & Resources:
💬 Follow along on Instagram + TikTok: @kellyskoaching
💌 Submit your “Where Is She Now?” story or questions: info@kellyskoaching.com
💬 Follow Nadine: @nadineselinacoaching
🎙️ Episode 5- "Closure- What It Is & What It Isn’t"
In this heartfelt episode of The Breakup Debrief, Kelly delves into the often misunderstood concept of closure. Through personal anecdotes and insightful reflections, Kelly challenges the traditional notion that closure comes from others, emphasising instead that true closure is a personal journey. Listeners are invited to explore how self-validation and focusing on personal experiences can lead to empowerment and healing. Tune in for a transformative discussion that encourages you to reclaim your energy and find peace within yourself.
#SelfClosure #Empowerment #HealingJourney
🔗 Links & Resources:
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🎙️ Episode 4- The Fear of Being Behind After a Breakup
Breakups don’t just break your heart- they shatter your timeline.
In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, I’m talking about one of the biggest fears I see after heartbreak: the fear of being behind. Behind on your plan. Behind your friends. Behind the version of your life you thought you’d be living by now.
This isn’t a pep talk about “you’re exactly where you’re meant to be.” This is an honest conversation about fear, comparison & embracing your own timeline- even if it looks nothing like what you imagined.
📩 Want to be featured in the “Where Is She Now?” segment?
Email your story to info@kellyskoaching.com - I’d love to hear how you rose after the heartbreak.
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🎙️ Episode 2: Just Broke Up? Start Here!
In this episode of The Breakup Debrief, we’re talking about what to do in initial raw, disorienting time after a breakup.
Whether you’re full-on spiralling, replaying every conversation or trying to “fake it till you make it”- I’ve got you. I’ll walk you through the messy cocktail of emotions (yes, you can feel sad and relieved), why "breakup brain" makes you feel behind in life & how to stop doing the things that keep you stuck.
We cover the 4 things NOT to do (yep, stalking their socials is on the list), what no-contact actually means & what does help- from journaling prompts to nervous system grounding.
This isn’t theory- this is healing in motion.
💡 What You’ll Hear:
A breathwork moment to calm the spiral
Why your emotions feel so overwhelming (& why that’s normal)
The difference between feeling broken & being broken
4 things to stop doing immediately after the breakup
What no-contact really means (& why it’s not about being petty)
Gentle, practical things you can do right now to feel better
Permission to not have it all figured out
🧠 Listener Affirmation:
“I am allowed to feel broken without being broken.”
💌 Want to be featured on the pod?🔗 Let’s Stay Connected:
Have your own “Where Is She Now?” story of rising after heartbreak?
Email me at info@kellyskoaching.com to be featured in an upcoming segment!
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In this first episode of The Breakup Debrief, I’m taking you behind the scenes into the real story of how I got here & the breakups that cracked me open. I talk about leaving my marriage just six months in, what it actually looked like to heal with anxious attachment & why time alone doesn’t fix anything- choice does.
Whether you're fresh off a breakup or deep in the spiral, this is your space to feel seen, stop blaming yourself & start rebuilding. No fluff. No pity. Just honest conversations & real healing.
🧠 What You'll Hear in This Episode:
The breakup that changed my entire life trajectory
Why I walked away from my marriage & don't regret it
What anxious attachment looked like in real time
The real difference between therapy & coaching
How I rebuilt my sense of self & what that actually looked like
Why “time heals all” is a myth (& what actually heals you)
💌 Got a “Where Is She Now?” story of your own?
Email me at info@kellyskoaching.com to be featured in an upcoming episode.
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