In this powerful conversation with Courtney from Boston College, I go deep into my personal journey with anorexia, bulimia, binge eating, and – most importantly – the role shame played in all of it.
I open up about:
💬 My first experiences with food restriction at age 9 – and how it was modelled to me at home.
💬 Why I believe so many binge eating diagnoses are actually misdiagnosed bulimia.
💬 How perfectionism, overachieving, and people-pleasing kept me trapped for decades.
💬 The difference between the suppressed self and the soul self – and how to know which one you’re feeding.
💬 The rock-bottom moment on my kitchen floor that changed everything.
💬 Why shame thrives in secrecy and can only truly be healed in relationship with others.
💬 The deep connection between childhood needs not being met, shame around simply being human, and developing an eating disorder.
💬 How I learned to face my fears, stop being a victim to myself, and choose recovery every day.
💬 Why body image work was the missing piece in my healing – and how I used social media to normalise my bigger body.
This is a raw, unfiltered, and deeply human conversation. If you’ve ever felt “too much” or “not enough,” if you’ve struggled to love yourself in your body, or if you’ve wondered why recovery feels so damn hard – this one is for you.
💬 Favourite quotes from this episode:
💬 “Every single thing we do or don’t do is either an act of love or a cry for love.”
💬 “Shame keeps us stuck, silent, and separate – the only way it heals is in the light.”
💬 “Allowance always creates space for choice.”
💬 “Whatever you nourish will flourish – your suppressed self or your soul self.”
💬 “Recovery is guaranteed if you’re willing to face your fears.”
Resources & Links:
🖤 Join my FREE support group: https://victoriakleinsman.com/free-support-group/
🖤 Work with me: https://victoriakleinsman.com/
🖤 Follow me on Instagram: @victoriakleinsmanofficial
What If You Trusted Your Body Fully? | Listener Q&A
This week, Julia and I are diving into your brilliant questions once again… including some BIG ones that almost every recovery warrior asks at some point. Things like:
🌀 How do I get my period back if I’ve been weight restored for a while?
🌀 Will I ever stop gaining weight?
🌀 What if binge eating becomes a bad habit?
🌀 Is intuitive eating secretly diet culture in disguise?
🌀 How do I deal with body-shaming parents?
🌀 And what the hell is going on with the total fatigue that hits after finally starting to eat again?!
We also touch on the difference between binge eating vs emotional eating, why it’s so normal to fear your metabolism is broken, and how recovery reveals the deeper work that’s waiting for us beyond food and body image.
💬 “When we say yes to someone else when we mean no, we’re saying no to ourselves.”
💬 “Binge eating is always a reaction to restriction — emotional eating is something different.”
💬 “If you want to control your set point weight, you’re still not free.”
💬 “People pleasing is not a personality trait. It’s a trauma response.”
If you’re in the midst of recovery and wondering if what you’re going through is normal — this episode is for you. We’re giving it to you straight, with lived experience, compassion, and a few F-bombs for flavour.
Resources & Links
🖤 Join my FREE support group: https://victoriakleinsman.com/free-support-group/
🖤 Work with me: https://victoriakleinsman.com/
🖤 Follow me on Instagram: @victoriakleinsmanofficial
I Disappoint People Every Day (And I’m Okay With It)
🖤 Episode Description:
In this raw solo episode, I share a deeply personal truth: I disappoint people every single day. And not because I’m careless or unkind—but because I’ve stopped abandoning myself to make others more comfortable.
As a recovering people pleaser, I know what it feels like to panic at the thought of upsetting someone. To over-explain, to bend over backwards, to feel responsible for everyone’s feelings except my own.
But here’s what I’ve learnt… people pleasing isn’t a personality trait. It’s a survival strategy. And it’s keeping you exhausted, disconnected, and resentful.
In this ep, I unpack:
How to know if you’re people pleasing
Journal prompts & truth bombs to break the habit
Why saying “no” is the ultimate self-love
What happens when you stop over-explaining
How I balance motherhood, business, and boundaries
And the game-changing mindset shift that let me reclaim my life.
Let this episode be your permission slip to disappoint others… and choose yourself.
Because you can’t live your truth and please everyone at the same time.
💬 Powerful quotes from this episode:
💬 “When you say yes to others, but it’s not a full-body yes… you’re saying no to yourself.”
💬 “People pleasing is fear dressed up in high heels and a fur coat.”
💬 “Disappointing others isn’t failure—it’s the price of authenticity.”
💬 “No is a complete sentence.”
💬 “You can’t live your truth and please everyone at the same time—choose yourself.”
Resources & Links:
🖤 Join my FREE support group: https://victoriakleinsman.com/free-support-group/
🖤 Work with me: https://victoriakleinsman.com/
🖤 Follow me on Instagram: @victoriakleinsmanofficial
🎙️ From Forced Recovery to Freedom – Izzy’s Story
This is a powerful, moving, and soul-baring conversation with my incredible client Izzy, who generously shares her journey from years of forced recovery to taking her power back and choosing her own version of freedom.
Izzy and I have worked together for around 6 months, and the transformation she’s experienced is nothing short of phenomenal. In this episode, she speaks candidly about:
✨ How her eating disorder developed during lockdown
✨ What kept her stuck in the relapse-recovery cycle for years
✨ Why traditional therapy wasn’t enough for her
✨ The shift that came from realising SHE had to take full responsibility
✨ Learning to trust her body again and finding freedom with food
✨ Her experience with meal plans and intuition eating
✨ Identity loss and rediscovery during recovery
✨ Facing the fear of weight gain and what’s waiting on the other side
We also talk about the emotional messiness of recovery, the discomfort, the grief, and how you can still keep moving forward even when it’s terrifying.
💬 5 powerful quotes from the episode:
💬 “You can’t build your recovery on someone else’s efforts – it has to come from you.”
💬 “I wasn’t living—I was surviving. Recovery meant choosing life.”
💬 “If I don’t stop the cycle, this will be my life… and that scared the shit out of me.”
💬 “Just start. Do one scary thing. That’s all it takes to start building trust.”
💬 “No one regrets full recovery. No one ever says, ‘I wish I’d stayed sick.’”
Listen if you need a reminder that:
🖤 It’s never too late
🖤 Freedom is possible for YOU
🖤 Meal plans have a time and place, but they’re not the end goal
🖤 You can stop living for fear and start living for YOU
🖤 Recovery is worth every ounce of discomfort
Resources & Links:
🖤 Follow me on Instagram @victoriakleinsmanofficial
Join my free support group for monthly hot seat coaching: https://victoriakleinsman.com/free-support-group/
Welcome back, my loves! This week’s episode is a juicy one – it’s our monthly Q&A where Julia and I dive deep into your most vulnerable, heartfelt, and relatable questions. From how to give yourself permission to let go of the ED when you’re scared of judgment, to navigating free time, motherhood, and movement post-recovery… we cover it all.
You’ll hear our personal experiences, client reflections, and direct, loving guidance – with a few laughs and tangents along the way (because would it even be a podcast with us if there weren’t?!).
In this episode, we cover:
🌀 What to do when you’re scared of being judged if your body changes
🌀 Reframing “rebellion” from recovery
🌀 How we approach exercise now (and how it’s evolved!)
🌀 The fear of weight gain and how I faced it
🌀 Recovery and motherhood – how your child can become your biggest why
🌀 DBT vs CBT and how coaching is different
🌀 Do I have food rules? How to tell when they’re sneaky
🌀 Pre-meal affirmations, reminders, and tools to help you follow through
🌀 Whether or not to eat more after exercise
🌀 Free time guilt & how to lean into pleasure
This episode is full of gold, whether you’re at the very start of your journey or years into recovery. These questions are so universal, and there’s something here for everyone.
As always:
💌 Submit your questions via email for the next Q&A
🎧 Rate + review the show if you love it – it helps so much
🫶🏼 And share with a friend who needs support right now
🎙 Raw Coaching Session: Body Image, Worthiness & Ancestral Healing with Christina
This episode is a little different – you’re invited to witness a deeply powerful, real-time 1:1 coaching session between me and my beautiful client Christina.
What began with a reflection on her increasing body size opened into something far deeper: childhood wounds, ancestral stories, suppressed rage, and a core belief that she was undeserving of love.
Together, we got to the real root of her eating disorder. And through powerful emotional release and a guided meditation, we began rewriting the narrative in her body and her soul.
This session is raw, sacred, and incredibly moving – and if you see yourself in any of what Christina shares, it may activate something profound in you too.
IN THIS EPISODE WE EXPLORE:
✨ The triggering moment that reawakened body shame
✨ Why dieting is often a cry for parental approval
✨ The link between postpartum pressure and feeling unworthy
✨ The pain of performing perfection for emotionally unavailable caregivers
✨ A powerful live meditation to honour the body and heal the lineage
QUOTES TO REMEMBER:
💬 “All we do – even as adults – is seek the love we never felt we deserved.”
💬 “Your body has never been the problem. It’s been the messenger.”
💬 “You are not here to shrink – you are here to be free.”
IF THIS EPISODE SPOKE TO YOU:
🌹 Join my free support group for hot seat coaching, daily shares & community
🌹 Explore group coaching inside The Body Love Binge
🌹 Or apply for private 1:1 support with me
🔗 All links in bio or at www.victoriakleinsman.com
Meditation for inner worth and freedom
Enjoy 💛
In this solo episode, I’m diving into my hot take on CBT — cognitive behavioural therapy — and why, although it’s helpful for eating disorder recovery, it’s absolutely not enough if you’re looking for full, lasting freedom.
I’m sharing openly and passionately about:
✨ What CBT does well (and why I still use parts of it in my coaching)
✨ Why mindset work alone can’t heal trauma responses
✨ How to translate “I feel fat” into what’s really going on underneath
✨ What I believe is truly missing in most eating disorder recovery work
✨ How to stop relapsing by getting to the root of it all — emotionally, spiritually, somatically
✨ My own step-by-step recovery map that combines inner child work, nervous system healing, soul retrieval, and parts work
This one’s packed with insight — whether you’re in therapy, doing self-recovery, or supporting someone else. It’s time to go deeper, and I’m here to walk you through it.
📌 I also mention:
– My free support group with coaching calls & replays: https://victoriakleinsman.com/free-taste-test/
– How to join the Body Love Binge group or apply for 1:1 support: https://victoriakleinsman.com/11-coaching/
– Come hang on IG: @victoriakleinsmanofficial
In this deeply honest and uplifting conversation, I sat down with the beautiful Tegan Louise to chat all things recovery, healing, trauma, and how our beliefs about food and bodies are formed long before we even realise it.
We went everywhere in this chat—attachment styles, inner child wounds, parenting, body image, sex, intimacy, fear of weight gain, people pleasing, and that moment you finally say, “I’ve had enough.”
If you’ve ever felt stuck in the same cycle, or like your self-worth is hanging on the size of your jeans—this one’s for you.
💥 In this episode, we cover:
Why your food/body struggles always start in childhood
How to recognise (and rewire) your attachment style
Feeling safe in your body after trauma
Reclaiming pleasure, joy & desire
What recovery really means beyond just “eating more”
My real-life moments of change: in the mirror, at the BBQ, and in bed
How coaching can transform your healing & what I offer
If you’ve ever asked yourself “Why do I still feel like this?” or “Is recovery actually possible for me?”—this episode will land like a warm, empowering hug.
🔥 5 Epic Quotes to Highlight:
“Have you had enough yet? If so—then it’s time to choose something different.”
“Recovery isn’t about fixing your body. It’s about freeing your mind.”
“You don’t have to wait to hit rock bottom. You just have to decide this isn’t good enough to stay.”
“I used to cover my legs to ‘protect’ others from seeing my cellulite. Now I wear the damn dress.”
“You are allowed to want more, just because you want it. Full stop.”
📌 Useful links:
💜 My free support group: https://victoriakleinsman.com/free-taste-test/
🌍 Website: https://victoriakleinsman.com/
📸 Instagram: @victoriakleinsmanofficial
In this powerful episode, I’m joined by my incredible client Tara, who opens up about her 30-year journey with anorexia—and what finally helped her step into true freedom.
This conversation is a deep, emotional, and honest exploration of what it really takes to recover after decades of struggle, secrecy, and perfectionism. Tara shares how a milestone birthday cracked her open, how trauma shaped her need for control, and how letting go of that control changed everything.
💥 In this episode, we talk about:
How childhood trauma planted the seeds of disordered eating
The link between people pleasing, perfectionism, and restriction
Why traditional routes didn’t work—and what did
Navigating fear, body image shifts, and “future tripping”
The decision to choose life, freedom, and fun over control
What real support looks like when it’s about YOU—not just the food
Life after recovery: confidence, invincibility, and finally being yourself
This is one of the most inspiring recovery stories I’ve had the honour to share. If you’ve ever felt like it’s “too late” or that freedom just isn’t available for you… this episode will blow that myth wide open.
💖 Tara’s message to you?
The fear is so much worse than the reality. And the lightness in your head is so worth the heaviness in your body.
🔥 5 Epic Quotes to Highlight:
“The fear couldn’t hurt me. But the eating disorder could.”
“I didn’t realise I was trying to fix two problems—until I learned they were one.”
“I don’t want to be extra, extra small. My mind isn’t small anymore.”
“You don’t need to go back. You just need to decide.”
“I didn’t just gain weight—I gained peace, energy, and a whole new life.”
📌 Useful links:
💜 My free support group: https://victoriakleinsman.com/free-taste-test/
🌍 Website: https://victoriakleinsman.com/
📸 Instagram: @victoriakleinsmanofficial
In this raw, unfiltered episode, I reunite with the incredible Susan and Christina to answer YOUR questions about recovery, body image, menopause, and navigating the complexities of diet culture—especially as women in their later years of life.
We open up about the real symptoms of recovery, how our bodies and minds changed through the journey, and the deeper emotional shifts that come with true healing. From feeling out of breath during a walk to redefining what movement means, we speak to the very human experience of recovery.
💬 Topics We Dive Into:
The hardest physical symptoms in recovery (and how we coped)
Recovery during and after menopause
What it really means to feel “part of the club” and how that changes
Letting go of feeling superior through restriction
Our experiences with puberty, body change, and emotional impact
How we coped with weight gain (including scale addiction!)
Why diet culture is not just harmful—but oppressive
Tools we use daily to keep grounded in food and body freedom
Why true connection becomes possible only through authentic recovery
💫 This is an especially important listen if you’ve ever thought:
“I’ve been trying to recover but keep wanting to lose weight again”
or
“I feel like recovery isn’t for me at my age.”
Spoiler: It absolutely is.
🎧 Listen in and walk away with compassion, clarity, and a fresh breath of freedom. Recovery is possible at any age—and it is so worth it.
Read Glennon Doyle's wise words here: https://community.kleinsman.co/c/free-support-group/glennon-doyle-s-wise-words
📌 CONNECT WITH ME:
✨ Instagram: @victoriakleinsmanofficial
✨ Website: https://victoriakleinsman.com/
✨ Email me with your thoughts or questions – I love hearing from you!
🖤 And as always… you are worthy of love, freedom, and rest—no matter your size, no matter your age.
In this episode, I joined Emily for a deep and soulful conversation on the mini series she’s created – diving into real, raw, and essential truths about healing from an eating disorder.
Here’s what we explored together:
✨ My three most important lessons from recovery (and how they shifted everything).
✨ The power of owning that no one is coming to save you – and why that’s the ultimate key to freedom.
✨ How true healing goes far beyond food and body image… it’s about loving and fully accepting your authentic self.
✨ Why fighting can only take you so far, and why surrender was my secret weapon.
✨ What full recovery feels like (and why it’s so worth it).
I also shared a personal story about how my healing journey unlocked self-expression, love, and deep peace – and how it still shapes the way I show up in my life today.
Emily and I both agreed: Recovery was the hardest thing we’ve ever done. And it’s worth every second.
💜 If you’re questioning whether to leap into recovery… let this be the nudge you need.
Connect with me:
🌍 Website: https://victoriakleinsman.com/
💜 Free support group: https://victoriakleinsman.com/free-taste-test/
📸 Instagram: @victoriakleinsmanofficial
As always, I’d love to hear what landed most for you – drop me a message!
This episode is living proof that full recovery is possible—even without coaching or therapy. Michelle bravely shares how she fully healed her relationship with food and body using only podcast support… and a fierce decision to choose freedom.
We talk about:
✨ Her journey from subtle body checking and dieting to full food freedom
✨ The turning point where she decided “enough is enough”
✨ What it felt like to face weight gain, shame, and body image triggers—without turning back
✨ How she learned to trust her body again (and the fears she had to walk through daily)
✨ The unexpected freedom of not giving a f*ck about the number on the scale
✨ Why “just eating” feels so revolutionary in a world that praises restriction
Michelle’s story is deeply validating for anyone who thinks they’re “not sick enough” or feels like recovery is only possible with 1:1 support. This conversation is a gentle but powerful reminder: you are not broken, you are not alone, and you are absolutely capable of full freedom.
🔥 Epic Quotes:
“I couldn’t begin to recover until I admitted I had something to recover from.”
“I proved my fears wrong, over and over again. Nothing bad happened.”
“You don’t need a new food system. You need to let go of needing one.”
“It’s amazing to not know how much you weigh… and not care.”
“Recovery is possible without support. But you have to show up for yourself. Fully.”
💜 Connect & Explore More:
👯♀️ Join my free support group: https://victoriakleinsman.com/free-taste-test/
🌐 Visit my website: https://victoriakleinsman.com/
📲 IG: @victoriakleinsmanofficial
🎙️ Monthly Q&A with Julia: The Truth About Recovery, Fear & Freedom
Join Victoria and Julia for a short but power-packed Q&A session where they role-play the voices of the eating disorder vs. the healthy self (with some hilarity!), explore physical recovery symptoms, and get radically honest about the fears, resistance, and beautiful truths of choosing recovery.
From dealing with exhaustion and edema to navigating the emotional highs and lows of healing, this episode is raw, real, and ultimately hopeful. Plus, they dive into listener questions around waiting to “have to” recover, creating a life beyond bulimia, and the real pros and cons of full recovery.
This one’s a quickie—but oh so juicy.
🎧 Topics include:
A playful (and uncomfortable!) ED vs. Healthy Self dialogue
Physical symptoms of recovery like bloating, fatigue, brain fog, and more
“Will I ever want recovery enough?”—navigating fear and avoidance
How to start creating a life bigger than your eating disorder
The real (and surprising) pros and cons of recovery
Victoria’s personal postpartum shift in fitness & self-care
Why compassion is the most powerful recovery tool
🧠 Quotes to remember:
“You are not here to be normal. You’re here to be free.”
“If it’s costing you your self-expression, love, and freedom… It’s too expensive.”
“Your eating disorder is costing you the life you secretly want.”
“Letting go is the way to grow.”
🔗 Resources & Links:
🎧 Julia’s episodes on recovery symptoms: Episodes 105 & 106
🧡 Free Support Group: https://victoriakleinsman.com/free-taste-test/
💻 Website: https://victoriakleinsman.com/
📸 Instagram: @victoriakleinsmanofficial
Note from Victoria 💛
I value authenticity deeply. These show notes were created with the help of AI, but they come directly from my heart and my words, drawn from the podcast I created. Every sentence reflects the message I intended to share. I use AI as a tool—but the soul, the stories, and the truth are all mine.
How to Get Out of Quasi Recovery with Livia Sara
This episode is one of the most powerful and expansive conversations I’ve had on the podcast to date. Livia Sara is back—author, coach, and absolute soul sister—and we’re diving deep into the sneakiest trap of all: quasi recovery.
We unpack what it really means to be stuck in that space where you’ve gained weight, maybe even “look” recovered, but inside? You’re still living in fear, control, and limitation.
This episode will shake something loose inside of you. We talk truth, drop f-bombs (you know me!), and hold nothing back.
We cover:
Why quasi recovery can actually feel worse than the ED
How to know when you’re still stuck in control (even if you’re “eating more”)
The difference between acting from freedom vs reacting from fear
Why perfectionism and comparison keep you trapped
How to choose freedom, even if you’re terrified
Why YOUR recovery path gets to look how YOU want it to
Livia’s new book How to Get Out of Quasi Recovery is a must-read if you’re truly ready to go all in. And if you’re feeling a spark after this episode? Don’t ignore it. That’s your truth calling.
5 Quotes from this episode:
🔥 “Being 99% committed is hell. Being 100% committed is simple.”
🔥 “There’s no right way to recover—there’s only your way.”
🔥 “Your eating disorder is not who you are—it’s an adaptation, not your identity.”
🔥 “Freedom means deciding to stop pretending and start living in alignment with your truth.”
🔥 “No one’s coming to save you—but you don’t need saving. You just need to choose.”
💜 Join my free support group: https://victoriakleinsman.com/free-taste-test/
🌍 Visit my website: https://victoriakleinsman.com/
📸 Come hang with me on Instagram: @victoriakleinsmanofficial
🫶 Join Livia’s newsletter & get her free resources: https://livelabelfree.com/join
Welcome back my loves! 💜 In this episode, Julia and I are diving into your brilliant questions about recovery. This is raw, real, emotional, funny and deep — basically, all the things we are!
We chat about:
What moment I’d relive without my eating disorder
Healing mother/daughter codependency while both recovering
Feeling guilty for resting (and why that’s actually a GOOD thing)
Why gaining weight feels unsafe — and how I rewired that fear myself
Sensory overload in a changing body (and what helped me cope)
How to stop obsessive movement and exercise guilt
Whether it’s realistic to go all-in after 30+ years of an ED
Making peace with the lies I told during my eating disorder
And why life WITHOUT an ED is the real life you deserve
This conversation is packed with tough love, heart, deep truth and so much encouragement.
Healing is messy. Healing is brave. Healing is YOURS. Let’s do it together.
5 Quotes You’ll Love From This Episode:
“Trying is asking for permission to fail. Choose it. Commit to it.”
“Feeling guilt in recovery doesn’t mean you’re failing – it means you’re healing.”
“Your eating disorder helped you survive – but it’s not helping you live.”
“The unfamiliar becomes familiar. You can feel like an alien at first – and still belong in your body.”
“Freedom, joy, connection… that’s what’s waiting for you on the other side of fear.”
Links to Dive Deeper:
🧡 Free support group: https://victoriakleinsman.com/free-taste-test/
🧡 Website: https://victoriakleinsman.com/
🧡 Instagram: @victoriakleinsmanofficial
In this deep and empowering episode, Victoria sits down with Dr. Jillian Lampert – VP of the Emily Program and President of REDC – to talk about what traditional ED treatment is missing, why recovery isn’t one-size-fits-all, and how our society’s obsession with weight is doing real harm. They dive into the neurobiological roots of eating disorders, discuss GLP-1 medications, and explore the roles of ADHD, autism, and trauma in ED development. This episode is packed with truth bombs, fierce compassion, and a powerful reminder that recovery is not only possible – it’s worth it.
🔥 5 Standout Quotes:
1. “Eating disorders don’t happen overnight—so why would we expect them to go away in a few weeks?” – Dr. Jillian Lampert
2. “If you can have an eating disorder, you have everything you need to build an extraordinary life without it.” – Victoria Kleinsman
3. “The most powerful shift is moving from comparison to connection—healing starts when we feel understood.” – Dr. Jillian Lampert
4. “Being sick became predictable, familiar, even safe. Grieving that identity is part of recovery.” – Victoria Kleinsman
5. “There’s natural diversity in body sizes, and the goal of treatment is peace—not thinness.” – Dr. Jillian Lampert
✨ Links Mentioned:
• 💞 Join my free support group: https://victoriakleinsman.com/free-taste-test/
• 🌐 My website: https://victoriakleinsman.com/
• 📲 Instagram: @victoriakleinsmanofficial
Connect with Jillian and The Emily Program
https://emilyprogram.com/blog/why-choose-emily-program-over-therapist-dietitian-physician/
https://emilyprogram.com/peace-meal-podcast/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/jillian-lampert-2a735651/
🎙️ Podcast Episode: Is Unrestricted Eating Different to Intuitive Eating?
In this juicy solo episode of The Body Love Binge, I explore a powerful and often misunderstood question: Is unrestricted eating different to intuitive eating? Spoiler alert – yes and no… and I break it all down for you.
I share my own rebellious journey from restriction, through binge-restrict cycles, into the chaos and liberation of unrestricted eating, and eventually into the grounded peace of what I call intuition eating.
This isn’t just theory – it’s raw, real, lived experience, plus insights from coaching so many badass humans back to food and body freedom. Whether you’re stuck in binge-restrict cycles or wondering if intuitive eating is just another sneaky diet, this one’s for you.
🔑 Here’s what you’ll learn:
• The difference between unrestricted eating and intuitive eating (with no BS)
• Why rebellion is part of the healing process
• What true food freedom looks like after the chaos
• How I shifted from overachieving in recovery to finally finding peace
• Why your body always knows and how to actually listen to it
💬 5 Epic Quotes to Remember:
“Unrestricted eating is a fck you to restriction. Intuition eating is a fck yes to yourself.”
“You can’t just skip to intuitive eating – most people have to rebel their way there.”
“If you’re still acting like you have to protect your recovery, you’re probably still reacting to restriction.”
“True freedom is choosing what you want from peace, not rebellion.”
“Your body will always find a way to get what it needs. Your only job is to get out of the way.”
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Get coached by me every month, access past calls and workshops, and receive daily support. It’s all free, fierce, and full of love.
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This week, I sat down once again with the one and only Tabitha Farrar—eating disorder recovery coach, author, and all-round truth-teller—to talk about how to actually rewire negative body image.
Tabitha’s just released a powerful new book called “Fried Eggs and Thunder Thighs” (yes, you read that right!) and it dives deep into the root of negative body image and how to teach your brain a different story.
In this conversation, we explored:
• Why negative body image is not your fault—and definitely not your truth
• How your actions teach your brain more than your thoughts ever will
• What to do when shame shows up
• How to respond when someone does comment on your body
• Why being “recovered” doesn’t automatically mean you’ll love your body—and what to do about it
We also talk about her newly rewritten version of Rehabilitate, Rewire, Recover and why she decided to go back and make it even more bold, honest, and helpful.
This is a must-listen if you:
• Still struggle with body image even after recovering from disordered eating
• Want to feel more free and confident in your body, regardless of size
• Are tired of being controlled by negative thoughts or shame
• Are curious about how emotions like guilt and disgust are actually tools your brain uses—and how to take your power back
In this episode, we get real about:
• How to act “as if” you love your body (even when you don’t yet)
• The difference between your brain and your mind—and why that matters
• Why it’s not about waiting to feel better before you take action
• The fastest way to rewire body image beliefs
• What I do when my own brain throws shame my way
Resources mentioned:
📘 Tabitha’s books: Fried Eggs and Thunder Thighs + Rehabilitate, Rewire, Recover (Updated Edition)
📺 Her YouTube: @tabithafarrar
Connect with me:
📧 victoria@victoriakleinsman.com
📲 Instagram: @victoriakleinsmanofficial
💬 5 Quotes I Loved from This Episode
1. “I’m not my shame—I’m the one observing it. And that gives me the power to choose how I respond.”
2. “If I want my brain to believe my body is safe, I have to act like it is—even if it’s uncomfortable.”
3. “Every time I act as if I love my body, I’m rewiring my brain—and that’s what creates freedom.”
4. “My emotions aren’t facts—they’re just tools my brain uses to try and keep me ‘safe’ based on old beliefs.”
5. “The truth is: if recovery still feels hard after months and months, it’s not me—it’s my training strategy that needs adjusting.”
Guests: Susie (69, USA) & Christina (64, Australia)
In this beautifully honest and heart-opening episode, Victoria is joined by two extraordinary women, Susie and Christina, who share their transformative journeys of recovering from eating disorders—well into their 60s. Having met through Victoria’s group coaching community, these two have not only found food freedom and body peace, but also a deep, life-affirming friendship.
They discuss the unique challenges of recovery later in life, the impact of decades of restriction, body image struggles post-menopause, and the joy of rediscovering themselves after a lifetime of being defined by size. This conversation is full of wisdom, hope, and tangible encouragement for anyone who thinks it’s “too late” to change.
🧭 What You'll Learn:
What recovery can look like in your 60s (yes, full recovery is absolutely possible!)
How diet culture affects older generations and the myths about "aging gracefully"
Why menopause-related weight gain is not only natural—but protective
How inner child work, authenticity, and self-love play a crucial role in healing
✨ 5 Brilliant Quotes from the Episode:
"It’s never too late to recover. I’m 69 and I’ve never felt more free." – Susie
"My body gaining weight in menopause wasn’t a failure—it was wisdom. It was my body protecting me." – Christina
"I used to think I was just one of the lucky ones who could control my weight. I now realise that was disordered eating all along." – Susie
"I’ve finally become my real self. No more pretending, no more people-pleasing. Just me." – Christina
"Recovery has given me my life back. I’m no longer counting calories in the back of my mind—I’m present, I’m joyful, I’m here." – Susie
🔗 Resources:
Join the Body Love Binge Group Coaching: https://victoriakleinsman.com/group-coaching/
Email Victoria with questions for Susie & Christina: victoria@victoriakleinsman.com
Follow Victoria on Instagram: @victoriakleinsmanofficial
